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Post by midjd on Mar 11, 2013 18:29:36 GMT -5
"cash or a daddy complex." I wonder which one MidwestJd's "aunt" is? Man, I don't think I could do much more than 34 or so. And definitely not someone more than 10 years older, it'd be like dating my mom. It must be a daddy complex, I know it's not money... he's a teacher. Ironically to look at them you'd assume he was loaded, she's a knockout! Really nice and sweet, too. Nobody understands it The creepiness rule is half your age + 7, right?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2013 19:06:38 GMT -5
I was constantly getting roped into dating younger guys. When do you discuss ages? I usually judge by they look about X, they did the same, and we ended up being quite off. Last one was 14 years younger. I was so sure he was in his 30's. I was 37, he was 23. I gave up after that, didn't want to go down the blanche debois road. That was almost 12 years ago.... <---Younger guy.. Sure you are done?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2013 19:19:41 GMT -5
My neighbor got hair extensions, braces, botox, and some kind of weight loss surgery. Now she got all her loose skin tucked in (or whatever you call it). She left her husband and teenage children for another man.
We are mean and joke that she still has short legs and we wonder how she will fix that.
Anyway, I actually feel sorry for her. She must have terribly low self-esteem.
I think she is going through a midlife crisis.
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Post by justme on Mar 11, 2013 19:53:50 GMT -5
I was constantly getting roped into dating younger guys. When do you discuss ages? I usually judge by they look about X, they did the same, and we ended up being quite off. Last one was 14 years younger. I was so sure he was in his 30's. I was 37, he was 23. I gave up after that, didn't want to go down the blanche debois road. That was almost 12 years ago.... My best friend says I need to start carding guys since I'm so bad at guessing ages.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2013 20:21:10 GMT -5
"cash or a daddy complex." I wonder which one MidwestJd's "aunt" is? Man, I don't think I could do much more than 34 or so. And definitely not someone more than 10 years older, it'd be like dating my mom. It must be a daddy complex, I know it's not money... he's a teacher. Ironically to look at them you'd assume he was loaded, she's a knockout! Really nice and sweet, too. Nobody understands it The creepiness rule is half your age + 7, right? Woo hoo, I can date a 22-year-old!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2013 20:24:47 GMT -5
Wait, there has to be an upper limit, or else it's fine for an 80-year-old to date a 47-year-old.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Mar 11, 2013 20:57:01 GMT -5
I was on the receiving end of a midlife crisis. My first husband became a mage, a surgery god, (per his own claims ), and had actually gotten literature on joining the French Foreign Legion. Well, that would have been interesting for him. He left me for a young ( thing ) who wasn't really interested in him.
I wound up getting my own house, a better job in terms of earnings, having all of our marital debts paid off by selling the marital home and then a few more payments between us per the divorce decree on what was left, finding my wonderful second husband, eventually marrying him, and becoming solvent with $ 14,000 in savings at the end of the first three years, so it worked out pretty well for me.
Sometimes, we become stronger and happier even though things seem tough at the time.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Mar 11, 2013 20:59:54 GMT -5
Wait, there has to be an upper limit, or else it's fine for an 80-year-old to date a 47-year-old. Umm, well that would work as a get rich quick scheme for the 47 year old in some scenarios .
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Post by 973beachbum on Mar 12, 2013 6:34:39 GMT -5
Wait, there has to be an upper limit, or else it's fine for an 80-year-old to date a 47-year-old. Umm, well that would work as a get rich quick scheme for the 47 year old in some scenarios . My great uncle married at 79 to a 43 year old. He was pretty rich. He also lived to be 97.
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Post by Shooby on Mar 12, 2013 7:20:29 GMT -5
I think moving to another country with your child and taking them away from their other parent is wrong, wrong, wrong. If i was him i would immediately get a lawyer to prevent her from being able to do that.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2013 7:42:45 GMT -5
<---Younger guy.. Sure you are done? Lol....you never know what tomorrow brings, but I doubt it....I've been good, stable, content for 12 years. Why ruin a good thing? Well, I'm not a child at least. I have some grey hairs and all that..
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 12, 2013 8:21:27 GMT -5
Until DF, all my guys were younger. I miss being a cougar!
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Post by NoNamePerson on Mar 12, 2013 8:31:37 GMT -5
May all of you have more than one mid life crisis. They can be such fun
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 12, 2013 8:33:08 GMT -5
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 12, 2013 11:40:57 GMT -5
When I turned 40 I bought myself a red, convertible Mustang...I'm not a car person so I'm guessing that was a mid-life crisis talking...or just a "I can finally afford to splurge so I'm going to"...I'm not sure which
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2013 11:51:15 GMT -5
I told my husband I was depressed because I couldn't think of a good mid-life crisis to have. He told me to buy a car. If I find this, I will take him up on the offer: I'd get myself one of these!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2013 11:52:22 GMT -5
I'm planning on having an affair with someone on this forum. How YOU doin'?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 12, 2013 11:55:30 GMT -5
I told my husband I was depressed because I couldn't think of a good mid-life crisis to have. He told me to buy a car. If I find this, I will take him up on the offer: I'd get myself one of these! I always wanted that car...but in a bright red color! I actually saw one this past summer and it wasn't all that much money...I was sooo tempted to get it!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2013 11:56:30 GMT -5
My Birthday is coming up.....
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Post by ihearyou2 on Mar 12, 2013 12:41:54 GMT -5
I fell for Archie when I hit 40 and we have had a hot torrid affair for four years, neither of our wives really seem to mind much. I'm also a controller and he is my puppy dog.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2013 13:05:12 GMT -5
I'm planning on having an affair with someone on this forum. How YOU doin'? Can you send me your stats? 401k/Net worth/Debt-to-income??
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Post by milee on Mar 12, 2013 13:09:14 GMT -5
DH has a midlife crisis pretty much every time he hits an "0" birthday. And if the trend continues, it takes him longer to recover from each one. Not fun to be around.
Next time it happens, I'm handling it differently.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2013 13:12:12 GMT -5
I'm planning on having an affair with someone on this forum. How YOU doin'? Beerwench beat me to it!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 12, 2013 13:14:56 GMT -5
I'm not allowed to have my mid-life crisis for another 8 years, 9 months, and 15 days. Not that I keep track or anything.
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Post by movingforward on Mar 12, 2013 13:48:26 GMT -5
My ex-SIL had a mid-life crisis a couple of yrs ago. She met some guy on the internet and had an affair. Decided she needed huge tattoos and body piercings (nothing wrong with that but it was kind of sudden for someone who seemed to never have any interest in it before). All of the sudden she looked like a different person. She announced to my brother 2 days before Christmas that she was leaving. They had been married for 20 yrs and have one child together. My brother was devastated. She is now married to the man she met on the internet. He can't hold down a job because (and I quote) "he is just not one for punching a clock." He has only a GED so punching a clock is pretty much a given. She has a good job in the healthcare industry so he basically just lives off her. My brother has my niece 4 days a week and she just turned 16 last week. She says she is going to move in full time with my brother and that she can't stand to be around her mom's husband even 3 days a week. We later found out that ex-SIL had cheated on my brother 8 yrs before with some guy she met while training for a marathon. No one in the family knew about. My brother told us after the divorce. He said he forgave her back then and just wanted to keep his family together for my niece's sake. Perhaps she didn't have a mid-life crisis but is just simply a cheater
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Post by doxieluvr on Mar 12, 2013 14:22:39 GMT -5
I told my husband I was depressed because I couldn't think of a good mid-life crisis to have. He told me to buy a car. If I find this, I will take him up on the offer: Falcon Futura?
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Post by doxieluvr on Mar 12, 2013 14:28:09 GMT -5
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Mar 12, 2013 14:41:47 GMT -5
Great, something else to worry about.
My friend's parents went through this: Mom decided she wanted to quit work and move somewhere else. Since Dad didn't immediately jump on board, she pretty much just left.
I'm afraid that if we don't drastically improve our standard of living over the next decade, one or both of us (most likely DW) will have a crisis like this.
I guess you just get to that point where you feel like half your life is over and you have nothing to show for it, and you no longer have all those years you thought you'd have, and you just plain don't have time to -foot around anymore. Its time for action, BIG action, something drastic and dangerous.
After all, "playing it safe" is how you squandered half your life and have nothing to show for it.
I can see how that sort of energy could be exciting, and even seductive. Perhaps these younger girls are attracted to the older guys zest for life, and are imputing some level of maturity.
And it doesn't even mean the guy has to be rich, depending on the girls frame of reference. If she is used to dating bad boys who have to live with 4 roommates, and scrimp for gas money -- a guy who can afford his own place and a dinner at Red Lobster seems like Richard Gere!
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Post by cronewitch on Mar 12, 2013 14:47:39 GMT -5
I married a man 17 years older and dead broke. Young women can be pretty stupid and having a man who has experiences in life makes things easier. I was 18 and living alone in Seattle. He was a merchant seaman who had been all over the country so with him we traveled cheap and saw the country while taking minimum wage jobs. I wouldn't have done it alone or with someone without experience.
Men under 40 who are in great shape don't always seem old. My niece's ex is 39, plays soccer, does triathlons, has a waterfront house and a yacht and owns a business. Sweet young thing he replaced his wife with might not have known he would have child support, spousal support and was underwater on his house and a rental house. He lost one of his two businesses this year and quit paying his mortgage on the rental house. He is canceling plans to vacation in Asia this year. He didn't seem to understand dumping a wife and two kids would cost him so much. How dare a loving wife go get a good attorney and demand her rights just because he kicked her and the kids out. Last time he moved out to shack up with a younger women he returned home to try to work things out, wife was forgiving. She isn't a friendly ex wife doormat like he expected.
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Post by swamp on Mar 12, 2013 14:49:46 GMT -5
So tell DW to quit pissing her money away, and to work to on getting the skills she needs to get that standard of living she wants.
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