what are you doing right now?

[Empire the P.A.]

Made Korean style curry rice for lunch. I had a lot more beef in mine than the picture below.
I am going to start baking bread in a bit. Got all the Italian meats and the provolone I need for the prosciutto bread I’ve been hankering to try my hand at. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Dec 31, 2022 14:42:52 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Yesterday Mister came home from work in a terrible mood. I asked him why he was so irritated and he said he got irritated when it was time to leave work and come home. I didn’t know what to say to that. Then he got even more irritated because his Dad told him he’d told Mom he was going to bring her some tacos. 

Mister had already stopped and picked up a grocery order on his way home, and hadn’t planned on going back out. Plus his Dad didn’t have any money to buy tacos, and I guess just assumed Mister would pay for them. After having called Mister earlier because the vet keeps calling him about money he owes them, and asked Mister to pay them something for him.

When they left to take her tacos, I was kind of relieved, because I don’t like being around a lot of negative energy and it was oozing out of Mister. I didn’t even realize until several years ago how much other people’s negative energy can affect me, or even that I could feel other people’s energy like that, but once I became aware of it, I started trying to limit my exposure, regardless of the source.

I didn’t really think about it until last night, but before Mister got home, his Dad made several comments about us being “rich”. We have double ovens, we’re rich. I asked if he let the garage door back down after we went for a short walk up the cove (he didn’t), he’s not use to rich people stuff like that. There were a couple more, I forget the context.

Is that why he started asking Mister for so much money some months ago, and seems to expect Mister to pay his bills and for stuff for him? Because he thinks Mister has it to blow? Even though Mister keeps telling him he doesn’t have money like that, he has his own expenses, including 2 children in college and another minor child. His car is sitting in our driveway, the monthly payment is behind and the temporary tags (he just bought it this summer, against his wife’s wishes and Mister’s advice), expired a couple months ago.

I keep offering to try to help Mister figure things out, regarding his parents, but I guess he has to do everything his way. I asked all those questions here, regarding his Mom, a lot of you were kind enough to give me advice and tell me who he needed to talk to, and I did some more research on my own, and gave him all the notes I took from here and other things I looked into. And there is still no resolution. So why keep doing that stuff, if it doesn’t help? 

I know I’m all over the place with this post. Sorry.

Personally if it's not related to their house or health I wouldn't worry about their bills.

Mister’s parents aren't in a position where they are going to need good credit for anything.

Mister signed nothing to the vet. Mister owes the vet nothing. Good luck getting blood from a stone.

I'm going to hazard a guess there is probably not going to be an estate. Bill collectors can go after the estate but if there is no money they have to pound sand.

That's where I am at with grandma. The stupid pharmacy can't figure out how to bill right. Fuck it. I know there will be nothing left when she goes. I never personally agreed to be responsible. So oh no she goes to collections before that.

It's one less stressor on my plate. Grandma has become a game of triage otherwise its going to kill me.

I suggest Mister do the same including consulting with an expert in elder care if need be. He can't be everything to his parents.

[Deleted]

Dec 31, 2022 15:18:29 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Dec 31, 2022 14:23:40 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

 Downside is that I have to go to his apartment to get the drafts and he will make his ritual pass and I will make my equally ritualized negative response.

I just lol'ed.

He reminds me so much of a male dog that absolutely can't pass an object without raising his leg, even when his bladder is bone dry.  He knows darn well I'm not interested, and I know darn well he's not serious, it's just part of our exchange.  I am truly fond of him.  He was always too smart or too decent (maybe both) to go after any of us who worked for him and more than one signaled their interest.  

[finnime]

Ouch, that must have hurt, Pink Cashmere, when Mister said he was irritated every day when it was time to go home. You work so hard to provide for him a safe harbor, on top of everything else you do.

Here's the thing. He's got a swamp to cross and you can hand him tools that will help and a compass, but can't force his hand to grab on. You can only go as fast as he does.

In the meantime, keep making home as peaceful as possible, if you can.

My suggestions are worth all the paper they're written on.

[toomuchreality]

I always wish I had good answers for everyone with problems. Unfortunately, I don't. Sorry.
But I do care. I really do.
Hugs ♡

[Deleted]

Dec 31, 2022 14:42:52 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Yesterday Mister came home from work in a terrible mood. I asked him why he was so irritated and he said he got irritated when it was time to leave work and come home. I didn’t know what to say to that. Then he got even more irritated because his Dad told him he’d told Mom he was going to bring her some tacos. 

Mister had already stopped and picked up a grocery order on his way home, and hadn’t planned on going back out. Plus his Dad didn’t have any money to buy tacos, and I guess just assumed Mister would pay for them. After having called Mister earlier because the vet keeps calling him about money he owes them, and asked Mister to pay them something for him.

When they left to take her tacos, I was kind of relieved, because I don’t like being around a lot of negative energy and it was oozing out of Mister. I didn’t even realize until several years ago how much other people’s negative energy can affect me, or even that I could feel other people’s energy like that, but once I became aware of it, I started trying to limit my exposure, regardless of the source.

I didn’t really think about it until last night, but before Mister got home, his Dad made several comments about us being “rich”. We have double ovens, we’re rich. I asked if he let the garage door back down after we went for a short walk up the cove (he didn’t), he’s not use to rich people stuff like that. There were a couple more, I forget the context.

Is that why he started asking Mister for so much money some months ago, and seems to expect Mister to pay his bills and for stuff for him? Because he thinks Mister has it to blow? Even though Mister keeps telling him he doesn’t have money like that, he has his own expenses, including 2 children in college and another minor child. His car is sitting in our driveway, the monthly payment is behind and the temporary tags (he just bought it this summer, against his wife’s wishes and Mister’s advice), expired a couple months ago.

I keep offering to try to help Mister figure things out, regarding his parents, but I guess he has to do everything his way. I asked all those questions here, regarding his Mom, a lot of you were kind enough to give me advice and tell me who he needed to talk to, and I did some more research on my own, and gave him all the notes I took from here and other things I looked into. And there is still no resolution. So why keep doing that stuff, if it doesn’t help? 

I know I’m all over the place with this post. Sorry.

I asked him why he was so irritated and he said he got irritated when it was time to leave work and come home.  I can understand that because, since his folks' decline in health, coming home has become a stressful experience with demands and expectations from his dad.  I know you have always tried to make your home a peaceful sanctuary for you both, but obviously can't shelter him from that.

Is that why he started asking Mister for so much money some months ago, and seems to expect Mister to pay his bills and for stuff for him? Because he thinks Mister has it to blow? Even though Mister keeps telling him he doesn’t have money like that, he has his own expenses, including 2 children in college and another minor child. His car is sitting in our driveway, the monthly payment is behind and the temporary tags (he just bought it this summer, against his wife’s wishes and Mister’s advice), expired a couple months ago.  Yes, that's exactly what he thinks, and he's trying to set up a hazardous dynamic where he can continue to make poor financial choices (which I suspect began before the onset of his dementia and with his wife's enabling).  He and, by extension she, are basically saying that Mister is obligated to pay all of their past debts and future expenses, regardless of the potential cost.  Does he consciously want his son to neglect his children?  No, probably not, but if missed tuition and child support allow him to get his car payment, vet bills, and taco charges covered, I don't think he'll care.

So why keep doing that stuff, if it doesn’t help?  Because it does help, just not on the timeline or in the direct manner you want for you and Mister.  And because I don't see you as someone who would turn your back on someone you care deeply about, even though it can be damned tempting when we feel we aren't heard or appreciated. 

[Deleted]

Dec 31, 2022 15:10:43 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 31, 2022 14:52:32 GMT -5 saveinla said:

Pink Cashmere - I think as strong women, we want to solve our loved one's problems, but my son told me once - Not all people are as strong as you are and you need to give them grace to do things at their own pace. 

It's very hard for me, but I try to remember that when I get frustrated with people who dont go ahead and attack the problem that is very clear. I don't always succeed and get mad, so there is that  . Hugs.

 all of this. it's taken me a very long time to learn that what I might find crisis/top priority isn't categorized the same way by everyone else, and that's on me to process. I wish you good health, sanity, and grace in the new year as you continue to navigate this new normal.   if I can listen at all, if there's something you don't want to post in the forum, PM or FB message me. I'm still mostly logged out over there, but the messenger app is separate. but overall, don't forget to breathe. be well. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 31, 2022 14:52:32 GMT -5 saveinla said:

Pink Cashmere - I think as strong women, we want to solve our loved one's problems, but my son told me once - Not all people are as strong as you are and you need to give them grace to do things at their own pace. 

It's very hard for me, but I try to remember that when I get frustrated with people who dont go ahead and attack the problem that is very clear. I don't always succeed and get mad, so there is that  . Hugs.

I understand what you mean, I had to learn how to stop trying to be Ms. FixIt all the time lol.

It’s not so much that I want to solve the problems, I am just willing to try to help him gather information so he can make informed decisions and figure things out. The stuff going on with his parents affect me too, if for no reason besides me having to live with him when he’s so stressed. But there’s also the fact that all of a sudden there’s another adult living in our house who needs looking after. That definitely affects me. After YD went to college in the fall, I quickly got use to the privacy and peace of it just being us in the house while she’s away. Now that privacy is gone, there is more for me to do at home, and he talks almost as much as Kiddo! o.m.g.

Plus, even if his Mom manages to recover to where she was before all of this started, I’m not sure she could live independently because of all the health issues she already had. Mister’s Dad has always done all the physical stuff she couldn’t do. But if neither of them are okay, then what? Whatever it is, it will affect me too, even if it ends up just being a lot of money flying out of our household paying for whatever care or services they need that their insurance won’t cover and they can’t afford. Because of those things, I kinda see a lot of this as “our” problems and not just “his” problems.

I need some kind of plan so I can halfway know what to expect, because these things affect my life and my lifestyle too. There is no kind of plan for anything.

I think Mister is in denial about a lot of things. I told him a few days ago that he might as well stop thinking this stuff with his Dad will just be over in another week or so, because that is hugely unlikely. The way he looked when I said that, I might as well have punched him in the stomach with my fist.

Then there’s the fact that I can’t live with the angry bear that Mister was yesterday. Even though he wasn’t angry with me, I can’t deal with that kind of negative energy on a regular basis, and I don’t want it to come to that.

If it still sounds like I am still just trying to be Ms. FixIt, which I admit is my tendency, and I’m in denial about THAT, like I say he is in denial about some things, I am open to hearing that from you or the other posters here.

Thank you!

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 31, 2022 14:57:41 GMT -5 CCL said:

Dec 31, 2022 12:43:05 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

I had a mouse jump on my head last night while I was trying to sleep. Sushi was on the floor, in hunting mode. So, this little critter decided to go UP.
This is unacceptable.  I'm going to ask the janitor to put poison out. I don't like doing that, but what choice do I have?

Eek! If that happened to me, you would have heard me scream all the way up there in Montreal.

I would definitely have a fit if that happened to me, but even worse would be a spider or something on me lol. In fact, I think my fear of bugs went into overdrive when I was a kid and a not small spider ran across my face while I was sitting on the couch watching tv.

It’s interesting how people react differently to things. Mister was really freaked out about the mice on our deck. I didn’t like it at all, because they are nasty and destructive and I definitely didn’t want them to get inside the house. But I didn’t jump up and run when I saw one on the deck, like I do with bugs. I don’t know that Mister has run from the mice, but I do know they really freak him out, just seeing them, more than it does me.

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 31, 2022 15:10:43 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 31, 2022 14:52:32 GMT -5 saveinla said:

Pink Cashmere - I think as strong women, we want to solve our loved one's problems, but my son told me once - Not all people are as strong as you are and you need to give them grace to do things at their own pace. 

It's very hard for me, but I try to remember that when I get frustrated with people who dont go ahead and attack the problem that is very clear. I don't always succeed and get mad, so there is that  . Hugs.

 all of this. it's taken me a very long time to learn that what I might find crisis/top priority isn't categorized the same way by everyone else, and that's on me to process. I wish you good health, sanity, and grace in the new year as you continue to navigate this new normal.   if I can listen at all, if there's something you don't want to post in the forum, PM or FB message me. I'm still mostly logged out over there, but the messenger app is separate. but overall, don't forget to breathe. be well. 

Thank you!

[minnesotapaintlady]

Oh awesome. Another winter storm supposed to hit us starting Monday night into Tuesday. Just when we're all supposed to be going back to work/school. DS hasn't driven much in snow the past few years and starts at 6am.

[Deleted]

Dec 31, 2022 16:13:57 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Dec 31, 2022 14:52:32 GMT -5 saveinla said:

Pink Cashmere - I think as strong women, we want to solve our loved one's problems, but my son told me once - Not all people are as strong as you are and you need to give them grace to do things at their own pace. 

It's very hard for me, but I try to remember that when I get frustrated with people who dont go ahead and attack the problem that is very clear. I don't always succeed and get mad, so there is that  . Hugs.

I think Mister is in denial about a lot of things. I told him a few days ago that he might as well stop thinking this stuff with his Dad will just be over in another week or so, because that is hugely unlikely. The way he looked when I said that, I might as well have punched him in the stomach with my fist.

Then there’s the fact that I can’t live with the angry bear that Mister was yesterday. Even though he wasn’t angry with me, I can’t deal with that kind of negative energy on a regular basis, and I don’t want it to come to that.

I agree that he probably is deeply in denial.  The ground has shifted under his feet in a matter of a few short months, and he hasn't found firm footing yet.

I also understand the difficulty of living with an angry bear, even if they aren't angry with us.  It's perhaps even more difficult than dealing with anger directed at us which we can respond to in one way or another.  Yet I also see Mister's challenge of not showing his feelings in a terrible situation not of his making or yours.  

[chiver78]

whoo.....I definitely just ducked a convo with my sis re: Israel/Palestine and the local politics surrounding all of it. in the past couple weeks, I've decided my own sanity is worth way more than an academic discussion with my sister that will invariably melt down into tirades if I don't happen to share her exact opinion. I'm all set with that. I'm beyond happy to have the discussion, but not if she can't devolve into a harangue. see also: Etsy legal argument last week. 

I'm currently watching TCU/UM and will be putting this laptop away soon. happy new year, kids! 

[weltschmerz]

Dec 31, 2022 14:57:41 GMT -5 CCL said:

Dec 31, 2022 12:43:05 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

I had a mouse jump on my head last night while I was trying to sleep. Sushi was on the floor, in hunting mode. So, this little critter decided to go UP.
This is unacceptable.  I'm going to ask the janitor to put poison out. I don't like doing that, but what choice do I have?

Eek! If that happened to me, you would have heard me scream all the way up there in Montreal.

I went back to sleep.  There was nothing else I could do, at 3 AM.

[susana1954]

I love red beans and rice, but I haven't eaten rice in over a year.  My favorite restaurant will serve you a soupy version in a bowl without the rice.

So I googled red beans soup and have it simmering on the stove.  I have no idea if I will like it or not, but it has all the right ingredients.

But when did a package of Butterball Smoked turkey become $5?

[saveinla]

Dec 31, 2022 16:29:42 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Dec 31, 2022 16:13:57 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I think Mister is in denial about a lot of things. I told him a few days ago that he might as well stop thinking this stuff with his Dad will just be over in another week or so, because that is hugely unlikely. The way he looked when I said that, I might as well have punched him in the stomach with my fist.

Then there’s the fact that I can’t live with the angry bear that Mister was yesterday. Even though he wasn’t angry with me, I can’t deal with that kind of negative energy on a regular basis, and I don’t want it to come to that.

I agree that he probably is deeply in denial.  The ground has shifted under his feet in a matter of a few short months, and he hasn't found firm footing yet.

I also understand the difficulty of living with an angry bear, even if they aren't angry with us.  It's perhaps even more difficult than dealing with anger directed at us which we can respond to in one way or another.  Yet I also see Mister's challenge of not showing his feelings in a terrible situation not of his making or yours.  

This is so true.

Pink Cashmere - I totally agree with you about having a plan since that is what I would do too, but I think Mister may need to process the grief for his mom and dad and his loss for the life that will never be the same as it was before he starts doing anything.

I think that will be very hard for him and everyone around him, but unless he comes to that conclusion himself, there is not much you can do unfortunately.

[andi9899]

Dec 31, 2022 15:02:38 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 31, 2022 12:05:39 GMT -5 teen persuasion said:

DH wanted to go to the Y for a run and to swim a few laps.  I tagged along to grocery shop early.

Chiver, I *wish* our Y was close - it seems so crazy for DH to drive into the (tiny) city for a run, but that's why he has a membership: to give him somewhere to run in the winter when snowbanks and plows make it dangerous to run on our road.  He signed up again when they had a $0 signup deal, and the monthly fee is sliding scale based on income, so $27/month now that he's retired.  At ours you can suspend your membership for a few months once per year w/o having to pay a new-member signup fee; he might do that in the summer when he rarely uses the Y because he's running outside.

this is pretty much why I was already leaning toward joining even before I posted. andi9899 can attest as to how close it is. this Y location is in the development across the bogs, where I walk my dogs when I don't have time to get out to the canal over midday. there's also no sidewalks near my house, not that I'd be running. even when I was in the best shape of my life, I'd never run just to run. put me in a soccer game and I'd run for hours, but to just run? not my speed. nevermind that I can't hold my balance on a treadmill even at walking speed.     it's bad. I have to hold on for dear life. 

thanks to all that said "do it!", I'm going to head up on Monday to check it all out. I'm not leaving the house again today in deference to Amateur Night. lol... but, I know I need to break some bad habits, and this feels like a good start. 

I mean, you could see it from your house if you didn't live in the woods.

I need to get better about fitness too. I mean, I still go to the gym 4 days most weeks, but the intensity of my workouts has changed. I also need to step away from my desk and take a walk on lunch like I used to do. My step count isn't anything like it used to be. I'm nowhere near pre covid andi in regards to fitness.

[Pink Cashmere]

So I am rambling and trying to sort some things out in my mind, so feel free to ignore me lol.

When I thought some more about my post earlier about Mister, his Dad and money, I remembered that Mister’s Dad use to spend Mister’s money a lot earlier in our relationship. His Dad would do things for Mister’s children, then call Mister and tell him what he’d done and how much money Mister “owed” him. And he would be serious. He bought Kiddo a play set to put in his (Mister’s Dad’s), then called Mister and told him how much money he owed him, the cost of the play set. At the time, Mister’s income was about 1/3 what it is now, so it doesn’t have anything to do with his income.

When I first met Mister, he had terrible boundaries. We were just FWB for over a year, but because I did consider myself his friend, I would talk to him about his poor boundaries, part of which included people pleasing. In some ways he was a people pleaser with me too. But I liked him enough to want him to be healthy and okay, so I didn’t care if working on his boundaries made him stop people pleasing with me. He wasn’t my boyfriend, so what did it really matter how much or how little he tried to please me. It didn’t.

So when he said he wanted to be in a relationship with me, he had some growing up to do and some work to do on his boundaries. But just like how I use to say fixing money issues is often more complicated than just math, and you often have to address some other things about yourself before you can fix your money, the same was true with my insistence on who Mister had to be and what he needed to do if he wanted to be in a serious relationship with me. There was fallout in other areas of his life as he worked on his boundaries, including with his children and his parents. Even though I was ONLY addressing how he needed to treat ME, as he started growing I got blamed for the changes in those relationships and disrupting things, changes that were really due to him setting better boundaries, because I wasn’t telling him what he needed to do with those other relationships, only with ME. But I became the problem.

He had already started having some feelings about his parents, because he realized they hadn’t done him any favors when they always found a way to condone or excuse his mess, even when he was dead wrong. And he’d started addressing his Dad spending his money for him. I didn’t bring any of that to his attention, and when he would talk about it to me, I just listened. Then one day we were all talking and he and his Dad got into a huge argument because his Dad basically said it was okay if Mister lied to me because we weren’t married. And because Mister had already been thinking about that kind of stuff, he got SO mad at his Dad and told him he was tired of him trying to dismiss our relationship just because we weren’t married and even though Mister kept telling him what our relationship was and meant to him. And he told him that was terrible advice to come from a parent, the same parent that taught him that lying was wrong, period. And they got into a heated argument. 

The next day, they both told him that he needs to be careful who he listens to (me). As if I was wrong for standing up for myself in our relationship and I was the problem. And they told him he doesn’t need to be in a relationship until his daughters were adults, because him setting better boundaries with them and their Mom was causing so much conflict. Even though that was all HIS doing, and I NEVER told him how he needed to handle any relationship besides the one he had with me.

The problem was that I was the first person in his life that he cared about, to really challenge him. Everybody else, as long as they got what they needed/wanted from him, his people pleasing was enough to maintain the status quo. Even his ex-wife. But I didn’t need him, I just liked him a lot, so I was not willing to overlook bad behavior just to have a boyfriend.

So nobody really liked me after all of that. Especially not his daughters, but his parents were suddenly cool on me too. His Mom distanced herself from me more than his Dad did and neither she nor I have ever tried to bridge that gap, although we are always friendly and cordial with each other. Because I messed everything up for all of them.

Never mind that he really is a better and more responsible person than the person I met years ago, and that even he says that his life is much better now. I helped him clean up his credit, I supported and encouraged him when he was making moves to increase his income even though I had my own money and didn’t need his and now his income is much more than mine, when it was less than mine in the beginning. He probably would’ve done all that anyway with the credit and income, but he says I was a big help during the process. And I was.

And now the same person his parents tried so hard to warn him away from…. who was such a bad influence on him….. has welcomed his Dad into her home, and is willing to help make sure his Mom is okay. It’s funny how these things happen, isn’t it?

Just a lot of random thoughts and things on my mind today.

[jerseygirl]

Pink is there any equity in Mister’s parents house? Could it be sold and used to pay for an assisted living apartment for them both?

[finnime]

Pink, it all makes much more sense understanding the boundaries issues Mister has had with his family. Of course, they will push back. Of course, he will feel badly used.

You've done a lot of good for this man.

[jerseygirl]

So my cousin on my dad’s side visited me today. We never met except through ancestry and phone calls. He has a very strong resemblance to my dad . Cousin had photos of our great grandparents. I only had photo of GGM. The photo of GGF had same features heavy eyebrows , strong straight nose and shape of face. So resemblance carried through generations

[daisylu]

Finally watched "Top Gun Maverick". I delayed watching because I thought it would all be about Tom Cruise. I loved the first movie and have probably watched it at least 50 times, and I still cry every time when Goose dies. I was
extremely happy with the Goose aspects of this movie and the use of old sets, but confused about Maverick's love interest. She lived in the same house that Kelly McGillis's Charlie lived in. I was confused by this, especially at the end when Mav walked into the bar. I expected to hear the Rightous Brothers song and Penny to show up like Kelly McGillis at the end of the original. But overall I was impressed.

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 31, 2022 17:36:55 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Pink is there any equity in Mister’s parents house? Could it be sold and used to pay for an assisted living apartment for them both?

No. His Dad refinanced it earlier this year, using the equity to clean up a financial mess. And kept doing the same stuff that got him in the mess in the first place. The mortgage is behind now too.

[chiver78]

Dec 31, 2022 17:09:48 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dec 31, 2022 15:02:38 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

this is pretty much why I was already leaning toward joining even before I posted. andi9899 can attest as to how close it is. this Y location is in the development across the bogs, where I walk my dogs when I don't have time to get out to the canal over midday. there's also no sidewalks near my house, not that I'd be running. even when I was in the best shape of my life, I'd never run just to run. put me in a soccer game and I'd run for hours, but to just run? not my speed. nevermind that I can't hold my balance on a treadmill even at walking speed.     it's bad. I have to hold on for dear life. 

thanks to all that said "do it!", I'm going to head up on Monday to check it all out. I'm not leaving the house again today in deference to Amateur Night. lol... but, I know I need to break some bad habits, and this feels like a good start. 

I mean, you could see it from your house if you didn't live in the woods.

I need to get better about fitness too. I mean, I still go to the gym 4 days most weeks, but the intensity of my workouts has changed. I also need to step away from my desk and take a walk on lunch like I used to do. My step count isn't anything like it used to be. I'm nowhere near pre covid andi in regards to fitness.

hey! there's also a hill between my house and there... 🤪

that said, some separation with the pups will be a good thing, for them. I think I was gone 3h this morning, and they jumped on me like they had never seen before when I got home 🙄

[ners]

Watching the Michigan vs TUC game.  Not the game I thought it would be.   I live in Ohio so I do not route for TTUN, (the team up North) however I did not think they would be losing this game. 


Wishing I could wave a magic wand and make everything better for my sister (her DH passed away suddenly in April)

[lurkyloo]

DS thinks he is staying up til midnight tonight.  If he does, it’s going to be with his daddy...not even sure I’m going to make it to 9    Bye 2022.  Don’t let the door hit your ass on the way out.

[finnime]

I hope, ners, that your sister finds comfort in family now. I'm sorry for the loss of your BIL.

[lurkyloo]

Not feeling up to much engagement in the conversation...except that it is very, very hard not to take things arising from dementia personally, especially at the initial onset.  Wishing you and Mister all the best with the eldercare problems, Pink.  

Happy New Year, all! 

[finnime]

Nissu is baked; DH and I are dressed to go out when DSis gets here. We're just going out for a nice meal. Local fireworks were cancelled due to rain. I could (but I won't) take the polar bear plunge tomorrow at 10 a.m. at the beach. It's also a fundraiser for the high school. The water temperature is definitely above freezing, but, I'm old, I tell myself. But some day I might actually do it.

[finnime]

Happy New Year!