The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

[raeoflyte]

I hope that was the end of her bug and she feels good now Mutt!

[cktc]

So DS is really into Diego and Baby Jaguar from Dora, he's been pretending as Baby Jaguar and meowing and falling off of furniture all day. Apparently I'm supposed to be Diego, he yells at me whenever I meow back at him and says "No, you're Diego!" How does one be Diego?. I have no attention span for kids shows so I'm trying to find some cliff notes on the characters and any particular catchphrases. Can anyone help me out? Also is Baby Jaguar supposed to be a klutz or is DS just having trouble acclimating to his paws? At one point when DS was teetering on the side of the couch he said "oh no, catch Baby Jaguar!"

[TheOtherMe]

I could play the characters in Dora but I'm not that familiar with Diego.

[raeoflyte]

Oh, we don't miss the Dora and Diego days.  Yell in spanish A LOT!   Then create an animal in danger, tell baby jaguar to go save it, then say oh, thank goodness you caught said animal in danger.  Repeat ad nauseum.  

[TheOtherMe]

If it was Dora, you could say "Swiper, no swiping. Swiper, no swiping, Swiper, no swiping." 

There is also the backpack song.

[Lizard Queen]

Nov 25, 2018 18:27:41 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

If it was Dora, you could say "Swiper, no swiping. Swiper, no swiping, Swiper, no swiping." 

There is also the backpack song.

*snap* oh, man!
😀

[TheOtherMe]

From my days of babysitting great niece.  She's going to be 11 next week.  

[cktc]

Nov 25, 2018 18:19:30 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Oh, we don't miss the Dora and Diego days.  Yell in spanish A LOT!   Then create an animal in danger, tell baby jaguar to go save it, then say oh, thank goodness you caught said animal in danger.  Repeat ad nauseum.  

Apparently there is a live action Dora movie coming out next fall. They are in high school. Your Dora and Diego days may not be behind you yet!

And thank you for the suggestions. We rescued 3 lions tonight. DS said he saved the day, gave me a high five and ran to tell DH. It was adorable. He is going to ask Santa for a baby jaguar for Christmas.

[azucena]

Nov 25, 2018 23:00:30 GMT -5 cktc said:

Nov 25, 2018 18:19:30 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Oh, we don't miss the Dora and Diego days.  Yell in spanish A LOT!   Then create an animal in danger, tell baby jaguar to go save it, then say oh, thank goodness you caught said animal in danger.  Repeat ad nauseum.  

Apparently there is a live action Dora movie coming out next fall. They are in high school. Your Dora and Diego days may not be behind you yet!

And thank you for the suggestions. We rescued 3 lions tonight. DS said he saved the day, gave me a high five and ran to tell DH. It was adorable. He is going to ask Santa for a baby jaguar for Christmas.

For tonight - consult the map and follow a trail across certain obstacles like a mountain, river, etc.

[TheOtherMe]

I might have to see that movie

[raeoflyte]

Thanksgiving was good.  My turkey turned out perfectly which has never happened before.  Honestly, barely even good in years past so that was a high point.  The house, the table all looked good and we sat down to eat not much after I asked people to arrive, and in just enough time for the last guest to arrive with his pies.  

I worry my sister who has been not only stable, but doing really well is slipping back into a not great period.  I think she honestly forgot that my moms party was her idea which would explain why she stopped helping with it.  She had offered to help with set up for Thanksgiving and didn't.  Disappeared to the basement right after eating and slept for hours which left me alone for the clean up.  That was a fun fight with dh last night as he insisted that he was here and helping, but at the same time acquiesed that he hid in the basement for a good period of time after the meal to decompress, and wasn't upstairs until my still recovering from surgery, 70 year old mother was helping me with dishes.  He did more to help with Thanksgiving before and after than he ever has before so I wasn't trying to fight with him, but still.  Sis didn't come over yesterday which she always does to hang out with the kids.  I believe her that she has a bad cold, but I hope it isn't worse than that.  

Managed to sew with mom and the kids over the weekend.  We're making gift bags which is fun, and its just nice to craft with mom and that the kids enjoy it.  E has moved up to the kids sewing machine, and C is on an actual machine.  My mom (and I) help them quite a bit, but they are enjoying it and are picking out what gifts to give everyone and making their bags to that size.  

[raeoflyte]

I can't seem to stop spending money.  30% off legos on amazon and the lego store today.  Almost 50% off on some of the nerf guns (which everyone is getting so that nerf wars can be a new family tradition).  Now I want to look at scoooters.  Must.Stop!

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Can I thwack DD#2?
She's chosen experiences for her birthday presents for several years. 
For example, we've taken her to the San Francisco Ballet three times for her birthday. 
She'd get to pick the event, plan the trip, decide the restaurants, etc. 
DH, DD#1, and I would go with her. 

She's decided that this has all been incredibly unfair that DD#1 got to go on the trips. DD#1 got a different birthday present and got to go on the trip. 

I'm annoyed that she's mad and ungrateful. 
I'm annoyed that I cannot fix it. 
I'm annoyed that it seems I've made a bad parenting choice. 

[Deleted]

Nov 26, 2018 20:41:16 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Can I thwack DD#2?
She's chosen experiences for her birthday presents for several years. 
For example, we've taken her to the San Francisco Ballet three times for her birthday. 
She'd get to pick the event, plan the trip, decide the restaurants, etc. 
DH, DD#1, and I would go with her. 

She's decided that this has all been incredibly unfair that DD#1 got to go on the trips. DD#1 got a different birthday present and got to go on the trip. 

I'm annoyed that she's mad and ungrateful. 
I'm annoyed that I cannot fix it. 
I'm annoyed that it seems I've made a bad parenting choice. 

I can sort of see her point.  Maybe next time only you could accompany her.  Then it would be only her trip.  It would be cheaper, too.

[Deleted]

Nov 26, 2018 20:41:16 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Can I thwack DD#2?
She's chosen experiences for her birthday presents for several years. 
For example, we've taken her to the San Francisco Ballet three times for her birthday. 
She'd get to pick the event, plan the trip, decide the restaurants, etc. 
DH, DD#1, and I would go with her. 

She's decided that this has all been incredibly unfair that DD#1 got to go on the trips. DD#1 got a different birthday present and got to go on the trip. 

I'm annoyed that she's mad and ungrateful. 
I'm annoyed that I cannot fix it. 
I'm annoyed that it seems I've made a bad parenting choice. 

Didn't you just buy her a car too...like a brand spanking new car?  

[Deleted]

Nov 26, 2018 14:16:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I can't seem to stop spending money.  30% off legos on amazon and the lego store today.  Almost 50% off on some of the nerf guns (which everyone is getting so that nerf wars can be a new family tradition).  Now I want to look at scoooters.  Must.Stop!

I have been avoiding all online stores today.  Carrot wants a Nintendo Switch and I just can't bring myself to do it.  Not only because of the cost, but because we have a Wii, a PS3 and an XBOX 360.  Of course, none of these are the latest and greatest and none of them play Fortnite.  The game of all games apparently. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Nov 26, 2018 20:52:40 GMT -5 @bamafan1954 said:

Nov 26, 2018 20:41:16 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Can I thwack DD#2?
She's chosen experiences for her birthday presents for several years. 
For example, we've taken her to the San Francisco Ballet three times for her birthday. 
She'd get to pick the event, plan the trip, decide the restaurants, etc. 
DH, DD#1, and I would go with her. 

She's decided that this has all been incredibly unfair that DD#1 got to go on the trips. DD#1 got a different birthday present and got to go on the trip. 

I'm annoyed that she's mad and ungrateful. 
I'm annoyed that I cannot fix it. 
I'm annoyed that it seems I've made a bad parenting choice. 

I can sort of see her point.  Maybe next time only you could accompany her.  Then it would be only her trip.  It would be cheaper, too.

I can see her point. It's why I'm so upset. 
However, the gift was going to the event of her choice and getting to plan the trip. 
It wasn't that she was the only one who got to go. 
For the ballet, once, all four of us went; the second time, she and I were the only ones who attended; the third time, DH called a friend who lives near San Francisco and was inviting himself over to their house during the ballet. However, the friend and his wife love attending the ballet and went with us instead. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Nov 26, 2018 21:16:38 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Nov 26, 2018 20:41:16 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Can I thwack DD#2?
She's chosen experiences for her birthday presents for several years. 
For example, we've taken her to the San Francisco Ballet three times for her birthday. 
She'd get to pick the event, plan the trip, decide the restaurants, etc. 
DH, DD#1, and I would go with her. 

She's decided that this has all been incredibly unfair that DD#1 got to go on the trips. DD#1 got a different birthday present and got to go on the trip. 

I'm annoyed that she's mad and ungrateful. 
I'm annoyed that I cannot fix it. 
I'm annoyed that it seems I've made a bad parenting choice. 

Didn't you just buy her a car too...like a brand spanking new car?  

No, that's the other daughter. Don't worry, she's ungrateful too. 


Her birthday is in January, so I'd asked her if she thought about what she wanted to do. That's how this came up. 

Oh, and I took her to an Ed Sheeran concert last summer. Just for fun. Not as a birthday present. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Actually, to be fair, My older daughter has been lovely about the car. Said thank you many many times.

[taz157]

Chloe - It sounds like your DD is being a normal teenager. Your older DD does look pretty excited about her new car. (FWIW, I didn't quote the car picture in case you wanted the picture to go poof at some point.)

[CCL]

Maybe the new car has something to do with DD2's misery? Especially since she feels she has to "share" her birthday presents.

[Lizard Queen]

Nov 26, 2018 21:22:17 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Nov 26, 2018 14:16:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I can't seem to stop spending money.  30% off legos on amazon and the lego store today.  Almost 50% off on some of the nerf guns (which everyone is getting so that nerf wars can be a new family tradition).  Now I want to look at scoooters.  Must.Stop!

I have been avoiding all online stores today.  Carrot wants a Nintendo Switch and I just can't bring myself to do it.  Not only because of the cost, but because we have a Wii, a PS3 and an XBOX 360.  Of course, none of these are the latest and greatest and none of them play Fortnite.  The game of all games apparently. 

My DH got an Xbox One on Black Friday.  We have a 360, as well as a PS2.  Hopefully the kids don't drive us nuts about getting Fortnite once they realize we have a system to play in on.  I Feel like they're not old enough for that game, even though all the kids at school know the dances from it.

[taz157]

At my IL's annual pre-Thanksgiving dinner, I was talking with one of my nieces (her oldest is 2 years younger than DD) and she were talking about the attitude/talking back that her oldest DD was doing since starting school. I was thinking that thank goodness my DD doesn't do that. I can't say that anymore. I was getting some of the attitude tonight. I HATE that. She was already in trouble for losing a point at school for talking when she wasn't supposed to. She also lost the point right as school ended. This also isn't the first time she was talking when she wasn't supposed to (once she did it twice in 1 day).

[cktc]

I'm guessing DD#2 gets to ride in DD#1's car? The sharing presents goes both ways, even if she doesn't see it that way. This is just part of having siblings. #1 gets to do everything first, but then everyone else gets the benefit of experiencing things when they are younger, like going places without mom and dad. Don't feel guilty, and don't play into it. If she doesn't want to plan a family trip then she can pick something else for her birthday.

[Works4me]

It also sounds like DD2 is failing to realize that her turn will come. Also, I wonder if her expectations
for gifts over experiences might be over blown.

Have you tried asking her what her expectations are and what is really bothering her?

[raeoflyte]

I'm hoping to say no to fortnite for as long as humanly possible.  

[bean29]

Nov 26, 2018 21:45:09 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Nov 26, 2018 20:52:40 GMT -5 @bamafan1954 said:

I can sort of see her point.  Maybe next time only you could accompany her.  Then it would be only her trip.  It would be cheaper, too.

I can see her point. It's why I'm so upset. 
However, the gift was going to the event of her choice and getting to plan the trip. 
It wasn't that she was the only one who got to go. 
For the ballet, once, all four of us went; the second time, she and I were the only ones who attended; the third time, DH called a friend who lives near San Francisco and was inviting himself over to their house during the ballet. However, the friend and his wife love attending the ballet and went with us instead. 

Pfft, as adults my family’s birthday includes a family dinner at a restaurant which usually includes Grandma. As kids, we all went to the waterpark for their birthdays.

I kind of see her point, but there is something to be said for the experience.

[TheHaitian]

Why do we spend so much when we are stressed out or overwhelmed? Had this conversation earlier with DW that we need to be more mindful in the coming months....

Both her and I were so swamped with work in the beginning of November that we took our eyes off the ball... used $$ to make life easier. Meaning before we knew it both her paychecks were gone and we did not know what we spend it on... so had to take 2k from
Savings to cover bills.

Yesterday was off so was supposed to go through our bank account line by line to see where the money went. Nothing jumps out me just frivolous spending here and there...

In other news: can someone slow down time? My baby is growing up to fast 😢😢

[Deleted]

Nov 26, 2018 23:34:51 GMT -5 cktc said:

I'm guessing DD#2 gets to ride in DD#1's car? The sharing presents goes both ways, even if she doesn't see it that way. This is just part of having siblings. #1 gets to do everything first, but then everyone else gets the benefit of experiencing things when they are younger, like going places without mom and dad. Don't feel guilty, and don't play into it. If she doesn't want to plan a family trip then she can pick something else for her birthday.

If this relationship is like any of the teens I teach, riding in a sibling's car is not the thrill you make it out to be.  It's a thrill for Chloe maybe since it will help with the driving.  But DD#1 will charge her gas money when she wants to go somewhere and/or complain mightily about having to chauffeur her around.  

I think the thrill has just gone, Knee Deep in Water Chloe, from that particular birthday present.  Your husband (not sure if it is her dad or not) wasn't even going to go last year until his friends wanted to go.  So it became an adult outing instead of all about her if you think about it.  But that's difficult to complain about.  It sounds like DD#1 didn't even go in years 2 and 3.

Most of the board is looking at this from the adult perspective.  They've forgotten what it was like to be a teen.  It sounds like you haven't.

[Deleted]

Nov 27, 2018 0:17:00 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I'm hoping to say no to fortnite for as long as humanly possible.  

I lost that battle long ago with him going to his Dad's every other weekend where there is a PS4 and 5 cousins ranging in age from 5 to 15.