what are you doing right now?

[lurkyloo]

We had a shorter than usual kid gathering yesterday, and added a new participant.  The dynamics are sort of odd-DS likes everyone but it’s really only important to him that his BFF attends, meanwhile BFF likes having the additional participants and some of the additional participants want to hang out with BFF-but BFF will frequently only come if DS is involved.  All while BFF comments that he’s an introvert while DS is an extrovert…

Anyway, I bought a bunch of cookie house kits so they could make Frankencookiehouse-one kit got built, which was promptly knocked to the floor by the dog, and then they all hot tubbed and did boy things (building a bridge, a fence, and a catapult out of a long two by four, a rock and a sledgehammer with one of the dog’s stuffies as the projectile) instead.  

I sent everyone home with a cookie house kit in revenge 

I need to log in and check to see how many of his assignments are missing and I don’t wanna.

[soupandstew]

I am a clean freak, and I'll own it.  I'm particularly obsessive about kitchen cleanliness for health reasons.  I can tolerate dust for a bit, but stuff left on tables, counters, or floors is a hard no for me.  DH recently bought a small stair step machine and he now gets to clean the floors in that corner because I'm not throwing my back out moving the thing weekly to mop.  Our mantra is "put it away, don't put it down" and it works.  

[cooper88]

In my latest flood escapades, I am going to work this morning. I have no idea where my bras are. They are somewhere here since they were in a top drawer, but that lingerie chest is gone. I've been wearing sports bras since the flood. I am wearing one to work today. I don't think anyone is going to have a problem with my uniboob look. I'm going to rock it!

[finnime]

I hope your day is a good one, cooper88.

[MJ2.0]

Friendsgiving went well yesterday despite some last minute cancellations. DS was able to attend even though he's usually with his dad on Sundays. We had enough food (that's always a worry of mine unless there is an unreasonably large amount of food ), everyone got along and chatted well, and the kids were mostly behaved..... DH's friends toddler is a massive handful though. He kept stuffing balloons into the cat-door of my office (where JB the cat spends most of her time). JB is TERRIFIED of balloons, so I can only imagine how scared she was as she was seeing them pop into the room one by one, lol. Tasmanian Devil Boy I'll call him (TDB for short) was also putting his hands on DH's dog - who is extremely scared of small kids and was eerily calm while her face was being contorted by TDB - and messing with my BFF's 1.5 year old daughter. It was awkward because I wanted to go, "hey {DH's friend & DH's friend's wife}, watch your hellion!!" so so SO many times, but I know it's impolite to tell people to watch their kids so I just went to redirect him myself. A small part of me wishes I could have had another kid bc DS would be an amazing big brother, but I know I would have been emotionally drowning with more than one. Yesterday confirmed for me that I made the right choice.

 

[andi9899]

Nov 17, 2024 20:03:03 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I don’t think things are going to go well with the new supervisor, J. Today she came to me and another young lady, I guess to assert her authority with big d*** energy and tell us she is the supervisor, and what she expects us to do when she “instructs” us to do something. The coworker and I looked at each other, and she said what I was thinking “where is this coming from”, since we were working where she moved us to, and actually working. J started going on again and said she expects us to use a certain part of the machine if needed, when the regular people are on break or lunch. I said “I don’t know how to use it”. Which is true. She told me just use it. I didn’t say anything else about it, but she’s in for a surprise the first time she insists I use it. I’m not going to try to figure out how to operate a piece of machinery that can injure me if I do something wrong. So she’ll have to get somebody to train me to use it. And not just somebody saying “push this button to this, and that one to do that”. I need to know how to operate it safely and stuff like where the emergency stops are.

She kept going on about her being a supervisor and her expectations when she “instructs” us to do something, I got irritated and said “Expectations are a GREAT thing to have”, meaning IDGAF about your expectations. She asked “what did you say”, as if I wouldn’t repeat it. I said it again, louder. She said “yes they are, and I EXPECT you to follow my instructions” and stomped off.

I still don’t know where that came from. I was annoyed because I hadn’t given her attitude or refused to do what she asked (well I guess “instructed” lol) me to do. 

She's obviously never been in a position of power. Good managers don't behave that way. Good luck. Bad bosses suck.

[andi9899]

The duct cleaning guys are here. They said it's about as bad as he's ever seen. There is tons of dog hair in there. These guys are going to be earning their paychecks today!

[azucena]

The current chore standoff at my house involves multiple nasty trash cans stuck in exile on our deck for oh, about six weeks now. I like to have a trash can in every room and while DH is really good about taking out the trash on at least a weekly basis, he just can't get it through his thick skull that part of taking out the trash should involve putting in new trash bags. Before this standoff, I even went so far as to put extra trash bags in the bottom of each one to give him multiple weeks. He'd run thru them and then go back to naked trash cans.

Every six months or so, I'd get fed up with nasty trash cans and end up spending 2 hours washing them which is a completely unnecessary chore because that's what trash bags prevent. So last time I washed them all, I told him that's it. I'm not washing these again. Next time it's on you. When they got nasty, I'd stacked them near the kitchen counter to be washed. They sat there until housecleaner day when he moved them to deck. They are currently collecting leaves and rain making their cleanup even more gross.

All 3 girls are currently watching this current standoff which I find amusing.

FWIW, since the laundry experiment, he's only putting about 20% of his typical clothes on the floor so I'm calling that a partial win. Before housecleaner comes biweekly, I remind him to pick them up.

We're also in a standoff about the fact that he suggested adding a dashcam to DD16's van when she started driving and I thought great idea. Well, a few weeks later I realized he also put one on his car. Fine, but, um, where's mine? Wouldn't common courtesy be to buy and install one for your wife too? Esp since chore split has him taking care of both technology and vehicles?

Realizing that this common courtesy stuff is both nature and nurture like everything else. In his family of origin, you fought and clawed your way for every little bit and didn't think about others in doing so because you were trying to survive. And this man was never, ever going to be a neat freak.

[greenthumb59]

Nov 18, 2024 10:30:15 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Nov 17, 2024 20:03:03 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I don’t think things are going to go well with the new supervisor, J. Today she came to me and another young lady, I guess to assert her authority with big d*** energy and tell us she is the supervisor, and what she expects us to do when she “instructs” us to do something. The coworker and I looked at each other, and she said what I was thinking “where is this coming from”, since we were working where she moved us to, and actually working. J started going on again and said she expects us to use a certain part of the machine if needed, when the regular people are on break or lunch. I said “I don’t know how to use it”. Which is true. She told me just use it. I didn’t say anything else about it, but she’s in for a surprise the first time she insists I use it. I’m not going to try to figure out how to operate a piece of machinery that can injure me if I do something wrong. So she’ll have to get somebody to train me to use it. And not just somebody saying “push this button to this, and that one to do that”. I need to know how to operate it safely and stuff like where the emergency stops are.

She kept going on about her being a supervisor and her expectations when she “instructs” us to do something, I got irritated and said “Expectations are a GREAT thing to have”, meaning IDGAF about your expectations. She asked “what did you say”, as if I wouldn’t repeat it. I said it again, louder. She said “yes they are, and I EXPECT you to follow my instructions” and stomped off.

I still don’t know where that came from. I was annoyed because I hadn’t given her attitude or refused to do what she asked (well I guess “instructed” lol) me to do. 

She's obviously never been in a position of power. Good managers don't behave that way. Good luck. Bad bosses suck.

So she is just gonna show up, tell you to do as "instructed" and everything will be magically better and more efficient.  Sure.  I feel like she's younger and trying to prove herself?  Let's see how long this lasts.

[soupandstew]

Peopling is exhausting!  We had a wonderful time yesterday at our friend's gathering, but I was totally worn out.  When we got home I did some online shopping, took off my makeup and put on a lovely green mask which made me look like a reject from the cast of "Wicked".  I was in bed asleep by 9.  So far today I've assisted DH with online bill pay, fed the birds and squirrels, updated CC info on some accounts and now have bleach sitting on the kitchen counters.  I might go to the grocery store after lunch depending on the weather.  

[greenthumb59]

It rained overnight, and it will be raining again here in a bit.  Lots of strong winds today too.  So I'm staying inside and cleaning the house.

In my house I am the only person who knows how to clean a bathroom. I live with two men, and frankly their bathroom gets super nasty.  Unfortunately for me, it's the only full bath in the house.  So I clean it when I just can't stand it anymore.  I also sweep, mop and dust.  I have a lab mix dog so the dog hair is everywhere.  It's a losing battle.

I've filled all the bird feeders and walked the dog.  Laundry is going and I'm working on a Walmart pick up order.  

[andi9899]

Nov 18, 2024 10:57:08 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Peopling is exhausting!  We had a wonderful time yesterday at our friend's gathering, but I was totally worn out.  When we got home I did some online shopping, took off my makeup and put on a lovely green mask which made me look like a reject from the cast of "Wicked".  I was in bed asleep by 9.  So far today I've assisted DH with online bill pay, fed the birds and squirrels, updated CC info on some accounts and now have bleach sitting on the kitchen counters.  I might go to the grocery store after lunch depending on the weather.  

T2 is very introverted. She doesn't people unless she has to. When we go to family stuff sometimes people will ask if she's coming. She rarely does because she doesn't like to people and when she does come, she leaves very early.

[bean29]

Nov 17, 2024 20:57:18 GMT -5 Ava said:

Winding down to start a new work week tomorrow.

I go to an office 30 miles away once a week. It's heavy traffic, and the office building is old. The configuration sucks. There's one bathroom 2 floors down, that's it. The office itself sucks. There's a kitchenette but nowhere to sit down and eat. So, I end up eating in my car, which I do not like at all. The building turns down the heat during the weekend, and it's not even 60 degrees on Monday morning. It takes a couple of hours to feel warm in there.

I keep telling myself it's only once a week, and I remind myself I left a very toxic work environment to work here. All of that is true, but I don't want to go there anymore.

When I got hired, I was told I would work in the office near my home. And I do. I work there 2 days a week, 2 days from home, and 1 day in the office 30 miles away. I really want to stop going there.
But my immediate supervisor works there, and she appreciates some face-to-face interactions.

I'm turning 52 next week. I don't know if it's age related, maybe I'm approaching menopause or what. But I'm tired. The job is not bad, people are great. I just don't want to work anymore. I daydream of retiring. Then I snap out of it, even early retirement is years away.

My car had an issue this weekend. I got the "check tire pressure" light on. I suck at cars so bad. I called a lady I met through the Meetup group I organize. We have become good friends. She met me at a nearby gas station. She showed me how to put air in the tires, but this tire was still flat. She called her boyfriend, and we went to his house. He works on cars and has a ton of equipment. There was a leak on the tire. He fixed it for me. I thanked him so many times. I'm going to bake him a pie or some alfajores, because he likes sweets, and he refused to charge me for his work.

My DH says to go to the oil change place and ask them to fill your tires.  He says especially in the winter, b/c the ones at the gas station tend to freeze up.  He said just be prepared to tip the worker who fills your tires.  Of course your way ended up working in your favor as she had a solution when you needed a leak fixed.

[andi9899]

I will say that living alone means that my house stays pretty clean. I downsized with both moves and don't have a clutter issue. My main issue if someone were to come over would be making sure there are no dog toys to trip over. I feel like every time I pick them up they make it their personal mission to spread them all over the house again.

That and my shoes. If I don't put my shoes away Macy will take them and spread them all over the house. She loves carrying my shoes around for some reason.

[seriousthistime]

Nov 18, 2024 11:21:21 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I will say that living alone means that my house stays pretty clean. I downsized with both moves and don't have a clutter issue. My main issue if someone were to come over would be making sure there are no dog toys to trip over. I feel like every time I pick them up they make it their personal mission to spread them all over the house again.

That and my shoes. If I don't put my shoes away Macy will take them and spread them all over the house. She loves carrying my shoes around for some reason.

Same, as to the house staying pretty clean. 

I can't say my house was always like this.  When the kids lived at home, and especially for the three years I was in grad school and teaching two sections of a Gen Ed required course, the house really didn't get clean and orderly until summer. And it was pretty bad for the other nine months of the year. 

I've gotten rid of a lot of stuff and want to get rid of even more. And my current house has tons of storage, so I could keep more stuff and still keep it orderly if I wanted to.