The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

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My not so itty-bitty 210 pound baby started back this week. 

Holy crap...that pic is huge.

[raeoflyte]

Awww--MPL he looks grown up.  

Have to ask though...what's in the bucket? 

[chen35]

He does look grown up! 

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Aug 22, 2018 11:23:54 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Have to ask though...what's in the bucket? 

He had a parade the day before the first day of school, so he had to bring his uniform in with him that day.  The bucket has his hat and shoes.

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I was watching video of him the other day from when he was under 2 and it's so crazy.  All of that seems like yesterday. 

What's that they say about raising kids?  The nights are so long, but the years go so fast. 

[tcu2003]

Wow, mpl, he does look so grown up!!

[zibazinski]

Aug 22, 2018 9:03:16 GMT -5 Pants said:

Aug 22, 2018 6:56:02 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Then lock it.

What does it matter to you if someone else's daughter crawls into their bed to tell them their fears about a major life change?

Rae's identified issue, *if* there was one, was that her daughter is having trouble coping with change. Not that her daughter is interrupting her sleep. 

The solution to a child coping with change is not locking your door. You're providing a solution for a problem literally noone asked for help with. 

Oh, thought there was exhaustion due to being constantly woken up

[andi9899]

Aug 22, 2018 11:35:31 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

I was watching video of him the other day from when he was under 2 and it's so crazy.  All of that seems like yesterday. 

What's that they say about raising kids?  The nights are so long, but the years go so fast. 

I saw him and rememberes the recent parmesan in the urinal shenanigans. I thought "It's the Parmesan Bandit!"

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There'd better not be cheese in that bucket. 

[andi9899]

Aug 22, 2018 13:47:33 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

There'd better not be cheese in that bucket. 

I think that incident was one of the more priceless ones posted on this thread. I got a really good laugh from it.

[tcu2003]

Aug 22, 2018 14:02:35 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Aug 22, 2018 13:47:33 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

There'd better not be cheese in that bucket. 

I think that incident was one of the more priceless ones posted on this thread. I got a really good laugh from it.

Wait, how did I miss this??!!??

[NastyWoman]

Aug 22, 2018 9:20:08 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Aug 22, 2018 7:30:03 GMT -5 steph08 said:

Some parents might lock their doors, but for me, I don't think it is a good idea. Even when I have woken up at 3 am to find a child staring at me! 

ROFL

That brings back some nightmare memories!  For an instant there, you swear they're going to raise a hatchet. 

It's all about good parenting  and I was the perfect parent on this, or at least so I thought. DS1 never got up in the middle of the nigt (and that is a true statement once he went down he stayed down). Of course we had to ruin this grand delusion of mine by having DS2. Not only did he crawl into our bed for years, after he finally realized the bed wasn't large enough for three people he would grab a little mattress and lie down on the side of our bed.  The problem was, his location was unpredictable: he could be at the foot of the bed, at his father's side, or my side.  So in the morning I always had to hang over the bedside before getting up just to make sure I wasn't stepping on my kid. 

Took me at least a decade after DS2 stopped this before I just started swinging my legs down in the morning without first looking.  ♫ Memories are made of this ♫ 

DS2 made up for ruining my delusions by having two wonderful little boys of his own

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Aug 22, 2018 14:25:03 GMT -5 tcu2003 said:

Aug 22, 2018 14:02:35 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I think that incident was one of the more priceless ones posted on this thread. I got a really good laugh from it.

Wait, how did I miss this??!!??

It was actually on the other board.  Not sure if this link will work, but I'll give it a try.

ymam.proboards.com/post/2844000/thread

[tcu2003]

That link worked, MPL. And seriously - I’m LOLing at that. Hilarious!

[MJ2.0]

I would have died laughing if DS came to me with that issue!!!

[chapeau]

Aug 22, 2018 17:51:10 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I would have died laughing if DS came to me with that issue!!!

Me too! I mean, I’d have tried to be parent-like and channel my mom at her most teacher-like, but I’d have failed. Probably including advice on how to not get caught next time.

[andi9899]

Aug 22, 2018 17:51:10 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I would have died laughing if DS came to me with that issue!!!

Same. It's probably best I have girls.

[geenamercile]

MJ- good looking kid there.  

ODD has another eye doctor appointment today.  We are going to a different place, and DH is coming with me.  I did not remind her of it today, but will pick up from school.  So far things seem to be going well at school this week.  Less fuss about going and she is coming home and doing homework with out tears.  Yesterday we even had some of the neighbor hood kids over and she was interacting and playing with them, vs hiding in her room or complaining about YDD bringing them up to their room.

Waiting on the soccer information for YDD, but that should be starting soon.

[MJ2.0]

That was MPL’s kid.

So this morning I caught DS trying to drink water soaked up from the sponge I use to clean the bathroom. I was honestly shocked. He fumbled and said something about thinking the door was closed - indicating to me that he likely knew it was something he shouldn’t have been doing. I haven’t had to worry about him putting random things in his mouth since he was like 3, so I’m at a loss for why stuff like that is coming up again at 7. And I never got a real answer as to why he did it. He said he was thirsty, but we both know that isn’t the reason as he knows where his cups are and how to get his own water. I explained to him that the sponge has cleaned everything in the bathroom with cleaning stuff that could make him very sick if he drank it. No, I was not super calm and supportive but I was WAAAAY more calm than my mom would have been if she caught me doing that. He was also informed that all solo bathroom time is now gone. He has already been having issues taking unnecessary time in the bathroom to the point where he has to keep the door open, and now I have to be in there pretty much all the time. And now he has to go back to coming to the ladies room with me.

I just don’t know about this kid sometimes. A lot of times.

[Pants]

Aug 23, 2018 9:41:17 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

That was MPL’s kid. [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/smile.gif" alt="" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png" class="smile"]

So this morning I caught DS trying to drink water soaked up from the sponge I use to clean the bathroom. I was honestly shocked. He fumbled and said something about thinking the door was closed - indicating to me that he likely knew it was something he shouldn’t have been doing. I haven’t had to worry about him putting random things in his mouth since he was like 3, so I’m at a loss for why stuff like that is coming up again at 7. And I never got a real answer as to why he did it. He said he was thirsty, but we both know that isn’t the reason as he knows where his cups are and how to get his own water. I explained to him that the sponge has cleaned everything in the bathroom with cleaning stuff that could make him very sick if he drank it. No, I was not super calm and supportive but I was WAAAAY more calm than my mom would have been if she caught me doing that. He was also informed that all solo bathroom time is now gone. He has already been having issues taking unnecessary time in the bathroom to the point where he has to keep the door open, and now I have to be in there pretty much all the time. And now he has to go back to coming to the ladies room with me.

I just don’t know about this kid sometimes. A lot of times.

Kids are weird. I used to like to drink out of bath sponges as a kid. 

Do not take this as an indication that he'll turn out ok though, because... well, I'm me. 

[MJ2.0]

I’m trying to chalk it up to kids are weird, but his ADHD and my neuroticism is making my brain swirl with possibilities. I’m starting to think it is actually easier having 2 kids - that way you’re not putting all your hopes and expectations on one kid. Plus they can play with each other. On the other hand - 2 pregnancies, 2 births, 2 bedtimes...

[Pants]

Aug 23, 2018 9:50:11 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I’m trying to chalk it up to kids are weird, but his ADHD and my neuroticism is making my brain swirl with possibilities. I’m starting to think it is actually easier having 2 kids - that way you’re not putting all your hopes and expectations on one kid. Plus they can play with each other. On the other hand - 2 pregnancies, 2 births, 2 bedtimes... [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/tongue2.png" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png" class="smile" alt=""]

Ok, like what tho? Like what's the worst thing that could happen if you gave him a sponge that *didn't* have cleaning products all over it and said "here ya go, don't make it weird." 

[MJ2.0]

I guess nothing? My main concern is what other stuff is he doing while no one’s looking? Also, he is a class clown/people pleaser and we have already had problems in school with him doing stupid or slightly dangerous things for a laugh. He’s a smart kid. I just want him to use his brain. That’s what I told him.

[raeoflyte]

Aug 23, 2018 9:50:11 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I’m trying to chalk it up to kids are weird, but his ADHD and my neuroticism is making my brain swirl with possibilities. I’m starting to think it is actually easier having 2 kids - that way you’re not putting all your hopes and expectations on one kid. Plus they can play with each other. On the other hand - 2 pregnancies, 2 births, 2 bedtimes... [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/tongue2.png" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png" class="smile" alt=""]

Yeah, but then they can both let you down.  (I think both my sister and I have redeemed ourselves to our mom, but there were some rough years there).  

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Aug 23, 2018 10:00:30 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I guess nothing? My main concern is what other stuff is he doing while no one’s looking? Also, he is a class clown/people pleaser and we have already had problems in school with him doing stupid or slightly dangerous things for a laugh. He’s a smart kid. I just want him to use his brain. That’s what I told him.

Kids, especially BOYS, do all kinds of stupid/gross stuff.  My list is soooooo long for my older son.  Hello?  Parmesan in the urinals...at FIFTEEN.  When he was in grade school it was on thing after another.  Even now he usually has cash on him because he wins bets or dares to eat things or do things.  He's insanely smart, but still a boy.  I really hope he doesn't join a fraternity. 

[swasat]

Aug 23, 2018 10:00:30 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I guess nothing? My main concern is what other stuff is he doing while no one’s looking? Also, he is a class clown/people pleaser and we have already had problems in school with him doing stupid or slightly dangerous things for a laugh. He’s a smart kid. I just want him to use his brain. That’s what I told him.

Many kids do all kinds of gross/wacky/weird/stupid stuff. Even some of the most well behaved ones My DS is 13 and a super awesome kid, but there are things that he has done that made me see red. Then I decided I need to pick my battles. As long as he is alive, is not in a life mess, is 90% functional, then I am going to ignore the weird/stupid stuff. Or else I would end up having a heart attack.

DD used to eat mulch by the handful till she was 3 years old! That child was not a good eater, but soil and mulch was another matter altogether   We got rid of all house plants then and still removed mulch and soil from her mouth many a times. She is now 10 and has no lasting brain damage thankfully.

[MJ2.0]

Aug 23, 2018 10:25:56 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Aug 23, 2018 10:00:30 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I guess nothing? My main concern is what other stuff is he doing while no one’s looking? Also, he is a class clown/people pleaser and we have already had problems in school with him doing stupid or slightly dangerous things for a laugh. He’s a smart kid. I just want him to use his brain. That’s what I told him.

Kids, especially BOYS, do all kinds of stupid/gross stuff.  My list is soooooo long for my older son.  Hello?  Parmesan in the urinals...at FIFTEEN.  When he was in grade school it was on thing after another.  Even now he usually has cash on him because he wins bets or dares to eat things or do things.  He's insanely smart, but still a boy.  I really hope he doesn't join a fraternity. 

Yeah I’m scared of DS joining a fraternity too! Maybe I just need to chill a bit. But I’m pretty tightly wound when it comes to my kid.

[raeoflyte]

I don't want to get my hopes up too much, but both kids got up and got dressed without reminders and E brushed and flossed without any requests from us and had no complaints about me brushing her hair.  I only asked that socks and shoes be put on once.  My morning doesn't feel complete.  

[MJ2.0]

My main issue with the sponge is that I had just used it the night before to clean the shower. It’s rinsed and wrung our but idk how much cleaner is still in there. I don’t know what’s worse - this or when I caught him trying to drink rain runoff from a shack at the Philly pier.

[geenamercile]

Aug 23, 2018 9:41:17 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

That was MPL’s kid. [img src="http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/smile.gif" class="smile" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png" alt=""]

So this morning I caught DS trying to drink water soaked up from the sponge I use to clean the bathroom. I was honestly shocked. He fumbled and said something about thinking the door was closed - indicating to me that he likely knew it was something he shouldn’t have been doing. I haven’t had to worry about him putting random things in his mouth since he was like 3, so I’m at a loss for why stuff like that is coming up again at 7. And I never got a real answer as to why he did it. He said he was thirsty, but we both know that isn’t the reason as he knows where his cups are and how to get his own water. I explained to him that the sponge has cleaned everything in the bathroom with cleaning stuff that could make him very sick if he drank it. No, I was not super calm and supportive but I was WAAAAY more calm than my mom would have been if she caught me doing that. He was also informed that all solo bathroom time is now gone. He has already been having issues taking unnecessary time in the bathroom to the point where he has to keep the door open, and now I have to be in there pretty much all the time. And now he has to go back to coming to the ladies room with me.

I just don’t know about this kid sometimes. A lot of times.

Drinking out of a sponge feels different.  I remember doing it as a kid when taking a bath too.  Of course it was the one I used to wash my body with so... it might be a smidgen better then the one you washed the toilet with.  But anyway which way, I would thinking that it is more of a sensation/sensory thing.  Does he have any sensory diagnoses with the ADHD.  They can go hand in hand at time.