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Post by chen35 on Oct 11, 2018 9:47:10 GMT -5
On a local Facebook Mom's group I just read this post: "I have a Nigerian student at Emory looking for full time care for her 6 mth old Monday to Thursday. She can afford $125 a week. Is anyone aware of any options that might fit her budget ? Ideally she wants someone in Decatur or Emory area and familiar with African customs ." Sometimes I'm just stunned at what people think is an appropriate rate for childcare. Assuming the carer works eight hours a day four days a week that translates into $3.90 per hour. My first thought was who on earth would accept that level of pay. My second thought was that this woman should under no circumstances leave her baby with anyone that will accept that level of pay. I know it doesn't help the mother's situation at all and I'm not trying to make fun or her or her situation, I'm just amazed that no-one has pointed out the unreasonableness of her expectations. $125 a week is pretty standard here for an in home place. Medium cost of living area. I was stunned people were charging that little. Of course most have 4-5 kids paying that so it works out to more, but still not worth it in my opinion.
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Post by chen35 on Oct 11, 2018 9:52:06 GMT -5
A woman who works for me works from home in Panama City, FL. I'm super worried about her. She went to stay with a friend who lived further inland. Last I heard from her was yesterday at 1:00 pm, saying they probably should have gone further inland than this particular friends house, but they would be okay. And also they thought part of the roof had come off and they had to push the door closed until they were able to board it from the inside. I'm sure the power is out and she doesn't have cell service, which is why she hasn't texted. She's probably okay. I'm worried about her home though, she lives right near the beach.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 11, 2018 9:53:15 GMT -5
I used to pay $125/week for full-time 5 days/week care for my oldest, and $100/week for the sibling. It was an in-home daycare, and you're not paying for 1-on-1 care, so the price reflected that. This was a few years back, though, and obviously the cost of living has a huge influence on the prices people charge. Even at the expensive (to our area) center, the price per hour is less than minimum wage.
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Post by steph08 on Oct 11, 2018 10:14:00 GMT -5
I pay $4/hour per child for my in-home daycare. That's about the norm around here.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 11, 2018 10:47:12 GMT -5
Those prices seem really low to me. A decade ago I was paying $850 per month at a daycare center. That rate was highly subsidized because it was a university employee perk. I know plenty of people that were paying $1,200-$1,600 per month. I can't think of anyone that paid $500 per month.
Like you said, it must be dependent on the cost of living for the area.
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Post by steph08 on Oct 11, 2018 10:53:39 GMT -5
Those prices seem really low to me. A decade ago I was paying $850 per month at a daycare center. That rate was highly subsidized because it was a university employee perk. I know plenty of people that were paying $1,200-$1,600 per month. I can't think of anyone that paid $500 per month. Like you said, it must be dependent on the cost of living for the area. We are pretty rural - the closest "big city" with an international airport is 1.5 hours away. My brother lives in Boulder and pays $1200-1400/month for one kid. I pay $1400/month for two.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2018 10:56:26 GMT -5
When Carrot left full-time care in 2013 or 14 I was paying $120/week lunch included. Now it's $150/week when he goes to the Y in the Summer. $165 if I have him get hot lunch.
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Post by singlemomky on Oct 11, 2018 11:14:21 GMT -5
I live in a major city in Kentucky and the average cost for a daycare center is about $130. I'm not sure what in-home care is because I always used a center or the Y for before/after care once he was in school.
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Post by Pants on Oct 11, 2018 11:17:44 GMT -5
Can everyone please stop depressing me? Thank you.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 11, 2018 11:26:27 GMT -5
Can everyone please stop depressing me? Thank you. Mine isn’t as high as yours, but we pay $277/week for a 2yo in a Center. When she was a newborn and C was in preK there, it was about $555/week (somewhere in that ballpark), and that’s with a discount for two kids. C’s before/after care at school (run by the Y) is only $93/week, so it felt like we got a raise when he started Kindergarten last year. He still goes to the center daycare for school breaks and summer, but it’s definitely not as expensive as it was when M was a baby and C was in preK.
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Post by Pants on Oct 11, 2018 11:34:24 GMT -5
Can everyone please stop depressing me? Thank you. Mine isn’t as high as yours, but we pay $277/week for a 2yo in a Center. When she was a newborn and C was in preK there, it was about $555/week (somewhere in that ballpark), and that’s with a discount for two kids. C’s before/after care at school (run by the Y) is only $93/week, so it felt like we got a raise when he started Kindergarten last year. He still goes to the center daycare for school breaks and summer, but it’s definitely not as expensive as it was when M was a baby and C was in preK. I got a huge raise last month when B started 1st grade and daycare dropped from like $1500/month over the summer to $280/month. K just changed from 2 yo room to preschool which is the biggest price drop in the school and it went from $1400 to $1325 a month, more or less. Feel like we should be rolling in it.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 11, 2018 11:46:58 GMT -5
Off topic... does anyone else find themselves filling in names for people's children when you just have letters? I realize I've named most of your kids!
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 11, 2018 11:51:31 GMT -5
Those prices seem really low to me. A decade ago I was paying $850 per month at a daycare center. That rate was highly subsidized because it was a university employee perk. I know plenty of people that were paying $1,200-$1,600 per month. I can't think of anyone that paid $500 per month. Like you said, it must be dependent on the cost of living for the area. Maybe the difference is daycare center instead of in home daycare.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 11, 2018 11:53:47 GMT -5
Off topic... does anyone else find themselves filling in names for people's children when you just have letters? I realize I've named most of your kids! No. But if Thing 1's name starts with M and Thing 2's starts with I, what are their names? I'm curious.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 11, 2018 12:17:01 GMT -5
Off topic... does anyone else find themselves filling in names for people's children when you just have letters? I realize I've named most of your kids! No. But if Thing 1's name starts with M and Thing 2's starts with I, what are their names? I'm curious. Maribel and Isabel
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2018 12:17:18 GMT -5
Mine isn’t as high as yours, but we pay $277/week for a 2yo in a Center. When she was a newborn and C was in preK there, it was about $555/week (somewhere in that ballpark), and that’s with a discount for two kids. C’s before/after care at school (run by the Y) is only $93/week, so it felt like we got a raise when he started Kindergarten last year. He still goes to the center daycare for school breaks and summer, but it’s definitely not as expensive as it was when M was a baby and C was in preK. I got a huge raise last month when B started 1st grade and daycare dropped from like $1500/month over the summer to $280/month. K just changed from 2 yo room to preschool which is the biggest price drop in the school and it went from $1400 to $1325 a month, more or less. Feel like we should be rolling in it. I literally could not work if I had to pay $1400/month (times 2). I don't even take home that much. I don't know what I'd do. I suppose I'd have to cut a deal with a friend or family member or do some kind of childcare swap with coworkers on other shifts. There'd probably be a lot of that as nobody else could afford it either.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2018 12:20:20 GMT -5
Off topic... does anyone else find themselves filling in names for people's children when you just have letters? I realize I've named most of your kids! No. But if Thing 1's name starts with M and Thing 2's starts with I, what are their names? I'm curious. Mike and Ike.
Ok, probably not for girls, but I really want some Mike and Ikes now.
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Post by Pants on Oct 11, 2018 12:35:16 GMT -5
I got a huge raise last month when B started 1st grade and daycare dropped from like $1500/month over the summer to $280/month. K just changed from 2 yo room to preschool which is the biggest price drop in the school and it went from $1400 to $1325 a month, more or less. Feel like we should be rolling in it. I literally could not work if I had to pay $1400/month (times 2). I don't even take home that much. I don't know what I'd do. I suppose I'd have to cut a deal with a friend or family member or do some kind of childcare swap with coworkers on other shifts. There'd probably be a lot of that as nobody else could afford it either. I mean - we are dual-income. We also make, I believe, a bunch more than you do. We don't live high on the hog, but with B's move to public school, I'm looking to actually start *saving* money for the first time in six years. Tradeoffs of HCOLA living.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2018 12:48:57 GMT -5
I literally could not work if I had to pay $1400/month (times 2). I don't even take home that much. I don't know what I'd do. I suppose I'd have to cut a deal with a friend or family member or do some kind of childcare swap with coworkers on other shifts. There'd probably be a lot of that as nobody else could afford it either. I mean - we are dual-income. We also make, I believe, a bunch more than you do. We don't live high on the hog, but with B's move to public school, I'm looking to actually start *saving* money for the first time in six years. Tradeoffs of HCOLA living. I understand. I was just speculating about what I would do if rates were that here. Technically I wouldn't have to worry about two at a time since my kids are 8 years apart. I'm guessing older son would have become full-time daycare for his brother several years ago.
But yeah, it's all about the COL. Daycares don't charge that here because they can't, they would lose probably 75% of the kids.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 11, 2018 12:57:07 GMT -5
I got a huge raise last month when B started 1st grade and daycare dropped from like $1500/month over the summer to $280/month. K just changed from 2 yo room to preschool which is the biggest price drop in the school and it went from $1400 to $1325 a month, more or less. Feel like we should be rolling in it. I literally could not work if I had to pay $1400/month (times 2). I don't even take home that much. I don't know what I'd do. I suppose I'd have to cut a deal with a friend or family member or do some kind of childcare swap with coworkers on other shifts. There'd probably be a lot of that as nobody else could afford it either. Yeah, I don't think I brought home that much per month either, though I suppose I could have netted a little if I had dropped 401k contributions. My DH made less than me at the time, so he probably would have had to become a SAHD.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 11, 2018 13:22:13 GMT -5
No. But if Thing 1's name starts with M and Thing 2's starts with I, what are their names? I'm curious. Maribel and Isabel Close.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 11, 2018 13:22:57 GMT -5
No. But if Thing 1's name starts with M and Thing 2's starts with I, what are their names? I'm curious. Mike and Ike.
Ok, probably not for girls, but I really want some Mike and Ikes now. Yaaaaassss! Not really. I just think it's funny. I hate Mike and Ikes. Blech!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 11, 2018 13:30:52 GMT -5
Maribel and Isabel Close. I thought it was Maria and Isabel.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2018 13:36:45 GMT -5
So, Carrot has a swim meet next Saturday and it's his Dad's weekend. I talked to him and made arrangements to go with (as in they will pick me up Saturday morning on the way), but now I'm having panic attacks about doing this and want to pull him from the meet entirely. I have to do that before the end of today if I do in order to not get charged the entry fees. His Dad won't take him alone. He's never been to a meet and has no clue what goes on or what he needs to do. Carrot doesn't care one way or another if he goes. He's happy with going and happy with not.
<sigh> I suppose I'll just suck it up and go, but this is really freaking me out. I've not gone anywhere in a vehicle with him for almost 6 years now! It just feels like I'd be trapped.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 11, 2018 13:41:54 GMT -5
I thought it was Maria and Isabel. I thought I was Isabella, no idea on M though.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 11, 2018 13:58:11 GMT -5
So, Carrot has a swim meet next Saturday and it's his Dad's weekend. I talked to him and made arrangements to go with (as in they will pick me up Saturday morning on the way), but now I'm having panic attacks about doing this and want to pull him from the meet entirely. I have to do that before the end of today if I do in order to not get charged the entry fees. His Dad won't take him alone. He's never been to a meet and has no clue what goes on or what he needs to do. Carrot doesn't care one way or another if he goes. He's happy with going and happy with not.
<sigh> I suppose I'll just suck it up and go, but this is really freaking me out. I've not gone anywhere in a vehicle with him for almost 6 years now! It just feels like I'd be trapped.
Why don't you drive separately and just meet them at the swim meet?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2018 14:03:31 GMT -5
So, Carrot has a swim meet next Saturday and it's his Dad's weekend. I talked to him and made arrangements to go with (as in they will pick me up Saturday morning on the way), but now I'm having panic attacks about doing this and want to pull him from the meet entirely. I have to do that before the end of today if I do in order to not get charged the entry fees. His Dad won't take him alone. He's never been to a meet and has no clue what goes on or what he needs to do. Carrot doesn't care one way or another if he goes. He's happy with going and happy with not.
<sigh> I suppose I'll just suck it up and go, but this is really freaking me out. I've not gone anywhere in a vehicle with him for almost 6 years now! It just feels like I'd be trapped.
Why don't you drive separately and just meet them at the swim meet? I thought about it. It's just that it's 45 minutes away, so it seems really silly to go separate when they are literally driving right past my house on the way. Maybe I'll still do that. Make an excuse of some kind about going shopping or something afterwards. (like anyone would believe that coming from me )
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 11, 2018 14:16:03 GMT -5
I thought it was Maria and Isabel. I thought I was Isabella, no idea on M though. Mariposa?
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 11, 2018 14:24:34 GMT -5
Why don't you drive separately and just meet them at the swim meet? I thought about it. It's just that it's 45 minutes away, so it seems really silly to go separate when they are literally driving right past my house on the way. Maybe I'll still do that. Make an excuse of some kind about going shopping or something afterwards. (like anyone would believe that coming from me ) I'd drive separately.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 11, 2018 14:57:05 GMT -5
I thought about it. It's just that it's 45 minutes away, so it seems really silly to go separate when they are literally driving right past my house on the way. Maybe I'll still do that. Make an excuse of some kind about going shopping or something afterwards. (like anyone would believe that coming from me ) I'd drive separately. Ditto.
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