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Post by soupandstew on May 6, 2024 15:21:42 GMT -5
Finally made it to the frame shop after breakfast and can't wait to see the results on May 20. Picking frames and mats is so much fun and it's been a while since we've had a new piece. One laundry load done and another ready to fold. Annual plumbing inspection tomorrow and, if the guy finds something to fix, his spouse will be widowed and his remains composted. The gods of all that is holy willing, I'm going to Marshall's tomorrow afternoon for retail therapy. I may not buy a damn thing but I need to go there and push a cart around and look at stuff without a spousal unit attached to me.
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Post by taz157 on May 6, 2024 15:27:24 GMT -5
I just saw Mrs. T and remembered that she told me last week when she is planning to move out. CRAP! I sure am going to miss her. Is Mr. T moving too or are they divorcing? FWIW, I’ve been out of the loop as I needed a break from the boards.
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Post by giramomma on May 6, 2024 15:42:03 GMT -5
And, I'm reading through the full travel team DD1 wants to do. It's her only shot to do it. And, I have no idea how the hell we are going to make it work. Seriously, there are other travel parents who will help. I have had many seasons of having extra kids in my cars and camping trailer and hotel rooms. Sign up for the sport and it will work out. Well, I don't agree with you that it will work out. I'm still looking forward to a time where I actually get to make happy/good decisions, rather than being satisfied with knowing I picked the least worse of all bad outcomes. However, I think the most bad decision would be tell DD1 "no." So here we are. Being vague about the sport now, because vague.
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Post by chiver78 on May 6, 2024 15:43:23 GMT -5
I just saw Mrs. T and remembered that she told me last week when she is planning to move out. CRAP! I sure am going to miss her. Is Mr. T moving too or are they divorcing? FWIW, I’ve been out of the loop as I needed a break from the boards. I also missed a week while I was travelling, but I did see a post somewhere that htey are divorcing.
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Post by notagain on May 6, 2024 15:46:58 GMT -5
Menopause 26 years and still have horrendous night sweats, bitchy comes with the territory. My so is a good guy...puts up with it all. Love me love my menopause
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Post by toomuchreality on May 6, 2024 15:52:25 GMT -5
Menopause 26 years and still have horrendous night sweats, bitchy comes with the territory. My so is a good guy...puts up with it all. Love me love my menopause I don't think it ever really goes away. You just learn how to cope with it, in the best way, for you. They like to make it sound like a phase and will go away. Yeah, right.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on May 6, 2024 15:55:59 GMT -5
My day has not gone as planned. No surprise there. I did clean the kitchen. I intended to clean my bedroom but I quickly got sidetracked dealing with my side of the closet. I moved some of my winter clothes to the closet in the wannabe man cave, straightened up my shoes and filled a box with shoes to throw away while I was doing that. I also added a few more clothing items to a bag I’ve started for the Goodwill or wherever. Now I’m tired and want to sit on my butt. I might do a little more after a while. Both trash bins were full last week from me throwing stuff away from all over the house. If I stay on track with decluttering, they will probably be full every week for a while. We still had a large almost full bag of puppy pads from when Boy was a puppy. My coworker has a small 17yo dog that she uses puppy pads for, so I took her the bag last week. I also gave DS some Nikes I ordered that were way too big for me and I never returned. I was glad he could wear them because I paid over $100 on sale for them. So, I will give away what I can, but a lot of shit is going in the garbage. Mister is not going to be happy when I get around to tackling the garage. We are going to have to do it together because it’s mostly his crap that’s all over everywhere. He wasn’t happy the first time I did it, because I insisted he go through all of his crap and organize, and I sat outside and watched him. That was less than a year after we moved here, when I bought the shelves and stuff to try to keep the garage neat. It is even worse now. I actually use puppy pads at the front end of the kitty box. The kitty who uses it has never had a sense of parameters of the box relative to her backside. She is going on 17 and we have had her since she was 6 months. She needed puppy pads from the get-go. She is a stand-up-pee’r. Those puppy pads are a godsend.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 6, 2024 15:59:20 GMT -5
I was several years past menopause I thought. Then I trudged all over London for two days and found out I was not. So I'm out looking for a Boots to buy supplies.
That was the last one.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on May 6, 2024 16:00:26 GMT -5
I just saw Mrs. T and remembered that she told me last week when she is planning to move out. CRAP! I sure am going to miss her. Is Mr. T moving too or are they divorcing? FWIW, I’ve been out of the loop as I needed a break from the boards. She is leaving Mr. T and moving back to her home city. I’m not sure what Mr. T’s plans are, but he would have a very hard time selling their house unless he found a buyer that is into dogs like he is, because of all the stuff he’s added in the backyard. He trains and breeds German Shepherd dogs that he sells for K9 type work. He added another shed, something I can only see the roof of because of the fence, and another structure that looks like a large shed, but is actually a heated and air conditioned thing for when one of his dogs has puppies. It is attached to a large run/kennel/whatever so that whatever dogs are in there can go outside when they want, but not have free run of the yard. I think (but am not sure) that all of them can’t have free run of the yard at the same time. I do often see a *monster* roaming freely, I can just barely see them through the small gaps between some of the boards of his fence when they are walking close to it. They have a large backyard, but between all of that stuff and their pool, I don’t think there’s much space left back there. I would think that only someone with the same interests would want all of that stuff taking up so much space in the backyard.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on May 6, 2024 16:01:12 GMT -5
Finally made it to the frame shop after breakfast and can't wait to see the results on May 20. Picking frames and mats is so much fun and it's been a while since we've had a new piece. One laundry load done and another ready to fold. Annual plumbing inspection tomorrow and, if the guy finds something to fix, his spouse will be widowed and his remains composted. The gods of all that is holy willing, I'm going to Marshall's tomorrow afternoon for retail therapy. I may not buy a damn thing but I need to go there and push a cart around and look at stuff without a spousal unit attached to me. I agree! I have been accumulating bird artwork for several years, and I finally got all of them professionally framed last summer. I have them in my office. I just dropped off a bunch of my brother’s sketches, doodles, samples (some unfinished), and some of his high school work at the framer last Friday. They are ready, so I can’t wait to pick them up this coming Friday. These pieces don’t have value and only have meaning to our immediate family, but I really wanted to display them.
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Post by lurkyloo on May 6, 2024 16:01:41 GMT -5
OMG. This program review is supposed to determine which projects receive continued support and which get kicked to the curb and they couldn’t even keep straight which project they were talking about. Seriously, I‘m still not sure if it was Project A that needed to be licensed out in 6 months bc it was too speculative or Project B bc it was too expensive…maybe both? Also they canceled all the breaks bc we were so far behind schedule, no lunch or bathroom breaks 10 am-4:45 pm. Assholes
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Post by azucena on May 6, 2024 16:18:59 GMT -5
DH went to hand DD15 a flash drive to upload pics off her phone bc she was running out of storage. Meanwhile, she looked up that Amazon prime gives us some amount of cloud storage and will automatically upload. Meanwhile, I'd been asking him to get our pics out in the cloud for at least 4 years.
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Post by wvugurl26 on May 6, 2024 16:19:03 GMT -5
Thankful my day long, cameras on training has ended. The last break out session, one person was getting weird.
Went and did early voting with DH.
Now I'm finishing last week's time card and shutting the laptop down for tomorrow's in office day.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on May 6, 2024 16:38:36 GMT -5
Pan toasting pine nuts and pecans for a snack. 😊
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Post by azucena on May 6, 2024 16:47:08 GMT -5
I really need a real life friend with a decent vacation budget. I want to go on the Jen Hatmaker cruise 1/30-2/3 and may have to be brave enough to sign up for their roommate list. shop.jenhatmaker.com/pages/cruiseAnyone here at all interested? 798 cruise 198 conf 138 fees 500 flight 200 hotel + points 1834
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 6, 2024 16:47:30 GMT -5
Pan toasting pine nuts and pecans for a snack. 😊 Roasted pecans and walnuts this morning.
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Post by wvugurl26 on May 6, 2024 17:00:13 GMT -5
azucena do they have a Facebook page? Maybe you could find someone that way? Or maybe chiver78 would have suggestions on finding a cruise roommate?
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Post by chiver78 on May 6, 2024 17:07:54 GMT -5
azucena do they have a Facebook page? Maybe you could find someone that way? Or maybe chiver78 would have suggestions on finding a cruise roommate? if the event is worth its salt, there is a FB page, an IG page (or whatever that's called) and a bunch of other social media outlets dedicated to it. I've never heard of the Jen or the company listed on the website, so I'm not much help there. but def look into the social media outlets for the trip. you're booking with like-minded folks, so you're going to find friends onboard. even if you still book solo in a cubby on the bottom deck to preserve funds and have personal space, you'll absolutely have a good time outside of the cabin.
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Post by countrygirl2 on May 6, 2024 17:08:04 GMT -5
DD and I went to olive barden for lunch, very good. Me soup and salad, her a childs portion of pasta.
Now I'm home eating a pear. I weighed this morning and was 149 so have not gained, I'm glad. Still have to watch.
The more I stay in this modular the better I like it. Looking around it is much prettier than the house we saw yesterday. Has bigger rooms and bigger bathrooms. We will see.
I went to Home Goods and bought a new floor lamp on clearance. The other one was wobbly and you could not make it stand straight, this one is very heavy and it is straight, so I'm happy with it. Hubs tried to fix the other one and there is no fixing to it.
Hubs and I were talking if I have to keep resetting the breaker for the dishwasher I may have to buy a new one in there too. I need to do more research and see what I can find.
Apparently I ordered my new license tag for the car, it was in my envelope with other papers so put it on. Now I'm waiting on a call back to see about getting different insurance for my car, these things have to be done.
I don't think I have finger nail polish remover here, if no will pick up some tomorrow. I mopped the floors last night and mine is all messed up now.
DD and I are both tired, I'm thinking of a nap. As usual my feet are killing me. It hurts in the backs of my thighs now too. I haven't walked much today, but I have noticed, issues with them are getting worse, not sure why.
For dinner tonight we are having sandwiches. Me roast beef her bologna, Boars Head and extra sharp cheese.
Hubs is helping set up the voting machines and son is traveling. I forget where he was going this week. And not sure what DIL is doing.
Well, next check bank accounts and credit cards and see what I owe.
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Post by flamingo on May 6, 2024 17:12:06 GMT -5
azucena , I’m always looking for vacation friends! Alas, that week does not work with my work schedule. But that cruise looks fun - I hope you find someone to go with!
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Post by chiver78 on May 6, 2024 17:16:16 GMT -5
so, I just PM'd a friend who posted that he's got an extra ticket to see Springsteen in Barcelona on 6/20, if anyone was interested. whoooo I said if I could line up pup care, I was in. #bucketlist I've never seen Springsteen, and I've never been to Barcelona. I also have no idea what the price tag is, but I kind of don't care. so, Dad left a note for Mom and she's gonna call me tomorrow (I hope?) 6/20 is when we lost Nana, Mom's mom. he and I had a chat just now, and I'm pretty sure that my crying had him close. but some of the shit that my mother has come up with in the past 5y or so has been unreal, and way different from the house I grew up in. stuff like, after my grandfather passed, Nana did nothing all day and let my uncles run the house. (Mom was the youngest kid) and it has just gone on from there. I've actually hung up on her when she's gone off on tangents like this. so I'm not really sure how she's going to handle the 20y milestone, we lost Nana in 2004. all I know is that I want to pay for Nana's years on the headstone, and to be anywhere but here on 6/20 this year. so keep your fingers crossed for me that this all lines up, please.....
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Post by jerseygirl on May 6, 2024 17:33:47 GMT -5
Found a beautiful B&B in Sonoma, 2 doors from DS and DIL. Will have 8 of us there for a week in August DIL said easier trip to fly into Oakland, also about $100 less/ticket YDSon and family can’t join as they’ve already made 2 vacations in August and can’t take more time off Bummer
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Post by Pink Cashmere on May 6, 2024 17:35:15 GMT -5
So, the first FairPlay podcast helped me to be able to understand some things I feel, but didn’t know how to put into words. I listened to that same episode again today. There was a guest, Matthew Fray, who is known for saying that his wife divorced him because he left a dirty glass by the sink, or something like that. I went to his web page today and started reading his blog.
The episode is called Tiny Betrayals. They talk about how small incidents can add up to a spouse feeling like they aren’t respected, cared for, and other negative things, which ultimately leads to a bad relationship and/or divorce. Matthew Fray’s wife did not really divorce him for leaving a glass next to the sink, the glass by the sink represented years of him invalidating her thoughts and feelings when she tried to talk to him about things that were important to her, and making her feel like he didn’t respect her enough to consider her in his actions and non actions. They talked about how that makes a person no longer be able to trust their SO/spouse to be their person (my words) and show respect and consideration, which is why they used the word “betrayal” even though we usually think of betrayal as cheating and stealing and big things like that.
It’s been very interesting listening and reading, and a lot of it struck chords with me and gave me the words to express things I’ve been feeling for the last few years. I have been telling Mister lately that I no longer feel safe and secure in our relationship, using those exact words, and now I better understand for myself, how a lot of *little* things, along with some big things, led me to that place and now I can actually express and articulate the hows and whys, big and small. I can be good with words about a lot of things, but not so much when it comes to nuances related to very personal stuff like thoughts and emotions and why I feel the way I do.
I am sharing this because it seems that a few posters here are having issues with their spouses regarding the division of labor in their homes and relationships, including the mental load of all the things that happen behind the scenes, like researching, planning and/or scheduling, to get things done….. even if the spouse does actually do the final act related to the “thing”.
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Post by soupandstew on May 6, 2024 17:35:45 GMT -5
Welp, flood insurance is up to $916 a year. Not fun, but would be stupid not to have it, it's the cheapest safeguard we can get and we aren't in a flood-risk area. countrygirl2 Sorry to hear about you having to get new car insurance in WA, it's crazy expensive these days.
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Post by giramomma on May 6, 2024 17:47:27 GMT -5
I really need a real life friend with a decent vacation budget. I want to go on the Jen Hatmaker cruise 1/30-2/3 and may have to be brave enough to sign up for their roommate list. shop.jenhatmaker.com/pages/cruiseAnyone here at all interested? 798 cruise 198 conf 138 fees 500 flight 200 hotel + points 1834 I wish. It sounds lovely. I'm pouring every cent we have and don't have into DD1's activities.
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Post by soupandstew on May 6, 2024 18:02:16 GMT -5
So, the first FairPlay podcast helped me to be able to understand some things I feel, but didn’t know how to put into words. I listened to that same episode again today. There was a guest, Matthew Fray, who is known for saying that his wife divorced him because he left a dirty glass by the sink, or something like that. I went to his web page today and started reading his blog. The episode is called Tiny Betrayals. They talk about how small incidents can add up to a spouse feeling like they aren’t respected, cared for, and other negative things, which ultimately leads to a bad relationship and/or divorce. Matthew Fray’s wife did not really divorce him for leaving a glass next to the sink, the glass by the sink represented years of him invalidating her thoughts and feelings when she tried to talk to him about things that were important to her, and making her feel like he didn’t respect her enough to consider her in his actions and non actions. They talked about how that makes a person no longer be able to trust their SO/spouse to be their person (my words) and show respect and consideration, which is why they used the word “betrayal” even though we usually think of betrayal as cheating and stealing and big things like that. It’s been very interesting listening and reading, and a lot of it struck chords with me and gave me the words to express things I’ve been feeling for the last few years. I have been telling Mister lately that I no longer feel safe and secure in our relationship, using those exact words, and now I better understand for myself, how a lot of *little* things, along with some big things, led me to that place and now I can actually express and articulate the hows and whys, big and small. I can be good with words about a lot of things, but not so much when it comes to nuances related to very personal stuff like thoughts and emotions and why I feel the way I do. I am sharing this because it seems that a few posters here are having issues with their spouses regarding the division of labor in their homes and relationships, including the mental load of all the things that happen behind the scenes, like researching, planning and/or scheduling, to get things done….. even if the spouse does actually do the final act related to the “thing”. Yes, it's the little things. I feel this so much.
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Post by countrygirl2 on May 6, 2024 18:06:18 GMT -5
Waiting on agent to call at 4:30. Son has the one I contacted, the first was too high. If this one doesn't work, I will contact a broker and see what I can get. Sometimes companies are good that are not the top ones.
It has rained off and on all day but I just looked and the temp went up to 67, wow when did that happen? Last time I looked it was 54. I may try to go out and mow a bit, its real high. took my pain pills will see if I can do some of it at least in the close up areas. This soil doesn't hold water so not an issue and hubs said the wet grass won't hurt anything. We normally don't mow when its wet. Once summer hits here it will all die but right now its sure growing. I want it to be pretty mowed, and trimmed while I'm here. If I wait the maintenance guy will mow the front of it. But I don't mind doing it if I can.
The people here are very nice, the park is quiet, I can have cats and let them out, so there are a lot of good things about this place. Just wish we could have gotten a 3 bedroom is all. We may be able to make do. This is feeling more like home all the time.
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Post by countrygirl2 on May 6, 2024 18:10:23 GMT -5
Oh hubs and I have our issues, but nothing that will cause us to leave each other. I think we are both pretty happy. He says he is, I do too. Beside I love the old guy and I don't want anyone different. We do compliment each other in a lot of ways. Actually I'm just pretty happy. And little daughter is too. I hope I can keep him around for a long time. I hope his test comes out good the middle of the month, we are both waiting.
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Post by seriousthistime on May 6, 2024 18:39:50 GMT -5
so, I just PM'd a friend who posted that he's got an extra ticket to see Springsteen in Barcelona on 6/20, if anyone was interested. whoooo I said if I could line up pup care, I was in. #bucketlist I've never seen Springsteen, and I've never been to Barcelona. I also have no idea what the price tag is, but I kind of don't care. so, Dad left a note for Mom and she's gonna call me tomorrow (I hope?) 6/20 is when we lost Nana, Mom's mom. he and I had a chat just now, and I'm pretty sure that my crying had him close. but some of the shit that my mother has come up with in the past 5y or so has been unreal, and way different from the house I grew up in. stuff like, after my grandfather passed, Nana did nothing all day and let my uncles run the house. (Mom was the youngest kid) and it has just gone on from there. I've actually hung up on her when she's gone off on tangents like this. so I'm not really sure how she's going to handle the 20y milestone, we lost Nana in 2004. all I know is that I want to pay for Nana's years on the headstone, and to be anywhere but here on 6/20 this year. so keep your fingers crossed for me that this all lines up, please..... I saw Springsteen some years back. He is amazing. If you're a fan, seeing him live is not to be missed. He played for 2 1/2 hours solid, with no opening act. We were on the floor, no seats, standing for hours beforehand to get a good spot. My feet were sore but my heart was full. It doesn't hurt that he's a good person, too. Our politics align.
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Post by teen persuasion on May 6, 2024 19:12:39 GMT -5
Got our base passes today, finally! Tried on Friday, and network was down, closed for the weekend…so one less obstacle now. We were afraid DD1 would go into labor beforehand, and we’d have all sorts of issues. Now just waiting…
Little GD is napping, DH and I played board games with GS while their mama rested. Another trip to the playground is likely in our future this afternoon. And lots more story time.
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