what are you doing right now?

[soupandstew]

Dec 21, 2023 16:05:10 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Dec 21, 2023 13:54:58 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

He needs to test again and he can do it himself.  It is not a hard test to do.  

In Toronto when we had to test with someone watching us online, we had to do it ourselves.  

It's not that hard unless he is like my dad and totally inept at anything health wise. 

By going to work, he exposes a bunch of people.

If he has it, he is still in the time frame to get drugs to help.  If he has it,  whatever Christmas plans he has with his children, should be postponed.  

I know he needs to test again. He’s only doing it in the first place because I want him to, so I doubt he’d do it himself. I’ll do it again this evening. Idk what I did wrong last night, the control part didn’t even have a color. I followed the instructions exactly, so I’m not sure where I went wrong.

If you want to, you can tell Mister I think he's a selfish *&(%@ going to work while he's sick regardless of what he has.  If's he's working a commercial job, he could be spreading his germs to workers there who might be out of PTO and end up with a reduced check for their families if they get sick.  If's he's working a residential job, he could be spreading those germs to a new mother, a senior, or an immune-compromised person.  He's not thinking about his employer, he's not thinking about his clients, he's not thinking about you - he's 100% thinking about himself. 

Okay, gingerly climbing off my soap box now (my knees are really bad today  ) 

[TheOtherMe]

Check the expiration date of the tests.  If they are the government issued ones or if you have had them a long time, they don't always work.

[chiver78]

Dec 21, 2023 15:36:39 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I have next week off and I have a whole house clean/organize project planned. I want to get every last bit of moving done. I just have a few things I've thrown in my office and ignored.

I'm going through a room per day and organizing aand cleaning it. I mean washing walls and carpets and everything. I also plan to put all the Christmas stuff away in my storage area. I'm hoping to start 2024 with a clean house. We'll see how far I get.

and when can you come back here to kick my ass into doing this? I need to sort through the stuff in the unfinished basement and better package the stuff that's just staying packed while I'm here, into rodent-proof containers as there's definitely some critters that come in during the winter.     and then once I clear out that space, I can move the boxes (that are also staying packed here) out of the basement living room . 

[andi9899]

Dec 21, 2023 16:05:10 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Dec 21, 2023 13:54:58 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

He needs to test again and he can do it himself.  It is not a hard test to do.  

In Toronto when we had to test with someone watching us online, we had to do it ourselves.  

It's not that hard unless he is like my dad and totally inept at anything health wise. 

By going to work, he exposes a bunch of people.

If he has it, he is still in the time frame to get drugs to help.  If he has it,  whatever Christmas plans he has with his children, should be postponed.  

I know he needs to test again. He’s only doing it in the first place because I want him to, so I doubt he’d do it himself. I’ll do it again this evening. Idk what I did wrong last night, the control part didn’t even have a color. I followed the instructions exactly, so I’m not sure where I went wrong.

Is it expired?

[andi9899]

Dec 21, 2023 16:20:32 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 21, 2023 15:36:39 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I have next week off and I have a whole house clean/organize project planned. I want to get every last bit of moving done. I just have a few things I've thrown in my office and ignored.

I'm going through a room per day and organizing aand cleaning it. I mean washing walls and carpets and everything. I also plan to put all the Christmas stuff away in my storage area. I'm hoping to start 2024 with a clean house. We'll see how far I get.

and when can you come back here to kick my ass into doing this? I need to sort through the stuff in the unfinished basement and better package the stuff that's just staying packed while I'm here, into rodent-proof containers as there's definitely some critters that come in during the winter.     and then once I clear out that space, I can move the boxes (that are also staying packed here) out of the basement living room . 

You lost me at critters.

[chiver78]

Dec 21, 2023 16:28:27 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dec 21, 2023 16:20:32 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

and when can you come back here to kick my ass into doing this? I need to sort through the stuff in the unfinished basement and better package the stuff that's just staying packed while I'm here, into rodent-proof containers as there's definitely some critters that come in during the winter.     and then once I clear out that space, I can move the boxes (that are also staying packed here) out of the basement living room . 

You lost me at critters.

I've never seen them, but there's droppings way in the back near the furnace on occasion. I've never found droppings in the rest of the house. 

[zibazinski]

Dec 19, 2023 21:51:50 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

My dying friend called me to say goodbye.  I am shaken to my core from that phone call.

He's quite cheerful and wanting to say goodbye with people while he can.  His voice sounded strong, but I lost it when I hung up.

He is confident and happy that he has made his decision and it's what he wants.  His daughters tried to talk him out of it because it's Christmas.  He said he told them he can't change that and he can't keep living like the way it's been most of the year.  

It's just hard.  I knew it would be hard and I'm glad that I didn't cry on the phone.

I’m so sorry. 😢

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 21, 2023 16:16:56 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Dec 21, 2023 16:05:10 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I know he needs to test again. He’s only doing it in the first place because I want him to, so I doubt he’d do it himself. I’ll do it again this evening. Idk what I did wrong last night, the control part didn’t even have a color. I followed the instructions exactly, so I’m not sure where I went wrong.

If you want to, you can tell Mister I think he's a selfish *&(%@ going to work while he's sick regardless of what he has.  If's he's working a commercial job, he could be spreading his germs to workers there who might be out of PTO and end up with a reduced check for their families if they get sick.  If's he's working a residential job, he could be spreading those germs to a new mother, a senior, or an immune-compromised person.  He's not thinking about his employer, he's not thinking about his clients, he's not thinking about you - he's 100% thinking about himself. 

Okay, gingerly climbing off my soap box now (my knees are really bad today  ) 

Trust me, I made myself very clear about all the reasons I disagreed with him going to work.

He has his own office that he doesn’t share with anyone, on a short hallway with a few other offices, with an entry/exit door to the building at the end. So he doesn’t have to walk through the building to get to his office, and the one time I went to see his new office, all the office doors were closed. The chain of command means regular employees don’t randomly come to his office, but one of his supervisors or other managers might. On a normal day, he doesn’t stay in his office all day, because he prefers to see what’s going on and check on things himself, but this morning he told me he would stay in there while he was there. And I guess he could’ve warned his supervisors and other managers to call him if they needed something, instead of coming to his office.

I’m not saying that makes it okay that he went to work, I’m just describing what…. In his mind…. probably made him think he could keep his germs contained.

[Pink Cashmere]

The test I used last night was one of the ones I received a couple of weeks ago, so it shouldn’t be expired. I must have done something wrong. I read the instructions before I even went to do the test, and read them again, at each step, as I was doing it. After about 5 minutes and the control part wasn’t even showing color, I Googled to make sure I’d put the sample in the right place. I did. So idk what I did wrong.

I will try again this evening.

[soupandstew]

Slept like a rock last night and worked on the book today.  Sushi for lunch   and DH is making supper.  I have a load of clothes in the washer and one more lined up for tomorrow, along with cleaning the bathrooms.   

[minnesotapaintlady]

Grrr...I took a half day tomorrow to drive up to get DS from school.  I wanted to do it yesterday when I was off since he was done with finals, but he still has a big project he's working on that isn't due until midnight tomorrow, so we agreed on Friday...which was still going to be kind of a PIA because it meant driving up to the cities twice in a few days (we're going up there Christmas morning).  It's a 5 hour round trip and still have Christmas prep to do.  Well today he gives me the old, "well...I'll have to work on the project in the car and bring my desktop computer home with me to finish in the evening".  I got annoyed by his obviously not wanting to get picked up yet and told him if he doesn't want to come home tomorrow, then he can take the bus home on Saturday or Sunday.  He said he can't do that because of all the stuff he needs to bring home (aka his gaming desktop I'm sure).  So, I said fine.  You can just stay up there until Christmas Day. 

Carrot is devastated.  My mom is like "WHAT?" (our family has Christmas on Christmas Eve).

I know damn well I'm going to be driving up there this weekend to get him.     I'm ready to put that one up for adoption.

[andi9899]

Dec 21, 2023 17:09:51 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Grrr...I took a half day tomorrow to drive up to get DS from school.  I wanted to do it yesterday when I was off since he was done with finals, but he still has a big project he's working on that isn't due until midnight tomorrow, so we agreed on Friday...which was still going to be kind of a PIA because it meant driving up to the cities twice in a few days (we're going up there Christmas morning).  It's a 5 hour round trip and still have Christmas prep to do.  Well today he gives me the old, "well...I'll have to work on the project in the car and bring my desktop computer home with me to finish in the evening".  I got annoyed by his obviously not wanting to get picked up yet and told him if he doesn't want to come home tomorrow, then he can take the bus home on Saturday or Sunday.  He said he can't do that because of all the stuff he needs to bring home (aka his gaming desktop I'm sure).  So, I said fine.  You can just stay up there until Christmas Day. 

Carrot is devastated.  My mom is like "WHAT?" (our family has Christmas on Christmas Eve).

I know damn well I'm going to be driving up there this weekend to get him.     I'm ready to put that one up for adoption.

Aren't your parents retired? Have them do it and get the hours at work. He's messing with your money.

ETA: I'm glad I'm not the only one giving up adult children for adoption. Hell, I may just throw in the twins. I just spent $100 on a bag of dog food, prebiotics, and a brush for them. They went and got old and got expensive.

[MarionTh230]

Last trays of gingerbread cookies just came out of the oven. They are yummy. We taste tested the first tray once they cooled. I have never used this recipe or even made any kind of gingerbread before. I also do not use molasses. I was unsure of the flavor when I tasted the dough, but the flavors really did cook up wonderfully. 

I still have icing so I will fill a new (clean!) piping bag to put faces and cuffs on them later tonight. We won't do full on decorating just a few basic lines per cookie to make them look cute. It'll be quick and I will be able to keep Kiddo's fingers out of the decorating this time around.

DH actually did 75% of the cur out sugar cookie decorating with Kiddo. They had a blast. Normally we do the sugar cookies when DH is at work. Cause retail at the holidays means he would work crazy hours and I would be home alone with Kiddo trying to keep her occupied. It was nice to watch them together.

We have had music playing in the kitchen all day. I have playlists that cater to both Kiddo and DH. We have been switching back and forth between everyone's favorite songs and dancing and singing to the cat all day. I'm about to start dinner and we will watch football this evening. 

It has really been a fun day. I feel bad sometimes talking nonstop about how much fun and less stress the holidays are for us this year because I know other folks are having a bumpy time. But with DH around this year it is just such a different dynamic and I truly am enjoying it. I feel very lucky this year.

[jerseygirl]

Marion and gira I’m loving reading about the fun times you’re having!!
I know it’s not easy to raise children but so nice that you’re taking time to enjoy this time with them

[Opti]

Dec 21, 2023 13:59:06 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I told a friend about our boss and that he is going to hospice.  She's never known anyone close to her who has used hospice.  Why is he doing that.  Can't he just go on the way he has been.  

I can't explain it all to her.  It hurts too much.

I wish she could understand his pain.  

I gave her his address at her request.  She gave me a message for him for when I talk to him.  I told her for the last year, the rules have changed and he calls me.  I don't call him.  That is his request and I have honored.

I know its very hard, but TY for honoring his request. I'm sure it gives your boss some ease that you are letting it be his show.

[daisylu]

Dec 21, 2023 18:42:23 GMT -5 MarionTh230 said:

Last trays of gingerbread cookies just came out of the oven. They are yummy. We taste tested the first tray once they cooled. I have never used this recipe or even made any kind of gingerbread before. I also do not use molasses. I was unsure of the flavor when I tasted the dough, but the flavors really did cook up wonderfully. 

I still have icing so I will fill a new (clean!) piping bag to put faces and cuffs on them later tonight. We won't do full on decorating just a few basic lines per cookie to make them look cute. It'll be quick and I will be able to keep Kiddo's fingers out of the decorating this time around.

DH actually did 75% of the cur out sugar cookie decorating with Kiddo. They had a blast. Normally we do the sugar cookies when DH is at work. Cause retail at the holidays means he would work crazy hours and I would be home alone with Kiddo trying to keep her occupied. It was nice to watch them together.

We have had music playing in the kitchen all day. I have playlists that cater to both Kiddo and DH. We have been switching back and forth between everyone's favorite songs and dancing and singing to the cat all day. I'm about to start dinner and we will watch football this evening. 

It has really been a fun day. I feel bad sometimes talking nonstop about how much fun and less stress the holidays are for us this year because I know other folks are having a bumpy time. But with DH around this year it is just such a different dynamic and I truly am enjoying it. I feel very lucky this year.

You've rarely gotten times like this with your DH's schedule in the past.  I am happy for you and enjoy hearing about it.  ❤️

[Opti]

Dec 21, 2023 9:47:30 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Trying to figure out if my dream about a Sailor Moon, Inuyasha, Rugrats crossover is brilliant or an abomination.

Also that will teach me to eat 3/4 of a loaf of garlic bread before bedtime.

Sounds interesting, are you going to share?

[daisylu]

Not really interested in tonight's NFL, but will turn it on anyway.  There aren't many games left this season. 

[notagain]

Daisy's I'm with you. Love me my football, but tonight's game is on a channel I don't get

[MarionTh230]

Dec 21, 2023 19:21:07 GMT -5 notagain said:

Daisy's I'm with you. Love me my football, but tonight's game is on a channel I don't get

Do you have Amazon Prime? I haven't checked the channels yet, I just assumed we would have to watch it on Prime. 

We are football people. On Sundays football is on the TV even if it is just background noise. On Monday nights we do the same. Thursday nights are tricky because of Kiddo's extra curricular activities so we usually miss the Thursday night game. Martial arts studio is open tonight, the last set of classes until the New Year, but we decided over the weekend not to take Kiddo tonight because we'd be doing cookie things. Which also means we are around to watch football tonight!

[Pink Cashmere]

I just went to try to do the COVID test again, and Mister was already crabby because he just wants to go to sleep, before I even told him what I wanted. I’m not going to fight with him for him to do the COVID test. As long as he continues to stay in the other bedroom and away from me, whatever. I know that there are meds to help with COVID and even the flu, if it’s caught early, but if he doesn’t care about that, whatever again. I have learned that it is pointless and harmful to me, to care more about people than they care about themselves. 

My family already know they can’t come over for Christmas, I’m not willing to take that risk, with whatever Mister has. If he is willing to expose his children to whatever he has, that’s on him and I’m not going to fight about it. I’ve already fought enough with him and his daughters about COVID, because I was always more concerned about it than any of them. They can all take care of each other if they all get sick, or just be miserable, idc. Just stay tf away from me. Kiddo and his Mom just had COVID a few weeks ago, so hopefully if that’s what Mister has, if Kiddo comes over for Christmas, he has immunity. But if it’s something besides COVID, Kiddo will probably be vulnerable. The only thing I can see to do, is try to make sure Kiddo’s Mom knows Mister is sick, and hope she has enough sense to make good decisions regarding Kiddo. 

I am beyond tired of fighting about trying to do what I think is right. So imma just try to protect me, and I feel like I am doing what I can to protect my own family members by telling them they can’t come over because idk wtf is wrong with Mister, I just know it is bad. 

[TheOtherMe]

Dec 21, 2023 18:57:10 GMT -5 Opti said:

Dec 21, 2023 13:59:06 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I told a friend about our boss and that he is going to hospice.  She's never known anyone close to her who has used hospice.  Why is he doing that.  Can't he just go on the way he has been.  

I can't explain it all to her.  It hurts too much.

I wish she could understand his pain.  

I gave her his address at her request.  She gave me a message for him for when I talk to him.  I told her for the last year, the rules have changed and he calls me.  I don't call him.  That is his request and I have honored.

I know its very hard, but TY for honoring his request. I'm sure it gives your boss some ease that you are letting it be his show.

In my mind, he knows when he feels like talking.  He knows when he feels too sick to talk.  Why would I disrespect his wishes?  

He has had a horrible year health wise and it's been so hard not being able to pick up the phone and call him.  Once he got so sick, there was no way I was going to call him after he told me it would be best if he called me when he was able to talk.

[MarionTh230]

Dec 21, 2023 18:55:41 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Marion and gira I’m loving reading about the fun times you’re having!!
I know it’s not easy to raise children but so nice that you’re taking time to enjoy this time with them

It is hard nowadays keeping them away from screens. Because it is not just TV screens like when I was a kid. Sometimes our crafts are nothing more than a Pinterest fail. Sometimes our baking is a new recipe that doesn't taste good at all. But, if I can get her away from a screen I'm going to at least try. If we end up with a nice craft or yummy treat to eat afterwards I just consider it a bonus!

Being in the south means we also do outside activities in the winter. Because Summer is just evil some years and a lot of the winter is actually on the mild side. In fact, DH and I have planned for tomorrow to be an outside day. I have some gardening I want to do and Kiddo needs to work on riding a bike. She has struggled since we have taken the training wheels off, but it was just too gross during the summer to work on bike riding.

She is also at an age where she still likes me. That will NOT last forever. At some point she will become a moody preteen/teen and everything I do will be ruining her life. I kinda figure I need these sweet memories to hang on to to get me through the rough years ahead!

I'm also hoping jerseyguy does well with his recovery. I am thinking of you both as you navigate this health issue 

[MarionTh230]

Dec 21, 2023 18:58:29 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Dec 21, 2023 18:42:23 GMT -5 MarionTh230 said:

Last trays of gingerbread cookies just came out of the oven. They are yummy. We taste tested the first tray once they cooled. I have never used this recipe or even made any kind of gingerbread before. I also do not use molasses. I was unsure of the flavor when I tasted the dough, but the flavors really did cook up wonderfully. 

I still have icing so I will fill a new (clean!) piping bag to put faces and cuffs on them later tonight. We won't do full on decorating just a few basic lines per cookie to make them look cute. It'll be quick and I will be able to keep Kiddo's fingers out of the decorating this time around.

DH actually did 75% of the cur out sugar cookie decorating with Kiddo. They had a blast. Normally we do the sugar cookies when DH is at work. Cause retail at the holidays means he would work crazy hours and I would be home alone with Kiddo trying to keep her occupied. It was nice to watch them together.

We have had music playing in the kitchen all day. I have playlists that cater to both Kiddo and DH. We have been switching back and forth between everyone's favorite songs and dancing and singing to the cat all day. I'm about to start dinner and we will watch football this evening. 

It has really been a fun day. I feel bad sometimes talking nonstop about how much fun and less stress the holidays are for us this year because I know other folks are having a bumpy time. But with DH around this year it is just such a different dynamic and I truly am enjoying it. I feel very lucky this year.

You've rarely gotten times like this with your DH's schedule in the past.  I am happy for you and enjoy hearing about it.  ❤️

I never really realized how burdensome his job/work schedule was until now. He was working retail when we met. It has just always been this way. Move events or celebrations around depending on his schedule. Do the best we can with whatever days he had to work. And we have done it every year with little complaint and a big heaping of acceptance. 

But now? With a kid who is so engaged at this age? With him here it is a total game changer. Quality of life is so much better. It has been so eye opening for both of us.

I also still really like the dude. Most days anyways   Which means it is usually nice having him around. 

You are a kind friend to listen my blubbering and enjoy it! 

[busymom]

I never did report back here about the meeting I went to last night.  They're replacing portions of the sidewalk & curbs in our neighborhood next year.  Unfortunately, this means we'll be getting hit up with assessment fees.  Our share could come to a bit over $4,000.  It could be worse, I suppose.  My parents owned a corner lot in the city, so they really got burned when the city was replacing sidewalks & street there.  

[chiver78]

Dec 21, 2023 20:18:52 GMT -5 busymom said:

I never did report back here about the meeting I went to last night.  They're replacing portions of the sidewalk & curbs in our neighborhood next year.  Unfortunately, this means we'll be getting hit up with assessment fees.  Our share could come to a bit over $4,000.  It could be worse, I suppose.  My parents owned a corner lot in the city, so they really got burned when the city was replacing sidewalks & street there.  

wait, what? 🤯 here, your property stops at the sidewalk. if the town/city decides to repair or replace, it's on them, not the homeowners

[flamingo]

My anxiety is in overdrive for some reason. I’m really trying not to let it affect me, but the amount of second/third/fourth guessing my brain is doing over DUMB work shit (ie, things that aren’t even really important) is going to kill me. I am so so glad tomorrow is going to be an easy, relatively quiet day and I’ll be logging off at 2. Clearly I need a long weekend!

[soupandstew]

Dec 21, 2023 20:23:29 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 21, 2023 20:18:52 GMT -5 busymom said:

I never did report back here about the meeting I went to last night.  They're replacing portions of the sidewalk & curbs in our neighborhood next year.  Unfortunately, this means we'll be getting hit up with assessment fees.  Our share could come to a bit over $4,000.  It could be worse, I suppose.  My parents owned a corner lot in the city, so they really got burned when the city was replacing sidewalks & street there.  

wait, what? 🤯 here, your property stops at the sidewalk. if the town/city decides to repair or replace, it's on them, not the homeowners

Here our property line extends past the public sidewalk and we are responsible for repairing and replacing the sidewalks.  Yeah, fun stuff

[busymom]

Dec 21, 2023 20:23:29 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 21, 2023 20:18:52 GMT -5 busymom said:

I never did report back here about the meeting I went to last night.  They're replacing portions of the sidewalk & curbs in our neighborhood next year.  Unfortunately, this means we'll be getting hit up with assessment fees.  Our share could come to a bit over $4,000.  It could be worse, I suppose.  My parents owned a corner lot in the city, so they really got burned when the city was replacing sidewalks & street there.  

wait, what? 🤯 here, your property stops at the sidewalk. if the town/city decides to repair or replace, it's on them, not the homeowners

     I wish.  It's in the "rulebook" here that the homeowner is on the hook for between 25-35% of the cost.  They claim they don't have the money to do complete infrastructure replacements, so here we are...    

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nothing quite as satisfying as kicking your daughter's butt after she boasts she can pin you.