Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery

[kimber45]

Nite RG! Another sober nite.

Yippee, IGGY

Roy, I am sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time with your wife

Mornin' Jake

[kimber45]

Iggy!!!!!

[Jake 48]

Hi Kimber and Iggy

[kimber45]

Hump day usually is

I think tomorrow may be Friday for me. DH has Veterans Day off so I may just take it off too. He also took tomorrow off so today is his Friday. He has some vacation time to burn so that's OK.

[kent]

Nov 9, 2011 8:35:03 GMT -5 roygrip said:

Well, I'm going thru it. I won't drink or use behind it, but things are unraveling between my wife and I, on going, both our faults. Gotta find a common ground soon.

Roy I'm so sorry you are having difficulties right now - my thoughts are with you.

"If the mountain was smooth, you couldn't climb it." Just a thought.

[roygrip]

"We faced three disturbing realizations:



1. We are powerless over addiction and our lives are unmanageable;

2. Although we are not responsible for our disease, we are responsible for our recovery;

3. We can no longer blame people, places and things for our addiction. We must face our problems and our feelings."

[roygrip]

Nov 9, 2011 13:09:22 GMT -5 kent said:

Nov 9, 2011 8:35:03 GMT -5 roygrip said:

Well, I'm going thru it. I won't drink or use behind it, but things are unraveling between my wife and I, on going, both our faults. Gotta find a common ground soon.

Roy I'm so sorry you are having difficulties right now - my thoughts are with you.

"If the mountain was smooth, you couldn't climb it." Just a thought.

Thanks everyone.!! Yep, we've been together a long time. Sometimes it's tough when it's so close to home. I've had to step back and analize my part in it. (Keep my side of the street clean) New day, it will work it's self out. Sometimes you gotta get knocked back a few steps to realize where you are.

I appreciate the good wishes.!

[Jake 48]

Morning Iggy, reset the clock again, you can do this. I have to ask, were you having a bad day?

[kimber45]

Iggy, you can do it! At least you were able to stop after a couple shots.

(((HUGS)))


Good morning, Jake

[Jake 48]

morning Kimber
Iggy, when I quit, I avoided situations that revolved around alcohol. this helped me to maintain sobriety. Years later I can be in those settings for a short time where there is moderate drinking, but really don't enjoy being around those people drinking to excess. I have friends that drink to excess and I have to prepare myself mentally to be around them. Needless to say I don't spend a lot of time with them or I will catch them early in the day where alcohol is least likely to be the priority.

[kimber45]

I avoided situations that revolved around alcohol.


Jake, that is how we are handling our situation. In the rare few times DH has stopped at his favorite watering hole on his way home from work, he has just ordered OJ and 7up (the bartenders told me and so did DH). But I think if he were to start again, there would be no stopping.

[roygrip]

Nov 10, 2011 11:37:05 GMT -5 Jake 48 said:

morning Kimber
Iggy, when I quit, I avoided situations that revolved around alcohol. this helped me to maintain sobriety. Years later I can be in those settings for a short time where there is moderate drinking, but really don't enjoy being around those people drinking to excess. I have friends that drink to excess and I have to prepare myself mentally to be around them. Needless to say I don't spend a lot of time with them or I will catch them early in the day where alcohol is least likely to be the priority.

EXACTLY Kent. We stay away from slippery places and things. I've said before, I play guitar, many of my friends, bands play the club circut around LA. I'm asked to sit in, I go early, and I hang for a few songs and go. I too can be around it, though I don't like it.

IGGY, just reset the clock, start over. Maybe rethink being around people who drink

[roygrip]

Nov 10, 2011 11:37:05 GMT -5 Jake 48 said:

morning Kimber
Iggy, when I quit, I avoided situations that revolved around alcohol. this helped me to maintain sobriety. Years later I can be in those settings for a short time where there is moderate drinking, but really don't enjoy being around those people drinking to excess. I have friends that drink to excess and I have to prepare myself mentally to be around them. Needless to say I don't spend a lot of time with them or I will catch them early in the day where alcohol is least likely to be the priority.

Exactly Kent. I play guitar, and am asked to sit in with friends bands in clubs. I go early, play a few songs, and go. I relly don't like being around drinkers. I can handle it, just don't like it.

Iggy, reset the clock. Maybe rethink people (friends) that drink

[roygrip]

Good Morning!

Hamster is well and at a confrence till the 18th. AND WHAT IS EVERYONE ELSE"S EXCUSE??


Have a great day, gettin' ready for vacation next week.

[Jake 48]

I'm here,

[roygrip]

Nov 12, 2011 9:48:53 GMT -5 Jake 48 said:

I'm here,

HI JAKE! ;D



Whatever the nature of your feelings, carefully define the reaction taking place within you.


Our feelings can sometimes present a very challenging aspect of our lives. We experience intense emotions without understanding precisely why and consequently find it difficult to identify the solutions that will soothe our distressed minds and hearts. Yet it is only when we are capable of naming our feelings that we can tame them by finding an appropriate resolution. We retake control of our personal power by becoming courageous enough to articulate, out loud and concisely, the essence of our emotions. Our assuming ownership of the challenges before us in this way empowers us to shift from one emotional state to another—we can let go of pain and upset because we have defined it, examined the effect it had on our lives, and then exerted our authority over it by making it our own. By naming our feelings, we claim the right to divest ourselves of them at will.

As you prepare to acknowledge your feelings aloud, gently remind yourself that being specific is an important part of exercising control. Whatever the nature of your feelings, carefully define the reaction taking place within you. If you are afraid of a situation or intimidated by an individual, try not to mince words while giving voice to your anxiety. The precision with which you express yourself is indicative of your overall willingness to stare your feelings in the face without flinching. Naming and claiming cannot always work in the vacuum of the soul. There may be times in which you will find the release you desire only by admitting your feelings before others. When this is the case, your ability to outline your feelings explicitly can help you ask for the support, aid, or guidance you need without becoming mired in the feelings that led you to make such an admission in the first place.

When you have moved past the apprehension associated with expressing your distressing feelings out loud, you may be surprised to discover that you feel liberated and lightened. This is because the act of making a clear connection between your circumstances and your feelings unravels the mystery that previously kept you from being in complete control of your emotional state. To give voice to your feelings, you must necessarily let them go. In the process, you naturally relax and rediscover your emotional equilibrium.

[Jake 48]

Hi Daphne

[Jake 48]

Hi Iggy,

[roygrip]

LOL!!! ;D

[roygrip]

All of us had expectations about life in recovery. Some of us thought recovery would suddenly make us employable or able to do anything in the world we wanted to do. Or maybe we imagined perfect ease in our interactions with others. When we stop and think, we realize that we expected recovery would make us perfect. We didn¡¯t expect to continue making many mistakes. But we do. That¡¯s not the addict side of us showing through; that¡¯s being human¢¾ JFT

[Jake 48]

recovery didn't make me perfect but it made me realize some of the good things in life I missed out on

[mmhmm]

Heh. Just remember my tag-line, roy. The only people who never make mistakes are those who aren't doing anything.

[roygrip]

Nov 13, 2011 21:51:23 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

Heh. Just remember my tag-line, roy. The only people who never make mistakes are those who aren't doing anything.

How very true MM! Thank you ;D

[roygrip]

Nov 13, 2011 21:17:31 GMT -5 Jake 48 said:

recovery didn't make me perfect but it made me realize some of the good things in life I missed out on

Very true Jake! All the things I hoped to do, wished to do, and then some. My life is far from perfect, but it's pretty darn good in terms of family, love, self respect. Other things like job and trappings, are OK too.
None of this would be possible in my case if I was still using or drinking.

[roygrip]

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.
Live the life you have imagined.
- Henry David Thoreau

The secret of making dreams come true can be summarized in four C's.
They are Curiosity, Confidence, Courage, and Constancy;
and the greatest of these is Confidence.
- Walt Disney

The resources we need to turn our dreams into reality are within us,
merely waiting for the day when we decide to wake up and claim our birthright.
- Anthony Robbins

Live a Life of Bold and Courageous Action Inspired by Powerful Dreams.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

[kimber45]

Good Morning All

Made it through another weekend. Kept pretty busy in the shop. We did stop at our Eagles Club Saturday night but when DH found out that the pull tab seller had just closed up, we just went home.

[kimber45]

Kimber, I read in the EE Sunday thread about how productive you were! Excellent!

It is a good feeling to get something accomplished instead of sleeping the day away with a hangover .

I do have a mess in the shop to deal with, I started de-cluttering but decided to visit with the kid instead. I think I'm going to back my pickup up and start throwing when I get home.

[kimber45]

Good for you for visiting with the kiddo. Those are the best things in life.

He only lives an hour away, but he only gets home about once a month or so, and we hardly ever go there (or anywhere else unless it involves a gun show). He made the rounds when he was here, our house, his cousins and his grandparents

[spartan7886]

Hey all, I just wanted to give props to all of you for fighting the good fight - those that have won their battles and those still fighting them. I just read the thread from start to finish, and it's a good reminder of "there but for the grace of God go I." Addiction runs in my family - the alcoholics happen to be recovered, but lots of smokers and I think one on drugs. Substance abuse has never been my problem, but just because reading or video games or whatever I get myself sucked into doesn't have physical effects doesn't mean it can't affect my life and my relationship with DH. It almost makes it too easy to rationalize away.

Anyway, Karma all around. roy now, and the rest probably tomorrow as I recover.

[roygrip]

Good JOB Kimber and Iggy!