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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 12, 2019 8:29:05 GMT -5
I hope it passes quickly.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 12, 2019 10:44:55 GMT -5
Hope she's feeling better tcu!
Minimalism is great until someone has a stomachbug. Then it seems like there sre never enough sheets and towels.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 12, 2019 10:45:32 GMT -5
azucena - how is everyone this morning?
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 12, 2019 11:50:24 GMT -5
I'm so over dh and I's opposite schedules. It can work out so well and so awfully at the same time, but I'm feeling like its leaning a lot more toward the latter. I'm going to trial that 4 10 shift at work which will be interesting. We'll close at 7pm instead of 8pm which fixes my bedtime panic about E. I'll have a set middle day off during the week so no 3 day weekends which is disappointing but hopefully it'll still help with school and work and give me actual weekends to enjoy with the kids.
We got more snow here than expected. The kids are making their first joint venture snowman, at least that they remember. It's really sweet and I don't want to break it up so instead of morning classes for me I'm hanging at home trying to get a handle on what our real budget needs to be. We've been winging it way too and not doing that well.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 12, 2019 11:54:16 GMT -5
Oh crap! Jocelyn's party is at 2:30 at her gymnastics and she just threw up. No fever. What do I Do? Do we try to cancel? I don't really have phone numbers for parents, but I can text or Facebook message all but one and I have the email for that person. I tried gymnastics and they did not answer the phone! I may not be able to cancel.
Oh and it is snowing all day today!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jan 12, 2019 11:56:34 GMT -5
Are you hosting the party, mutt? Have you already paid for the space/time? Can people still attend even if Jocelyn doesn't?
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jan 12, 2019 11:57:49 GMT -5
I have had major anxiety this last week or two. I'm not even able to identify what's actually causing me stress and what I'm just making a big deal out of/overthinking.
It's affecting DH, DD, and my general household, and I need to figure out it.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 12, 2019 12:06:01 GMT -5
Are you hosting the party, mutt? Have you already paid for the space/time? Can people still attend even if Jocelyn doesn't? It is at gymnastics. We've paid a third of the cost. Yeah, people could attend and about half know each other, but there are 3 that I don't know if they know or are friends with the others invited. We invited 7 girls. 3 from church (one from church is a 1st grader at her school, one is a kindergartener at another school, and one is the preschool age sister of the first grader). We invited 2 from her class, but one can't come. A kindergartener in the neighborhood, but not in her class. And a preschooler from the neighborhood.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Jan 12, 2019 12:20:43 GMT -5
I have had major anxiety this last week or two. I'm not even able to identify what's actually causing me stress and what I'm just making a big deal out of/overthinking.
It's affecting DH, DD, and my general household, and I need to figure out it. Are you able to do a semi-strenuous workout (I think you have some back problems, right)? That always helps me the most with that. Just something to get that extra energy out in a physical way.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Jan 12, 2019 12:21:54 GMT -5
Yikes, sorry about the kids with the pukes!
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 12, 2019 12:35:47 GMT -5
That's the worse Mutt. If you think she is sick, I'd probably cancel, but I think I can hear the disappointment at our house. E throws up some mornings that I think is just nerves so if she isn't feeling or acting sick otherwise I'd ignore it (I'd let everyone know, but also let them know that I don't think its anything. Kind of a cya, but come at your own risk kind of deal).
Really if she is sick, her classmates are already exposed if she has something as 99% of that stuff comes from the school. The church kiddos and neighborhood kids are probably the biggest decision.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jan 12, 2019 14:23:14 GMT -5
Oh no hugs to all dealing with stomach bugs!!!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 12, 2019 14:37:44 GMT -5
We cancelled. She was acting like she wasn't feeling well. Then she said she was hungry and ate most of a banana and had some water and proceeded to throw it all up. We weren't able to get a hold of one parent or the gymnastics place. So DH is going to head over there to talk to them. I need to see if I ha e another way to try to reach that parent. Of all of them, I should have her info since she was Ben's teacher last year, but apparent my no. Ugh.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2019 15:25:03 GMT -5
What a letdown. Poor kid. But, better than puking at her party in front of everyone! Nobody needs those memories.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2019 15:31:52 GMT -5
I got a letter in the mail today from Carrot's school saying he needs to go to an eye doctor. I think they're full of it because I had him for a full appointment at an eye doctor in 2017 and he just had his well check at the pediatrician in December and passed with flying colors both times. But, they've got him down as 10/25 in each eye and checked him twice two months apart. It would have been NICE had they informed me of this 2 months ago when they did the testing. I probably would have opted for family vision insurance instead of single. It's kind of a crap shoot if medical will cover his appointment.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 12, 2019 15:58:23 GMT -5
Oh crap! Jocelyn's party is at 2:30 at her gymnastics and she just threw up. No fever. What do I Do? Do we try to cancel? I don't really have phone numbers for parents, but I can text or Facebook message all but one and I have the email for that person. I tried gymnastics and they did not answer the phone! I may not be able to cancel. Oh and it is snowing all day today! I feel you on this. We had this happen with C in Dec. We opted to have the gym host. A couple of parents were planning on hanging out anyway, so they agreed to sort of supervise everything. Dh did get home in time to run up to the gym for the last 10 minutes or so of the time. The kids had fun, even without gift bags and cake.
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Post by azucena on Jan 12, 2019 17:24:35 GMT -5
Sorry we slept in and then went about Sat chore catch up day. Truck guy ended up bringing them home - his truck was one of those big dually wheels that can function as a tow truck and apparently he's a former snow plow driver so DH called an audible to overrule staying at the school. They got home at 9:45 pm. Somehow all of the other kids were picked up by 530. DD's friends say their parents were waiting in the parking lot at 2 and others were picked up early, so I guess we messed up a bit. The girls behaved well for it, DH was glad they weren't stuck with him in the car all those hours, and he listened to a podcast the whole time so he wasn't miserable. DD10 did have a huge emotional release. She was clearly worried about us, but didn't want her little sister to know. She also didn't like the idea of sleeping at the school because she didn't have her stuffed bear Then there was talk of getting them to the principal's house, and she really didn't want to do that even though principal is super nice. I just held her and let her cry and tried to remind her that we were all safe - cars weren't going fast enough to have terrible accidents. I think she also felt too much in charge even though there was a teacher with them the whole time. It was a preschool teacher that neither of them knew, and it sounds like the kids were occupied with toys, games, and movies so she was on the phone making sure her grown up kids were ok (one ended up staying in a hotel), coordinating with her husband, and lesson planning. She wouldn't have been able to tell that DD10 was so upset because DD hates to cry in front of anyone. DD6 thought it was a huge adventure and loved the preschool toys. I did ask her if she could tell that big sis was upset and she said yes. I told her that it's good for her to take care of big sis too since DD6 is the more outspoken of the two and even just to tell sister that it's ok to worry/pray.
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 13, 2019 14:18:19 GMT -5
The kids are loving the snow. DH has spent most of the day in the room, and I have been watching Outlander. Kind of meh on it. ODD and her friends are old enough to keep an eye on YDD outside so it is kind of weird/nice odd of being able to go out for a bit and then come back. We did have hot chocolate when they came and they both took a hot bath, and then they turned around and went back out. No school tomorrow for any of us.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jan 13, 2019 14:43:29 GMT -5
Yesterday we had the party for my DD... imagine 34 people in 1,120 sqft!! It was crazy/hectic yet it was fun to have everyone there. Next party we are definitely renting out a space!
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Post by cktc on Jan 13, 2019 14:52:57 GMT -5
Yesterday we had the party for my DD... imagine 34 people in 1,120 sqft!! It was crazy/hectic yet it was fun to have everyone there. Next party we are definitely renting out a space! [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/smile.gif" class="smile" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png" alt=" "] Happy birthday to miss Carly! We have to plan the joint birthday party for my soon to be 1 and 3 year olds. We likely will have closer to 20 but we are questioning the location already. Even if we can fit everyone comfortably at home, having the activities and cleanup handled by someone else would be nice.
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 13, 2019 15:22:43 GMT -5
Happy Birthday Carly
Glad all of our birthdays are in the summer/early fall. Makes it easier to find places. This upcoming year YDD is having something at six flags, but we may have something for family too. Not sure what ODD will want to do, she may want to do a beach weekend but then we have a week planned at the beach during the summer so maybe not.
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Post by debthaven on Jan 13, 2019 15:30:38 GMT -5
OMG azucena how scary!!! I'm glad everyone got home safely! I'm sorry your DD1 was scared. I really loved what you said about Little Sister taking care of Big Sister too. Happy birthday to Carlie!
Spoke to DS1 today. He was very happy I ordered the child safety latches. Still haven't looked for the stair gate but they probably won't be here again till next Christmas so no rush (we're going there next summer).
ETA: Famous last words. I found a great spring stair gate on Amazon (for the bottom of the stairs, which is what we need) for 34 euros. It's in my basket. I'll order it in Feb (Christmas was spendy and we're still paying it off in Jan.)
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2019 20:31:34 GMT -5
This weekend ended less stressful than it started. I was really worried about picking up Carrot tonight, and Ex 2.0 was a little "off" when I first got there, but we ended up chatting about Carrot's friend that he was supposed to have a play date with and what they did that weekend and he seemed to warm up a little and not have that "I hate you with every fiber of my being and am going to pout like a teenager" thing going on. He told me he had to go into work tonight and might end up there all night getting a machine up and running. I really wanted to say "Jeez, good thing you don't have Carrot on your Sundays", but just expressed sympathy at his plight.
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Post by redwagon on Jan 13, 2019 20:40:04 GMT -5
Today Baby Hulk peed on the bathroom floor as I prepped his bath. Then, covered in shampoo, he took a in the tub. Yelled at DH to fill the upstairs tub, stat, and ran him up there. Then I got to clean a shitty tub and toys.
Been that kind of weekend. At least the older two were pretty chill for once.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 9:40:16 GMT -5
Well, I spoke too soon about less stress! A couple hours after my last post I start getting a barrage of text messages. Only these were not about more overnights, they were about Carrot's school and him not being able to write. He is going on about he feels so bad for him and how awful that school is and how I should "try not to embarrass or shame him any more" WTF?!? He's hated the school forever and now he's totally losing his shit about Carrot not being able to print lower case letters. I'm getting all kind of "when I was in school..." He says Carrot is not getting his work done at school and is embarrassed.
I'm trying to explain to him that Montessori does not follow the same curriculum as a traditional classroom. They teach cursive first and all his class work is done in cursive. He's quite awful at cursive and prefers to print, but just knows the caps. Part of his bad writing was held the pencil so weird, but he's been using the grips now and is better.
Anyhow, I sent off an email to the school director this morning asking her if she thought his writing was a problem.
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Post by geenamercile on Jan 14, 2019 10:27:50 GMT -5
MLP- sounds like he is trying to find anything to pick at to increase his chances of being seen as a caring parent looking out for his child, and that you are not doing enough so he needs a greater part. I would start taking notes of all his complaints and what you have done about it. For example, with the handwriting write down when he sent this text. Next go back and find when you ordered the grips and you first noticed that handwriting was an issue. Then write yourself a note something like-- Noticed that handwriting was an issue on __________ date. Consulted school and outside sources (I remember those post and have no problem sending you my teacher license information ). Order pencil grips, and have been monitoring progress since. Once again followed up with school on 01/14/2018 when carrot expressed concern to dad on weekend visit. Add the results the school sends. Any ground work or game he is playing you can cover yourself. You are a great mom.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 14, 2019 10:38:39 GMT -5
I can't say that my lists have been working quite as they were intended, but both kids are in the habit of getting up and using their lists to get through morning tasks which is a huge win. C asked if his lunch was packed yet and when I said it wasn't, they both just started packing their own. I realize lots of kids take this on much earlier, but this was like a miracle in my house. Started them on doing their own laundry over the weekend. Mostly for C, but E can't bear the idea of being left out. C's started laundry before, and cleared the dryer for me, but hadn't moved it from the washer to the dryer. When I told him to move the clothes, he was appalled that he had to touch them when they were wet. I am hopeful that a little more taking care of himself will help with the attitude and entitlement issues we had with him over break. Eta...C graded in unarmed on Friday, so he got his orange belt. He did his demonstration really well and got to grade with his bff who joined a couple months ago who was getting his yellow.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 11:30:40 GMT -5
geenamercile - Yes, I'm sure this is about the overnights from a different angle. He's also always wanted him to go through the Catholic school system, so anything to attack the Montessori he jumps on. He feels they're being negligent and not preparing him the way they're supposed to. Anyhow, I did write the director of the school and he got back to me within a couple hours. This is what he wrote: It is true that we teach the students to write in cursive first, then how to read in print. The focus for writing remains on cursive as they move forward.
I spoke with [Teacher and assistant teacher] , and what I took away from the discussion is that Carrot:
-can write in cursive well enough to fill out his journal entries in legible cursive, using Capital letter and Punctuation appropriately
-yes he does write in all caps when he prints, and when they have asked him to use lower case letters in print he claims that he doesn't know them-Mariah said he does know them but struggles to compose them-in other words his cursive is much neater and better formed
-Carrot writes slowly, and he says his hand gets "tired" quickly---this is the result of his unorthodox pencil grip. Mariah has tried several interventions with him, including the use of pencil grips to try and help him with his grip---those tools have served more as distractions then aides, and have been unsuccessful to this point.
My feeling is that this is an attitude vs aptitude issue-It seems that Carrot has the tools to do the work and is capable in every way. His cursive is legible and he understands/uses capitalization and punctuation correctly, but refuses to change his pencil grip even though several interventions have been attempted. I think it makes sense that when he prints he writes in upper case as it is easier, especially with his grip.
Moving forward, they can continue to work on his pencil grip and can make it an increased point of emphasis to teach him how to compose the lower case letters in print if that is the true issue but his ability to communicate in writing does not appear to be the issue.
If you have other questions or would like to come discuss this, please let me know. That invitation would extend to Ex 2.0 as well.
Please let me know how you would like us to proceed.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 11:38:44 GMT -5
geenamercile - Yes, I'm sure this is about the overnights from a different angle. He's also always wanted him to go through the Catholic school system, so anything to attack the Montessori he jumps on. He feels they're being negligent and not preparing him the way they're supposed to. Anyhow, I did write the director of the school and he got back to me within a couple hours. This is what he wrote: It is true that we teach the students to write in cursive first, then how to read in print. The focus for writing remains on cursive as they move forward.
I spoke with [Teacher and assistant teacher] , and what I took away from the discussion is that Carrot:
-can write in cursive well enough to fill out his journal entries in legible cursive, using Capital letter and Punctuation appropriately
-yes he does write in all caps when he prints, and when they have asked him to use lower case letters in print he claims that he doesn't know them-Mariah said he does know them but struggles to compose them-in other words his cursive is much neater and better formed
-Carrot writes slowly, and he says his hand gets "tired" quickly---this is the result of his unorthodox pencil grip. Mariah has tried several interventions with him, including the use of pencil grips to try and help him with his grip---those tools have served more as distractions then aides, and have been unsuccessful to this point.
My feeling is that this is an attitude vs aptitude issue-It seems that Carrot has the tools to do the work and is capable in every way. His cursive is legible and he understands/uses capitalization and punctuation correctly, but refuses to change his pencil grip even though several interventions have been attempted. I think it makes sense that when he prints he writes in upper case as it is easier, especially with his grip.
Moving forward, they can continue to work on his pencil grip and can make it an increased point of emphasis to teach him how to compose the lower case letters in print if that is the true issue but his ability to communicate in writing does not appear to be the issue.
If you have other questions or would like to come discuss this, please let me know. That invitation would extend to Ex 2.0 as well.
Please let me know how you would like us to proceed.
Wow. My children went to public schools and I admit it's been a long time, but I can't imagine I would have gotten a detailed and informative response like this from anyone at their school. Especially not within a couple of hours. I am impressed!
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 14, 2019 11:45:16 GMT -5
And who needs to complain about a 2nd grader who can legibly write in cursive? Talk about searching for an issue here. The rest of the country is complaining non-stop that they don't teach cursive anymore.
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