The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

[Wisconsin Beth]

Sept 29, 2018 9:24:18 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Sept 28, 2018 19:20:21 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

K is starting to find her ingredients. She wants to make a moon shaped cake. I'm not opposed but I'm half smashed right now so this could be interesting.

How’d that go?

it took forever to bake, in my 4 quart Pyrex bowl. And it's VERY most. Yummy though. And a PITA to frost the craters.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 30, 2018 15:28:45 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

Sept 29, 2018 9:24:18 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

How’d that go?

it took forever to bake, in my 4 quart Pyrex bowl. And it's VERY most. Yummy though. And a PITA to frost the craters.

That sounds awesome...I'm envisioning a death star cake in our future...

[muttleynfelix]

Sept 30, 2018 11:20:07 GMT -5 regina24601 said:

Sept 30, 2018 9:52:30 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

How do you block a poster while on the mobile site?

I think you have to switch to the desktop site. If you're on an Android, click the three dots in a row in the top right then check the "switch to desktop site" box, then follow Pants's directions.

Sidebar: he's an asshole.

Yeah I know, but he usually doesn't add a personal insult at the end of every comment like he did to me in that thread. Hense the blocking. He must be going through something personal and I hope that he gets help for whatever problem he is having. I just refuse to be his punching bag.

[TheOtherMe]

You shouldn't be the punching bag.  

I have relived my sexual assault this week.  I don't want to think or talk about politics.  Talked to a friend in Colorado last night.  We were talking about basketball.  Out of nowhere, she started talking politics.  Told her twice that I was going to hang up if she started in on politics again.  Next word out of her mouth was politics so I hung up.  

Don't know when I am going to call her again.  She hasn't called me in the 9 1/2 years since I moved here.  

I told her the first time this past week had been horrible and I could not deal with politics.  She kept on going.  I could not deal with her so I cut her off.

I don't think I have anything to apologize for, but it kept me awake most of the night.  I asked her to stop twice.  I could not handle the conversation.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 30, 2018 16:45:03 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

You shouldn't be the punching bag.  

I have relived my sexual assault this week.  I don't want to think or talk about politics.  Talked to a friend in Colorado last night.  We were talking about basketball.  Out of nowhere, she started talking politics.  Told her twice that I was going to hang up if she started in on politics again.  Next word out of her mouth was politics so I hung up.  

Don't know when I am going to call her again.  She hasn't called me in the 9 1/2 years since I moved here.  

I told her the first time this past week had been horrible and I could not deal with politics.  She kept on going.  I could not deal with her so I cut her off.

I don't think I have anything to apologize for, but it kept me awake most of the night.  I asked her to stop twice.  I could not handle the conversation.

She should apologize to you for being an inconsiderate butthole.

I have very little patience for those right now. Hanging up would have been the mellow part of my reaction.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 30, 2018 16:45:03 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

You shouldn't be the punching bag.  

I have relived my sexual assault this week.  I don't want to think or talk about politics.  Talked to a friend in Colorado last night.  We were talking about basketball.  Out of nowhere, she started talking politics.  Told her twice that I was going to hang up if she started in on politics again.  Next word out of her mouth was politics so I hung up.  

Don't know when I am going to call her again.  She hasn't called me in the 9 1/2 years since I moved here.  

I told her the first time this past week had been horrible and I could not deal with politics.  She kept on going.  I could not deal with her so I cut her off.

I don't think I have anything to apologize for, but it kept me awake most of the night.  I asked her to stop twice.  I could not handle the conversation.

You have nothing to apologize for.  

[Sam_2.0]

Ahh. Apparently this week I went too far. DH is livid with my comments about white men. Awesome.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Sept 30, 2018 16:04:27 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Sept 30, 2018 15:28:45 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

it took forever to bake, in my 4 quart Pyrex bowl. And it's VERY most. Yummy though. And a PITA to frost the craters.

That sounds awesome...I'm envisioning a death star cake in our future...

that will be fun.

K's grade does a ton of bake sale fundraising this year so I'm going to stick her with some of it.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Sept 30, 2018 17:25:52 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Ahh. Apparently this week I went too far. DH is livid with my comments about white men. Awesome.

you also have nothing to apologize for.

[Pants]

Sept 30, 2018 17:25:52 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Ahh. Apparently this week I went too far. DH is livid with my comments about white men. Awesome.

Fuck your husband.

[Pants]

I pushed myself too hard after back injections this week and now, after deciding to recaulk the shower, cannot move.

Cannot do baths for the girls. DH SHCOKINGLY put upon since now he has to wash their hair. Like I do all the other weeks.

[Jaguar]

Sept 30, 2018 17:25:52 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Ahh. Apparently this week I went too far. DH is livid with my comments about white men. Awesome.

Tell him he can be livid when he himself gets raped by white men. Sam don't apologize cause he can't man up. His itty bitty feelings were hurt, too bad!

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 30, 2018 17:25:52 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Ahh. Apparently this week I went too far. DH is livid with my comments about white men. Awesome.

comments to him? comments in front of him? comments about him? 
My husband is a pretty classic white guy, but he is aware that he/white guys have a grotesque privilege and not an appropriate privilege. His frustration is more along the lines of "it's really hard to counteract everything that has been ingrained in your since birth", but he's not indignant that it can't or shouldn't be done. 

[Sam_2.0]

Sept 30, 2018 17:38:15 GMT -5 Pants said:

Sept 30, 2018 17:25:52 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Ahh. Apparently this week I went too far. DH is livid with my comments about white men. Awesome.

Fuck your husband.

Nah. Not in the mood

My comments were about white men in general. Nothing specific to him or my dad or my FIL, but mom and DH are angry with me. I said I am considering not voting for any white Christian male come Nov. And then I probably did go too far and told some white dude on Firebirds page to fuck off. I dont know him but he made me angry. I apologized to her in PM for the language

[Sam_2.0]

Sept 30, 2018 17:39:52 GMT -5 Pants said:

I pushed myself too hard after back injections this week and now, after deciding to recaulk the shower, cannot move.

Cannot do baths for the girls. DH SHCOKINGLY put upon since now he has to wash their hair. Like I do all the other weeks.

DH also has strep. So this weekend has sucked.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 30, 2018 16:40:10 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

Sept 30, 2018 11:20:07 GMT -5 regina24601 said:

I think you have to switch to the desktop site. If you're on an Android, click the three dots in a row in the top right then check the "switch to desktop site" box, then follow Pants's directions.

Sidebar: he's an asshole.

Yeah I know, but he usually doesn't add a personal insult at the end of every comment like he did to me in that thread. Hense the blocking. He must be going through something personal and I hope that he gets help for whatever problem he is having. I just refuse to be his punching bag.

I will go out on limb and say I normally appreciate how he plays Devil's Advocate. This time though, he definitely focused on a weird aspect of that particular conversation and would not let it go. I'm sorry you got the brunt of it. 

[Wisconsin Beth]

Sept 30, 2018 17:56:51 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Sept 30, 2018 17:38:15 GMT -5 Pants said:

Fuck your husband.

Nah. Not in the mood

My comments were about white men in general. Nothing specific to him or my dad or my FIL, but mom and DH are angry with me. I said I am considering not voting for any white Christian male come Nov. And then I probably did go too far and told some white dude on Firebirds page to fuck off. I dont know him but he made me angry. I apologized to her in PM for the language

I vote for women. The only men I vote for are incumbents with no one running against them.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 30, 2018 17:56:51 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Sept 30, 2018 17:38:15 GMT -5 Pants said:

Fuck your husband.

Nah. Not in the mood [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wink.png" alt="" class="smile" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png"]

My comments were about white men in general. Nothing specific to him or my dad or my FIL, but mom and DH are angry with me. I said I am considering not voting for any white Christian male come Nov. And then I probably did go too far and told some white dude on Firebirds page to fuck off. I dont know him but he made me angry. I apologized to her in PM for the language [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wink.png" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png" class="smile" alt=""]

1) Well, there's nothing to apologize for there since I'm pretty sure you get to decide how you want to vote. 
2) I'm jealous you get to talk to Firebird. 

[Lizard Queen]

Sept 30, 2018 18:01:09 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

Sept 30, 2018 17:56:51 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Nah. Not in the mood [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wink.png" class="smile" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png" alt=""]

My comments were about white men in general. Nothing specific to him or my dad or my FIL, but mom and DH are angry with me. I said I am considering not voting for any white Christian male come Nov. And then I probably did go too far and told some white dude on Firebirds page to fuck off. I dont know him but he made me angry. I apologized to her in PM for the language [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wink.png" alt="" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png" class="smile"]

I vote for women. The only men I vote for are incumbents with no one running against them.

I tend to vote for women, too, but don't if their ideology is completely opposed to mine.

[Pants]

Sept 30, 2018 17:56:51 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Sept 30, 2018 17:38:15 GMT -5 Pants said:

Fuck your husband.

Nah. Not in the mood

My comments were about white men in general. Nothing specific to him or my dad or my FIL, but mom and DH are angry with me. I said I am considering not voting for any white Christian male come Nov. And then I probably did go too far and told some white dude on Firebirds page to fuck off. I dont know him but he made me angry. I apologized to her in PM for the language

You telling someone to fuck off on a completely other person's facebook page impacts your husband... how... exactly?

[TheOtherMe]

Thank you NomoreDramaQ1015 and Knee Deep in Water Chloe  

I mostly vote for women and I sincerely doubt if I will ever vote for a member of the GOP again.  FYI, Grassley is my senator.  His grandson is being groomed to run for his seat when he retires or dies.  

I will vote for white men if their views align with mine.  I also don't vote for any woman.  She has to have views similar to mine.  Two women are running against each other for the state legislature.  I have questioned one a lot before the primary on a certain topic to make sure her views aligned with mine.  I knew her male opponent shared my views on that topic.  She convinced me so I voted for her.  She sent a letter out last week and she definitely shares my view on the issue.  She has my vote.  

I have her sign in my front yard.

I think a lot of women have been triggered this week.  White men need to stay out of it, especially privileged, old white men.  Today I remembered a sexual assault after a football game in high school when I was going to the car.  Yes, that stuff gets blocked.

I don't know the name of the abusers in either case and what happened in Paris was far scarier than what happened at the football game.  Grab em by the ***** and go by a kid, maybe 10 years old.  

My  friend is as stubborn as I am.  She got mad at a close friend of hers about 10 years ago, told her off during a phone call and has never talked to her again.  I hung up before I told her off and she must have not been aware that I was getting increasingly agitated.  I was nice the first two times.  I wasn't nice when I said I was hanging up, but that is all I said.  She really didn't want to hear what I might have said.

[Sam_2.0]

Sept 30, 2018 18:14:28 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

Sept 30, 2018 18:01:09 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

I vote for women. The only men I vote for are incumbents with no one running against them.

I tend to vote for women, too, but don't if their ideology is completely opposed to mine.

There's one white man I am going to vote for. Local state rep. The woman we have now is attrocious.

[Deleted]

Sept 30, 2018 14:57:38 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

Sept 30, 2018 14:10:27 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Yeah, I know he won't be able to claim him. I just am dreading the confrontation and I really don't want to give him the number at all in case he decides to try and beat me to the punch next year.  Seriously, how bad does he need the money if he waits until October to file? I freaking depend on every penny.

He doesn't need it, file as early as you can, like the day you receive your papers so you can file.

Even if he did beat me, I could dispute and win because I'm the custodial parent...although it would tie everything up for months. 

I'm just too chicken to tell him I already claimed DS.  He is going to wig out.  Especially if this means he's no longer getting a refund and will be penalized. 

[Pants]

Btw, thank you guys for inspiring me to finally do something about my house. I've come up with a new system we are going to try. It's called 5-4-3-2-1. Every day, all of us will do 5 very small things (throw away a piece of paper, put shoes by the door) and so on up to 1 big thing (cook a big meal, sweep the house). I write it out last night so there are age-appropriate things at each level. Hoping this is a way to help get us working as a family to keep things in better shape around here, and encourage some independence in B. For her, her 1 could be packing her lunch for the next day. We will see how it goes, but if we get through the week and it's still working, I may introduce a "swizzle" layer a la Chloe. Wish us luck! 

[Opti]

Sept 30, 2018 18:00:19 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Sept 30, 2018 16:40:10 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

Yeah I know, but he usually doesn't add a personal insult at the end of every comment like he did to me in that thread. Hense the blocking. He must be going through something personal and I hope that he gets help for whatever problem he is having. I just refuse to be his punching bag.

I will go out on limb and say I normally appreciate how he plays Devil's Advocate. This time though, he definitely focused on a weird aspect of that particular conversation and would not let it go. I'm sorry you got the brunt of it. 

He goes off the deep end sometimes. Yes he can play a good devil's advocate when he chooses to. That has not been the case lately. He's decided to jump the shark and complain about circumcision, blaming it on women no less. Most men have it done so young, they don't remember. I commented, but maybe I shouldn't have.

Yes a religious practice and hygiene practice is equivalent to sexual assault ... not.

[Deleted]

Sept 30, 2018 14:10:27 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 30, 2018 12:29:44 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

His return will get kicked back immediately because the SSN has already been claimed.
Ask me how I know.

Yeah, I know he won't be able to claim him. I just am dreading the confrontation and I really don't want to give him the number at all in case he decides to try and beat me to the punch next year.  Seriously, how bad does he need the money if he waits until October to file? I freaking depend on every penny.

Tell him you need every freaking penny.  I know that doesn't technically matter but get it out there, anyway.

[Pants]

Sept 30, 2018 19:29:20 GMT -5 Pants said:

Btw, thank you guys for inspiring me to finally do something about my house. I've come up with a new system we are going to try. It's called 5-4-3-2-1. Every day, all of us will do 5 very small things (throw away a piece of paper, put shoes by the door) and so on up to 1 big thing (cook a big meal, sweep the house). I write it out last night so there are age-appropriate things at each level. Hoping this is a way to help get us working as a family to keep things in better shape around here, and encourage some independence in B. For her, her 1 could be packing her lunch for the next day. We will see how it goes, but if we get through the week and it's still working, I may introduce a "swizzle" layer a la Chloe. Wish us luck! 

Aaaand DH is already arguing with me about why it's too much work every day. Fucking lazy ass asshole. 

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Sept 30, 2018 20:04:19 GMT -5 @bamafan1954 said:

Sept 30, 2018 14:10:27 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Yeah, I know he won't be able to claim him. I just am dreading the confrontation and I really don't want to give him the number at all in case he decides to try and beat me to the punch next year.  Seriously, how bad does he need the money if he waits until October to file? I freaking depend on every penny.

Tell him you need every freaking penny.  I know that doesn't technically matter but get it out there, anyway.

Everything always comes back to him comparing our set up with mine with Ex 1.0  He knows him and I alternate years, but that's the way our divorce decree was written and this is the last year it matters with him anyhow.  He's aged out of the credit and there is not going to be personal exemptions anymore with the new tax law.  

[muttleynfelix]

Sept 30, 2018 18:00:19 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Sept 30, 2018 16:40:10 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

Yeah I know, but he usually doesn't add a personal insult at the end of every comment like he did to me in that thread. Hense the blocking. He must be going through something personal and I hope that he gets help for whatever problem he is having. I just refuse to be his punching bag.

I will go out on limb and say I normally appreciate how he plays Devil's Advocate. This time though, he definitely focused on a weird aspect of that particular conversation and would not let it go. I'm sorry you got the brunt of it. 

I appreciate you saying this because I get that he usually does play devil's advocate and I like a lot more his posts than I used to, but the insults to me in every post to me was strange. I did engage and then after I slept on it, decided to delete my post and block him.

[muttleynfelix]

Sept 30, 2018 20:04:29 GMT -5 Pants said:

Sept 30, 2018 19:29:20 GMT -5 Pants said:

Btw, thank you guys for inspiring me to finally do something about my house. I've come up with a new system we are going to try. It's called 5-4-3-2-1. Every day, all of us will do 5 very small things (throw away a piece of paper, put shoes by the door) and so on up to 1 big thing (cook a big meal, sweep the house). I write it out last night so there are age-appropriate things at each level. Hoping this is a way to help get us working as a family to keep things in better shape around here, and encourage some independence in B. For her, her 1 could be packing her lunch for the next day. We will see how it goes, but if we get through the week and it's still working, I may introduce a "swizzle" layer a la Chloe. Wish us luck! 

Aaaand DH is already arguing with me about why it's too much work every day. Fucking lazy ass asshole. 

Sorry pants. The is horse shit.