ken a.k.a OMK
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jan 2, 2011 21:35:53 GMT -5
"Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine." Hey, it worked for Hillary Clinton. There are some people that think sex is the least important part of a relationship, not the most important part. The mother or father of your children will always take priority over any other no matter what physical stuff you do with them. Good point Later. Seriously, in the beginning it's lust, then kids and career, then for some the sex goes away. We are recently retired grandparents enjoying life and sex is still important. Also if there are health or disability issues do people separate? It's different for everyone.
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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:36:28 GMT -5
But if she knows that he is with another woman than it isn't cheating. She seems to be ok with it. That isn't my business. If someone is cheating than they are also being dishonest. I think as long as both parties are ok with a partner outside the marriage, whether a man or woman, is ok. Yes! What he said.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 21:36:32 GMT -5
POM, you will get sick on any boat. Right? Years ago when we were in California we went sailing in a huge sail boat. It got really rough and we were told to go underneath. I was better off on deck with the fresh air. I was never so sea sick as that. Now - I get quesy in a John boat.
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:37:20 GMT -5
Which means it was in the vows to both be monogamous, which means you are telling Tina that yes, you believe you should honor yours but don't think he should honor his. If you don't think it's wrong if he cheats, that's fine--it's your marriage. I wouldn't have a problem, if we decided to go that way. It has nothing to do with vows. I just have no desire to do it. Wait...."if we decided to go that way"? Most times that is not the case, the cheating spouse makes the decision and then the non-cheating spouse somehow finds out about it--it's usually not a "we" thing. We already said an open marriage was kind of different.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 21:47:13 GMT -5
MU - Yes, a storm had blown in. I wasn't sick until I was made to go below deck. And I am a swimmer. I made them let me back up and I was green the rest of the trip.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 21:50:46 GMT -5
My brother and his third wife had a very sick marriage. They were allowed to be with others as long as they knew about it and/or were allowed to watch. He and I would argue that whether she did it with or without his permission it's still cheating. He said no it's not. They lasted about 20 years or so but it was very volatile and perverted IMO. And those that know me know I am pretty open minded.
Oh, and he was cheating on her the whole time and she didn't know it. I'm pretty sure she was too and she was also in love with a doctor at her hospital that she worked at.
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ken a.k.a OMK
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jan 2, 2011 21:52:04 GMT -5
I grew up around boats. My father always had one. I got motion sick from cars and boats. It was fine on the boat as long as it was moving. We often anchored out at an island to swim. I had to be the first off and last back on the boat.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2011 21:55:52 GMT -5
"Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine." Hey, it worked for Hillary Clinton. There are some people that think sex is the least important part of a relationship, not the most important part. The mother or father of your children will always take priority over any other no matter what physical stuff you do with them. Not to argue, but the father of my child walked out when DS was 3 and never looked back. He gets NO priority in my life. Ok, I have a bad habit of being too brief and not explaining the whole thought. In some cultures that accept affairs the father of your child would be considered lower than pond scum by the community. A man is expected to stay and provide for his family (a woman is expected to keep a good home and raise the children) but they are not condemned for having a mistress (or lover for the woman). Leaving the wife for the mistress is considered idiocy. In Bill and Hillary's case he stayed and helped her run for the presidency, helped her become the Secretary of State or whatever she is. Those achievements are considered much more important than an affair or two.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2011 22:01:01 GMT -5
My husband knows that the fastest way to a divorce is to cheat on me. I have no problem with him having female friends. However I would have a serious problem if he cheated on me. I haven't read the entire thread. I just walked in the door. I saw something mentioned about sex not being an important part of marriage. I disagree. Sex is extremely important to marriage IMHO. I believe it bonds a husband and wife on a much higher level. I know my DH and I are much happier when we are having sex more often. Yes, there are situation where one spouse cannot have sex for medical reasons, but I still think that there are other ways to sexually please the other spouse without having intercourse. Just my humble opinion. Of course I can totally picture DH and I chasing each other around the nursing home
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2011 22:17:28 GMT -5
Since some of you are mentioning how it is different if both parties agree, in principle I agree with you. But I'll tell you one experience that disgusted me. The guy approached me, being up front that he was in an "open" relationship. Being as nosy as I am I asked about it. To make a long story short, his SO didn't turn him on anymore and she knew it. So she agreed to the open relationship rather than lose him. THAT disgusted me. I said no anyway, but I was a little more brutal in how I said it.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 22:30:19 GMT -5
Later, I agree! But even more disgusting to me is when a guy hits on me and when I say I'm married (I never turn them down in a rude way because people are bat shit crazy and I fear they will try to hurt me for rejecting them) they say "That's okay." or "It doesn't matter!" They are so arrogant they think I'm wanting to be with them but they will be upset that I'm married. I then say "It does to me!"
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Post by rick on Jan 2, 2011 22:44:36 GMT -5
Later, I agree! But even more disgusting to me is when a guy hits on me and when I say I'm married (I never turn them down in a rude way because people are bat shit crazy and I fear they will try to hurt me for rejecting them) they say "That's okay." or "It doesn't matter!" They are so arrogant they think I'm wanting to be with them but they will be upset that I'm married. I then say "It does to me!" What, You are married
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Post by Sharon on Jan 2, 2011 22:47:09 GMT -5
Everytime I wander into this thread I think of JerzeGurl. I hope she and her DH have worked out their issues.
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Post by TD2K on Jan 3, 2011 1:07:49 GMT -5
< and when I say I'm married >
Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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Post by suzwantstobefree on Jan 3, 2011 6:01:18 GMT -5
I wonder how many people say they are in an "open" marriage but their significant other doesn't know. I just think a lot of people out there would say anything to get what they want but that doesn't make it true.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Jan 3, 2011 6:38:09 GMT -5
Yeah, but we all do it on purpose. It's not like a fluke or anything. <<looks outside the window to see if somebody is hiding in the shrubs>> <<waives to POM with free hand>> Do I want to know what you are doing with the other hand?
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Jan 3, 2011 6:48:56 GMT -5
This really has been an interesting thread
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2011 7:00:12 GMT -5
I once told a guy at the bar that I was married, and he told me "that's ok. He can join the fun too if he wants." I nearly puked. Needless to say, I was so disgusted and freaked out by this guy that I left.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2011 7:46:22 GMT -5
I wonder how many people say they are in an "open" marriage but their significant other doesn't know. I just think a lot of people out there would say anything to get what they want but that doesn't make it true. Probably about as many people who say they are not married / have SO... but are!
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Post by suzwantstobefree on Jan 3, 2011 8:33:12 GMT -5
Probably about as many who people say they are not married... but are!
And what is the deal with men who don't wear wedding rings? Although some cannot (such as my mechanic ex-bf who said that he wouldn't because he could be injured) there are a lot that chose not to wear a wedding ring.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2011 8:46:45 GMT -5
There are certain situations that my husband is not allowed to wear his wedding ring, but those are the only times he doesn't wear it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2011 8:51:40 GMT -5
My husband wears his all the time (unless he's working out and it messes up his grip on the weight bar - then he puts it in his pocket until he's done with that exercise). Or at least that's what he tells me!
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Post by suzwantstobefree on Jan 3, 2011 9:12:59 GMT -5
One day at work, (when I worked with a lot of young people) a girl said, if a man isn't wearing a wedding band even if I know he is married he is free to pursue. This started off a frenzy of the other young girls calling their husbands and demanding that they where their wedding bands. It was a really unproductive day
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Post by rick on Jan 3, 2011 9:22:55 GMT -5
There are certain situations that my husband is not allowed to wear his wedding ring, but those are the only times he doesn't wear it. I wasnt allowed, and didnt like wearing mine while working. It wasnt safe and I didnt want to ruin it. Mine went into my pocket when I got to work and back on my hand at the end of the day and I was washed up
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2011 9:23:38 GMT -5
J? What!!!!? Forsaking means giving up. I'm not giving up, merely lending out. I'd just be allowing him to scratch where he itches. How different is that than doing your thing while looking at your girlie books. the difference is you can't get an STD from manipulating yourself while reading a Playboy.
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Post by rick on Jan 3, 2011 9:24:47 GMT -5
J? What!!!!? Forsaking means giving up. I'm not giving up, merely lending out. I'd just be allowing him to scratch where he itches. How different is that than doing your thing while looking at your girlie books. the difference is you can't get an STD from manipulating yourself while reading a Playboy. Jen
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 3, 2011 9:25:31 GMT -5
Probably about as many who people say they are not married... but are! And what is the deal with men who don't wear wedding rings? Although some cannot (such as my mechanic ex-bf who said that he wouldn't because he could be injured) there are a lot that chose not to wear a wedding ring. I don't wear a wedding band and I have been married over 16 years.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2011 9:26:34 GMT -5
well it's true. You also can't get anyone pregnant. You can't misinterpret someone's intentions, or break anyone's heart, either.
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Post by rick on Jan 3, 2011 9:27:40 GMT -5
well it's true. You also can't get anyone pregnant. You can't misinterpret someone's intentions, or break anyone's heart, either. You just broke my heart
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2011 9:43:20 GMT -5
DH stopped wearing his wedding band when it slipped off last Christmas Eve and we spent most of the day searching for it. After we found it, he decided to keep it in a safe place at home. He knows he's married, and I know he's married. That's all that matters.
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