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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 2, 2024 9:32:42 GMT -5
I like the house, Andi. Have you seen it yet?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 2, 2024 9:36:02 GMT -5
Raises hit today. A disappointing, albeit expected 3%. We're having a very slow year after a couple big customer pull outs. I was hoping to be able to pay for the pool (deck), but got the jelly of the month club instead. you better call Cousin Eddie and get your boss straightened out! Related, don't you just love when the quarterly business reviews boast record profits but the raises are lackluster?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 2, 2024 9:39:04 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. Wish you lived closer so some of your ymam friends could help out. Are there any delivery services in your community that could just drop off your meals and/or groceries? I am too far from town in a small town of 2000, so no delivery services. My sister insists she needs to drive me but is not happy that I insist she wear a mask. She wanted to know how she will be protected from me on the way home ![](https://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/ymamsmiles/cantbe.gif) Her BIL just died last week after going to the doctor and testing positive for Covid but she insists he did not die of Covid. Just talked to DN3 and he will pick up my meals on Wednesday and bring them out. He has been prepared for how I will look. If my eyes swell, I would have had to skip that week. DN3 and I have had a deal since 2020 about getting food to each other if we were laid up. I got very upset with him when he was telling me about doing grocery pick up when the 3 of them were very sick with Covid. He dropped off food I paid for when I had the blood clots. By the next week, I will drive myself to get the sutures out and then get my own meals on Wednesday. My sister also thinks we need to communicate better. Talked to DN1 last night. He was quite surprised that sister said her BIL did not die of Covid. The son-in-law put on Facebook that he died of Covid. She is a total a$$. She also wanted DN1 to bring his family to the funeral so people could meet J. He and NIL will be teaching a summer seminar at the University of Michigan. Those things are very intense as they have two sessions a day for 3 weeks, so no, they will not be driving to northern Iowa to a funeral in the middle of the week.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 2, 2024 10:07:42 GMT -5
hugs for everyone that needs them today!! Random thoughts in no particular order: -my mid-year progress discussion (at work) was yesterday. The push for my in-line promotion is still going apparently. I just wish he would stop mentioning it because I don't want to be disappointed yet again come review time. The good news is that I've been approved to use company time/resources to learn some data analytics/programming. Super helpful because trying to do this learning at the end of the day is not easy. I'll be vested with my pension in 1.5 more years, so if I don't get promoted in that time, at least I'll leave with some valuable skills. -re: me reaching out to a potential client for a side hustle (merch).... he responded positively! Trying to get the samples printed quickly and of course there's an issue with the image ![](https://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/ymamsmiles/miserable.png) I re-sent the image to the printer this morning, hopefully that will fix the problem. I have more ideas for a wider audience that I need to flesh out better, but I'm excited about the potential here. -I'm angry that fireworks are legal here. DH has a very skittish dog - she hides when she hears loud noises and she REFUSES to go pee if there is any noise she's not comfortable with (loud men's voices, fireworks, children playing {yes, she is terrified of children}). So this week is going to be rough for her (and us). -I have weird anxiety about our trip. Not sure why though - we have the essentials booked, we've identified places we'd want to go, and we booked a cool excursion. I guess I'm worried it won't live up to my expectations. Ugh, I wish I didn't live in my head so much. I hate the random fireworks as well. Houses are way too close together for randos to be setting off that shit willy nilly. They are technically illegal in my town because of the density issue but people don't care. I hate people. You are going to have an amazing time! I haven't been to Aruba three times because it was just okay.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2024 10:12:12 GMT -5
Raises hit today. A disappointing, albeit expected 3%. We're having a very slow year after a couple big customer pull outs. I was hoping to be able to pay for the pool (deck), but got the jelly of the month club instead. you better call Cousin Eddie and get your boss straightened out! Related, don't you just love when the quarterly business reviews boast record profits but the raises are lackluster?Well they wouldn't have record profits if they shared with employees would they?
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 2, 2024 10:21:18 GMT -5
Despite middle-of-the-night insomnia, up at 6 and showered. I gassed up the car, grabbed a kolache and we were off to Whole Foods before the crowds.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 2, 2024 10:34:36 GMT -5
hugs for everyone that needs them today!! Random thoughts in no particular order: -my mid-year progress discussion (at work) was yesterday. The push for my in-line promotion is still going apparently. I just wish he would stop mentioning it because I don't want to be disappointed yet again come review time. The good news is that I've been approved to use company time/resources to learn some data analytics/programming. Super helpful because trying to do this learning at the end of the day is not easy. I'll be vested with my pension in 1.5 more years, so if I don't get promoted in that time, at least I'll leave with some valuable skills. -re: me reaching out to a potential client for a side hustle (merch).... he responded positively! Trying to get the samples printed quickly and of course there's an issue with the image ![](https://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/ymamsmiles/miserable.png) I re-sent the image to the printer this morning, hopefully that will fix the problem. I have more ideas for a wider audience that I need to flesh out better, but I'm excited about the potential here. -I'm angry that fireworks are legal here. DH has a very skittish dog - she hides when she hears loud noises and she REFUSES to go pee if there is any noise she's not comfortable with (loud men's voices, fireworks, children playing {yes, she is terrified of children}). So this week is going to be rough for her (and us). -I have weird anxiety about our trip. Not sure why though - we have the essentials booked, we've identified places we'd want to go, and we booked a cool excursion. I guess I'm worried it won't live up to my expectations. Ugh, I wish I didn't live in my head so much. I hate the random fireworks as well. Houses are way too close together for randos to be setting off that shit willy nilly. They are technically illegal in my town because of the density issue but people don't care. I hate people. You are going to have an amazing time! I haven't been to Aruba three times because it was just okay. to clarify, I'm not worried that Aruba as a vacation destination will not live up to my expectations - I'm worried the vacation won't be all magical and storybook. Logically I know it won't because that's not how the real world works. Stuff happens. We've had stuff happen on every trip we've ever been on. And even in that, we've managed to have a great time every time. I'm not sure why I feel weird now.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 2, 2024 10:40:54 GMT -5
Despite middle-of-the-night insomnia, up at 6 and showered. I gassed up the car, grabbed a kolache and we were off to Whole Foods before the crowds. That was me last night as well. Fell asleep at 10, up at midnight, back to sleep somewhere around 4, and up at 6. Showered, makeup, and put on a dress.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2024 10:48:41 GMT -5
Drama. I am sorry. Can you back out? You are right. No good will come of it.
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Post by obelisk on Jul 2, 2024 11:02:04 GMT -5
I have been writing myself notes for my meeting later on today so I don't ramble. I want to make sure I get across how bad this and how fucked up my mental state is because of it. JFC looking at it all in writing is so bad. It really makes me look like a crazy person because surely not all of this has been going on for 2 years without anyone noticing right? DH said he still doesn't fully understand what the term gaslighting means but he is confident that in the case of my job I am being gaslit. I asked my work BFF if I missed anything because he was usually thrown under the bus right along with me because our jobs were interwined and he was my back up. ETA: Not sure what if anything will happen because my manager is smart enough that hardly any of this in writing. She bullies me verbally in our 1:1 meetings. That I have ruined productivity and customer satisfaction IS in my review so that does back me up. I also cited she has never provided me with data/evidence when requested. I am just told that I do it and that it needs to not happen anymore. Like I asked to see the customer survey results so I could read the feedback myself so I knew where to improve and was told no that I just needed to trust her that they are unhappy with me. When I ask my coworkers for feedback on how I am destroying their productivity they look at me like I am nuts. She can give evidence I do misspell words/transpose numbers and can argue I deserve everything she's ever said about me and I did fall apart when my mother died. Which should be understandable but this is corporate America you are not a human you are a number. And I own mistakes I make, I always have. My issue is she has made me so paranoid about every tiny misstep real or perceived I have panic attacks. I spent 15 minutes freaking out cleaning the sink because I didn't want to get in trouble for there being a piece of pasta stuck to it and I could just NOT get the damn thing off even with picking at it with my nails. On top of making me feel like I am the biggest fucking idiot on the planet and that as she claims I have single handedly ruined the lab since the day I walked in the door. She is ALWAYS hunting for a way to prove I am a crappy employee. No matter how small it is something that will be brought up as evidence I suck. Not once have I ever heard positive feedback. When I DO get positive feedback like when I got a shout out for running all those caramels from someone else like clockwork in the 1:1 meeting every single thing I have ever done "wrong" from the time I walked in the door is brought up and I am reminded that I am a poor employee and should be grateful I even have a job right now. Then radio silence for a few weeks and the cycle starts all over again. I never get any real time feedback I am always hit in the head with a fucking brick that I didn't see flying through the air. I assume my performance is fine. WRONG you suck! I am a paranoid miserable angry wreck anymore. ETA ETA: I think I am going to lose. Maybe this was not a good idea. My coworkers back me up and think I am justified/have a case but I am really really scared this is going to make things 20x worse on me. I don't want a mediation meeting where she proceeds to drag my ass across the floor in front of HR. I can't take another meeting where I am completely trashed professionally and told I deserve it. Big mistake involving HR at this point. They have made it crystal clear that you are not promotable and have already discussed your case. The way I look at this is that they did you a favor be letting you know where you stand within your organization and its time to move on and not focus on who is right and wrong. Remember there are no winners by invoking HR. My advise is to focus your energy on finding a new job/career.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2024 11:05:18 GMT -5
Well, I don't know if I'll be offered the job. Or they can pay me enough.
I can tell you, there is real power in sitting in a room telling showing people what your authentic self is.
And, I am grateful for that opportunity. It was amazing.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2024 11:09:37 GMT -5
And, Drama. It was not a good idea to involve coworkers to get their opinion/back you up.
That will be used as you contributing to a poor work environment.
I know it makes things much lonlier. I barely have told anyone what's been happening.
When I worked with folks at my employer, they advised me to not talk about the situation at all. Because that would be gossip and contribute to making things worse.
It was almost 8 months before I told someone what happened to me beyond the person that advised me.
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Post by busymom on Jul 2, 2024 11:12:04 GMT -5
NomoreDramaQ1015, this supervisor sounds SO MUCH like a former "supervisor from h#ll" that I suffered with. Heck, the whole department suffered. The only thing missing from the ways that she criticizes is not mentioning that she doesn't like your hair, or your choice in clothing, which is what my old boss did. One of the happiest days of my life was when I left that company. (BTW, that work location shut down after I left.)
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Post by gs11rmb on Jul 2, 2024 11:17:36 GMT -5
NomoreDramaQ1015 I don't necessarily think that it's a bad idea to involve HR. You'll now have a paper trail and, after sitting through a lot of discrimination training, it seems as if retaliation is worse than the actual offence. Most HR departments want to avoid being sued and allowing retaliation is a good way to have that happen.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 2, 2024 11:24:31 GMT -5
Well, I don't know if I'll be offered the job. Or they can pay me enough. I can tell you, there is real power in sitting in a room telling showing people what your authentic self is.And, I am grateful for that opportunity. It was amazing. This is what I have been practicing in regards to career for the last for the last 6-7 years and it has significantly paid off. But I also had no minor children, DH and I were equal wage earners, had tons in savings and retirement accounts, and we could have supported the household on either income. Now with DH's surgery and some changes at his employer I am encouraging him to make some changes in regards to work. He will not leave his employer mostly because of PTO (hard to walk away from 8 weeks of PTO for a job that offers nothing for the first year) but there are some opportunities coming up that would lead to a less physical job, which is what he needs with his health issues. He can afford to take some chances at this point. I need more practice in home life, but I am getting there.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 2, 2024 11:25:01 GMT -5
I love the sunporch and big fenced backyard. You sure have a ton of nice houses in the sub-300K zone down there. I like it too. I just hope an offer I put in finally takes! I've only been actively looking for 3 weeks and I'm already feeling defeated.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2024 11:36:36 GMT -5
Well, I don't know if I'll be offered the job. Or they can pay me enough. I can tell you, there is real power in sitting in a room telling showing people what your authentic self is.And, I am grateful for that opportunity. It was amazing. This is what I have been practicing in regards to career for the last for the last 6-7 years and it has significantly paid off. But I also had no minor children, DH and I were equal wage earners, had tons in savings and retirement accounts, and we could have supported the household on either income. Now with DH's surgery and some changes at his employer I am encouraging him to make some changes in regards to work. He will not leave his employer mostly because of PTO (hard to walk away from 8 weeks of PTO for a job that offers nothing for the first year) but there are some opportunities coming up that would lead to a less physical job, which is what he needs with his health issues. He can afford to take some chances at this point. I need more practice in home life, but I am getting there. I think more importantly you are working for an employer who is interested in you and your authenticity. If your work environment is such that they want "yes, m'am, no m'am, please and thank you." and nothing more. You can't be who you are.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2024 11:48:55 GMT -5
So the consensus is my career is ruined, they don't like me and will make my life miserable if I go to HR and I put my job at risk?
What exactly changes?
I am looking but in the mean time I have bills to pay. We aren't quite in a position where I can walk off.
But we're close enough if they fire me so be it. We will be fine and I'll wait tables for a but again.
I'm done being scared. I'm done having panic attacks. I either take what little self respect I have left or I should at this point just roll over because life refuses to get better.
If that is wrong so be it. Again what exactly do I have to lose? My pride? My sanity? A promotion? A good relationship with my boss? A positive review?
I'll never work at this company again? I don't use Mt management as a reference which will somehow cause me to never work at all?
Not my first rodeo with crappy managers. I've never had it stop me getting a different job.
Seriously. There is nothing anymore. Might as well go big or go home.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 2, 2024 11:56:22 GMT -5
So the consensus is my career is ruined, they don't like me and will make my life miserable if I go to HR and I put my job at risk? What exactly changes? I am looking but in the mean time I have bills to pay. We aren't quite in a position where I can walk off. But we're close enough if they fire me so be it. We will be fine and I'll wait tables for a but again. I'm done being scared. I'm done having panic attacks. I either take what little self respect I have left or I should at this point just roll over because life refuses to get better. If that is wrong so be it. Again what exactly do I have to lose? My pride? My sanity? A promotion? A good relationship with my boss? A positive review? I'll never work at this company again? I don't use Mt management as a reference which will somehow cause me to never work at all? Not my first rodeo with crappy managers. I've never had it stop me getting a different job. Seriously. There is nothing anymore. Might as well go big or go home. I am totally onboard with this. Your work life is miserable at this point. You can find another job. Hell, Target probably pays not much less that you are being paid, with much less stress. I do not know about your state, but in many states you can collect unemployment if they fire you. Your mental health is worth than a lost job. Just my 2 cents.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 2, 2024 12:05:58 GMT -5
This is what I have been practicing in regards to career for the last for the last 6-7 years and it has significantly paid off. But I also had no minor children, DH and I were equal wage earners, had tons in savings and retirement accounts, and we could have supported the household on either income. Now with DH's surgery and some changes at his employer I am encouraging him to make some changes in regards to work. He will not leave his employer mostly because of PTO (hard to walk away from 8 weeks of PTO for a job that offers nothing for the first year) but there are some opportunities coming up that would lead to a less physical job, which is what he needs with his health issues. He can afford to take some chances at this point. I need more practice in home life, but I am getting there. I think more importantly you are working for an employer who is interested in you and your authenticity. If your work environment is such that they want "yes, m'am, no m'am, please and thank you." and nothing more. You can't be who you are. Yes, but I mostly made that happen by taking chances that I could. I realize you do not have those same options because you are the primary breadwinner with minor children still at home. Changing employers is essential these days. IIRC you have been there forever, so I think they see you as a "lifer" and therefore do not value you.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2024 12:13:09 GMT -5
So the consensus is my career is ruined, they don't like me and will make my life miserable if I go to HR and I put my job at risk? What exactly changes? I am looking but in the mean time I have bills to pay. We aren't quite in a position where I can walk off. But we're close enough if they fire me so be it. We will be fine and I'll wait tables for a but again. I'm done being scared. I'm done having panic attacks. I either take what little self respect I have left or I should at this point just roll over because life refuses to get better. If that is wrong so be it. Again what exactly do I have to lose? My pride? My sanity? A promotion? A good relationship with my boss? A positive review? I'll never work at this company again? I don't use Mt management as a reference which will somehow cause me to never work at all? Not my first rodeo with crappy managers. I've never had it stop me getting a different job. Seriously. There is nothing anymore. Might as well go big or go home. If you can quit and do something else, (wait tables, work at target) why don't you just go that route now? Quit and do that. Resigning for a different job is always perceived differently than being fired. And frankly, that's what most people would prefer. There's less paperwork. One thing I learned, actually, is that my perception of the situation wasn't really the same as others. I was perceiving things as Defcon 1 and well, it wasn't. That is exactly a me issue. In retrospect, even what I experienced was a nothingburger according to HR. You are spinning. I am also not advocating that you just lay down and take it. Maybe you will be lucky and won't need to use anyone from your current job as a reference. For me it's about 50-50. Some jobs want current manager, some are happy with previous manager. There is no "Please don't contact my current employer" checkbox. I have no choice if I want to move to something different. What do you want to get out of your talk with HR? I would at least come in with actionable items. You want your supervisor to get some training. You want a third party in your 1:1 because you feel unsafe. You want real data to support the feedback you are getting within x amount of days of being given the feedback. The fact that you are talking about life not getting better makes me wonder if your current mental health management is working for you. If your therapy and/or meds isn't working, you need to try something else.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2024 12:15:22 GMT -5
I think more importantly you are working for an employer who is interested in you and your authenticity. If your work environment is such that they want "yes, m'am, no m'am, please and thank you." and nothing more. You can't be who you are. Yes, but I mostly made that happen by taking chances that I could. I realize you do not have those same options because you are the primary breadwinner with minor children still at home. Changing employers is essential these days. IIRC you have been there forever, so I think they see you as a "lifer" and therefore do not value you. No. Actually, I was allowed to take chances until I got my current supervisor. Three years ago, I had a path that included getting a PhD and working at a really high level in my unit. That is the power of one supervisor. ETA: I'm responsible for half of the output of a "new/innovative" initiative where I work. Half. It's a big organization (more than 15K employees). So. I am willing to push and try new things.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2024 12:18:18 GMT -5
I've written everything down and have actionable items.
The best outcome is they move me out from directly under her. I can handle her just fine otherwise.
Or she shuts up long enough for me to find something else. Perhaps HR sits in our 1:1s for awhile IDK.
I vent here to get my anxiety out. This is not my first bat shit crazy manager. This just happens to be the first place that has an actual HR department I can bring it to.
I have zero expectations that the culture will change or that I am going to get anywhere here. I want to do my job and be left alone. I want to be treated like an adult instead of a child who needs a regular scolding. That is it. In the interim I am going to keep applying for other jobs till I can get out. I'd just like to come to work and not have to worry about having a stroke because I am obsessing over microscopic particles of food in the sink.
She has been in trouble before with HR for exactly this situation. My other coworker is going full scorched Earth about her review with our manager which I am not sure is the best route but it seems to be working. She went to our director first and he is not happy and is arranging an HR meeting with our boss, her boss, him, my coworker and HR.
I skipped a step because I've been told I am universally disliked in the lab.
My coworkers have come to ME telling me to go to HR and have offered to validate anything I say about my manager because they don't agree with her treatment of me. They have come to me and have also told me if I don't go to HR at this point they will on my behalf. One of my coworkers already went to my manager's manager about my panic attack and told him that something needs to be done about how she treats people under her because this is getting insane.
She can hate me on a visceral level all she wants. She can think I am a crappy employee all she wants. I just don't want her in charge of me directly anymore. If she destroyed my reputation with everyone else on the manager side so be it. At least out from under her I won't be subjected to it constantly and perhaps there is a slim chance that I could prove otherwise under a different manager.
ETA: I started my account back up at BetterHealth but got assigned a new one. Don't know if mine stopped working with them or I have been inactive too long. This one has not responded to my message yet but it's only been 24 hours. I got a phone session set up for next week to get to know her.
And my antidepressant is working. It's what is keeping me from completely going mental. It is the little logical voice inside my head that used to get drowned out all the time by the others. Now it's a lot louder even if it isn't quite as powerful as I would like.
And things don't get better because they don't. Last job got toxic, got COVID, MIL died, mom died. Grandma went nuts, GU went nuts. Now FIL died, still dealing with grandma, and back to square one regarding toxic job situation. The last two years have fucking SUCKED. I am sure things are probably headed in a better direction but the needle is moving so damn slow it's hard to see day to day.
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Post by swamp on Jul 2, 2024 12:35:45 GMT -5
Raises hit today. A disappointing, albeit expected 3%. We're having a very slow year after a couple big customer pull outs. I was hoping to be able to pay for the pool (deck), but got the jelly of the month club instead. you better call Cousin Eddie and get your boss straightened out! Related, don't you just love when the quarterly business reviews boast record profits but the raises are lackluster? Make sure Eddie brings Snots for backup. ETA: Drama, I'd like to send Snots after your boss. WTF is wrong with her?
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Post by giramomma on Jul 2, 2024 13:23:28 GMT -5
Two more hurdles: references and pay.
Thoughts and prayers folks. I'll gladly take them.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 2, 2024 13:23:47 GMT -5
Drama, when stuff gets like that about all you can do is leave. Maybe HR will back you up, but to me most are spinelss in those departments. I was in a place like that and basically my supervisor was going to fire me if I didn't quit. The ironic thing was I just went through a review, got told how great I did on a project. Was the accountant for the Convention Center in Houston for our Company and yet I was going to be let go!! Also the biggest raise I had ever gotten, LOL! Turns out this was in the business downturn and they had to start laying people off. They started with me because they said noone liked me. Boy that makes you feel good. I had been there 10 years, every project I worked on the client liked me working with them. and I got kudos for. Now suddenly I was disliked ![](https://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/ymamsmiles/idunno.gif) There was a lot of jealousy as I was one of the few women accountants on projects, back then it was all men, so you know I was just to aggressive. I could come and go as I wanted, I traveled to job sites, and just had more freedom than the rest. The lady before me was brilliant and they did the same thing to her, what a waste. Office politics is a killer and I did not play the game. But I quickly found another job. I told them how stressed I was and could I have an extra week before I started, they said yes. I gave a months notice as they needed a whole cycle with me training someone, so I had a job before I left, I was grinning from ear to ear, the rest of the time I was there. After I worked there, I started seeing some of the wheels from where I had worked, working at a place next door. Turned out they were laying people off right and left, I was just the first. They all looked really sheepish and couldn't look me in the face. Didn't bother me and sure made me feel better. They made me and likely other sacrificial lambs trying to save themselves. So I felt so much better and things worked out well for 5 years. But then mom came down and DD got sick and needed surgery. It was so bad, I had to quit a good job, but things happen and I was able too. I can't remember the date but it was when we went into a recession and construction just crashed for quite a few years. After I was finally able to quit for good, it took me a year to feel good again. That was basically when I quit the corporate world and got into rentals. And it all worked out. There are some crazy managers out there and some mean coworkers. And from what I"m hearing sounds like the work environment is getting worse and worse. I'm so sorry for the people still in it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2024 13:24:06 GMT -5
And honestly though this would never happen I would like to hear what I do RIGHT because surely it cannot be "nothing" and I am still employed.
I own my mistakes, I always have and I am always quick to correct them and ::knock on wood:: not repeat the same mistakes twice at least not the big ones. I actually have no problems with being told I can't spell I know I can't spell I am dyslexic. I own it. I will never be perfect but I do my best to course correct when needed.
It's the fact that there is NOTHING but mistakes and I torn up one side and down the other. It seems to be that the belief is if she keeps beating me down eventually I will become motivated to be perfect. That I will rise up to meet the bar and prove her wrong.
I'm human I'll never be perfect.
It's in fact doing the exact opposite. I have no motivation to improve, grow or do anything besides come in and GTFO at 4:30 pm. There is no point there is no way I can be 100% perfect, especially with someone following behind me looking for dirt. That's what Peacock did but fortunately I got out before she became officially a manager. She couldn't touch me as a coworker she was just a raging bitch.
It's going to stay that way too if I am indeed universally disliked beyond the bare minimum I provide to keep the lab afloat daily.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2024 13:27:13 GMT -5
I love the sunporch and big fenced backyard. You sure have a ton of nice houses in the sub-300K zone down there. I like it too. I just hope an offer I put in finally takes! I've only been actively looking for 3 weeks and I'm already feeling defeated. It took almost a year of looking to find my house. The area I wanted to buy in, was a hot market, which I did not expect. When I finally found my house, everything went smoothly. I didn’t realize all of the problems that could occur between making an offer and getting to closing, until I started reading here. But when I first saw my house, I felt like it was the one for me and my children, and I felt like that was confirmed by how the process went so smoothly. So it was worth the wait for me, to find the right house. I know my situation was different, since I didn’t have a lease that was ending soon, and or any other time restraints. Still though, don’t get discouraged. And while no house is perfect, try not to feel so pressured that you just settle for something that you’re not even sure you really want.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 2, 2024 13:27:35 GMT -5
Two more hurdles: references and pay. Thoughts and prayers folks. I'll gladly take them. We got you!
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 2, 2024 13:45:16 GMT -5
Kind of like when I first saw the property we are buying, it was the one. have looked and looked and none really clicked. This will meet our needs. It does have a nice garage, not big enough but hubs is ok with it. I love the colors in the house. And the hobby room will serve us both, which we like. And I'm finally getting a kitchen with enough room to cook, I like that. And hubs has come around after seeing the bills and all he admits he is happy with it too and you can tell he means it. He said its hard, but what we need to do. We are both having a hard time admitting we are old, LOL
We got the check today, I still can't believe they would send through regular mail a very large check, jeez. But that stress is over. Now one more deposit and it should work out great, its just from a bank down the street, so a cashiers check from there should work great.
I think it will all work out or I hope so.
Now need to switch gas, electric, and water into our names for July 16th. I was quoted $2500 for house insurance, may have to take it initially till I can compare with other companies.
Got all the glass and photos packed in the living room and finished off a clothing box in DD's room. So I'm moving along.
On my way to town, donating more stuff and going to the bank to make a deposit. Need to buy a tomato so we can have BLT's for dinner tonight.
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