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Post by finnime on Jul 24, 2024 3:09:38 GMT -5
Good morning, indomitable invisipeeps, making your way through life. Welcome to Wednesday as July begins to ebb. I hope your day brings you times of mirth and joy and that no one pees on your pancakes. Yesterday was rainy in the early morning and generally overcast otherwise. The power company has been working on our street on the gas piping as they install outside meters on each house. The crew had left 3 very large rocks at the curb in front of my home over a week ago. As they were working toward the end of the street yesterday I talked with the project manager and showed him them. He had them removed, for which I'm grateful. These were far too big to budge. Otherwise it was a sleep in sort of day. We did end it with a brief walk at the beach and ice cream including a pup cup for Franklin the Dog. So no good picture taking yesterday. I took this about a year and a half ago:
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 24, 2024 7:25:39 GMT -5
morning all. Decided to WFH today - my car is making a weird rattling noise and I want to get it looked at.
DH is sick with something. He went to an old school punk show on Saturday and he thinks maybe that's where he caught it. He says there were a few thousand people and at one point everyone was touching because it was so packed. He just took some Nyquil so he should be knocked out for a while, lol.
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Post by Opti on Jul 24, 2024 7:33:43 GMT -5
Downloaded the filled out short term disability form from the doctor and emailed it to HR. One thing done for today. Need to rename and move the file instead of leaving it where it is. Secured a ride for later in the week to pick up forms in hard copy. Makes me feel better to have hard copy given all the disasters and flooding that happen in CNJ lately. She left me notes too, so will retrieve those soon. Probably a bath and breakfast as well. Have my own forms to do electronically or on paper and get in too. First time with smaller bus to grocery store comes early lunch time. Need to make a list and see what I can afford to spend. Have not seen Crestie live and in person since he toddled off that day. Hoping he is just resting or shedding. Shed can take a few days. Will search for him after this paperwork crap is complete. Not sure if I will get to dad IRA stuff today, but I did promise I would try, so probably late afternoon early evening if things work out. Already exhausted. Busy day, much filing, downloading and phone calls to wherever. These last few days have been like working from home, except without the pay.
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Post by Opti on Jul 24, 2024 7:34:58 GMT -5
morning all. Decided to WFH today - my car is making a weird rattling noise and I want to get it looked at. DH is sick with something. He went to an old school punk show on Saturday and he thinks maybe that's where he caught it. He says there were a few thousand people and at one point everyone was touching because it was so packed. He just took some Nyquil so he should be knocked out for a while, lol. Be careful Covid is up because its summer. Haven't had a chance to see how bad it is in NJ or nearby. Hope your car is OK and DH is OK.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 24, 2024 8:03:14 GMT -5
I didn’t see this post before I said goodnight, but I feel like I need to respond since you took the time to answer my questions. As far as religion goes, I feel like many of us that even believe in God and Jesus, get caught up in things that “man” decided, things that are nowhere to be found in the Bible. I’m not trying to start a debate about religion, I’m just acknowledging that a lot of the division among Christians, and the thoughts that Catholics, Methodists, Baptists, Protestants, and whatever other denominations on the list that I don’t feel like exhausting, are so special and the only “true” way, are due to rules that “man” made and have little or nothing to do with things that were actually written in the Bible. A nd I risk my Grandmother who died over 10 years ago, coming and smacking the shit out of me for saying that I have questions about the Bible too, since the Bible as we know it, was written by men. But that’s a whole ‘nother subject. Anyway, it sounds like your SIL has some learned behavior from her Mom, in addition to whatever her nature is. That’s sad, and I would be looking at her Mom sideways because of what you described, but the bottom line is that none of it is really your problem. I understand trying to accommodate and be gracious, but being gracious goes both ways. I'm catholic. When I liked Catholicism, I took a bible study course at church. Led by a nun. Sister Sue. Sister Sue started the class by saying "Look, the Bible is oral history written down by men. Of course it's not meant to be taken literally. Let me qualify. I liked Catholicism because our religious leaders aligned with my values. They were, as DS would say, quite dope. They were just good people, and reminded you what your mission as a catholic was. They were also strong enough to stand up to authority figures (like the bishop) when they thought authority figures had it wrong. (In my parts, the bishop closed a community center/food back because, well, taking care of the most vulnerable in society was too much of a financial drain on the bottom line). Our priest said, um no, completely disobeyed the bishop and our parish took over the community center. It is now thriving). Eventually, Catholicism will go away if it insists that it should not modernize. Probably not in my lifetime. Maybe my grandkids. There simply won't be enough practicing folks (to pay the bills). All the old people (ie, folks who are 75+ years old now), won't be around in 50 years. If my kids are any indication of how it's going, in terms of recruiting replacements...well, they'd better not be holding their breath. Maybe 1 out of 4 isn't very good odds.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 24, 2024 8:30:43 GMT -5
Well, I definitely have cancer. My options are chemo or cutting it out. I opted for surgery. They said with chemo, it could come back. Why is it that so many of us have have cancer ? Could it be that YMAM is giving us cancer? Sorry to see this.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 24, 2024 9:24:29 GMT -5
I have not cooked in months. When I was off work with my foot earlier this year, I cooked dinner almost every day. By the time I went back to work, Mister and I both were sick and tired of all the meals he and I knew how to cook. Because during that time, I did try new things, but I mostly relied on food that we were familiar with, even if I asked for his help with telling me how to season/cook something that he was better at than I was. Neither of us wanted to see another chicken wing, chicken breast, or piece of salmon, beef or pork, because I’d run through every way I knew how to cook all of it. So we started ordering food from restaurants. Fast forward to today, we have both occasionally bought groceries since then, but today I can’t remember the last time either of us bought groceries. We have meat and frozen vegetables in the freezer in the house and in the deep freezer in the storage room, but neither one of us wants to cook, because we are both still over everything we use to cook. I feel like an asshole for even complaining, because we do have food in our freezers that we can cook and eat, even if it’s not what we want, and a lot of people don’t even have that when they are trying to figure out what they and their family will eat for dinner. So now, idek what point I was even trying to make with this post, and I feel like I should probably just erase it and not post it. But the devil on my shoulder says don’t erase it, because maybe I’m not the only person that needs a reminder that even with all of our very real problems and issues, most of us here are still very fortunate in many ways, compared to people that are struggling with just the basic necessities of life, like having shelter and food to eat. And access to appropriate medical care so they can even try to just keep trying. I will hush now. I hope that all of my friends here find a path to deal with whatever is troubling them, and get to a healthy place on the other side, whether it is a first world problem or not, and wherever the troubles land on the scale of what other people might consider a small thing or a big thing. I love (most of) y’all, and goodnight. I get what you are saying. I do 80% of the cooking here and get sick and tired of making decisions on what to cook. Like you, we have a freezer full of food, and the only thing I can think of is picking up a pizza. I have no excuse though. I have subscriptions to NYT Food and Epicurious. I just need to start looking for something different. In reality, our social calendar is such that it should be sufficient for meals out. We always go out Thursday, Friday is my birthday and we met up with online friends who were in Seattle last Sunday. That’s 3 days out this week.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Jul 24, 2024 9:34:16 GMT -5
I am sorry weltz!
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Post by Opti on Jul 24, 2024 9:57:26 GMT -5
I didn’t see this post before I said goodnight, but I feel like I need to respond since you took the time to answer my questions. As far as religion goes, I feel like many of us that even believe in God and Jesus, get caught up in things that “man” decided, things that are nowhere to be found in the Bible. I’m not trying to start a debate about religion, I’m just acknowledging that a lot of the division among Christians, and the thoughts that Catholics, Methodists, Baptists, Protestants, and whatever other denominations on the list that I don’t feel like exhausting, are so special and the only “true” way, are due to rules that “man” made and have little or nothing to do with things that were actually written in the Bible. A nd I risk my Grandmother who died over 10 years ago, coming and smacking the shit out of me for saying that I have questions about the Bible too, since the Bible as we know it, was written by men. But that’s a whole ‘nother subject. Anyway, it sounds like your SIL has some learned behavior from her Mom, in addition to whatever her nature is. That’s sad, and I would be looking at her Mom sideways because of what you described, but the bottom line is that none of it is really your problem. I understand trying to accommodate and be gracious, but being gracious goes both ways. I'm catholic. When I liked Catholicism, I took a bible study course at church. Led by a nun. Sister Sue. Sister Sue started the class by saying "Look, the Bible is oral history written down by men. Of course it's not meant to be taken literally. Let me qualify. I liked Catholicism because our religious leaders aligned with my values. They were, as DS would say, quite dope. They were just good people, and reminded you what your mission as a catholic was. They were also strong enough to stand up to authority figures (like the bishop) when they thought authority figures had it wrong. (In my parts, the bishop closed a community center/food back because, well, taking care of the most vulnerable in society was too much of a financial drain on the bottom line). Our priest said, um no, completely disobeyed the bishop and our parish took over the community center. It is now thriving). Eventually, Catholicism will go away if it insists that it should not modernize. Probably not in my lifetime. Maybe my grandkids. There simply won't be enough practicing folks (to pay the bills). All the old people (ie, folks who are 75+ years old now), won't be around in 50 years. If my kids are any indication of how it's going, in terms of recruiting replacements...well, they'd better not be holding their breath. Maybe 1 out of 4 isn't very good odds. I think the happens many places. I did grow up in a Missouri Synod Lutheran church. However, it was founded by a famous Lutheran theologian and I believe the Pastor following him was of a more progressive bent. We were taught similar to you in confirmation classes, that the Bible was written down by humans in a certain time period so couldn't possibly the literal words of God. Even if they actually heard all the words of God, it would be filtered by their experience of being from nomadic tribes with plural marriages etc. back then I don't think we did food bank stuff, but the town itself was only a little newer than the church. I am proud that my dad did things in the community of my birth because he couldn't always do it for me. So, there were food drives. Patients at the hospital got their own live aloe plant, etc.
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 24, 2024 10:21:16 GMT -5
I'm pooped! After breakfast I started on a major pantry cleaning and reorganization. During Covid I had set up an area in the tv room closet to stock up on basics when I found them. Over time it got a bit disorganized so I went through everything, tossed the pantry goblins of which there were surprisingly few, and moved a lot of stuff to the kitchen pantry after emptying and cleaning three shelves there. I'm off to the shower now and will finish work on the freezer inventory this afternoon to be sure it's up-to-date.
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Post by mollyc on Jul 24, 2024 10:53:52 GMT -5
So they had to evacuate Jasper and Jasper National Park a couple of days ago. It wasn’t safe to go East or South so they ended up having to evacuate to BC.
Unfortunately we in BC have our own problems with fires right now so most of the evacuees are having to loop through PG North to Grande Prairie, AB or South to Kamloops and over to Calgary. People have set up assistance along the way but it’s still left some people feeling a little inhospitable.
Fortunately none of the fires near the route from PG to Kamloops are impeding traffic. I haven’t checked on the Williams Lake fire today but the last I heard, they were evacuating the Seniors’ homes as a precaution. The fire started on the edge of town when the wind took down a tree that took down a power line.
It was upper 80s with some days topping in the early 90s this past week. Not too bad by most US standards but it’s lead to a lot of thunderstorms which has lead to a lot of lightning strikes.
The BC Wildfire Dashboard says there are currently 406 active fires and 106 were started in the last 24 hours.
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Post by busymom on Jul 24, 2024 11:03:42 GMT -5
I didn’t see this post before I said goodnight, but I feel like I need to respond since you took the time to answer my questions. As far as religion goes, I feel like many of us that even believe in God and Jesus, get caught up in things that “man” decided, things that are nowhere to be found in the Bible. I’m not trying to start a debate about religion, I’m just acknowledging that a lot of the division among Christians, and the thoughts that Catholics, Methodists, Baptists, Protestants, and whatever other denominations on the list that I don’t feel like exhausting, are so special and the only “true” way, are due to rules that “man” made and have little or nothing to do with things that were actually written in the Bible. A nd I risk my Grandmother who died over 10 years ago, coming and smacking the shit out of me for saying that I have questions about the Bible too, since the Bible as we know it, was written by men. But that’s a whole ‘nother subject. Anyway, it sounds like your SIL has some learned behavior from her Mom, in addition to whatever her nature is. That’s sad, and I would be looking at her Mom sideways because of what you described, but the bottom line is that none of it is really your problem. I understand trying to accommodate and be gracious, but being gracious goes both ways. I'm catholic. When I liked Catholicism, I took a bible study course at church. Led by a nun. Sister Sue. Sister Sue started the class by saying "Look, the Bible is oral history written down by men. Of course it's not meant to be taken literally. Let me qualify. I liked Catholicism because our religious leaders aligned with my values. They were, as DS would say, quite dope. They were just good people, and reminded you what your mission as a catholic was. They were also strong enough to stand up to authority figures (like the bishop) when they thought authority figures had it wrong. (In my parts, the bishop closed a community center/food back because, well, taking care of the most vulnerable in society was too much of a financial drain on the bottom line). Our priest said, um no, completely disobeyed the bishop and our parish took over the community center. It is now thriving). Eventually, Catholicism will go away if it insists that it should not modernize. Probably not in my lifetime. Maybe my grandkids. There simply won't be enough practicing folks (to pay the bills). All the old people (ie, folks who are 75+ years old now), won't be around in 50 years. If my kids are any indication of how it's going, in terms of recruiting replacements...well, they'd better not be holding their breath. Maybe 1 out of 4 isn't very good odds. In my extended family, the Catholics are recruiting the old-fashioned way. My DN was told by his girlfriend that if he wanted to marry her, he had to become Catholic. So, he went through their classes, and is now Catholic. I'm not sure how my SIL (his mother) feels about the "no birth control" part, but oh well...
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 24, 2024 11:14:27 GMT -5
My dad did not convert to Catholicism when they got married. My mom was already distancing herself from her Catholic upbringing and questioning raising us in it so she was fine with it she respected my dad's position. The Lutheran church did not require my mom to convert so they got married there and I was baptised there. My brother was a different story because by then there was a new minister at the Lutheran church. Not only did he want my mom to covert but he expected my dad to attend regularly and both of them to go to religious counseling with the minister weekly. I'm sure you can imagine how well that went over. So Bob was never baptized. My grandmother was always harping about his soul and going to hell because of it. I think she truly thought that by telling me all that it would make me embrace the church and Catholicism in particular but that right there was a major turning point for me regarding religion. Unbeknownst to grandma she put me on the path of becoming an atheist. I got her good one time when she was going at me because I had an orange sweater on during St Patrick's Day. She said that is the color of Northern Ireland which is protestant. I said "Well technically I am a protestant I was baptized in the Lutheran church so it kinda makes sense I am wearing orange today doesn't it?". I don't remember much after that.
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Post by steph08 on Jul 24, 2024 11:25:05 GMT -5
I'm also a recovering Roman Catholic. I married in the church and baptized my kids - all of those done to appease my mother - but I have no interest in being a part of it, or any organized religion, ever again.
I find being a good person and an involved member of my community (Girl Scouts, PTA, Little League, basketball, etc.) to be a perfectly acceptable way of life.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 24, 2024 11:37:03 GMT -5
I'm also a recovering Roman Catholic. I married in the church and baptized my kids - all of those done to appease my mother - but I have no interest in being a part of it, or any organized religion, ever again. I find being a good person and an involved member of my community (Girl Scouts, PTA, Little League, basketball, etc.) to be a perfectly acceptable way of life.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 24, 2024 11:47:51 GMT -5
So they had to evacuate Jasper and Jasper National Park a couple of days ago. It wasn’t safe to go East or South so they ended up having to evacuate to BC. Unfortunately we in BC have our own problems with fires right now so most of the evacuees are having to loop through PG North to Grande Prairie, AB or South to Kamloops and over to Calgary. People have set up assistance along the way but it’s still left some people feeling a little inhospitable. Fortunately none of the fires near the route from PG to Kamloops are impeding traffic. I haven’t checked on the Williams Lake fire today but the last I heard, they were evacuating the Seniors’ homes as a precaution. The fire started on the edge of town when the wind took down a tree that took down a power line. It was upper 80s with some days topping in the early 90s this past week. Not too bad by most US standards but it’s lead to a lot of thunderstorms which has lead to a lot of lightning strikes. The BC Wildfire Dashboard says there are currently 406 active fires and 106 were started in the last 24 hours. Crap, I have in laws in that neck of the woods. One lost their home in Kamloops to wildfire a few years ago. Weekend before last, we were supposed to go to the family reunion in Salmon Arm (TD got Covid and didn’t want to infect others). There would have been family coming from Jasper, Smithers via PG, Kamloops and Calgary. A few years ago, some were cut off from their normal route going home after the reunion. Hope things are brought under control quickly.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 24, 2024 11:56:15 GMT -5
I'm catholic. When I liked Catholicism, I took a bible study course at church. Led by a nun. Sister Sue. Sister Sue started the class by saying "Look, the Bible is oral history written down by men. Of course it's not meant to be taken literally. Let me qualify. I liked Catholicism because our religious leaders aligned with my values. They were, as DS would say, quite dope. They were just good people, and reminded you what your mission as a catholic was. They were also strong enough to stand up to authority figures (like the bishop) when they thought authority figures had it wrong. (In my parts, the bishop closed a community center/food back because, well, taking care of the most vulnerable in society was too much of a financial drain on the bottom line). Our priest said, um no, completely disobeyed the bishop and our parish took over the community center. It is now thriving). Eventually, Catholicism will go away if it insists that it should not modernize. Probably not in my lifetime. Maybe my grandkids. There simply won't be enough practicing folks (to pay the bills). All the old people (ie, folks who are 75+ years old now), won't be around in 50 years. If my kids are any indication of how it's going, in terms of recruiting replacements...well, they'd better not be holding their breath. Maybe 1 out of 4 isn't very good odds. In my extended family, the Catholics are recruiting the old-fashioned way. My DN was told by his girlfriend that if he wanted to marry her, he had to become Catholic. So, he went through their classes, and is now Catholic. I'm not sure how my SIL (his mother) feels about the "no birth control" part, but oh well... I think everyone just ignores that. Pretty much a don't ask don't tell thing.
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Post by finnime on Jul 24, 2024 12:07:27 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 24, 2024 12:35:54 GMT -5
The phone interview with the clinical research facility went good. I have the experience they want which is isolating cells from sera. In their case white blood cells as opposed to stem cells but similar enough. I would be shocked if I don't at least get an in person interview with them. I'll here sometime next week probably. Have an in person interview next Tuesday for the technical analyst. I would take either one. It is going to come down to salary and how I feel about things after seeing things and meeting people in person. Both sound like they have lots of room to grow. The difference between commutes is negligible. DH carries our health insurance now though I would want to review both companies packages to see if they are better or in the event we needed to switch. I like the title technical analyst better because it will broaden my resume and make me look more attractive to other employers. HOWEVER the lab tech position is a growing one as they continue to attract vaccine clinical trials so that could possibly lead to me running my own lab. That has always been my end goal. Fingers crossed. I am hoping at least one of these two places looks at my 18 years of experience and goes "Damn we could really use that!" as opposed to here where anything I did in the outside world doesn't count for shit and I am expected to "pay my dues" for the next 3-5 years. Nah I'm done doing that thanks. There has to be an employer out there somewhere who will see what this place is wasting.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 24, 2024 13:10:45 GMT -5
DN3 will be out in about an hour with my food and a few other things I asked him to pick up.
I suggested it might be best if he didn't bring his stepson. I enjoy being around him, but I don't want the way I look to scare him. He's also a compassionate boy and I do not want him hugging me and he is a hugger. If he would touch my chin or any part of my face, it will hurt. I don't need that.
So time will tell how many show up.
I ordered food for next week and think I will go pick it up and they will bring my box to the car.
When the tylenol wears off, it hurts until it kicks back in. While I slept very well last night, I am tired
One of my cousins made a comment on FB that Day 3 will be the worst. Today is Day 3. Why would you tell anyone yet. I feel physically better today. I don't look much better but that is not helpful.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 24, 2024 13:27:47 GMT -5
My nerves are bad y'all! I had an insured get shut down for insurance and I have done everything asked of us to be in compliance with program guidelines. I just spent an hour on the phone with the insured and the insurance company getting it straightened out. The insured is pissed, but not at me. I told the producer I'm gonna end up on a liver transplant list at some point.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 24, 2024 13:39:03 GMT -5
DN3 will be out in about an hour with my food and a few other things I asked him to pick up. I suggested it might be best if he didn't bring his stepson. I enjoy being around him, but I don't want the way I look to scare him. He's also a compassionate boy and I do not want him hugging me and he is a hugger. If he would touch my chin or any part of my face, it will hurt. I don't need that. So time will tell how many show up. I ordered food for next week and think I will go pick it up and they will bring my box to the car. When the tylenol wears off, it hurts until it kicks back in. While I slept very well last night, I am tired One of my cousins made a comment on FB that Day 3 will be the worst. Today is Day 3. Why would you tell anyone yet. I feel physically better today. I don't look much better but that is not helpful.Because many feel slammed on day 3 and start to feel something is really wrong and panic. If you know in advance, you can stay on top of the ice and meds. Many back off on both because they feel better….but in reality the drugs the doc used during surgery are totally out of your system by then and you feel the full effect. Surgery is really partially a head game too.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 24, 2024 13:42:06 GMT -5
My issues with Catholicism have very little to do with practicing individuals or faith and a hell of a lot to do with their leadership culture of actively enabling child molestation for centuries. But sure, Mary vs Jesus. That’s the real hot button topic… resolution WTF is wrong with SIL and MIL. SIL missing any or all of the festivities sounds like a feature not a bug.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 24, 2024 13:43:55 GMT -5
DN3 will be out in about an hour with my food and a few other things I asked him to pick up. I suggested it might be best if he didn't bring his stepson. I enjoy being around him, but I don't want the way I look to scare him. He's also a compassionate boy and I do not want him hugging me and he is a hugger. If he would touch my chin or any part of my face, it will hurt. I don't need that. So time will tell how many show up. I ordered food for next week and think I will go pick it up and they will bring my box to the car. When the tylenol wears off, it hurts until it kicks back in. While I slept very well last night, I am tired One of my cousins made a comment on FB that Day 3 will be the worst. Today is Day 3. Why would you tell anyone yet. I feel physically better today. I don't look much better but that is not helpful. Belated, sorry…I’d be delighted to contribute to a meal train or “let’s enable TheOtherMe to have anything whatsoever she wants delivered” if someone would like to organize it?
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Post by giramomma on Jul 24, 2024 14:09:14 GMT -5
How did I not know this existed.
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Post by Opti on Jul 24, 2024 14:31:32 GMT -5
My issues with Catholicism have very little to do with practicing individuals or faith and a hell of a lot to do with their leadership culture of actively enabling child molestation for centuries. But sure, Mary vs Jesus. That’s the real hot button topic… resolution WTF is wrong with SIL and MIL. SIL missing any or all of the festivities sounds like a feature not a bug. Fortunately the issue is with SIL and her mother, rather than my husband's mother, so at least my exposure is a bit more limited. Today SIL sent me a bunch of texts saying she won't make it to our dinner tomorrow night with an aunt and uncle from Michigan. She sent a bunch of complaints about our plans, wanting me to change everything around, so I just said thanks for letting me know. So then afterward she sent a bunch more complaints about the dinner plans. Apparently she wants me to host a cookout on the back porch, since she won't go in my house (cat allergies). No thanks, with as hot and muggy as it has been, I would much rather just go to the restaurant as planned. I was at the gym on the treadmill trying to lower my blood pressure, but it kept spiking up every time I heard another text coming in. Is there a reason you didn't block her after the first stupid text? I learned how to block someone just recently. I blocked one sister, the non executor because I think the executor sis whined to her. Do your own damn whining B for FFS! So B whined and I sent a flurry of texts basically saying I had other things I had to address first and I am aware. Of course another whine had to follow, so she is blocked too until my work gets all the FMLA, disability or whatever paperwork they need. Sadly it is already 3:30PM and I need to make lunch. In any event, I find turning off my phone and unplugging my VOIP phone for hours can bring some peace of mind when dealing with people who don't want to wait.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 24, 2024 14:35:36 GMT -5
My nerves are bad y'all! I had an insured get shut down for insurance and I have done everything asked of us to be in compliance with program guidelines. I just spent an hour on the phone with the insured and the insurance company getting it straightened out. The insured is pissed, but not at me. I told the producer I'm gonna end up on a liver transplant list at some point. It is a high stress business. DH is under a lot of stress and it is mostly from his company's incentive goals. They cut the commission rate basically in half and then offer incentive compensation if you meet the monthly goal they set. They are aggressive, and DH is meeting it maybe 1/2 or 3/4 of the time. His income is up, not down, but his stress level is way up, and really there is not reason that we need him to make the kind of $$ he is bringing home. He is being told if he does not meet the goals they set they will shut him down, which just amps up the pressure. We need about 3-5 years yet to save the optimal amount of retirement $$.
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Post by Opti on Jul 24, 2024 14:45:06 GMT -5
So time to make linner. And after that check the Health Conglomerate Portal. See what I have to do, and hopefully have everything tied up by tomorrow given with their summer hours they might be leaving for the day in 30 minutes to an hour in HR.
First county grocery bus trip was a trip. The guy was 30 minutes earlier than the earliest time I was told, Hadn't even peed or really gotten my grocery bags straightened out. So after yelling after the bus grabbing what I could, I found out yes it was the bus I was looking for and no they did not tell him to come at Noon or later.
So smarter from my AAA killed my car experience, I left my grocery bags in the bus and walked quickly with his OK to go to the bathroom. Brought smaller bags than I would have chosen, but it did work out in the end. I think it was about an hour to pick everyone up. I got dropped off roughly around the time I thought they said they would. But listening to the regulars on the bus, that time is usually when they leave the grocery store by. So probably a 3-to-4-hour RT depending on the day with 1 to 2 hours in the grocery store itself to shop.
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Post by Opti on Jul 24, 2024 14:46:28 GMT -5
My nerves are bad y'all! I had an insured get shut down for insurance and I have done everything asked of us to be in compliance with program guidelines. I just spent an hour on the phone with the insured and the insurance company getting it straightened out. The insured is pissed, but not at me. I told the producer I'm gonna end up on a liver transplant list at some point. It is a high stress business. DH is under a lot of stress and it is mostly from his company's incentive goals. They cut the commission rate basically in half and then offer incentive compensation if you meet the monthly goal they set. They are aggressive, and DH is meeting it maybe 1/2 or 3/4 of the time. His income is up, not down, but his stress level is way up, and really there is not reason that we need him to make the kind of $$ he is bringing home. He is being told if he does not meet the goals they set they will shut him down, which just amps up the pressure. We need about 3-5 years yet to save the optimal amount of retirement $$. Sorry. It is cruel when they do that to salespeople and producers just so they can feel justified to lay some of you off in the near future.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 24, 2024 16:18:06 GMT -5
My issues with Catholicism have very little to do with practicing individuals or faith and a hell of a lot to do with their leadership culture of actively enabling child molestation for centuries. But sure, Mary vs Jesus. That’s the real hot button topic… resolution WTF is wrong with SIL and MIL. SIL missing any or all of the festivities sounds like a feature not a bug. Fortunately the issue is with SIL and her mother, rather than my husband's mother, so at least my exposure is a bit more limited. Today SIL sent me a bunch of texts saying she won't make it to our dinner tomorrow night with an aunt and uncle from Michigan. She sent a bunch of complaints about our plans, wanting me to change everything around, so I just said thanks for letting me know. So then afterward she sent a bunch more complaints about the dinner plans. Apparently she wants me to host a cookout on the back porch, since she won't go in my house (cat allergies). No thanks, with as hot and muggy as it has been, I would much rather just go to the restaurant as planned. I was at the gym on the treadmill trying to lower my blood pressure, but it kept spiking up every time I heard another text coming in. Can you just ignore her texts now? Several years ago, being allergic to dogs and cats was finally added to the long list of things I’ve been allergic to since I was 4yo. I would still visit you if invited, because guess what, there are meds to help with allergies! The occasion would be worth it to me to take some allergy meds as needed so I could accept your invitation. And that’s coming from someone that has never even met you IRL. Your SIL sounds like a real whackadoodle with the way she is pestering you with her complaints and trying to make you do things the way she wants you to do them. She can either come to the gatherings or not, but she needs to stfu and leave you the hell alone.
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