The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

[Peace77]

Aug 29, 2018 9:47:35 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Aug 29, 2018 8:08:43 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Have you both brought this up to your DHs?

Yes, many, many times.  Hence him doing a lot more chores too.  It's not an excuse, but he does have chronic pain issues and he prioritizes work, fun stuff with the kids, and then chores.  I know he feels like nothing is ever good enough, and the house looks better more consistently than it ever has, and I still want more so maybe nothing ever will be enough for me.  LOL.  

I had forgotten that he's having a procedure done today that every time he's had it done knocks him out for about 2 weeks.  He swears life can't stop, and that he can't keep having this done if it does (but it also makes a lot of other things better after the 2 weeks).  So painting the ceiling isn't going to get done by him no matter how much he'd like to think he'll just suck it up and continue on.  We have concert tickets for Sunday night that he doesn't know about yet, but now I'm kind of dreading.  I had thought what a great gift it would be, but with the timing, he'll probably be limping out in so much pain that he won't get out of bed for 2 days after that.  

Could you borrow or rent a wheelchair!for going to the concert?

[raeoflyte]

Aug 29, 2018 12:04:07 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Aug 29, 2018 9:47:35 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Yes, many, many times.  Hence him doing a lot more chores too.  It's not an excuse, but he does have chronic pain issues and he prioritizes work, fun stuff with the kids, and then chores.  I know he feels like nothing is ever good enough, and the house looks better more consistently than it ever has, and I still want more so maybe nothing ever will be enough for me.  LOL.  

I had forgotten that he's having a procedure done today that every time he's had it done knocks him out for about 2 weeks.  He swears life can't stop, and that he can't keep having this done if it does (but it also makes a lot of other things better after the 2 weeks).  So painting the ceiling isn't going to get done by him no matter how much he'd like to think he'll just suck it up and continue on.  We have concert tickets for Sunday night that he doesn't know about yet, but now I'm kind of dreading.  I had thought what a great gift it would be, but with the timing, he'll probably be limping out in so much pain that he won't get out of bed for 2 days after that.  

Could you borrow or rent a wheelchair!for going to the concert?

It's a good idea, I'll suggest it, but I cant imagine he'll consider it. He tends to push himself, and the concert is at redrocks so outdoors and a wheelchair would be limiting. But depending on how he's feeling leading up to it, he might consider it. At least have the option maybe.

[Peace77]

Aug 29, 2018 12:23:32 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Aug 29, 2018 12:04:07 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Could you borrow or rent a wheelchair!for going to the concert?

It's a good idea, I'll suggest it, but I cant imagine he'll consider it. He tends to push himself, and the concert is at redrocks so outdoors and a wheelchair would be limiting. But depending on how he's feeling leading up to it, he might consider it. At least have the option maybe.

Maybe an electric scooter would be better for outdoors.  They can be disassembled and reassembled easily.

[TheOtherMe]

Aug 29, 2018 12:23:32 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Aug 29, 2018 12:04:07 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Could you borrow or rent a wheelchair!for going to the concert?

It's a good idea, I'll suggest it, but I cant imagine he'll consider it. He tends to push himself, and the concert is at redrocks so outdoors and a wheelchair would be limiting. But depending on how he's feeling leading up to it, he might consider it. At least have the option maybe.

Red Rocks near Denver is very difficult for people in wheel chairs.  I hope you figure out a way to go and enjoy.

[raeoflyte]

He's home and feeling good still.  Yay general anesthetic.  They repositioned the area so that hopefully he won't have as much discomfort, but if he does sitting will be pretty awful.  We'll figure it out.  I realize I'm not the one that has to deal with the pain directly, but I think it's worth it.  It helps with so many other issues, that a couple weeks of pain seem worth it. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Aug 29, 2018 10:06:57 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Aug 28, 2018 20:07:13 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I feel like a failure cause I get off at  2pm and thought I'd have all these things done daily now that I have free time but not even close.  I'm exhausted when I get home.  Hoping it'll start to get easier. I am excited about Labor Day because it means I can take a nap but I am also dreading the workload I will likely come back to on Tuesday.

Physically I am feeling much better now that I am off the anti-anxiety medication.  I can take the stairs two at a time which is a huge leap forward from huffing and puffing trying to get up a single flight.

My mood can still be all over the map.  DH thinks part of that is the sleep deprivation I'm going thru right now.  I will say getting up at 4:30 am and running non-stop for the next eight hours does limit how much brain space I can devote to anxiety.   However it is generating some depression.

I wish I fit  in better at work.   There are definietly cliques and I do not belong to any of them stuck in my corner doing ascension.   Supposedly in a couple of months trainees will rotate so one person is not stuck in the corner for months but I am not holding my breath they promised that to all the other trainees too when they started.  

I don't really get any feedback or instruction so I have no idea how I am doing or who to even really ask that question since I don't see my supervisor or his boss very often.    I figure if the pathologists aren't calling demanding my head then I must be doing a fairly decent job despite appearances making me feel otherwise.

Are you going to bed earlier?  

As far as work, ask to schedule a 1 on 1 with your boss to go over how you're doing and ask how often you can meet with him or her.  I've had to do that with my boss a few times and just straight up told her and everyone who will listen that I need external validation.  I probably come across as needy, but I'm remote and since I don't hear what is going on in the office I need that extra piece to feel like I'm on track.  Otherwise I start to worry and spiral.  

I go to bed at 8:30.  I just have a really hard time waking up in the dark and always have.   I get up naturally with the sun.

Then Gwen brought home a plague that caused me to get sick on Sunday.  Now DH is sick and his congestion has him snoring bad enough we may have to go back to separate rooms for awhile.

I got surprised today with the announcement they wanted me to start cutting practice tissue.  I think that bent the nose of one of the other trainees because they put her back on ascension to cover me (nothing I can do to control  that and refuse to feel guilty for it).  I was thrilled because it's a foot into the cool kids' club.

I sucked which was a bit of a blow to my ego but they didn't expect me to do fantastic, that's why you are given practice tissue.  I spent most of the afternoon trying to unlearn what I know.  I did notice that they do have the make/model of microtome I am used to. Nobody else likes it which means I wouldn't be taking anyone's spot.  I am going to ask if it works and can I use it, see if I do better with a machine I am familiar with.

[raeoflyte]

Sam -- how is A doing?  And random...have you taught her to crochet?  My kids finger knit and started needle knitting this summer (with help), but E really likes the crochet stuffy's.  My mom said she'd see about teaching them, but I don't know how hard it is to learn as I've never done it.   I only knit wash cloths for a reason.  

[chen35]

Text message I want to send DH:

I'm sorry your day is ruined because you agreed to do something you didn't want to do and people couldn't read your mind that you secretly weren't pleased. Also, your day isn't ruined, you're way overreacting.


Pretty sure it wouldn't go over well.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Aug 28, 2018 19:41:53 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

Aug 28, 2018 16:26:19 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Dh takes a lot of naps now that the kids are in school.  He does a lot more chores too, but he could get more done.  I might be high energy at least compared to him, but it's hard not to think about everything I could accomplish with 5 hours to myself everyday.  I've asked him to paint the ceilings this week so that I can rip up our carpet upstairs next week.  He suggested we leave the carpet in since the kids are still "wrecking" it.  E's practically 6 and we have hardwood under the carpet which will be easier to deal with any spills anyway.   I just don't get him sometimes.  

Good grief.  I’d be ecstatic with 5 hours to myself once a week.  I don’t think you’re overreacting.

I'm ecstatic about having tonight to myself. Dh took the kids in the trailer today. I'm joining them tomorrow. But tonight is just me at home. Well, except for the cat.

[Wisconsin Beth]

We had Open House at the kids school last night. Teachers seem fine. Classes seem fine. Hoping for a good year!

[Pants]

We almost made it through August, guys. So close. I was starting to breathe. And then the Family August Curse struck. 

B has a staph infection. Possibly MRSA. She's now quarantined from all enjoyable activities until it all gets figured out. 

(as a reminder, in Aug 2016 B got sick and was hospitalized for 2 months, 2017 my father had a pulmonary embolism and we had to evacuate him from Colorado, then 2 weeks later DH's father died. We really do feel like August is The Time When Terrible Things Happen To Us.) 

[Wisconsin Beth]

Shit Pants. Hugs and prayers for you all.

[raeoflyte]

Aug 31, 2018 14:50:22 GMT -5 Pants said:

We almost made it through August, guys. So close. I was starting to breathe. And then the Family August Curse struck. 

B has a staph infection. Possibly MRSA. She's now quarantined from all enjoyable activities until it all gets figured out. 

(as a reminder, in Aug 2016 B got sick and was hospitalized for 2 months, 2017 my father had a pulmonary embolism and we had to evacuate him from Colorado, then 2 weeks later DH's father died. We really do feel like August is The Time When Terrible Things Happen To Us.) 

Holy shit Pants!  That sucks!

[finnime]

Pants, here's hoping it's a short term staph completely responsive to ordinary antibiotics.

[raeoflyte]

Aug 31, 2018 14:33:12 GMT -5 chen35 said:

Text message I want to send DH:

I'm sorry your day is ruined because you agreed to do something you didn't want to do and people couldn't read your mind that you secretly weren't pleased. Also, your day isn't ruined, you're way overreacting.


Pretty sure it wouldn't go over well.

It would be awesome though.  

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Shit Pants I'm sorry.  Hopefully it'll respond to whatever the doctor gives you to treat it.

[TheOtherMe]

Aug 31, 2018 14:50:22 GMT -5 Pants said:

We almost made it through August, guys. So close. I was starting to breathe. And then the Family August Curse struck. 

B has a staph infection. Possibly MRSA. She's now quarantined from all enjoyable activities until it all gets figured out. 

(as a reminder, in Aug 2016 B got sick and was hospitalized for 2 months, 2017 my father had a pulmonary embolism and we had to evacuate him from Colorado, then 2 weeks later DH's father died. We really do feel like August is The Time When Terrible Things Happen To Us.) 

Hope B is better soon.    to B and mom and dad.

[ners]

Hugs Pants

[tcu2003]

Hugs, pants. That sucks. Hoping she responds well to the treatment.

[Jaguar]

I'm hoping the absolute best for B, and your sanity Pants. Hoping nothing comes up in August anymore for you and your family <<<< BIG HUGS >>>>

B must be so scared, poor thing.

[lurkyloo]

Hugs Pants.  Fingers crossed it’s a susceptible strain.

[flutterby]

Aug 29, 2018 12:23:32 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Aug 29, 2018 12:04:07 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Could you borrow or rent a wheelchair!for going to the concert?

It's a good idea, I'll suggest it, but I cant imagine he'll consider it. He tends to push himself, and the concert is at redrocks so outdoors and a wheelchair would be limiting. But depending on how he's feeling leading up to it, he might consider it. At least have the option maybe.

I never comment on this thread since my boys are almost launched, but I read it, and this caught my eye. I didn't realize another poster was so close to my location!

[raeoflyte]

Sept 2, 2018 7:33:32 GMT -5 flutterby said:

Aug 29, 2018 12:23:32 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

It's a good idea, I'll suggest it, but I cant imagine he'll consider it. He tends to push himself, and the concert is at redrocks so outdoors and a wheelchair would be limiting. But depending on how he's feeling leading up to it, he might consider it. At least have the option maybe.

I never comment on this thread since my boys are almost launched, but I read it, and this caught my eye. I didn't realize another poster was so close to my location!

*waves* 


I didn't know you were in my area either! 

[tcu2003]

How is B, bsb? Responding well to the treatment for staph?

[Pants]

Sept 3, 2018 15:28:21 GMT -5 tcu2003 said:

How is B, bsb? Responding well to the treatment for staph?

Thank you for asking - yes! She's responding to antibiotics, cyst is shrinking, all is well! Emotionally, still a bit hungover. When she gets sick, it triggers my PTSD from when she was sick-sick. Panic attacks, flashbacks, projecting worse case scenarios, the whole bit. It's hard.

Last night she was reading and had a bit of a sore throat, so her voice was a little gravelly, and reminded me of when she was in the hospital with G-B and her voice box was paralyzed. I could. not. breathe. Even though i knew it was just her needing to clear her throat.

The other day she told me when she gets sick, she also gets scared that she's going to get sick-sick too.

It's amazing how much that one thing continues to affect us.

[Jaguar]

Oh my <<<< BIG HUGS >>>> to you and your B, Pants.


I just read your post above and I'm tearing up something bad.

[ners]

Pants Prayers for continued healing for B.

[TheOtherMe]

Pants, hope B keeps getting better.

[tcu2003]

Hugs, bsb. I’m glad she’s getting better.

[gs11rmb]

Sept 3, 2018 15:36:26 GMT -5 Pants said:

Sept 3, 2018 15:28:21 GMT -5 tcu2003 said:

How is B, bsb? Responding well to the treatment for staph?

Thank you for asking - yes! She's responding to antibiotics, cyst is shrinking, all is well! Emotionally, still a bit hungover. When she gets sick, it triggers my PTSD from when she was sick-sick. Panic attacks, flashbacks, projecting worse case scenarios, the whole bit. It's hard.

Last night she was reading and had a bit of a sore throat, so her voice was a little gravelly, and reminded me of when she was in the hospital with G-B and her voice box was paralyzed. I could. not. breathe. Even though i knew it was just her needing to clear her throat.

The other day she told me when she gets sick, she also gets scared that she's going to get sick-sick too.

It's amazing how much that one thing continues to affect us.

I'm glad she is feeling better and I can totally understand your panic.  Is there a chance of relapse or are the chances of developing G-B the same as with any other child?