what are you doing right now?

[giramomma]

I have to redo some work. My computer was pissy, and you know, apparently I'm operating like it's 1990 and I need to be told to save every 5 minutes.

[chiver78]

Dec 29, 2022 5:57:53 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, perspicacious invisipeeps, keeping worlds turning toward the sun. Welcome to Thursday, New Year's Eve eve eve. I hope your day is satisfying, leaving you contented and replete with leftover food and drink.

I'm awake and feeling MUCH better. Yesterday was a total washout, after the dawn walk at the beach with Franklin the Dog. The bug that's going around bites.

So, today I do what I didn't yesterday, putting away gifts and cleaning up the guest room for DSis to stay in Saturday if she likes.

DD made it to her home yesterday safely and easily by train, so that's good. And she finally got through to Southwest air which issued a refund in flight credit, so that's double good.

I flew SWA for decades, mainly for pleasure; corporate preferred other airlines as a rule. I never had a bad experience with them until this week. That's saying a lot. Every other airline has left me hanging, missed connections, cancelled flights, left me waiting for 6 hours once after taxiing away from the gate while the weather turned in New Jersey, forced me to find my own other flight when the door wouldn't close and lock on the plane. SWA rescued me several of those occasions when other airlines dropped the ball. So I believe this was a perfect storm for SWA, not to be repeated. JMHO.

Yesterday's dawn was special at the beach. #lifeonvacation

ugh, that refund should be cash, these were not weather delays. and SW is lucky they don't operate in Europe or the compensation would be even more.

and I kind of feel the same about JetBlue. first choice for domestic travel, and they are fantastic...except when something goes wrong, and they are fantastic with that as well. lol... in all my years of flying, I've had three absolutely miserable experiences involving delays, cancellations, and general bullshittery like what we are seeing with SW. all of them have been JB.

[wvugurl26]

My sister in law didn't make it up out of Florida for my MIL's 75th birthday dinner last night. The SW debacle sucks for all involved. On the other hand, they and Frontier/Spirit are our only non-stop options to Florida. Paying double to Delta/American and risking connection issues has never seemed like a good gamble. I'm hoping Jet Blue buying Spirit will bring the non-stop back to my airport.

Maybe this is the kick in the ass Southwest finally needs to bring their scheduling software into this decade.

I have flights booked with them for Superbowl weekend and I need to book April for my niece's confirmation.

Unfortunately it seems like if you fly often enough, at some point there will be a debacle. This is particularly bad but none of the airlines are immune.

[TheOtherMe]

I gave up on Frontier years ago.  Same with Allegiant and flying in to a distant alternative airport with one rental car option.

Most of my flight issues over the years have been weather related.

Some airline is coming to Dubuque that only flies to an out of the way airport in Florida.  It's a startup airline.  It will be two flights a week.  Good luck getting where you want to be if something goes wrong.

[Deleted]

Dec 29, 2022 5:57:53 GMT -5 finnime said:

I flew SWA for decades, mainly for pleasure; corporate preferred other airlines as a rule. I never had a bad experience with them until this week. That's saying a lot. Every other airline has left me hanging, missed connections, cancelled flights, left me waiting for 6 hours once after taxiing away from the gate while the weather turned in New Jersey, forced me to find my own other flight when the door wouldn't close and lock on the plane. SWA rescued me several of those occasions when other airlines dropped the ball. So I believe this was a perfect storm for SWA, not to be repeated. JMHO.

I think Southwest has changed. One writer, Phil Baker (BakeronTech- likely behind a pay wall but I get it through a subscription to another travel blog) posted about an experience he and his family had this past October- cancellation, unacceptable re-schedule, Southwest could do nothing, they booked alternative flights on United). His conclusion:

Southwest’s formula that I’ve bought into for 20 years was to offer low prices and superb customer service in exchange for no seat assignments, a sometimes chaotic boarding process, and fewer nonstops. But without the good customer service and no longer the low prices, we’re left with an airline that charges what others do but offers much worse service. Clearly the new Southwest is a completely different airline they once were.

They have a big presence in Kansas City but I rarely have occasion to use them since they don't fly most of the routes I need. I also get a few perks for being Lifetime Gold on AA (free checked bag and seat selection) so default to them if it's practical.

Today I'm heading out after two days of comfortably hibernating in the house. Costco, another bird seed run (so far I've spent $750 in 2022 at that store!) and maybe a haircut.

[TheOtherMe]

Cousin who got fired from the Department of Defense is going to become a consultant because he is the best contractor writer the DOD ever had.  

However, the DOD has informed him that he can't contact or do business with any of the companies he wrote contracts for when he was with the DOD.  He is not happy.  How is he supposed to start a business?  Now he has asked for an exemption.  Why would the DOD give someone they just fired an exemption from contacting contractors?

I know when I retired from the IRS I couldn't work for any of the companies I had audited for 5 years.  

He thinks he is a special snowflake.

[raeoflyte]

First world problems, but problems none the less. Our recycling wasn't picked up Friday. By Tuesday I called and they said they'd be picked up by 6pm Wednesday. Which didn't happen. We got a foot of snow last night which will make it even harder for an extra pick up. Meanwhile my bins will be out for over a week. I'm sure the neighbors love me. And I have no where to put the recycling that is overflowing inside.

I may just change services, order new containers to have a place for the new stuff to go and let this be the end of dealing with waste management.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Dec 28, 2022 21:00:57 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Dec 28, 2022 20:41:17 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Pink, I think your conversation with Mister's dad was needed.  I agree that his mom wants her husband around.

I would have left when the wound was being tended to, but I would have gone back in when they were done.  

My dad was the opposite when mom was in the hospital.  We couldn't get him to go home.  He didn't want her left alone on her last hospital stay.  They were each 90 years old and he said he could sleep in the hospital chair by her bed.  We said no, he needed to sleep in his bed.  So DN2 and DN3 stayed with her all night on New Year's Eve and then the night of New Year's.  He didn't get the significance of two college kids doing that, but they did it.  

I guess he didn't think she was as sick as she was when she was hospitalized in their hometown for 10 days.  I went down, mostly to take care of him.  They had not yet gone to the hospitalist model, but I was told her doctor would come through by 7 AM, before he went for his office hours.  That meant getting up early and getting to the hospital.  That didn't fit dad's schedule.  He didn't get up until 7 AM and he had to do his routine of an hour getting ready and do his word puzzles in the newspaper before he could possibly go visit.

So I went early in the morning and we went back late morning.  Sometimes we went in the evening but he usually had television he needed to watch.

One afternoon, she looked so bad I thought she was dying.  I asked the nurse if I was really seeing what I thought I was seeing and she said she's not in very good shape.  Tried to get him to go that evening but he refused.  Mom's brother also went out and thought the same thing I did.  He called to tell me if the hospital called overnight, to call him and he would take us back to the hospital.  Thankfully that call didn't come.

Well, I might need to pray for forgiveness, but I think the wound became such a big deal because he insisted he could and would care for her the first time she was discharged from the hospital, but in reality, he wasn’t doing much of what needed to be done. Before the wound got so big and disastrous, people were telling him what he needed to do about it, and taking care of it while they were there, but he didn’t do his part. 

He couldn’t/wouldn’t even do his part to keep her clean, and left all of that to everybody else that was trying to see about her, but he was the one that insisted she come home instead of going to a facility.

I actually feel some type of way about all of that, but I reign it in because I am pretty much an outsider looking in.

But now, she is somewhere where other people have to take care of all the details of caring for her, so why can you not just be there with her now, when you don’t have to do any of the work?

I honestly don’t understand, but Imma leave it alone now, since I’ve said what I felt needed to be said.

I'm going to say on this one it may not be so much HIM specifically but that generation in general.  My grandmother absolutely insisted that she could care for my dying grandfather and it was "no one's business" coming over to her house to help.   

OMFG my dad ended up having to take over because she was leaving him in his chair all day in an adult diaper because she couldn't lift him.  Gee who knew a 5'2'' 75 pound woman with cerebal palsy couldn't lift her husband out of a chair?!

My parents took care of setting up the visiting nurses and had to keep her from firing them.

There is something about that generation that they allege they can "take care of their own" but then in reality have no actual clue or ability to care for their own properly.   I am not sure on what planet sitting grandpa in a chair for 8 hours was taking care of him properly but she will with her dying breath claim she took excellent care of him.

Also with my grandmother and probably others her age it was about $$$.  SHE could care for him for free whereas services cost money and she wasn't going to pay for that socialist crap.

I think about that a lot when people bitch about wanting to go back to the good old days and how there should be no social programs all you need is family.   Yeah. 

I absolutely do think you should have had words with Mister's dad and my dad had words with his mom.  My dad is still rightly pissed at my grandmother. 

They could chose to learn/grow and adapt but they don't. There is some deep cultural programming going on in there.   Doesn't make it right but it at least puts it in context.  You probably won't lecture him into doing what needs to be done.  

[Works4me]

Dec 28, 2022 8:07:12 GMT -5 ken a.k.a OMK said:

Dec 27, 2022 22:46:54 GMT -5 Works4me said:

I would like to know who is responsible for making all of the print smaller.

I have my screen zoom on 175% for this site and use a 32" monitor.

Except I'm not just talking about site - it's all the print in all the world!

[taz157]

It’s a moot point of going to the friend’s house for NYE. We’ve already decided to do another date next year when we are feeling better. Covid sucks!!!

This the first time we haven’t celebrated NYE since we lived out of state. 😔

[daisylu]

Dec 29, 2022 10:17:24 GMT -5 Works4me said:

Dec 28, 2022 8:07:12 GMT -5 ken a.k.a OMK said:

I have my screen zoom on 175% for this site and use a 32" monitor.

Except I'm not just talking about site - it's all the print in all the world!

This started happening to me last year. I broke down and went to progressive lenses.

[Deleted]

Dec 29, 2022 9:55:08 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Also with my grandmother and probably others her age it was about $$$.  SHE could care for him for free whereas services cost money and she wasn't going to pay for that socialist crap.

I think about that a lot when people bitch about wanting to go back to the good old days and how there should be no social programs all you need is family.   Yeah. 

Two thoughts: the people who moan about how awful it is that family doesn't take care of the elderly have probably never tried to take care of someone who is incontinent, a fall risk (if they're mobile at all), maybe senile, defiant or violent (which my Uncle was as his Alzheimer's progressed- totally out of character).

I also suspect that it's not just an objection to "socialist crap" that keeps the caregiver from getting outside help. It really is money. The usual sad scenario when a couple has limited savings/income is that the husband dies first and the widow is left with reduced SS (from 150% of husband's amount to a 100% Survivor Benefit) and the savings has been depleted by expenses of taking care of the husband in his final years. I saw this with my Aunt- she not only had to deal with her husband's occasional violent moods (she was able to calm him down, but still.. ) but she slept in a recliner in the living room to make sure he didn't wander out of the house at night.

My top financial priority (and yes, I know I'm privileged to be in this position but it's also the result of careful spending and planning) is to make sure I have the resources to pay for whatever care I need before I leave this earth.

[raeoflyte]

There's not a lot of good options. We had an overall very positive experience with the assisted living my grandparents were in, but it had it's downsides.

I wanted dgm to live with us so much. It's for the best that it didn't work out probably...but I still have regret.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I was actually quoting my grandma there.  

She DID have the funds.  $500 on a wheelchair wouldn't have covered a single day in the nursing home.  I mean whooppee she had all $100k left in her bank account so it could go to the nursing home.  Meanwhile my grandfather sat in a chair in a diaper for 8 hours a day till my father could get off work because she didn't want to spend the money to afford him some dignity.

I get a lot of seniors don't, especially in my grandmother's age group.   SHE could have though.  Not only do there need to be services for people who cannot afford it but because there are uber stubborn people out there who have no business caring for their spouses/parents/grandparents. 

Those old people need help too. Not everyone has a child like my dad or Mister who are willing/capable of stepping in.  Mister's mom and my grandfather shouldn't have to deal with substandard care because of the notion that "family" is best.

I don't think my grandma is a bad person and I don't think Mister's dad is either.  It's a culturally rooted mentality that has been allowed to go on for far too long and needs addressing as a nation.  We can't keep just counting on the younger relations handling it.

[chiver78]

I'm debating what kind of adventure the pups and I will take today. it's in the mid-40s and sunny, no wind. I just inhaled a quick bite, so I don't really want to do a long walk right this minute. maybe we will wander back to the dog park and see if we find some old friends.

[daisylu]

So, dealer rejected my car inspection. I felt it coming. Free inspections were part of my sale, but I knew that as soon as they saw it had been in an accident (August 2021) that they would look for any excuse to slap a rejection sticker on it. They claim that my power steering rack is leaking to the point of needing replaced. Obviously that did not get damaged in the accident as I would have surely run out of fluid by now. I use a small garage for 99% of my repairs, and he gives me a detailed list of what was done. Fluid has not been filled EVER. So I am dropping my car off to him to look at this afternoon.

What bugged me more is that the people in the Service office could barely explain what was found, but wanted me to schedule an appointment to have it replaced with an estimate over $3,000. One of the techs finally came to talk to me and suggested replacing a line or 2 first. Too little, too late. They would not even show me what they found. I work with maintenance and order parts for a living - I damn sure know not accept the first parts quote. Shortly after I bought the car the dealership was sold to a less than honest dealer already in the area. If you think you can bully me into letting the dealer, who I do not trust and who rejected it, do the repairs think again. 

It may need to be replaced, but I'm going to let someone I trust tell me that. My guy said he had another customer who recently through the same deal with that dealer, and that if it does need replaced he would not put it past them to have CAUSED damage while it was there. 

[raeoflyte]

I find such great happiness knowing that ds considers liking Andrew Tate to be the ultimate demonstration of bad character.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Dec 29, 2022 11:40:48 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I find such great happiness knowing that ds considers liking Andrew Tate to be the ultimate demonstration of bad character.

I had to look that up.  Good for your DS for recognizing people are showing him exactly who they are by expressing they like this Tate guy.

[TheOtherMe]

Took back the mail to the post office address to someone on a different street.  I did tell them I could have written return to sender but I would not have appreciated anyone doing that, especially for their social security statement, any more than I appreciated the post office doing it to my niece's check.

[raeoflyte]

I am really trying to keep my cool and call out stuff that is bugging me early and directly.

We are having an issue with a builder. I think they're making it into a much bigger thing than is justified but red tape is universal. My processor starts im'img me that they're ignorant assholes. I replied they have always been quite helpful, it's weird this is such a thing but I'm sure they are dealing with their rules just like we are. She just keeps going and going and I tried explaining what I think their view point is, but finally told her that she needs to stop arguing with me. This fight isn't with me.

[giramomma]

I'm still having issues with working. It's not going well.

[Deleted]

The unicorn appeared this morning and serviced the generator, including a new battery. He admitted their office is a shit show in terms of reviewing monitoring reports, making appointments and everything else. He was very skillful, worked fast by thorough and left the worksite spotless so I gushed over him on Google.

I ran 2 loads of laundry, pressed a pair of pants I got yesterday, and prepped the collard greens for Saturday. I always forget from year to year how long it takes to wash, dry, de-stem, and chop them. I'm hoping to get a haircut tomorrow and swing by the grocery store.

[countrygirl2]

We had such a nice time, I'm still smiling. I so enjoyed being with family. DIL is not like me at all, totally disorganized, I mean totally. Does not keep her house all that clean, but it's ok. It's the kitchen that gets me, how you could work in that mess is beyond me. Her excuse is small kitchen. She had a huge one in NY and was just as bad.  And why she doesn't use her dishwasher more is beyond me. Always dirty dishes around. 

I did a lot of the cooking. One evening it was dinner time, I wasn't going to fix it. Instead of starting dinner, she decided to build a ginger bread house, say what? Everyone was hungry so I went ahead and started dinner and cooked it. Just things like that. I cooked breakfast for us mostly, she doesn't care about the cooking.  

I still like her, she is just sort of well, being nice, rattle brained I guess, LOL! She did start taking pills to calm her down and for anxiety I think. She calls them her "mad" pills, I'm sure son and everyone appreciates that, I know I do. Intitally she wasn't about too but thankfully she changed her mind. So I am just trying to overlook it all and enjoy myself. You cannot make people like yourself nor should you try. So I'm learning too.

Grandson wants us to get him over spring break, I told him it was too far for just a couple of weeks. He has to wait till school is out to come down. His dad said he watched the plane being late and the progress of it till he couldn't stay awake anymore.

The kitties did ok, but they had to leave their cages in the big cages. The only way they could clean them is get them into their carrying cages and shut the door. I guess Smoke was the worst, never could get friendly with him, but Tigger did well. They were soooo thirsty when they got home. I had a pan of water on the stove and Tig who does not get on the tables or stove was so thirsty, he jumped up there until I could get his fountain fixed.  I forgot to tell them they drank a lot of water. They both lost weight. Smoke apparently didn't eat much. That didn't hurt them as they were both overweight, but sad way to lose it. Smoke just wouldn't warm up, he was so glad to see me was trying to push his head through the bars, Tiggy too. They roamed around in here for awhile after getting home. I told hubs don't let them out for a day or two till they get reacclimated. Smoke has been on my lap getting loved, he is on the back of my recliner now and Tig is asleep in their room I think. I am so happy to have them home, I missed them. Basil and Yoshi are good dogs, they both like all of us, but they aren't my kitties.

Have 3 suitcases emptied and most of the dirty clothes washed and put up. May not be ready to finish tonight. I'm thinking of a shower, but right now, a nap!

The phone rang half the day and getting caught up on scripts, appointments and those types of things.

So the bill was for 1500 kwh's, $284 dollars. I bet people had way more expensive than that around here. 

[Deleted]

Dec 29, 2022 16:45:42 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I still like her [DIL], she is just sort of well, being nice, rattle brained I guess, LOL! She did start taking pills to calm her down and for anxiety I think. She calls them her "mad" pills, I'm sure son and everyone appreciates that, I know I do. Initially she wasn't about to but thankfully she changed her mind. So I am just trying to overlook it all and enjoy myself. You cannot make people like yourself nor should you try. So I'm learning too.

I'm glad you had such a wonderful time and especially glad she's taking her pills.  It takes some self-awareness to realize that you can't stop taking them because you feel better - they're what MAKE you feel better.

DIL is not like me at all, totally disorganized, I mean totally. Does not keep her house all that clean, but it's ok. It's the kitchen that gets me, how you could work in that mess is beyond me. Her excuse is small kitchen. She had a huge one in NY and was just as bad. And why she doesn't use her dishwasher more is beyond me. Always dirty dishes around.

Yeah, DS and DDIL have a more cluttered house than I'd like and leave dirty dishes in the sink rather than put them in the dishwasher 2 steps away. I don't get it. I went down to the basement to do a wash and there were MOUNTAINS of laundry to be sorted. It appears the kids wear different clothes every day and everything gets laundered after wear. Fine for underwear, anything soiled, sweaty workout clothes, etc. but no wonder there's so much laundry. I cheerfully told DDIL that if I were faced with that much laundry I'd go join a convent. She did say she was a bit behind with all the holiday stuff going on.

I just put things like that in the category of "within a normal range, but not how I'd do things" and don't say anything. I've never been a SAHM home-schooling 3 small children. She's doing the important stuff well.

[azucena]

Pink - glad you said something but some men just can't handle hospitals, wounds, etc. Guess it shows them their own immortality or something. DHs BFF for over a decade couldn't bring himself to visit in the hospital. Said he would throw up just thinking about it. So we worked out a system where I'd text him when I was at hospital visiting and knew dh was awake and not busy and friend would at least call and talk. Never, ever about anything medical though.

Jan 2020 surgery left DH leaving the hospital 10 days later with an open wound that I could have fit both of my fists inside of. Gnarliest thing I have ever seen and dressing changes were as painful as anything. We finally convinced one home healthcare nurse to pour lidocaine on the wound vac bandages first to numb the area. We also learned to double dose him with pain killers about an hour before her visit. Otherwise he was screaming in pain and I was left struggling not to faint even without looking.

[azucena]

Dec 29, 2022 17:37:44 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

Dec 29, 2022 16:45:42 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I still like her [DIL], she is just sort of well, being nice, rattle brained I guess, LOL! She did start taking pills to calm her down and for anxiety I think. She calls them her "mad" pills, I'm sure son and everyone appreciates that, I know I do. Initially she wasn't about to but thankfully she changed her mind. So I am just trying to overlook it all and enjoy myself. You cannot make people like yourself nor should you try. So I'm learning too.

I'm glad you had such a wonderful time and especially glad she's taking her pills.  It takes some self-awareness to realize that you can't stop taking them because you feel better - they're what MAKE you feel better.

DIL is not like me at all, totally disorganized, I mean totally. Does not keep her house all that clean, but it's ok. It's the kitchen that gets me, how you could work in that mess is beyond me. Her excuse is small kitchen. She had a huge one in NY and was just as bad. And why she doesn't use her dishwasher more is beyond me. Always dirty dishes around.

Yeah, DS and DDIL have a more cluttered house than I'd like and leave dirty dishes in the sink rather than put them in the dishwasher 2 steps away. I don't get it. I went down to the basement to do a wash and there were MOUNTAINS of laundry to be sorted. It appears the kids wear different clothes every day and everything gets laundered after wear. Fine for underwear, anything soiled, sweaty workout clothes, etc. but no wonder there's so much laundry. I cheerfully told DDIL that if I were faced with that much laundry I'd go join a convent. She did say she was a bit behind with all the holiday stuff going on.

I just put things like that in the category of "within a normal range, but not how I'd do things" and don't say anything. I've never been a SAHM home-schooling 3 small children. She's doing the important stuff well.

Continue to tread carefully. Your experience raising a single child is quite different than them with 3. They are in the thick or needy kids and likely sometimes don't have the brainspace and energy level to stay on top of everything. Plus, it's more work to figure out what clothes may not actually be dirty than to just wash it all.

God love my fav aunt and godmother but she tends to underestimate how much work having a family can be esp as she never had kids. Thankfully she's stopped commenting on house stuff but instead tells me I look tired about 80% of the time i see her. He'll, yeah I'm tired! Doesn't help me at all to have you point it out though.

[Pink Cashmere]

I tried my first belly dancing lesson this afternoon. Good grief, when did I get so stiff and uncoordinated? I could see myself in the mirror and it was a mess lol. I get embarrassed very easily, no way would I be able to learn in a class with other people, even if they start out just as goofy as I am. I would crumble in embarrassment if anybody, including Mister, had seen me today. Except for maybe my children. They are about the only people on this earth that I’m not embarrassed to let see me try to learn dances or whatever, and comfortable letting them see my goofiness in all its glory lol. I use to ask them to help me and show me how to do certain dances. Well, I use to ask DS, because DD is even worse than me, she doesn’t even really have rhythm lol. DS is awesome at dancing, to the point that DD use to roll her eyes at him and tell him to just sit down somewhere lol.

And if I asked DS to learn to belly dance with me, he would. He’s always game for indulging my strange ideas. And even though I’m positive he would be much better from the beginning than I am, I would not be embarrassed for him to see how stiff and uncoordinated I am. DD thinks some of the things I’m interested in are weird, but I wouldn’t be embarrassed to try in front of her either. Idk what it means that I’d die inside if Mister saw me, but not my children, but whatever.

Anyway, I didn’t finish the video. I feel like I need to keep practicing the first part until I get that together, before I move on. I guess the good news is that there’s so much to learn, that trying to learn it all can keep me occupied for months, if not years lol.

I’ve wanted to learn to belly dance ever since I went to Hawaii and saw how those ladies could move their bodies, but i never got around to seriously trying. Better late than never, right?

[giramomma]

It is shocking how much of a lift a family of 3-4 takes. When DS was at home, we went through like 5 gallons of milk a week and ran the dishwasher like 3 times a day.  With three, we're down to 1-2 gallons of milk a week and running the dishwasher 1-2 times a day.

DS made the mistake of letting us know we hadn't swept the kitchen floor on Christmas morning.

I handed him the broom.

My kids can be in activities and have me around to play games and  build legos with them or they can have a tidy house with no dishes in the sink.

They choose the activities, games, legos pretty much all the time.

This fall semester, a normal week was getting our kids to 13-14 different places a week.  And DH and I managed to do that.

[chiver78]

Dec 29, 2022 18:13:29 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I tried my first belly dancing lesson this afternoon. Good grief, when did I get so stiff and uncoordinated? I could see myself in the mirror and it was a mess lol. I get embarrassed very easily, no way would I be able to learn in a class with other people, even if they start out just as goofy as I am. I would crumble in embarrassment if anybody, including Mister, had seen me today. Except for maybe my children. They are about the only people on this earth that I’m not embarrassed to let see me try to learn dances or whatever, and comfortable letting them see my goofiness in all its glory lol. I use to ask them to help me and show me how to do certain dances. Well, I use to ask DS, because DD is even worse than me, she doesn’t even really have rhythm lol. DS is awesome at dancing, to the point that DD use to roll her eyes at him and tell him to just sit down somewhere lol.

And if I asked DS to learn to belly dance with me, he would. He’s always game for indulging my strange ideas. And even though I’m positive he would be much better from the beginning than I am, I would not be embarrassed for him to see how stiff and uncoordinated I am. DD thinks some of the things I’m interested in are weird, but I wouldn’t be embarrassed to try in front of her either. Idk what it means that I’d die inside if Mister saw me, but not my children, but whatever.

Anyway, I didn’t finish the video. I feel like I need to keep practicing the first part until I get that together, before I move on. I guess the good news is that there’s so much to learn, that trying to learn it all can keep me occupied for months, if not years lol.

I’ve wanted to learn to belly dance ever since I went to Hawaii and saw how those ladies could move their bodies, but i never got around to seriously trying. Better late than never, right?

definitely ask DS to join you on this belly dancing adventure! he will encourage you, in a safe space to get your groove on.

[jerseygirl]

gira - loved you handed DS the broom!!