The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

[cktc]

Nov 3, 2018 14:10:05 GMT -5 Pants said:

Nov 3, 2018 14:04:41 GMT -5 swamp said:

I think if you leave a marriage for another guy, you just trade one set of problems for another. Guys are guys and they all have their issues.

But I also understand the allure of flirting. If you’re being ignored at home, it’s nice to get some attention and have some acknowledgement you can still attract someone.

Remember ladies - dick is abundant and of low value!

When my ex was cheating I told him I could walk into a bar and go home with a guy any night I wanted. I still believe that and I'm not that attractive.

[Sam_2.0]

TBH, while something physical may be fun, I'd rather just have an emotional affair at this point. I am way to insecure about the physical stuff. And if I ever do get rid of DH I dont see myself ever getting into a serious relationship again. My sister and I have actually talked about it - we'd buy a house together and raise our kids together and go out when we wanted

[geenamercile]

The ironic thing is anyone we messed around with together or DH by himself has been a good friend of ours.  I don't think either of us are people who can do a one night stand, or be with someone we don't trust.  And the one long standing mix up we had was one of the best times in our marriage.  It can be hard to make plans with kids and all of that, but they are getting older now so we can go out now and leave them at home.  There are times I think of looking into swinging groups and see if that would improve our relationship.  My DH is not an dom personality, and doesn't have one in him at all.   I tend to be a switch and there are times I really do just want to let go and have someone else have complete control. 

All that being said, we talked about things before we moved forward and when DH vetoed the messing around with the other guy I respected that.  My relationship with him was more important, so didn't move to a physical realm with the other guy.

  

[Poptart]

Nov 3, 2018 10:57:34 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

You all are good friends, though, to call me out.

Go be a ho. You've earned it. I think I'd do the same thing if my boyfriend didn't even give me a hug.

[geenamercile]

See if DH and I ever split I would get a small apartment somewhere and just have fun with the physical.  I don't think I would want another emotional relationship besides good friends.

[geenamercile]

[oped]

Nov 3, 2018 15:33:40 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

TBH, while something physical may be fun, I'd rather just have an emotional affair at this point. I am way to insecure about the physical stuff. And if I ever do get rid of DH I dont see myself ever getting into a serious relationship again. My sister and I have actually talked about it - we'd buy a house together and raise our kids together and go out when we wanted [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wink.png" alt="" class="smile" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png"]

Have you seen the new series Single Parents?  I wish i'd had a cohort (even married) of parents who just met and planned the next week's  schedule together... who was picking up kids and watching them when, who needed coverage for yoga class or a date or whatever... 

[lurkyloo]

An emotional affair in your shoes seems almost like the sensible thing to do at this point...but the coworkers thing isn’t a great idea.  Whatever gets you through the day.  (I almost added don’t get caught, but I’m not actually sure your H doesn’t need the wakeup call  )

[Deleted]

Somebody, PLEASE tell me what TL;DR stands for. I've seen it a million times and can NOT figure it out although I do get the gist of the meaning.

Going back now to finish reading......

[justme]

Nov 3, 2018 18:48:39 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Somebody, PLEASE tell me what TL;DR stands for. I've seen it a million times and can NOT figure it out although I do get the gist of the meaning.

Going back now to finish reading......

Too long; didn't read

[Deleted]

The thing about emotional affairs is that for most men, the emotional part leads to wanting to make it physical even if that wasn't their original intention. Some men just go along with the emotional part, trying to get to the physical part and that was the goal from the beginning. Just my opinion, and I admit I'm kind of jaded.

I think you need to tread very carefully, because you are vulnerable. That makes it very hard to stay in control of things like this. I don't get the impression that you're the kind of woman that can play these kinds of games without getting caught up. That kind of woman does kind of see it as a game, just fun. You don't strike me as that kind of person, but of course I could be wrong. I think looking to fill an emotional void can cause an even worse situation than trying to fill a physical one.

That worries me more for you than my opinions on what is right or wrong. I've read enough here that I at least understand, regardless of what else I think.

[Deleted]

Nov 3, 2018 19:02:48 GMT -5 justme said:

Nov 3, 2018 18:48:39 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Somebody, PLEASE tell me what TL;DR stands for. I've seen it a million times and can NOT figure it out although I do get the gist of the meaning.

Going back now to finish reading......

Too long; didn't read

Thank you!!! 

[Deleted]

Ok, I hadn't been reading here regularly for a while and I can't find the thread where we ask about missing posters.

What happened to mid jd? And Lena? I'm sure there are others I haven't realized yet that I haven't seen post, but please fill me in on those 2 if you know anything.

[empress of self-improvement]

Nov 3, 2018 16:11:44 GMT -5 geenamercile said:

See if DH and I ever split I would get a small apartment somewhere and just have fun with the physical.  I don't think I would want another emotional relationship besides good friends.

I've already decided that when DH kicks the bucket, I'm just going to have boytoys. Now you all know why I've been working on losing weight!

[Sam_2.0]

Nov 3, 2018 20:30:04 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Ok, I hadn't been reading here regularly for a while and I can't find the thread where we ask about missing posters.

What happened to mid jd? And Lena? I'm sure there are others I haven't realized yet that I haven't seen post, but please fill me in on those 2 if you know anything.

I've seen Mid on FB somewhat recently. Not sure where Lena went.

[Sam_2.0]

GOD DAMMIT!!

When he asks why I left, it's going to be the fact that he picked his wet clothes out of the washer AGAIN!!

[Deleted]

WTH? Who does that? Seems like more work than just throwing everything in the dryer.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nov 4, 2018 10:14:41 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

WTH? Who does that? Seems like more work than just throwing everything in the dryer.

No shit. Next time I did laundry i would pick out his stuff and leave it on our nasty ass basement floor. Everything else would go in the dryer.

He'd get the message.

[Sam_2.0]

Because the 2 things he wanted dry faster on their own. But he could have at least thrown the rest in when he was done! This is like the 10th time hes done it. The last few times I've lost my shit and he acted like he had no idea why I was mad.

[Wisconsin Beth]

I'd stop doing his laundry.

AND FUCK. K found a flea on her. FUCKING BIL and his roteen housekeeping skills. Yeah, I'll just ignore the fleas on my elderly dog for months, put her down and STILL not deal with the fleas all damn summer. Then I'll move into my parents house briefly and spread them there and to other places until I start teaching again. THEN I'll start to deal with the fleas but in a half assed way.

[WholeLottaNothin]

He'd find his clothes on the lawn where the dog shits

[Sam_2.0]

Oh no!! Beth, that's awful. Hopefully you can deal with your side quickly.

[Wisconsin Beth]

I don't even know where to start.

K is the only one who sees or finds the damn things. I did put a flea collar on the cat. And we are having a house full of people over for C's bday party this afternoon.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Nov 3, 2018 20:30:04 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Ok, I hadn't been reading here regularly for a while and I can't find the thread where we ask about missing posters.

What happened to mid jd? And Lena? I'm sure there are others I haven't realized yet that I haven't seen post, but please fill me in on those 2 if you know anything.

Lena is just off doing other things. 

[raeoflyte]

Sam--I'd kill him for repeatedly doing it. At least not do his laundry with posted rules about doing laundry so he can't make your life more difficult while doing his own.

Dh and I have had a rough couple weeks. I'm silent but bitchy. He's desolate and clingy and doing basically nothing around the house. He finally sent me a text that he's depressed, knows hes useless, trying to get a handle on it and that he loves me. My response wasn't terribly supportive or loving. I feel bad but I just can't right now.

Today is the first day of earned screen time. No melt downs yet. E and I did water color, salt, and glue paintings and they've been building paper airplanes for hours. My house is a disaster, but I'm trying to embrace it.

[Blonde Granny]

Nov 3, 2018 20:42:56 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

Nov 3, 2018 16:11:44 GMT -5 geenamercile said:

See if DH and I ever split I would get a small apartment somewhere and just have fun with the physical.  I don't think I would want another emotional relationship besides good friends.

I've already decided that when DH kicks the bucket, I'm just going to have boytoys. Now you all know why I've been working on losing weight!

At my advanced age of 74, I've seen quite a few women who are older and want boy toys (I'm not one of them).  Depending on your age, you may need to have more than being skinny to attract the BTs, you will need a LOT of money.  They tend to want to be pampered in order to put up with an old wrinkled woman.

[Pants]

Nov 4, 2018 10:22:33 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Because the 2 things he wanted dry faster on their own. But he could have at least thrown the rest in when he was done! This is like the 10th time hes done it. The last few times I've lost my shit and he acted like he had no idea why I was mad.

Because he's an inconsiderate asshole. I know you love him, but it's true.

[Lizard Queen]

I agree that a laundry strike is in order.

[oped]

I asked husband if he could run the vacuum while I was away and he gave me a look like he was going to say he didn’t know how to operate that machine... but he must have changed his mind when he saw my face because when I said What he said ‘just waiting to hear what else I can do’... damn right. 

TheHaitian ... I’m in DC area... daughter made me drive in to downtown and I don’t know how you do it, I wanted to cry ...

[andi9899]

Nov 4, 2018 13:58:49 GMT -5 Blonde Granny said:

Nov 3, 2018 20:42:56 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

I've already decided that when DH kicks the bucket, I'm just going to have boytoys. Now you all know why I've been working on losing weight!

At my advanced age of 74, I've seen quite a few women who are older and want boy toys (I'm not one of them).  Depending on your age, you may need to have more than being skinny to attract the BTs, you will need a LOT of money.  They tend to want to be pampered in order to put up with an old wrinkled woman.

I got hit on by a 23 yo last night. And his uncle. Wasn't interested in either one, but it was good for the ego.

ETA: I'm not rolling in dough or wrinkly.