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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 24, 2024 15:53:57 GMT -5
I am rather surprised that the therapist is allowed to just show up at the school unannounced. It wouldn't matter if bio nut gave permission #1 the school wasn't notified this person is coming #2 this isn't a person that anyone signed off on as having permission to access the kid. He would promptly be kicked off the premises in our school system. What a way to build a relationship with your patients. Tells me a lot about what quality of therapist he is. I am going to hazard a guess that besides the bonus of irritating you and proving she still has control that bio nut has found someone who either will or thinks will tell her what she wants to hear and she can leverage that into making BT go home with her. Bio nut has too much of a personal agenda to be trusted picking out a therapist. Is there any way BT can get a CASA? That person would represent BT and her best interests not Bio Nut. A CASA would be able to do more than you can to advocate and fight the system on BTs behalf.
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 24, 2024 16:08:04 GMT -5
I am rather surprised that the therapist is allowed to just show up at the school unannounced. It wouldn't matter if bio nut gave permission #1 the school wasn't notified this person is coming #2 this isn't a person that anyone signed off on as having permission to access the kid. He would promptly be kicked off the premises in our school system. What a way to build a relationship with your patients. Tells me a lot about what quality of therapist he is. I am going to hazard a guess that besides the bonus of irritating you and proving she still has control that bio nut has found someone who either will or thinks will tell her what she wants to hear and she can leverage that into making BT go home with her. Bio nut has too much of a personal agenda to be trusted picking out a therapist. Is there any way BT can get a CASA? That person would represent BT and her best interests not Bio Nut. A CASA would be able to do more than you can to advocate and fight the system on BTs behalf. Are we sure about this? Who knows what bio nut is willing to sign and has signed just because she wants to show "that woman" (aka azucena) who's boss.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Oct 24, 2024 16:31:06 GMT -5
None of us really need anything so its really kind of pointless to spend money on stuff. Last year was less and this year is going to be even less. I would like to just get DD and little guy something.
The funniest 2 gifts hubs got me was a grill for Christmas, what? and one time a red trailer to haul the mower on. Well, it was practical because he worked away from home and I was mowing 3 yards, 2 big, 1 smaller. And it was much easier to load and unload but still.
Hubs went with DIL to the school award program. They said he helps others who needs it and is too shy to speak up. I like that he is doing that. Son had to work today and I had the runs again and couldn't go. DIL said little guy was thrilled to see him. If my husband had been like he has been the last 20 years our first 20, life would have been wonderful back than. Man, has he changed. DIL says son has also and both for the better. It;s good we are here, I know son wants his dad to be proud of him and he is very much. Somehow we managed to raise 2 good kids, well along with my dad and moms help partly.
DIL is here, later all.
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Post by weltz on Oct 24, 2024 16:34:53 GMT -5
Yeasterday, I bought a container of beautiful, ripe strawberries. I should have smelled them first. As soon as I got them home and opened the plastic shell, the stink hit me in the face like a sucker-punch. I can smell the sulfer-based fertilizer, or whatever they use. It's usually grapes, and occasionally, stawberries. I touched one yesterday, and I STILL can't get the stink off my hands. I tried everything, from soap to lemon juice to stainless steel. Now I can't even eat a sandwich, because the nauseating smell on my hands makes me sick to my stomach. Most people have no idea what I'm talking about. I have hyperosmia.
When I worked at the hospital, we had a woman in the finance department, Denise, who absolutely reeked of BO and dirty laundry. When I'd get home from lunch, I'd say "Denise was here, wasn't she? I can stilll smell her." The staff told me she didn't smell at all. Then how would I know she stopped by our floor an hour ago? Just passed through? It can be a curse.
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Post by daisylu on Oct 24, 2024 16:40:48 GMT -5
Just saw a video tagging millennials about loving Pacey from Dawson's Creek. That was in the 90s before they were born. This is a hill I'm ready to die on.
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Post by azucena on Oct 24, 2024 16:43:17 GMT -5
I am rather surprised that the therapist is allowed to just show up at the school unannounced. It wouldn't matter if bio nut gave permission #1 the school wasn't notified this person is coming #2 this isn't a person that anyone signed off on as having permission to access the kid. He would promptly be kicked off the premises in our school system. What a way to build a relationship with your patients. Tells me a lot about what quality of therapist he is. I am going to hazard a guess that besides the bonus of irritating you and proving she still has control that bio nut has found someone who either will or thinks will tell her what she wants to hear and she can leverage that into making BT go home with her. Bio nut has too much of a personal agenda to be trusted picking out a therapist. Is there any way BT can get a CASA? That person would represent BT and her best interests not Bio Nut. A CASA would be able to do more than you can to advocate and fight the system on BTs behalf. Are we sure about this? Who knows what bio nut is willing to sign and has signed just because she wants to show "that woman" (aka azucena) who's boss. Bio nut gave school permission. I had told teen that she had right to refuse and say no, I'm not missing class, I already have therapy and I'm def not seeing a male therapist as her excuses. He happened to pick a day, time and class that teen was bored so she went. Nut just called to check on her psych appt for tomorrow. Call started with her saying lipstick color is terrible. Teen could hear 4 yr old bro in the background and she misses him the most as she raised him. Asked to talk to him, nut says not until you agree to appt tomorrow. Teen says I need to do library here, fibs and adds I need to be back for work. Nut says who gave you permission to work. Teen ignored. Nut says don't let them take your paycheck. Teen ignored. Call ended with no resolution on appt. Pls remember that nut took a few hundred dollars from teen's Aug paycheck. And teen is 16 so no one gives permission for work. Woman, pls!
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Post by azucena on Oct 24, 2024 16:45:04 GMT -5
Just saw a video tagging millennials about loving Pacey from Dawson's Creek. That was in the 90s before they were born. This is a hill I'm ready to die on. I've wondered how well that show has aged as it was my ham in late high school and college. Can't get either teen to binge it with me.
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Post by daisylu on Oct 24, 2024 16:51:07 GMT -5
Just saw a video tagging millennials about loving Pacey from Dawson's Creek. That was in the 90s before they were born. This is a hill I'm ready to die on. I've wondered how well that show has aged as it was my ham in late high school and college. Can't get either teen to binge it with me. Some of it has aged well. I hate the Dawson stuff, but a lot of it ended being about female empowerment.
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Post by steph08 on Oct 24, 2024 16:57:14 GMT -5
Just saw a video tagging millennials about loving Pacey from Dawson's Creek. That was in the 90s before they were born. This is a hill I'm ready to die on. The Millennial generation goes from 1980-1994, so it's easy for older Millennials to have watched Dawson's Creek. I'm a mid-80s Millennial, but I never watched DC. I was more into TGIF shows (Boy Meets World, Family Matters, etc.) and Friends and Gilmore Girls.
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Post by azucena on Oct 24, 2024 17:01:23 GMT -5
I've wondered how well that show has aged as it was my ham in late high school and college. Can't get either teen to binge it with me. Some of it has aged well. I hate the Dawson stuff, but a lot of it ended being about female empowerment. Dawson was always whiny lol.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Oct 24, 2024 17:06:13 GMT -5
We are having stuffed poblano peppers, we really like those. Hamburger, rice, tomato based sauce, chopped bell peppers, onion, salt, pepper, topped with shredded cheese. Also mix in salsa. We really like it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 24, 2024 17:50:53 GMT -5
Just saw a video tagging millennials about loving Pacey from Dawson's Creek. That was in the 90s before they were born. This is a hill I'm ready to die on. Umm you are thinking Gen Z. Millenials start as early as 1981 depending on what article you are reading. I'm a very early Millenial at 83. Bob is also a Millenial born in 1990. I absolutely know Dawson's Creek I just never got into it.
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Post by bookkeeper on Oct 24, 2024 17:58:10 GMT -5
We are too pooped to cook. Frig scrounge for dinner. I nailed up all the baseboard in the bathroom we have been remodeling. I caulked it and touch up painted the baseboard. It looks pretty good for a lay person. Tomorrow I drill holes in my bathroom vanity cabinet and install the pulls. DH was busy washing all the bugs off our camper bumper and the cars. It has frozen here, so not many bugs going forward. We are going to put the camper in storage tomorrow. Summer is officially over. AZ in a few weeks.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 24, 2024 18:03:32 GMT -5
Over the years we've done everything from multiple surprise wrapped gifts to single surprise wrapped gifts to no gifts at all. Sometimes we've chosen to pool the gift budget and buy one big thing for the house that we both wanted. A couple of years back DH actually ordered a surprise gift for me, a monocular, as he saw I could not focus binoculars and I love bird watching. It was a great gift. I love buying him clothes but he is so difficult to fit and that means a lot of returns which aren't fun. Since we share all financial resources and are transparent about our individual CC statements, it's actually hard for either of us to shop for a surprise. I think our new cars are this year's anniversary/birthday/Christmas gifts all wrapped up together
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Post by bookkeeper on Oct 24, 2024 18:17:37 GMT -5
We don't buy each other gifts, we buy each other vacations. DH did surprise me with an e bike that he said was for our anniversary. He buys himself a big fishing trip to Lake Erie every year, so I don't feel the need to reciprocate with another gift. Travel is an awesome gift. It is one thing my parents gave to me and I hope to continue until my body can't do it anymore. I have always encouraged our children to travel.
Next up the eastern Caribbean.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 24, 2024 18:19:00 GMT -5
I’m gonna put this here, because I don’t want to forget it, and can’t write it down right now.
I watched a video today, where someone I’ve been following for several years went live yesterday. During the video, she talked about how when she started as an entrepreneur, her husband and her friends did everything to support her and help her be successful. Once she started making real money, she started using money to try to give back to everybody that was helping her, and to try to placate her children because she was so busy and spending most of her time trying to grow her business. The money became the thing she could easily give, vs giving herself to really doing her part to tend to the relationships.
Listening to her talk about it and what she learned from it, really reminded me of Mister. During the years I’ve known him, as his income has increased, he started using money to try to avoid continuing doing some of the hard work he’d been doing previously with his daughters.
And when I started having money issues after my stomach started acting up, he did the same thing with me. He started paying for things around the house that I could no longer afford to do, albeit with some eventual resentment. And somewhere along the way, he got the idea that what he does financially, somehow absolves him of his responsibilities to tend to our relationship anymore.
Listening to her talk about her experience with using money to avoid being truly present in her marriage and her relationships with her children and her close friends that were pouring so much of themselves into her and being hands on to help her build her business and keep her sanity while she did it, was kind of a light bulb moment for me, because of some similarities between what she was saying, and what I think has happened with Mister.
She said that it wasn’t until her business and her life got so overwhelming that she had to stop and look at herself and work on her issues and trauma, for her own sake, that she started to understand what she was talking about today. And it was then, while she was trying to work through her own stuff, that she started trying to repair the relationships with her husband, children and the close friends that had stood with her and supported her, even when she wasn’t being much of a good friend to them, besides offering them money.
When I first started following her about 7 years ago, she was a whole, ratchet mess, but had a lot of personality and was entertaining. Over the years since then, she has grown so much that she is almost like a whole ‘nother person, and now her lives are usually more thought provoking than pure entertainment.
Anyway, like I said at first, I wrote this post, to be able to refer back toit, so I don’t lose my thoughts, since I can’t write them in my journal right now.
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Post by saveinla on Oct 24, 2024 18:23:11 GMT -5
I guess we are totally unromantic, but DH and I don't buy each other gifts. His family doesn't give gifts to adults, and my family just gives gifts intermittently, depending on if we can find something that the recipient would like. We exchange cards for birthdays and anniversaries, but that is about it. Totally this - its our 30th anniversary and my DH is at Disneyland with his niece snd great niece (gn is 9 today) and i am home working since I could not take the day off. My DH buys me jewelry periodically and he has great taste, so we are good. Other than that we just buy what we want.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Oct 24, 2024 18:49:14 GMT -5
We voted. Just 3 people ahead of us. Early voting started last Wednesday, so I figured if I went Friday in the middle of the afternoon, it wouldn’t be too busy. It was packed! I have never seen it like that. Granted, we have only been here 4 years, and the first election we voted in was 2020. I was shocked that out in the sticks the precinct was next door and I could walk there. That was the last election they held in that building though, so it is more convenient to do early voting than drive to the new location on election day. Long story short, we voted yesterday. Still busy, but not packed. I think our county is breaking early voting records. For us, we only had Pres, US Senate, Congress, I thing State Senate or Congress. Finding out information about local candidates (there will be more local elections in two years) is abysmal.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Oct 24, 2024 18:52:46 GMT -5
I guess we are totally unromantic, but DH and I don't buy each other gifts. His family doesn't give gifts to adults, and my family just gives gifts intermittently, depending on if we can find something that the recipient would like. We exchange cards for birthdays and anniversaries, but that is about it. We would rather have an experience than have stuff.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 24, 2024 19:13:16 GMT -5
I am home now, and just asked Mister to show me where the cartridges are in his printer, because I really do need to be able to print stuff for the next month or so. Well, the printer wasn’t even plugged up anymore. But he went back there with me, and we dealt with all the error messages after he plugged it back up, and I shook the shit out of the black and white cartridge to see if it would print. The test page came out blank.
He was kind of irritated about even trying to deal with the printer, but I didn’t care, because I am irritated about a lot of things myself.
I can have one of the union guys print what I need to at my job if I email them the stuff, or I can email it all to Mister and have him print it while he is at work. But one of the things I need printed is the schedule for my side gig, and even though I am and have always been honest about the schedule, I’d really prefer not to share it with anyone at my job, even the union reps, or even with Mister. The other things I need printed are the forms to submit to my union to pay me for the time I work for them, and the security forms I have to fill out to get clearance to go on certain federal properties. Both of those, I need to be able to print and scan after I fill them out, to send as emails. Both of those contain information that I would prefer not to involve anyone else in helping me get it done.
So I guess I need to just buy a cartridge for Mister’s printer. The cost of a cartridge is much less than the money I will make doing my side gig, and just reducing the hassle of trying to get things done and not causing more stress for me, is even more worth it. I can’t really be upset with Mister, because I’ve had the same issues with my own printers, when I’ve not used them regularly enough to keep the cartridges from “drying out”.
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