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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 11:45:22 GMT -5
There are a lot of reasons I love this school.
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Post by swamp on Jan 14, 2019 11:56:33 GMT -5
And you have sole custody and can make the decision where he goes to school.
A court isn't going to overturn sole custody and give you joint custody when things are going well, and ex just wants to change things up.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 11:57:45 GMT -5
And who needs to complain about a 2nd grader who can legibly write in cursive? Talk about searching for an issue here. The rest of the country is complaining non-stop that they don't teach cursive anymore. He's in 3rd actually. I do wish I could figure out how to get him to hold a pencil correctly though.
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Post by Pants on Jan 14, 2019 12:08:44 GMT -5
Well, I spoke too soon about less stress! A couple hours after my last post I start getting a barrage of text messages. Only these were not about more overnights, they were about Carrot's school and him not being able to write. He is going on about he feels so bad for him and how awful that school is and how I should "try not to embarrass or shame him any more" WTF?!? He's hated the school forever and now he's totally losing his shit about Carrot not being able to print lower case letters. I'm getting all kind of "when I was in school..." He says Carrot is not getting his work done at school and is embarrassed.
I'm trying to explain to him that Montessori does not follow the same curriculum as a traditional classroom. They teach cursive first and all his class work is done in cursive. He's quite awful at cursive and prefers to print, but just knows the caps. Part of his bad writing was held the pencil so weird, but he's been using the grips now and is better.
Anyhow, I sent off an email to the school director this morning asking her if she thought his writing was a problem.
"You need to stop shaming him!!!! You know what's GREAT at not shaming? CATHOLICISM!!!! He should really be in a Catholic school!"
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Post by swamp on Jan 14, 2019 12:17:15 GMT -5
Well, I spoke too soon about less stress! A couple hours after my last post I start getting a barrage of text messages. Only these were not about more overnights, they were about Carrot's school and him not being able to write. He is going on about he feels so bad for him and how awful that school is and how I should "try not to embarrass or shame him any more" WTF?!? He's hated the school forever and now he's totally losing his shit about Carrot not being able to print lower case letters. I'm getting all kind of "when I was in school..." He says Carrot is not getting his work done at school and is embarrassed.
I'm trying to explain to him that Montessori does not follow the same curriculum as a traditional classroom. They teach cursive first and all his class work is done in cursive. He's quite awful at cursive and prefers to print, but just knows the caps. Part of his bad writing was held the pencil so weird, but he's been using the grips now and is better.
Anyhow, I sent off an email to the school director this morning asking her if she thought his writing was a problem.
"You need to stop shaming him!!!! You know what's GREAT at not shaming? CATHOLICISM!!!! He should really be in a Catholic school!" Eh, he's a boy. It's only shaming lite at the Catholic School. It's not like he's a whore.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 12:18:02 GMT -5
Well, I spoke too soon about less stress! A couple hours after my last post I start getting a barrage of text messages. Only these were not about more overnights, they were about Carrot's school and him not being able to write. He is going on about he feels so bad for him and how awful that school is and how I should "try not to embarrass or shame him any more" WTF?!? He's hated the school forever and now he's totally losing his shit about Carrot not being able to print lower case letters. I'm getting all kind of "when I was in school..." He says Carrot is not getting his work done at school and is embarrassed.
I'm trying to explain to him that Montessori does not follow the same curriculum as a traditional classroom. They teach cursive first and all his class work is done in cursive. He's quite awful at cursive and prefers to print, but just knows the caps. Part of his bad writing was held the pencil so weird, but he's been using the grips now and is better.
Anyhow, I sent off an email to the school director this morning asking her if she thought his writing was a problem.
"You need to stop shaming him!!!! You know what's GREAT at not shaming? CATHOLICISM!!!! He should really be in a Catholic school!" I did not know what he was talking about with that comment. I never said two words to him about how he wrote.
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Post by swamp on Jan 14, 2019 12:21:02 GMT -5
"You need to stop shaming him!!!! You know what's GREAT at not shaming? CATHOLICISM!!!! He should really be in a Catholic school!" I did not know what he was talking about with that comment. I never said two words to him about how he wrote. SHaming him by giving him a gripper for his pencil?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 12:27:29 GMT -5
I think "any more" as in any more than he'd already done this weekend.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 12:42:06 GMT -5
When he was at the pediatrician last month he said it was hand strength. I was skeptical because he plays piano a lot, but I guess it could be different muscles. I was pushing him for help, but all I got out of him was he needed to practice more holding the pencil the right way. The teachers are right though. He pretty much flat out refuses to change his grip.
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Post by chapeau on Jan 14, 2019 12:42:59 GMT -5
I wonder if part of Carrot’s issue with being embarrassed by his writing is that his dad is sympathetic about it (or a pushover?). DD was perfectly willing to sled down the hill by herself yesterday when DH was there. As soon as I got there she didn’t want to ride alone (or drag the sled back up the hill grrrr). She knows I’ll get the sled back up the hill for her and that I love to sled. DH doesn’t. So is it possible that Carrot is doing something similar and counting on his dad’s sympathy? And ex 2.0 is jumping on any complaint?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 13:02:56 GMT -5
His dad is very much sympathetic to everything, and not only that, he's often LOOKING for something wrong with Carrot just so he can fuss over it. Last week he was texting me asking me about his skin. He doesn't think he's getting enough hydration and is worried about the chlorine in the pool. I have no clue where this came from either. Carrot's skin looks fine to me, he's never scratching or complaining it itches. He used to get eczema breakouts behind his knees and elbows, but hasn't gotten that in years.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 13:25:03 GMT -5
So, I forwarded that email from the school on to Ex and he seems to be appeased somewhat now. I strategically had contacted the director instead of one of the teachers, because I think Ex has kind of a man crush on him and I knew his word would hold a lot more credibility than any of the teachers (aka women) at the school.
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 14, 2019 13:42:54 GMT -5
When he was at the pediatrician last month he said it was hand strength. I was skeptical because he plays piano a lot, but I guess it could be different muscles. I was pushing him for help, but all I got out of him was he needed to practice more holding the pencil the right way. The teachers are right though. He pretty much flat out refuses to change his grip. They would use different muscles. We have several kids with terrible handwriting due to hand strength but they can type with out a problem, which uses finger strength not grip strength. When playing the piano his fingers are straight and it is a pushing down. When holding a pencil your fingers are closed, different muscles. Try pushing down on the edge of a table or desk hard so you can feel what muscles are being used. Then do the same but use a pen as if you are writing. You should noticed a difference. Hand strengthening activities for hand writing normally use a pinching/squeezing/ fist closing excises. Piano playing most likely has strength his finger strength but not his grip strength which is needed for writing. Here is the thing, if he normally isn't stubborn about making changes to improve things, and he normally wants to do well, changing his grip may begin to hurt a lot sooner. Again, I am not trying to come down or side with your ex. I really do think he is looking for reasons, but if this is something that you think may be a real issue at any level there are a lot of things you can do at home to help with grip strength. Feel free to tell me to shut it at anytime too.
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Post by swamp on Jan 14, 2019 13:50:11 GMT -5
His dad is very much sympathetic to everything, and not only that, he's often LOOKING for something wrong with Carrot just so he can fuss over it. Last week he was texting me asking me about his skin. He doesn't think he's getting enough hydration and is worried about the chlorine in the pool. I have no clue where this came from either. Carrot's skin looks fine to me, he's never scratching or complaining it itches. He used to get eczema breakouts behind his knees and elbows, but hasn't gotten that in years. You live in Minnesota and it's winter. Of course he's going to have some dry skin. WTF? I look like a freakin' crocodile my skin is so dry, and i did even when I was a kid. Half the kids at his school probably do too. Holy helicopter.
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 14, 2019 13:53:24 GMT -5
So, I forwarded that email from the school on to Ex and he seems to be appeased somewhat now. I strategically had contacted the director instead of one of the teachers, because I think Ex has kind of a man crush on him and I knew his word would hold a lot more credibility than any of the teachers (aka women) at the school. Well he is a male.... and from what you have said about your ex I think that may matter in the terms of taking what someone says seriously.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 14:00:59 GMT -5
His dad is very much sympathetic to everything, and not only that, he's often LOOKING for something wrong with Carrot just so he can fuss over it. Last week he was texting me asking me about his skin. He doesn't think he's getting enough hydration and is worried about the chlorine in the pool. I have no clue where this came from either. Carrot's skin looks fine to me, he's never scratching or complaining it itches. He used to get eczema breakouts behind his knees and elbows, but hasn't gotten that in years. You live in Minnesota and it's winter. Of course he's going to have some dry skin. WTF? I look like a freakin' crocodile my skin is so dry, and i did even when I was a kid. Half the kids at his school probably do too. Holy helicopter. But, the funny thing is his skin ISN'T dry. It's baby soft. After he texted me this I had to have him practically strip down to check him over...I feel like I must be missing all this stuff that he's catching. He has a vaporizer going in his room almost every night or he gets nosebleeds super easy, so that must be keeping his skin nice.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 14:02:25 GMT -5
When he was at the pediatrician last month he said it was hand strength. I was skeptical because he plays piano a lot, but I guess it could be different muscles. I was pushing him for help, but all I got out of him was he needed to practice more holding the pencil the right way. The teachers are right though. He pretty much flat out refuses to change his grip. They would use different muscles. We have several kids with terrible handwriting due to hand strength but they can type with out a problem, which uses finger strength not grip strength. When playing the piano his fingers are straight and it is a pushing down. When holding a pencil your fingers are closed, different muscles. Try pushing down on the edge of a table or desk hard so you can feel what muscles are being used. Then do the same but use a pen as if you are writing. You should noticed a difference. Hand strengthening activities for hand writing normally use a pinching/squeezing/ fist closing excises. Piano playing most likely has strength his finger strength but not his grip strength which is needed for writing. Here is the thing, if he normally isn't stubborn about making changes to improve things, and he normally wants to do well, changing his grip may begin to hurt a lot sooner. Again, I am not trying to come down or side with your ex. I really do think he is looking for reasons, but if this is something that you think may be a real issue at any level there are a lot of things you can do at home to help with grip strength. Feel free to tell me to shut it at anytime too. No, I totally get he needs work on his pencil grip. I wonder how well that Rock'm Sock'm Robots really works? LOL He'd like that.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 14, 2019 14:25:51 GMT -5
C had a really bad low at school this morning. He's fine now. The joys of diabetes. He could have died a couple hours ago, but some frosting and juice saved his life and now it's like nothing happened.
He stood up in math class--not sure what he said but the teacher said she wasn't comfortable with him going to the office with another student and had another teacher walk him. Which was good because about half way there he couldn't walk on his own. Another teacher saw them and ran over and they practically carried him into the office. They laid him down, gave him the gel frosting, secretary called dh to come to the school and when C could drink a juice they gave him one and pretty soon a 2nd one. They didn't stop to do a check until he was talking (which is exactly what they should do), and he had only come up to 73 after somewhere between 30-50 grams of sugar so I can't even imagine how low he actually was. He dropped too fast for the device that checks his bg to keep up with. After he was pretty much back to normal though it was going off like a slot machine with low alarms.
I guess he skipped the main part of the school breakfast today. He's been running so high in the mornings he assumed that he'd be fine. I'm guessing there are a lot of mornings that he would have been right. The teachers reminded him of the snacks he has in each room and that none of the other kids would care let alone notice if he got up and grabbed one to eat in the back of the room but that he can take it in the hallway if he feels better about that.
Really though, they did everything right and I am so grateful for all of them.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 14, 2019 14:28:12 GMT -5
That sounds so scary Rae. I'm glad they got some sugar into him.
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 14, 2019 14:49:05 GMT -5
Rae- Hugs.
My house is silent. YDD is out playing with friends. ODD is still sleeping I believe.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 14, 2019 14:57:04 GMT -5
That sounds so scary! Glad there were some fast-acting teachers who knew what to do!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 14, 2019 14:57:54 GMT -5
You live in Minnesota and it's winter. Of course he's going to have some dry skin. WTF? I look like a freakin' crocodile my skin is so dry, and i did even when I was a kid. Half the kids at his school probably do too. Holy helicopter. But, the funny thing is his skin ISN'T dry. It's baby soft. After he texted me this I had to have him practically strip down to check him over...I feel like I must be missing all this stuff that he's catching. He has a vaporizer going in his room almost every night or he gets nosebleeds super easy, so that must be keeping his skin nice. and if he does have dry skin, that's what lotion is for!
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Post by finnime on Jan 14, 2019 15:05:18 GMT -5
raeoflyte, scary story. Great how responsive the teachers at the school were. Hard to parent a child with a chronic health condition. You're doing great.
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 14, 2019 15:53:04 GMT -5
ODD came down complaining she was sad but didn't know what it was. We played the mommy guess what is up game, got it on the first try. She was upset that everyone else was off but she still had school to do. Part of me wanted to say, to bad that is what homeschooling is, but we ended up making a deal that she could have today off and make the stuff up during the rest of the week. DH has decided that I have done enough cooking for the weekend is taking over dinner (translation I use to many dishes when I cook). Still making a caramel cheese cake and maybe a banana cream pie tonight.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 16:07:09 GMT -5
raeoflyte that sounds so scary. I know very little about diabetes and what struck me was that you said he could have died. I'm so glad the teachers acted quickly and appropriately. I can only imagine what it's like for you as his mother.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 14, 2019 16:26:06 GMT -5
raeoflyte Very scary. Sounds as if the teachers knew exactly what to do. Have some family members with childhood diabetes. Medicine has come so far. I remember when niece's husband was at my house putting on my storm door and he started dropping the tools. Niece knew that was a sign. I didn't have orange juice but I had soda. He started drinking the soda and she stayed with him while I ran to the convenience store for orange juice. They have "lost" him at the State Fair when he has gotten low and done stupid things. One of those things is he refuses to answer his phone. He's wears the monitor now and they tell me he is doing so much better with his current one. He's also being more adult about listening to his body when the signs start to come. Hugs to you and C and dad.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 14, 2019 19:07:21 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. He's home and perfectly fine. Getting ready to go to martial arts tonight. That's the crazy part. Dh was volunteering at the school today and the nurse came to check in with him (we have a full time health aid at the school, and the nurse oversees 4-5 schools). Her only suggestion was to have the teacher(s) walkie down to the office to send the health aid to him to treat either in classroom or in the hallway when he couldn't walk on his own. I hadn't even thought of that, but it makes sense and will be good for us all to think of for next time.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jan 14, 2019 19:53:23 GMT -5
Yikes, Rae! I am so glad C is feeling better now.
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Post by Works4me on Jan 14, 2019 20:37:46 GMT -5
Ray- so glad that he is ok now and thankful that everyone knew what to do.
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