The kid thread: Planning, pregnancy & parenting

[Jaguar]

Holy Shit muttleynfelix, that really sucks, I'm so sorry. <<< BIG HUGS >>>

[Sam_2.0]

Big hugs, Drama. 

I hope your appt went well, Nuttin <3

FX that maybe the bill will be written off, Muttley! That's happened to us before. Or maybe the dr will re-code it and send through insurance again?

[Sam_2.0]

I stayed up last night and turned in a project at 11pm. Felt sick to my stomach as I did it. It's a big project with a lot of visibility from higher ups and I don't want to screw up now. And I found out yesterday morning that I get to lead an all day meeting tomorrow that I am not yet prepared for, so I guess we have another late night coming up. Fabulous. Thankfully mom took J home with her tonight so I just need to get A fed & caught up on all her homework, get the baby settled, and get back to work. DH is out late so I cant really start until he gets home since T likes to cry every time I log in to work. LOL! THat's how I feel too

[muttleynfelix]

Ha well, Nevermind. We did get the bill. The adjusted amount was $75.

[muttleynfelix]

Good luck Sam.

[Jaguar]

Aug 30, 2017 19:08:09 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

Ha well, Nevermind. We did get the bill. The adjusted amount was $75.

$4000 to $75, what the bloody hell

[NastyWoman]

Have I said lately that I have the cutest DGSs in the world? DDIL send me a couple of pictures because we coudn't skype this weekend and there is DGS1 prancing around proudly in his hot pink tennis shoes (he takes after his uncle -DS1- whose favorite color at that age was pink as well) and DGS2 just turned 2 months and has the cutest smile

[econstudent]

Aug 30, 2017 19:08:09 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

Ha well, Nevermind. We did get the bill. The adjusted amount was $75.

I'm glad it worked out!

[muttleynfelix]

Aug 30, 2017 19:11:24 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

Aug 30, 2017 19:08:09 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

Ha well, Nevermind. We did get the bill. The adjusted amount was $75.

$4000 to $75, what the bloody hell

That was my reaction. I feel bad for my rant.

[tcu2003]

PDQ as I will make this go *poof* later, but for those I'm not friends with on FB, here's a snapshot of the past year.

Happy First birthday to M! Not that we're celebrating until the weekend after this one, but we did take fresh raspberries (one of her faves) to daycare for her and the other babies in her class who can have them.

**poof**

[azucena]

Aug 30, 2017 17:15:30 GMT -5 muttleynfelix said:

OH MY GOD! I was downloading some EOBs to get paid back from my HSA. And I noticed a charge for over $4k from a lab that my insurance isn't going to cover. We haven't seen the bill, but I am freaking out. I don't even know what it was for (it is for DH and that date he had some cortisone shots). We just used half our savings for a new AC unit. I went ahead and paid that in full. But then we got the bill for $1400 for DH'S treatment the same day as the lab claim. I had to set up a payment plan. Our savings haven't been this low in 10 years. I'm freaking out. I guess no gymnastics for our kids for a year or two. I probably should pull Jocelyn from preschool, but I won't. So now what to do. DH just needs to get disability, but at this point that may be a huge uphill battle. I know he thinks he can work, but I don't see how or what. I've already pulled my retirement back to just to get the match. If we cut cable, we have to cut Internet to save any money. Our cell phones are pretty cheap. Not sure what else to cut.

Eta: nevermind. We apparently did get the bill and it was $75.

Is he opposed to applying for disability or do you think he won't be approved? fwiw, my DH was able to get disability the first time he applied. At the time, that extra money was very necessary for our budget.

[econstudent]

So cute, tcu! Happy birthday M!

[tcu2003]

Hugs, drama.

And so glad that you insurance did cover most of your large bill, muttley.

[azucena]

Vent...why does my family insist on using my bath towel?! Dh, dd1, and DD2 all equally guilty. I thought having a master bathroom in the new house would help. Nope, the girls are sometimes showering in here because it's bigger or using the jacuzzi tub. And dh will use mine even if his is dry and hanging right next to it. And they all shower at night so when I get up at 5 am, my towel is still really wet. Most often it ends up in a wad on the floor or even worse, on the toilet lid. Gross! So it ends up smelling like mildew which I hate and apparently I am the only one who smells it so they think I'm crazy. So irritating and I've brought it up over and over and over. I don't have many pet peeves but this is definitely one of them. My only solution seems to be hanging it up in my closet but who wants to do that. I'll end up in the shower without it when no one else is awake to hand it to me. So then my choice is to be a hypocrite and use DH'S towel. Ugh, so, so, so annoying. Anyone have any brilliant ideas?

[Jaguar]

Happiest Birthday M!

[raeoflyte]

So, so cute TCU!!!

[msventoux]

Aug 30, 2017 20:54:57 GMT -5 azucena said:

Vent...why does my family insist on using my bath towel?! Dh, dd1, and DD2 all equally guilty. I thought having a master bathroom in the new house would help. Nope, the girls are sometimes showering in here because it's bigger or using the jacuzzi tub. And dh will use mine even if his is dry and hanging right next to it. And they all shower at night so when I get up at 5 am, my towel is still really wet. Most often it ends up in a wad on the floor or even worse, on the toilet lid. Gross! So it ends up smelling like mildew which I hate and apparently I am the only one who smells it so they think I'm crazy. So irritating and I've brought it up over and over and over. I don't have many pet peeves but this is definitely one of them. My only solution seems to be hanging it up in my closet but who wants to do that. I'll end up in the shower without it when no one else is awake to hand it to me. So then my choice is to be a hypocrite and use DH'S towel. Ugh, so, so, so annoying. Anyone have any brilliant ideas?

Wake them up. Streak around the house wet and naked, banging on a pan, shrieking that you don't have a towel. Don't stop until a clean towel is provided by them. Shouldn't have to do it more than once. 😁

[raeoflyte]

Acuzena--not sure if this helps, but we don't have personal towels.  I keep 4 towels that are rolled up and can be grabbed from the shower if needed that are really for dh and I.  The kids towels are in a drawer but one of us is always with them.  Any towel that ends up on the floor is tossed in the hamper.  Towels hung up are usually used once more before thrown in the wash.  Admittedly I need to bathe the kids more often, but I can usually get by on one load of towels a week.  

[cktc]

Aug 30, 2017 20:54:57 GMT -5 azucena said:

Vent...why does my family insist on using my bath towel?! Dh, dd1, and DD2 all equally guilty. I thought having a master bathroom in the new house would help. Nope, the girls are sometimes showering in here because it's bigger or using the jacuzzi tub. And dh will use mine even if his is dry and hanging right next to it. And they all shower at night so when I get up at 5 am, my towel is still really wet. Most often it ends up in a wad on the floor or even worse, on the toilet lid. Gross! So it ends up smelling like mildew which I hate and apparently I am the only one who smells it so they think I'm crazy. So irritating and I've brought it up over and over and over. I don't have many pet peeves but this is definitely one of them. My only solution seems to be hanging it up in my closet but who wants to do that. I'll end up in the shower without it when no one else is awake to hand it to me. So then my choice is to be a hypocrite and use DH'S towel. Ugh, so, so, so annoying. Anyone have any brilliant ideas?

I got a bright pink towel and DH still stole it. He's better about it now and I just cycle more frequently anyway.

[Pants]

Aug 30, 2017 20:54:57 GMT -5 azucena said:

Vent...why does my family insist on using my bath towel?! Dh, dd1, and DD2 all equally guilty. I thought having a master bathroom in the new house would help. Nope, the girls are sometimes showering in here because it's bigger or using the jacuzzi tub. And dh will use mine even if his is dry and hanging right next to it. And they all shower at night so when I get up at 5 am, my towel is still really wet. Most often it ends up in a wad on the floor or even worse, on the toilet lid. Gross! So it ends up smelling like mildew which I hate and apparently I am the only one who smells it so they think I'm crazy. So irritating and I've brought it up over and over and over. I don't have many pet peeves but this is definitely one of them. My only solution seems to be hanging it up in my closet but who wants to do that. I'll end up in the shower without it when no one else is awake to hand it to me. So then my choice is to be a hypocrite and use DH'S towel. Ugh, so, so, so annoying. Anyone have any brilliant ideas?

I swear I'm not trying to be a smartass, but have you tried talking to them about it? If your girls are able to bathe/shower alone, they should be able to understand that this really bothers you. Your DH too, obviously. Sometimes I find even with my five year old, if I can explain why something she does just annoys the ever-living fuck out of me, she will decrease the behavior. I.e., "when I get out of the shower, I really want to be able to find a clean dry towel waiting for me. When that doesn't happen, I get very frustrated, because it's one of the little things that makes me happy in the morning, and my day just doesn't start right without it. So please don't use my towel, or if you do, please replace it with a clean, dry one, so I can start the day off happy and not pissed off." Or whatever script would work for you. 

Then if if that didn't change things I would take away all the towels in the house and keep them under lock and key and only pull out dry ones for me while the 3 of them share a single one. Because I'm also vengeful. 

[TheHaitian]

Not sure I can remember who but to answer a question about home situation:

I think my home is perfectly clean, and workers/people that have visited have said same; but remember wife and MIL are OCD about it.

MIL takes care of daughter when we are not here (wife works outside the home) and it is still an adjustment. Sometimes my wife comes back home and her mom was not able to take a shower that day.

My daughter is crawling now so really have to watch for her.

[TheHaitian]

Today made rookie mistake: went out with my DD to do groceries and forgot to check diapers.

So we left home at about 2:30, went to the grocery store. After grocery store before we left I fed her in the car... then we went to Costco. She was sleeping so left her in her car seat and went inside Costco.

By the time we were done and back home it was 6:30; so out for a total of 4 hours basically grocery shopping and doing gas (when did my life get so boring).

The whole back of her pants was wet... and did it dawn on me: I forgot to change her diaper before we left the house nor did I do it after feeding her in the car.

Oh well, live and learn... poor girl had to seat in her own piss. Also now need to disinfect and clean car seat.

[justme]

On the upside, she doesn't scream bloody murder with a wet diaper, so I think there could be worse things.

Soon enough she'll be like my niece who utterly refused to get in her car seat with a dirty diaper before she was potty trained. Always waited until they got to the car to inform my bro. 😂😂😂

[azucena]

Pants I have talked about it over and over again even in family meetings where we try to air grievances like that when we aren't upset. And I don't think I ask for much, particularly personal stuff like this. I do think your phrasing about starting off the day poorly might help.

And I wouldn't be hung up on having a personal towel but they all end up on the floor or in a wad somewhere and get stinky. I've tried stripping them and all the tricks to get out the funk and make them nice again only to have it happen repeatedly. I don't have time for extensive laundry each week so my compromise was that everyone chose a color and we each got 2 new towels about 6 months ago. They literally can't smell it though so it kinda doesn't matter if their own towels stink (it's still gross). Usually my daughters can smell but in this case they don't. My husband definitely can't smell. I wonder if it has to do with living with both parents chain smoking for 18 yrs. For him the lack of smell is a blessing with his ostomy. The fecal output of that is potent!

Anyway it's definitely a first world problem.

The suggestion of streaking thru the house did make me laugh but probably wouldn't help.

[azucena]

Aug 30, 2017 22:04:36 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Acuzena--not sure if this helps, but we don't have personal towels.  I keep 4 towels that are rolled up and can be grabbed from the shower if needed that are really for dh and I.  The kids towels are in a drawer but one of us is always with them.  Any towel that ends up on the floor is tossed in the hamper.  Towels hung up are usually used once more before thrown in the wash.  Admittedly I need to bathe the kids more often, but I can usually get by on one load of towels a week.  

How do you toss them in the hamper when they are wet without the stink problem? I only do laundry on Saturdays, maybe yours is more often.

[raeoflyte]

Aug 30, 2017 22:55:30 GMT -5 azucena said:

Aug 30, 2017 22:04:36 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Acuzena--not sure if this helps, but we don't have personal towels.  I keep 4 towels that are rolled up and can be grabbed from the shower if needed that are really for dh and I.  The kids towels are in a drawer but one of us is always with them.  Any towel that ends up on the floor is tossed in the hamper.  Towels hung up are usually used once more before thrown in the wash.  Admittedly I need to bathe the kids more often, but I can usually get by on one load of towels a week.  

How do you toss them in the hamper when they are wet without the stink problem? I only do laundry on Saturdays, maybe yours is more often.

We're in a pretty dry climate so I don't think we have too much of a problem with this (outside of my massive laundry fails from earlier in the month due to crappy detergent).  I throw them over the side of the hamper until they're dry, but I know there are times I find them a couple days later in the kids rooms on the floor already dry.  

[Pants]

Aug 30, 2017 22:54:14 GMT -5 azucena said:

Pants I have talked about it over and over again even in family meetings where we try to air grievances like that when we aren't upset. And I don't think I ask for much, particularly personal stuff like this. I do think your phrasing about starting off the day poorly might help.

And I wouldn't be hung up on having a personal towel but they all end up on the floor or in a wad somewhere and get stinky. I've tried stripping them and all the tricks to get out the funk and make them nice again only to have it happen repeatedly. I don't have time for extensive laundry each week so my compromise was that everyone chose a color and we each got 2 new towels about 6 months ago. They literally can't smell it though so it kinda doesn't matter if their own towels stink (it's still gross). Usually my daughters can smell but in this case they don't. My husband definitely can't smell. I wonder if it has to do with living with both parents chain smoking for 18 yrs. For him the lack of smell is a blessing with his ostomy. The fecal output of that is potent!

Anyway it's definitely a first world problem.

The suggestion of streaking thru the house did make me laugh but probably wouldn't help.

Yup, lock up the towels. They have 1 towel for the three of them, and when they complain, you look real confused and say "Gee, I thought you all didn't mind using wet dirty towels because you're always leaving mine wet and dirty. I hope you figure something out!"

[cael]

Happy birthday to M, she's so sweet TCU!

[Wisconsin Beth]

I hang my towel in the small bathroom, which is the only one I clean. In the morning, I bring it in with me to the main bathroom.

Where is your linen closet/towel cupboard? I'd probably just take a new towel very morning for me and let them figure it out.

I do a load of laundry damn near daily to keep everything on track. Folding and putting away is another story...

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Aug 30, 2017 22:50:50 GMT -5 TheHaitian said:

Today made rookie mistake: went out with my DD to do groceries and forgot to check diapers.

So we left home at about 2:30, went to the grocery store. After grocery store before we left I fed her in the car... then we went to Costco. She was sleeping so left her in her car seat and went inside Costco.

By the time we were done and back home it was 6:30; so out for a total of 4 hours basically grocery shopping and doing gas (when did my life get so boring).

The whole back of her pants was wet... and did it dawn on me: I forgot to change her diaper before we left the house nor did I do it after feeding her in the car.

Oh well, live and learn... poor girl had to seat in her own piss. Also now need to disinfect and clean car seat.

Wait till you forget for so long that you notice something bulging in her pant leg.  You lift up the pant leg and out comes a 10 lb pee soaked diaper.

Ooh ooh or wait until she is sleeping with you and has the squirts at 4 am. You don't wake up till 7 am and by that time the poop has soaked thru her clothes, the sheets and the mattress.  Yes we ended up having to buy a new mattress.

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