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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 16, 2018 11:08:14 GMT -5
When dh and I were at our worst I did make an effort to put pictures up of us together during good times. I should do that again as everything is us separate or family pictures. My DH and I have a very harmonious marriage, and we don't have a single photo of either of us up in our home. We just never got around to it. He has a friend who had wedding photos and mementos up all over his house. That was 2 wives ago. Now, I have studied a little feng shui. It says things like, if you want to have a 1st child, put objects in groups of 3. In the photo here, I saw mementos of the lost child, as well as husband/wife. Granted, it's just a small area, but seems like it covers the couple requirement well enough to me. I guess she could do groupings of 6, to represent all of them. We didn't either when we liked each other. Probably why none of them are up now either. I'm pretty sure things were going pretty well for a while. I'm not into any religious/spiritual stuff anymore, but I appreciate reminders of what my goals are.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Oct 16, 2018 11:13:45 GMT -5
You know how I mentioned the Tilted podcast last week. This week's episode is phenomenal. We talk about it all the time on the Job Hunt thread and we argue with men about it on YM as well and it is just validation. www.stitcher.com/s?eid=56740940&refid=asa
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 16, 2018 12:00:11 GMT -5
My DH and I have a very harmonious marriage, and we don't have a single photo of either of us up in our home. We just never got around to it. He has a friend who had wedding photos and mementos up all over his house. That was 2 wives ago. Now, I have studied a little feng shui. It says things like, if you want to have a 1st child, put objects in groups of 3. In the photo here, I saw mementos of the lost child, as well as husband/wife. Granted, it's just a small area, but seems like it covers the couple requirement well enough to me. I guess she could do groupings of 6, to represent all of them. We didn't either when we liked each other. Probably why none of them are up now either. I'm pretty sure things were going pretty well for a while. I'm not into any religious/spiritual stuff anymore, but I appreciate reminders of what my goals are. I just think it's really hard to raise kids, especially when you have to bear the brunt of the work. I'm no expert on feng shui--just read a couple 2 or 3 books on it--but I've done a lot of experimenting with decorating and furniture placement in my past. IMO, a lot of feng shui is not really spiritual, but common sense if you're sensitive to certain things. One example, bed placement shouldn't be in front of a heating vent or duct. Feng shui says it's because it blocks the flow of chi, or something like that. Well, it is uncomfortable and can dry out your sinuses, or can make your HVAC system not work as well. So...common sense. Some of this other stuff, probably more of it if you really get into feng shui, is just weird to me as a westerner.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 16, 2018 12:15:34 GMT -5
We didn't either when we liked each other. Probably why none of them are up now either. I'm pretty sure things were going pretty well for a while. I'm not into any religious/spiritual stuff anymore, but I appreciate reminders of what my goals are. I just think it's really hard to raise kids, especially when you have to bear the brunt of the work. I'm no expert on feng shui--just read a couple 2 or 3 books on it--but I've done a lot of experimenting with decorating and furniture placement in my past. IMO, a lot of feng shui is not really spiritual, but common sense if you're sensitive to certain things. One example, bed placement shouldn't be in front of a heating vent or duct. Feng shui says it's because it blocks the flow of chi, or something like that. Well, it is uncomfortable and can dry out your sinuses, or can make your HVAC system not work as well. So...common sense. Some of this other stuff, probably more of it if you really get into feng shui, is just weird to me as a westerner. Agreed on both. I was into all kinds of alternative stuff for many years, but "broke up" with all of that when I officially went atheist. But there are still things I do because it feels good, helps in some way, etc.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 16, 2018 12:54:20 GMT -5
Housekeepers just left. omg I don't know how I've survived so long without them. Admittedly we had a pretty rough morning when I realized how not ready for them we were and I had them skip C's bedroom and the playroom. I will help C on his bedroom this weekend and then we will be in a good spot to keep up on things in between visits.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 16, 2018 18:47:10 GMT -5
One of my co-workers couldn't go to a concert tonight, so they offered up the tickets to whoever wanted them. I was the lucky one who put my name in first. I'm on my way to pick up my mom, and then we're going to see Rod Stewart and Cyndi Lauper. This should be a really fun night :-)
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 16, 2018 18:47:44 GMT -5
I also took the kids in for well visits and flu shots today. And I totally let them get frozen yogurt for dinner. All around this day is turning out pretty okay.
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Post by Pants on Oct 16, 2018 20:09:41 GMT -5
One of my co-workers couldn't go to a concert tonight, so they offered up the tickets to whoever wanted them. I was the lucky one who put my name in first. I'm on my way to pick up my mom, and then we're going to see Rod Stewart and Cyndi Lauper. This should be a really fun night :-) Glad for you!!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 16, 2018 22:03:00 GMT -5
Housekeepers just left. omg I don't know how I've survived so long without them. Admittedly we had a pretty rough morning when I realized how not ready for them we were and I had them skip C's bedroom and the playroom. I will help C on his bedroom this weekend and then we will be in a good spot to keep up on things in between visits. Isn't it crazy how much cleaning one must do to be ready for the cleaning people! It took me 20 minutes this morning to get everything put away so the cleaning lady could do the floors.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 16, 2018 22:04:43 GMT -5
<won't look at Wish...won't look at Wish>
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 17, 2018 0:01:47 GMT -5
<won't look at Wish...won't look at Wish> I've been looking. Like a lot... but until now I have refrained from buying. I don't know how long that will hold up though
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 17, 2018 4:26:53 GMT -5
What is Wish?
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 17, 2018 6:34:36 GMT -5
It's an app where you can buy stuff. I got a set of crochet hooks for $1. No minimums and shipping is cheap or free too.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 17, 2018 6:46:17 GMT -5
It's an app where you can buy stuff. I got a set of crochet hooks for $1. No minimums and shipping is cheap or free too. Cool. Thank you
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 18, 2018 7:27:55 GMT -5
I was contacted by my 6 year old DD's teacher last night who told me that yesterday she had an argument with a classmate that resulted in her say that if this girl ever gave her a birthday invitation she would tear it up in her face . I'm just stunned. I spoke to my girl this morning and she said it wasn't that girl it was another one whose name she can't remember and she couldn't tell me why she said such a thing. Beyond making it clear that that sort of behavior and language is unacceptable and hurtful does anyone have any advice on how I should deal with this situation?
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 18, 2018 9:54:47 GMT -5
oh, that sucks gs11rmb. Aly has had similar blowups with another little girl at school. For the most part, the kids deal with it on their own and it resolves itself.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 18, 2018 9:57:34 GMT -5
Last night I got to work late since Mom had the kids - so I finally got caught up on some stuff. Then I met DH for dinner, and then we came home and just hung out. It was the first time we've just had fun & laughed together in a LONG time. I really needed that.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 18, 2018 10:44:59 GMT -5
I let the kids work it out. Nine times out of 10 they are friends again before I even get the teacher's email.
I know I'm supposed to be horrified as an adult but looking back I was a little shit socially then too and so were my friends. It's a part of learning to navigate society.
Doesn't mean I don't talk to Gwen but I'm trying to be as hands off as possible because she needs to learn conflict resolution. Something I feel we really lack in society today.
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Post by chapeau on Oct 18, 2018 11:13:57 GMT -5
I let the kids work it out. Nine times out of 10 they are friends again before I even get the teacher's email. I know I'm supposed to be horrified as an adult but looking back I was a little shit socially then too and so were my friends. It's a part of learning to navigate society. Doesn't mean I don't talk to Gwen but I'm trying to be as hands off as possible because she needs to learn conflict resolution. Something I feel we really lack in society today.Amen. I’m sort of surprised the teacher reached out to you about that—kids are always making up and breaking up. Of course I did advise DD to kick the little boy who kept lifting her skirt up in the shins and yell “no!” really loudly, so I’m not sure you really want to take my advice too seriously. (He was 4. He did, she did, and he doesn’t do it anymore. His mother called to make sure I didn’t punish DD, since he finally got the message to quit doing that. She’s young/little enough that her skirts have shorts built in, so no actual underwear was seen.) I’m a big believer in letting kids work out that kind of stuff on their own. I’ll step in if DD asks, or if I think it’s necessary because it’s actual physical harm or similar.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 18, 2018 20:32:02 GMT -5
I might ask her about it, maybe talk about feelings (hers and the other girl's), but I also find it strange that the teacher contacted you about it at all.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 18, 2018 20:40:58 GMT -5
I wasn't feeling well last night, so I asked DH to take ODS to soccer practice. I got a text about 3/4 of the way thru: some kid kicked the ball, and it went towards ODS face and broke his glasses. The glasses we got less than 2 months ago. The glasses I told him not to wear to gym because his eyesight isn't really that bad to warrant the risk of breaking them. They're the plastic kind, broken straight through near the arm. Wonderful...
Found the same frames online for $54, at the one and only place I could find with the same kind and color. The place we bought them from originally will transfer the lenses into them for us, as those frames would be $189 ordered through them.
Hopefully, these guys (DH could have told kid to remove them) learned their lesson about carelessness.
I was going to get his younger brother some online cheapies to wear for sports. I guess I'm going to have to get him some, too.
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Post by justme on Oct 18, 2018 21:11:24 GMT -5
I wasn't feeling well last night, so I asked DH to take ODS to soccer practice. I got a text about 3/4 of the way thru: some kid kicked the ball, and it went towards ODS face and broke his glasses. The glasses we got less than 2 months ago. The glasses I told him not to wear to gym because his eyesight isn't really that bad to warrant the risk of breaking them. They're the plastic kind, broken straight through near the arm. Wonderful... Found the same frames online for $54, at the one and only place I could find with the same kind and color. The place we bought them from originally will transfer the lenses into them for us, as those frames would be $189 ordered through them. Hopefully, these guys (DH could have told kid to remove them) learned their lesson about carelessness. I was going to get his younger brother some online cheapies to wear for sports. I guess I'm going to have to get him some, too. Kidless so obviously never used it, but I swear I've seen the eyeglass place at Walmart advertise free replacement on all kids glasses. As an adult I've gotten the warranty at a different company that covered pretty much everything if you brought the glasses back to them - though I only ever used it for lens replacement.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 18, 2018 21:30:23 GMT -5
I wasn't feeling well last night, so I asked DH to take ODS to soccer practice. I got a text about 3/4 of the way thru: some kid kicked the ball, and it went towards ODS face and broke his glasses. The glasses we got less than 2 months ago. The glasses I told him not to wear to gym because his eyesight isn't really that bad to warrant the risk of breaking them. They're the plastic kind, broken straight through near the arm. Wonderful... Found the same frames online for $54, at the one and only place I could find with the same kind and color. The place we bought them from originally will transfer the lenses into them for us, as those frames would be $189 ordered through them. Hopefully, these guys (DH could have told kid to remove them) learned their lesson about carelessness. I was going to get his younger brother some online cheapies to wear for sports. I guess I'm going to have to get him some, too. Kidless so obviously never used it, but I swear I've seen the eyeglass place at Walmart advertise free replacement on all kids glasses. As an adult I've gotten the warranty at a different company that covered pretty much everything if you brought the glasses back to them - though I only ever used it for lens replacement. I would have gotten a warranty, but they didn't offer any at this place. I'll check out Walmart. Meijer has cheap glasses, too, but none with a strap for kids playing sports. I think Zenni Optical had some pretty cheap. One of those online places, anyway. May have to get some better ones for baseball in the spring, though. I wouldn't have thought soccer would be so risky, but that kid is a klutz, and slow to react.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 18, 2018 21:46:55 GMT -5
Teachers are in a tough spot right now with the cry of "bullying". Please know that I'm not saying bullying isn't real; it absolutely is. However, some parents claim their child is bullied all the time when it is usually just mutual spats. If an angry, knee-jerk reactionary parent thinks a teacher is ignoring a bully, it becomes a nightmare for everyone. It's possible the teacher is nervous due to other situations and just calls whenever she knows about a higher-than-normal incident as a preventative measure.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 19, 2018 3:42:47 GMT -5
I might ask her about it, maybe talk about feelings (hers and the other girl's), but I also find it strange that the teacher contacted you about it at all. I don’t. When every little thing is escalated to a crisis by some helicopter parent, the teacher is going to cover their ass.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 19, 2018 9:00:35 GMT -5
DH and I went out again last night and honestly had fun. Tonight I go get my babies and tomorrow we are going to the pumpkin patch My house is a disaster because I have not touched anything in 3 days. And I just don't care.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 19, 2018 9:21:31 GMT -5
I might ask her about it, maybe talk about feelings (hers and the other girl's), but I also find it strange that the teacher contacted you about it at all. I don’t. When every little thing is escalated to a crisis by some helicopter parent, the teacher is going to cover their ass. You know, I'm okay with intervening sometimes. I find my kids get along way, way better when I do. I wouldn't punish for my kid getting into a little spat, though. But I think listening and considering everyone's feelings in a situation is a good policy to have. I just wouldn't necessarily make them make up, either. You're mad for this, and they're mad because of that, (neither of which is really a big deal) okay then, go to separate corners and stay away from each other for a while.
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Post by alabamagal on Oct 19, 2018 12:24:58 GMT -5
Kidless so obviously never used it, but I swear I've seen the eyeglass place at Walmart advertise free replacement on all kids glasses. As an adult I've gotten the warranty at a different company that covered pretty much everything if you brought the glasses back to them - though I only ever used it for lens replacement. I would have gotten a warranty, but they didn't offer any at this place. I'll check out Walmart. Meijer has cheap glasses, too, but none with a strap for kids playing sports. I think Zenni Optical had some pretty cheap. One of those online places, anyway. May have to get some better ones for baseball in the spring, though. I wouldn't have thought soccer would be so risky, but that kid is a klutz, and slow to react. If your kids are like mine, you have to figure in the risk of them taking glasses off and getting lost with the risk of being damaged. At my house, the rule was that once you got glasses (and all 3 did at pretty young age) you were not allowed to take them off for anything except football. And one kid ended up with 1 pair lost at football and 1 pair damaged because it fell out of his bag and got stepped on. No major issues as long as they stayed on their face.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 19, 2018 12:35:17 GMT -5
I would have gotten a warranty, but they didn't offer any at this place. I'll check out Walmart. Meijer has cheap glasses, too, but none with a strap for kids playing sports. I think Zenni Optical had some pretty cheap. One of those online places, anyway. May have to get some better ones for baseball in the spring, though. I wouldn't have thought soccer would be so risky, but that kid is a klutz, and slow to react. If your kids are like mine, you have to figure in the risk of them taking glasses off and getting lost with the risk of being damaged. At my house, the rule was that once you got glasses (and all 3 did at pretty young age) you were not allowed to take them off for anything except football. And one kid ended up with 1 pair lost at football and 1 pair damaged because it fell out of his bag and got stepped on. No major issues as long as they stayed on their face. My kids are still little enough that I take them to everything, so I keep them in my purse.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 19, 2018 12:52:52 GMT -5
I'm this close to losing it. Backed up to high hell at work with two people on vacation amd apparently every Omahan seeing the doctor before the end of the year.
Then DH texts me to.tell.me he spent $120 on fucking pot. That equals all the overtime I worked last week and planned on using for a hoverboard for Gwen at Christmas.
Blew my stack. Said mean things I'm not apologizing for because it's all true. I'm tired of being disrespected in both aspects of my life.
I so did not need any of this. Can't cancel my interview because it's this or Monday and Mondays are a total no go for me. Time to put my HS acting skills to the test.
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