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Post by soupandstew on Jun 10, 2024 21:23:23 GMT -5
Meeting went until 9 p.m. but it was a good one overall. I'll head to the grocery store tomorrow and do a few other little chores.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 10, 2024 22:03:42 GMT -5
I am back inside now. Mrs. T and I couldn’t really chat freely because we were on her front porch so she could just pop in the door and check on the twins, even though everybody was home. And they have a doorbell camera.
We are always mindful of the cameras when we chat, because some things, we don’t want overheard or recorded. She is preparing to get a divorce, so of course she doesn’t want her husband to know all of her thoughts or the details of her plans. And for her privacy, I don’t want Mister to hear it either. So we have figured out places to sit when we don’t want the cameras on our homes picking up our conversations lol. We chatted about random stuff tonight, nothing really personal. That was good too, she’s great company and we have interesting conversations.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 0:14:40 GMT -5
Mister just asked me, are the mosquitoes bad outside? I said, they don’t really bite me, so I haven’t noticed, but I haven’t seen any. He said well make sure they don’t bite Newbie. I said huh, what do you mean? He said, well you know mosquitoes carry heartworms. I said, but they both take shit to prevent problems with heartworms. He said yeah, but still.
So, even though I am trying to not let so many things upset my nerves, that pissed me off. He keeps looking for problems regarding anything I do. I’ve shared here that Newbie has been keeping me company and being my “bodyguard” when I sit outside in the dark lately. She has quickly adapted to that, and comes running when I open the door and call her when it starts to get dark. She seems to enjoy being outside with me. But now there is a potential problem with it, in Mister’s mind, because of mosquitoes.
When I met Mister, OG did not even have a regular veterinarian. She did not get checkups, she did not get shots, and she did not take anything to prevent heartworms. A couple years into our relationship, she busted a paw somehow, and he had to find a vet to take her to. I went with him to take her and the place was so nasty and stinky that I absolutely would not have trusted them with one of my dogs, but she wasn’t my dog, so whatever. My dogs always had vets that I trusted and would’ve taken them to. Whatever happened to her paw, was bad enough that it required surgery that cost almost $500. He didn’t have the money and was saying he would bring her back after he got paid. I said no, get it done now, I’ll pay for it, just pay me back when you can. So that’s what we did, and the surgery was done that day, she stayed overnight and we picked her up the next day.
I understand that when you learn better, you do better, but he really didn’t start doing better in some ways, until I insisted on certain things regarding taking care of Newbie when she came to live with us.
So now you wanna talk about making sure Newbie doesn’t get bitten by mosquitoes when she’s outside with me, so she doesn’t get heartworms…. When I am pretty sure OG never had any kind of preventive care?
That shit ain’t really about Newbie, it’s about finding some kind of issue with me and what I do. Newbie and Boy are lacking in some things regarding training, but they are very well taken care of as far as their physical health, because while I let OG be his dog, I insisted on doing some things differently for Newbie when she came to live with us. And the standard was already set when Boy came home with us.
No matter how I try to keep my cool, this man keeps finding ways to upset my damn nerves.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 0:32:12 GMT -5
And also, that thing with OG needing surgery on her paw, reminds me of the gold digger shit. Back then, he didn’t even have $500 to pay for something his dog needed, and I paid for it. He did pay me back.
I can name other shit that happened back then, when I came through with the money. It was never an issue for me, because even back then, if I had the money to pay for something he didn’t have the money for, it was all good, and I didn’t feel any type of way about it. To me, that was just part of being life partners.
My income was more than his back then, and he had minor children, while my children were young adults, so I just had more *free* money than he did, and I didn’t mind sharing it with him, since we were supposed to be a team.
But now his income is almost double mine, and apparently how we work together (or not) has also changed over the last few years.
All of the backstory is why I got so upset about the gold digger shit. I thought I was mostly over it by now, but I guess I’m not really over it, since I am talking about it once again.
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Post by Opti on Jun 11, 2024 0:53:24 GMT -5
Mister just asked me, are the mosquitoes bad outside? I said, they don’t really bite me, so I haven’t noticed, but I haven’t seen any. He said well make sure they don’t bite Newbie. I said huh, what do you mean? He said, well you know mosquitoes carry heartworms. I said, but they both take shit to prevent problems with heartworms. He said yeah, but still.
So, even though I am trying to not let so many things upset my nerves, that pissed me off. He keeps looking for problems regarding anything I do. I’ve shared here that Newbie has been keeping me company and being my “bodyguard” when I sit outside in the dark lately. She has quickly adapted to that, and comes running when I open the door and call her when it starts to get dark. She seems to enjoy being outside with me. But now there is a potential problem with it, in Mister’s mind, because of mosquitoes. When I met Mister, OG did not even have a regular veterinarian. She did not get checkups, she did not get shots, and she did not take anything to prevent heartworms. A couple years into our relationship, she busted a paw somehow, and he had to find a vet to take her to. I went with him to take her and the place was so nasty and stinky that I absolutely would not have trusted them with one of my dogs, but she wasn’t my dog, so whatever. My dogs always had vets that I trusted and would’ve taken them to. Whatever happened to her paw, was bad enough that it required surgery that cost almost $500. He didn’t have the money and was saying he would bring her back after he got paid. I said no, get it done now, I’ll pay for it, just pay me back when you can. So that’s what we did, and the surgery was done that day, she stayed overnight and we picked her up the next day. I understand that when you learn better, you do better, but he really didn’t start doing better in some ways, until I insisted on certain things regarding taking care of Newbie when she came to live with us. So now you wanna talk about making sure Newbie doesn’t get bitten by mosquitoes when she’s outside with me, so she doesn’t get heartworms…. When I am pretty sure OG never had any kind of preventive care? That shit ain’t really about Newbie, it’s about finding some kind of issue with me and what I do. Newbie and Boy are lacking in some things regarding training, but they are very well taken care of as far as their physical health, because while I let OG be his dog, I insisted on doing some things differently for Newbie when she came to live with us. And the standard was already set when Boy came home with us. No matter how I try to keep my cool, this man keeps finding ways to upset my damn nerves. Pink, I hope you spoke to him about that. Maybe he's just anxious and that's why he brought it up. It might not be to diss you.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 2:03:22 GMT -5
Mister just asked me, are the mosquitoes bad outside? I said, they don’t really bite me, so I haven’t noticed, but I haven’t seen any. He said well make sure they don’t bite Newbie. I said huh, what do you mean? He said, well you know mosquitoes carry heartworms. I said, but they both take shit to prevent problems with heartworms. He said yeah, but still.
So, even though I am trying to not let so many things upset my nerves, that pissed me off. He keeps looking for problems regarding anything I do. I’ve shared here that Newbie has been keeping me company and being my “bodyguard” when I sit outside in the dark lately. She has quickly adapted to that, and comes running when I open the door and call her when it starts to get dark. She seems to enjoy being outside with me. But now there is a potential problem with it, in Mister’s mind, because of mosquitoes. When I met Mister, OG did not even have a regular veterinarian. She did not get checkups, she did not get shots, and she did not take anything to prevent heartworms. A couple years into our relationship, she busted a paw somehow, and he had to find a vet to take her to. I went with him to take her and the place was so nasty and stinky that I absolutely would not have trusted them with one of my dogs, but she wasn’t my dog, so whatever. My dogs always had vets that I trusted and would’ve taken them to. Whatever happened to her paw, was bad enough that it required surgery that cost almost $500. He didn’t have the money and was saying he would bring her back after he got paid. I said no, get it done now, I’ll pay for it, just pay me back when you can. So that’s what we did, and the surgery was done that day, she stayed overnight and we picked her up the next day. I understand that when you learn better, you do better, but he really didn’t start doing better in some ways, until I insisted on certain things regarding taking care of Newbie when she came to live with us. So now you wanna talk about making sure Newbie doesn’t get bitten by mosquitoes when she’s outside with me, so she doesn’t get heartworms…. When I am pretty sure OG never had any kind of preventive care? That shit ain’t really about Newbie, it’s about finding some kind of issue with me and what I do. Newbie and Boy are lacking in some things regarding training, but they are very well taken care of as far as their physical health, because while I let OG be his dog, I insisted on doing some things differently for Newbie when she came to live with us. And the standard was already set when Boy came home with us. No matter how I try to keep my cool, this man keeps finding ways to upset my damn nerves. Pink, I hope you spoke to him about that. Maybe he's just anxious and that's why he brought it up. It might not be to diss you. Now you are the one trying to thing the best of other people lol. And that is okay, it’s much better than always thinking the worst. <insert smiley face here since it prefers to pop up everywhere besides where I want I> I am already over being so upset with Mister. Now that I am learning how to handle some things differently, having this safe space to vent, is even more valuable than it has been. He has the dogs outside after it gets dark too. So whatever the real issue is, let’s talk about that, and not waste time and energy pretending one thing is an issue, when it’s really not the damn issue.
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Post by finnime on Jun 11, 2024 5:20:33 GMT -5
Gad. I awoke at 1, was up for over an hour, then slept again until 4:35 when it was time to run to the beach. Dawn is at 5:07. Didn't even get coffee until now. So, good morning, indefatigable invisipeeps, keeping the world turning on its axis. Welcome to Tuesday which includes Tuesday afternoon, when "I'm just beginning to see, now I'm on my way, It doesn't matter to me, chasing the clouds away." Now you have an earworm, too. I hope this day is good to you in every way that matters. Yesterday was what could be a wonderful day. DD had a job interview and pending a drug and criminal check she has a job! An RN in a very nice, clean and kind of luxurious skilled nursing facility and rehab center. Although she uses a cane apparently it's not going to be an issue. She'll work 30 hours a week for full-time benefits and a great pay rate. I know I'm pretty deep in MDD because although I'm delighted intellectually, emotionally I'm just flat. I told her I'm very proud of her, and I am. Today I'll weed the garden in front. I'll force myself. Yesterday's before dawn was lovely:
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Post by daisylu on Jun 11, 2024 5:29:01 GMT -5
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Post by daisylu on Jun 11, 2024 5:30:45 GMT -5
I pulled a Pink Cashmere last night and just took my ass to bed. Not the best way to deal, but it was all I could handle yesterday. Appt worth orthopedic doc this afternoon. Hopefully get some answers about my knee.
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Post by bean29 on Jun 11, 2024 6:12:59 GMT -5
I helped Mom get ready for company she will have today. I cleaned out a lot of paperwork in her TV room/dining room and kitchen. Found receipts for $1800 in GC’s that must have been purchased for scammers in 2020. We had her memory/level of functioning first tested in 2022, so that was 2 years before we took action on noted memory issues.
I had to call my DB and ask him to figure out a chirping smoke detector. He texted back that he found an old smoke detector on the stairs going upstairs to be the culprit. I had changed the battery in the unit at top of stairs but kept hearing chirping. Brother said he replaced some lightbulbs too. DS and I need to go through boxes of stuff in Mom’s bedroom and we need to declutter basement.
I have stuff to deal with at my own house first though.
On the fast cars note, DH’s 2015 Mustang V8 will apparently do 155. I hope he never tested it.
Glad y’all had fun at your get together.
Giramomma, that seems like a lot of job hunting, but agree your track record getting interviews and call backs is good. Hopefully you will find the right job for you soon.
Drama-same. I agree leaving current company may be advisable. Current boss is toxic and seems to be a barrier to your advancement.
I actually have to work today, I had a nice long 4 day weekend. Getting up to walk the dogs.
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Post by Opti on Jun 11, 2024 6:14:29 GMT -5
Pink, I hope you spoke to him about that. Maybe he's just anxious and that's why he brought it up. It might not be to diss you. Now you are the one trying to thing the best of other people lol. And that is okay, it’s much better than always thinking the worst. <insert smiley face here since it prefers to pop up everywhere besides where I want I> I am already over being so upset with Mister. Now that I am learning how to handle some things differently, having this safe space to vent, is even more valuable than it has been. He has the dogs outside after it gets dark too. So whatever the real issue is, let’s talk about that, and not waste time and energy pretending one thing is an issue, when it’s really not the damn issue. The man might be anxious and in an unreasonable state. He's lost both his parents recently and you spend some of your evenings talking to a neighbor who is getting divorced. He could simply be anxious about both you and Newbie leaving him and is fixated unreasonably on the mosquitos. Does he sit outside with the dogs after dark, or is it just to let them out to do their business? Its possible he is more concerned about heartworms now and also possible he just wishes you'd spend more time inside with him instead of sitting outside. IDK. Whatever it is, I don't think he said it to fault you on care of Newbie. Sounds like unreasonable anxiety.
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Post by daisylu on Jun 11, 2024 6:46:33 GMT -5
Sipping on bone broth and realizing that I have not eaten since breakfast Sunday.
Today is the birthday that I share with my aunt who passed last year. I did not need that reminder right now. Took half day for my appt this afternoon. I am thinking it may turn into a full day.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 11, 2024 8:12:42 GMT -5
Sipping on bone broth and realizing that I have not eaten since breakfast Sunday. Today is the birthday that I share with my aunt who passed last year. I did not need that reminder right now. Took half day for my appt this afternoon. I am thinking it may turn into a full day. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I hope you enjoy it! I have a dr appt today too. I hope my car gets me there and back. I hate car/transmission problems. I will drive gently.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Jun 11, 2024 8:13:35 GMT -5
We looked at this house at 417 Lawndale Drive, Pearisburg, VA. WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK. I really like it. They have lots of stuff and the closets are stuffed to the gills, but it has lots of storage and has everything we need and more.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Jun 11, 2024 8:15:20 GMT -5
Sipping on bone broth and realizing that I have not eaten since breakfast Sunday. Today is the birthday that I share with my aunt who passed last year. I did not need that reminder right now. Took half day for my appt this afternoon. I am thinking it may turn into a full day. Happy Birthday!
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Post by giramomma on Jun 11, 2024 8:30:42 GMT -5
We looked at this house at 417 Lawndale Drive, Pearisburg, VA. WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK. I really like it. They have lots of stuff and the closets are stuffed to the gills, but it has lots of storage and has everything we need and more. I like the size of the house and the fact that it's a ranch. Love the view. The Deck is nice, too. So is the yard. The kitchen would make me pause. I'm not a fan of islands, and it seems to be a small kitchen. If it's just you and your DH, I think it would work well. If you've got lots of people over...depending on how much you'll entertain...I'd think hard about that. It seems pretty dated for being built in 2008. Like, our circa 1990's kitchen looks an awful lot like this one. Is the roof original? Does the realtor know why it's been on the market for so long? In my parts, houses that sit on the market for a week, that's too long.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jun 11, 2024 8:53:15 GMT -5
Hugs finnime. Even through your struggles you are a force for good and bring a lot of positivity to the boards. I hope they resolve soon.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jun 11, 2024 8:55:13 GMT -5
Sipping on bone broth and realizing that I have not eaten since breakfast Sunday. Today is the birthday that I share with my aunt who passed last year. I did not need that reminder right now. Took half day for my appt this afternoon. I am thinking it may turn into a full day. Well that’s not good. I hope your birthday goes well, and also that your DH manages to extract his head from his ass.
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Post by finnime on Jun 11, 2024 8:56:28 GMT -5
Happy birthday, daisylu! And many many more.
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Post by resolution on Jun 11, 2024 8:57:32 GMT -5
Gad. I awoke at 1, was up for over an hour, then slept again until 4:35 when it was time to run to the beach. Dawn is at 5:07. Didn't even get coffee until now. So, good morning, indefatigable invisipeeps, keeping the world turning on its axis. Welcome to Tuesday which includes Tuesday afternoon, when "I'm just beginning to see, now I'm on my way, It doesn't matter to me, chasing the clouds away." Now you have an earworm, too. I hope this day is good to you in every way that matters. I am sorry that you are having a tough day. I haven't heard that song before but I watched it on Youtube and it has motivated me to go down to the C&O canal to walk today.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 11, 2024 9:01:06 GMT -5
Sipping on bone broth and realizing that I have not eaten since breakfast Sunday. Today is the birthday that I share with my aunt who passed last year. I did not need that reminder right now. Took half day for my appt this afternoon. I am thinking it may turn into a full day. Have you been sick?
Happy Birthday!
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Post by jerseygirl on Jun 11, 2024 9:10:10 GMT -5
Happy birthday daiseylu! Congratulations to your daughter finneme. Hope your day goes well!
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Post by resolution on Jun 11, 2024 9:14:57 GMT -5
We looked at this house at 417 Lawndale Drive, Pearisburg, VA. WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK. I really like it. They have lots of stuff and the closets are stuffed to the gills, but it has lots of storage and has everything we need and more. I like it. Seems like a nice interior and a large lot. I think I would struggle with the amount of kitchen counter space, but it might be a little better if you add a space saver microwave over the oven.
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Post by resolution on Jun 11, 2024 9:16:38 GMT -5
Sipping on bone broth and realizing that I have not eaten since breakfast Sunday. Yikes! I'm glad you are having something now. I have always found a little bit of oatmeal to be soothing if my stomach is having issues.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 11, 2024 9:20:42 GMT -5
Happy Birthday daisylu Added a lady bug for good luck.
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Post by catsareme on Jun 11, 2024 9:29:44 GMT -5
Happy Birthday daisylu!
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 9:54:28 GMT -5
Now you are the one trying to thing the best of other people lol. And that is okay, it’s much better than always thinking the worst. <insert smiley face here since it prefers to pop up everywhere besides where I want I> I am already over being so upset with Mister. Now that I am learning how to handle some things differently, having this safe space to vent, is even more valuable than it has been. He has the dogs outside after it gets dark too. So whatever the real issue is, let’s talk about that, and not waste time and energy pretending one thing is an issue, when it’s really not the damn issue. The man might be anxious and in an unreasonable state. He's lost both his parents recently and you spend some of your evenings talking to a neighbor who is getting divorced. He could simply be anxious about both you and Newbie leaving him and is fixated unreasonably on the mosquitos. Does he sit outside with the dogs after dark, or is it just to let them out to do their business? It’s possible he is more concerned about heartworms now and also possible he just wishes you'd spend more time inside with him instead of sitting outside. IDK. Whatever it is, I don't think he said it to fault you on care of Newbie. Sounds like unreasonable anxiety. I was fine soon after I typed the first post, venting. I figured it was likely really about something other than mosquitoes. He sits on the deck sometimes, so the dogs can go run and play in the backyard. Occasionally he’ll stay out after it gets dark. We use to have a natural spray repellent for them, we can just get some more of that. If he’d like for me to spend more time inside with him, he could just say that.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 9:56:44 GMT -5
Hugs finnime . Even through your struggles you are a force for good and bring a lot of positivity to the boards. I hope they resolve soon. This. (((finnime)))
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 9:57:34 GMT -5
Happy Birthday daisylu!
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