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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Aug 29, 2015 9:22:08 GMT -5
Casually saying that someone looks hot isn't emotional cheating - so not sure why you're bringing that up. If you don't know the difference, I don't know what to say to you.
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Post by Shooby on Aug 29, 2015 9:33:02 GMT -5
OK, so if the spouse says "She's hot, I want to boink her" that is disgusting and rude but not necessarily the same thing as actually getting into bed. But, if you don't know the difference, I don't know what to say to you.
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Post by OldCoyote on Aug 29, 2015 9:45:44 GMT -5
Ahhhh, Shooby, you just stirred up oldcoyote evil mind, since old coyote tries to refrain from swearing (yea, I know a real charterer flaw) I now envision a t-shirt that says, BOINK YOU!!
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Post by Shooby on Aug 29, 2015 9:56:59 GMT -5
LOL!
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Aug 29, 2015 10:05:51 GMT -5
Way to go by changing/adding to the wording.
But saying someone is hot to your partner, is still not emotional cheating. It's an ass-hat thing to do, but not cheating.
Nor is it the same as actually watching porn if your partner objects, or covertly going online to hook up with someone/engage in sex chat or going out to physically hook up with someone - all behind your partner's back and without their knowledge or consent.
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Post by Shooby on Aug 30, 2015 6:17:52 GMT -5
Way to go by changing/adding to the wording.
But saying someone is hot to your partner, is still not emotional cheating. It's an ass-hat thing to do, but not cheating.
Nor is it the same as actually watching porn if your partner objects, or covertly going online to hook up with someone/engage in sex chat or going out to physically hook up with someone - all behind your partner's back and without their knowledge or consent. So, you are agreeing with me then that most people arent' going to view thinking about it or making a comment or looking at a picture online to actually doing the nasty in a hotel?
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Aug 30, 2015 9:48:54 GMT -5
Thats not what I said at all. Go back & read my post again.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Aug 30, 2015 11:06:50 GMT -5
When it comes to adultery, intent is paramount.
There can be ramifications like pregnancy and sexual disease, but the vast majority of the damage is due to the breach of trust between husband and wife. Soliciting an affair, even if the person on the other end turns out to be a phony, is a sufficient breach of trust ipso facto. It demonstrates that the husband (wife) is unfaithful, untrustworthy, selfish, and generally unloving.
I don't believe an attempt to solicit an affair should automatically lead to a divorce, but a failed attempt is every bit as hurtful as a successful one. Whether or not we call failed attempts "cheating" is semantic.
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Aug 30, 2015 21:22:22 GMT -5
I think there's a difference between looking at another woman and actually letting your mind go, and the vocal chords reveal "I want to boink her". And if someone does take it to the point of brazenly stating such a desire, you don't actually have to wonder what someone with so little inhibitions will do given the opportunity. I think someone is justified with being extremely concerned about their spouse being one easy going slut away from cheating on you-- male, or female (though generally speaking, I think this belongs to men).
I think there's a healthy, natural, and difficult to control desire on the part of men to look at other women. I don't think looking by itself is bad so long as it's not ogling, staring, drooling, etc. Men are just wired differently. We like to look. I know some women do, too- but for the most part, this is a male dominated habit.
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Post by marvholly on Aug 31, 2015 5:31:18 GMT -5
I think there's a difference between looking at another woman and actually letting your mind go, and the vocal chords reveal "I want to boink her". And if someone does take it to the point of brazenly stating such a desire, you don't actually have to wonder what someone with so little inhibitions will do given the opportunity. I think someone is justified with being extremely concerned about their spouse being one easy going slut away from cheating on you-- male, or female (though generally speaking, I think this belongs to men). I think there's a healthy, natural, and difficult to control desire on the part of men to look at other women. I don't think looking by itself is bad so long as it's not ogling, staring, drooling, etc. Men are just wired differently. We like to look. I know some women do, too- but for the most part, this is a male dominated habit.
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Post by Shooby on Aug 31, 2015 6:58:28 GMT -5
Well, that's exactly the same as jumping into bed! Cheater!
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Post by Virgil Showlion on Aug 31, 2015 7:35:55 GMT -5
I think someone is justified with being extremely concerned about their spouse being one easy going slut kilt man away from cheating on you Fixed.
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Post by Tennesseer on Aug 31, 2015 9:42:33 GMT -5
Ashley Madison site 'still growing'The enormous data leak from the Ashley Madison infidelity dating website has not stopped people joining the service, the company says. "Hundreds of thousands" of new members joined the website last week, according to owner Avid Life Media. Ashley Madison site 'still growing'
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Post by djAdvocate on Aug 31, 2015 9:59:15 GMT -5
I think there's a difference between looking at another woman and actually letting your mind go, and the vocal chords reveal "I want to boink her". And if someone does take it to the point of brazenly stating such a desire, you don't actually have to wonder what someone with so little inhibitions will do given the opportunity. I think someone is justified with being extremely concerned about their spouse being one easy going slut away from cheating on you-- male, or female (though generally speaking, I think this belongs to men). I think there's a healthy, natural, and difficult to control desire on the part of men to look at other women. I don't think looking by itself is bad so long as it's not ogling, staring, drooling, etc. Men are just wired differently. We like to look. I know some women do, too- but for the most part, this is a male dominated habit. this is great, Paul. thanks for posting.
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Aug 31, 2015 10:03:57 GMT -5
I did. But Hunter Hiden doesn't make a living preaching about his Godly sex life. That is true. The Russians did the same thing to him that they did to me. Damn Russian spies!
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