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Post by swamp on Mar 11, 2013 11:32:55 GMT -5
Holy crap? she needs to move to france to have this crisis?
I get not being happy in a marriage, but moving to france seems kind of excessive.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2013 11:35:47 GMT -5
She's a controller. Accounting can mess with people's heads. She probably thinks she need to romanticism of southern France to bring back some feeling of life to her cold, calculating heart.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 11, 2013 11:38:37 GMT -5
Is she taking her DD with her??
I am considering to start going through mid-life crisis - I just haven't figured out what it will entail....
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Post by swamp on Mar 11, 2013 11:40:29 GMT -5
Is she taking her DD with her?? UNless dad is OK with it, it's probably not happening. I'd be filing in family court yesterday for custody and an order the kid doesn't leave the country. I'd also ask for an order that the kid's passport be surrendered to the court and only provided upon consent of both parents.
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Post by happyhoix on Mar 11, 2013 11:46:19 GMT -5
A friend of mine's DH announced he was leaving her when he was in his forties. They had a kid together. He owned a music store and wanted to date some little high school girl who worked as a clerk at his store.
Moved out and left my friend and her son behind - fortunately she had a job and fortunately she could continue to pay the mortgage on her own.
18 months later he was back, the high schooler decided she wasn't interested. I would have told him to stick it, but my friend let him move back in and they took up like nothing ever happened.
Not as dramatic as my cousin's husband, he was a big VP with a large gun company, they had the two beautiful kids, the big house near the beach, the countryclub membership, etc etc.
One day he had a melt down, moved into the attic and would not budge. Quit his job. She had to try to sell the house but he wouldn't leave the attic even when potential buyers wanted to walk through the house. Eventually he did leave, taking her best friend with him, and became a bartender.
I don't know, though, I know my cousin and she's kind of a viper, so I don't know if this was a mid life crisis or just self preservation on his part.
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Post by Opti on Mar 11, 2013 11:46:23 GMT -5
No I don't know anyone who has had a big midlife crisis. Not sure if this is one either. Does she have a job in France or is she just moving there and planning to find something? Did her job move her or did she always want to live in France? I'm going to guess that for her the marriage wasn't as good for her when DH became a stay at home Dad and/or she's transferring most of her angst onto the marriage. Some people keep their complaints to themselves and once they are past their limit - go on some plan that's probably been in their head for awhile. Twinmama's to be XDH comes to mind as an example. I feel for BIL. That is a tough spot to be put into. I hope it all works out for him and their kid.
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Post by swamp on Mar 11, 2013 11:46:40 GMT -5
BIL is a super nice guy and apparently incapable of getting angry and fighting for anything. SIL is dictating all terms of the separation. We've all suggested lawyers but he won't get one. . If he's going to let hte kid go overseas, he NEEDS a custody Order or agreement. Otherwise, if mom keeps the kid there is absolutely NOTHING anyone can do about it.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2013 11:48:11 GMT -5
My friend one day announced that she was scared of her husband and locked him out of the house. He hasn't returned, and a year later they were divorced. Of course he lost his temper - their kids were brats because she let one get away with everything, and blamed the other one for everything, and both kids were obnoxious because of it.
My husband had a mid-life crisis. He bought a $4000 bicycle and lost 50 pounds. Woo Hoo!
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Post by giramomma on Mar 11, 2013 11:49:37 GMT -5
Is she taking her DD with her?? UNless dad is OK with it, it's probably not happening. I'd be filing in family court yesterday for custody and an order the kid doesn't leave the country. I'd also ask for an order that the kid's passport be surrendered to the court and only provided upon consent of both parents. This. I figure I'm going to be ripe for a mid-life crisis in a few years. Mine will be boring. I will take all my vacation time from work and sleep, read books, and indulge in my interests. I'm too tired to get me a boy toy.
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Post by swamp on Mar 11, 2013 11:50:42 GMT -5
I had one. I lost 40 pounds and got a tattoo. Unfortunately, 30 of it found me again.
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Post by giramomma on Mar 11, 2013 11:51:46 GMT -5
Does the 8 yo have a passport yet?
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 11, 2013 11:52:08 GMT -5
So, except for Thyme's husband - has anyone done anything productive with their mid-life crisis - I need some ideas
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Post by lynnerself on Mar 11, 2013 11:57:05 GMT -5
When I bought a red convertable at 50 I was accused of a mid life crisis. Actually it was just celebrating my "empty nest".
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Post by 973beachbum on Mar 11, 2013 12:06:26 GMT -5
So, except for Thyme's husband - has anyone done anything productive with their mid-life crisis - I need some ideas My mid life crisis is going to be with me packing some clothes and getting on a plane to the Big Island of Hawaii. There are probably 4 things in this house that I would want to bring or have shipped. The rest can be sold in a yard sale or given away. I guess the proceeds could be used to buy a car there. DH insists he needs a job there before we can move. One day he is going to be shoveling snow here all by himself.
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Post by Bluerobin on Mar 11, 2013 12:34:56 GMT -5
It's probably that French model she met online!
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Post by bean29 on Mar 11, 2013 12:38:40 GMT -5
She's a controller. Accounting can mess with people's heads. She probably thinks she need to romanticism of southern France to bring back some feeling of life to her cold, calculating heart. I know it's not funny to Formerly SK and her family but as a Controller: PS. when I read she was a Controller I was not sure if it meant her profession was a Controller or if she had a controlling personality.
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Post by swamp on Mar 11, 2013 12:39:40 GMT -5
maybe she's a controlling comptroller?
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2013 12:46:34 GMT -5
My father lost weight, started running, stopped smoking and bought a cute little sports car. Not a crazy one - it was (if there is such a thing) a YM approved sports car. It was a Datsun, so not super-expensive, but had some zip and was decent quality. [/span]
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Post by midjd on Mar 11, 2013 12:58:16 GMT -5
My dad's midlife crisis involved a 21yo (he was in his mid-forties with kids 18, 12, and 11). Two years later, they had two kids. It didn't work out, and now he is married to a beautiful, sweet woman 20 years his junior.
(I swear he went down to the crossroads and sold his soul to the devil - I don't know how he lands these ladies!)
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2013 13:00:11 GMT -5
I told my husband I was depressed because I couldn't think of a good mid-life crisis to have. He told me to buy a car. If I find this, I will take him up on the offer:
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Post by Queen of Interesting Nuts on Mar 11, 2013 14:20:45 GMT -5
I think me and DH are due for our midlife crisis soon. Wonder who will go first. I will probably have an extended stay in England and he will buy a cute car.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Mar 11, 2013 14:29:03 GMT -5
She's a controller. Accounting can mess with people's heads. She probably thinks she need to romanticism of southern France to bring back some feeling of life to her cold, calculating heart. <<<<<<<-----plans to start keeping an eye on her DH....
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 11, 2013 14:30:03 GMT -5
My dad's midlife crisis involved an 18yo (he was in his mid-forties with kids 18, 12, and 11). Two years later, they had two kids. It didn't work out, and now he is married to a beautiful, sweet woman 20 years his junior. (I swear he went down to the crossroads and sold his soul to the devil - I don't know how he lands these ladies!) This is probably off topic, but why do women go with guys who are 20+ years older than they are? I'd be willing to date a few years older than myself, maybe early to mid 30's, but I couldn't see myself dating a 40 or 50 year old.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 11, 2013 14:31:56 GMT -5
I don't t hink you'd call it a mid life crisis, since I"m not in midlife yet, but I personally have been struggeling with questions of "what do I want out of life" and "what makes me happy."
Haven't done anything drastic though.
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Post by swamp on Mar 11, 2013 15:00:03 GMT -5
My dad's midlife crisis involved an 18yo (he was in his mid-forties with kids 18, 12, and 11). Two years later, they had two kids. It didn't work out, and now he is married to a beautiful, sweet woman 20 years his junior. (I swear he went down to the crossroads and sold his soul to the devil - I don't know how he lands these ladies!) This is probably off topic, but why do women go with guys who are 20+ years older than they are? I'd be willing to date a few years older than myself, maybe early to mid 30's, but I couldn't see myself dating a 40 or 50 year old. cash or a daddy complex.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 11, 2013 15:20:15 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2013 15:50:08 GMT -5
"but why do women go with guys who are 20+ years older than they are?" I think the answer depends on what age they actually are. A 40 year old with a 60 year old is not as bad as a 20 year old with a 40 year old. As we all know men mature a lot later than women do. Having said that I have dated guys as young as 5-6 years younger than me. I am not very mature
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 11, 2013 15:52:52 GMT -5
"cash or a daddy complex."
I wonder which one MidwestJd's "aunt" is?
Man, I don't think I could do much more than 34 or so. And definitely not someone more than 10 years older, it'd be like dating my mom.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 11, 2013 15:55:25 GMT -5
"but why do women go with guys who are 20+ years older than they are?" I think the answer depends on what age they actually are. A 40 year old with a 60 year old is not as bad as a 20 year old with a 40 year old. As we all know men mature a lot later than women do. Having said that I have dated guys as young as 5-6 years younger than me. I am not very mature Even if it's a 60 year old with a 40 year old, you'll run into issues of people being at different stages of life. For example, the 60 year old wants to retire and travel the world while the 40 year old is involved in a career. The 40 year old will likely end up taking care of the 60 year old and end up a widow for 20+ years. But, that's what I've noticed among old guys "60+" either they were successful and are looking for a trophy wife or weren't so successful and are looking for a nurse to take care of them.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2013 17:35:24 GMT -5
I'm planning on having an affair with someone on this forum.
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