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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 18, 2024 13:49:01 GMT -5
So the Tullis house keeps coming up in my mind. It's really nice. It's also completely remodeled and the same price as this NJ house. It's probably equally as far from downtown KC. It's cheaper to live in MO, so it seems like a no brainer. However it has a sump pump which I think is keeping people (including me) from buying it. What do you all think? My parents say that they have one with no problem, but they don't have a finished basement. What are your opinions on having a sump pump. I've been staying away from them so far. Well, it depends on why it's there. Is it a house that floods or was it put in as a preventative thing? Some people just insist on having sumps installed in basements no matter what just in case. If it was put in because of water issues does the pump take care of them? If so, it's not really an issue but you would have to make sure the pump is maintained. An inspector would be able to see if there were signs of water issues in the basement.
My new pump runs a LOT and they said I desperately needed one, but in 25 years I only had water in the basement a handful of times without one at all. Knock on wood, this will eliminate the problem altogether.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 18, 2024 13:50:24 GMT -5
andi can you get a battery backup for the sump pump? Also ask how much water came into basement to require the sump pump A battery backup would be a must. The insurance side of me wouldn't be able to go without one.
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 18, 2024 13:58:29 GMT -5
The other question I have is for those of you that have Trusts, what is in your trust, and if you have any assets outside the trust what is it, and how did you choose? Can you put your 401K into the trust? I plan to try to set up a trust soon. Just wondering if we put all our assets into a trust and then one of us needs to go into a nursing home or memory care facility how does that work? TY There is no simple answer to your question as there are different types of trusts with different purposes. An irrevocable trust is often used to shelter assets in order to prevent them from being taken to satisfy Medicaid in case one has to go to a nursing home or get other assistance. Ours is a revocable trust which does not shelter our assets but serves us by providing the means by which a bank becomes our executor, guardian, and trustee in the event of our death or incapacity as we have no family or friends to serve in those roles. The bank will also hold both durable and medical powers of attorney if either of us dies or becomes incapacitated. We never had 401K's but we both have IRA's and those remain outside the trust as do our 2 vehicles. Our home, our bank accounts, and our non-IRA brokerage accounts are in the trust. Trust law is a specialty and there are also state-specific rules so finding a competent elder law attorney is crucial. IMHO the key to successfully creating a trust is sitting down with your life partner and deciding what your mutual concerns are and how you want things to play out if either of you are incapacitated or dead. This does require a lot of honesty about how you regard people in your life and their ability or lack of ability to serve as your trustee at some point. One poster here has indicated they are considering leaving a large sum of $$ out of the trust so eliminate the possibility of their DIL being a trustee at a future date and denying their request to spend the money. Our wonderful attorney actually provided a very lengthy questionnaire we had to work through asking and answering these and many questions. Our responses guided her recommendations on structuring the trust.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 18, 2024 14:16:07 GMT -5
andi can you get a battery backup for the sump pump? Also ask how much water came into basement to require the sump pump A battery backup would be a must. The insurance side of me wouldn't be able to go without one. Does Kansas (or MO...can't remember where that property was) have disclosure laws? In MN a seller has to fill out a form that has like 10 pages of questions about the condition of the property and any known issues, including any past problems with water in the basement and an explanation for anything that you marked "yes" to. Failure to do so can open you up to a lawsuit from the buyer down the line.
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 18, 2024 14:23:34 GMT -5
Sprinkler guy came out and replaced the backflow preventer and two sprinkler heads to the tune of $775 as expected.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 18, 2024 14:24:59 GMT -5
Where is the third bedroom? I only count 2 in the floor plan. I like it though, would probably look at getting rid of the wall between the kitchen and dining room if possible.
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Post by aricia on Jul 18, 2024 15:41:00 GMT -5
So the Tullis house keeps coming up in my mind. It's really nice. It's also completely remodeled and the same price as this NJ house. It's probably equally as far from downtown KC. It's cheaper to live in MO, so it seems like a no brainer. However it has a sump pump which I think is keeping people (including me) from buying it. What do you all think? My parents say that they have one with no problem, but they don't have a finished basement. What are your opinions on having a sump pump. I've been staying away from them so far. Well, it depends on why it's there. Is it a house that floods or was it put in as a preventative thing? Some people just insist on having sumps installed in basements no matter what just in case. If it was put in because of water issues does the pump take care of them? If so, it's not really an issue but you would have to make sure the pump is maintained. An inspector would be able to see if there were signs of water issues in the basement.
My new pump runs a LOT and they said I desperately needed one, but in 25 years I only had water in the basement a handful of times without one at all. Knock on wood, this will eliminate the problem altogether. Agreed! It depends on why it’s there! In my area, it’s standard for homes with basements to have sump pumps. It would freak me out to buy a house without one. Our basement is mostly finished. We have a sump pump. It rarely runs. We also have a battery backup, just in case. We live in a lake area with some homes built in flood plains. (Not ours) If I’m looking at real estate, I like to check the county satellite maps for elevations and floodways. That might be more useful than judging flooding risk based on the presence of a sump pump.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 18, 2024 15:46:54 GMT -5
Got quite a bit done. More things boxed, more things gone. I am digging deeper to get rid of things. I could have put more in the sale but we ran out of time so I couldn't. Now its put them by the road or Goodwill.
I'm now boxing my clothing, all DD's is but a few outfits to wear. I am going to do the same to mine. About half is done, think I will hit it one more time tonight.
Went to town and they filled DD's scrips up too, so we are really good to go. So docs are human after all, and do care. I have had some that don't seem too. But I think they also know we take good care of DD, so that helps. Her behavior person is coming to take her out Tuesday, that will be good as the movers will likely be here that day. We will have to keep moving her around, LOL!
Hubs is taking the motorhome up. He has to finish checking things out and I need to get the towing insurance in place. You don't want to get out somewhere and breakdown and have to get a semi hauler to tow it in, could cost thousands. In all the driving I did, never had it happen for any of mine, but there is always the first time and that $249 is cheap insurance to not have to do it. He had to buy new batteries there are 6 and that cost $800 plus. Then he will have to fill it with diesel, 150 gallon tank, not sure of the price now say $5 a gallon $750. It gets about 9.5 mpg. It's expensive to run. But we are going to sell it up there. He is taking the cats, paintings, glass shelves, lampshades, things like that, that are fragile and a pain to deal with. He is also going to tow the tool trailer up there. Son's lawn is going to be full soon!!
But this will also give him a chance to check the place out and make sure nothing needs fixed right away.
Need to call the insurance agent for a roofer he uses.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 18, 2024 15:57:31 GMT -5
Confirmed that new project will be mine, if it happens I’m cautiously optimistic. Also my mother is not getting any worse and may be slightly improving as per my saint of a bff, who stopped by last night to check on her email issues. Although her short term memory is still shot. Even better OB is apparently arriving next week and will stay for a month, which lets me off the hook for needing to schedule a visit before fall Less exciting: DS had his dental appointment and I’m starting to really not like this provider…it always seems like he’s looking for reasons the sky is falling. He kept insisting we should worry about restricted airway, right up to where I looked at the questionnaire and concluded absolutely not. Same guy sent us off on a wild goose chase trying to find a speech therapist that would basically train DS to push his tongue against the roof of his mouth (couldn’t find one, asked ped, ped rolled eyes). Still wants us to schedule an orthodontist visit, bc narrow upper jaw and deep bite. I think Imma ask for some friends to recommend theirs rather than going with his recommendations.
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I have never used an app. I try lists but then I lose my list. [img alt="[img src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/embarrassed.png" alt="[img src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/embarrassed.png" class="smile" alt=" "]" class="smile"]" src="//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/embarrassed.png" class="smile"] I am hyper strict about routine and very rarely stray from it. I also have a preferred way I tackle things. I go for "low hanging fruit" or easier/quick tasks first to get me into a groove and save the bigger/harder things for when I am ready to really knuckle down/focus. If I try to do the big stuff first I get overwhelmed and my executive functioning shuts down. I have to trick my brain into feeling good about itself first with little rewards. I can make a list like a champ, but I am horrible at the follow through. Mom will be moving to assisted living soon, so part of my load will be gone. No more grocery shopping, and the screening her mail should be easier b/c I can just have it go to a PO box or just forward it to my house. Maybe I can return to sender all the Fake Political Surveys requesting donations. I really don't want that kind of mail forwarded to my house. I will still need to take her to church at least every other week. I also can shut down her Business, so I won't have to file state tax reports anymore. My personal stuff is getting backed up - as my DH has his own business, I have to do the accounting and I am way behind. I also am behind on cleaning my house. But I need to catch up my taxes, and see an attorney and a CPA to get will/trust/and a SEP IRA plan for DH. We make too much $$ for him to do a conventional IRA so that is the only option. I really need to catch up on my taxes. I have filed paper in years past, but I did efile this years federal return. It did find something I wouldn't have, so I will try to file all my federal returns electronically going forward. That must have been a lot of work for your mom. I would just suggest shredding the fake political surveys. I have been ripping in halves or more all the premature Medicare solicitations I get in email. I hang up immediately when I realize the soft-spoken person I am talking to is not a call I am waiting for but some Medicare or similar flavor scammer.
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Post by Opti on Jul 18, 2024 16:02:02 GMT -5
andi can you get a battery backup for the sump pump? Also ask how much water came into basement to require the sump pump I would look up historical flooding. It might not help though. My second house was not on a flood plain and had one of those 100 yr or similar storms show up. Did cause flooding. It was a rental house prior to my purchase so somethings had been let go including making the basement able to put up with too much water. I remember watching a waterfall be created on the neighbor across the streets steps. Didn't want to ever see stuff like that again, but climate change.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 18, 2024 16:14:40 GMT -5
I like it but it says 3 bedrooms, and I don't see a third on the floor plan. Lots of carpet, I don't like carpet anywhere so that is a me thing. I would like a picture of the stair case in the dining room, to see if it effects function. It's the spiral staircase that goes into the basement it will come out eventually. I also don't like carpet, so it will all come out eventually. The spiral stair case and the carpet are big turnoffs. When there are no prior sales shown and the house is empty, it might be an estate sale. Someone lived in that house a long time. It has the wooden trim in the kitchen like the house where I grew up.
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Post by Works4me on Jul 18, 2024 16:17:48 GMT -5
Regarding lists, to combat the problem of making them and then forgetting them or even losing them, I use the Notes app on my phone. It was a PITA to get used to entering stuff as it comes up but now I love it. My phone is always with me and so are my lists.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 18, 2024 16:22:24 GMT -5
andi can you get a battery backup for the sump pump? Also ask how much water came into basement to require the sump pump A battery backup would be a must. The insurance side of me wouldn't be able to go without one. My battery back up has saved me from a major flood. My sump pump runs a lot. However, when the basement got flooded, the water came in the front, not where the water that goes into the sump pump would go. That was fixed years ago and water has never come in there again. It was not high enough to damage any of my mechanicals. We have had some really big tests this summer of my new waterproofing and the sump pump. The first storm after the waterproofing, I got some puddles of water and I was pissed. Guy came back and did a bunch more work. We have had some bad storms since. Sump pump runs a lot, but no water in the basement. Because I lost the carpet once, I will never finish the basement. I am not dealing with that again.
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 18, 2024 16:23:42 GMT -5
DH worked his behind off yesterday to create a new location for the storm shutters and mounted the device that holds them to the fence when not in use. Today he moved them all to the new location in reverse order so that the 1st one to be mounted is the top one in the stack. He still needs to finish modifying the mounting brackets on some of the windows and then we are good to go with the next storm.
Tomorrow is a trip to Whole Foods for chicken legs he wants to cook Sunday, bathroom cleaning, two loads of laundry, and some online bill paying.
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The reunion group put up a list of people they know are deceased but didn't have dates of deaths. That has irritated some people. I volunteered to look them up. There were 29 people on the list. I found confirmation with dates of death for 25 of the 29 people. I found most of them on Find A Grave. Some I could only find obituaries and for one I only found the Social Security Death Index. These people should have been able to find the names on Find A Grave. Again, only one was one of the popular people. She is on Find A Grave with her maiden name and she was married twice. Neither married name is listed. One of my friends was listed without her maiden name, so they would not have found that. But for everyone else on Find A Grave, they are not hard to find. The ones I found on newspapers. com and the SSDI I only found because of Ancestry. That was about 5 of the people. I hope I get someone on Find A Grave to fix one of my classmate's memorials. He is shown was married to his mother. She died from Covid in 2020 at age 87. She was not the wife of someone my age who had died several years before. Her husband is mentioned in her obituary and they share a headstone. That is who she was married to.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 18, 2024 16:39:29 GMT -5
I just got home from a Dr visit. Today’s visit confirmed that I need to find a new PCP. I actually spent hours one day a couple of weeks ago, trying to find one, and researching the names that people I know say they go to.
I finally settled on one, only to call and learn that the first available appointment for new patients is at the end of October. I asked how long do established patients generally have to wait for an appointment if they are sick. She explained how the Doctor leaves room in her schedule for patients that need to be seen the same day or asap. I went ahead and made the appointment, because she has a lot of good reviews online and 0 negative ones, and I liked what some of the people that left reviews had to say about her. But that’s a LONG time to wait.
The other Doctors that had a lot of good reviews and few or no negative ones, were from mid 60’s to early 70’s as far as age. I can appreciate the experience that comes from having been a Doctor for so long, but I’d rather avoid having another PCP retire in just a few years, so I’d prefer somebody that is younger, but still has at least 10 years of experience.
My current Dr. “inherited” me as a patient when my PCP retired, and has only been practicing for 4 years. She has a pretty much blanket rule about FMLA, instead of it depending on the nature of patient’s chronic condition, and she doesn’t do disability paperwork, not even short term. Due to the nature of my job, it is entirely possible that one day I might need some disability paperwork completed (heaven forbid!), so I don’t think having a Doctor that I already know won’t help me with that if I ever do really need it, is a good idea. I didn’t even ask about disability paperwork, since that’s never even been on my radar, she brought it up herself it at my “meet and greet” appointment with her. She doesn’t do this and she doesn’t do that, regardless of her patients’ needs.
And she doesn’t even listen very well and often focuses on the wrong things. Like my blood pressure. It is often elevated when I go to the Doctor, especially if I’m not feeling well. I hate going to the Doctor. When I was trying to sort out my stomach issues, my blood pressure was not just elevated, but high, every single time I went to any kind of provider. Well, I already hate going to the Doctor, and also my stomach was always hurting and stressing me tf out and was one of the reasons I always scheduled afternoon appointments, hoping my stomach would settle down before I had to leave home. One time the GI doctor that I switched to, took my blood pressure again herself on my way out after my visit, and it had come down considerably. When the nurse took it when I first got there, it was so high that she was shocked when I said no when she asked if I was on medication for high blood pressure.
Once I got some clarity on what was going on with my stomach and it wasn’t causing me so many problems all day, every day, my blood pressure stopped being so high when I’d go to a medical provider.
So after my Dr today said she wanted me to come back in 2 weeks about my blood pressure, I suggested they take it again before I left. No, that’s not necessary, just come back in 2 weeks. I.don’t.want.to. It would be different if I didn’t know that I’ve had a pattern for years, then I would be concerned about it. But I’m willing to bet money that if I go take it right now, it will be in the range of normal. I was there because I don’t feel good, in addition to how I feel about going to the Doctor, so I wasn’t surprised that my blood pressure was elevated at first.
Buy yes, let’s go on and on about my blood pressure and ignore what I’ve explained more than once about my history with it, AND decline to take it again just before I left the building. Let’s focus on that, instead of what I made the stupid appointment for.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 18, 2024 16:41:49 GMT -5
I got a message from the clinical research place I applied to trying to corrdinate a phone interview next week.
This would be another tech job but it pays up to $3 more per hour so I'd happily take it.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 18, 2024 16:45:41 GMT -5
The spiral stair case and the carpet are big turnoffs. Those are easy fixes though.
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Post by Works4me on Jul 18, 2024 16:59:19 GMT -5
I just got home from a Dr visit. Today’s visit confirmed that I need to find a new PCP. I actually spent hours one day a couple of weeks ago, trying to find one, and researching the names that people I know say they go to. I finally settled on one, only to call and learn that the first available appointment for new patients is at the end of October. I asked how long do established patients generally have to wait for an appointment if they are sick. She explained how the Doctor leaves room in her schedule for patients that need to be seen the same day or asap. I went ahead and made the appointment, because she has a lot of good reviews online and 0 negative ones, and I liked what some of the people that left reviews had to say about her. But that’s a LONG time to wait. The other Doctors that had a lot of good reviews and few or no negative ones, were from mid 60’s to early 70’s as far as age. I can appreciate the experience that comes from having been a Doctor for so long, but I’d rather avoid having another PCP retire in just a few years, so I’d prefer somebody that is younger, but still has at least 10 years of experience. My current Dr. “inherited” me as a patient when my PCP retired, and has only been practicing for 4 years. She has a pretty much blanket rule about FMLA, instead of it depending on the nature of patient’s chronic condition, and she doesn’t do disability paperwork, not even short term. Due to the nature of my job, it is entirely possible that one day I might need some disability paperwork completed (heaven forbid!), so I don’t think having a Doctor that I already know won’t help me with that if I ever do really need it, is a good idea. I didn’t even ask about disability paperwork, since that’s never even been on my radar, she brought it up herself it at my “meet and greet” appointment with her. She doesn’t do this and she doesn’t do that, regardless of her patients’ needs. And she doesn’t even listen very well and often focuses on the wrong things. Like my blood pressure. It is often elevated when I go to the Doctor, especially if I’m not feeling well. I hate going to the Doctor. When I was trying to sort out my stomach issues, my blood pressure was not just elevated, but high, every single time I went to any kind of provider. Well, I already hate going to the Doctor, and also my stomach was always hurting and stressing me tf out and was one of the reasons I always scheduled afternoon appointments, hoping my stomach would settle down before I had to leave home. One time the GI doctor that I switched to, took my blood pressure again herself on my way out after my visit, and it had come down considerably. When the nurse took it when I first got there, it was so high that she was shocked when I said no when she asked if I was on medication for high blood pressure. Once I got some clarity on what was going on with my stomach and it wasn’t causing me so many problems all day, every day, my blood pressure stopped being so high when I’d go to a medical provider. So after my Dr today said she wanted me to come back in 2 weeks about my blood pressure, I suggested they take it again before I left. No, that’s not necessary, just come back in 2 weeks. I.don’t.want.to. It would be different if I didn’t know that I’ve had a pattern for years, then I would be concerned about it. But I’m willing to bet money that if I go take it right now, it will be in the range of normal. I was there because I don’t feel good, in addition to how I feel about going to the Doctor, so I wasn’t surprised that my blood pressure was elevated at first. Buy yes, let’s go on and on about my blood pressure and ignore what I’ve explained more than once about my history with it, AND decline to take it again just before I left the building. Let’s focus on that, instead of what I made the stupid appointment for. What you experience with your BP has a name: White Coat Syndrome.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 18, 2024 17:03:14 GMT -5
I'm sitting outside with a puzzle book and a cocktail. I'll reheat some pozole for dinner a little later. it's still on the warm side at 6pm, but the humidity is finally gone. before I left to pick up the pups from daycare, I turned off the AC and opened all of the windows. we've got at least a few days' reprieve from that crap, hopefully longer. I'm at the coast FFS, humidity shouldn't be a thing here.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 18, 2024 17:06:55 GMT -5
Regarding lists, to combat the problem of making them and then forgetting them or even losing them, I use the Notes app on my phone. It was a PITA to get used to entering stuff as it comes up but now I love it. My phone is always with me and so are my lists. Yes, I have the notes app and I do use it, but I don't always look at it when I am shopping. Idk why, probably b/c I don't always take stuff off, so it is not always "up to date". I could not survive without my Calendar app with reminders set up. Idk why I can't convince DH to use one. Opti, I have been recycling the political mailers and deleting that stuff from her e-mail, but I do not want to forward the mail and have it start coming to me. It is just overwhelming to deal with it all. I don't want to have to look at it and make a decision what to do with it. Just Leave me alone! Going to work till at least 6:30 pm. I have a few things I would like done before I leave. Not feeling well, don't want to leave too much undone JIC I have COVID.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 18, 2024 17:13:30 GMT -5
I told Mister this morning that I started to call him earlier and mess with him. He said “I would’ve called the police”! I chucked and asked what do you think I was gonna say. He said “that you decided to drive the Mustang today”. I laughed, because that’s exactly what I was gonna say. But I didn’t want to risk playing with him like that and he think I was serious and get bent out of shape about his new toy. So I told him I thought about messing with him like that, instead of actually doing it.
I don’t even drive his Accord, even though he doesn’t care if I do, but that’s his baby and I don’t want to be responsible for it. If I drive anything of his, it will be the Tahoe, and even that is very rare. I don’t think I’ve driven it once this year. I do like driving it, and he doesn’t care if I do, but I just don’t like being responsible for other people’s vehicles, not even his. Everything else in the driveway and garage would have to be dead or disabled at a time when I absolutely need to get somewhere asap, for me to even think about driving the Mustang. Even if I was going out somewhere by myself and I was feeling and looking grown and sexy, Imma still hop out of an old ass Honda or a Jeep Wrangler lol.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 18, 2024 17:20:50 GMT -5
A battery backup would be a must. The insurance side of me wouldn't be able to go without one. Does Kansas (or MO...can't remember where that property was) have disclosure laws? In MN a seller has to fill out a form that has like 10 pages of questions about the condition of the property and any known issues, including any past problems with water in the basement and an explanation for anything that you marked "yes" to. Failure to do so can open you up to a lawsuit from the buyer down the line. I honestly don't know. The only time I bought a house was 20 years ago as is from my parents.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jul 18, 2024 17:25:28 GMT -5
I told Mister this morning that I started to call him earlier and mess with him. He said “I would’ve called the police”! I chucked and asked what do you think I was gonna say. He said “that you decided to drive the Mustang today”. I laughed, because that’s exactly what I was gonna say. But I didn’t want to risk playing with him like that and he think I was serious and get bent out of shape about his new toy. So I told him I thought about messing with him like that, instead of actually doing it. I don’t even drive his Accord, even though he doesn’t care if I do, but that’s his baby and I don’t want to be responsible for it. If I drive anything of his, it will be the Tahoe, and even that is very rare. I don’t think I’ve driven it once this year. I do like driving it, and he doesn’t care if I do, but I just don’t like being responsible for other people’s vehicles, not even his. Everything else in the driveway and garage would have to be dead or disabled at a time when I absolutely need to get somewhere asap, for me to even think about driving the Mustang. Even if I was going out somewhere by myself and I was feeling and looking grown and sexy, Imma still hop out of an old ass Honda or a Jeep Wrangler lol. How many cars do you have? Between the 2 of you.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 18, 2024 17:27:34 GMT -5
I just got home from a Dr visit. Today’s visit confirmed that I need to find a new PCP. I actually spent hours one day a couple of weeks ago, trying to find one, and researching the names that people I know say they go to. I finally settled on one, only to call and learn that the first available appointment for new patients is at the end of October. I asked how long do established patients generally have to wait for an appointment if they are sick. She explained how the Doctor leaves room in her schedule for patients that need to be seen the same day or asap. I went ahead and made the appointment, because she has a lot of good reviews online and 0 negative ones, and I liked what some of the people that left reviews had to say about her. But that’s a LONG time to wait. The other Doctors that had a lot of good reviews and few or no negative ones, were from mid 60’s to early 70’s as far as age. I can appreciate the experience that comes from having been a Doctor for so long, but I’d rather avoid having another PCP retire in just a few years, so I’d prefer somebody that is younger, but still has at least 10 years of experience. My current Dr. “inherited” me as a patient when my PCP retired, and has only been practicing for 4 years. She has a pretty much blanket rule about FMLA, instead of it depending on the nature of patient’s chronic condition, and she doesn’t do disability paperwork, not even short term. Due to the nature of my job, it is entirely possible that one day I might need some disability paperwork completed (heaven forbid!), so I don’t think having a Doctor that I already know won’t help me with that if I ever do really need it, is a good idea. I didn’t even ask about disability paperwork, since that’s never even been on my radar, she brought it up herself it at my “meet and greet” appointment with her. She doesn’t do this and she doesn’t do that, regardless of her patients’ needs. And she doesn’t even listen very well and often focuses on the wrong things. Like my blood pressure. It is often elevated when I go to the Doctor, especially if I’m not feeling well. I hate going to the Doctor. When I was trying to sort out my stomach issues, my blood pressure was not just elevated, but high, every single time I went to any kind of provider. Well, I already hate going to the Doctor, and also my stomach was always hurting and stressing me tf out and was one of the reasons I always scheduled afternoon appointments, hoping my stomach would settle down before I had to leave home. One time the GI doctor that I switched to, took my blood pressure again herself on my way out after my visit, and it had come down considerably. When the nurse took it when I first got there, it was so high that she was shocked when I said no when she asked if I was on medication for high blood pressure. Once I got some clarity on what was going on with my stomach and it wasn’t causing me so many problems all day, every day, my blood pressure stopped being so high when I’d go to a medical provider. So after my Dr today said she wanted me to come back in 2 weeks about my blood pressure, I suggested they take it again before I left. No, that’s not necessary, just come back in 2 weeks. I.don’t.want.to. It would be different if I didn’t know that I’ve had a pattern for years, then I would be concerned about it. But I’m willing to bet money that if I go take it right now, it will be in the range of normal. I was there because I don’t feel good, in addition to how I feel about going to the Doctor, so I wasn’t surprised that my blood pressure was elevated at first. Buy yes, let’s go on and on about my blood pressure and ignore what I’ve explained more than once about my history with it, AND decline to take it again just before I left the building. Let’s focus on that, instead of what I made the stupid appointment for. What you experience with your BP has a name: White Coat Syndrome. I know, thank goodness. Apparently my PCP doesn’t know, or refuses to acknowledge that it’s a real thing. Either way, she’s just not a good fit for me as far as being my PCP. But forget about all of that, I’ve been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. If you don’t want to share here, on the boards, I’m good with you sending me a PM or whatever you are comfortable with. And if you aren’t comfortable with sharing period, I understand and respect that too. I’m just really happy to “see” you.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 18, 2024 17:29:02 GMT -5
I told Mister this morning that I started to call him earlier and mess with him. He said “I would’ve called the police”! I chucked and asked what do you think I was gonna say. He said “that you decided to drive the Mustang today”. I laughed, because that’s exactly what I was gonna say. But I didn’t want to risk playing with him like that and he think I was serious and get bent out of shape about his new toy. So I told him I thought about messing with him like that, instead of actually doing it. I don’t even drive his Accord, even though he doesn’t care if I do, but that’s his baby and I don’t want to be responsible for it. If I drive anything of his, it will be the Tahoe, and even that is very rare. I don’t think I’ve driven it once this year. I do like driving it, and he doesn’t care if I do, but I just don’t like being responsible for other people’s vehicles, not even his. Everything else in the driveway and garage would have to be dead or disabled at a time when I absolutely need to get somewhere asap, for me to even think about driving the Mustang. Even if I was going out somewhere by myself and I was feeling and looking grown and sexy, Imma still hop out of an old ass Honda or a Jeep Wrangler lol. How many cars do you have? Between the 2 of you. 6. I have 2, he has 4 now.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 18, 2024 17:29:50 GMT -5
Holy shit Deborah Harkness released a 5th All Souls book. I am OBSESSED with the Discovery of Witches
Must.Buy.Now.
Only Percy Jackson can compete and I have to wait till September for that one.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 18, 2024 17:50:25 GMT -5
I told Mister this morning that I started to call him earlier and mess with him. He said “I would’ve called the police”! I chucked and asked what do you think I was gonna say. He said “that you decided to drive the Mustang today”. I laughed, because that’s exactly what I was gonna say. But I didn’t want to risk playing with him like that and he think I was serious and get bent out of shape about his new toy. So I told him I thought about messing with him like that, instead of actually doing it. I don’t even drive his Accord, even though he doesn’t care if I do, but that’s his baby and I don’t want to be responsible for it. If I drive anything of his, it will be the Tahoe, and even that is very rare. I don’t think I’ve driven it once this year. I do like driving it, and he doesn’t care if I do, but I just don’t like being responsible for other people’s vehicles, not even his. Everything else in the driveway and garage would have to be dead or disabled at a time when I absolutely need to get somewhere asap, for me to even think about driving the Mustang. Even if I was going out somewhere by myself and I was feeling and looking grown and sexy, Imma still hop out of an old ass Honda or a Jeep Wrangler lol. T2 refuses to drive my car because it's so new. She says it's too much responsibility. She just doesn't want to hear my crap if something happens.
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Post by Opti on Jul 18, 2024 18:09:27 GMT -5
Regarding lists, to combat the problem of making them and then forgetting them or even losing them, I use the Notes app on my phone. It was a PITA to get used to entering stuff as it comes up but now I love it. My phone is always with me and so are my lists. Yes, I have the notes app and I do use it, but I don't always look at it when I am shopping. Idk why, probably b/c I don't always take stuff off, so it is not always "up to date". I could not survive without my Calendar app with reminders set up. Idk why I can't convince DH to use one. Opti, I have been recycling the political mailers and deleting that stuff from her e-mail, but I do not want to forward the mail and have it start coming to me. It is just overwhelming to deal with it all. I don't want to have to look at it and make a decision what to do with it. Just Leave me alone!Going to work till at least 6:30 pm. I have a few things I would like done before I leave. Not feeling well, don't want to leave too much undone JIC I have COVID. If they are scammers they probably won't stop sending it even if you contact them. Can you forward to an address that might it?
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