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Post by empress of self-improvement on Oct 5, 2018 21:29:50 GMT -5
Oh hell. I am so so sorry WholeLottaNothin. Curl up in a ball for a few days and don't forget to take care of yourself!!
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 5, 2018 21:32:43 GMT -5
My 45 year old sister died unexpectedly this morning, in a similar way to how my dad unexpectedly died 12 years ago. She was my only sibling. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry for weeks. I’m sorry
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Post by quince on Oct 5, 2018 22:03:05 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss.
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Post by chen35 on Oct 5, 2018 22:18:42 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss 💔
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Post by Pants on Oct 5, 2018 22:59:03 GMT -5
I'm so so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Works4me on Oct 6, 2018 0:31:34 GMT -5
Please accept my most sincere condolences for your loss.
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Post by mmhmm on Oct 6, 2018 5:27:55 GMT -5
My 45 year old sister died unexpectedly this morning, in a similar way to how my dad unexpectedly died 12 years ago. She was my only sibling. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry for weeks. Oh, no! I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could say to help you feel better but I know that's not feasible. Be kind to yourself. We're here for you.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 6, 2018 6:23:46 GMT -5
The real question is do they come in adult sizes? I need a pair of these for me. They do! I have The socks!!
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 6, 2018 6:25:43 GMT -5
My 45 year old sister died unexpectedly this morning, in a similar way to how my dad unexpectedly died 12 years ago. She was my only sibling. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry for weeks. Did they do an autopsy on either one? Is this an issue that you should know about as in hereditary?
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Oct 6, 2018 7:18:58 GMT -5
My 45 year old sister died unexpectedly this morning, in a similar way to how my dad unexpectedly died 12 years ago. She was my only sibling. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry for weeks. Did they do an autopsy on either one? Is this an issue that you should know about as in hereditary? They did an autopsy on my father - pulmonary embolism both sides. They're doing one on my sister but we don't know anything yet. My sister got tested after my father died and they didn't find anything hereditary. I have an appointment with my primary next month and I'm going to talk to her about it then.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 6, 2018 8:21:54 GMT -5
Hugs. This is a sad time.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 6, 2018 9:27:37 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs and good thoughts to you and your family.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 6, 2018 9:41:10 GMT -5
My 45 year old sister died unexpectedly this morning, in a similar way to how my dad unexpectedly died 12 years ago. She was my only sibling. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry for weeks. So very, very sorry
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 6, 2018 12:27:19 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for your loss, nuttinhoney. Thinking about you.
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Post by debthaven on Oct 6, 2018 12:45:33 GMT -5
OMG WholeLottaNothin! I am so so sorry for your immense loss. I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. Take the time you need and please be good to yourself.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 6, 2018 13:55:36 GMT -5
All my love to you, nuttin. I am so very sorry for the loss of your sister
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 6, 2018 16:08:08 GMT -5
Came home and immediately noticed a chemical smell as I pulled in the driveway. Texted dh if he got the yard sprayed. He says they did the trees like he mentioned to me last week. Um, then how come there is a sign in the front yard and the bill in the mailbox says they treated the yard. Work was craptastic this week and I had 0 motivation. And it's totally going to come off as me picking a fight to start the weekend instead of him making dumbfuck choices and then lying and thinking maybe I won't notice. Great way to start the weekend. I was already in a funk because he's going to a show with my brother tonight and then taking the kids to the ren faire tomorrow and meanwhile I can't find a friend free to go do something with tomorrow so I'll likely stay home and end up cleaning since the house is out of control again. I don't like that he decided to spray without discussing it. I hate chemicals in the yard because I want the kids to play in the grass. I hate that he lied. And honestly spending money on grass isn't my idea of a good use of funds. Plus the landscaping company left a whole list of things that they suggest we pay them to fix and of course he's going to want to. And the disney cruise docs arrived in today's mail but I'm too pissed to enjoy them. Wanna come to the bar with me tonight? My friends don't mind.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 6, 2018 16:09:33 GMT -5
My 45 year old sister died unexpectedly this morning, in a similar way to how my dad unexpectedly died 12 years ago. She was my only sibling. I just want to curl up in a ball and cry for weeks. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Curling up in a ball and crying is perfectly acceptable. My condolences to you and your family. This. I'm so sorry.
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Post by Tired Tess on Oct 6, 2018 22:33:29 GMT -5
God bless you and your family. I’m very sorry for your loss.
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 7, 2018 9:28:35 GMT -5
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Curling up in a ball and crying is perfectly acceptable. My condolences to you and your family. This. I'm so sorry. X 1,000 I am so sorry for your loss
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 7, 2018 14:47:19 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Nothin.
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Post by azucena on Oct 7, 2018 19:41:37 GMT -5
Came home and immediately noticed a chemical smell as I pulled in the driveway. Texted dh if he got the yard sprayed. He says they did the trees like he mentioned to me last week. Um, then how come there is a sign in the front yard and the bill in the mailbox says they treated the yard. Work was craptastic this week and I had 0 motivation. And it's totally going to come off as me picking a fight to start the weekend instead of him making dumbfuck choices and then lying and thinking maybe I won't notice. Great way to start the weekend. I was already in a funk because he's going to a show with my brother tonight and then taking the kids to the ren faire tomorrow and meanwhile I can't find a friend free to go do something with tomorrow so I'll likely stay home and end up cleaning since the house is out of control again. I don't like that he decided to spray without discussing it. I hate chemicals in the yard because I want the kids to play in the grass. I hate that he lied. And honestly spending money on grass isn't my idea of a good use of funds. Plus the landscaping company left a whole list of things that they suggest we pay them to fix and of course he's going to want to. And the disney cruise docs arrived in today's mail but I'm too pissed to enjoy them. Wanna come to the bar with me tonight? My friends don't mind. Just seeing this offer and I'm in stl whereas I think you're in kc, but thanks for the invite. All things considered we had a pretty good conversation about it.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 7, 2018 20:08:23 GMT -5
Wanna come to the bar with me tonight? My friends don't mind. Just seeing this offer and I'm in stl whereas I think you're in kc, but thanks for the invite. All things considered we had a pretty good conversation about it. You missed a great time. Definitely let us KC people know if you're ever in town.
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Post by tcu2003 on Oct 7, 2018 23:26:06 GMT -5
We went to see C’s swim friend Q, the little boy who was just diagnosed with cancer - a week ago today, which seems so long ago. He was doing far better than expected, and got released yesterday, so we visited him at home. He was definitely tired, so we didn’t stay long, but his mom said they were up for visitors, so I wanted to go while we could (I’m sure at some point in the next couple of months, one or both kids will come down with something, and then we won’t be visiting until they’re well again). The boys had fun, and M and Q’s little brother entertained each other.
It’s been raining here all weekend long, which made me want to bake. I took a nap with M, and woke us to discover DH and C had made chocolate chip cookies - yum! I then made some banana bread while DH and the kids played in the basement- we’re definitely set on baked goods for the week.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 9, 2018 8:50:52 GMT -5
Did they do an autopsy on either one? Is this an issue that you should know about as in hereditary? They did an autopsy on my father - pulmonary embolism both sides. They're doing one on my sister but we don't know anything yet. My sister got tested after my father died and they didn't find anything hereditary. I have an appointment with my primary next month and I'm going to talk to her about it then. My DH had a pulmonary embolism over 20 years ago. He took Warfarin for a few years and now just takes a daily aspirin. Is that something you could do just to put your mind at rest before you speak to your doctor? I am sorry that you have lost your sister. Crying for weeks is an appropriate response.
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Post by lund on Oct 9, 2018 12:01:09 GMT -5
My sincere condolences, WholeLottaNothin. Please take good care of yourself during this difficult time.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 9, 2018 13:26:03 GMT -5
@pants -- your list about what kind of help to offer people has been so great. My mom had a total knee replacement and they are so independent that they rarely even consider asking for help. I've been thrilled that they have asked a couple times, but I really love just offering to do specific things or call them when I'm out and about and ask if I can pick up anything.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 11, 2018 9:37:41 GMT -5
On a local Facebook Mom's group I just read this post:
"I have a Nigerian student at Emory looking for full time care for her 6 mth old Monday to Thursday. She can afford $125 a week. Is anyone aware of any options that might fit her budget ? Ideally she wants someone in Decatur or Emory area and familiar with African customs ."
Sometimes I'm just stunned at what people think is an appropriate rate for childcare. Assuming the carer works eight hours a day four days a week that translates into $3.90 per hour. My first thought was who on earth would accept that level of pay. My second thought was that this woman should under no circumstances leave her baby with anyone that will accept that level of pay.
I know it doesn't help the mother's situation at all and I'm not trying to make fun or her or her situation, I'm just amazed that no-one has pointed out the unreasonableness of her expectations.
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