The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

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Sept 1, 2017 8:31:04 GMT -5 WholeLottaNothin said:

Aug 31, 2017 16:22:55 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

A YEAR?!?!?!!? Mass. only made me go 6 months for 1 lousy seizure. It worked out ok only because where I was living at the time I could easily walk places and DH was still driving but a year?!?!? HELL NO!

I'm sorry. I know it's hard and it sucks.

I had seizures when I was in my senior year of high school but this was the first one in 17 years. I didn't even have a neurologist anymore or had been on meds for 13 years it had been so long, so I am starting over . My old neurologist is semi-retired and works mainly with stroke patients now. I know you are in a different state, but do you know if it is from the date of the seizure that they are counting a year?

Ugh.  So sorry.  I sometimes have seizures after I pass out.  I've been told this is normal and if it's under so many seconds (can't remember exactly), then it's not actually from a seizure disorder, but a side effect of the faint.  I am so afraid that someday someone is going to witness one of these and I could end up with my license pulled.  I honestly don't know what I would do if that happened.  It's not like I can walk to work.

[WholeLottaNothin]

I really can't either. I suppose I could if I was childless and it wasn't winter. But I have been responsible for like 80% of the kid carting around so it is going to be a huge adjustment for awhile. The doctor was originally from Kentucky and is new to our area and said it is 90 days there. He was as shocked as we were at the year requirement. I will manage but I feel like a child having to get a ride everywhere. The public transit here leaves a lot to be desired.

[chen35]

Hugs Nothin, that is so hard to deal with! 

Rae- there is a charter school across the street from us that focuses really heavily on athletics as well as academics. The kids have athletic goals each year, and get tons of recess time. I will definitely be looking into it. 1 recess is not enough!

[Lizard Queen]

At ODS's school, kindergarten gets 3 recesses, and the rest have 2. Only one day of PE per week, though, which sucks, IMO. The music class is pretty active, though, but also only once a week, which beyond sucks, IMO.

[MJ2.0]

I think recess is important all throughout schooling.  Honestly, us adults could greatly benefit from a daily "recess" too.  Moving around, getting fresh air, and putting a pause button on work for a bit should be something we all do regardless of age.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Recess 2 times a day and PE 2-3 days a week, it alternates.   The PE thing applies to K-12.  Personally I would have been happy having PE only once a week, it was a special form of hell for me since I am not super coordinated AND somehow from 7th grade onward I got stuck with the popular kids.

Great self esteem booster when your PE teacher lets people pick teams and you're last so she has to assign you to a team while said team loudly bitches about it.  Then they stick you as far out into the field as possible so you can't "ruin the game".

It left me with a lifetime hatred of group sports.   My former PI asked me if I was a runner because I apparently have the natural build to be one.  I said no, I never thought about it I was never encouraged to find something I was good at sports wise.  I was ignored all thru school when it came to that stuff.   The kids that were in sports already, often taught by the PE teacher, were showered with attention.

[andi9899]

I was a serious athlete in HS and I don't recall being showered with attention. Maybe I wasn't in the right sports. I did cheer and volleyball in school and dance outside of school. I was moderately popular.

I find it amusing that I grew up to be a fat nerd. 🤓

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 1, 2017 10:30:33 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I was a serious athlete in HS and I don't recall being showered with attention. Maybe I wasn't in the right sports. I did cheer and volleyball in school and dance outside of school. I was moderately popular.

I find it amusing that I grew up to be a fat nerd. 🤓

A lot of teachers had a bad habit of playing favorites. They weren't supposed to but they did.

The American History teacher was just as bad, he coached baseball and heavily favored the students in his class that were on the team.

Then there was the PE teacher who was always hitting on the cheerleaders.    As far as I know he's still teaching there.

[Lizard Queen]

There's an arts charter school nearby that I would've loved to attend had it been around back in the day. They don't have a gym--they do tap, jazz or some other dance for PE. 💗

[andi9899]

Sept 1, 2017 10:36:40 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 1, 2017 10:30:33 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I was a serious athlete in HS and I don't recall being showered with attention. Maybe I wasn't in the right sports. I did cheer and volleyball in school and dance outside of school. I was moderately popular.

I find it amusing that I grew up to be a fat nerd. 🤓

A lot of teachers had a bad habit of playing favorites. They weren't supposed to but they did.

The American History teacher was just as bad, he coached baseball and heavily favored the students in his class that were on the team.

Then there was the PE teacher who was always hitting on the cheerleaders.    As far as I know he's still teaching there.

There was a teacher that made some comments that I thought were inappropriate to the cheerleaders too. Thing 1 was a cheerleader and told me about it and I called the school and went apeshit. I told them that if that man ever touched my daughter even to shake her hand that I was going to go up there and beat the crap out of him and go to jail with a smile on my face. I don't think he's there anymore. Not because of me, he either moved on or retired. I don't remember which.

[andi9899]

Sept 1, 2017 10:44:51 GMT -5 Lizard Queen said:

There's an arts charter school nearby that I would've loved to attend had it been around back in the day. They don't have a gym--they do tap, jazz or some other dance for PE. 💗

My kids school you can either take dance or team sports. I think there is a general PE class too. Thing 2 is in team sports this year. I always took dance. I think Thing 1 did general. Neither one of my kids can dance which I find amusing considering both me and their dad are very good dancers. That's actually the only thing I miss about him. Him being my dance partner. None of the guys I've dated since have really been able to dance. Oh well. I'll just keep doing Zumba so I can get my dance on.

[raeoflyte]

I looked through the schedule more.  They have an hour and 20 minutes of math everyday.  "Specials" are only 40 minutes a day (rotates between art, PE, and music -- PE and music are twice a week).  Lots of reading and writing.  Science and history everyday.  

I was told our schools were going to crap by not teaching core subjects.  Repeatedly, for years.  Come to find out they say the pledge of allegience (including UNDER GOD) every day, have practically 0 unstructured play time, minimal arts and PE and instead spend over 5 hours a day on said core subjects.  Oh, and they teach cursive too, in a school that has 80% of the kids on free lunch that represents 27 different home languages.   

Don't get me wrong.  The teachers are amazing and I could go on forever about the incredible things they do.  But if I didn't have the kids that I do that like to follow instructions and are capable of sitting in their seats and paying attention for long periods of time I don't know what I'd do.  

[raeoflyte]

Nothin--we had a friend who had to go 6 months without a license after a seizure with 2 little ones and it was awful.  I can't imagine.  His parents came out for as long as they could to help out, but they couldn't stay indefinitely.  I don't know what you do, but is there any chance you could work remotely at least part time as part of a medical accomodation?  

Not that it helps now, but I really can't wait for driver-less cars to be on the market.  

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I was told our schools were going to crap by not teaching core subjects. Repeatedly, for years.

I know right?  I keep hearing how "new math" is making kids dumber and how nobody can find an intelligent American worker anymore thanks to "new math".

Gwen can run circles around me in math.  She's seven years old.  I'm 34 years old and was taught the supposed old school top notch NASA control producing math that made America great.   Either I am mentally challenged, my kid is Sheldon Cooper or the way I was taught math is not the be all end all.

[Sam_2.0]

I love the "new" math Maybe because I majored in the stuff. It seems like a silly exercise when they are younger but it is really teaching them the concept of how and why vs. just rote memorization. I am enjoying seeing Aly's 1st grade math work and watching her get concepts already. ETA - I think many parents struggle with it because we weren't ever encouraged to figure out the why or how to get to the right answer (or that there could be more than one answer or ways to get there!).

Rae - I struggle with the pledge part too. It seems creepy as hell. I really don't want Aly to do it every day, but at the same time I don't want to single her out to the classroom either.

[chen35]

I like the new math too, helps them (and me, ha) see much more of the why of things, rather than just having them memorize how to do something.

[muttleynfelix]

Some of the examples I see of new math is actually how I have always done math for me. I'm just brilliant enough that I figured it out on my own. Haha.j/k

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

All I got was now I struggle with TWO different math concepts.

Oh well, the answer was going to be "Go ask your father" any time she needs help with math homework anyhow.  I decided that before she was born.

[raeoflyte]

I keep meaning to have C teach me how he learned multiplication, and he's so excited to get into division this year.    

I don't actually mind the pledge, but from how many different people talk about how schools don't let kids do that anymore I was surprised to learn that they do, and so far every school of every person I know says the entire pledge every morning.  

[Pants]

Sept 1, 2017 12:07:10 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

I love the "new" math Maybe because I majored in the stuff. It seems like a silly exercise when they are younger but it is really teaching them the concept of how and why vs. just rote memorization. I am enjoying seeing Aly's 1st grade math work and watching her get concepts already. ETA - I think many parents struggle with it because we weren't ever encouraged to figure out the why or how to get to the right answer (or that there could be more than one answer or ways to get there!).

Rae - I struggle with the pledge part too. It seems creepy as hell. I really don't want Aly to do it every day, but at the same time I don't want to single her out to the classroom either.

The post about this on facebook was really interesting to me - because it's literally how I've always done addition. Isn't that how everyone does addition? 

[Sam_2.0]

Sept 1, 2017 12:27:26 GMT -5 Pants said:

Sept 1, 2017 12:07:10 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

I love the "new" math Maybe because I majored in the stuff. It seems like a silly exercise when they are younger but it is really teaching them the concept of how and why vs. just rote memorization. I am enjoying seeing Aly's 1st grade math work and watching her get concepts already. ETA - I think many parents struggle with it because we weren't ever encouraged to figure out the why or how to get to the right answer (or that there could be more than one answer or ways to get there!).

Rae - I struggle with the pledge part too. It seems creepy as hell. I really don't want Aly to do it every day, but at the same time I don't want to single her out to the classroom either.

The post about this on facebook was really interesting to me - because it's literally how I've always done addition. Isn't that how everyone does addition? 

It was a subtraction exercise But, subtraction is really just addition (just like division is multiplication). Took me a LOT longer than 2nd grade to figure that one out!

[quince]

I think teaching kids how to understand math instead of memorize it is awesome... maybe in a generation there will be less of that divide between people who memorize and those who GET it and doesn't have it leaving them struggling in higher math classes.

I used to joke about people who majored in math in university (gently! Not in a mean way!) and then I married one. He was trying to teach our son greek characters when he started scribbling.  I'm reasonably good at math too, but since husband has a degree in it, I'm looking forward to offloading all the math homework helping onto him.

I am worried about eldest starting school because of all the...sitting time. It's not for another year, but he's not great at sitting still.  I also feel like we're in a weird limbo, since he's slowly phasing out of ABA and his therapists think it unlikely he needs one on one help regularly once he gets into school, but he's still on the spectrum so things won't ever be normal...I think it is easier to get help with a pronounced problem than minor accommodations for one that's been worked on extensively. I'm GLAD he needs less and less help, I just hope we can get him the bit of extra he will need once in school.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

DH is always commenting on how he doesn't get how I can do my job when I am so bad at math.  I told him I'm not doing math like I was expected to do it in school.  I gather the numbers and then interpret them which is an entirely different skill set.  I imagine if I had been taught math the way they teach Gwen I wouldn't have struggled near as much.

Guess that makes me one of the ignorant masses that nobody wants to hire and contributed to the downfall of public education.

[thyme4change]

The problem with "new math" isn't the math - It is that some teachers don't have experience in teaching it, and that gives the whole concept a bad name.

[sbcalimom]

DD1 is in 3rd grade this year and she has new math too here in Germany at her international school. I think it makes no sense because it's not how I learned but it does really seem to help her understand. It takes her a long time to get it but then she's good. I just wish they'd send instructions home for the parents so I felt more competent helping!

Luckily, the international school here is very focused on movement and hands on learning so they get 3 recesses plus they have breaks between periods where the kids help clean the classrooms/move around/run in the halls and such.

[TheOtherMe]

Nephew teaches the new math, 2nd year of teaching.  He tried to teach me and I could not comprehend it.  He gave up on me and I have a degree in accounting that used a lot of math.

[Sam_2.0]

I am half cracking up, half terrified for my future right now. Next door there is are 11y and 13y boys. The older sis of Aly's neighbor friend (she's about 10 or so) came over to play with Aly. Not too odd since she does follow her little bro over here every so often. But this time she had a friend and they REALLY wanted to play in Aly's room. Yeah, because her room overlooks the back yard where the next door neighbor is having his birthday party lol! The big girls totally just wanted to spy on the boys' party. Oh goodness.

[empress of self-improvement]

Sept 1, 2017 8:31:04 GMT -5 WholeLottaNothin said:

Aug 31, 2017 16:22:55 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

A YEAR?!?!?!!? Mass. only made me go 6 months for 1 lousy seizure. It worked out ok only because where I was living at the time I could easily walk places and DH was still driving but a year?!?!? HELL NO!

I'm sorry. I know it's hard and it sucks.

I had seizures when I was in my senior year of high school but this was the first one in 17 years. I didn't even have a neurologist anymore or had been on meds for 13 years it had been so long, so I am starting over . My old neurologist is semi-retired and works mainly with stroke patients now. I know you are in a different state, but do you know if it is from the date of the seizure that they are counting a year?

For me, it was. My seizure was on 9/22 and I got to drive again on 3/22. That was my birthday present that year. My mother cursed me with the seizure on her birthday and I got to drive again on mine.

I had a former café manager who had no seizures for the longest time either and then she had one out of the blue in the middle of the café. I think it was the stress of running that hellhole as she went back to HR after that.

[empress of self-improvement]

Sept 1, 2017 12:24:55 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

All I got was now I struggle with TWO different math concepts.

Oh well, the answer was going to be "Go ask your father" any time she needs help with math homework anyhow.  I decided that before she was born.

Yeah. Go ask your father didn't work in my house. He was as inept in math as I am. He was an English and Social Studies teacher. Neither of us are numbers people unless it's page numbers. Those we can get into!

[dee27]

One of my friends has been on meds for seizures for 40 years, but the doctor upped the dose last year. Two months ago she had a seizure while driving, and she had no memory of her car accident. Doctor advised her to stop driving permanently since this was her second accident because of a seizure in the last two years.