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Post by finnime on Oct 21, 2024 3:19:27 GMT -5
Good morning, industrious invisipeeps, tending yards and dinners and children and pets and property. Welcome to Saturday. I hope your day is restful and nothing makes you bleed. I hope you enjoy an adult beverage tonight if you imbibe or a fantastic dessert if you do not. This will be a quick post. I was catching up on the last pages before I bring Franklin the Dog to the beach. Yesterday was a wonderful trip into western Mass. DH planned everything including where we ate and the several stops we made. He felt bad that the leaf color peak had passed already in much of the area, but it was still beautiful to me. This is a pic of the statue "Hail to the Sunrise" of a Mohawk greeting the rising sun on the Mohawk Trail: OMG Finn I think this is one of your best yet! I live vicariously through you and it may sound silly but you make me think of my mom. She was always taking pictures. Thank you so much, Drama. You made my day!
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Post by chiver78 on Oct 21, 2024 3:34:26 GMT -5
My flood ins runs about 700 a year mine was $250/mo in my last house, flood zone AE. I want to say 5' above sea level, a quarter to half mile from shore (in any given direction)
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Post by finnime on Oct 21, 2024 3:48:04 GMT -5
Good morning, intrepid invisipeeps, boldly confronting large numbers of inflatable lawn decorations, in the midst of packing for moving while preparing for home purchase, counting stamps, relaxing after launching a child, and teaching cats new approaches to people. Welcome to Monday. I hope your day demonstrates no obstacles are immoveable, and that every day deserves dessert. I hope nothing stubs your toes or kicks you in the shins. Today I absolutely must clean up my website and do some paperwork organizing while I pay some bills. Those activities are heroic enough for me. For relaxation I'll work on the garden maybe. Plus buy ingredients for DH's birthday tomorrow; he'll be 75. In recent past it wasn't clear he'd make it to this age in reasonable health. I'm very lucky, and grateful for Ozempic. Yesterday the Dodgers pulled it out of the hat so the World Series will be Yankees vs. Dodgers. DH is ecstatic. He was born in NY and grew up there, so he's a Yankees fan big time. I, of course, am a Red Sox fan. We have a mixed marriage. The sun rose bright yesterday. I spied the last yellow coreopsis by the beach and caught this seagull watching the dawn:
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Post by daisylu on Oct 21, 2024 7:31:32 GMT -5
If you haven't driven a new car in a bit, be prepared for a slightly freaky experience when you do. The salesperson handed me the keys for my test drive and I took off. Needless to say, it was a bit strange when the engine turned off every time I stopped . Nope, not dead, just the new thing-it starts up again when you take your foot off the brake. I knew that Jeeps have done that forever, but now all the other brands are doing it too. It's supposed to save gas but if you don't expect it to happen it's a bit weird As someone who drives a lot of different rental cars --- I hate that feature.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 21, 2024 7:35:14 GMT -5
For reasons I will never understand, I bought a package of Forever stamps at Costco. They are now included in our estate planning document as I use, at best, 2-3 stamps a year (while cursing those rare organizations or individuals that make me snail mail something). finnime I meant to tell you yesterday that your photo Hail to the Sunrise should be used by Massachusetts' tourism folks to promote fall visitation, or by an indigenous persons' organization. That picture is amazing in color and composition. andi9899 Good luck with your walk-through and closing today, and congratulations on your new home.
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Post by daisylu on Oct 21, 2024 7:45:40 GMT -5
Busy weekend and busy work day today - which I am not feeling.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Oct 21, 2024 7:51:01 GMT -5
Three years ago I rented a car for DH to drive to our October vacation. It was a Ford Bronco and it shut off the engine and the AC when you stopped. I was mad about it in the four miles between the rental car agency and my house. That is the one that sticks in my head the most because I was mad about the AC. We rent cars several times a year ago I'm sure some of them have had the eco feature.
I don't understand how it can possibly be good for the engine to have all that starting and stopping especially if you drive in a congested area.
I use stamps mainly sending cards. And paying the occasional medical bill.
All of DH's niece's and nephew's have been gifted the same book from Hallmark upon high school graduation. It has slots on each page with different themes for money or gift cards. The final page is for a book of stamps. I was very late in getting the most recent one assembled. I bought the stamps at the work post office earlier this month and was shocked to get $5 back from a $20. Normally I order several books at one time online or buy at the warehouse club so the per booklet price isn't super obvious.
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Post by resolution on Oct 21, 2024 8:54:19 GMT -5
For the past few months, I have been picking up my niece on Monday at 1:00 pm, teaching her two math lessons, having her stay overnight, two more math lessons in the morning, and dropping her back off at home at 11:00. It has been working well, she is catching up in her math and it has moved up from being her most dreaded subject to only being the second most dreaded. Then my SIL started sending her with writing assignments as well, which we were fitting in between the math lessons. So of course now my SIL wants to change the schedule. While we were on the cruise she asked me to pick her up the Sunday we came back, then on Sunday she changed the time twice, which then made me change the time on my pet sitter twice. Then SIL decided she wants me to take my niece every Sunday, and I told her no, since that is one of the only days I have to spend with my husband. So we agreed on Tuesday overnight and return on Wednesday. So then last night she texted me to get my niece today instead, but in the future she wants me to take her at 3:30 pm instead of 1:00, which set off my husband who says there is no point in picking her up that late, since by the time we got home I would be starting to make dinner and not teaching her math. I am really frustrated because what we were doing was working, but now SIL is insisting that the only times available are either Sunday or the late afternoon thing that my husband doesn't want to do. So I told him to talk to his brother and figure something out. In the mean time SIL keeps texting me wanting and answer and I am just telling her that i am having my husband talk to her husband, because her two options don't work. I am worried that my niece is going to pick up on some of this tension, which is the last thing she needs to be in the middle of. I had hoped that when I retired I would be done with drama, but my in laws butting heads seem to have replaced it.
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Post by Peace77 on Oct 21, 2024 9:14:24 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. I suggest that Mister call Aunt G and tell her that he’s not signing anything. If he still wants to buy the house, he can buy out her half. His mother’s half of the house is certainly worth more than $1,000.
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Post by geenamercile on Oct 21, 2024 9:21:33 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. I suggest that Mister call Aunt G and tell her that he’s not signing anything. If he still wants to buy the house, he can buy out her half. His mother’s half of the house is certainly worth more than $1,000. When my dad's mom passed, and then my dad before her estate was finished. Everything that went from her to him, went into his estate and then went to my mom. But it still had to follow the line of inheritance.
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Post by daisylu on Oct 21, 2024 9:35:36 GMT -5
For the past few months, I have been picking up my niece on Monday at 1:00 pm, teaching her two math lessons, having her stay overnight, two more math lessons in the morning, and dropping her back off at home at 11:00. It has been working well, she is catching up in her math and it has moved up from being her most dreaded subject to only being the second most dreaded. Then my SIL started sending her with writing assignments as well, which we were fitting in between the math lessons. So of course now my SIL wants to change the schedule. While we were on the cruise she asked me to pick her up the Sunday we came back, then on Sunday she changed the time twice, which then made me change the time on my pet sitter twice. Then SIL decided she wants me to take my niece every Sunday, and I told her no, since that is one of the only days I have to spend with my husband. So we agreed on Tuesday overnight and return on Wednesday. So then last night she texted me to get my niece today instead, but in the future she wants me to take her at 3:30 pm instead of 1:00, which set off my husband who says there is no point in picking her up that late, since by the time we got home I would be starting to make dinner and not teaching her math. I am really frustrated because what we were doing was working, but now SIL is insisting that the only times available are either Sunday or the late afternoon thing that my husband doesn't want to do. So I told him to talk to his brother and figure something out. In the mean time SIL keeps texting me wanting and answer and I am just telling her that i am having my husband talk to her husband, because her two options don't work. I am worried that my niece is going to pick up on some of this tension, which is the last thing she needs to be in the middle of. I had hoped that when I retired I would be done with drama, but my in laws butting heads seem to have replaced it. Obviously SIL is using you and your love for your niece against you, which sucks - been there done that. SIL is getting free tutoring AND childcare - she does not get to set the parameters.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 21, 2024 9:38:30 GMT -5
For the past few months, I have been picking up my niece on Monday at 1:00 pm, teaching her two math lessons, having her stay overnight, two more math lessons in the morning, and dropping her back off at home at 11:00. It has been working well, she is catching up in her math and it has moved up from being her most dreaded subject to only being the second most dreaded. Then my SIL started sending her with writing assignments as well, which we were fitting in between the math lessons. So of course now my SIL wants to change the schedule. While we were on the cruise she asked me to pick her up the Sunday we came back, then on Sunday she changed the time twice, which then made me change the time on my pet sitter twice. Then SIL decided she wants me to take my niece every Sunday, and I told her no, since that is one of the only days I have to spend with my husband. So we agreed on Tuesday overnight and return on Wednesday. So then last night she texted me to get my niece today instead, but in the future she wants me to take her at 3:30 pm instead of 1:00, which set off my husband who says there is no point in picking her up that late, since by the time we got home I would be starting to make dinner and not teaching her math. I am really frustrated because what we were doing was working, but now SIL is insisting that the only times available are either Sunday or the late afternoon thing that my husband doesn't want to do. So I told him to talk to his brother and figure something out. In the mean time SIL keeps texting me wanting and answer and I am just telling her that i am having my husband talk to her husband, because her two options don't work. I am worried that my niece is going to pick up on some of this tension, which is the last thing she needs to be in the middle of. I had hoped that when I retired I would be done with drama, but my in laws butting heads seem to have replaced it. Sounds like SIL needs to hire a tutor.
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Post by resolution on Oct 21, 2024 9:46:26 GMT -5
For the past few months, I have been picking up my niece on Monday at 1:00 pm, teaching her two math lessons, having her stay overnight, two more math lessons in the morning, and dropping her back off at home at 11:00. It has been working well, she is catching up in her math and it has moved up from being her most dreaded subject to only being the second most dreaded. Then my SIL started sending her with writing assignments as well, which we were fitting in between the math lessons. So of course now my SIL wants to change the schedule. While we were on the cruise she asked me to pick her up the Sunday we came back, then on Sunday she changed the time twice, which then made me change the time on my pet sitter twice. Then SIL decided she wants me to take my niece every Sunday, and I told her no, since that is one of the only days I have to spend with my husband. So we agreed on Tuesday overnight and return on Wednesday. So then last night she texted me to get my niece today instead, but in the future she wants me to take her at 3:30 pm instead of 1:00, which set off my husband who says there is no point in picking her up that late, since by the time we got home I would be starting to make dinner and not teaching her math. I am really frustrated because what we were doing was working, but now SIL is insisting that the only times available are either Sunday or the late afternoon thing that my husband doesn't want to do. So I told him to talk to his brother and figure something out. In the mean time SIL keeps texting me wanting and answer and I am just telling her that i am having my husband talk to her husband, because her two options don't work. I am worried that my niece is going to pick up on some of this tension, which is the last thing she needs to be in the middle of. I had hoped that when I retired I would be done with drama, but my in laws butting heads seem to have replaced it. Obviously SIL is using you and your love for your niece against you, which sucks - been there done that. SIL is getting free tutoring AND childcare - she does not get to set the parameters. I am wondering if she came up with the late hours on Tuesday to try to force me to accept her original idea of Sundays. My natural tendency would be to just tell her to forget it and stop tutoring, but my 10 year old niece is stuck at home being homeschooled by someone that flunked high school, and I don't think I can just leave it like that in good conscience.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 21, 2024 10:02:51 GMT -5
I had no idea how much postage is now, until I bought a stamp Friday, at the post office. Last I knew, a stamp was 45 cents. Now they're up to 75 cents. WOW. I STILL* have forever stamps that I paid $0.33 for. Stupidest thing the USPS ever did in my opinion. In order to get more cash "now", they forfeit future price increases. Add in that more and more business is done online and they are in deep trouble. *I did not buy rolls and rolls of stamps. I just rarely mail anything anymore I also have a collection of Forever stamps. I do send out Christmas cards. Other than that, I rarely use a stamp. I do have to use them to request death certificates for my genealogy research. I consider that money well spent. I have a supply for many years of international Forever stamps to. Two Christmas cards to Canada and one to the UK.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 21, 2024 10:05:28 GMT -5
We're flipping back and forth between the Dodgers and Mets and the Liberty and Lynx. Liberty won and my favorite player for last season's Buff team went from undrafted to champion on her 23rd birthday. Very proud of Jaylyn Sherrod.
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Post by azucena on Oct 21, 2024 10:11:11 GMT -5
We're flipping back and forth between the Dodgers and Mets and the Liberty and Lynx. Liberty won and my favorite player for last season's Buff team went from undrafted to champion on her 23rd birthday. Very proud of Jaylyn Sherrod. Love this! Does she get playing time?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 21, 2024 10:11:54 GMT -5
resolution Your love for your niece is commendable. I hope some compromise can be reached so that you can continue to teach her math. Especially since she is being homeschooled by someone who couldn't get through high school. That is my problem with home schooling. Make the "teacher" have some kind of qualifications at a minimum.
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Post by daisylu on Oct 21, 2024 10:16:57 GMT -5
Obviously SIL is using you and your love for your niece against you, which sucks - been there done that. SIL is getting free tutoring AND childcare - she does not get to set the parameters. I am wondering if she came up with the late hours on Tuesday to try to force me to accept her original idea of Sundays. My natural tendency would be to just tell her to forget it and stop tutoring, but my 10 year old niece is stuck at home being homeschooled by someone that flunked high school, and I don't think I can just leave it like that in good conscience. You are a good person. That said SIL has you where she wants you, using you. Could you take niece 2 weekdays to focus on math and even the writing? Maybe pick her up Sunday night or Monday morning and return her noon on Tuesday. And what are the homeschool requirements in your area?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 21, 2024 10:17:15 GMT -5
Liberty won and my favorite player for last season's Buff team went from undrafted to champion on her 23rd birthday. Very proud of Jaylyn Sherrod. Love this! Does she get playing time? She didn't in the Finals. The games were too close. She did get to play sparingly once she got signed in July. Jay is very good on defense and she got an WNBA 3 pointer in the first round of the playoffs. She has to practice and it's clear her teammates love her. They were pouring champagned all over her head and the team sang Happy Birthday to her. du One of the Liberty stars played for Oregon and Jay said during her freshman season, the team would have been better off if they hadn't bothered to show up for the game because they were so soundly beaten. Must be fun to have that player as a teammate. She figured she would be cut before the playoffs and had enrolled for her 4th master's degree at CU Denver. I have no idea if she has been able to do that remotely or if that is postponed until next semester. She's done a lot of clinics for kids since joining the team. She also sent out a special video for the honorary cancer kid on the Buffs team. The family was surprised she found time to do that during the playoffs.
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Post by seriousthistime on Oct 21, 2024 10:17:19 GMT -5
For the past few months, I have been picking up my niece on Monday at 1:00 pm, teaching her two math lessons, having her stay overnight, two more math lessons in the morning, and dropping her back off at home at 11:00. It has been working well, she is catching up in her math and it has moved up from being her most dreaded subject to only being the second most dreaded. Then my SIL started sending her with writing assignments as well, which we were fitting in between the math lessons. So of course now my SIL wants to change the schedule. While we were on the cruise she asked me to pick her up the Sunday we came back, then on Sunday she changed the time twice, which then made me change the time on my pet sitter twice. Then SIL decided she wants me to take my niece every Sunday, and I told her no, since that is one of the only days I have to spend with my husband. So we agreed on Tuesday overnight and return on Wednesday. So then last night she texted me to get my niece today instead, but in the future she wants me to take her at 3:30 pm instead of 1:00, which set off my husband who says there is no point in picking her up that late, since by the time we got home I would be starting to make dinner and not teaching her math. I am really frustrated because what we were doing was working, but now SIL is insisting that the only times available are either Sunday or the late afternoon thing that my husband doesn't want to do. So I told him to talk to his brother and figure something out. In the mean time SIL keeps texting me wanting and answer and I am just telling her that i am having my husband talk to her husband, because her two options don't work. I am worried that my niece is going to pick up on some of this tension, which is the last thing she needs to be in the middle of. I had hoped that when I retired I would be done with drama, but my in laws butting heads seem to have replaced it. Does she have a legitimate need for changing the day? I guess I'd want to know the reason before I adjusted my schedule to her whims.
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Post by resolution on Oct 21, 2024 10:17:22 GMT -5
I didn't think I used a ton of stamps, but now that I live at a house with no mailbox I feel like I am constantly walking to the post office to mail things. Today I have two car registrations, a traffic ticket payment, and a birthday card to mail out. I could pay the car registrations online, but then I would have to print out our registrations, which means running out to get more ink.
We also send about 40 christmas cards, so I used up my stash of forever stamps long ago. I will probably buy a few more books while I am at the post office because their winter woodland ones are pretty cute.
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Post by bean29 on Oct 21, 2024 10:17:59 GMT -5
If you haven't driven a new car in a bit, be prepared for a slightly freaky experience when you do. The salesperson handed me the keys for my test drive and I took off. Needless to say, it was a bit strange when the engine turned off every time I stopped . Nope, not dead, just the new thing-it starts up again when you take your foot off the brake. I knew that Jeeps have done that forever, but now all the other brands are doing it too. It's supposed to save gas but if you don't expect it to happen it's a bit weird As someone who drives a lot of different rental cars --- I hate that feature. DH just bought a new Subaru that does this. There is a little circle with an A in the center on the Screen that you have to press and it turns that feature off. Unfortunately, you have to do it every time you start the car up. The Car is very nice though. It is an Impreza RS. Used it to take my mom to church yesterday, a pleasure to drive. Very nice sound system.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 21, 2024 10:19:15 GMT -5
I am most happy my Impreza does not do that.
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Post by resolution on Oct 21, 2024 10:34:10 GMT -5
I am wondering if she came up with the late hours on Tuesday to try to force me to accept her original idea of Sundays. My natural tendency would be to just tell her to forget it and stop tutoring, but my 10 year old niece is stuck at home being homeschooled by someone that flunked high school, and I don't think I can just leave it like that in good conscience. You are a good person. That said SIL has you where she wants you, using you. Could you take niece 2 weekdays to focus on math and even the writing? Maybe pick her up Sunday night or Monday morning and return her noon on Tuesday. And what are the homeschool requirements in your area? They are in MD so they are required to be following a curriculum of some sort and save samples of her work. There is no standardized testing and the state doesn't issue a diploma unless she passes a GED test. She is using the curriculum from www.goodandbeautiful.com/ so for every lesson we watch a 10 minute video and she has a book with problems to solve based on the video. It seems to be a decent curriculum. I find it odd that about half of the videos start with something about God that is unrelated to the math lesson, but the instructor does fine explaining the math concepts and I show her a couple of other ways to solve things. I do plan to keep teaching her, and will have to work something out on the days. I just hate how SIL constantly changes things and my husband gets triggered by her changes. We agreed early in our marriage that I take the lead on issues with my family and he takes the lead on issues with his family, so it makes it difficult when SIL is pushing one thing and he starts pushing back.
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Post by azucena on Oct 21, 2024 10:51:39 GMT -5
You are a good person. That said SIL has you where she wants you, using you. Could you take niece 2 weekdays to focus on math and even the writing? Maybe pick her up Sunday night or Monday morning and return her noon on Tuesday. And what are the homeschool requirements in your area? They are in MD so they are required to be following a curriculum of some sort and save samples of her work. There is no standardized testing and the state doesn't issue a diploma unless she passes a GED test. She is using the curriculum from www.goodandbeautiful.com/ so for every lesson we watch a 10 minute video and she has a book with problems to solve based on the video. It seems to be a decent curriculum. I find it odd that about half of the videos start with something about God that is unrelated to the math lesson, but the instructor does fine explaining the math concepts and I show her a couple of other ways to solve things. I do plan to keep teaching her, and will have to work something out on the days. I just hate how SIL constantly changes things and my husband gets triggered by her changes. We agreed early in our marriage that I take the lead on issues with my family and he takes the lead on issues with his family, so it makes it difficult when SIL is pushing one thing and he starts pushing back. FWIW, I feel your pain watching unqualified inlaws homeschool their children. My SIL currently has my niece at home for first grade and SIL was unable to pass GED. It's really hard to watch. In her case, it's not religious reasons, it's more because she doesn't want 'daughter indoctrinated by the government.'
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 21, 2024 11:08:12 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. I suggest that Mister call Aunt G and tell her that he’s not signing anything. If he still wants to buy the house, he can buy out her half. His mother’s half of the house is certainly worth more than $1,000. Thank you for mentioning this! When Mister said something again last week about just buying the house from her, after she said she needed him to sign some papers for her to sell it, he was still talking about paying her the full amount. Neither of us thought about it that if his Mom owned half in a way that he and his brother inherited their Mom’s ownership, he really doesn’t have to buy it for the full amount, since he already is a part owner. She is not entitled to the total amount of the proceeds from a sale, regardless of who buys it. That is, after everything is sorted out. Like I said before, I’m not putting a lot of thought or energy into this, I’m just a curious bystander, if I’d been really thinking about it, that may have occurred to me sooner or later. But I’m glad you brought it to my attention. Did I mention that she also said she’s selling her car to her next door neighbor? She bugged Mister a few months ago, trying to get him to buy it for YD. But that was when she and her friend fell out when he dropped her off at the ER, and she really was just trying to use Mister, to go get her car from her friend’s house because she was mad at her friend. I advised Mister to stay out of that, which he had already decided to do.
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Post by daisylu on Oct 21, 2024 11:35:21 GMT -5
You are a good person. That said SIL has you where she wants you, using you. Could you take niece 2 weekdays to focus on math and even the writing? Maybe pick her up Sunday night or Monday morning and return her noon on Tuesday. And what are the homeschool requirements in your area? They are in MD so they are required to be following a curriculum of some sort and save samples of her work. There is no standardized testing and the state doesn't issue a diploma unless she passes a GED test. She is using the curriculum from www.goodandbeautiful.com/ so for every lesson we watch a 10 minute video and she has a book with problems to solve based on the video. It seems to be a decent curriculum. I find it odd that about half of the videos start with something about God that is unrelated to the math lesson, but the instructor does fine explaining the math concepts and I show her a couple of other ways to solve things. I do plan to keep teaching her, and will have to work something out on the days. I just hate how SIL constantly changes things and my husband gets triggered by her changes. We agreed early in our marriage that I take the lead on issues with my family and he takes the lead on issues with his family, so it makes it difficult when SIL is pushing one thing and he starts pushing back. I'm in Virginia, and home schooling is big in this area. But in this area the kids and parents check in quarterly and take tests to show they are learning. Kids here are encouraged to get a standard diploma, and the home schooling is set up to do that and more. I also understand the family issue. What side of the family is the SIL on? It sounds like your husband's side because you mentioned having the husbands talk it out.
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Post by lurkyloo on Oct 21, 2024 12:51:11 GMT -5
You are a good person. That said SIL has you where she wants you, using you. Could you take niece 2 weekdays to focus on math and even the writing? Maybe pick her up Sunday night or Monday morning and return her noon on Tuesday. And what are the homeschool requirements in your area? They are in MD so they are required to be following a curriculum of some sort and save samples of her work. There is no standardized testing and the state doesn't issue a diploma unless she passes a GED test. She is using the curriculum from www.goodandbeautiful.com/ so for every lesson we watch a 10 minute video and she has a book with problems to solve based on the video. It seems to be a decent curriculum. I find it odd that about half of the videos start with something about God that is unrelated to the math lesson, but the instructor does fine explaining the math concepts and I show her a couple of other ways to solve things. I do plan to keep teaching her, and will have to work something out on the days. I just hate how SIL constantly changes things and my husband gets triggered by her changes. We agreed early in our marriage that I take the lead on issues with my family and he takes the lead on issues with his family, so it makes it difficult when SIL is pushing one thing and he starts pushing back. They have to show regular instruction on a list of subjects, although the “specials” equivalents instruction (music art gym health etc) only need to be the equivalent of once a week as they are in the schools. Math and English are every day in school. In our county they review twice a year and have to be shown evidence of the kid having done work and learned things. It’s pretty mickey mouse but honestly there are worse state setups, including California. It would make me bonkers to be taking on such a massive and important commitment only for SIL to try to play mind games to get her preferred schedule. How obnoxious.
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Post by Peace77 on Oct 21, 2024 13:04:09 GMT -5
I suggest that Mister call Aunt G and tell her that he’s not signing anything. If he still wants to buy the house, he can buy out her half. His mother’s half of the house is certainly worth more than $1,000. When my dad's mom passed, and then my dad before her estate was finished. Everything that went from her to him, went into his estate and then went to my mom. But it still had to follow the line of inheritance. Right, both estates need to be settled. It doesn’t seem possible to light a fire under Mister’s brother. I wonder if Mister has a will?
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Post by daisylu on Oct 21, 2024 13:04:58 GMT -5
I didn't think I used a ton of stamps, but now that I live at a house with no mailbox I feel like I am constantly walking to the post office to mail things. Today I have two car registrations, a traffic ticket payment, and a birthday card to mail out. I could pay the car registrations online, but then I would have to print out our registrations, which means running out to get more ink. We also send about 40 christmas cards, so I used up my stash of forever stamps long ago. I will probably buy a few more books while I am at the post office because their winter woodland ones are pretty cute. We pay the registration fees online and the card and stickers are mailed to us. I only have to print when I am late getting them paid.
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