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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 11:11:07 GMT -5
I just learned that my TV hottie (Jason O'Mara) is on that new show Vegas. When I commented that he's my TV eye candy DH just rolled his eyes at me.
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Post by swamp on Dec 19, 2012 11:16:21 GMT -5
I think he's a douchecanoe and it's going to come back to bite him in the ass when he's looking for alimony, but all these posts out there show he's been spending money on his new chickie. post away, dude!!! Can he really get any alimony? I am finding that hard to believe. She got her inheritance before they were married. The house is under her mother and her name (and is upside down so no equity). The car is under her name and purchased before they were married They got married in 2010 so marriage lasted 2 years and she is a social worker so I am guessing make between 50-75k. How much alimony can you get for that and only married 2 years? On the other hand I read in the WSJ that the mother of the CT shooter was getting 240k/year in alimony payments set to increase to 300k/year (if she wasn't killed). INSANE!!! For her to get that much I wonder how much her husband was grossing a year. yes, he could probably get a few hundred bucks a month for about a year. depends on teh judge.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 19, 2012 11:29:37 GMT -5
Where the hell do social workers make $75k??!! Around here, they are paid less than $40k.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 19, 2012 11:31:32 GMT -5
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Post by swamp on Dec 19, 2012 11:36:50 GMT -5
Where the hell do social workers make $75k??!! Around here, they are paid less than $40k. NYC, which is equivalent to $35k where you live.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 11:44:24 GMT -5
She lives in Long Island and commute into the city every day. Using your link I guess I was not that far off: New York $50,830/year $24.44 hourly So I am guessing she makes between 50k-75k since her job is in the city.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 11:45:31 GMT -5
Where the hell do social workers make $75k??!! Around here, they are paid less than $40k. NYC, which is equivalent to $35k where you live. You beat me to it!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 19, 2012 11:52:45 GMT -5
They got married in 2010 so marriage lasted 2 years and she is a social worker so I am guessing make between 50-75k. How much alimony can you get for that and only married 2 years? On the other hand I read in the WSJ that the mother of the CT shooter was getting 240k/year in alimony payments set to increase to 300k/year (if she wasn't killed). INSANE!!! For her to get that much I wonder how much her husband was grossing a year. I think I saw something that said he was senior exec somewhere (GE?) and making like $450K a year.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 12:26:53 GMT -5
Where the hell do social workers make $75k??!! Around here, they are paid less than $40k. Also she has a masters degree in social work and in the link you posted I found the following:
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 12:30:49 GMT -5
They got married in 2010 so marriage lasted 2 years and she is a social worker so I am guessing make between 50-75k. How much alimony can you get for that and only married 2 years? On the other hand I read in the WSJ that the mother of the CT shooter was getting 240k/year in alimony payments set to increase to 300k/year (if she wasn't killed). INSANE!!! For her to get that much I wonder how much her husband was grossing a year. I think I saw something that said he was senior exec somewhere (GE?) and making like $450K a year. Damn, so 50% of what he makes goes to the ex-wife (if you don't include bonuses, etc). Not to be a jerk or anything but I thought: Isn't he glad she's dead! Does that make me an evil monster?
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 19, 2012 12:32:10 GMT -5
Yes.
I don't think you ever are happy that your child is a mass murderer and took out your ex-wife. No matter how ugly the divorce was.
The guy still had $200k to live on.
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Post by swamp on Dec 19, 2012 12:32:28 GMT -5
I think I saw something that said he was senior exec somewhere (GE?) and making like $450K a year. Damn, so 50% of what he makes goes to the ex-wife (if you don't include bonuses, etc). Not to be a jerk or anything but I thought: Isn't he glad she's dead! Does that make me an evil monster? reports say it was an amicable divorce and he willingly paid alimony. He probably has a base salary of $450k with lots of stock options, bonuses, etc, that give him a much higher income. The guy lives in Stamford, which isn't cheap, he isn't living on $150k to be able to afford to live there.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 19, 2012 13:25:34 GMT -5
Well, it is tacky IMO.
You spend an awful lot of time defending this guy to your wife. You should just stop.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 13:50:53 GMT -5
Well, it is tacky IMO. You spend an awful lot of time defending this guy to your wife. You should just stop. I am not defending him per say but more so given my honest opinion about the situation. As I told my wife: her and her family loves to make the guy sound like a dick but her cousin is not that innocent. Don't get me wrong, the guy is a dick and I know that from personally interacting with him but he has always been a dick, from the moment they stayed dating 6 years ago till now. So that behavior has always remain constant, everyone always knew he was a dick, he did not change but they expected him to change. So when I hear about things he has done or is doing I am not surprised, it fit the person and his pattern... Yet everyone else act horrified. WTF? He's a dick and we've all known that from the get go, we all said she was making a horrible mistake marrying him. So my reaction is always kinda: stop with the dramatics, it is X we are talking about why are you surprised. His behaviors does not shock me anymore because I expect it from him. It 's like expecting me to be outrage by my cousin husband caught cheating on her again. Let's see: he cheated on his first wife with you, he cheated on you and you took him back and now you want a sympathetic ear because guess what; he cheated on you again? When they told my mom and I all we did is laugh because we did not get the purpose for the outrage. As my mom nicely put it while my cousin was crying "poor me": what did you think? Your vagina is made out of gold and he was going to change just for you?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 13:52:42 GMT -5
"she is a social worker so I am guessing make between 50-75k."
This is crazy! $300-400k+ mortgage, range rover, fiat, living in NY all on 50-75k??? I live in a MCOL (I think it is considered MCOL), make $90K+ and I do not see how I could ever afford a $400k house!!!! What made her think that she could EVER afford this?
"They got married in 2010 so marriage lasted 2 years and she is a social worker so I am guessing make between 50-75k. How much alimony can you get for that and only married 2 years?"
Does he have an education? Was he ever working? I am not a lawyer but I just dont think he would get alimony. My ex's ex was a SAHM (going to school) for 4 years and they were married for 7-8 years and even she didnt get it. Of course, each situation is different but I dont think he would get it. Child support, on the other hand, if he gets to be the "parent receiving support", then he will get that.
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Post by swamp on Dec 19, 2012 13:53:04 GMT -5
I'd have to agree with you on that point.
Maybe you can just say "yup, further evidence he's a dick, and we've known it for 6 years now"
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 19, 2012 13:53:29 GMT -5
I'm wondering if the husband divorced, gave her everything she wanted, just to get away Frm her and his crazy child. Now look. He's the father of the crazy child who killed a lot of people. He can't get away from that stigma, ever. The nice thing about this is that DF is finally going to talk to his step daughter about her crazy son because I told him 15 years from now that nut job will be in the paper for doing something awful and ill be being interviewed and saying I knew as did others he was mentally ill but was told to MMOB.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 19, 2012 13:53:53 GMT -5
I am not defending him per say but more so given my honest opinion about the situation
I'd stop doing that. Eventually the make-up sex isn't going to be worth it.
Yeah yeah I get you are an "honest" guy.
I'm usually pretty blunt/straightforward myself but I've learned that there are times when it is just better to keep my mouth shut and/or agree with someone.
This would be one of those things to just keep your mouth shut about. Clearly all you do everytime you say something is piss off your wife and end up in the doghouse.
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Post by swamp on Dec 19, 2012 13:54:01 GMT -5
But the bank gave them the money!!!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 19, 2012 13:55:53 GMT -5
I'd have to agree with you on that point. Maybe you can just say "yup, further evidence he's a dick, and we've known it for 6 years now" You don't come across as saying you think his actions are consistant with him being a dick. You come across as defending him. Just because he's always been like that, doesn't make it right.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 13:57:47 GMT -5
"But the bank gave them the money!!! " maybe the bank will give me the money and i can magically afford it
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2012 13:59:41 GMT -5
"You come across as defending him." You really need to stop taking the other side, playing devil's advocate, or whatever you are trying to do. All you are doing is obviously pissing her off and honestly I would be too. Next time, just say "yeah she is a bitch" about the GF and she will be much happier and in return you will be too
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Post by midjd on Dec 19, 2012 14:00:29 GMT -5
I am not defending him per say but more so given my honest opinion about the situationI'd stop doing that. Eventually the make-up sex isn't going to be worth it. Yeah yeah I get you are an "honest" guy. I'm usually pretty blunt/straightforward myself but I've learned that there are times when it is just better to keep my mouth shut and/or agree with someone. This would be one of those things to just keep your mouth shut about. Clearly all you do everytime you say something is piss off your wife and end up in the doghouse. I agree. You can be honest without volunteering your opinion - especially when it involves someone else's family. The range of permissible things your wife can say about her cousin/her cousin's choices/appearance/etc. is probably much wider than the range of things YOU can say.
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Post by spartyparty on Dec 19, 2012 14:02:31 GMT -5
I don't however think you did anything wrong by saying the guy has good taste in womenI don't either but you'd think he'd know by now that Mrs C is going to twist whatever he says. The correct answer is "You are right honey, he is a jerk and that woman he is dating is fugly compared to your cousin!" DH has commented to me on other women being hot. He's a human male, he appreciates good looking women. It doesn't mean he loves me any less, it just means he likes to look. I like to look too. The wife said last night that she would make out with Rihanna. She's checking out the guys and gals! ;D Now to figure out how to get her to drop her inhibitions!
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Post by swamp on Dec 19, 2012 14:06:20 GMT -5
DH has commented to me on other women being hot. He's a human male, he appreciates good looking women. It doesn't mean he loves me any less, it just means he likes to look. I like to look too. The wife said last night that she would make out with Rihanna. She's checking out the guys and gals! ;D Now to figure out how to get her to drop her inhibitions! I'd make out with Rihanna too. And vodka works. Or at least for me it does.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 19, 2012 14:10:37 GMT -5
You can comment on random women but someone specific who has hurt her cousin deeply is just plain tactless.
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Post by spartyparty on Dec 19, 2012 14:13:23 GMT -5
The wife said last night that she would make out with Rihanna. She's checking out the guys and gals! ;D Now to figure out how to get her to drop her inhibitions! I'd make out with Rihanna too. And vodka works. Or at least for me it does. I really need to take her out more for drinks!
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Post by swamp on Dec 19, 2012 14:13:48 GMT -5
You can comment on random women but someone specific who has hurt her cousin deeply is just plain tactless. I don't see how this woman hurt the cousin. She's never met her.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 19, 2012 14:15:29 GMT -5
Public ally embarrassing the spouse on FB is not cool.
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