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Post by finnime on Apr 25, 2024 14:08:05 GMT -5
I'm finishing up a few things for the show. DH got seen this morning and Franklin the Dog got groomed. DH is now on prednisone and a muscle relaxer. He has some stenosis in his neck which is apparently the real source of the problem for him.
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Post by tallguy on Apr 25, 2024 14:10:54 GMT -5
Whelp everything with GUs house is done. We get nothing. Even though the lawyer said GU only had about $5k in Medicaid expenses the state of Nebraska has put a $100k lien on the house. Which the judge agreed to.An additional $30k goes to the home nursing care. I personally feel like their employees robbed GU blind AND stole his truck so they don't deserve a damn dime but the court doesn't view it that way. Then there were more city liens than we knew about. So yeah. My dad did all that work and gets nothing. Absolutely nothing. Pretty much a final fuck you from my great uncle. Before anyone flames me I am not saying that the state shouldn't be compensated. I am saying it's freaking nuts that he died 2 weeks after being approved and they get $100k. That's an entire YEAR at full OOP price for my grandmother's nursing home. But the state is claiming it cost them $100k for TWO WEEKS?! It is what it is. And they wonder why people don't want to take care of/deal with elderly relatives. Yet again boys and girls let this be a lesson to get all your affairs in order and not be a stubborn old bat about aging. We can't predict everything or cover every scenario but I sure as hell don't have to be my grandmother (either grandma really if being honest) or great uncle. Yes, Medicaid and the state can have a long look-back period. Is it possible, though, that the lien amount is to protect them from some indefinite future bills or costs that may arise, and the actual claim will be significantly less? They may not take all of the $100,000 if that is the case. I've never dealt with that part of it though, so take the idea for what it's worth.
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Post by soupandstew on Apr 25, 2024 14:27:00 GMT -5
And it's hurricane season too! If you get stuck in Texas you can hunker down with us - we have a generator and alcohol, plus crazy neighbors with boats Does DFW have hurricanes? I'm thinking no. It's just hot as balls 24/7. No, no hurricanes in DFW. Just heat, tornados, ice storms, and a crap ton of MAGA
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Post by soupandstew on Apr 25, 2024 14:27:44 GMT -5
I'm finishing up a few things for the show. DH got seen this morning and Franklin the Dog got groomed. DH is now on prednisone and a muscle relaxer. He has some stenosis in his neck which is apparently the real source of the problem for him. Glad your DH was able to see someone and get help - hope he's back to normal soon
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Post by daisylu on Apr 25, 2024 14:31:40 GMT -5
Did I mention that I cut off mom & DSis? And now my brother. DD texted last night that she and DB, who will not speak on the phone, were text arguing about him changing their plans, adding other people, and unilaterally making decisions for her without her input and consent. Now she does not want to go at all and DB is trying to make her feel guilty because he spent $. She thinks she should pay him if she does not go. F*ck that. He changed their agreement without consulting her, she does not owe anyone a f*cking thing. I will add that DD is now 25YO. Her therapy has her working on being an adult and they are treating her like a small child.
DD was upset by it but said she can't even cry - she just feels empty. Mama bear made a resurgence. I am used to them negating my feelings, that is the way it has always been and I actually came to terms with it, but I will not allow them to treat DD (who has a known mental health issue) like that. Sent all 3 of them screenshots of DD saying she feels empty, explaining that this is what I wanted to avoid with a simple convo. I am only concerned about my child. As expected, DSis made it all about her. Mom and DSis can have their dysfunctional relationship, but I refuse to engage. I will continue to advocate for my kid and let it be known that if it is not about the kids I do not want to hear it. I also let DSis know that I heard all of the hateful things she said about me. I still DNGAF. My priority is my child.
Mom is staying silent, as expected. She can not handle confrontation and besides that she will she always side with DSis because DSis needs (read:uses) mom for childcare. Mom needs to be needed and DSis knows that and abuses it and mom will never argue against DSis because she is afraid DSis will withhold the kids from her - never mind that won't happen because DSis will never pay for child care.
I am ready to move to a deserted island, far away from anything to do with people.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 25, 2024 14:40:57 GMT -5
I am not enjoying watching my finished basement pile up on a tarp in the backyard. Studs, drywall, insulation, cement... I'm thinking I might go grab some of that insulation before they haul it off. It's the hard foam stuff and would work well if I wanted to insulate some water buckets/tanks for the winter.
Mine wasn't as bad as tearing up a finished basement, but it was painful to have my entire yard sitting in a pile of dirt. I get it.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 25, 2024 15:23:33 GMT -5
Did I mention that I cut off mom & DSis? And now my brother. DD texted last night that she and DB, who will not speak on the phone, were text arguing about him changing their plans, adding other people, and unilaterally making decisions for her without her input and consent. Now she does not want to go at all and DB is trying to make her feel guilty because he spent $. She thinks she should pay him if she does not go. F*ck that. He changed their agreement without consulting her, she does not owe anyone a f*cking thing. I will add that DD is now 25YO. Her therapy has her working on being an adult and they are treating her like a small child. DD was upset by it but said she can't even cry - she just feels empty. Mama bear made a resurgence. I am used to them negating my feelings, that is the way it has always been and I actually came to terms with it, but I will not allow them to treat DD (who has a known mental health issue) like that. Sent all 3 of them screenshots of DD saying she feels empty, explaining that this is what I wanted to avoid with a simple convo. I am only concerned about my child. As expected, DSis made it all about her. Mom and DSis can have their dysfunctional relationship, but I refuse to engage. I will continue to advocate for my kid and let it be known that if it is not about the kids I do not want to hear it. I also let DSis know that I heard all of the hateful things she said about me. I still DNGAF. My priority is my child. Mom is staying silent, as expected. She can not handle confrontation and besides that she will she always side with DSis because DSis needs (read:uses) mom for childcare. Mom needs to be needed and DSis knows that and abuses it and mom will never argue against DSis because she is afraid DSis will withhold the kids from her - never mind that won't happen because DSis will never pay for child care. I am ready to move to a deserted island, far away from anything to do with people. I'm so sorry. Is your dd ready to cut them off do you think?
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Post by toomuchreality on Apr 25, 2024 15:23:34 GMT -5
Did I mention that I cut off mom & DSis? And now my brother. DD texted last night that she and DB, who will not speak on the phone, were text arguing about him changing their plans, adding other people, and unilaterally making decisions for her without her input and consent. Now she does not want to go at all and DB is trying to make her feel guilty because he spent $. She thinks she should pay him if she does not go. F*ck that. He changed their agreement without consulting her, she does not owe anyone a f*cking thing. I will add that DD is now 25YO. Her therapy has her working on being an adult and they are treating her like a small child. DD was upset by it but said she can't even cry - she just feels empty. Mama bear made a resurgence. I am used to them negating my feelings, that is the way it has always been and I actually came to terms with it, but I will not allow them to treat DD (who has a known mental health issue) like that. Sent all 3 of them screenshots of DD saying she feels empty, explaining that this is what I wanted to avoid with a simple convo. I am only concerned about my child. As expected, DSis made it all about her. Mom and DSis can have their dysfunctional relationship, but I refuse to engage. I will continue to advocate for my kid and let it be known that if it is not about the kids I do not want to hear it. I also let DSis know that I heard all of the hateful things she said about me. I still DNGAF. My priority is my child. Mom is staying silent, as expected. She can not handle confrontation and besides that she will she always side with DSis because DSis needs (read:uses) mom for childcare. Mom needs to be needed and DSis knows that and abuses it and mom will never argue against DSis because she is afraid DSis will withhold the kids from her - never mind that won't happen because DSis will never pay for child care. I am ready to move to a deserted island, far away from anything to do with people. I'm so sorry about all you and DD are going through. It's crazy that DB understands that your DD couldn't afford to travel, so he paid. Yet after the plans changed, without DD's consent, he suddenly thinks she can/should pay?! That doesn't even make sense. So much for his nice deed.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 25, 2024 16:02:17 GMT -5
I am dead tired tonight, was this morning. I have done no work today, just hair appointment, doc, and pick up meds. I need to make a phone call but I'm so beat up don't know if I can talk to anyone.
I'm thinking of a nap but its kind of late. I am doing nothing tomorrow except go to PC doc, than drive to INdi tomorrow evening.
Well, I say I will do nothing but still need to mop the tile areas and vac a bit.
I bought some supports that have elastic that go around your feet. It has a big cushioned bump on each one that would go under the area that would make an arch. But I have big huge thick callouses under there from wearing orthotics, they give you height under the arch. The problem is those big callouses get very sore and become sensitive and hurt like hell. So what I did with these big bumps is move them over beside them to allow another area to be impacted when I walk too, taking some of the pressure off the others. That is not what they are intended for but it sure does feel good. I don't know if I can get them in my shoes, but at least tonight it is helping with the pain.
I really like my PC doc. I couldn't get an appointment yesterday but did for Monday, then I found out what time hubs was coming in so was able to get one with her in the morning. Her nurses have been with her forever and I have gone to her for 12 years. She knows DD and I and our issues, I like seeing one doc like that. So I talked to her nurse yesterday and told her my symptoms and they called in Bacitrin till I can get in tomorrow. I am going to lose all those as is DD when we move. Here its more like you develop a personal relationship with your healthcare people as you go to the same one all the time, so its more like it used to be with doctors, not seeing a bunch of different ones.
I dread driving to Indi tomorrow, its going to be between 4 and 6 right in the heavy Friday night traffic. And I 70 here is dangerous as all get out, wreck after wreck on it every day seems like.
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Post by daisylu on Apr 25, 2024 16:12:44 GMT -5
Did I mention that I cut off mom & DSis? And now my brother. DD texted last night that she and DB, who will not speak on the phone, were text arguing about him changing their plans, adding other people, and unilaterally making decisions for her without her input and consent. Now she does not want to go at all and DB is trying to make her feel guilty because he spent $. She thinks she should pay him if she does not go. F*ck that. He changed their agreement without consulting her, she does not owe anyone a f*cking thing. I will add that DD is now 25YO. Her therapy has her working on being an adult and they are treating her like a small child. DD was upset by it but said she can't even cry - she just feels empty. Mama bear made a resurgence. I am used to them negating my feelings, that is the way it has always been and I actually came to terms with it, but I will not allow them to treat DD (who has a known mental health issue) like that. Sent all 3 of them screenshots of DD saying she feels empty, explaining that this is what I wanted to avoid with a simple convo. I am only concerned about my child. As expected, DSis made it all about her. Mom and DSis can have their dysfunctional relationship, but I refuse to engage. I will continue to advocate for my kid and let it be known that if it is not about the kids I do not want to hear it. I also let DSis know that I heard all of the hateful things she said about me. I still DNGAF. My priority is my child. Mom is staying silent, as expected. She can not handle confrontation and besides that she will she always side with DSis because DSis needs (read:uses) mom for childcare. Mom needs to be needed and DSis knows that and abuses it and mom will never argue against DSis because she is afraid DSis will withhold the kids from her - never mind that won't happen because DSis will never pay for child care. I am ready to move to a deserted island, far away from anything to do with people. I'm so sorry. Is your dd ready to cut them off do you think? Not quite yet, but she is standing by her boundaries.
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Post by jerseygirl on Apr 25, 2024 16:58:13 GMT -5
Countrygirl if you’re feeling really poorly, maybe your hubs can take an Uber home from airport
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Post by soupandstew on Apr 25, 2024 17:08:43 GMT -5
I loaned DH some of my IcyHot gel to try and he found it helpful (leftover knee pain from jumping rope on concrete floor again) so after breakfast we stopped at CVS. They didn't have my kind (2.5% menthol, vanishing scent gel) but he got a tube of 4% lidocaine, 1% menthol cream. I ordered a couple of tubes of my stuff from Amazon when we got home. For those of us who don't take oral pain killers like Tylenol or Aleve, it's surprisingly effective.
Author came by with a DVD player as expected and we'll try to set it up this weekend. He also brought about 8 handwritten chapters. Two were new material which I typed up, printed out and attached a note on where I recommended he insert them in the finished book. The rest already appear in the book in one place or another, but his memory is such that he can't see that so I typed them up AGAIN, printed out the chapters where the material already appears, highlighted those passages and fastened new and old versions together which my recommendation. It's so hard to see him struggle in that way.
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Post by CCL on Apr 25, 2024 17:14:35 GMT -5
Countrygirl if you’re feeling really poorly, maybe your hubs can take an Uber home from airport I think it would be too far. She doesn't live anywhere near Indy.
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Post by CCL on Apr 25, 2024 17:17:48 GMT -5
I am dead tired tonight, was this morning. I have done no work today, just hair appointment, doc, and pick up meds. I need to make a phone call but I'm so beat up don't know if I can talk to anyone. I'm thinking of a nap but its kind of late. I am doing nothing tomorrow except go to PC doc, than drive to INdi tomorrow evening. Well, I say I will do nothing but still need to mop the tile areas and vac a bit. I bought some supports that have elastic that go around your feet. It has a big cushioned bump on each one that would go under the area that would make an arch. But I have big huge thick callouses under there from wearing orthotics, they give you height under the arch. The problem is those big callouses get very sore and become sensitive and hurt like hell. So what I did with these big bumps is move them over beside them to allow another area to be impacted when I walk too, taking some of the pressure off the others. That is not what they are intended for but it sure does feel good. I don't know if I can get them in my shoes, but at least tonight it is helping with the pain. I really like my PC doc. I couldn't get an appointment yesterday but did for Monday, then I found out what time hubs was coming in so was able to get one with her in the morning. Her nurses have been with her forever and I have gone to her for 12 years. She knows DD and I and our issues, I like seeing one doc like that. So I talked to her nurse yesterday and told her my symptoms and they called in Bacitrin till I can get in tomorrow. I am going to lose all those as is DD when we move. Here its more like you develop a personal relationship with your healthcare people as you go to the same one all the time, so its more like it used to be with doctors, not seeing a bunch of different ones. I dread driving to Indi tomorrow, its going to be between 4 and 6 right in the heavy Friday night traffic. And I 70 here is dangerous as all get out, wreck after wreck on it every day seems like. You're right about traffic. At least you don't have to travel 465 to get to the airport. Stay safe out there!
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Post by chiver78 on Apr 25, 2024 17:29:28 GMT -5
I loaned DH some of my IcyHot gel to try and he found it helpful (leftover knee pain from jumping rope on concrete floor again) so after breakfast we stopped at CVS. They didn't have my kind (2.5% menthol, vanishing scent gel) but he got a tube of 4% lidocaine, 1% menthol cream. I ordered a couple of tubes of my stuff from Amazon when we got home. For those of us who don't take oral pain killers like Tylenol or Aleve, it's surprisingly effective. Author came by with a DVD player as expected and we'll try to set it up this weekend. He also brought about 8 handwritten chapters. Two were new material which I typed up, printed out and attached a note on where I recommended he insert them in the finished book. The rest already appear in the book in one place or another, but his memory is such that he can't see that so I typed them up AGAIN, printed out the chapters where the material already appears, highlighted those passages and fastened new and old versions together which my recommendation. It's so hard to see him struggle in that way. IcyHot is magical. glad you found more.
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Post by bean29 on Apr 25, 2024 17:29:40 GMT -5
CG, I think you should go to a podiatrist. I take my mom now about every 6 weeks. She has dementia and has nail fungus on her big toe. he prescribed some medicine, but she can't remember to use it. He trims back the thick nail, and cuts down her calluses with a sharp thin blade and trims her toe nails.
I also made an appointment for myself as I had something growing between my toes. I was flipping out thinking I got a wart somehow growing between my toes. he said my shoes were too tight and it was from my toes being too crowded together. he used one of those thin sharp blades to trim that growth down. I can file my calluses down, but that growth between my toes would be hard to get to, so I have no regrets.
For my Mom, the Medicare copay is only about $35.00.
Good luck on your drive to Indy tomorrow.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 25, 2024 17:31:50 GMT -5
No GU was not on any services or SSI. He didn't qualify for any. Still not sure how or who does if he didn't.
My grandma was mostly supporting him unknowst to us until she went in the home.
That's what tripped up my dad. Grandma wanted to keep paying so my dad honored her wishes which was a no no now that she was in a nursing home.
Fortunately she had records going back to pioneer times so it was proven it wasn't fraud or abuse.
GU had no assets outside the house.
I've been told by DHS and others that you pay what you owe at their death but if there is any left it goes to whoever is benefactor. It's the state gets first dibs and usually people don't die a few weeks after approval they usually die after spending all their assets and then some.
IDK we'll see when probate closes I guess.
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Post by cooper88 on Apr 25, 2024 18:17:18 GMT -5
The state cannot keep more than they paid out. They should return the overage to the estate.
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Post by cooper88 on Apr 25, 2024 18:17:45 GMT -5
I just got home from work, and I now have new stucco on two sides of my house. I love it!
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 25, 2024 18:46:30 GMT -5
Countrygirl if you’re feeling really poorly, maybe your hubs can take an Uber home from airport I think it would be too far. She doesn't live anywhere near Indy. People that live in cities have no idea that people who live in rural American can not get an Uber or food delivery or anything like that. It doesn't exist. We have to find other people to help us, not call and pay a service.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 25, 2024 18:58:42 GMT -5
It's not just Uber. My grandma couldn't get grocery delivery, meals on wheels, home health aids.
Nobody services Treynor. It's like the Bermuda triangle of Pottwattomie County.
It's a great bedroom community if you're my age. Still in your prime and able to commute for literally every service and need a city usually has.
Horrible place to be elderly unless you have family there maybe not even then.
DH every once and while gets a hair about the big affordable houses out there.
I told him he can go I'll stay here. I'm not doing that commute first of all.
Second I'm not going through the hassleof unloadinga house out there when it's no longer feasible for us to safely live out there. I don't expect the girls to either stay or return to the area to help because we'rein a one horse town. I've seen what it did to my dad.
Treynor doesn't even have a grocery store!
Nope we're staying in Council Bluffs thank you very much.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Apr 25, 2024 19:34:31 GMT -5
Did I mention that I cut off mom & DSis? And now my brother. DD texted last night that she and DB, who will not speak on the phone, were text arguing about him changing their plans, adding other people, and unilaterally making decisions for her without her input and consent. Now she does not want to go at all and DB is trying to make her feel guilty because he spent $. She thinks she should pay him if she does not go. F*ck that. He changed their agreement without consulting her, she does not owe anyone a f*cking thing. I will add that DD is now 25YO. Her therapy has her working on being an adult and they are treating her like a small child. DD was upset by it but said she can't even cry - she just feels empty. Mama bear made a resurgence. I am used to them negating my feelings, that is the way it has always been and I actually came to terms with it, but I will not allow them to treat DD (who has a known mental health issue) like that. Sent all 3 of them screenshots of DD saying she feels empty, explaining that this is what I wanted to avoid with a simple convo. I am only concerned about my child. As expected, DSis made it all about her. Mom and DSis can have their dysfunctional relationship, but I refuse to engage. I will continue to advocate for my kid and let it be known that if it is not about the kids I do not want to hear it. I also let DSis know that I heard all of the hateful things she said about me. I still DNGAF. My priority is my child. Mom is staying silent, as expected. She can not handle confrontation and besides that she will she always side with DSis because DSis needs (read:uses) mom for childcare. Mom needs to be needed and DSis knows that and abuses it and mom will never argue against DSis because she is afraid DSis will withhold the kids from her - never mind that won't happen because DSis will never pay for child care. I am ready to move to a deserted island, far away from anything to do with people. I am sorry you are having problems with your family, but glad you are standing up for your daughter. It was kind of difficult for my daughter to figure out how to set boundaries with older family members when she was in her early 20’s. I tried to help her with it, by telling her it was okay to set boundaries and even say no. She really struggled with saying no to my Mom who would basically bully her and ignore my daughter’s no when she was being unreasonable with what she wanted from my daughter. Mom would get a call from me when she would do that to my daughter. My daughter’s struggle was that it’s her Grandmother and we were raised to respect and honor our grandparents, but my Mom is not a normal grandparent. For example, she would literally try to bully my daughter into feeding her, even if that meant my daughter couldn’t feed her children. Then my daughter would be so upset that she was in tears because her Grandmother was saying she was soooo hungry and DD genuinely didn’t have enough to share, but my Mom would still be relentless in trying to make my daughter just give her whatever she had. I don’t think I cussed when I would intervene and get in my Mom’s ass about that, and tell her to leave my daughter alone, it’s not DD’s responsibility to feed her, but I probably did raise my voice. Because WHO TF DOES THAT?! My daughter is in her early 30’s now, and some family members and friends of the family will STILL try to “little girl” her. When they go too far, she has no problem now, letting them know that she is not a child anymore, but a grown ass woman. So far, the times that I know of that she has had to speak up and make that clear, the person really was out of line and trying to talk to or treat her like she was a child who had to just take whatever they dished out. Not that I think children should be treated like that either. So I get it, what you are saying they are doing to your daughter, treating her like a young child, while she is working on learning to adult well. And through therapy at that. It is not as extreme as my Mom, I’m sure, and more like how other relatives have tried to handle my daughter. I understand why that is bringing the Momma Bear out in you, so good job Mom, for standing up for her with the family until she figures out how to do it for herself.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 25, 2024 19:38:34 GMT -5
Does DFW have hurricanes? I'm thinking no. It's just hot as balls 24/7. No, no hurricanes in DFW. Just heat, tornados, ice storms, and a crap ton of MAGA So basically KS only hotter.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 25, 2024 19:43:23 GMT -5
I was just reading through my Will, damn, I understand some but not all.
I found nothing about a trust not being established if DD was over 65 at time of my death. I need to propose that question to the attorney. That would be at my age 90. I wonder if I will make it to 90, still its a good question.
These things sure leave our money basically in the hands of our son than his wife, makes me a bit nervous, but the alternative is you would lose it anyway.
I am drowning in paperwork. I tried changing the bene on hubs 401k, and I knew I had to sign off on paperwork. It said you had to do it within 60 days of the change, but it did not retain the change. But then maybe it timed out, I will try it again this weekend. He also has to give approval verbally to change that, but that too is ok. I figured as much but I tried anyway. They will talk to me about most anything or used to, now sounds like they need permission of the account holder.
I still have to change the bene on stock and I bonds after that one. I sure hope we are doing the right thing.
If I don't get over being so tired I'm not going to be able to keep at it here and I sure need to. I think carrying this stuff upstairs is what is getting me. Taking off a day or two will help.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 25, 2024 19:48:58 GMT -5
I overdid it at the gym yesterday and my body is sore today. I wasn't going to go to boxing tonight, but went anyway. Now I'm done for the week. Oh and now that my body is all nice and sore, I shut my finger in the door and now it's throbbing. I'm over today.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Apr 25, 2024 19:50:47 GMT -5
I loaned DH some of my IcyHot gel to try and he found it helpful (leftover knee pain from jumping rope on concrete floor again) so after breakfast we stopped at CVS. They didn't have my kind (2.5% menthol, vanishing scent gel) but he got a tube of 4% lidocaine, 1% menthol cream. I ordered a couple of tubes of my stuff from Amazon when we got home. For those of us who don't take oral pain killers like Tylenol or Aleve, it's surprisingly effective. Author came by with a DVD player as expected and we'll try to set it up this weekend. He also brought about 8 handwritten chapters. Two were new material which I typed up, printed out and attached a note on where I recommended he insert them in the finished book. The rest already appear in the book in one place or another, but his memory is such that he can't see that so I typed them up AGAIN, printed out the chapters where the material already appears, highlighted those passages and fastened new and old versions together which my recommendation. It's so hard to see him struggle in that way. IcyHot is magical. glad you found more. Several years ago, I aggravated my wonky shoulder doing a normal part of my job at work. I went to an orthopedist on workman’s comp. He gave me a cream that was awesome. I had several large tubes of it. After I stopped seeing him, I Googled it and was shocked to learn that you can’t get a prescription for it, it was only available through an orthopedist on workman’s comp claims. I’d never heard of such. I had a coworker that was a runner and had issues with her knees. I gave her some of the cream and she said it worked miracles for her knees. She’d used IcyHot before, but said the cream I gave her worked a lot better for her. A year or so later she asked me “do you have any more of that creamy crack?” I was like WHAT?! Then she told me she meant the cream for her knees lol. I guess all I heard was “crack” and was looking at her crazy. I had to laugh at myself because of the way I reacted. I just went to see what the name of it is before I hit “Post”, it’s LidoPro. Idk if it is more easily obtained now. I have part of one tube left. Even though it’s old as hell, Mister has used it on his knees as recently as a couple of weeks ago and it has helped when nothing else he tried worked.
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toomuchreality
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Post by toomuchreality on Apr 25, 2024 19:52:18 GMT -5
I just got home from work, and I now have new stucco on two sides of my house. I love it! Nice! I'm glad you like it.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 25, 2024 19:56:38 GMT -5
I was just reading through my Will, damn, I understand some but not all.
I found nothing about a trust not being established if DD was over 65 at time of my death. I need to propose that question to the attorney. That would be at my age 90. I wonder if I will make it to 90, still its a good question.
These things sure leave our money basically in the hands of our son than his wife, makes me a bit nervous, but the alternative is you would lose it anyway.
I am drowning in paperwork. I tried changing the bene on hubs 401k, and I knew I had to sign off on paperwork. It said you had to do it within 60 days of the change, but it did not retain the change. But then maybe it timed out, I will try it again this weekend. He also has to give approval verbally to change that, but that too is ok. I figured as much but I tried anyway. They will talk to me about most anything or used to, now sounds like they need permission of the account holder.
I still have to change the bene on stock and I bonds after that one. I sure hope we are doing the right thing.
If I don't get over being so tired I'm not going to be able to keep at it here and I sure need to. I think carrying this stuff upstairs is what is getting me. Taking off a day or two will help.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Apr 25, 2024 20:07:49 GMT -5
IcyHot is magical. glad you found more. Several years ago, I aggravated my wonky shoulder doing a normal part of my job at work. I went to an orthopedist on workman’s comp. He gave me a cream that was awesome. I had several large tubes of it. After I stopped seeing him, I Googled it and was shocked to learn that you can’t get a prescription for it, it was only available through an orthopedist on workman’s comp claims. I’d never heard of such. I had a coworker that was a runner and had issues with her knees. I gave her some of the cream and she said it worked miracles for her knees. She’d used IcyHot before, but said the cream I gave her worked a lot better for her. A year or so later she asked me “do you have any more of that creamy crack?” I was like WHAT?! Then she told me she meant the cream for her knees lol. I guess all I heard was “crack” and was looking at her crazy. I had to laugh at myself because of the way I reacted. I just went to see what the name of it is before I hit “Post”, it’s LidoPro. Idk if it is more easily obtained now. I have part of one tube left. Even though it’s old as hell, Mister has used it on his knees as recently as a couple of weeks ago and it has helped when nothing else he tried worked. This is what it contains…..essentially IcyHot with aspirin. Lidocaine — Topical Anesthetic Menthol — Topical Analgesic Capsaicin — Topical Analgesic Methyl Salicylate — Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug (NSAID) Looks like it should be available OTC.
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Pink Cashmere
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Apr 25, 2024 20:15:47 GMT -5
I have been up since 4am, several hours before I had to be at work. The same thing happened yesterday morning, so I learned from yesterday and today I just got up and stayed up until it was time to go to work. And I still clocked in late at work, because the stupid gate to get on the parking lot won’t open with my badge. Which has been an ongoing problem since they started trying to use the damn gates about a month ago. Until last week, nobody’s badges worked. I told my supervisor yesterday that my badge still didn’t work. He already knew, because I called every number I could think of inside the building, until somebody finally answered one of them and I got a maintenance supervisor on the phone. She has no control over the gate, so could remotely open it for me, but she did tell my supervisor I’d called. While I was in the phone with her, somebody just happened to come outside on that end of the building, and she let me in. This morning, I still couldn’t get in, and I was so irritated that it made me late, that I told my supervisor today that I’m just not going to clock in if I’m late because I can’t get on the damn parking lot. I’m not going to try to get to work 30 minutes early or more, to wait until somebody just happens to be outside that is willing to let me in. Which they aren’t supposed to do anyway. I bypassed my supervisor and asked somebody else if they could get it fixed, she went to the top maintenance manager and he said he fixed it, but it’s not fixed because my badge didn’t work to open the gate for me to leave when I got off work today. And me being late today, led to an issue with work assignments, even though it wasn’t my fault I was late getting inside the building. That is why I said what I said to my supervisor this morning, since I was already irritated because being late counts the same as missing 3 days of work as far as attendance goes and I wouldn’t have been late if my f’ing badge worked like it’s supposed to. So even though I was actually in a good mood on the drive in to work, despite the lack of sleep, it didn’t last long. Then it got worse, because my Mom was stressing me out. How dare I have the nerve to not just be “okay”, but to finally be in a f’ing good mood for once? Sigh.
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