what are you doing right now?

[soupandstew]

I was pleasantly surprised tonight that DH went a little bit outside his comfort zone in preparing the trout.  We have about every spice known to humankind and yet we both get stuck sometimes in our cooking routine.  He decided to ask Siri about spicing for steelhead trout and came up with roasted garlic powder, parsley, and smoked paprika.  It was super good and I applaud his initiative.  And he recognized how salt sensitive I am and put out my unsalted butter for the cauliflower 

[Cookies Galore]

Dec 14, 2023 19:23:00 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

I was pleasantly surprised tonight that DH went a little bit outside his comfort zone in preparing the trout.  We have about every spice known to humankind and yet we both get stuck sometimes in our cooking routine.  He decided to ask Siri about spicing for steelhead trout and came up with roasted garlic powder, parsley, and smoked paprika.  It was super good and I applaud his initiative.  And he recognized how salt sensitive I am and put out my unsalted butter for the cauliflower 

If I had my way, smoked paprika would go on everything.

[Cookies Galore]

Dec 14, 2023 12:23:44 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Note to self - no more mid day flights out of Logan.

Ooh what time was your flight? I have a 12:30 from Logan tomorrow.

[soupandstew]

Dec 14, 2023 19:26:39 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Dec 14, 2023 19:23:00 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

I was pleasantly surprised tonight that DH went a little bit outside his comfort zone in preparing the trout.  We have about every spice known to humankind and yet we both get stuck sometimes in our cooking routine.  He decided to ask Siri about spicing for steelhead trout and came up with roasted garlic powder, parsley, and smoked paprika.  It was super good and I applaud his initiative.  And he recognized how salt sensitive I am and put out my unsalted butter for the cauliflower 

If I had my way, smoked paprika would go on everything.

Both regular and smoked paprika are staples at our house.  The smell of smoked paprika is like perfume to me.  One of my most vivid travel memories is from our trip to Hungary where we saw and smelled miles of paprika peppers drying in the sun-truly unforgettable.  It's an undervalued spice.  My favorite rub for pork is brown sugar, onion powder, garlic powder, cumin, smoked paprika, salt and pepper.  

[busymom]

Some men Pink Cashmere, are a bit "thick" in understanding why you do, or cannot do something.  If you haven't mentioned it to him recently (my DH forgets things I tell him, more often than I'd care to admit), tell him "I cannot get to the freezer in the storage room until you clear a path big enough to walk through."  If you've told him this recently, and he's STILL tuning out what you need, then unfortunately there's a problem, and he is the problem.  So sorry you're dealing with all of this.  

[raeoflyte]

No cookies have been made. I cleaned the kitchen yesterday but haven't gotten through dishes today so the kitchen is a wreck again. All 3 jobs, kid drop off/pick up, plus a kid performance in 1 day is too much. I've managed making dinner each night only by employing ds help. I have a lot of pet sitting through the end of the month but will reevaluate at the start of the new year.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

It's Thursday, I think. 
I've had two 13 hour days and two 10 hour days. 
Tomorrow is the last day before winter break. 
I'm having wine. 

[snapdragon]

Still hunting for missing things that I know I have here, but they are hiding from me. I feel as though I need to do a polar expedition around my house to find missing/misplaced/lost items. 

[Artemis Windsong]

Snapdragon, Ask St. Anthony to help you find lost items.  Someone posted exactly how to ask but I just ask straight out.  I searched and found 6 but didn't read them.

[jerseygirl]

Jerseyguy still in waiting area for surgery -10 pm

DD and I were with him till 5:00 with him he was moved back due to an emergency. Poor guy hasn’t eaten anything since breakfast yesterday
Will see him tomorrow. Making blueberry pancakes so will bring some for him tomorrow. Too bad housekeeper not with us. Would bring some of her fabulous soup.
Been a looong day, hoping tomorrow is better

[toomuchreality]

Dec 14, 2023 17:39:13 GMT -5 Opti said:

Dec 14, 2023 17:36:10 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

I think I feel lots better than some of the other people on here. I just wish whoever is hitting me in the head with an axe, would stop. Every time I cough, it feels like they whack me.

So far, I'm hanging in there still.

IDK. I have issues, but no invisible axe murderer is practicing on my head. Just saying. 

Good point! I'm pretty sure someone keeps putting me in a freezer. (NNP🤔)
I need another nap now.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Dec 14, 2023 19:01:02 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I asked Mister an hour or so ago what he thought we’d have for dinner. He went on a tangent about how he has to be true to himself, and I was home all day today, so did it not occur to me to make plans for dinner.

Actually, it did occur to me, and my option was takeout from a specific restaurant. I know there is frozen food in the chest freezer in the storage room, but there’s not anything to make a meal with in the freezer in the kitchen. I’ve made it clear that I’m not fooling with the freezer in the storage room anymore, because I literally have to climb over a bunch of shit to even get to the freezer. I am NOT exaggerating about having to climb over shit. The storage room is very small, and there is a recliner from his parents’ house in there, the bags of stuff he brought home that was in his Mom’s hospital room when she passed, 2 lawn mowers, other lawn equipment, his HVAC shit, and just a lot of random shit in there. And the freezer is on the back wall, with no path to get to it, because of all the shit that’s on the floor and stacked up. 

When I spent all that money on the shelving system for the garage, it was to try to organize shit in the garage and what he had stored in the storage room, but all it really did was give him more room to pile even more shit in the garage and storage room. 

So NO, I don’t fool with the freezer in the storage room to try to find something to cook, because I can’t even get to it. Clear a path to it, and I will! 

It makes me SO mad that he tries to judge me for shit he feels like I should do, but don’t, and doesn’t acknowledge the part he plays in WHY I don’t do those things. 

I am not arguing with him about shit anymore. As far as dinner for tonight goes, I told him to pick something from the restaurant I’d chosen to order from. He did, then sent me money through Apple Pay, to pay for it. Part of me wanted to make the point that I don’t need his fucking money for me to eat, but another part of me said don’t be a damn fool, if he is willing to pay for it, let him. 

UGHHHHHH!

Yes, TD has done this to me more than once.  What I ask him to do is to go get xxxx out of either the freezer, or the shelves in the garage that are blocked by his shit.  Eureka!  A path is made!  

[Opti]

Dec 14, 2023 19:01:02 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I asked Mister an hour or so ago what he thought we’d have for dinner. He went on a tangent about how he has to be true to himself, and I was home all day today, so did it not occur to me to make plans for dinner.

Actually, it did occur to me, and my option was takeout from a specific restaurant. I know there is frozen food in the chest freezer in the storage room, but there’s not anything to make a meal with in the freezer in the kitchen. I’ve made it clear that I’m not fooling with the freezer in the storage room anymore, because I literally have to climb over a bunch of shit to even get to the freezer. I am NOT exaggerating about having to climb over shit. The storage room is very small, and there is a recliner from his parents’ house in there, the bags of stuff he brought home that was in his Mom’s hospital room when she passed, 2 lawn mowers, other lawn equipment, his HVAC shit, and just a lot of random shit in there. And the freezer is on the back wall, with no path to get to it, because of all the shit that’s on the floor and stacked up. 

When I spent all that money on the shelving system for the garage, it was to try to organize shit in the garage and what he had stored in the storage room, but all it really did was give him more room to pile even more shit in the garage and storage room. 

So NO, I don’t fool with the freezer in the storage room to try to find something to cook, because I can’t even get to it. Clear a path to it, and I will! 

It makes me SO mad that he tries to judge me for shit he feels like I should do, but don’t, and doesn’t acknowledge the part he plays in WHY I don’t do those things. 

I am not arguing with him about shit anymore. As far as dinner for tonight goes, I told him to pick something from the restaurant I’d chosen to order from. He did, then sent me money through Apple Pay, to pay for it. Part of me wanted to make the point that I don’t need his fucking money for me to eat, but another part of me said don’t be a damn fool, if he is willing to pay for it, let him. 

UGHHHHHH!

Pink, men generally have one track minds, in that they can only think one thought or do one thing at a time. As women, it feels weird to have that kind of focus where you aren't thinking about two or more things at once. I think sometimes when men are thinking out loud in our presence, they are in a selfish unaware mode. I have been talking to G more often, almost daily while trying to figure out how to let go of the BMW in the real world etc. One time I said something about how hard it was because my one sinus wasn't draining, and I could not get to sleep. And being a man who apparently has no trouble ever falling asleep, he said well then just go to sleep. So, since I was under my 4 hours of needed sleep, I kind a snapped. I said it does not work that way. It has never worked that way for me. When it gets bad enough, my body goes into alarm mode, and it basically does not turn off until the problem is corrected. Even if my brain is aware this is a multi-day fix minimum, the body firemen are sounding alarms etc. 


Did not say that last bit out loud, but he did say oh. Like it never occurred to him that when people or I want to sleep but can't, it might not be as simple as just go to sleep. 

[weltz]

Poor Sushi!  When I got him 12 years ago, I used to write about his antics on this very board. Playing Ninja, stealing sausages from the frying pan and hiding them, escaping and bouncing around the neighbourhood, racing around the house like a maniac.
Now he's 'sundowning' like an Alzheimer's patient, wandering from room to room, lost and crying.
Sucks.
I'm not much better.
Maybe I should try to draw a picture of a clock......

[busymom]

Dec 14, 2023 23:14:00 GMT -5 Opti said:

Dec 14, 2023 19:01:02 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I asked Mister an hour or so ago what he thought we’d have for dinner. He went on a tangent about how he has to be true to himself, and I was home all day today, so did it not occur to me to make plans for dinner.

Actually, it did occur to me, and my option was takeout from a specific restaurant. I know there is frozen food in the chest freezer in the storage room, but there’s not anything to make a meal with in the freezer in the kitchen. I’ve made it clear that I’m not fooling with the freezer in the storage room anymore, because I literally have to climb over a bunch of shit to even get to the freezer. I am NOT exaggerating about having to climb over shit. The storage room is very small, and there is a recliner from his parents’ house in there, the bags of stuff he brought home that was in his Mom’s hospital room when she passed, 2 lawn mowers, other lawn equipment, his HVAC shit, and just a lot of random shit in there. And the freezer is on the back wall, with no path to get to it, because of all the shit that’s on the floor and stacked up. 

When I spent all that money on the shelving system for the garage, it was to try to organize shit in the garage and what he had stored in the storage room, but all it really did was give him more room to pile even more shit in the garage and storage room. 

So NO, I don’t fool with the freezer in the storage room to try to find something to cook, because I can’t even get to it. Clear a path to it, and I will! 

It makes me SO mad that he tries to judge me for shit he feels like I should do, but don’t, and doesn’t acknowledge the part he plays in WHY I don’t do those things. 

I am not arguing with him about shit anymore. As far as dinner for tonight goes, I told him to pick something from the restaurant I’d chosen to order from. He did, then sent me money through Apple Pay, to pay for it. Part of me wanted to make the point that I don’t need his fucking money for me to eat, but another part of me said don’t be a damn fool, if he is willing to pay for it, let him. 

UGHHHHHH!

Pink, men generally have one track minds, in that they can only think one thought or do one thing at a time. As women, it feels weird to have that kind of focus where you aren't thinking about two or more things at once. I think sometimes when men are thinking out loud in our presence, they are in a selfish unaware mode. I have been talking to G more often, almost daily while trying to figure out how to let go of the BMW in the real world etc. One time I said something about how hard it was because my one sinus wasn't draining, and I could not get to sleep. And being a man who apparently has no trouble ever falling asleep, he said well then just go to sleep. So, since I was under my 4 hours of needed sleep, I kind a snapped. I said it does not work that way. It has never worked that way for me. When it gets bad enough, my body goes into alarm mode, and it basically does not turn off until the problem is corrected. Even if my brain is aware this is a multi-day fix minimum, the body firemen are sounding alarms etc. 


Did not say that last bit out loud, but he did say oh. Like it never occurred to him that when people or I want to sleep but can't, it might not be as simple as just go to sleep. 

      My brain works like a computer.  I've got anywhere from 10 to 30 tabs open at one time, and they're all working on different searches.  And I can't go to sleep until I've solved the problem in each tab.  No wonder I can't fall asleep until after midnight.  

[countrygirl2]

Grandson went to a piano lesson after school. He wants to go. The lady plays in the symphony up here is what I was told and apparently does lessons. This time was no charge I guess, likely to see if he has potential. Well, he learned all the keyboard, he was naming them all back to me. The teacher asked if he knew them already and he said no. Apparently she was impressed, DIL said he was even able to play a simple song. I said how did you learn that, from utube? He said no, she told me the names and places and now I know them.  DIL said they haven't discussed the fee yet but she thinks it will be expensive. I know son won't care if he takes to it and enjoys it. He is fortunate he has parents who are interested and have the finances to let him try things. I hope he succeeds, I always wanted to take lessons. I could play some by ear, but very limited. Son played clarinet in band and can play a guitar.

I asked him what he did in school today, he said they were teaching some concepts in math, kind of sounds like math for pre algebra. I said so you learned something, he said no grandma I already know that. I said ok, you may but listen anyway they may teach you something you don't know already. Again I think part of the issue is boredom. Each time I talk to him I ask him how it went today, so far this week no issues. I told him after he comes back from Russia maybe we can find some science class he can go to since he loves science and math. I said college might teach them and you can go and listen, he said but don't I have to go to college first, I said why, you might learn something now.

Than we had a discussion about N Korea, he wanted to know about all their weapons, we got into talking about how people there are starving to death and some are committing suicide as families rather than live like that. He knew that was happening too. And he wants to know why people are treated that way, so we get into some of that. I'm honestly worried about him going to Russia, he questions everything as he should, but not there.  He is like his dad was. I never had to teach him, he just knew.

And of course we had some discussion about Gaza and Israel but not much. He said this was the last day of Hanukkah, I have no idea will have to look it up. I enjoy talking to him, and he absorbs things faster than I can explain.

His mom let him eat here, I made a pizza from scratch and we had salad and she let him have a soda, I was going to have water. So again mixed messages. She said he was bouncing around later after the soda, he was before that, if she didn't notice.  But he was plain tired, I saw him rubbing his eyes.  She said he needed to be in bed by 9 and it was after 8 so He needed to get his bath and bed. Sent the rest of the pizza home for son and they left. He and I enjoy talking to each other. Such a bright little boy and so interested. He and I talk about anything and everything. I was that way too as a child, had so many questions but few people to talk to for the answers. 

[countrygirl2]

I used to do that. Stuff from work would run through my head half the night. If I could sleep on it many times the next morning I woke up with the answer even though I was pooped out from not getting enough sleep.

Last night I was watching TV and saw 2 different good movies. Ended up going to sleep about 3 or so. I just couldn't go to sleep last night. I'm sure the events of yesterday had upset me and kept me awake, first time in some time.

I also thought today was Friday, just don't keep track of the days very well. Need to do better one of these days I will need to tell a doc the year, day of the month, can I draw a clock and can I remember certain numbers.  Today I was forgetting and losing all kinds of stuff. Jeez!

We are all going to go see the new Willie Wanka movie too, DD will love that. I made her get out and go with me today also, she has been out more in the last week than she has in months at home.

[finnime]

Good morning, caring invisipeeps, patiently untying knots in your lives. Welcome to Friday. I hope your day offers help for the concerns vexing you, whether health, work, SO's or other people, and that you are able to enjoy some part of the day unburdened. And, that there's ice cream. Or eggnog. Or other stuff to savor. I do hope light shines on you in your struggles and eases your burdens.

Today I'll do the things I'd planned yesterday, I swear. And add writing and mailing holiday cards. DH had pics of Franklin the Dog printed, using ones I'd taken a few days ago, in his bow tie. He looks like a caring professor to me. These will go into the cards.

Yesterday didn't go exactly as I'd planned, so no cookies yet. We did get to a neighboring town to get some photographs of the decorated lighthouse in the dusk. DH is experimenting with his camera, changing settings under various light conditions. And I resorted the photos on my web site, adding a few from this month. So my house is still dirty, but the Christmas tree lights shine in the corner. I added bows to the greenery DSis brought out front. It looks festive. Need to get some cash for holiday cards for the transh pick up crew, the mail carrier, the hairdresser and the handyman.

I keep hearing the poet at Biden's inauguration reciting, ". . . if only we could see the light; if only we could be the light."

I did get to the beach for a perfectly pastel sunrise:

[daisylu]

Dec 14, 2023 19:30:03 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Dec 14, 2023 12:23:44 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Note to self - no more mid day flights out of Logan.

Ooh what time was your flight? I have a 12:30 from Logan tomorrow.

1:45. I was at the airport around 11, for other reasons.

[NoNamePerson]

Dec 14, 2023 22:18:04 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Dec 14, 2023 17:39:13 GMT -5 Opti said:

IDK. I have issues, but no invisible axe murderer is practicing on my head. Just saying. 

Good point! I'm pretty sure someone keeps putting me in a freezer. (NNP🤔)
I need another nap now.

Noooo. If you were in freezer you wouldn’t be needing a nap!  Take care. 

[raeoflyte]

Up early to try to get a jump on today. Repeat of yesterday with an added meet and greet for a new pet sitting client, and today's performance is DC piano recital.

Ds orchestra and band concert last night was amazing. I really couldn't believe these were high schoolers and outside of possibly 1 of the jazz bands it didn't look like any of the groups were audition only groups. Really neat to see what the band director has done there.

[giramomma]

Well, this is really not a good time to start feeling blue. I don't know if it's hormone related or what.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I got invited to go to happy hour with some of my coworkers.

It was nice to be invited but I've used up all my spoons not crying or rage quitting this week.

DH thinks it would be good and healthy for me to interact with other humans.

I want to be a bitter gremlin and stalk the holiday section at my favorite thrift store instead.

I just can't...I'm so livid about that meeting and she had nothing to back up all the shit she was saying about me.

We'll see if I get blocked from the three internal jobs then go from there. I'll likely start branching out using the advice the career coach gave me.

Ugh. Moving doesn't bother me it's been that way since I started working. It's just dumb. I don't expect to stay till I get a gold watch but I'd at least like to not work for sociopaths for awhile. I haven't had that since I left academics.

Corporate is better my ass. Old YM was full of it.

[gs11rmb]

Dec 14, 2023 16:30:21 GMT -5 Opti said:

Weird weather conditions going on here. Had to kick and curse my front door to get out.

Best wishes for Jersey guy (will need to read later)


Glad it is getting dark so I can rest a little. Realized I hadn't shared financing plans about the new to me car, and that might or might not change people's opinions. I will have to release the dead carcass of my  BMW to whomever by the end of this year. Yesterday I did find out the process, which includes filling out a form without having my plates in hand, to basically make them null and void. The usual 6 points of ID and appointments suggested. I have yet to schedule my tooth extraction or even speak to an oral surgeon. (Yay holidays). But I will get one of the composite fillings fixed b4 Sunday.

Since my claim won't be settled AND I am working without pay in order to not get fired ... and hopefully keep my income stream into 2024. I may no longer have a down payment for whatever car I buy. I do plan to use the max 6 yr financing for underfunded people for used cars, as I will need it. I hope I will pay it off b4 then, but need to prepare for if that does not happen ... so no crazy balloon payments for me.

I had been hoping to put about $2K down and finance the rest over 6 years. Unless AAA claims feels the Christmas spirit bigly, whatever settlement I get will probably buy half a used car. So it better last more than a couple years. I would like it to last more than the 6 years of small payments. And six years is a long time to drive something I don't like. YMMV. 

What do you mean you're working without pay to not get fired?  That's illegal.

[giramomma]

Dec 15, 2023 8:19:23 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I got invited to go to happy hour with some of my coworkers.

It was nice to be invited but I've used up all my spoons not crying or rage quitting this week.

DH thinks it would be good and healthy for me to interact with other humans.

I want to be a bitter gremlin and stalk the holiday section at my favorite thrift store instead.

I just can't...I'm so livid about that meeting and she had nothing to back up all the shit she was saying about me.

We'll see if I get blocked from the three internal jobs then go from there. I'll likely start branching out using the advice the career coach gave me.

Ugh. Moving doesn't bother me it's been that way since I started working. It's just dumb. I don't expect to stay till I get a gold watch but I'd at least like to not work for sociopaths for awhile. I haven't had that since I left academics.

Corporate is better my ass. Old YM was full of it.

Maybe it's part of a larger cultural shift that as a society, we do what's best and easiest for us as individuals.

When I was chatting with the older ladies we were reflecting that work used to have a different culture. I was old enough and lucky enough to see some of that. Where, you know, you were really a work family.

Somehow, the needle moved way the other way, and we are -what I consider- to self serving.

Not to say you need to be selfless.

I think people don't think about the greater good, and what it means to be a part of it anymore.

It's I got mine? F*ck you.

I didn't get mine? F*ck you.

One of my mentors is close to 90, and grew up poor. Like born in a barn poor and share 1 matress with two other sibs.

When she talks about her life, then, it was "Oh, I got mine? How can I help ease someone else? Oh, I didn't get mine? The Jones often invite me over for dinner. I'll just stop on by tonight." 

[daisylu]

Guzzling water. Did not make healthy food choices on my work trip, so started a fast last night. Aiming for 24 hours. The first day back at it is always the hardest.

[daisylu]

The gold watch rarely exists anymore. A lot of job jumping started when pensions became a thing of the past.

[chiver78]

I just enjoyed a veggie burger for breakfast. black bean, dressed with pico and guac, yum. 

Punk is at daycare today, LD and I are going to take a walk around lunchtime. it's supposed to be near 60 degrees today, and it's already bright and sunny. here's to today going better than the last couple work days have!

[minnesotapaintlady]

Dec 15, 2023 8:19:23 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Corporate is better my ass. Old YM was full of it.

Have you considered just nuking the whole lab job thing entirely and looking at another line of work?  Maybe it's just a bad fit? 

[cooper88]

Dec 15, 2023 9:00:12 GMT -5 daisylu said:

The gold watch rarely exists anymore. A lot of job jumping started when pensions became a thing of the past.

Honestly, the pension is why I'm kind of stuck. I don't have to stay with the same job, but I do need to stay with the state for at least three more years.