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Post by snapdragon on Oct 2, 2024 21:27:13 GMT -5
I spent all day listening to the whole house being pressure washed. The painters are going to be working on it for the next few weeks. Prep work probably starts Monday.
Yesterday (with lots of assistance from a contractor) the pain in the ass waterlogged paddle boat was finally taken out of the canal and someone should be by in a few days to pick it up. I am just really happy I don't have to pay to take it to the landfill. It would have been a complete hassle to get into the back of the truck. It took us over 2 hours to even get it out of the canal before we could tow it to the front of the house.
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 2, 2024 21:39:06 GMT -5
I just cried "uncle" and hooked up the portable AC. I thought I could get by without doing so but they keep extending the heatwave. First we would just have that one day (yesterday) in the triple digits. Well they got the temperature right, but instead of temps going down as promised they went up today and there will be more of the same tomorrow. This was the 8th hottest day measured here in any month EVER! With a few fluctuations this heat will keep up until Tuesday. This is not funny at all. If I wanted to be this hot I would live in the tropics - been there never doing that again.
I'm actually glad I am out of a few items so I have a reason to go to the (air conditioned) grocery store tomorrow.
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Post by weltz on Oct 2, 2024 21:44:42 GMT -5
I saw my thoracic surgeon yesterday. Barring any complications, I will be in the hospital for three days. I thought it would be longer. He didn't want to contact the CLSC to help me at home. He said I wouldn't be needing any help. I'm highly sceptical.
Yesterday, I met a woman in my apartment complex who had the same surgery last year, in the same hospital. She couldn't do ANYTHING when she was sent home, and she's a lot younger than me. No complications. She was out of commission for seven months! She had to have her daughter move in with her. I live alone and how will I ever manage?
Anyway, I'm glad I'll be home in three days. Sushi will be OK for three days, with people feeding him. My neighbour will give him his meds.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 2, 2024 21:44:47 GMT -5
In other news, I don't have bags/dark circles under my eyes. First time in a very long time. I also need a good night time moisturizer aimed at middle aged folks. i'll take recommendations. And recommendations on what I should do about my car. I don't know what to replace it with. This is my current night time face cream line. I love it.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Oct 2, 2024 23:59:36 GMT -5
I did not realize how late it was when I put that movie on. I am going to be tired tomorrow morning and I have a crap ton to get done at work before I bail for the day at 11:30. Carrot has appointments in the afternoon I have to pull him out of school for.
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Post by giramomma on Oct 3, 2024 1:26:15 GMT -5
How bad would a lease be, if I would intend to buy a car at the end?
I think we could swing the lease payments. I'll put well under the 10K a year miles on the car. Maybe i'll put 4K on?
It would buy us 3 years..which I feel like would help us work through finances in the next year or so.
The last thing I want to do is cash in stocks to buy a car outright before DD1 heads off to college. And I am still hopeful that i still might get a consulting gig.
I was hoping not to spend more than 15K or so on a car. That now gets me a car that's older and/or has more mileage than my car that's in the shop.
There's like one used car that I wouldn't mind checking out, but it's for sale at a used car place Like, Joe's used cars. I'm leery that I'm going to eventually get another car that will be stuck in the shop for 6 months a year and they don't know what's wrong with it.
I was thinking maybe used at the dealership from where DS works. I might be able to get a discount. Because DS. And we could trade in my car. Which would making getting a replacement more palatable.
I don't think hanging on to my current car, as planned is going to work for me anymore. I was hoping to keep it for another 7-10 years.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Oct 3, 2024 3:22:09 GMT -5
Today I got all the old blinds down, I still have to take out 3 sets of mounting brackets. I cleaned and put new bulbs in 2 outside lights and have 2 more to do. I would have gotten more done, but had problems getting the second one apart.
I vacced, washed 2 loads of clothes, went to the grocer, fish market, and meat market. I stocked up a bit. But money doesn't go far now.
I did buy some oranges and bananas as they said fruits might be a problem to get with the dock strike, not worried about anything else.
Had ordered Dd's shoe rack and got it today, intend to put it together tomorrow.
I've started a budget to see how we can maintain expenses with the drag of the 3 houses. Think we can manage but just barely. The taxes and insurance for the houses will have to come out of savings when due.
It's 1, starting the dishwasher and going to bed.
It looks nice in here with the blinds down, but I'm sure would make a higher heat bill as the furnace is running now and its only 46 out.
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Post by finnime on Oct 3, 2024 4:37:01 GMT -5
Good morning, energetic invisipeeps, orchestrating activities for offspring and for home improvement and for stocking the larder and for navigating your next stage of life. Welcome to Thursday. I hope your day rolls easily and offers time to read or watch B-rated movies. Let's see. Tomorrow's the 4th so I will need to give Franklin the Dog his heartworm preventative and flea and tick repellent. Got to add that to my todo list for that day. TOday we go to Costco. Didn't make it there yesterday, so must do today. Plus clean up the living room and the front porch. I finished excavating supplies and equipment from the guest room already. I need to hang more of the pictures we have, too. All summed, it's a lot. But I'll get through. The party Sunday will be good. Yesterday was very heavily overcast at dawn. The sun broke a crack into some clouds at the horizon and beamed light through:
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 3, 2024 5:17:24 GMT -5
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Post by greenthumb59 on Oct 3, 2024 7:05:27 GMT -5
I admit I was annoyed. He had all week to do this! So he waits until Sunday and my birthday, no less! DH can be very passive-aggressive with me at times. But he quit smoking a few days ago, and he was just grouchy in general. And probably honestly scared, because he wasn't getting better. So I kept my mouth shut and took him. Yikes! I'll catch up soon, but goodness a collapsed lung!
greenthumb59 , so I don't see an update. How's your DH?Home as of 5 pm yesterday. He slept pretty well, but was up about 4 am. I expect he will go back to bed soon. Next task is for him (note the word: him) to schedule his follow-ups with both the VA and his pulmonologist. I need to catch up on tasks here at home. Groceries, cleaning, etc. The fireplace guy is coming by today to fix our gas logs. It's gonna be in the 90's here today! This guy gets really booked up each fall, so I scheduled him early.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 3, 2024 7:34:09 GMT -5
I saw my thoracic surgeon yesterday. Barring any complications, I will be in the hospital for three days. I thought it would be longer. He didn't want to contact the CLSC to help me at home. He said I wouldn't be needing any help. I'm highly sceptical. Yesterday, I met a woman in my apartment complex who had the same surgery last year, in the same hospital. She couldn't do ANYTHING when she was sent home, and she's a lot younger than me. No complications. She was out of commission for seven months! She had to have her daughter move in with her. I live alone and how will I ever manage? Anyway, I'm glad I'll be home in three days. Sushi will be OK for three days, with people feeding him. My neighbour will give him his meds. Doctors can be dumbasses about that kind of stuff. Can you insist on help at home that you can cancel if you feel great?
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 3, 2024 7:41:16 GMT -5
I have been thinking about what my counselor said yesterday when I told her that I’ve pretty much checked out on my whole life. I told her that I don’t want to deal with anything, I don’t want to talk to anybody, I don’t even want to think about anything. She said that I still should’ve told Mister what I was feeling, before I checked out. I was like “whyyyyy”, because nothing I say to him seems to matter, so why even frustrate myself by saying anything to him. Long story short, from what I understood, she was saying that I should(ve) told him with no expectation regarding what he would do with the information, and the point was just to express those feelings and get them outside of me. I guess I didn’t explain well enough what “checking out” means to me. I finally did what I have been asking Mister for a long time, to help me avoid, distancing myself from him. I know myself well enough to know that when I start distancing myself from somebody to try to protect myself (except for my Mom and my children, obviously), in my whole life, there has been no coming back from that and getting things back to the way they were before. That is why when I am at odds with someone I genuinely care about, I tell them how they are hurting me and try to talk with them about the issues, so that when I do finally cut them off, my conscience is clear, knowing that I’d been very clear with them before I got to that point. I am beyond tired of trying to explain myself to Mister regarding the issues I am having, especially since a lot of my issues have to do with what has happened since I moved into a house with him, and he feels like like fuck all of that, the bottom line is that I should be able to function like a normal person and do everything that “normal” people do. Part of that is what was instilled in him as a soldier in war zones when he was in the Army, but I determined when I was 16yo that military life was not for me, and I have never been forced to do things and live my life in ways that contradict what is best for me and who I am as a person. But that is what is being asked of me now. With everything that is going on now, I honestly don’t see me being able to get back to not being a crazy person, living where I live. But I also honestly can’t figure out how to fix that, since I out so many of my eggs in the basket of life with Mister. Almost every day, I try to figure out what I can reasonably do next, and I keep coming up with nothing. Even if I sell my house, I won’t get enough money to be able to move somewhere I’d be comfortable living, and still retire within the next 5 years or so. The easy answer is to just work longer, but I am already struggling so much with physical issues, that I just don’t see that being a realistic option. So I just do what I can to try to get through the day and the next day, and keep feeling like a crazy person, because as much as I try, I can NOT figure out how to fix my life by doing things that are within my control. Like I told my counselor yesterday, I have checked out before, once in my life, around 15 years ago. It took a long time (2 or 3 years) for me to start putting myself back together, but part of that was because I had more control over certain things that were happening, and other things that ultimately helped me get out of it, than I do now. Now, it really feels to me that life is happening to me, more than me being in charge of my life, if that makes sense. I've decided the reason to say it is because it becomes habit to not say it and eventually you don't even remember how to say it. I'm projecting of course, but there are so many things I don't even think to say anymore.
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Post by giramomma on Oct 3, 2024 7:53:01 GMT -5
OK. We settled on some sort of path forward.
Step 1 is test driving a model that I haven't driven to see if I like it.
That will narrow down options.
I'm giving this whole thing until the end of October to make a decision.
DH is OK with some financing, which ever way I go.
Of course, if I sound like I've tried to think through things reasonably, he is always has no opinion because he trusts my judgement.
Which doesn't help when I need someone to point out all the flaws/things I haven't thought of.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 3, 2024 8:06:43 GMT -5
OK. We settled on some sort of path forward. Step 1 is test driving a model that I haven't driven to see if I like it. That will narrow down options. I'm giving this whole thing until the end of October to make a decision. DH is OK with some financing, which ever way I go. Of course, if I sound like I've tried to think through things reasonably, he is always has no opinion because he trusts my judgement. Which doesn't help when I need someone to point out all the flaws/things I haven't thought of. I told dh I hate that phrase. Supporting me would be talking through options.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Oct 3, 2024 8:19:58 GMT -5
DS is test driving a couple cars today, basically to decide which he prefers, Corolla or Camry. He has a Camry now but it's 27 years old and the Camrys these days are much bigger. The Corolla is probably about the same size as what he has. He is very much not a car person, which in ways make this a lot easier. In other ways it's frustrating.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 3, 2024 8:21:59 GMT -5
OK. We settled on some sort of path forward. Which doesn't help when I need someone to point out all the flaws/things I haven't thought of. That’s what we are here for!
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 3, 2024 8:27:17 GMT -5
Most fb ads are complete crap, but I broke down and bought the wonderskin lipstains and I'm in love. I don't wear make up - I do have my eye liner tattooed but otherwise nothing. I walked out with some of the lipstain on and dc was like dang mom, what are you all dolled up for?!? Thinking I had done "all" my makeup. Dh too was quite surprised when he came home from work. 10 out of 10 would recommend.
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Post by saveinla on Oct 3, 2024 8:35:26 GMT -5
giramomma- Leases are cheaper and if you decide to buy, they subtract what you have paid before. Just make sure to not put too much of a deposit down, as I dont think that counts towards the payment. Read the agreement and pester them with questions.
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Post by chen35 on Oct 3, 2024 8:57:28 GMT -5
Most fb ads are complete crap, but I broke down and bought the wonderskin lipstains and I'm in love. I don't wear make up - I do have my eye liner tattooed but otherwise nothing. I walked out with some of the lipstain on and dc was like dang mom, what are you all dolled up for?!? Thinking I had done "all" my makeup. Dh too was quite surprised when he came home from work. 10 out of 10 would recommend. Ooh, I’ve been wondering about those. Is it long lasting? Does it make your lips dry?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 3, 2024 8:59:23 GMT -5
Trying to find my motivation. It's clearly not at the bottom of my tea mug. It's not under my desk . . Maybe it's at home and I should go join it?
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 3, 2024 8:59:26 GMT -5
In other news, I don't have bags/dark circles under my eyes. First time in a very long time. I also need a good night time moisturizer aimed at middle aged folks. i'll take recommendations. And recommendations on what I should do about my car. I don't know what to replace it with. Get thee to a dermatologist for prescription strength tretinoin. The OTC stuff just won't cut it
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 3, 2024 9:05:19 GMT -5
Pink Cashmere I know you hate your job and are counting down until retirement because it is physically demanding. However, are you open to working an office-type job after that time? I think you'll only be in your mid-50s, so if you're willing to work a less strenuous job for a few years, when combined with your pension, you should be in a good financial position by yourself. I think having a plan might be helpful for your mental state right now. I know I'm not alone in wishing that we could waive a magic wand for you.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 3, 2024 9:22:23 GMT -5
Most fb ads are complete crap, but I broke down and bought the wonderskin lipstains and I'm in love. I don't wear make up - I do have my eye liner tattooed but otherwise nothing. I walked out with some of the lipstain on and dc was like dang mom, what are you all dolled up for?!? Thinking I had done "all" my makeup. Dh too was quite surprised when he came home from work. 10 out of 10 would recommend. Ooh, I’ve been wondering about those. Is it long lasting? Does it make your lips dry? Fades over the day but definitely still noticeable in the evening to the point that I wouldn't want to reapply and have it more prominent considering I'm usually working out and not going out. It just feels and looks like my lips once its on. Ive only had it for a couple days though and you wash off the blue layer so I imagine that could be drying eventually.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 3, 2024 9:28:46 GMT -5
Most fb ads are complete crap, but I broke down and bought the wonderskin lipstains and I'm in love. I don't wear make up - I do have my eye liner tattooed but otherwise nothing. I walked out with some of the lipstain on and dc was like dang mom, what are you all dolled up for?!? Thinking I had done "all" my makeup. Dh too was quite surprised when he came home from work. 10 out of 10 would recommend. Ooh, I've had that on my wishlist for a while. Good to hear a review from someone I "know."
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Post by geenamercile on Oct 3, 2024 10:00:26 GMT -5
How bad would a lease be, if I would intend to buy a car at the end? I think we could swing the lease payments. I'll put well under the 10K a year miles on the car. Maybe i'll put 4K on? It would buy us 3 years..which I feel like would help us work through finances in the next year or so. The last thing I want to do is cash in stocks to buy a car outright before DD1 heads off to college. And I am still hopeful that i still might get a consulting gig. I was hoping not to spend more than 15K or so on a car. That now gets me a car that's older and/or has more mileage than my car that's in the shop. There's like one used car that I wouldn't mind checking out, but it's for sale at a used car place Like, Joe's used cars. I'm leery that I'm going to eventually get another car that will be stuck in the shop for 6 months a year and they don't know what's wrong with it. I was thinking maybe used at the dealership from where DS works. I might be able to get a discount. Because DS. And we could trade in my car. Which would making getting a replacement more palatable. I don't think hanging on to my current car, as planned is going to work for me anymore. I was hoping to keep it for another 7-10 years. what size car are you looking for?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 3, 2024 10:08:58 GMT -5
Man Phoebe and Bingo are sneaky. They tricked me into feeding them a second time last night AND they got a bunch of dog cookies out of Abby and Gwen. Bingo is going to weigh as much as Charlotte by the time my dad gets home from vacation if this keeps up. I told dad I think they like it when you are gone. We're easier marks. You would think they haven't seen humans for decades the way they were jumping around screaming when I came in the door. I told them you know the routine, you know darn well he is on vacation and you weren't abandoned in the cold lonely world without food or love so stop being dramatic.
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Post by chiver78 on Oct 3, 2024 10:13:28 GMT -5
I'm stunned. I have a phone screen interview with the hiring manager tomorrow afternoon, for a job I applied for last night after EOB. what?? 🤯
I just spoke with the recruiter for the posting, and after he rambled a little about how they have already screened a few, I'd be the tail end, and the mgr would know by next Monday or Tuesday who he would want to put to a panel interview... I was like wait, what's the expected timeline for on-boarding this new person?? mid-November, but they could live with the first week of December. yikes.
I guess I'll go with my gut, and if it's meant to be, it will be. 🤷♀️
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 3, 2024 10:23:48 GMT -5
I have been thinking about what my counselor said yesterday when I told her that I’ve pretty much checked out on my whole life. I told her that I don’t want to deal with anything, I don’t want to talk to anybody, I don’t even want to think about anything. She said that I still should’ve told Mister what I was feeling, before I checked out. I was like “whyyyyy”, because nothing I say to him seems to matter, so why even frustrate myself by saying anything to him. Long story short, from what I understood, she was saying that I should(ve) told him with no expectation regarding what he would do with the information, and the point was just to express those feelings and get them outside of me. I guess I didn’t explain well enough what “checking out” means to me. I finally did what I have been asking Mister for a long time, to help me avoid, distancing myself from him. I know myself well enough to know that when I start distancing myself from somebody to try to protect myself (except for my Mom and my children, obviously), in my whole life, there has been no coming back from that and getting things back to the way they were before. That is why when I am at odds with someone I genuinely care about, I tell them how they are hurting me and try to talk with them about the issues, so that when I do finally cut them off, my conscience is clear, knowing that I’d been very clear with them before I got to that point. I am beyond tired of trying to explain myself to Mister regarding the issues I am having, especially since a lot of my issues have to do with what has happened since I moved into a house with him, and he feels like like fuck all of that, the bottom line is that I should be able to function like a normal person and do everything that “normal” people do. Part of that is what was instilled in him as a soldier in war zones when he was in the Army, but I determined when I was 16yo that military life was not for me, and I have never been forced to do things and live my life in ways that contradict what is best for me and who I am as a person. But that is what is being asked of me now. With everything that is going on now, I honestly don’t see me being able to get back to not being a crazy person, living where I live. But I also honestly can’t figure out how to fix that, since I out so many of my eggs in the basket of life with Mister. Almost every day, I try to figure out what I can reasonably do next, and I keep coming up with nothing. Even if I sell my house, I won’t get enough money to be able to move somewhere I’d be comfortable living, and still retire within the next 5 years or so. The easy answer is to just work longer, but I am already struggling so much with physical issues, that I just don’t see that being a realistic option. So I just do what I can to try to get through the day and the next day, and keep feeling like a crazy person, because as much as I try, I can NOT figure out how to fix my life by doing things that are within my control. Like I told my counselor yesterday, I have checked out before, once in my life, around 15 years ago. It took a long time (2 or 3 years) for me to start putting myself back together, but part of that was because I had more control over certain things that were happening, and other things that ultimately helped me get out of it, than I do now. Now, it really feels to me that life is happening to me, more than me being in charge of my life, if that makes sense. I'm so sad. I want to hug you. If you're just sharing, then ignore this next part
Can we help you make a plan? Not a pan-to-freezer plan, and actual plan. Can we carry some of the mental load for you right now and list out concrete steps you could take for exiting your current living situation?This made me tear up. I will have to think about it. Thank you.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 3, 2024 10:28:02 GMT -5
Pink- One foot in front of the other is a reasonable thing to do. And it's OK to sit and wait. FWIW, I get how you feel. I felt the same way after I found out I was pregnant with the missy and DH relapsed. No option was a good one. I couldn't terminate her. I wouldn't have been able to live with myself. (I'm as pro-choice as they come.) I didn't want to divorce. Give up my kids half time, and have to start living worse than we are now? Um, I wasn't getting screwed the fun way, I sure wasn't going to rush into getting screwed the unfun way. (Child support for 4 kids is 32% now, in my state. Plus alimony.) When the missy was about 9 months old, I saw my therapist. And I was like "Heck if I know what to do." And she was like "are you ready to divorce tomorrow" and I was like hell no. I can't manage 4 kids, and two jobs half time all by myself with no support. Then she was like, then stop fixating on it. You just need to do one foot infront of the other. So. I did. And, things worked themselves out. The trick, though, is what do you do in the meantime. The kids were enough to focus on for me, and the jobs. You talked before about reading. When you want to go into that spot where you try to figure things out, can you go read a book instead? Go for a walk (I know your foot was bothering you for a long time)? Play with the dogs? Watch some Robin Williams or Bill Cosby himself?
I had to be OK with trusting myself that I would know the right thing to do at the right time. It's hard to do when essentially you've been told that you are incapable of that for decades by your mom. So there is that. It's still possible. I have gotten pretty good finding things to distract myself when I start thinking about things that make me feel anxious or stressed and there’s nothing I can do about it in that moment. But thanks for other suggestions I can try.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 3, 2024 10:41:32 GMT -5
Pink Cashmere I know you hate your job and are counting down until retirement because it is physically demanding. However, are you open to working an office-type job after that time? I think you'll only be in your mid-50s, so if you're willing to work a less strenuous job for a few years, when combined with your pension, you should be in a good financial position by yourself. I think having a plan might be helpful for your mental state right now. I know I'm not alone in wishing that we could waive a magic wand for you. I would work an office type job if I have to. What’s really daunting is buying a house that costs a few hundred thousand dollars at this point in my life. Just a few years ago, I could’ve bought one for around $200k. I don’t need a big house, the location is more important. I’ve been saying for a few years now that I don’t see how what has happened with the local housing market is sustainable, but last I looked, the costs were still crazy. Thank you, I wish there was a magic wand too.
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