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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:10:42 GMT -5
He's never expressed any interest in wanting sex outside the marriage, but if he were to, I would honor my wedding vows to do what it takes to make him happy. All I am saying is I can totally understand why some men would need more than one partner. So you'd hook your husband up with another woman if it would make him happy? Well, I wouldn't go as far as to hook him up, as I'm sure he could do that himself.
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:12:58 GMT -5
What I can't understand is why they would get married and promise to stay monogamous if they feel they need more than one (excluding an "open" marriage).
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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:14:22 GMT -5
He's never expressed any interest in wanting sex outside the marriage, but if he were to, I would honor my wedding vows to do what it takes to make him happy. All I am saying is I can totally understand why some men would need more than one partner. So you would honor your wedding vows but not expect him to honor his wedding vows? I've never had any desire to be with anyone else.
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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:15:43 GMT -5
What I can't understand is why they would get married and promise to stay monogamous if they feel they need more than one (excluding an "open" marriage). It's been over 45 years, but I don't recall anything in my vows about staying monogamous. I do remember, "Love, honor and obey."
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2011 21:18:44 GMT -5
Can you understand why some women would need more than one partner? No. LOL I was asking LA.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jan 2, 2011 21:20:32 GMT -5
Can you understand why some women would need more than one partner? At one time?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 21:20:43 GMT -5
Can you understand why some women would need more than one partner? Oh, hell to the yeah! Let's see: 1. Money bags. 2. Awesome in Bed. 3. Likes to go out dancing and party. 4. Pretty to look at and is awesome in bed. 5. One that can fix stuff and is awesome in bed. 6. One that can cook and is awesome in bed. 7. One that can do great massages and is awesome in bed. 8. One that is an awesome bartender (I won't care after that because I'll be too drunk to notice.) ;P 9. One who likes to ride horses and go boating. NO! Not sailing!! 10. One who can garden... well, you get the picture.
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:21:06 GMT -5
What I can't understand is why they would get married and promise to stay monogamous if they feel they need more than one (excluding an "open" marriage). It's been over 45 years, but I don't recall anything in my vows about staying monogamous. I do remember, "Love, honor and obey." I think it's the "foresaking all others" part...
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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:21:45 GMT -5
I'm waiting for further clarification on this also. LA, come enlighten me. MU, can I send DH instead?
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jan 2, 2011 21:22:48 GMT -5
POM I can fulfill 1,2,3......heck all of them.
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Post by The J on Jan 2, 2011 21:22:52 GMT -5
Can you understand why some women would need more than one partner? Oh, hell to the yeah! Let's see: 1. Money bags. 2. Awesome in Bed. 3. Like to go out dancing and party. 4. Pretty to look at and is awesome in bed. 5. One that can fix stuff and is awesome in bed. 6. One that can cook and is awesome in bed. 7. One that can do great massages and is awesome in bed. 8. One that is an awesome bartender (I won't care after that because I'll be too drunk to notice.) ;P 9. One who likes to ride horses and go boating. NO! Not sailing!! 10. One who can garden... well, you get the picture. I can handle 2, 6 and 7 for you......
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:23:03 GMT -5
Can you understand why some women would need more than one partner? Oh, hell to the yeah! Let's see: 1. Money bags. 2. Awesome in Bed. 3. Like to go out dancing and party. 4. Pretty to look at and is awesome in bed. 5. One that can fix stuff and is awesome in bed. 6. One that can cook and is awesome in bed. 7. One that can do great massages and is awesome in bed. 8. One that is an awesome bartender (I won't care after that because I'll be too drunk to notice.) ;P 9. One who likes to ride horses and go boating. NO! Not sailing!! 10. One who can garden... well, you get the picture. Lol. Is this from the joke where you end your "what I want in a man list" by saying "and the most important thing is that they never meet each other".
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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:23:41 GMT -5
It's been over 45 years, but I don't recall anything in my vows about staying monogamous. I do remember, "Love, honor and obey." I think it's the "foresaking all others" part... Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2011 21:23:48 GMT -5
LOL POM That is like that joke...every woman deserves a man that is good in bed, can cook, fix the car, earn lots of money, and these men should never meet.
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Post by The J on Jan 2, 2011 21:24:40 GMT -5
I think it's the "foresaking all others" part... Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine.
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:26:13 GMT -5
Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine. Here, J, have a drink on me. (No, really, bodyshots
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2011 21:27:41 GMT -5
Later, can I do a woman joke here for balance? Nope
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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:28:13 GMT -5
Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine. J? What!!!!? Forsaking means giving up. I'm not giving up, merely lending out. I'd just be allowing him to scratch where he itches. How different is that than doing your thing while looking at your girlie books.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 21:28:51 GMT -5
POM, what's wrong with sailing? MU, I get sea sick sailing. But I was, of course, also teasing you.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 21:29:41 GMT -5
LOL POM That is like that joke...every woman deserves a man that is good in bed, can cook, fix the car, earn lots of money, and these men should never meet. LOL!! Exactly!
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Post by The J on Jan 2, 2011 21:29:50 GMT -5
J? What!!!!? Forsaking means giving up. I'm not giving up, merely lending out. I'd just be allowing him to scratch where he itches. How different is that than doing your thing while looking at your girlie books. It's foresaking ALL OTHERS. Which means giving up ALL OTHERS.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2011 21:30:00 GMT -5
"Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine."
Hey, it worked for Hillary Clinton. There are some people that think sex is the least important part of a relationship, not the most important part. The mother or father of your children will always take priority over any other no matter what physical stuff you do with them.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jan 2, 2011 21:31:45 GMT -5
POM, what's wrong with sailing? MU, I get sea sick sailing. But I was, of course, also teasing you. That wouldn't stop him. LOL
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:32:29 GMT -5
J? What!!!!? Forsaking means giving up. I'm not giving up, merely lending out. I'd just be allowing him to scratch where he itches. How different is that than doing your thing while looking at your girlie books. It's foresaking ALL OTHERS. Which means giving up ALL OTHERS. Which means it was in the vows to both be monogamous, which means you are telling Tina that yes, you believe you should honor yours but don't think he should honor his. If you don't think it's wrong if he cheats, that's fine--it's your marriage.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 2, 2011 21:32:52 GMT -5
POM I can fulfill 1,2,3......heck all of them. Ken, LMAO!! Don't you already have a harem? Don't get me killed! ;P
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Post by The J on Jan 2, 2011 21:33:19 GMT -5
It's foresaking ALL OTHERS. Which means giving up ALL OTHERS. Which means it was in the vows to both be monogamous, which means you are telling Tina that yes, you believe you should honor yours but don't think he should honor his. If you don't think it's wrong if he cheats, that's fine--it's your marriage. Is it actually cheating if she gives him permission to do it?
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:34:25 GMT -5
"Oh, he wouldn't be giving me up. He'd still be mine." Hey, it worked for Hillary Clinton. There are some people that think sex is the least important part of a relationship, not the most important part. The mother or father of your children will always take priority over any other no matter what physical stuff you do with them. Not to argue, but the father of my child walked out when DS was 3 and never looked back. He gets NO priority in my life.
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Post by la808 on Jan 2, 2011 21:35:27 GMT -5
It's foresaking ALL OTHERS. Which means giving up ALL OTHERS. Which means it was in the vows to both be monogamous, which means you are telling Tina that yes, you believe you should honor yours but don't think he should honor his. If you don't think it's wrong if he cheats, that's fine--it's your marriage. I wouldn't have a problem, if we decided to go that way. It has nothing to do with vows. I just have no desire to do it.
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Post by Apple on Jan 2, 2011 21:35:37 GMT -5
Which means it was in the vows to both be monogamous, which means you are telling Tina that yes, you believe you should honor yours but don't think he should honor his. If you don't think it's wrong if he cheats, that's fine--it's your marriage. Is it actually cheating if she gives him permission to do it? I guess not...it would just be "bucking" around.
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