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Post by countrygirl2 on Oct 19, 2024 15:34:45 GMT -5
A high dose of duloxetine is helping hubs a lot with his incontinence, I'm so happy for him.
I wonder if it would help DD, they use that stuff for a lot of off label medical problems.
DIL is making shrimp fettuccine tonight, that should be good.
My cat is getting meaner with people I think. I don't understand it. The more loving he gets with me the worse with others. I am afraid it's going to end badly. He does not want them to touch him or even get near. Never seen a cat like that and these are people that are nice to him. It is worrying me.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 19, 2024 16:09:04 GMT -5
My furnace, gas fireplace and salt for the water softner are all ready for winter. The batteries were changed in the thermostat with batteries from my stockpile.
So I will get two repair bills in the near future: this one and one for the dead batteries in my security system.
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Post by chiver78 on Oct 19, 2024 16:28:56 GMT -5
for andi9899 lol.... I invited the toxic twins up for brunch tomorrow, since the Patriots are in London and kickoff is 930am. this was Thurs, maybe? anyway, M finally just got back to me about not leaving the Cape tomorrow, but if I wanted to pack up the dogs and come down, I was welcome. that's their typical excuse all summer. so yes, distance. I'm not going, and I'm not answering her either. oops. 🤷♀️ like I said, distance. they no longer drive the daily shit in my life like they did while he was the troll upstairs.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 19, 2024 16:44:30 GMT -5
We've been out-of-town the last two weekends, and this is a quiet weekend at home. We do have a charity event to attend to tonight.
Last weekend was DD#2's baby shower. It went as well as it could.
DH and I have decided to go to Mexico in February--right now I'm looking at resorts in Cancun. If anyone has suggestions or advice about that, please, please share! Eventually, I need to stop playing on the computer and get through the paperwork pile that's built up. I don't know why I've been ignoring it, but I most certainly have. I also need to do some kitchen deep cleaning today. It's amazing how quickly a month goes by and the little things need to be cleaned. But for now, here I sit on my couch in my pajamas. We have been to a couple of resorts in Mexico. We went to Playa del Carmen. First resort we went to was The Reef. It’s a smaller resort, walking distance to Playa and pretty basic. I went there with my sister and her family. When we went, it seemed like it must have been on a German/Danish TA radar as there were a lot of Danes an$ Germans there. TD and I went to a resort by ourselves the last time. This one was called Blue Diamond. It’s adults only (or it was at the time, this was right after I got put back together). I found a package on Costco. It was really nice, definitely a step up from The Reef, but about the same size. I’d definitely stay here again. A friend of mine went to Le Blanc on her honeymoon, and she sad it as quite nice. I try to look for places that have about 200 or so rooms, and try to avoid the huge monstrosities. Both of these resorts are a 30-45 min drive from the Cancun airport. Ooooh, Costco has a Le Blanc package.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 19, 2024 16:50:31 GMT -5
Spent two hours working on the front porch--moved the adironcack chairs around now that the porch railing replacement is finished. Set up some more Halloween decorations. Put some of the flower pots inside the garage next to the windows for their winter vacation. It's 73ºF and sunny, so I ended up getting sweaty.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 19, 2024 16:52:19 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him.
She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago.
And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled?
I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing.
The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself.
I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 19, 2024 16:55:21 GMT -5
Apparently I need to get my wedding ring resized.
I got it on yesterday but my finger started to swell and it got stuck.
I soaked my finger in ice water and got it off. I prefer that to cutting it off.
I need to get grandma's ruby ring resized and fixed too. Might as well do both sets at once.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 19, 2024 17:04:55 GMT -5
Apparently I need to get my wedding ring resized. I got it on yesterday but my finger started to swell and it got stuck. I soaked my finger in ice water and got it off. I prefer that to cutting it off. I need to get grandma's ruby ring resized and fixed too. Might as well do both sets at once. I've not worn my wedding set for over a year because I've put on so much weight. I'm refusing to get it re-sized. I've at least stopped gaining weight, so hopefully I'll be able to wear it again by January.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 19, 2024 17:10:11 GMT -5
We've had a lot of abnormal monetary things the last few months. Some of it is big house expenditures that we've agreed to pause for awhile. I took a 15% paycut when I changed jobs. Then when I changed jobs, I had more directed to my retirement counts than I had been. Plus, I went from a once per month paycheck to an every-other-Friday paycheck. At this point, I think my the monthly total of new take-home paycheck is 60% of my previous job's take-home paycheck.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 19, 2024 17:12:34 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. Property law is complicated AF in most states. How much anyone is owed upon sale depends on the share they own; half share gets more than 1/8 share etc. What doesn't change is that everyone with a share, no matter how small, has to sign off on the transfer of deed when it sells. Let's say Mister is 1/3 owner and his brother is only 1/6 owner-don't matter. They both have to sign to hand off 100% of the property to anyone else. And probably ain't nobody willing to buy a partial share of a house, right?
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 19, 2024 17:26:42 GMT -5
A high dose of duloxetine is helping hubs a lot with his incontinence, I'm so happy for him. That's wonderful news - I am happy for your DH.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 19, 2024 17:43:55 GMT -5
If you haven't driven a new car in a bit, be prepared for a slightly freaky experience when you do. The salesperson handed me the keys for my test drive and I took off. Needless to say, it was a bit strange when the engine turned off every time I stopped . Nope, not dead, just the new thing-it starts up again when you take your foot off the brake. I knew that Jeeps have done that forever, but now all the other brands are doing it too. It's supposed to save gas but if you don't expect it to happen it's a bit weird
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Post by taz157 on Oct 19, 2024 17:55:43 GMT -5
If you haven't driven a new car in a bit, be prepared for a slightly freaky experience when you do. The salesperson handed me the keys for my test drive and I took off. Needless to say, it was a bit strange when the engine turned off every time I stopped . Nope, not dead, just the new thing-it starts up again when you take your foot off the brake. I knew that Jeeps have done that forever, but now all the other brands are doing it too. It's supposed to save gas but if you don't expect it to happen it's a bit weird FWIW, you do get used to it. In my car, I do have a button to turn the feature off too. I’m sure your car has it too. Enjoy your new car!!
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Post by seriousthistime on Oct 19, 2024 18:02:31 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. Property law is complicated AF in most states. How much anyone is owed upon sale depends on the share they own; half share gets more than 1/8 share etc. What doesn't change is that everyone with a share, no matter how small, has to sign off on the transfer of deed when it sells. Let's say Mister is 1/3 owner and his brother is only 1/6 owner-don't matter. They both have to sign to hand off 100% of the property to anyone else. And probably ain't nobody willing to buy a partial share of a house, right? Yes, it gets complicated. I see two possibilities here. The house could have been titled with Mister's mom and the aunt as joint tenants with rights of survivorship. If so, the aunt would own 100% of the house. But Mister's mom is still on the original deed and they will need some documentation to show Mister's mom has passed and that the aunt owns 100% of the house. There should be a paper trail from the house co-owned by the two sisters, to the surviving sister, to the new owners. And the paper trail would probably need to be recorded with the recorder of deeds. Or the house could have been titled with Mister's mom and aunt as tenants in common with no right of survivorship. If so, Mister's mom passed, her share became part of her estate, and I believe Mr. Messy inherited that estate as surviving spouse. (Did he?) And those estates, or at least Mr. Messy's estate, would have to sign off for the house to be sold, which may be why the brother doesn't need to go. Was Mr. Messy's estate to be split between the brothers? Basically, an estate is a legal entity where inheritances land before they are distributed to the heirs. So it could be the part that's missing is that the estate (not the brothers) owns half the house. A check for their share of the proceeds should be cut to the estate, and the executor should distribute the proceeds from the estate to the heirs. Mister probably needs to get clear on what he's expected to sign, and in what capacity (heir or executor) and how the proceeds will be distributed. I wouldn't leave all of that to work out at the closing table. If it's not, to be safe, I would take a certified copy of both death certificates to the closing. I don't have all the facts at my disposal, so take this explanation with a grain of salt. ETA: After rereading the original post and thinking about this, I suggest Mister go to see an attorney who can help him settle any estates that are not settled, and figure out what is going on with the house, and do that ASAP so things can be handled properly before closing. Also, how did she agree to sell the house without getting them to sign off in the first place? The whole thing sounds like a mess.
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Post by tallguy on Oct 19, 2024 18:21:22 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. I did see that you are not really looking for answers, but.... If he really wants to buy the house to keep in the family, this is his opportunity. If he doesn't, then she needs to know that $2000 won't do it. His one-quarter share of the proceeds plus what she owes him might.... That will not even be up to her though. The escrow company would be responsible for disbursing the funds appropriately, and since they could be sued if they don't do it correctly there should be zero chance that she receives the entire proceeds. The title company would also be involved in making sure everything is done according to the rules. Do not let him consider a quit-claim deed. That would give away all of his rights and leave him with nothing. ETA: This is assuming that the house is in fact titled as Tenants in Common. The assumption comes from the first line that states, "Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself."
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 19, 2024 18:28:25 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. Since they are on the title, it sounds like it is as you said when you first heard about this. Aunt G owns half and her sister owned half. That means Mister and brother own half. They wouldn't get gross proceeds. They should be entitled to their share of net proceeds legally. Yes, it needs to be insured. Yes, brother will spend whatever he gets as soon as he gets it. How do people think they sell a house with no plan of where they are going?
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Post by cooper88 on Oct 19, 2024 18:35:31 GMT -5
Having a lazy Saturday night. I just poured a cup of coffee and am watching the storm chasers nearby at Ft Sumner possibly chasing a tornado. Ft. Sumner is where Billy the Kid is buried.
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Post by tallguy on Oct 19, 2024 18:38:24 GMT -5
So I guess Aunt G’s house is titled in a way that she can’t just sell it by herself. She called Mister and told her she’d just learned that she needs him to come to the closing and sign some papers. That could only be because of his Mom. If thats’s the case, what about Mister’s brother? Well, she’s not talking to him, so she hasn’t said anything to him about it. Well, if she needs Mister’s signature, she also needs his brother’s, so good luck with selling the house without talking to him. She told Mister if he signs the papers, she’ll give him $2k, the $1k she owes him, plus an extra $1k. Ummm, the brothers also own the house, does that not mean they are entitled to part of the proceeds from the sale? Which is a lot more than $2k, while she’s making it sound like she’d be doing him a favor by giving him $2k lol. Mister’s brother is definitely going to want h whatever he is entitled to, since he ran through the insurance money from their Dad a long time ago. And how does any of that even work, since their Mom’s estate was never settled? I’m not really looking for answers to all those questions, the only energy I have for that mess, is just curiosity. I’m not trying to help figure it out, I don’t care how it turns out, as long as she doesn’t end up living with us. She has no plan, nothing in place for her to move to, and she’s supposed to close in less than a month. I don’t see that actually happening, but I also don’t understand any of her thought processes regarding the whole thing. The only thing I told Mister was that knowing her, she probably doesn’t have insurance on the house (he agreed), and that can become a problem for him if anything happens. I told him that between her, him, and his brother, he is the only one with some money, so if somebody gets hurt or whatever on the property, he’s gonna be the one they go after, so he needs to protect himself. I swear I couldn’t make up all this crazy shit that goes on around me, if I tried. Since they are on the title, it sounds like it is as you said when you first heard about this. Aunt G owns half and her sister owned half. That means Mister and brother own half. They wouldn't get gross proceeds. They should be entitled to their share of net proceeds legally. Yes, it needs to be insured. Yes, brother will spend whatever he gets as soon as he gets it. How do people think they sell a house with no plan of where they are going?People who make bad choices because they possess little or no knowledge, discipline, or common sense rarely develop those skills spontaneously. They simply perpetuate those bad choices.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 19, 2024 18:46:00 GMT -5
We're doing family photos a week from today so I went shopping with my mom to find clothes. It was a fun day and I found 3 acceptable outfits for under $100. Fingers crossed that 1 of the suits I got for dc work. I decided on a location too. It's not the one dh prefers but he'll live.
My mom said she couldn't handle Thanksgiving this year. Which is totally understandable. I didn't have that on my radar so I'll be scrambling to get ready, but it'll be ok. It means I need to jump on a house cleaner to get them in a couple times before then. And get a handy-person to finish up some things.
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Post by soupandstew on Oct 19, 2024 18:57:26 GMT -5
Property law is complicated AF in most states. How much anyone is owed upon sale depends on the share they own; half share gets more than 1/8 share etc. What doesn't change is that everyone with a share, no matter how small, has to sign off on the transfer of deed when it sells. Let's say Mister is 1/3 owner and his brother is only 1/6 owner-don't matter. They both have to sign to hand off 100% of the property to anyone else. And probably ain't nobody willing to buy a partial share of a house, right? Yes, it gets complicated. I see two possibilities here. The house could have been titled with Mister's mom and the aunt as joint tenants with rights of survivorship. If so, the aunt would own 100% of the house. But Mister's mom is still on the original deed and they will need some documentation to show Mister's mom has passed and that the aunt owns 100% of the house. There should be a paper trail from the house co-owned by the two sisters, to the surviving sister, to the new owners. And the paper trail would probably need to be recorded with the recorder of deeds. Or the house could have been titled with Mister's mom and aunt as tenants in common with no right of survivorship. If so, Mister's mom passed, her share became part of her estate, and I believe Mr. Messy inherited that estate as surviving spouse. (Did he?) And those estates, or at least Mr. Messy's estate, would have to sign off for the house to be sold, which may be why the brother doesn't need to go. Was Mr. Messy's estate to be split between the brothers? Basically, an estate is a legal entity where inheritances land before they are distributed to the heirs. So it could be the part that's missing is that the estate (not the brothers) owns half the house. A check for their share of the proceeds should be cut to the estate, and the executor should distribute the proceeds from the estate to the heirs. Mister probably needs to get clear on what he's expected to sign, and in what capacity (heir or executor) and how the proceeds will be distributed. I wouldn't leave all of that to work out at the closing table. If it's not, to be safe, I would take a certified copy of both death certificates to the closing. I don't have all the facts at my disposal, so take this explanation with a grain of salt. ETA: After rereading the original post and thinking about this, I suggest Mister go to see an attorney who can help him settle any estates that are not settled, and figure out what is going on with the house, and do that ASAP so things can be handled properly before closing. Also, how did she agree to sell the house without getting them to sign off in the first place? The whole thing sounds like a mess. And this is why title researchers make a good living and why a person should never, ever, ever buy a property without a title policy
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 19, 2024 19:12:48 GMT -5
I have a debilitating sense of rejection; kind of like “I just know everyone hates me”. I also have a terrible lack of work-life boundaries.
There fore, I posit this email for discussion. How would feel receiving this email? Have you ever sent an email like this?
My original email was asking for a link to join a court hearing virtually. The email went to three people. Person A responded with the link. I replied all with “Thank you!” Person B responded with this:
Good Morning, Chloe:
When replying to others for things like this, it would be greatly appreciated if you would refrain from using the “reply all” feature.
Myself and the attorneys get hundreds of emails every day, and it slows us down having to review and delete others “reply all” emails that say “thank you” or “I will be attending” etc. Appreciate your assistance and cooperation on this. Have a great day! Best regards,
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toomuchreality
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 19, 2024 19:25:47 GMT -5
I have a debilitating sense of rejection; kind of like “I just know everyone hates me”. I also have a terrible lack of work-life boundaries. There fore, I posit this email for discussion. How would feel receiving this email? Have you ever sent an email like this? My original email was asking for a link to join a court hearing virtually. The email went to three people. Person A responded with the link. I replied all with “Thank you!” Person B responded with this: Good Morning, Chloe: When replying to others for things like this, it would be greatly appreciated if you would refrain from using the “reply all” feature. Myself and the attorneys get hundreds of emails every day, and it slows us down having to review and delete others “reply all” emails that say “thank you” or “I will be attending” etc. Appreciate your assistance and cooperation on this. Have a great day! Best regards, "Thank you for the information." Then do what you want.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Oct 19, 2024 19:36:25 GMT -5
I will say personally it irritates me when some people use reply all. Usually, it is when the training coordinator sends an email to my office asking if people received their registration confirmation or if they'd like to attend something. I don't understand why there's a handful of people who can never just reply directly to her with the requested information. 20 people reply directly and it's always the same 5 who use reply all.
However, in Chloe's case, the thank you could signal to the other two that's she has received the information she needs and they don't need to reply.
I sympathize with the overload and trying to sort through the junk to find the important ones. The person who sent the email to Chloe could probably benefit from setting up rules/filters in Outlook.
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Post by msventoux on Oct 19, 2024 19:52:39 GMT -5
I have a debilitating sense of rejection; kind of like “I just know everyone hates me”. I also have a terrible lack of work-life boundaries. There fore, I posit this email for discussion. How would feel receiving this email? Have you ever sent an email like this? My original email was asking for a link to join a court hearing virtually. The email went to three people. Person A responded with the link. I replied all with “Thank you!” Person B responded with this: Good Morning, Chloe: When replying to others for things like this, it would be greatly appreciated if you would refrain from using the “reply all” feature. Myself and the attorneys get hundreds of emails every day, and it slows us down having to review and delete others “reply all” emails that say “thank you” or “I will be attending” etc. Appreciate your assistance and cooperation on this. Have a great day! Best regards, I hate the reply all feature with a burning passion and spend too much time considering if I should reply all when my natural inclination would be to only reply to the individual that replied to me. Some places have a standard practice of reply all/cc everyone whether it makes sense or not. Other places tend to only reply all if it’s a matter directly relevant to all parties. In this case it seems like you’re dealing with the latter and if you’re new to the workplace or dealing with this group of people I would take it as a polite attempt to inform you of their expectations regarding communication. You were trying to inform everyone that you have received what you requested, and this person apparently feels that they already know that because they saw the reply from Person A providing you with that info. In this case I would have replied with my thanks to only Person A. And no, I have not sent an email like this and would be slightly irritated at receiving it.
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Post by flamingo on Oct 19, 2024 20:52:49 GMT -5
I have a debilitating sense of rejection; kind of like “I just know everyone hates me”. I also have a terrible lack of work-life boundaries. There fore, I posit this email for discussion. How would feel receiving this email? Have you ever sent an email like this? My original email was asking for a link to join a court hearing virtually. The email went to three people. Person A responded with the link. I replied all with “Thank you!” Person B responded with this: Good Morning, Chloe: When replying to others for things like this, it would be greatly appreciated if you would refrain from using the “reply all” feature. Myself and the attorneys get hundreds of emails every day, and it slows us down having to review and delete others “reply all” emails that say “thank you” or “I will be attending” etc. Appreciate your assistance and cooperation on this. Have a great day! Best regards, Whoever wrote that has too much time on their hands. I would have replied all exactly like you did, bc it signals to the others that you got what you needed. In the time it took Person B to write that, they could have deleted your thank you and moved on. This is not what I would consider an abuse of “reply all”. I’d feel a little like you do after receiving something like that. So I admire you not replying with a petty/passive-agressive “Got it, thanks!” to person B, as I would be sorely tempted to do. also, I’m side-eying that they are attorneys who don’t want an acknowledgment of what they sent. I am a lawyer, and it’s frustrating wondering if someone got the link they asked for, or if they’ll actually be attending the thing I need them to attend.
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Post by Peace77 on Oct 19, 2024 21:25:27 GMT -5
I just made up a grocery list for a little later. pork rides are on sale, so I'll be making some pozole this afternoon. 🤤 it's also supposed to warm up for the next week, so I'll be opening the windows and airing out the house as well. Your grocery store offers piggy rides??
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Post by mollyc on Oct 19, 2024 23:03:56 GMT -5
Waiting to hear the results for the B.C. election.
Conservatives and NDP keep going back and forth on majority of seats. If neither party can get a majority, the Green Party seats will be needed to form the government. Doubtful they would back the Conservatives but weirder things have happened.
One riding currently has a 9 vote difference. If the last votes don’t move the two candidates further apart, a recount will be needed.
This election the voting was electronic. Instead of the bigger riding’s taking until 11:30 or midnight to count most of the votes, they expect most of the results by 9:30. Polls closed at 8.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Oct 20, 2024 3:55:08 GMT -5
We had one of these in Bangkok. The only difference was that the window was 35 stories above ground. Nothing was peeping in from that height! We also had a window between the bathroom and bedroom several places. In all of these, there were light blocking shades so no light got through to the bedroom, you just had to lower them. I usually don’t turn on lights in the night though, I don’t want to wake myself up too much if I need to make a bathroom run.And here I thought I was the only one to stumble around in the dark so as not to wake myself up too much Same…mostly. I have a dim nightlight in the bathroom that senses motion. It is too dim to be jarring and it turns itself off 90 seconds after it no longer senses motion.
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Cheesy FL-Vol
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Oct 20, 2024 4:07:18 GMT -5
If you haven't driven a new car in a bit, be prepared for a slightly freaky experience when you do. The salesperson handed me the keys for my test drive and I took off. Needless to say, it was a bit strange when the engine turned off every time I stopped . Nope, not dead, just the new thing-it starts up again when you take your foot off the brake. I knew that Jeeps have done that forever, but now all the other brands are doing it too. It's supposed to save gas but if you don't expect it to happen it's a bit weird DH’s new-to-him 2020 edge has the same feature. After giving that option consideration we decided that preventing potential wear and tear on the process of constant stop and restart was more important than any gas savings, so we turn the feature off.
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