muttleynfelix
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 28, 2017 10:38:29 GMT -5
I had a dream last night that B has terminal cancer and we chose not to treat it at all after what she went through last year. I've been awake for an hour and I'm only 75% sure it was a dream. So shaken up. Hugs. That is an awful dream.
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Post by cael on Aug 28, 2017 10:47:56 GMT -5
I actually have no memory of how I learned about sex/babies/etc, I must have absorbed a lot at school or something because I had a fair idea of how things worked by early elementary school, and I don't remember an actual sit down with my parents to talk about it. They didn't avoid questions or avoid using real names/terms or anything, but I can't remember ever asking my parents a question about sex, haha. There was an awkward but fun sex ed/about your bodies type class we did at church in 8th grade for the coming-of-age program, but that wasn't much new information lol.
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muttleynfelix
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 28, 2017 10:50:57 GMT -5
I have the best big sister. DH and I are at our wits end with Ben. He has been so disrespectful. He's got into food in our downstairs pantry, stolen my weights out of my room, stolen sidewalk chalk and he just keeps digging the whole deeper - like he is already in trouble and has been told you can only get water out of the kitchen and he proceeds to eat the last donut hole! Like I wouldn't notice. Anyway, I was asking my sister for advice and while she didn't really have any, she was super encouraging that DH and I are doing the right thing. It just felt good to have the affirmation that we aren't being super screw ups.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 28, 2017 11:25:04 GMT -5
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2017 12:48:30 GMT -5
I have been paying someone $40/visit every 2 weeks to mow my lawn all summer long. And at the rate my wife keeps complaining about the house being filthy or not as clean as it used to be, a cleaning lady/crew every other week or so might be next. Doesn't she work from home? I realize she's working during that time, but she has no commute, so there's some time she could help with. And your MIL is living with you rent free. Can she not help clean while Carlie naps? There is no way I'd hire a cleaning service when there are 2 able bodied adults taking care of one baby in the home. The lawn service I get. I refuse to push a lawn mower, I wouldn't expect that they would. But they sure as hell can clean the house. I think she took a new job and no longer works from home. I'm assuming except for a vacation coming up MIL is watching the baby.
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Post by swamp on Aug 28, 2017 12:51:25 GMT -5
I have the best big sister. DH and I are at our wits end with Ben. He has been so disrespectful. He's got into food in our downstairs pantry, stolen my weights out of my room, stolen sidewalk chalk and he just keeps digging the whole deeper - like he is already in trouble and has been told you can only get water out of the kitchen and he proceeds to eat the last donut hole! Like I wouldn't notice. Anyway, I was asking my sister for advice and while she didn't really have any, she was super encouraging that DH and I are doing the right thing. It just felt good to have the affirmation that we aren't being super screw ups. You're not a screw up. Sometimes kids are just assholes.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 28, 2017 13:20:46 GMT -5
The whole trying to blow something out of a kid's nose would have been good info to have about 13 years ago. DD stuck a popcorn kernel up her nose and TOLD us it was there. I asked her doctor on 3 separate occasions, but she couldn't see it and had no other ideas. "Thankfully" DD needed to be put to sleep to have fillings done not long after and I asked them to look and get it out. They managed to find it and extract it.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 28, 2017 13:42:42 GMT -5
Doesn't she work from home? I realize she's working during that time, but she has no commute, so there's some time she could help with. And your MIL is living with you rent free. Can she not help clean while Carlie naps? There is no way I'd hire a cleaning service when there are 2 able bodied adults taking care of one baby in the home. The lawn service I get. I refuse to push a lawn mower, I wouldn't expect that they would. But they sure as hell can clean the house. I think she took a new job and no longer works from home. I'm assuming except for a vacation coming up MIL is watching the baby. she can deal with "mess" for 2 weeks like the rest of the working parent population.
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Post by gs11rmb on Aug 28, 2017 13:45:09 GMT -5
I bought "It's Not The Stork" for my then 6 year old daughter. I think it did a good job of providing detailed but appropriate sex education for younger children.
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Post by taz157 on Aug 28, 2017 13:45:35 GMT -5
Doesn't she work from home? I realize she's working during that time, but she has no commute, so there's some time she could help with. And your MIL is living with you rent free. Can she not help clean while Carlie naps? There is no way I'd hire a cleaning service when there are 2 able bodied adults taking care of one baby in the home. The lawn service I get. I refuse to push a lawn mower, I wouldn't expect that they would. But they sure as hell can clean the house. I think she took a new job and no longer works from home. I'm assuming except for a vacation coming up MIL is watching the baby. I think she's still working from home. I thought she gave a month notice to start at the new job...
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 28, 2017 13:58:59 GMT -5
We've had super honest conversations with the kids. It can be uncomfortable, but being uninformed is worse in my opinion. The last time it came up, somehow it turned to teenagers, and yes, that can and does happen with teenagers, and C offered up, that they should wait until they were 28--right? I wish I had written down the conversation so I could show it to him at 16.
Thank you for all the support. I was pissy at dh again last night after really trying to let something go at least for the evening. Who knows. I should probably go back to my therapist to work through some resentment issues in my free time. Tonight though I'm going drinking with my high school bff. Guaranteed not to help, but still be enjoyable.
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Post by andi9899 on Aug 28, 2017 14:21:42 GMT -5
I think she took a new job and no longer works from home. I'm assuming except for a vacation coming up MIL is watching the baby. she can deal with "mess" for 2 weeks like the rest of the working parent population. Right! So basically they are 2 working parents and a SAHGP. Between the 3 of them they should be able to handle one baby and cleaning house. Hell, I'm a single parent and had to handle 2 kids by myself and clean. The house wasn't all that clean, but I was outnumbered. I did what I could.
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Post by andi9899 on Aug 28, 2017 14:24:14 GMT -5
We've had super honest conversations with the kids. It can be uncomfortable, but being uninformed is worse in my opinion. The last time it came up, somehow it turned to teenagers, and yes, that can and does happen with teenagers, and C offered up, that they should wait until they were 28--right? I wish I had written down the conversation so I could show it to him at 16. Thank you for all the support. I was pissy at dh again last night after really trying to let something go at least for the evening. Who knows. I should probably go back to my therapist to work through some resentment issues in my free time. Tonight though I'm going drinking with my high school bff. Guaranteed not to help, but still be enjoyable. Of course it helps. You have to run away from home every once in a while. Otherwise you'll murder your family. You're really doing them a favor by going.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Aug 28, 2017 14:27:20 GMT -5
We tried blowing into his mouth before going to the ER but it didn't work. Once we got there the doc got ahold of it with some long tweezers and got it to move a bit. Then they had me blow in his mouth. Fair warning - I ended up with a face full of bloody snot. It was soooooooo gross. But we could get the rock out after that. Lol!
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Post by andi9899 on Aug 28, 2017 14:30:02 GMT -5
Can I just say that I'm rather looking forward to not having to fix shit when it breaks and wish next year would get here already so I can sell my house. I haven't found a place to live just yet, but have found a few places with no weight limit on dogs. Worst case I could occupy one of my uncle's rentals for a bit.
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Post by andi9899 on Aug 28, 2017 14:31:50 GMT -5
We tried blowing into his mouth before going to the ER but it didn't work. Once we got there the doc got ahold of it with some long tweezers and got it to move a bit. Then they had me blow in his mouth. Fair warning - I ended up with a face full of bloody snot. It was soooooooo gross. But we could get the rock out after that. Lol! Kids are so gross. I'm going to thoroughly enjoy watching my kids get grossed out by theirs one day.
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 28, 2017 14:34:22 GMT -5
thanking GOD DS missed the "stick stuff up your nose" phase.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2017 14:40:44 GMT -5
Neither one of my kids ever stuck anything up their nose. Older son did end up in the ER when he swallowed a penny though. He was 12. He was with the Boy Scouts and there was no "just let it go" when they were in charge of him.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 28, 2017 14:59:35 GMT -5
thanking GOD DS missed the "stick stuff up your nose" phase. Ditto mine. We've got plenty of other things but not that one.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 28, 2017 15:05:58 GMT -5
Gwen almost got an earring stuck in her ear canal once when she was three. Fortunately it wasn't so far in that DH couldn't get it out. he used a needle to flick it out so he wouldn't accidently shove it deeper with his finger.
We had to have a talk about the fact that's not where earrings go. I showed her that mommy's earrings go in her earlobes NOT her ear canal!
Abby likes to put things in her mouth. I've chased her around many times yelling at her to drop it.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 28, 2017 15:15:38 GMT -5
My boys only stick fingers in their noses, and the younger one then in his mouth. Blech!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 28, 2017 15:45:19 GMT -5
My boys only stick fingers in their noses, and the younger one then in his mouth. Blech! [br0] Ben loves to suck his thumb and pick his nose at the same time. He is 7! 7! I just him to stop sucking his thumb.
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Post by Pants on Aug 28, 2017 16:00:33 GMT -5
We've had super honest conversations with the kids. It can be uncomfortable, but being uninformed is worse in my opinion. The last time it came up, somehow it turned to teenagers, and yes, that can and does happen with teenagers, and C offered up, that they should wait until they were 28--right? I wish I had written down the conversation so I could show it to him at 16. Thank you for all the support. I was pissy at dh again last night after really trying to let something go at least for the evening. Who knows. I should probably go back to my therapist to work through some resentment issues in my free time. Tonight though I'm going drinking with my high school bff. Guaranteed not to help, but still be enjoyable. Sorry, Rae. Sometimes I try to let things go. It usually doesn't work. I hope you have fun tonight with your friend! And a question: was this the same therapist who told you it was unfair of you to ever resent your DH? Because if so I think maybe not talking to that particular therapist would be good...
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2017 17:35:47 GMT -5
My boys only stick fingers in their noses, and the younger one then in his mouth. Blech! [br0] Ben loves to suck his thumb and pick his nose at the same time. He is 7! 7! I just him to stop sucking his thumb. Peer pressure will deal with the thumb sucking. Of course it's replaced by playing with your privates. 😂
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Post by cktc on Aug 28, 2017 18:28:16 GMT -5
I'm horrible. I don't remember any sex talks with older son. The Catholic schools teach him that right? Hopefully his Dad said something... I'm sure the internet will cover more than you can imagine.
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Post by alabamagal on Aug 28, 2017 19:13:24 GMT -5
DD stuck a Lite Brite peg up her nose. My Dad had just bought us a new tool set so we used needlenose pliers to get it out.
DS1 stuck a straw up his nose at school lunchroom to try to drink his milk.
I remember the sex talk from my mom pretty well. I was 8 and mom was pregnant. I understood pretty well that was what you did to make babies, but didn't realize that you would do that at other times. I also remember being 10 and asking my mom how the 16 year old got pregnant if she wasn't married😳
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Post by TheOtherMe on Aug 28, 2017 20:02:47 GMT -5
My mom never told my sister or me much of anything. We had movies at school and she talked to us about periods. It was sex she never talked about to us. Sister said she asked her when she got home from her honeymoon if she had any questions. Both Sister and BIL still laugh about that. I have never married so I guess I didn't need to know.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2017 20:41:38 GMT -5
My mom never told my sister or me much of anything. We had movies at school and she talked to us about periods. It was sex she never talked about to us. Sister said she asked her when she got home from her honeymoon if she had any questions. Both Sister and BIL still laugh about that. I have never married so I guess I didn't need to know. Priceless. My mom told me it was messy and it hurt.
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Post by dee27 on Aug 28, 2017 20:46:21 GMT -5
My mom never told my sister or me much of anything. We had movies at school and she talked to us about periods. It was sex she never talked about to us. Sister said she asked her when she got home from her honeymoon if she had any questions. Both Sister and BIL still laugh about that. I have never married so I guess I didn't need to know. Priceless. My mom told me it was messy and it hurt. My mom did not discuss sex with me except to say don't do it until you are married. Although she did agree with my gynecologist when he put me on BC because of severe pain and irregular periods.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 28, 2017 20:47:17 GMT -5
I'm actually glad she told me about the messy part.
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