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Post by gs11rmb on Jan 28, 2019 11:25:57 GMT -5
cktc I know I've told this before... Little Debbie Snack Cakes! My kid was bouncing off the walls for a couple of days but she pooped in the potty! I had a friend who was awfully smug about using the 1 or 2 M&M's trick and how Little Debbie's were way too much sugar but after a weekend, my kid crapped in the toilet and hers did not .
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Post by steph08 on Jan 28, 2019 11:26:46 GMT -5
Harper was a big fan of the little potty. She used it all the time. She also loved the "Potty Time" app - she got to watch the video on my phone when she used the potty. Also - she hated pooping on the potty - champion at peeing, would take off her underwear and ask for a diaper when she had to poop. So, I did what any sane, normal parent would do. I put a diaper into the little potty. It gave her that diaper feeling but got her used to pooping on the potty. After a few times, I removed it. Harper potty trained in like a week. She was so easy. Chloe doesn't enjoy the little potty. She will use it if necessary, but ever since she started potty training, she prefers the big potty, with no insert. She's only almost fell in like two times. But I was there to catch her. She was a pain to potty train, but at 2.5, she's good now. She still wears pull-ups to bed, but we are three days dry at wake-up so far. M&Ms are my bribing tool. Also books and "big girl" underwear.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 28, 2019 12:04:28 GMT -5
Busy morning. I started a Facebook debate on abortion...which lead to someone doubling down on the "killing healthy babies" for the mother's life. I don't know how to respond except to saying "I'll take things that don't really happen for 1000, Alex" (yes, I do understand it very very rarely happens, but ugh...i can't formulate a response).
Then I shoveled snow. Then I went to work and saw the lady and kids walking that i saw last week. So I gave them a ride again. Then got breakfast, tried to make flight reservations for a work trip in 2 weeks, and now trying to get some work done because this is my lone mostly open day this week.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 28, 2019 12:08:35 GMT -5
I need potty training help for DS. He has a little potty that he will only sit on fully clothed. He won't try the big potty with a seat at all. This is fine, I'm ok to wait, except he has recently, repeatedly, expressed a desire not use a diaper. "I want to poop on the floor!" I've tried bribing him. We are now watching the Daniel Tiger potty episode on repeat. Any other ideas? I'm ok with him going bare and having accidents if he would be willing to try sitting on the potty periodically. I'm not ok with him just messing all over the house for fun. My kids only potty trained when they went pantsless. Nothing else worked. Not bribing, not pull ups, nothing. They really didn't have that many accidents. Both of them could have potty trained a lot sooner than they did. So, we waited a long time and finally we just forced it.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Jan 28, 2019 12:14:07 GMT -5
We were lazy with potty training my boys. They were both nearly 4, I think. The 6 year old still wears nighttime underwear. His Dr says it's just a developmental thing.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 28, 2019 12:19:18 GMT -5
Drove my new car to work today.
Still figuring out the automatic seat adjustment but I got it to where I can drive so good enough for today.
Need to swing by the bank and see if I can get a better deal on financing. Also need to call State Farm.
I feel so grown up but not entirely in a good way. Still a little sick over having a car payment.
But I am happy to have a car. DH took over the 2005 Impala for now so he can give FIL the truck back.
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Post by seriousthistime on Jan 28, 2019 23:15:05 GMT -5
I need potty training help for DS. He has a little potty that he will only sit on fully clothed. He won't try the big potty with a seat at all. This is fine, I'm ok to wait, except he has recently, repeatedly, expressed a desire not use a diaper. "I want to poop on the floor!"I've tried bribing him. We are now watching the Daniel Tiger potty episode on repeat. Any other ideas? I'm ok with him going bare and having accidents if he would be willing to try sitting on the potty periodically. I'm not ok with him just messing all over the house for fun. It's been a long time since I've been potty trained, and a long time since I've potty trained my kids. But when I read this, I realized I've never considered this an option, and there seems to be something satisfying about being able to do it. You know, some days are the sort where you walk inside your door and open the fridge to see if there are any cold adult beverages, and some days are just beyond that. Maybe this is an option for those days. Seems oddly satisfying as long as someone else is there to clean up. But I also concede that wanting to, and actually doing so, are two different things. They say knowing the difference is the measure of an adult. Funny story: my daughter had such control that once when she was about 2 1/2 she needed help "right now" and when that help was not "right now enough" for her, she took a wide mouth jar lid off the counter, put it on the floor, squatted, and peed in it. Not a drop missed the lid, and it did not overflow. And all of this is just to say that in potty training, as in life, there are just some things you might not have considered, that might make sense at some point. You just never know.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 31, 2019 19:35:26 GMT -5
Anyone have a tried and true slime recipe they're willing to share? The kids want to do "be my valen-slime" for the valentines day this year. I have a recipe that I tried a couple years ago, but it stayed really wet. Would love one that parents wouldn't completely hate us for. Just mostly hate is okay. Lol.
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Post by chapeau on Jan 31, 2019 19:39:21 GMT -5
I use the one from Elmer’s website that uses colored glue, baking soda and saline, but use school glue and food coloring instead of colored glue. It starts out really sticky, but if you leave it exposed to air for a little while to dry, it gets less sticky. It keeps pretty well, too.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 1, 2019 12:04:04 GMT -5
I started my 4 10's today. (Yes, on Friday which is odd, so next week is the real test). The shift ends at 7pm which works out better with E's bedtime. No 3 day weekends. I'll have Tuesdays off which I'm kind of excited about. While the kids are in school I can use Tuesdays to do my homework and hopefully leave weekends free to be weekends. You know, catch up on everything else that didn't get done--but not trying to do that and cram in homework that ends up being half assed. During the summer we'll have an actual day that we all have off. We've never had that.
Of course this morning I'm on the early shift that starts an hour before the kids go to school, and we didn't know when this would start so dh was on call last night so we had to assume he wouldn't be home. We prepped last night and we were all set that the kids would be 100% ready 15 minutes before my shift started. Then when it was time I would drive them to school. Things were going really well right to the end. E just needed to brush her teeth and we had 5 minutes to spare when she started to feel sick. Dh didn't get called in thankfully so he took over with her since I had to get logged on. Then C got one of those nosebleeds that just won't stop. They both recovered and got to school on time. Dh ended up taking them which worked out, but its not a problem for me to do that in the future. Might have to get a little set up for the kids in or just outside of my office for any other mornings I open when dh isn't home.
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Post by swamp on Feb 1, 2019 12:33:07 GMT -5
cktc I know I've told this before... Little Debbie Snack Cakes! My kid was bouncing off the walls for a couple of days but she pooped in the potty! I had a friend who was awfully smug about using the 1 or 2 M&M's trick and how Little Debbie's were way too much sugar but after a weekend, my kid crapped in the toilet and hers did not . Little Debbie Cosmic Brownies rock.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 1, 2019 12:47:58 GMT -5
And the school just called that E isn't feeling well. She didn't seem very sick, so I really wanted her to go, but then the health aid texted us that she was staying home sick today. Apparently this week has been a kindergarten vomit-fest in the health office. That made me a little less sure about having E go, but we had already talked her into it at that point.
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Post by gs11rmb on Feb 1, 2019 13:28:08 GMT -5
cktc I know I've told this before... Little Debbie Snack Cakes! My kid was bouncing off the walls for a couple of days but she pooped in the potty! I had a friend who was awfully smug about using the 1 or 2 M&M's trick and how Little Debbie's were way too much sugar but after a weekend, my kid crapped in the toilet and hers did not . Little Debbie Cosmic Brownies rock. My 6 year old still refers to Little Debbie Zebra Cakes as "poop cakes"
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 2, 2019 19:24:33 GMT -5
We had a pretty good family day. Went to the park and skipped rocks across the ice. Out lakes do not freeze over like this often. Then got in a snow fight. A and her daughter joined us. Played on the play ground some, and then went to the sweet shop. We may go skating tonight, just A, myself and our girls. Looking at some different weekend things that are upcoming around in the next few months.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 2, 2019 20:01:33 GMT -5
So pissed off right now. Gwen has been the world's pickiest eater and it reached it's pinnacle tonight. She threw a fit because I bought mild cheddar instead of "real" cheddar. She told me the food tasted like crap. . She dramatically said she would starve tonight so I called her bluff and said be my guest. I am tired of you disrespecting me and not eating what is provided. She's currently crying on the couch Damn H is hiding in the bedroom sick AGAIN. I might be more sympathetic if we had not spent three weeks with him holed up and withdrawing while I dealt with everything. He almost got punched when he came out to dramatically announce that this shit always happens when he is sick. Gee maybe did it ever occur to you that you might need to suck it up and help me parent while you are sick? That maybe "this always happens" because I am trying to get normal weekend stuff done while also being the sole parent and that I've spent THE ENTIRE MONTH OF JANUARY doing this? AND that it's now bleeding into fucking February? Abby is just as bad as Gwen in the food department just less of an attitude about it. I am not even sure where to begin with a 4 year old. I don't care if Abby grazes but she needs to eat more than three things. She copies her sister so I'm hoping if I can break Gwen that Abby will soon follow. So now I am hiding in the sun room. I will be eating the nice dinner I prepared by myself.
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Post by ners on Feb 2, 2019 20:52:13 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 2, 2019 21:17:59 GMT -5
So while I was hiding Gwen ate multiple plain tostada shells for dinner.
I can't win with this damn kid.
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Post by chapeau on Feb 2, 2019 21:40:44 GMT -5
DD eats cereal, with or without milk, for dinner more often than she probably should. She knows that I'm not catering to her pickiness. I do put all of her favorite foods on the top shelves of the pantry though.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 2, 2019 21:47:26 GMT -5
I don't cater but her diet is complete garbage. Not letting it be a battle has lead to a diet of school lunches and processed crap.
She's not overweight but she's got real bad habits I'd rather not continue to feed.
Plus it's getting disrespectful.
I've gone out of my way to buy food and make meals SHE picks out. Only to watch her gag and bitch during dinner.
I've cooked meals with her. She refuses to eat what she made.
I'm so done.
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Post by chapeau on Feb 2, 2019 22:20:47 GMT -5
You need the sign that the attendance officer had in her office at my high school. "Kids, move out, get a job, pay your own bills
While you still know everything." I know I was older than Gwen when I was utterly convinced that I could run our house better than my mom. She let me try. And boy, did I crash and burn. It was beautiful and I deserved every stinkin' second of it. If DD was old enough to use the stove, I'd let her be responsible for family dinner a couple of nights. And I'd probably play a recording of her "I don't want that. That tastes yucky. Mommy, that's not what I wanted. I don't lllliiiiikkkkkeeee beans." There is a psychologist who has a column in our newspaper by the name of John Rosemond. He is a huge advocate of very old school parenting, in the "children are seen and not heard" style, not in the "spare the rod and spoil the child" style. I don't agree with even half of what he says, but the few things of his I have tried I have been very pleased with the results. He is a big advocate of not allowing children to eat with the adults until they are civilized human beings (it's tempting, but I don't have time for that). I can't find any of his columns about children and food, but you might have better luck. His primary parenting method, though, is do not engage. Don't argue, persuade or cater. Just calmly set out what is being served and ignore the resulting hysteria. I'm just not sure how you deal with kids who help themselves to what they want later, unless it's a lock on the kitchen door or storing any food they might possibly want to eat in the trunk of the car. Or maybe not buying anything they might want to eat. Either way, it's annoying. I don't know if it's a parenting style you want to try or even look into, but he might give you some ideas.
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 2, 2019 22:24:26 GMT -5
Drama I am sorry, both with the picky eater and feeling alone in this. ODD is a picky eater too and it has gotten easy as she has gotten older and can A) understand the concept of needing healthy choices and being able to make things on her own. But over all the only meat she will eat besides pepperoni and hot dogs, is chicken and turkey. We do do the Boost drinks and vitamins to help with balance. But her go to do dinner is a chicken quesadilla with grilled chicken, corn and an apple. I think she has that 3 or 4 times a week. Breakfast is normally scramble eggs and cheese. I try and look on the bright side that it makes grocery shopping easy.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 2, 2019 22:25:50 GMT -5
I stopped buying what she wants. Boy did it piss her off.
Abby and DH don't need all that processed crap either so it's a good move for everyone.
I've had to endure a lot of whining this week. My response is there is plenty to eat you just chose not to.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 2, 2019 22:40:16 GMT -5
Hugs, drama.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 2, 2019 22:52:19 GMT -5
*poof* to the long version
Short version is my BIL is a douchebag, and stepping out on my sister. She’s heartbroken and trying to figure out how to help their two daughters through this as well.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 2, 2019 23:10:49 GMT -5
tcu2003 I don't blame you at all for wanting to borrow drama's 2x4. I don't want to say more since you will be deleting. Just ugh!
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 3, 2019 2:24:53 GMT -5
tcu2003 Sorry about that but your sister need to stop worrying about him and focus on her happiness and the children’s. He is grown, he will figure it out.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 3, 2019 8:26:33 GMT -5
Sorry TCU. That's awful to have to watch.
Sil stayed with us for a few months when she was in a similar situation (no kids) and she was paying joint bills. I'm always glad we could have her and she felt comfortable enough to stay with us.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 3, 2019 9:32:28 GMT -5
Spoke to the secretary at the kids school and E's been going down for stomach aches pretty often. She gets them at home a lot, and some weird behavior- like we'll eat and 15 minutes later she's begging for dinner. Headaches are an issue too and the emotions are over the top.
She says the only issue in school is that she's been missing fun things because of her stomach aches. I'm going to check her for ketones this morning and do a finger stick if those register. I think that's a long shot, but always our default check. I talked to E about cutting out gluten and the secretary reminded me that they can do a blood test to check for antibodies so I'll call to get that set up.
I'm trying to put together an easy gluten free diet until we can get test results back. I will lose my shit if this is anything more than an exercise in futility.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 3, 2019 9:40:42 GMT -5
Send her to chump lady dot com,my default advice for struggling spouses. The focus is cheaters but I've learned a ton about boundaries there.
Sorry about E's stomach issues. Is she actually puking are more like cramping? K complained of tummy aches, off and on, for a couple of yearsand seems to have outgrown them now. But she wasn't seeing the school nurse about them either.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 3, 2019 10:51:56 GMT -5
Send her to chump lady dot com,my default advice for struggling spouses. The focus is cheaters but I've learned a ton about boundaries there. Sorry about E's stomach issues. Is she actually puking are more like cramping? K complained of tummy aches, off and on, for a couple of yearsand seems to have outgrown them now. But she wasn't seeing the school nurse about them either. No puking and stools are regular without much issue. C also had stomach aches of unknown origin when he was around 4 and 5 that cleared up on their own. We did a couple months of gluten free with him, and an ultrasound that came back normal. I don't think C complained about stomachaches at preschool, although he wasn't there much.
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