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Post by seriousthistime on Oct 21, 2024 13:21:46 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. I suggest that Mister call Aunt G and tell her that he’s not signing anything. If he still wants to buy the house, he can buy out her half. His mother’s half of the house is certainly worth more than $1,000. It hasn't been established that there is a half to buy out. This could go two ways. Depending on how the title was written, Mister's mother either had a share of a house to pass on to her heirs (tenants in common) or Mister's mother's interest in the house transferred to the aunt automatically when she passed (joint tenancy). I didn't read that the type of ownership had been determined. We don't even know if Mister's aunt knows exactly what Mister needs to sign at the closing, or why. I'm not sure I would rely on her explanation for anything. Again, this issue is best resolved before everyone sits down at the closing table.
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Post by azucena on Oct 21, 2024 13:23:55 GMT -5
So it's Monday and I pulled teen from school early to attend her standing monthly telehealth appt with psychiatrist only to find out that bio cancelled it and didn't tell us. She also removed my medical proxy at the major Medicaid provider so the office won't even tell me or teen if appt has been rescheduled. This was a key appt as teen had finally decided to increase her one medication bc she's still way too depressed way too often for the medication to be fully working and psychiatrist has been offering med increase for 4 months now. Prob doesn't matter bc nut has to sign off on all med changes and she's always been anti-med but even more so now that she's convinced that they are causing the seizures. Left a msg for children's services social worker.
I made 4 more calls about oral surgery and heard 4 more rejections. All 4 of the major hospital systems in StL outsource oral surgery to private practice and none of them accept Medicaid. Left a msg with school district head social worker to see if she's made any progress. We emailed back and forth several times on Friday and she was also going to tag in State Office of Child Advocate.
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Post by jerseygirl on Oct 21, 2024 13:27:54 GMT -5
The deed for the house and any updates should be at county clerk office and available to the public (including Mister)
Can Mister talk with closing company/person? Ask Does Aunt G know who is the closer? Did Mister ‘ mother and father have a will?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 21, 2024 13:32:31 GMT -5
So it's Monday and I pulled teen from school early to attend her standing monthly telehealth appt with psychiatrist only to find out that bio cancelled it and didn't tell us. She also removed my medical proxy at the major Medicaid provider so the office won't even tell me or teen if appt has been rescheduled. This was a key appt as teen had finally decided to increase her one medication bc she's still way too depressed way too often for the medication to be fully working and psychiatrist has been offering med increase for 4 months now. Prob doesn't matter bc nut has to sign off on all med changes and she's always been anti-med but even more so now that she's convinced that they are causing the seizures. Left a msg for children's services social worker. I made 4 more calls about oral surgery and heard 4 more rejections. All 4 of the major hospital systems in StL outsource oral surgery to private practice and none of them accept Medicaid. Left a msg with school district head social worker to see if she's made any progress. We emailed back and forth several times on Friday and she was also going to tag in State Office of Child Advocate. All of this makes me absolutely furious for you. How can you advocate for this child when her bio nut insists on hamstringing you? This is clearly not in the child’s best interest and in fact, hurting her more. Is there any way to force this issue?
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Post by azucena on Oct 21, 2024 13:40:15 GMT -5
So it's Monday and I pulled teen from school early to attend her standing monthly telehealth appt with psychiatrist only to find out that bio cancelled it and didn't tell us. She also removed my medical proxy at the major Medicaid provider so the office won't even tell me or teen if appt has been rescheduled. This was a key appt as teen had finally decided to increase her one medication bc she's still way too depressed way too often for the medication to be fully working and psychiatrist has been offering med increase for 4 months now. Prob doesn't matter bc nut has to sign off on all med changes and she's always been anti-med but even more so now that she's convinced that they are causing the seizures. Left a msg for children's services social worker. I made 4 more calls about oral surgery and heard 4 more rejections. All 4 of the major hospital systems in StL outsource oral surgery to private practice and none of them accept Medicaid. Left a msg with school district head social worker to see if she's made any progress. We emailed back and forth several times on Friday and she was also going to tag in State Office of Child Advocate. All of this makes me absolutely furious for you. How can you advocate for this child when her bio nut insists on hamstringing you? This is clearly not in the child’s best interest and in fact, hurting her more. Is there any way to force this issue? I keep circling back to getting her dad involved. Teen is worried that he will attempt to force her to move in with relatives of his choosing so she won't help me connect with him. I keep asking children's services but they seem to forget he exists. Each stunt nut pulls is very clearly impacting teen's mental health. Thurs and Fri I was basically on full time safety watch. Then she turned a corner this weekend and now this news deflated her again. She said something like if my mom can't care about me why should I care about myself. Eta - I'm pretty sure he dislikes nut almost as much as I do so that might work in teen's favor.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 21, 2024 13:42:47 GMT -5
When my dad's mom passed, and then my dad before her estate was finished. Everything that went from her to him, went into his estate and then went to my mom. But it still had to follow the line of inheritance. Right, both estates need to be settled. It doesn’t seem possible to light a fire under Mister’s brother. I wonder if Mister has a will? Personally, I would not touch that property with the proverbial 10-foot pole unless I KNEW for certain that there are no liens on it. Are the property taxes paid up to date? If not, taxing jurisdictions may have placed a lien on it and they get first crack at any sale proceeds before the sellers get theirs. Did any of the owners take out a loan against the house? The usual order of preference on liens is #1 Mortgage #2 Tax entities #3 Other lien holders like contractors or anyone with a judgment against the owner(s). From what we've been told it doesn't sound as if Aunt G has been too good about personal finances so I feel caution is warranted
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 21, 2024 13:45:08 GMT -5
So it's Monday and I pulled teen from school early to attend her standing monthly telehealth appt with psychiatrist only to find out that bio cancelled it and didn't tell us. She also removed my medical proxy at the major Medicaid provider so the office won't even tell me or teen if appt has been rescheduled. This was a key appt as teen had finally decided to increase her one medication bc she's still way too depressed way too often for the medication to be fully working and psychiatrist has been offering med increase for 4 months now. Prob doesn't matter bc nut has to sign off on all med changes and she's always been anti-med but even more so now that she's convinced that they are causing the seizures. Left a msg for children's services social worker. I made 4 more calls about oral surgery and heard 4 more rejections. All 4 of the major hospital systems in StL outsource oral surgery to private practice and none of them accept Medicaid. Left a msg with school district head social worker to see if she's made any progress. We emailed back and forth several times on Friday and she was also going to tag in State Office of Child Advocate. All of this makes me absolutely furious for you. How can you advocate for this child when her bio nut insists on hamstringing you? This is clearly not in the child’s best interest and in fact, hurting her more. Is there any way to force this issue?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 21, 2024 14:09:08 GMT -5
Right, both estates need to be settled. It doesn’t seem possible to light a fire under Mister’s brother. I wonder if Mister has a will? Personally, I would not touch that property with the proverbial 10-foot pole unless I KNEW for certain that there no liens on it. Are the property taxes paid up to date? If not, taxing jurisdictions may have placed a lien on it and they get first crack at any sale proceeds before the sellers get theirs. Did any of the owners take out a loan against the house? The usual order of preference on liens is #1 Mortgage #2 Tax entities #3 Other lien holders like contractors or anyone with a judgment against the owner(s). From what we've been told it doesn't sound as if Aunt G has been too good about personal finances so I feel caution is warranted I get Mister's feelings and feelings aren't logical but he's got to separate that out when it comes to his aunt and the house. She's going to do what she wants to do. Let her deal with it. If it is an issue the title company will be in touch with Mister or his brother. I would not lift a pinky to get involved in this mess. All of this should have been taken care of by his parents long before now and they chose not to deal with it. There might not be anything worth inheriting depending on the condition of the house and whether or not she's been keeping up with property taxes. Then there will be any debts or liens against his parents that would need to be taken out of that. If the estate is in probate then the courts will divvy up that money. Don't invite trouble just for the sake of "doing the right thing" or "the principal of it". Sit and wait to see what happens.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 21, 2024 14:28:37 GMT -5
All of this makes me absolutely furious for you. How can you advocate for this child when her bio nut insists on hamstringing you? This is clearly not in the child’s best interest and in fact, hurting her more. Is there any way to force this issue? I keep circling back to getting her dad involved. Teen is worried that he will attempt to force her to move in with relatives of his choosing so she won't help me connect with him. I keep asking children's services but they seem to forget he exists. Each stunt nut pulls is very clearly impacting teen's mental health. Thurs and Fri I was basically on full time safety watch. Then she turned a corner this weekend and now this news deflated her again. She said something like if my mom can't care about me why should I care about myself. Eta - I'm pretty sure he dislikes nut almost as much as I do so that might work in teen's favor.Perhaps point this out to BT? He is as much of a parent as bio nut, with comparable rights, so this could do an end run around her. It is heartbreakingly sad that you are the only adult who is concerned about BT that you have to be on safety watch because of bio nut’s actions. Her mom not giving a shit about her daughter’s emotional health is reprehensible.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 21, 2024 14:32:14 GMT -5
I keep circling back to getting her dad involved. Teen is worried that he will attempt to force her to move in with relatives of his choosing so she won't help me connect with him. I keep asking children's services but they seem to forget he exists. Each stunt nut pulls is very clearly impacting teen's mental health. Thurs and Fri I was basically on full time safety watch. Then she turned a corner this weekend and now this news deflated her again. She said something like if my mom can't care about me why should I care about myself. Eta - I'm pretty sure he dislikes nut almost as much as I do so that might work in teen's favor.Perhaps point this out to BT? He is as much of a parent as bio nut, with comparable rights, so this could do an end run around her. It is heartbreakingly sad that you are the only adult who is concerned about BT that you have to be on safety watch because of bio nut’s actions. Her mom not giving a shit about her daughter’s emotional health is reprehensible. And my heart also breaks for BT's siblings who are still at home. BT is the only one with a chance to break out of the cycle so far. I get parental rights and all that stuff, but some people don't deserve to have those rights and bio nut (and maybe dad) doesn't
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Oct 21, 2024 14:49:47 GMT -5
azucena - How close is she to 18 and being independent?
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Post by azucena on Oct 21, 2024 14:58:09 GMT -5
I've asked school social worker to pursue conversations with her dad. I think it needs to be handled third party with both him and then depending on how that goes with teen.
In trying to help teen, I can't be the one who forces her to take drastic measures against her mom. She needs to hear that from someone more removed.
If it comes from me, it feels too much like I'm asking teen to choose btwn me and bio mom - kinda liked divorced parenting.
I dunno if that makes any sense but it's all I've got after more reflection.
Halfway kicking myself bc school social worker warned that I needed to be careful and keep bio happy. It's not her first rodeo and she's been prob seen burnt bridges before and bio continuing to be left in power by the faulty system.
Will feel my feelings for an hour or so and then trudge onward.
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Post by azucena on Oct 21, 2024 14:58:55 GMT -5
azucena - How close is she to 18 and being independent? Nov 2025 which everyone in the system says is close enough that any sort of legal route won't be completed in time. It's all so fucking stupid.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 21, 2024 15:02:59 GMT -5
Taking a cheeseburger break. It's going to take me all day today and tomorrow to clean this place right. The oven is the most disgusting thing I've ever seen. There was food remnants in the microwave still. The kitchen is covered in grease. Luckily all I have to buy for the fence is a single 8 foot section of fencing. I gotta get the dog smell out of the basement before I can bring the twins here.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 21, 2024 15:09:05 GMT -5
I've asked school social worker to pursue conversations with her dad. I think it needs to be handled third party with both him and then depending on how that goes with teen. In trying to help teen, I can't be the one who forces her to take drastic measures against her mom. She needs to hear that from someone more removed. If it comes from me, it feels too much like I'm asking teen to choose btwn me and bio mom - kinda liked divorced parenting. I dunno if that makes any sense but it's all I've got after more reflection. Halfway kicking myself bc school social worker warned that I needed to be careful and keep bio happy. It's not her first rodeo and she's been prob seen burnt bridges before and bio continuing to be left in power by the faulty system. Will feel my feelings for an hour or so and then trudge onward. TBF I don't think there was any way to keep bio happy. It isn't about her being happy it is about control. The moment you refused to make BT return home you were SOL. Nut is going to do whatever it takes to punish you both until BT is sent home. It's people like nut who make me think you should have to have a license before you can have kids.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 21, 2024 15:22:07 GMT -5
I've asked school social worker to pursue conversations with her dad. I think it needs to be handled third party with both him and then depending on how that goes with teen. In trying to help teen, I can't be the one who forces her to take drastic measures against her mom. She needs to hear that from someone more removed. If it comes from me, it feels too much like I'm asking teen to choose btwn me and bio mom - kinda liked divorced parenting. I dunno if that makes any sense but it's all I've got after more reflection. Halfway kicking myself bc school social worker warned that I needed to be careful and keep bio happy. It's not her first rodeo and she's been prob seen burnt bridges before and bio continuing to be left in power by the faulty system. Will feel my feelings for an hour or so and then trudge onward. Dont kick yourself. I don’t think that there is any way of keeping bio nut happy, short of sending her back to bio nut. BT is asking for, and (hopefully) receiving help. Bio nut didn’t do that, and BT knows that you are her best way of breaking away so she can become healthy.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Oct 21, 2024 15:36:22 GMT -5
She is likely getting money for her so doesn't want it cut off
I would not touch that house either. If the house has been sold and not properly handled in the past you may not be able to get clear title. We bought his mom's half and his grandma's half out too, as hubs inherited half of each. They had to show for the title company that SIL had completed her stuff after BIL died. Things can get real messy really quick. We knew these 2 were done properly in the past so were safe. That why it is essential to have a title company close.
We once bought a property where 13 kids had to sign off, we figured it would never happen but they did for their mom, total surprise to us.
I went to the minor clinics yesterday, knew they were requiring a TDAP anyway so decided to get it and have the finger checked. They put a metal cover over it and it helped protect it. He said don't let it keep getting bumped and bleeding as I would end up at a dermatologist getting more done. It is down to the fatty tissue. He said I also did the right thing by putting liquid bandage on it. It's doing ok, but I'm having a heck of a time using my hand to do anything. The medal cover is doing a good job of protecting it.
Went to cardiology for hubs. He is doing well, has a test next year and doesn't have to go back for a year so that is good news.
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Post by azucena on Oct 21, 2024 15:42:27 GMT -5
Nut is def still getting state money for teen. The messed up part is that nut messing up medical care puts her on state radar when I've been willing to ignore that aspect and even texted her that at the very beg in April at teen's request. Figured that was one possible way not to hurt the siblings further.
Also by continuing to mess this up, bio stays on children's services radar and I know they have begun asking questions about siblings basic care and their medical care as well.
Too bad she's too stupid and self centered to realize any of this.
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Post by chiver78 on Oct 21, 2024 15:49:08 GMT -5
hmm....paging wvugurl26 and any other with egg issues - can y'all eat chicken? I know wvu does up a crockpot chicken recipe I shared awhile ago. I'm trying to isolate chicken from LD so we can figure out some recent skin stuff for him. I need to cook off a ton of porkchops tonight, but im short for dinner. I clearly can't just open up a can of chicken that's my typical backup, and he doesn't really like tuna. can I give him some diced hard boiled eggs? I don't know how that allergy/sensitivity works as far as transference or whatever. TIA!!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 21, 2024 15:55:59 GMT -5
Nut is def still getting state money for teen. The messed up part is that nut messing up medical care puts her on state radar when I've been willing to ignore that aspect and even texted her that at the very beg in April at teen's request. Figured that was one possible way not to hurt the siblings further. Also by continuing to mess this up, bio stays on children's services radar and I know they have begun asking questions about siblings basic care and their medical care as well. Too bad she's too stupid and self centered to realize any of this. Let her hang herself. If the state does finally decide to get off it's ass and actually get involved she isn't going to be able to bulldoze over them like she does you. While it may not end with BT living with you it is possible that bio nut hanging herself with her own rope would still be what is best for BT and her siblings in the grand scheme of things. Then without nut in the picture perhaps whoever she lives with would be more amicable towards you and your relationship with BT.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 21, 2024 15:57:21 GMT -5
All i know for sure about the house is that when Mister and I looked it up for whatever random reason last year on the county assessor’s website, Aunt G and Mister’s Mom were listed as the owners. Idk how the title or deed or whatever was worded when they inherited it.
I ASSumed it was worded in a way that Mom’s share passed to her heirs because Aunt G called Mister and said she needs him to sign some papers at closing and she’ll give him $2k from the proceeds of the sale if he does. I can’t think of any other reason that she would need Mister to sign anything, he doesn’t have POA for Aunt G or anything like that, and other than possibly having inherited half of his Mom’s share of the house, he is not legally tied to her in any way besides him and his brother being her next of kin.
I only mentioned it here because it was a somewhat interesting topic of conversation, that had nothing to do with me and all my bs. As I said earlier, I’m not putting any thought into trying to figure it out, although I do appreciate pertinent information to pass along to Mister and let him do what he will with the information.
The only reason he is interested in the house is because he’s always been interested in buying houses to rent, but by the time he was in a position to do so, the market had gone haywire and even cheap houses weren’t so cheap anymore.
The whole thing is just another loose end he needs to tie up, IF it did become part of his Mom’s estate. Even with that, I am mostly thinking about liability concerns, because knowing his Aunt, it’s a very real possibility that there is no insurance on the house. But he and I aren’t married, and our finances are separate except for 1 joint savings account, so it’s solely on him if he doesn’t sort it out and things go left somehow. I understand that the state of his finances do affect me, I’ll just leave that part at that.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 21, 2024 16:01:38 GMT -5
All i know for sure about the house is that when Mister and I looked it up for whatever random reason last year on the county assessor’s website, Aunt G and Mister’s Mom were listed as the owners. Idk how the title or deed or whatever was worded when they inherited it. I ASSumed it was worded in a way that Mom’s share passed to her heirs because Aunt G called Mister and said she needs him to sign some papers at closing and she’ll give him $2k from the proceeds of the sale if he does. I can’t think of any other reason that she would need Mister to sign anything, he doesn’t have POA for Aunt G or anything like that, and other than possibly having inherited half of his Mom’s share of the house, he is not legally tied to her in any way besides him and his brother being her next of kin. I only mentioned it here because it was a somewhat interesting topic of conversation, that had nothing to do with me and all my bs. As I said earlier, I’m not putting any thought into trying to figure it out, although I do appreciate pertinent information to pass along to Mister and let him do what he will with the information. The only reason he is interested in the house is because he’s always been interested in buying houses to rent, but by the time he was in a position to do so, the market had gone haywire and even cheap houses weren’t so cheap anymore.The whole thing is just another loose end he needs to tie up, IF it did become part of his Mom’s estate. Even with that, I am mostly thinking about liability concerns, because knowing his Aunt, it’s a very real possibility that there is no insurance on the house. But he and I aren’t married, and our finances are separate except for 1 joint savings account, so it’s solely on him if he doesn’t sort it out and things go left somehow. I understand that the state of his finances do affect me, I’ll just leave that part at that. Out of all the houses he could pick to rent he's going to consider this one?!. Just based on what you have told us about Aunt G I cannot imagine the house is in any condition to be a rental. Add in who knows what any of them did or didn't do regarding the estate. I get not wanting to be involved. It's like watching a really slow moving train wreck just from this side of the screen. I wouldn't willingly jump in front of it either. Personally I'd take the $2k and be done with it. Who gives a crap if I was "owed" more. The house is gone, Aunt G is gone, it's all over with and you still at least walked away with $2k instead of a hoarder's house and a dysfunctional estate.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 21, 2024 16:08:10 GMT -5
I've asked school social worker to pursue conversations with her dad. I think it needs to be handled third party with both him and then depending on how that goes with teen. In trying to help teen, I can't be the one who forces her to take drastic measures against her mom. She needs to hear that from someone more removed. If it comes from me, it feels too much like I'm asking teen to choose btwn me and bio mom - kinda liked divorced parenting. I dunno if that makes any sense but it's all I've got after more reflection. Halfway kicking myself bc school social worker warned that I needed to be careful and keep bio happy. It's not her first rodeo and she's been prob seen burnt bridges before and bio continuing to be left in power by the faulty system. Will feel my feelings for an hour or so and then trudge onward. Dont kick yourself. I don’t think that there is any way of keeping bio nut happy, short of sending her back to bio nut. BT is asking for, and (hopefully) receiving help. Bio nut didn’t do that, and BT knows that you are her best way of breaking away so she can become healthy. BT does know that you are the best person to help her get out of the circle of the family she was born in to. I don't think there was a way to keep bio happy. She wants control and BT with her. She deserves further investigation by state social services because I'm sure the other kids are not properly cared for either. I wish I could snap my heels and make it all better, but it's not easy at all.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 21, 2024 16:27:05 GMT -5
She is likely getting money for her so doesn't want it cut off I would not touch that house either. If the house has been sold and not properly handled in the past you may not be able to get clear title. We bought his mom's half and his grandma's half out too, as hubs inherited half of each. They had to show for the title company that SIL had completed her stuff after BIL died. Things can get real messy really quick. We knew these 2 were done properly in the past so were safe. That why it is essential to have a title company close. We once bought a property where 13 kids had to sign off, we figured it would never happen but they did for their mom, total surprise to us. I went to the minor clinics yesterday, knew they were requiring a TDAP anyway so decided to get it and have the finger checked. They put a metal cover over it and it helped protect it. He said don't let it keep getting bumped and bleeding as I would end up at a dermatologist getting more done. It is down to the fatty tissue. He said I also did the right thing by putting liquid bandage on it. It's doing ok, but I'm having a heck of a time using my hand to do anything. The medal cover is doing a good job of protecting it. Went to cardiology for hubs. He is doing well, has a test next year and doesn't have to go back for a year so that is good news. Who was requiring the TDAP, the urgent care clinic? I never heard of that requirement before Glad you got the finger checked out and hope it heals up soon. Glad to hear about your husband's good cardio visit too
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Post by wvugurl26 on Oct 21, 2024 16:40:52 GMT -5
chiver78 I personally have no problems with chicken. My issue is with the egg white part. My best friend moved to a new state a few years ago. I flew up there to attend her kid's birthday party and help make the cake as was our tradition before covid. Somehow allergies came up in conversation with this one lady at the party. She said that it wasn't an allergy to eggs but to the soybean in the food used by the commercial farmers. Now this lady seemed a little out there but I am for sure allergic to soybeans and was allergic to them before I got an egg allergy diagnosis. This lady's husband had a really bad bout of Lyme's and came out with a ton of new food allergies. She ended up growing/raising their food as a result. My BIL got chickens a few years back. He bought them food without soybeans. I ate one of those eggs and didn't get sick. It felt too much like playing with fire for me to continue doing it. He also only has 3 hens and they don't lay a ton plus having to be vigilant that the right food was purchased every time. A long winded way of saying maybe chicken isn't truly LD's problem?
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NastyWoman
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 21, 2024 16:52:55 GMT -5
Looking for weltz posts and not seeing anything since the 16th- anyone know when she is supposed to start her treatment?
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Post by countrygirl2 on Oct 21, 2024 17:04:31 GMT -5
soup, they were saying at my primary visit, I needed to get it. So its for tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis (whooping cough). They said before 2005 there was no booster shots for whooping cough, I don't know about diphtheria. We take whatever is recommend, I know we haven't had the last 2 in many a year.
DD is recommended too and I will get it for her. We both are due for mammograms soon too.
Hubs got his new drivers license last week and today got his ballot in the mail! That's quick.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 21, 2024 17:14:10 GMT -5
chiver78 I personally have no problems with chicken. My issue is with the egg white part. My best friend moved to a new state a few years ago. I flew up there to attend her kid's birthday party and help make the cake as was our tradition before covid. Somehow allergies came up in conversation with this one lady at the party. She said that it wasn't an allergy to eggs but to the soybean in the food used by the commercial farmers. Now this lady seemed a little out there but I am for sure allergic to soybeans and was allergic to them before I got an egg allergy diagnosis. This lady's husband had a really bad bout of Lyme's and came out with a ton of new food allergies. She ended up growing/raising their food as a result. My BIL got chickens a few years back. He bought them food without soybeans. I ate one of those eggs and didn't get sick. It felt too much like playing with fire for me to continue doing it. He also only has 3 hens and they don't lay a ton plus having to be vigilant that the right food was purchased every time. A long winded way of saying maybe chicken isn't truly LD's problem? Have you looked at allergies to other eggs? A friend of mine is allergic to eggs, but she can have duck and quail eggs. That might be a round about way of getting eggs, if you want to try this. I did laugh at he4 talking about how many quail eggs she needed to satisfy a craving for scrambled eggs though!
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 21, 2024 17:18:43 GMT -5
This entire kitchen is covered in grease. I've been cleaning it for hours. I'm taking a beer break. I can only stay a few more hours. Then I have to go let the twins out again.
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Post by Peace77 on Oct 21, 2024 17:24:26 GMT -5
All i know for sure about the house is that when Mister and I looked it up for whatever random reason last year on the county assessor’s website, Aunt G and Mister’s Mom were listed as the owners. Idk how the title or deed or whatever was worded when they inherited it. I ASSumed it was worded in a way that Mom’s share passed to her heirs because Aunt G called Mister and said she needs him to sign some papers at closing and she’ll give him $2k from the proceeds of the sale if he does. I can’t think of any other reason that she would need Mister to sign anything, he doesn’t have POA for Aunt G or anything like that, and other than possibly having inherited half of his Mom’s share of the house, he is not legally tied to her in any way besides him and his brother being her next of kin. I only mentioned it here because it was a somewhat interesting topic of conversation, that had nothing to do with me and all my bs. As I said earlier, I’m not putting any thought into trying to figure it out, although I do appreciate pertinent information to pass along to Mister and let him do what he will with the information. The only reason he is interested in the house is because he’s always been interested in buying houses to rent, but by the time he was in a position to do so, the market had gone haywire and even cheap houses weren’t so cheap anymore. The whole thing is just another loose end he needs to tie up, IF it did become part of his Mom’s estate. Even with that, I am mostly thinking about liability concerns, because knowing his Aunt, it’s a very real possibility that there is no insurance on the house. But he and I aren’t married, and our finances are separate except for 1 joint savings account, so it’s solely on him if he doesn’t sort it out and things go left somehow. I understand that the state of his finances do affect me, I’ll just leave that part at that. It sounds like Aunt G wants Mister to sign a quit claim deed. If brother finds out that his share was given away, I’m sure he will be very unhappy to put it mildly.
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