The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

[Sam_2.0]

Big hugs, taz. Its not fair at all I am so so sorry.

[debthaven]

Oh taz157

[cktc]

So sorry Taz. Sending prayers for you and your friend.

[Jaguar]

taz157, I'm so very sorry hon,

[Jaguar]

My sister had multiple miscarriages, she couldn't carry any boys, My Grandma had the same thing, she lost 3/4 boys.

[zibazinski]

Nov 5, 2018 8:52:18 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Life sometimes sucks. I found out last week that my former best friend has ovarian cancer. She’s 39, turns 40 in February. She finds out this week on the stage and the treatment plan.

Today I woke up to blood when I went to bathroom. If I wasn’t 5w3d pregnant, I wouldn’t be concerned. Since I am pregnant, I know I miscarrying again. Make that miscarriage #4 for me.

At least I have a great DH and a great DD.

I’m sorry, Taz. Maybe not?

[Lizard Queen]

Aw, I'm so sorry, Taz.  I had wondered if you were still trying.



That's interesting about your sister and grandmother, Jaguar.  I wonder what could cause that.

[taz157]

Nov 5, 2018 12:42:12 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Nov 5, 2018 8:52:18 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Life sometimes sucks. I found out last week that my former best friend has ovarian cancer. She’s 39, turns 40 in February. She finds out this week on the stage and the treatment plan.

Today I woke up to blood when I went to bathroom. If I wasn’t 5w3d pregnant, I wouldn’t be concerned. Since I am pregnant, I know I miscarrying again. Make that miscarriage #4 for me.

At least I have a great DH and a great DD.

I’m sorry, Taz. Maybe not?

I’m not holding my breathe. I’ve already passed 1 blood clot.

[Sam_2.0]

Nov 5, 2018 12:52:00 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

Aw, I'm so sorry, Taz.  I had wondered if you were still trying.



That's interesting about your sister and grandmother, Jaguar.  I wonder what could cause that.

My best friend cant carry a boy. They think it's an immune response. Her sister had all boys. But BFF has had 9 miscarriages now and they suspect all boys. She had one DD in the middle and is pregnant with another girl now.

[Sam_2.0]

Got an appointment with my counselor. A friend had suggested this book: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship www.amazon.com/dp/0452275350/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_I1i4Bb0WC5DTE

I found enough from reading the reviews to know I need it.

[NastyWoman]

Nov 5, 2018 10:19:55 GMT -5 Pants said:

Taz, I'm so so sorry. Secondary infertility is so hard. When we were going through it, I would have to practice the sentence "I have a beautiful DD, I am so lucky." Because I could not for the life of me say that without breaking down and sobbing, and it made people really concerned. 

 replace DD with DS and you have me 36 years ago... and I still remember the pain all these years later. So many , many,  for you Taz

[andi9899]

Nov 5, 2018 13:34:49 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Nov 5, 2018 12:52:00 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

Aw, I'm so sorry, Taz.  I had wondered if you were still trying.



That's interesting about your sister and grandmother, Jaguar.  I wonder what could cause that.

My best friend cant carry a boy. They think it's an immune response. Her sister had all boys. But BFF has had 9 miscarriages now and they suspect all boys. She had one DD in the middle and is pregnant with another girl now.

I didn't even know that was a thing. I seem to only be able to produce girls. I probably did something in a former life to deserve girls. I wanted boys.

[taz157]

Back from my doctor’s appointment. Definitely had a miscarriage. Nothing showing in my uterus and negative pregnancy test. I’m going to retest in the AM as I think my urine was diluated as I had a lot of urine but I think it’s correct.

Next step is a consultation with a fertility specialist if we decide to.

[gs11rmb]

taz157 I liked your post just because I wish there was a way to give a virtual hug.

[Sam_2.0]

Big hugs, Taz. I wish there was something we could do to make this better.

[taz157]

Nov 5, 2018 14:56:24 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

taz157 I liked your post just because I wish there was a way to give a virtual hug.

I get it and understand. Thank you. 🙂

[raeoflyte]

Nov 5, 2018 14:59:18 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Big hugs, Taz. I wish there was something we could do to make this better.

So much this.  

Lots of hugs in the decisions ahead.  

[muttleynfelix]

Nov 5, 2018 14:51:30 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Back from my doctor’s appointment. Definitely had a miscarriage. Nothing showing in my uterus and negative pregnancy test. I’m going to retest in the AM as I think my urine was diluated as I had a lot of urine but I think it’s correct.

Next step is a consultation with a fertility specialist if we decide to.

OH Taz. I'm so sorry. Hugs.

[muttleynfelix]

Last month I started running with one of my neighbors and on Friday we added another neighbor to our group. It has so far been really good. We don't go fast or particularly far. I've been running on my own for years and using it as a time to connect with other people has been fun.

[raeoflyte]

"In the 20 years since that policy was first published, there's been a great deal of additional research, and we're now much stronger in saying that parents should never hit their child and never use verbal insults that would humiliate or shame the child," said Dr. Robert Sege, first author of the policy statement and a pediatrician at the Floating Hospital for Children at Tufts Medical Center in Boston.

"The policy statement describes corporal punishment as "noninjurious, open-handed hitting with the intention of modifying child behavior" and indicates that spanking is considered a form of such physical punishment.

The statement goes on to describe how several studies have found associations between spanking and aggressive child behavior, depressive symptoms in adolescence and less gray matter in children's brains, among other outcomes."


www.cnn.com/2018/11/05/health/spanking-children-healthy-discipline-study/index.html?no-st=1541449505&fbclid=IwAR1Uc61xSk5tfUMF6LxCA6Pp2I0UxZiL8Vh2Nf0ht_eLaB-3dE6Vfeqtlww

[zibazinski]

Nov 5, 2018 14:51:30 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Back from my doctor’s appointment. Definitely had a miscarriage. Nothing showing in my uterus and negative pregnancy test. I’m going to retest in the AM as I think my urine was diluated as I had a lot of urine but I think it’s correct.

Next step is a consultation with a fertility specialist if we decide to.

I’m sorry 😐

[steph08]

Nov 5, 2018 18:10:51 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

Last month I started running with one of my neighbors and on Friday we added another neighbor to our group. It has so far been really good. We don't go fast or particularly far. I've been running on my own for years and using it as a time to connect with other people has been fun.

Love it! I used to run on Monday night's with the local running group. I gave it up after the kids were born, but I still see then at local races.

I do miss having one run a week where I was with other people!

[ners]

I am sorry taz157

[Lizard Queen]

Listening to my 6 yo wail and carry on. He had a flu shot earlier today, and he wanted his bandaid off.

[raeoflyte]

The kids were playing outside with neighbors and it's dark at 5pm now which sucks. C was headed back up the ladder to the neighbors tree house when one of the construction workers ran toward him yelling something stupid like ugga bugga. Scared the shit out of C. Dh was going to get the kids and heard it and went to get him. The guy apologized and dh said he seemed to really feel bad, but I'm livid. He said he was goofing around but didn't mean to scare them. Seriously go fuck yourself dude and your complete lack of judgment assuming your not a colossal db.

I'm skipping at least 1 and probably both classes tonight to sit with C. I remember how scared I was when a guy stopped his car by me walking home from school. He raced off when I started running but I would only ride my bike to school after that.

[empress of self-improvement]

I am so so sorry taz157

[geenamercile]

I am sorry Taz.  

[lurkyloo]

So very sorry, taz.  

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Nov 5, 2018 8:52:18 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Life sometimes sucks. I found out last week that my former best friend has ovarian cancer. She’s 39, turns 40 in February. She finds out this week on the stage and the treatment plan.

Today I woke up to blood when I went to bathroom. If I wasn’t 5w3d pregnant, I wouldn’t be concerned. Since I am pregnant, I know I miscarrying again. Make that miscarriage #4 for me.

At least I have a great DH and a great DD.

[muttleynfelix]

Nov 5, 2018 19:58:48 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

The kids were playing outside with neighbors and it's dark at 5pm now which sucks. C was headed back up the ladder to the neighbors tree house when one of the construction workers ran toward him yelling something stupid like ugga bugga. Scared the shit out of C. Dh was going to get the kids and heard it and went to get him. The guy apologized and dh said he seemed to really feel bad, but I'm livid. He said he was goofing around but didn't mean to scare them. Seriously go fuck yourself dude and your complete lack of judgment assuming your not a colossal db.

I'm skipping at least 1 and probably both classes tonight to sit with C. I remember how scared I was when a guy stopped his car by me walking home from school. He raced off when I started running but I would only ride my bike to school after that.

Omg...I'm sure he did mean it as a joke, but good grief people think of the world we live in today. You can't go around scarying strange kids and think it is ok.