what are you doing right now?

[chiver78]

sorry. 

[swamp]

Anna the lab also gets presents.   The majority of them come from DH, who "doesn't like her."

OK, so I'm going to explode. 

This morning it was homemade scones.   Then I went to my dad's and he had homemade turkey noodle soup.  I get back to the office, and one of the guys from another office in the building brought in homemade butter tarts.  I still haven't touched the peanut butter pie, made by the same person who made the scones.   

[giramomma]

Dec 21, 2022 12:59:01 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Well...sort of...I'll still have to run data next week and keep everything updated or the first week of January will be a nightmare, but my customer's company shuts down for the week, so no deadlines or putting together the weekly 45 slide power point presentation for them. 

OMG. Are you serious? Who requested that?

[minnesotapaintlady]

Dec 21, 2022 13:49:09 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Dec 21, 2022 12:59:01 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Well...sort of...I'll still have to run data next week and keep everything updated or the first week of January will be a nightmare, but my customer's company shuts down for the week, so no deadlines or putting together the weekly 45 slide power point presentation for them. 

OMG. Are you serious? Who requested that?

The customer.  It's our weekly quality report.  Test data, FPY, defect paretos and action items on the final assembly and all the subs. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I am slammed at work too.  All the scientists apparently want to enjoy their holiday and had the same idea that they'd get their stuff in first.

Apparently one was demanding that they get their results before Christmas before I arrived for the day.  I am told that that demand did not go over well. 

You and everyone else buddy, get in line.   

[minnesotapaintlady]

The last week of the year is by far the busiest week here.  There was a warning email that went out yesterday that if we lose production due to the weather the next few days office people will be required to work on the floor next week to try and meet the numbers.  Of course I won't be here at all.  Normally I would offer myself up for the cause especially since they're handing out bonus money hand over fist, but I am seriously burnt the F out after this past few months on this project.  There is laundry all over my house, dishes piled in the sink, the tree is only half put together, and I've slept on the couch the last week because my bed is not piled with gifts and laundry and Christmas stuff...

[bookkeeper]

DH is in Nebraska, hopefully his plane will fly tomorrow to bring him home.  He didn't rent a car, so someone else gets to brave the blizzard to haul his butt around.  I knew this was a bad idea when he planned it.  We vowed not to fly over Christmas years ago, but someone forgot about that.

At least he is warm and safe and gets to play with grandkids in the meantime.

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 21, 2022 8:57:21 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dec 20, 2022 22:09:36 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I took Mister out into the garage because I had something to say that I didn’t want to be overheard.

I reminded him how when my Mom came to stay with me, he stopped even coming to visit me for a while, let alone help me with any of the new stuff I had on my plate, and I reminded him of how upset I was with him during that time. Which he said he remembers.

I told him that I’m not trying to be a bitch, and I’m not interested in tit for tat, I just wanted the record to show the difference between what he did back then, and what I’m doing now when his parents need help and his Dad is staying with us.

He said that he just wasn’t comfortable continuing as we had been when my Mom started staying with me. I asked if he thinks I’m comfortable with his Dad wandering around the house in his boxers sometimes and feeling like it’s on me to try to make sure I don’t see him nekkid. Never mind that even though he does prepare meals for his Dad, him being here is still more work for me. And I’m okay with that. I just want it to be acknowledged that he handled me differently when it was my parent.

I told him it reminded me of a coworker whose Mom was really sick the last year of her life. My coworker and some of his siblings (there are 9 of them, I think) took turns going home (a couple hours away) on weekends to give their sisters that were caring for their Mom every day a break. This coworker’s wife bitched and complained about the weekends he went to spend with his Mom. The wife refused to go with him, she just bitched and complained about it. His Mom died. Less than a year later, the wife’s Mom got sick enough that she couldn’t live by herself. The wife moved her Mom from out of state, to live with them, and didn’t think she should at least have a conversation with my coworker, her husband, before doing all of that. Like her Mom was more special or important than his Mom was. And her Mom living with them was a lot more and totally different than when he’d been going to spend a weekend with his Mom once a month.

So my point to Mister was how things look different when it’s you and your family, and you expect whatever you do to try to see about them, to be okay. And how he didn’t give me the same grace with my situation with my Mom, that I’ve been giving him.

I don’t want him to do anything differently, I’m good with his Dad being here if we can care for him properly. I just wanted to make a point. I’ve let it go how he did me back then, but I haven’t forgotten it. That’s one of my “toxic traits”, I don’t forget SHIT. So, I just wanted him to know that I haven’t forgotten and I wanted him to acknowledge the difference in how we’ve handled things.

I'm confused. If you've let it go, why bring it up? You yourself have said you wouldn't move your mom in with you. You've also said you don't have a problem with him being there. What's the point of an "I'm better than you" conversation? Or is it just to be "toxic"?

It definitely wasn’t an “I’m better than you” conversation. It was a “this is an example of what I mean when I say…” conversation. Part of a bigger, ongoing conversation about stuff that has nothing to do with our parents, but about us and how we operate in our relationship.

Saying “one of my toxic traits is”, is a phrase I see a lot on FB, and it’s usually followed by something random, usually lighthearted, that isn’t necessarily toxic. If you (general you) aren’t on FB or you are, but that kind of stuff doesn’t come down your feed, I can see why a person would’t have “got it” when they read what I wrote, then call me toxic.

[chiver78]

I just broke down the gift bags my parents brought on Sunday, while the pups aren't here. I pulled the squeaker toys from the bags on Monday, but didn't want to take the treats out when I wasn't about to give them any at that time. I also discovered more in my big bag (that I gave my mom crap about bringing...) than just the 2ft candy cane we all laughed about when she showed me. there was also a set of pajamas I'll end up gifting somewhere, and a card with $100 in it. 

I'll call her later and say thank you. I kind of feel like an ass that I hadn't looked in the bags yet, oops. 

[andi9899]

Dec 21, 2022 14:00:33 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I am slammed at work too.  All the scientists apparently want to enjoy their holiday and had the same idea that they'd get their stuff in first.

Apparently one was demanding that they get their results before Christmas before I arrived for the day.  I am told that that demand did not go over well. 

You and everyone else buddy, get in line.   

That would get them put in the back of my line. I don't play that shit.

[andi9899]

Dec 21, 2022 14:09:48 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Dec 21, 2022 8:57:21 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm confused. If you've let it go, why bring it up? You yourself have said you wouldn't move your mom in with you. You've also said you don't have a problem with him being there. What's the point of an "I'm better than you" conversation? Or is it just to be "toxic"?

It definitely wasn’t an “I’m better than you” conversation. It was a “this is an example of what I mean when I say…” conversation. Part of a bigger, ongoing conversation about stuff that has nothing to do with our parents, but about us and how we operate in our relationship.

Saying “one of my toxic traits is”, is a phrase I see a lot on FB, and it’s usually followed by something random, usually lighthearted, that isn’t necessarily toxic. If you (general you) aren’t on FB or you are, but that kind of stuff doesn’t come down your feed, I can see why a person would’t have “got it” when they read what I wrote, then call me toxic.

I don't have any social media. A lot of stuff goes over my head. Also everyone knows about everything way before I do. I'm still not getting social media. I'd be dangerous!

[weltschmerz]

Dec 21, 2022 12:50:58 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I am starving. Jello isn't cutting it. I had some applesauce too.

Do you have any broth?

[weltschmerz]

Dec 21, 2022 11:37:30 GMT -5 bean29 said:

As I mentioned yesterday, we will be in Cancun, Mexico for 5 days for the New Year with friends of ours.  Doggie daycare will be shared by my Kids and my in-laws.  We have a fenced backyard, and my in-laws have a fenced backyard.  If my one dog does not get walked, he sometimes will decide to go on a run/walk himself even if it is freezing cold outside.  I am thinking they need a second set of tags with Grandma and Grandpa's addy on it, and some kind of Bluetooth tracking tag.  I think there are some made specifically for dogs- has anyone used something like this for their pets?

My Son lives just a few blocks from my in-laws and DD said she could stay at my house for a few days.  She will also have to feed her Rabbits every day, but I am sure it is going to be very cold and possibly snowy - so idk how far my dogs will get walked.  My Teddy bear will be ok either way, but the Schnauzer needs to walk every day. Because I know I have to walk the dogs every day, I have 2 long down coats and heavy gloves and mittens, and now I even have a pair of heated gloves.  Idk if DD will wear my coats or not as she is about 2 sizes smaller than me.  

I have something like IBS, when I recently looked at a list of foods to avoid if you have IBS, it was something like Milk, Corn, Sugar, Wheat.  I am lactose intolerant, have avoided sugar since I was about 25, although I have not eliminated it entirely, and within the last few years, decided I have very adverse reactions to corn.  I do not eat anything with corn or high fructose corn syrup in it.  The idea of eating 3 meals a day for 5 days made by someone other than me or DH makes me pretty nervous.  I should probably start intermittent fasting before the trip, so I get used to eating less often.

IBS-D or IBS-C? The diets are very different for both of them   I have IBS-D and the diet is very restrictive.  I just make sure I have Immodium or Lomotil around if I eat at a restaurant or somebody's house.

[wvugurl26]

I need to login and deal with some stuff and I'm super cranky about it. I'm very over all of these contracts. I'm on leave but I have no one to delegate to. An invoice came in and I should submit my travel voucher for last week. Plus put an out of office up. I had one up for the week I traveled. Teams is set to out of office status.

[raeoflyte]

My boss sent me a "sorry -I'm not much help in this" and I wanted to ask if he's ever much help. But I refrained.

They make everything so difficult here. I really don't think they should keep me on considering how tight things are, but they'd be hurting without me. I don't feel like I even do much of anything, except ask other people to do their jobs. It's exhausting. All the responsibility with none of the access.

[lurkyloo]

Gifts for husbands:  I ask for requests, but also keep it simple.  Favorite snacks or drinks, things you notice needing replacement, etc.  DH is getting several work shirts, replacement gloves, replacement giant umbrella, bbq tongs, chocolate covered peanuts, and apples from Harry&David.
If I have a good idea Ill go with it-replacement ipad mini, $$$ US made leather jacket, etc-but I generally figure my biggest gift to him is taking on most of the holiday planning and execution. 

[daisylu]

Dec 21, 2022 6:26:55 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, savvy and sage invisipeeps, preparing for weather and not. Welcome to Wednesday. I hope your day brings you peace and plans proceed as hoped. Plus, you get cookies!

I'm in a mixed mood. Largely I'm ecstatic because my book is live! On Amazon. I've ordered some copies to give as gifts to kids in my life. And other copies for their grandparents. It's live! Counting Tiny Dinosaurs

What has me really sort of frantic is I don't know when DS is leaving NYC for Denver. It looks like the weather will be extremely rough from Missouri on. He hasn't had much experience driving since he moved to NY 6 years ago. He's driven, just not a lot. This trip, moving, he's taking a UHaul van. I'm worried. Big snow, ice, temperatures below 10--is dangerous. And he's my son. I'm going to call as soon as I think he's up and see what's going on. It's possible he's already under way.

We saw yesterday at the beach tiny dinosaurs getting up from their slumber party, putting on shoes and makeup and getting ready for the day.

I have a book in my cart!

[daisylu]

Dec 21, 2022 8:57:21 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dec 20, 2022 22:09:36 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I took Mister out into the garage because I had something to say that I didn’t want to be overheard.

I reminded him how when my Mom came to stay with me, he stopped even coming to visit me for a while, let alone help me with any of the new stuff I had on my plate, and I reminded him of how upset I was with him during that time. Which he said he remembers.

I told him that I’m not trying to be a bitch, and I’m not interested in tit for tat, I just wanted the record to show the difference between what he did back then, and what I’m doing now when his parents need help and his Dad is staying with us.

He said that he just wasn’t comfortable continuing as we had been when my Mom started staying with me. I asked if he thinks I’m comfortable with his Dad wandering around the house in his boxers sometimes and feeling like it’s on me to try to make sure I don’t see him nekkid. Never mind that even though he does prepare meals for his Dad, him being here is still more work for me. And I’m okay with that. I just want it to be acknowledged that he handled me differently when it was my parent.

I told him it reminded me of a coworker whose Mom was really sick the last year of her life. My coworker and some of his siblings (there are 9 of them, I think) took turns going home (a couple hours away) on weekends to give their sisters that were caring for their Mom every day a break. This coworker’s wife bitched and complained about the weekends he went to spend with his Mom. The wife refused to go with him, she just bitched and complained about it. His Mom died. Less than a year later, the wife’s Mom got sick enough that she couldn’t live by herself. The wife moved her Mom from out of state, to live with them, and didn’t think she should at least have a conversation with my coworker, her husband, before doing all of that. Like her Mom was more special or important than his Mom was. And her Mom living with them was a lot more and totally different than when he’d been going to spend a weekend with his Mom once a month.

So my point to Mister was how things look different when it’s you and your family, and you expect whatever you do to try to see about them, to be okay. And how he didn’t give me the same grace with my situation with my Mom, that I’ve been giving him.

I don’t want him to do anything differently, I’m good with his Dad being here if we can care for him properly. I just wanted to make a point. I’ve let it go how he did me back then, but I haven’t forgotten it. That’s one of my “toxic traits”, I don’t forget SHIT. So, I just wanted him to know that I haven’t forgotten and I wanted him to acknowledge the difference in how we’ve handled things.

I'm confused. If you've let it go, why bring it up? You yourself have said you wouldn't move your mom in with you. You've also said you don't have a problem with him being there. What's the point of an "I'm better than you" conversation? Or is it just to be "toxic"?

I "think" it was used as a teachable moment, because it doesn't sound like she addressed it at the time. I could be wrong.

[daisylu]

Dec 21, 2022 10:21:17 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Dec 21, 2022 10:11:25 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I still haven't found anything much for DH.

He bought himself an apple watch (on my target card)  and I was thinking about covering that for Christmas.

He doesn't really ask for much. And anything I get him ends up tucked away, anyway.

I bought directly off dh's Amazon list which seems kind of lame. Wool socks, t-shirt, and replacement espresso cups. He's getting wool boxers from my folks so there might be a theme. Nothing very personal, but that's not possible every year imo.

I wish DH would gift me from my wish list.

[stillmovingforward]

Dec 21, 2022 13:58:32 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Dec 21, 2022 13:49:09 GMT -5 giramomma said:

OMG. Are you serious? Who requested that?

The customer.  It's our weekly quality report.  Test data, FPY, defect paretos and action items on the final assembly and all the subs. 

Jeeze, so you guys do work for me? 😛

[raeoflyte]

My boss sent me a "sorry -I'm not much help in this" and I wanted to ask if he's ever much help. But I refrained.

They make everything so difficult here. I really don't think they should keep me on considering how tight things are, but they'd be hurting without me. I don't feel like I even do much of anything, except ask other people to do their jobs. It's exhausting. All the responsibility with none of the access.

[daisylu]

Got back to sleep this morning around 4am, and slept until almost 10. Definitely woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Got cleaned up and just left. Got home 30 minutes ago, and DH wasn't here. I texted and he showed up from his parents house (they live on the next property over). I wish I hadn't.

I'm pissy. Now DD is up and I don't want to take it out on the wrong person, though she deserves some of it too. It is 3:26, is it too early to go to bed?

[lurkyloo]

Oooh, thoughts of dog daily calendar is also a good general gift for anyone who likes dogs. DH is getting one which will probably be promptly claimed by DS. There’s a twitter account with examples of the sorts of “thoughts” you get each day 

[andi9899]

My nephew is so triflin that I can't stand it sometimes. He had a white elephant party to go to and didn't have a gift bag. Tell me why this child took it in the bag that the cat food came in?! He was at my house earlier in the day. Why not ask me for a gift bag? He's so weird.

[weltschmerz]

I don't remember who recommended Zenni.com.  
I called my optometrist and they will email me my prescription. I could use a few glasses for cheap There's a Zenni in Canada.
Thank you.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nothing is more stab inducing than the lecture email about how if your job cannot be done at home then you are highly encouraged to come in and if you don't have anything to do because yanno everyone else but you is taking advantage of the fact they have an office job that they can "do from home" and you don't we can find you lots of busy work!  Don't be resentful this is a wonderful opportunity for you to clean and do cross training so we don't have to hire more people!   

You won't be wasting a single second of company time we assure you.  Isn't it just wonderful how productive you are being and making sure the company keeps making profits?! (that you will never see a dime of of course).



Fortunately or unfortunately depending on your perspective I am up to my eyeballs in submissions and have barely made a dent in the pile today so at least I can escape them trying to assign me crap.  I have more than enough to fill an entire work day and well into Friday.   I am skeptical I will be able to get off early like I wanted to thanks to everyone else who wants to enjoy their holiday time.

Winter vacation is also something that is wasted on kids. 

[wvugurl26]

I'm cranky about the hour I spent logged in. I made a first pass at my inbox, addressed some issues, submitted my travel voucher and put my out of office message up.

It's all done now and the office laptop will remain closed for the next week.

[daisylu]

DH is outside running the portable generator in case we need it this weekend. We also came up with a plan between running the HVAC and the propane fireplace due to the ice coming in.

I know it's possible to both love and hate someone at the same time, but damn. I don't really hate him, it's me having a rough day. Just realized it has been exactly 1 year since my last period.

[susana1954]

Dec 21, 2022 15:37:43 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

I don't remember who recommended Zenni.com.  
I called my optometrist and they will email me my prescription. I could use a few glasses for cheap There's a Zenni in Canada.
Thank you.

I really liked the ones I got from there, and I have Progressives that also need the thinner lenses.  They were inexpensive.  You do have to put the lenses in yourself, which was a little difficult for me.  I am not a mechanical person.  Also, the frames broke after maybe 8 months.  However, they still had them and waived shipping on the second frame.

My only dislike was that I bought frames that were slightly too big for my face.  That was my fault.

[chiver78]

I'm trying to work up the motivation to make some pesto. the basil on my counter is looking a little rough. I have walnuts, not pine nuts, and I'll need to bulk it up with baby spinach. but if I wait another day, I think I'll lose the basil. ugh.