Does God exist ?

[gavinsnana]

Ok, gotta hit the road! Later.. Have a good weekend!

[Tosh]

The Dude lol, funny movie. Ever watch Fargo?

On MSN my full nomenclature was Tosh the Dude. ;D

Yes, it was a good movie too.

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 15:14:22 GMT -5 gavinsnana said:

Ok, gotta hit the road! Later.. Have a good weekend!

Have a good one Nanna. I need to get ready myself. A little make up and a Margarita for later. JA, I will be there to pick you up for a girls night out!

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 15:19:15 GMT -5 Tosh said:

The Dude lol, funny movie. Ever watch Fargo?

On MSN my full nomenclature was Tosh the Dude. ;D

Yes, it was a good movie too.

I've never seen it. I must be out of the loop. What's new?

[Tosh]

I've never seen it. I must be out of the loop. What's new?

Jesus is in it, he is a very good ten pin bowler.

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 15:26:49 GMT -5 Tosh said:

I've never seen it. I must be out of the loop. What's new?

Jesus is in it, he is a very good ten pin bowler.

Are you fo' real? Or is this another Tosh mind game?

[Tosh]

Are you fo' real? Or is this another Tosh mind game?

I did not realise I played with your mind, it is not my intention.



Jesus message:

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 15:35:58 GMT -5 Tosh said:

Are you fo' real? Or is this another Tosh mind game?

I did not realise I played with your mind, it is not my intention.



Jesus message:

It was a joke darling....

[weltschmerz]

It may give you a boost, but not mind altering.
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If it's gives you a boost, or makes you more awake or alert, it's mind-altering.

[Shirina]

Good thing I have a high metabolism.

Same here. My grandmother and mother weigh like 100 lbs. soaking wet. All the females in my family are like hummingbirds, small, quick, and energetic. When all three generations are together, it's like being in a swarm of bees since no one can sit still for 5 minutes. I used to eat like a horse ... I once devoured an entire Sara Lee strawberry cheesecake in one sitting and if I gained an ounce of weight, I'd be shocked. I've toned it way back though and I probably don't eat enough these days. I went from eating like a horse to eating like a bird. My love affair with food has apparently run its course.

[weltschmerz]

I went from eating like a horse to eating like a bird.
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Birds have to eat the equivalent of their body weight or more every day, due to their high metabolism and the energy expended by flying.
Just saying....


You're probably better off eating like a horse.

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 17:15:37 GMT -5 Shirina said:

Good thing I have a high metabolism.

Same here. My grandmother and mother weigh like 100 lbs. soaking wet. All the females in my family are like hummingbirds, small, quick, and energetic. When all three generations are together, it's like being in a swarm of bees since no one can sit still for 5 minutes. I used to eat like a horse ... I once devoured an entire Sara Lee strawberry cheesecake in one sitting and if I gained an ounce of weight, I'd be shocked. I've toned it way back though and I probably don't eat enough these days. I went from eating like a horse to eating like a bird. My love affair with food has apparently run its course.

Hey Shirina! My metabolism used to be way better than it is now but as long as I lay off the late night snacking, I do pretty good. My weakness is chocolate. I am definitely over 100 lbs but height has a lot to do with it. Also, the cleaning job I have tends to keep some of it worked off. As long as I'm moving around. LOL

[femmefatale]

Hi Rick

[Shirina]

Message deleted by mmhmm at the request of Shirina.

[Shirina]

Birds have to eat the equivalent of their body weight or more every day, due to their high metabolism and the energy expended by flying.

LOL, Weltz! Okay, let me amend my previous post and say that I eat a bird's body weight in food.

That's better.

[femmefatale]

That was sad, Shirina...I'm sorry.

[Shirina]

My metabolism used to be way better than it is now but as long as I lay off the late night snacking, I do pretty good. My weakness is chocolate.

Yeah, the metabolism slows down as we age ... at least for most people. My grandmother, at age 88, seems immune. Most 88 year-olds would be hobbling along with a walker, but she still zips around the house and won't let anyone do for themselves. SHE has to do it, and often we let her. She wants to feel useful, and we all know it means a lot for her to know she can still be the grandma she wants to be.

I hope that's true for me, as well, so when I hit 88, I won't be chained to a chair or a walker and can still devour 3/4ths of a large pizza and still weigh 110 lbs. like my grandma LOL!

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 18:15:03 GMT -5 Shirina said:

My metabolism used to be way better than it is now but as long as I lay off the late night snacking, I do pretty good. My weakness is chocolate.

Yeah, the metabolism slows down as we age ... at least for most people. My grandmother, at age 88, seems immune. Most 88 year-olds would be hobbling along with a walker, but she still zips around the house and won't let anyone do for themselves. SHE has to do it, and often we let her. She wants to feel useful, and we all know it means a lot for her to know she can still be the grandma she wants to be.

I hope that's true for me, as well, so when I hit 88, I won't be chained to a chair or a walker and can still devour 3/4ths of a large pizza and still weigh 110 lbs. like my grandma LOL!

Dang!! 88 and 110...Good for her and still active. My Great Grandma died at the age of 96. She worked in the garden until she was 90. She was quite the whipper-snapper, that woman! Always cooking and seemed in better shape than any young person. And always in good spirits. She was petite and short though. I am about 6 inches taller than she was. But she was small too. She was always humble and never had a cross word to say about anyone. God rest her soul...

[femmefatale]

The only thing about Great Gram though, is she would not eat fast food. Everything had to be fresh and from the garden. But man could she throw down in the kitchen!

[Shirina]

I think your great grandmother and my grandmother are a lot alike, Femme. My grandmother doesn't have a garden, but she can still make a good dinner as if she were half her age. And she is so loving, oh so loving. She just had her 88th birthday party two weeks ago. She still lives in PA and I'm in NC. We were sitting on the couch, and she leaned over to me and said, "Come home. Come back home with us and we'll take care of you."

I'm going to miss her dearly when she is gone.

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 18:26:28 GMT -5 Shirina said:

I think your great grandmother and my grandmother are a lot alike, Femme. My grandmother doesn't have a garden, but she can still make a good dinner as if she were half her age. And she is so loving, oh so loving. She just had her 88th birthday party two weeks ago. She still lives in PA and I'm in NC. We were sitting on the couch, and she leaned over to me and said, "Come home. Come back home with us and we'll take care of you."

I'm going to miss her dearly when she is gone.

Awwww... Just cherish the moments you still have with her Shirina. They are so kind at that age aren't they? Like children...I saw my Great Grandma take her last breath. I never cried so hard.

[chiver78]

Shirina,

thank you for sharing that, it certainly brought tears to my eyes.

[femmefatale]

Nov 4, 2011 18:44:46 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Shirina,

thank you for sharing that, it certainly brought tears to my eyes.

Mine too chiver..

[gavinsnana]

Nov 4, 2011 18:44:46 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Shirina,

thank you for sharing that, it certainly brought tears to my eyes.

To mine as well, very hard to even think or say anything after that post. Thank you Shirina for sharing that. What a testimony to a true soul mate.

I wish you well.

[Deleted]

Shirina, what a lovely, tragic story you have been so kind as to share with us, thank you.

[femmefatale]

[mmhmm]

Shirina, I'm so sorry VK was taken from this earth so soon. It hurts, I know, but he's still with you. He's in your heart. That shows in your words. Just follow the footsteps he's left for you. You'll find him there, waiting.

[mmhmm]

My mother just recently became a great, great granmother. She's 90. Although she's mobility impaired, she still does for herself as much as is possible and is a slender 130 lbs. I weigh about 117 at 5'7", so we're a slender family (my father was also slender). So much, I feel, is in the genes.

[Tosh]

Good morning Shirina,

Sad story, in fact its a very sad story, not sure there is a supernatural dimension to it. We all have our inexplicable down days and yours just happened to coincide with the death of your childhood sweetheart or soul mate. You had down days before for no reason therefore you cannot recall them, this one you can recall for a very sad reason.

In my opinion it is sheer coincidence, the laws of probability or serendipity.

I am a rather serious Texas hold em poker player, gamblers live and dream on predictions and probabilities, some complain about a bad beat of odds of 50 to 1 on the river card, we play millions of hands, we do not remember the 49 times the identical hand wins, only the one that lost.

You only remember your bad day because you lost, in my opinion.

There are two types of psychics or mediums, fraudsters and people who genuinely believe they have a gift, none of them can do it under controlled conditions. They both give the same gobbledygook explanation, they lose their ability because the conditions weren't right ?

Yeah ....no kidding !!

I lost my Godson at the tender age of 21 to cancer, his mother ( my sister in law) has spent fortunes over the last 10 years trying to contact him through mediums, flying all over the world. Coming to terms with the death of a son is hard enough but she blames herself for ignoring his complaints about a lump in his neck for a couple of months. Guilt and grief have dismantled a once perfectly rational and well balanced woman, life is hard and we are but one traumatic moment away from being some one else.

[Shirina]

We all have our inexplicable down days and yours just happened to coincide with the death of your childhood sweetheart or soul mate. You had down days before for no reason therefore you cannot recall them, this one you can recall for a very sad reason.

Well, Tosh, I think you know my mind as well as anyone on the internet, and I believe it would be fair to say that I am a very cerebral person - some have accused me of being cold, emotionless, and logical to a fault. I have analyzed what happened to me inside and out, and I can assure you, it wasn't just a normal "down day."

You're right, I have had them before ... which means I know what they're like. The day VK died, it was nothing like that. There was a whole other dimension to it that transcended a typical case of the blues.

For me, a typical "down day" is a day of passivity. I feel slothful, uninterested, bored with life. I think, "what's the point" and chores are left undone. I'll stare blankly at the television or the computer and nothing that is showing really registers. Sometimes, I might get a knot in my chest from a bit of apprehension, but that's really all it is. More times than not, it passes within a few hours, especially once I grit my teeth and just get busy.

But this, oh no, this was different. I was hyper-aware and antsy. I knew something was wrong, something terrible, but I didn't quite know what. I had to sit through school all day, but I wanted to get out of there, to do something to figure out what was happening. I wanted to call everyone I knew, including VK, to make sure everyone was safe. I could barely sit still and I spent all day looking at the classroom door, poised on the edge of my seat like a panther waiting for that bell to ring. In many respects, this day was the complete opposite of a "down day" in the sense that I felt like a kid with ADHD.

In my opinion it is sheer coincidence, the laws of probability or serendipity.

What hit me that day has never occurred before nor since. How could it? There was only ever one VK and he only died once. Now, sure, we could try and pass it off as a random panic attack or an extreme case of anxiety. But then we would really be talking about an astronomical coincidence ... that I would have my first and only panic attack of my life on the day VK died. I don't think so.

we do not remember the 49 times the identical hand wins

The experience was unique. It was so powerful that I would have remembered it if it had ever happened before. To suggest that these attacks happened with such frequency that they became routine enough for me to forget ever having had them until it occurred on the day of VK's death would be inaccurate. It would be akin to saying that I forgot the last 10 times I had a bone marrow transplant, I only remember the one time because it happened on the day someone close to me died. Uh uh. Like a bone marrow transplant, you don't forget an experience like the one I had. This is why I can recall it in such vivid detail 10+ years later.

You only remember your bad day because you lost, in my opinion.

Nope. If I had exhibited the same behavior I showed on the day of his death with the kind of frequency you're talking about, my parents would have gift wrapped me and delivered me to the nearest mental institution. In fact, the reason why my friends - and even my teachers - grew so concerned was because my behavior was so radically different than the usual calm and self-confident me. No one was saying, "Oh there goes Shirina again, having yet another panic attack."

There are two types of psychics or mediums

This wasn't psychic, at least I don't believe it was. I do not have any "gifts" of that nature. I couldn't even pinpoint the cause of my anxiety that day. I just knew something was terribly wrong. I couldn't read VK's mind or communicate telepathically. There was no active "magic" there. It was simply a connection, though "simply" seems like a pale word to describe it with. But it was nothing more than that.

Yeah ....go figure.

The difference is that I am not claiming to have a gift that should be reproducible. It wasn't a superpower like in a comic book. I can't say "Wonder Twin powers, activate!" and turn into a bucket while VK turns into a pool of water. It was simply ... there, like potential energy.

If you had seen us together though, Tosh, you would have known just like everyone else did. My parents and his did not begin planning our wedding over the foolish dreams of two 5 year-olds. Indian weddings can be notoriously expensive. In fact, the largest commercial use of gold in the world is used as thread for Indian wedding saris. You don't take that lightly.