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Post by dannylion on Oct 23, 2024 21:00:02 GMT -5
When we bought our house back in the 90's we rented a dumpster for the contractor's use as he remodeled it. We would drive by every day or so to see progress and noted the dumpster never seemed to get fuller  no matter how much the contractor tore out of the house. Only after we moved in did we meet the neighbors who became our closest friends and learned they and many others were dumpster diving for stuff to use in their own home updates. We had the opposite experience- every day someone would come along and their shit into our dumpster. Luckily it ended up all fitting - had we needed a second dumpster I would have been angry 😡 Many years ago, a colleague and her husband were building a new house on a street in a wooded area near a state park, for which a dumpster had been procured during the construction. She kept a close eye on construction progress, and I remember her complaining several times about dead deer being thrown into the dumpster. Obviously roadkill, but I'm wondering who it was who was throwing the deer into the dumpster. Maybe someone from one of the other houses along the street. I really could not see a driver, after hitting a deer, dragging the deer, probably in the dark, to a dumpster that may or may not have been easily visible. |
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 24, 2024 7:31:25 GMT -5
When we bought our house back in the 90's we rented a dumpster for the contractor's use as he remodeled it. We would drive by every day or so to see progress and noted the dumpster never seemed to get fuller no matter how much the contractor tore out of the house. Only after we moved in did we meet the neighbors who became our closest friends and learned they and many others were dumpster diving for stuff to use in their own home updates. We had the opposite experience- every day someone would come along and their shit into our dumpster. Luckily it ended up all fitting - had we needed a second dumpster I would have been angry 😡 One of the most legendary scenes from a British comedy was from a show called "One Foot in the Grave" when Victor tried to stop strangers throwing things in his skip (dumpster). He wakes up in the morning to find someone had dumped in an old VW beetle. It's probably 30 years old and I'm laughing just remembering his reaction. "It's a fundamental law of nature - some bastard always dumps a busted mattress in your skip bin". |
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Post by Tennesseer on Oct 24, 2024 8:50:34 GMT -5
We had the opposite experience- every day someone would come along and their shit into our dumpster. Luckily it ended up all fitting - had we needed a second dumpster I would have been angry 😡 One of the most legendary scenes from a British comedy was from a show called "One Foot in the Grave" when Victor tried to stop strangers throwing things in his skip (dumpster). He wakes up in the morning to find someone had dumped in an old VW beetle. It's probably 30 years old and I'm laughing just remembering his reaction. "It's a fundamental law of nature - some bastard always dumps a busted mattress in your skip bin".  I am thinking of renting a dumpster this spring. I will ask my neighbors across the street if they would like to use it too and split the cost with me. One of the neighbors is a major hoarder. Their garage is full of useless stuff and inside their home, just very slim paths from room to room. In case of a house fire, they would not be able to escape from it via their kitchen door to their backyard. Stuff is blocking the exit. Front door is pretty blocked too. |
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 24, 2024 9:10:16 GMT -5
When we bought our house back in the 90's we rented a dumpster for the contractor's use as he remodeled it. We would drive by every day or so to see progress and noted the dumpster never seemed to get fuller no matter how much the contractor tore out of the house. Only after we moved in did we meet the neighbors who became our closest friends and learned they and many others were dumpster diving for stuff to use in their own home updates. We had the opposite experience- every day someone would come along and their shit into our dumpster. Luckily it ended up all fitting - had we needed a second dumpster I would have been angry 😡 We didn't have that but DH caught homeless people climbing over the walls of my dad's dumpster to dig in it. I'm not against dumpster diving but at the same time I really don't want random people in my driveway/yard like that. I am happy to put whatever might be valuable out on the curb don't dig through my dumpster please it's a liability issue. Like I don't really care if they come through on trash collection day and dig through our trash to find DH's beer cans. They never leave a mess. I should probably start bagging them separate. I figure if anyone is that low they have to dig for people's used beer cans I'm not one to judge. |
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Post by dannylion on Oct 24, 2024 15:35:03 GMT -5
We had the opposite experience- every day someone would come along and their shit into our dumpster. Luckily it ended up all fitting - had we needed a second dumpster I would have been angry 😡 One of the most legendary scenes from a British comedy was from a show called "One Foot in the Grave" when Victor tried to stop strangers throwing things in his skip (dumpster). He wakes up in the morning to find someone had dumped in an old VW beetle. It's probably 30 years old and I'm laughing just remembering his reaction. "It's a fundamental law of nature - some bastard always dumps a busted mattress in your skip bin". The car looks like a 1950s-era Citroen. I just signed up for Britbox a few weeks ago. I noticed that One Foot in the Grave is one of the shows available. I will have to put it on my watch list now. It looks like a hoot! |
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Post by Bonny on Oct 25, 2024 13:11:45 GMT -5
We had the opposite experience- every day someone would come along and their shit into our dumpster. Luckily it ended up all fitting - had we needed a second dumpster I would have been angry 😡 One of the most legendary scenes from a British comedy was from a show called "One Foot in the Grave" when Victor tried to stop strangers throwing things in his skip (dumpster). He wakes up in the morning to find someone had dumped in an old VW beetle. It's probably 30 years old and I'm laughing just remembering his reaction. "It's a fundamental law of nature - some bastard always dumps a busted mattress in your skip bin". And if they just hung onto that car today it would be a classic! |
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 25, 2024 14:54:44 GMT -5
One of the most legendary scenes from a British comedy was from a show called "One Foot in the Grave" when Victor tried to stop strangers throwing things in his skip (dumpster). He wakes up in the morning to find someone had dumped in an old VW beetle. It's probably 30 years old and I'm laughing just remembering his reaction. "It's a fundamental law of nature - some bastard always dumps a busted mattress in your skip bin". And if they just hung onto that car today it would be a classic! Yes, but not a classic VW beetle but a Renault Deux Chevaux. My late SIL used to have one in the early 70's and this is one of the very few cars I recognize by sight - that fugly Tesla cybertruck being another one |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Nov 8, 2024 9:57:02 GMT -5
I know several have said over the years that they want to die when their last dollar is spent. My father passed away last week, and while he certainly overshot dying without money (way into debt), he also did not have much stuff. Even with the little he did have, it's a challenge to figure out what to do with his dishes, bedding, silverware, etc. It got me thinking, if my wife and I were to die today, my kids would be screwed having to deal with the piles of crap (good and bad) that we have. I think it's time to start a new movement, my goal is to die with piles of money, but no stuff.....who's with me? The young adults of today are not really interested in their parents and grandparents china/dish sets and silverware. Nor are they interested in the China cabinets where they were stored and on display. I only wished this was true! My daughter made me save all my mother's glassware, china, and DR set for her....she'll be ready for it in about 5 years she says....had to pay movers to move the hutch, solid piece, the top does not come off like more more modern sets. |
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 8, 2024 11:27:36 GMT -5
The young adults of today are not really interested in their parents and grandparents china/dish sets and silverware. Nor are they interested in the China cabinets where they were stored and on display. I only wished this was true! My daughter made me save all my mother's glassware, china, and DR set for her....she'll be ready for it in about 5 years she says....had to pay movers to move the hutch, solid piece, the top does not come off like more more modern sets. Depending on how old your daughter is or will be in five years, she should be financially responsible for future storage fees and moving of goods. |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Nov 8, 2024 11:38:33 GMT -5
I only wished this was true! My daughter made me save all my mother's glassware, china, and DR set for her....she'll be ready for it in about 5 years she says....had to pay movers to move the hutch, solid piece, the top does not come off like more more modern sets. Depending on how old your daughter is or will be in five years, she should be financially responsible for future storage fees and moving of goods. way to lose the plot....... |
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 8, 2024 11:41:20 GMT -5
Depending on how old your daughter is or will be in five years, she should be financially responsible for future storage fees and moving of goods. way to lose the plot....... Plot? |
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Nov 8, 2024 12:08:02 GMT -5
way to lose the plot....... Plot? she was highly interested in it! contrary to statements otherwise. |
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 8, 2024 13:12:07 GMT -5
she was highly interested in it! contrary to statements otherwise. That I got. My original post about young people did not mean to say absolutley 100% of young people are not interested in ancestral items handed down. Of course some are. You daughter being one of them. But most are not. Young folks today are far less formal in their entertaining needs (dinner china, real silverware, formal glassware, etc.) along with china hutches and stuff like that to store stuff. |
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 8, 2024 18:20:39 GMT -5
dannylion I thought of you today while driving to the clinic for my Covid/flu shots. I saw the prettiest purple* SUV! It might have been a Nissan Pathfinder or something like that. So not a very special car but the color...if I ever were to buy another car I would be very tempted. *I know you have long since bought your new car but memories...
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Post by dannylion on Nov 8, 2024 19:37:31 GMT -5
dannylion I thought of you today while driving to the clinic for my Covid/flu shots. I saw the prettiest purple* SUV! It might have been a Nissan Pathfinder or something like that. So not a very special car but the color...if I ever were to buy another car I would be very tempted. *I know you have long since bought your new car but memories... I'm feeling quite touched that you thought of me. I would, indeed, be thrilled with a lovely purple car. I wonder if it was a factory color or a custom paint job. I don't recall seeing anything similar around here, but I think Floridians might be more daring in expressing themselves (I think I recall that you are in Florida?). Sadly, Volvo does not make purple cars, so I got a white one. But it is an interesting white, actually called Cloud Blue. It looks bright white in normal or bright sunlight, but if it is cloudy or near sunset or otherwise a low-light environment, it has a distinct pale blue tinge. So, it's not purple, but it's fun anyway. I did once see a purple Tesla. It was entirely purple, even the trim elements were purple. It was ... odd. |
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 8, 2024 19:42:59 GMT -5
Well I'm not a Floridian. I live in the land of fruit and nuts and I  it. Whether it was a custom job or not I don't know but it was really pretty. No weird stuff like the Tesla you describe (and I have nothing against Tesla). But however pretty it was I truly hope I won't need one as I intend to move to Munich and forego a car altogether. They have great public transportation which I fully intend to use. |
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Post by jerseygirl on Nov 8, 2024 19:57:44 GMT -5
The purple Tesla was a wrap. People put this vinyl coating over the paint
I saw a pink (very ugly) Tesla once
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Post by dannylion on Nov 8, 2024 20:07:43 GMT -5
Well I'm not a Floridian. I live in the land of fruit and nuts and I it. Whether it was a custom job or not I don't know but it was really pretty. No weird stuff like the Tesla you describe (and I have nothing against Tesla). But however pretty it was I truly hope I won't need one as I intend to move to Munich and forego a car altogether. They have great public transportation which I fully intend to use. Oh, well, that explains the purple car, then. I'm a native Californian, myself, so that makes perfect sense. What fun! I loved Munich, though I haven't been there since the 70s, but the public transportation all over Germany was wonderful even then. Sounds like a great adventure and a good choice. Since Tuesday, I have been revisiting a desire to move to Denmark or possibly Finland, but I think I'm too old and too tired to go through all that. I can barely summon the energy to work on getting ready to move to the senior living community. I'm thinking Denmark would be a better choice as Finland is very cold and Finnish is a difficult language to learn (15 cases in the singular, 16 in the plural, and not related to any language I know, so no contextual or root-word cues to help the process along). Danish would be easier to learn, but I have days when I think it would be more fun to tackle Finnish. Except for the cold. And to be honest, moving to the senior living community will probably be all I can manage. Looking forward to hearing about your Munich adventure! |
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 8, 2024 20:12:37 GMT -5
It is still ~2 years out and the choice was made by DS2*. I want to live closer to family and that is where he and his wife chose to move to almost 8 years ago. Should they ever move from there I will not follow but just move northwest to the Netherlands where my six siblings and their families live. DS2 and I have talked often about this move as I want to be sure my plans are ok with them.
* fun fact or not so fun depending on your POV. I will be moving from one of the most expensive places in the US (Bay Area) to the most expensive city in Germany. So it is not like I'll be doing this to save money
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Post by finnime on Nov 9, 2024 4:26:08 GMT -5
dannylion, I have the same misgivings about learning Finnish. One good thing about reading in the language is that it is strictly phonetic. So, you may not understand what it says but you can pronounce it well. Double letters are also pronounced by slightly longer sounds. One good word: perkkula. It's a swear, stronger than damn it! More like fuck it! I remember my father saying it when he was working on a project in the house that was not going well.
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Post by cronewitch on Nov 9, 2024 6:56:43 GMT -5
I know several have said over the years that they want to die when their last dollar is spent. My father passed away last week, and while he certainly overshot dying without money (way into debt), he also did not have much stuff. Even with the little he did have, it's a challenge to figure out what to do with his dishes, bedding, silverware, etc. It got me thinking, if my wife and I were to die today, my kids would be screwed having to deal with the piles of crap (good and bad) that we have. I think it's time to start a new movement, my goal is to die with piles of money, but no stuff.....who's with me? People should keep what they want to enjoy still. My boyfriend left me everything, I got rid of it recklessly. Yard sales, donations, giving away even really valuable things. It was just too much to handle. His friend helped me and I kept giving him things, his girlfriend liked the lamps she saw in a picture so I sent her all the lamps and tables that were wildlife. I sent her all the candles and incense and many other things. I almost sold the custom made beds that were made from logs, they were worth maybe $2K new and I could have gotten at least half that much but just gave them away. He owned so many DVDs and VHS tapes and Vinyl records, nobody wants that stuff, got donated to a library. All the housewares from a camper, 5th Wheel and farm were donated. I sold yard sale stuff, tools and vehicles but the rest got given to the friend helping me thousands of dollars of fishing tackle. |
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Post by azucena on Nov 9, 2024 9:11:42 GMT -5
I know several have said over the years that they want to die when their last dollar is spent. My father passed away last week, and while he certainly overshot dying without money (way into debt), he also did not have much stuff. Even with the little he did have, it's a challenge to figure out what to do with his dishes, bedding, silverware, etc. It got me thinking, if my wife and I were to die today, my kids would be screwed having to deal with the piles of crap (good and bad) that we have. I think it's time to start a new movement, my goal is to die with piles of money, but no stuff.....who's with me? People should keep what they want to enjoy still. My boyfriend left me everything, I got rid of it recklessly. Yard sales, donations, giving away even really valuable things. It was just too much to handle. His friend helped me and I kept giving him things, his girlfriend liked the lamps she saw in a picture so I sent her all the lamps and tables that were wildlife. I sent her all the candles and incense and many other things. I almost sold the custom made beds that were made from logs, they were worth maybe $2K new and I could have gotten at least half that much but just gave them away. He owned so many DVDs and VHS tapes and Vinyl records, nobody wants that stuff, got donated to a library. All the housewares from a camper, 5th Wheel and farm were donated. I sold yard sale stuff, tools and vehicles but the rest got given to the friend helping me thousands of dollars of fishing tackle. Nice to see you back, cronewitch! Always appreciate hearing and learning from you. |
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 9, 2024 17:30:01 GMT -5
I wish my grandma hadn't had a massive yard sale when grandpa died.
Yeah it was her right but she didn't even ask my mom if she wanted anything.
Bob and I were too little to think about it.
Nowadays I'm really heartbroken my grandma's poodle skirt went missing. It was hand made by my great grandma and instead of a poodle it had a black squirrel since we lice in Council Bluffs.
I'd wear the shit out of that skirt now. At nine? Not a thought. All I have is a photo of her in it.
Not to mention all the tools including his gardening ones she allowed cousins to make off with. Those should have gone to my dad and Bob not my asshole cousins who didn't even consider my grandma or mom's existence after grandpa died.
I should go raid their houses as they die and take back what should be mine. That's for not being there when mom died and being a bunch of funeral vultures.
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Post by haapai on Nov 15, 2024 16:00:35 GMT -5
I know several have said over the years that they want to die when their last dollar is spent. My father passed away last week, and while he certainly overshot dying without money (way into debt), he also did not have much stuff. Even with the little he did have, it's a challenge to figure out what to do with his dishes, bedding, silverware, etc. It got me thinking, if my wife and I were to die today, my kids would be screwed having to deal with the piles of crap (good and bad) that we have. I think it's time to start a new movement, my goal is to die with piles of money, but no stuff.....who's with me? People should keep what they want to enjoy still. My boyfriend left me everything, I got rid of it recklessly. Yard sales, donations, giving away even really valuable things. It was just too much to handle. His friend helped me and I kept giving him things, his girlfriend liked the lamps she saw in a picture so I sent her all the lamps and tables that were wildlife. I sent her all the candles and incense and many other things. I almost sold the custom made beds that were made from logs, they were worth maybe $2K new and I could have gotten at least half that much but just gave them away. He owned so many DVDs and VHS tapes and Vinyl records, nobody wants that stuff, got donated to a library. All the housewares from a camper, 5th Wheel and farm were donated. I sold yard sale stuff, tools and vehicles but the rest got given to the friend helping me thousands of dollars of fishing tackle. I think that you may be being too hard on yourself.
I'm fairly certain that if my ISO were to pass away leaving me all of his stuff, I would get pretty frantic about getting rid of as much of it as possible and that I would be thinking in terms of volume and decisions instead of the value of the stuff.
Most people have a whole lot of stuff and it loses value pretty quickly when you attempt to store it. It is so easy to lose track of what is there and where it is. It also costs a pretty penny to store it and it can cost quite a bit to get rid of all at once. The way that you did things probably resulted in a whole lot more stuff being re-purposed and re-used.
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 15, 2024 20:06:06 GMT -5
I wish my grandma hadn't had a massive yard sale when grandpa died. Yeah it was her right but she didn't even ask my mom if she wanted anything. Bob and I were too little to think about it. Nowadays I'm really heartbroken my grandma's poodle skirt went missing. It was hand made by my great grandma and instead of a poodle it had a black squirrel since we lice in Council Bluffs.
I'd wear the shit out of that skirt now. At nine? Not a thought. All I have is a photo of her in it. Not to mention all the tools including his gardening ones she allowed cousins to make off with. Those should have gone to my dad and Bob not my asshole cousins who didn't even consider my grandma or mom's existence after grandpa died. I should go raid their houses as they die and take back what should be mine. That's for not being there when mom died and being a bunch of funeral vultures. Just a thought. Your grandmother's skirt is gone forever. But the picture of your grandmother in it is not. Why not seek someone to recreate the skirt exactly how your grandmother's skirt appears for you. And then have your grandmother's photo restored and then a side-by-side framed photo of you two. There is a guy on Facebook who recreates photos of customers' loved ones who have passed away. He might blend a picture of a deceased love one into a photo say of the deceased loved one's current family picture. He has done many photos of a now deceased child who is wearing angel wings in the created new photo. You could do the same with the picture of your grandmother and you in look-a-like poodle skirts. |
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 16, 2024 9:33:57 GMT -5
Mom wore a women's suit for her elopment to my dad. It was a plaid blazer and gray skirt. She wore red high heels. We clomped around in those high heels when we were kids. We wore the blazer and skirt. They are no where to be found.
I'd give anything to have those back.
There were only 3 pictures taken as they got married by a justice of the peace on their day off work.
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