what are you doing right now?

[andi9899]

Nov 21, 2023 19:40:43 GMT -5 MarionTh230 said:

Nov 21, 2023 18:04:01 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Exactly! For someone who "doesn't want to be a burden" having to completely change my life to provide you with a safe living situation is not a burden?! I don't mind taking care of my aging parents, but come on! At least do something to prolong that happening. I've decided that I'm going to be as healthy and as mobile as possible for as long as I can. I'm going to get old one day, but at least I'll be able to live my life my way as long as I can before I have to ask for help.

I worry a lot about becoming a burden for Kiddo one day. Especially with her being an only child it would be an extremely difficult burden to bare. I'm doing my best to make sure that does not happen but with the price tag that comes with elder care I don't believe this is a situation I can save myself out of. I just hope I do as much as I can to make it easier for her by trying to not be ornery and do as much as possible to have my affairs in order. Hopefully that will make it a bit easier when the time comes for all that.

That's really all you can do. Any of us could get hit by a bus tomorrow and need around the clock care. You never know. But deliberately putting yourself in danger just to be independent is wild to me.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

About a month ago, I think I mentioned being frustrated with something that happened at work. It had the potential to become a dealbreaker for me working there. Well the deal broke today. I’ll finish out the school year, but I’m resigning effective the end of the year. There’s no salvaging it. I’d have to compromise my principles to stay. And my boss has been clear that her philosophy is correct and mine is not.

[giramomma]

Nov 21, 2023 22:12:32 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

About a month ago, I think I mentioned being frustrated with something that happened at work. It had the potential to become a dealbreaker for me working there. Well the deal broke today. I’ll finish out the school year, but I’m resigning effective the end of the year. There’s no salvaging it. I’d have to compromise my principles to stay. And my boss has been clear that her philosophy is correct and mine is not.

Hugs.

[andi9899]

Nov 21, 2023 22:12:32 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

About a month ago, I think I mentioned being frustrated with something that happened at work. It had the potential to become a dealbreaker for me working there. Well the deal broke today. I’ll finish out the school year, but I’m resigning effective the end of the year. There’s no salvaging it. I’d have to compromise my principles to stay. And my boss has been clear that her philosophy is correct and mine is not.

Honestly, I'm surprised anyone works in education anymore. I hope you find something better.

[andi9899]

I went and got packages from my parents house earlier that I had shipped. There were two big Ukta boxes that were what I bought with my points. He asked if I bought enough makeup. I informed him that I had two more boxes coming. He was bot impressed.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Stick a fork in me.  I am so done.  I got all the stuff I'm bringing to Thanksgiving made tonight (two batches of cheesy potatoes and an apple crisp) and made a pizza hot dish for tomorrow night so I won't have to figure out dinner after being on the road all day.  Everything just needs to be thrown in the oven before needed.  I also made a batch of peanut butter cookies, but those were from a mix, so not a lot of effort there.  Dishwasher is running, DS's bedding is in the wash machine, and I'm enjoying a big bowl of ice cream.  

Now I can enjoy tomorrow, and sleep in on Thursday. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Nov 21, 2023 22:15:37 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Nov 21, 2023 22:12:32 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

About a month ago, I think I mentioned being frustrated with something that happened at work. It had the potential to become a dealbreaker for me working there. Well the deal broke today. I’ll finish out the school year, but I’m resigning effective the end of the year. There’s no salvaging it. I’d have to compromise my principles to stay. And my boss has been clear that her philosophy is correct and mine is not.

Hugs.

Thanks. I’m sad.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Nov 21, 2023 22:17:26 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Nov 21, 2023 22:12:32 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

About a month ago, I think I mentioned being frustrated with something that happened at work. It had the potential to become a dealbreaker for me working there. Well the deal broke today. I’ll finish out the school year, but I’m resigning effective the end of the year. There’s no salvaging it. I’d have to compromise my principles to stay. And my boss has been clear that her philosophy is correct and mine is not.

Honestly, I'm surprised anyone works in education anymore. I hope you find something better.

I’m honestly not sure how to do anything else though.
And not just because I feel like a complete failure right now. I know I’m not technically a complete failure. It’s a philosophical difference that’s too great to overcome. I’m trying to convince myself that’s not the same thing as I screwed up.

Anyhoo, I don’t even know what I’d be besides a public school educator.

[NastyWoman]

Nov 21, 2023 22:15:37 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Nov 21, 2023 22:12:32 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

About a month ago, I think I mentioned being frustrated with something that happened at work. It had the potential to become a dealbreaker for me working there. Well the deal broke today. I’ll finish out the school year, but I’m resigning effective the end of the year. There’s no salvaging it. I’d have to compromise my principles to stay. And my boss has been clear that her philosophy is correct and mine is not.

Hugs.

[countrygirl2]

Got quite  bit done today. Made several calls I needed to do. Paid a final light bill, had to get the account number. Cancelled an eye appointment since we had to go elsewhere. Moved a doc appointment for DD.

I ordered catfood last night they will get it day after Thanksgiving.
Wrote 2 checks for bills. Made up a deposit, and reconciled 4 months of my property account. Sorted the receipts of hubs I found and matched them up. The cats had a ball. I had the paperwork spread all over the floor in my office. They thought it was great fun to play in the receipts, sliding around and also to get in the drawer they are in. Then Smoke found a lead pencil to play with. They acted like kittens. He and I later took a nap before dinner. I worked on this stuff afterwards and just put it up for the night.  Pretty soon I will have little or nothing to do with this stuff and will love it. I do have to contact our attorney to close out the LLC also for year end. It will simplify so much for me. I just don't want to handle all this stuff anymore. I really hope we sell the last one, but he is dragging his feet on that one. Wish we could have gotten the guy out and the work done before all this happened with hubs. He worked hooking up the new head phones for the TV so I can hear it and was tired and out of breath when doing that. Not his norm at all.  

[countrygirl2]

I have to watch my kitties more. Smoke has hissed at 2 separate visitors the last 2 days. He will rub on their legs than hiss and no he doesn't get friendlier. I put him in his room while the water softener repairman was here, not going to take the chance. And I went to get him while DD's behavior person was here but he walked away. I am concerned about him jumping on someone and scratching them. I just don't know. Will be very careful and put him up in the future. I'm not sure if he thinks he is protecting us or what. They are protective, like I said growing when the door bell rings and running to the door.

I'm watching a good show, but need to go to bed, going with hubs tomorrow and after his blood draw, picking up a few groceries.

[busymom]

Nov 21, 2023 22:41:18 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Nov 21, 2023 22:17:26 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Honestly, I'm surprised anyone works in education anymore. I hope you find something better.

I’m honestly not sure how to do anything else though.
And not just because I feel like a complete failure right now. I know I’m not technically a complete failure. It’s a philosophical difference that’s too great to overcome. I’m trying to convince myself that’s not the same thing as I screwed up.

Anyhoo, I don’t even know what I’d be besides a public school educator.

     The entire job has changed.  Like andi9899 said, it's going to be harder to find anyone who wants to teach, since it's like "Big Brother" is constantly looking over a teacher's shoulder.  

      Can you find different work that appeals to you.  Like tutoring?  

[laterbloomer]

Nov 21, 2023 18:02:10 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Nov 21, 2023 10:43:24 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Did he really say that again?! Please let me punch him in the face! I'll fly myself down there and back. Did you remind him that you made more money than him when you got together? How were you to know that his income would go up so much? You could have found a guy with a bunch of money up front if you were trying to be a gold digger. He didn't have any gold to dig then, yet you chose him. That pisses me off for you.

I don’t really remember how the conversation started, but I don’t think he actually said it again, it’s just been the elephant in the room for a while now, and always on MY mind, among other things.So I may have brought it up myself while we were talking. Mind you, I still don’t really like him right now, so I am in no way trying to cover for him. I just don’t want to lie on him either.

He did say last night that the thing that made him feel that way was that a conversation never took place. I told him I couldn’t tell him “hey, I’m not going to work much for a while and my money will be funny, so you’ll have to pick up my slack”, because I never even thought myself that things would go the way they did. I went to a GI doctor to try to find out what was going and and what I could do to fix it, I’m not sure what else I was supposed to do. And the whole time, every single night during this whole mess, I ALWAYS planned and prepared to go to work the next day. But then I would start having issues around 2 or 3am, and back then I had to be at work at 6am, and my issues lasted well into the morning or even late afternoon. So I’d plan and prepare that night, to go to work the next day. Rinse and repeat. I even went so far as to stop eating anything at all on my days off work, so I could go to work on “my” Monday, because I’d figured out that if my stomach was completely empty, it didn’t act up. Which is why I ended up losing so much weight so rapidly. But that wasn’t sustainable, because after working the first day of my work week, I would be starving because of the physical exertion. And around and around I went. 

But I was trying every.fucking.day, and I could not tell him what I did not know, that it would take so long for me to get answers. I still feel like he should know me well enough to not make up his own stories, especially when he saw me laying around crying about my stomach and he knew that my greedy self eventually just stopped eating for days at a time.

When he was talking about a conversation not being had, he said that even if I just told him I don’t want to work anymore, he would’ve said okay. That is when I told him, he’ll no, I don’t want to work, and it’s no secret that I don’t like my job, but I’d be a damn fool to just let it all go now. It is my intention to retire, and have all the benefits my jobs offers regarding that, I’d be stupid to just stop working when I’m so close. I want and like having my OWN money, even if it is less than his. Having my own money is very important to me, and if he doesn’t understand that about me, and how my sense of pride works, idk what to tell him.

You are right that he didn’t have any gold to dig, when we first got together. I was digging my own gold, and not worried about his. You are also right that if I was a gold digger, I would’ve chosen someone with deeper pockets at the time. In fact, like I’ve said before, I’ve dated men before him that had deeper pockets back then, than his are now. I didn’t take any of them seriously, regardless of what they said they wanted, because I was not trying to be serious with anyone, including Mister for the first year or so after I met him. And I only entertained taking him seriously, because HE said that’s what HE wanted. And the timing was right, and I liked him enough to consider it. And that was based on where he was at the time, making less money than me. I never imagined his income would become what it is now. Hell, he didn’t either, and HE can’t really wrap his own mind around it.

Anyway, thank you so much for having my back. I keep telling you no, don’t get him yet, mostly because I’m not entirely sure that you aren’t serious lol. So if I ever say “yep, have at him”, you will know that it really means something.

No! Just no! NO, NO, NO, NO, NO! The one and only reason he said that bullshit to you was because he was in a bitchy mood and wanted to hurt you and now he's just making up more bullshit to justify it. You have done absolutely nothing wrong and absolutely nothing you did is to blame for his behavior. He owes you a clean apology and he needs to put on his big boy panties and take responsibility for his own damn actions. You do not need to convince him of anything! He is the one in the wrong here.
Dumb ass man can't even be supportive when your sick....😡

[Opti]

Nov 21, 2023 23:54:47 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I have to watch my kitties more. Smoke has hissed at 2 separate visitors the last 2 days. He will rub on their legs than hiss and no he doesn't get friendlier. I put him in his room while the water softener repairman was here, not going to take the chance. And I went to get him while DD's behavior person was here but he walked away. I am concerned about him jumping on someone and scratching them. I just don't know. Will be very careful and put him up in the future. I'm not sure if he thinks he is protecting us or what. They are protective, like I said growing when the door bell rings and running to the door.

I'm watching a good show, but need to go to bed, going with hubs tomorrow and after his blood draw, picking up a few groceries.

Are they both intact males? I think in the absence of a female cat in your household, they have both claimed you and probably are more likely to strike out against men versus women. Animals are territorial and that includes their peeps etc.

[Opti]

Nov 21, 2023 22:41:18 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Nov 21, 2023 22:17:26 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Honestly, I'm surprised anyone works in education anymore. I hope you find something better.

I’m honestly not sure how to do anything else though.
And not just because I feel like a complete failure right now. I know I’m not technically a complete failure. It’s a philosophical difference that’s too great to overcome. I’m trying to convince myself that’s not the same thing as I screwed up.

Anyhoo, I don’t even know what I’d be besides a public school educator.

Private school educator? Go into politics and write legislation on requirements and protections for teachers?
Find a different job with a less toxic boss?

[Opti]

Nov 22, 2023 0:24:26 GMT -5 laterbloomer said:

Nov 21, 2023 18:02:10 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I don’t really remember how the conversation started, but I don’t think he actually said it again, it’s just been the elephant in the room for a while now, and always on MY mind, among other things.So I may have brought it up myself while we were talking. Mind you, I still don’t really like him right now, so I am in no way trying to cover for him. I just don’t want to lie on him either.

He did say last night that the thing that made him feel that way was that a conversation never took place. I told him I couldn’t tell him “hey, I’m not going to work much for a while and my money will be funny, so you’ll have to pick up my slack”, because I never even thought myself that things would go the way they did. I went to a GI doctor to try to find out what was going and and what I could do to fix it, I’m not sure what else I was supposed to do. And the whole time, every single night during this whole mess, I ALWAYS planned and prepared to go to work the next day. But then I would start having issues around 2 or 3am, and back then I had to be at work at 6am, and my issues lasted well into the morning or even late afternoon. So I’d plan and prepare that night, to go to work the next day. Rinse and repeat. I even went so far as to stop eating anything at all on my days off work, so I could go to work on “my” Monday, because I’d figured out that if my stomach was completely empty, it didn’t act up. Which is why I ended up losing so much weight so rapidly. But that wasn’t sustainable, because after working the first day of my work week, I would be starving because of the physical exertion. And around and around I went. 

But I was trying every.fucking.day, and I could not tell him what I did not know, that it would take so long for me to get answers. I still feel like he should know me well enough to not make up his own stories, especially when he saw me laying around crying about my stomach and he knew that my greedy self eventually just stopped eating for days at a time.

When he was talking about a conversation not being had, he said that even if I just told him I don’t want to work anymore, he would’ve said okay. That is when I told him, he’ll no, I don’t want to work, and it’s no secret that I don’t like my job, but I’d be a damn fool to just let it all go now. It is my intention to retire, and have all the benefits my jobs offers regarding that, I’d be stupid to just stop working when I’m so close. I want and like having my OWN money, even if it is less than his. Having my own money is very important to me, and if he doesn’t understand that about me, and how my sense of pride works, idk what to tell him.

You are right that he didn’t have any gold to dig, when we first got together. I was digging my own gold, and not worried about his. You are also right that if I was a gold digger, I would’ve chosen someone with deeper pockets at the time. In fact, like I’ve said before, I’ve dated men before him that had deeper pockets back then, than his are now. I didn’t take any of them seriously, regardless of what they said they wanted, because I was not trying to be serious with anyone, including Mister for the first year or so after I met him. And I only entertained taking him seriously, because HE said that’s what HE wanted. And the timing was right, and I liked him enough to consider it. And that was based on where he was at the time, making less money than me. I never imagined his income would become what it is now. Hell, he didn’t either, and HE can’t really wrap his own mind around it.

Anyway, thank you so much for having my back. I keep telling you no, don’t get him yet, mostly because I’m not entirely sure that you aren’t serious lol. So if I ever say “yep, have at him”, you will know that it really means something.

No! Just no! NO, NO, NO, NO, NO! The one and only reason he said that bullshit to you was because he was in a bitchy mood and wanted to hurt you and now he's just making up more bullshit to justify it. You have done absolutely nothing wrong and absolutely nothing you did is to blame for his behavior. He owes you a clean apology and he needs to put on his big boy panties and take responsibility for his own damn actions. You do not need to convince him of anything! He is the one in the wrong here.
Dumb ass man can't even be supportive when your sick....😡

Men can be simple creatures when under stress. His brain overloads and he may only actually hear the first sentence you say.
Hang in there. I wish I could be on the phone with you for hours and maybe help by sharing my life experience. My XH made more than me because of his PhD and because of circumstances progressed far better at big Telco than I did. 

I will say if I could try a different version of my life, I would go back in time and divorce him and keep the job that was killing me instead. Like you, the stress on both fronts was too much and I was young. Under 30. I don't think he ever understood and I know my one sib did not want to support my decision of divorce for the longest time. He is a nice guy. But he grew up as an only child and his parents programmed into some very harmful to me ideas. None of it came up really while we dated, but I knew within 3 months of marrying him, I had made the wrong decision. It would take me roughly 7 years to leave. And I was with him during his mom's bouts of cancer and when I had to pretend we did not know she was dying because Wisconsin, his dad, etc. It was a horrible experience and he had massive panic attacks off and on he was never treated for. (I should delete this I think, but leaving it for now. )

Back to you. I had to learn to deal with my husband and fellow male engineers. I learned their ability to take input at any given time is generally much less than your average woman. When they get crotchety and shut down, to just stop ... walk away and hope the reset button kicks in in a timely fashion. He needs help. We all know that. He would profit from a grief group too but I think he won't do it. Because of what you shared, I think I am going to offer to assist my dead BF's son the way she used to. He's a good man, but has issues I could never live with. I see him more as a brother from another mother than in the romantic way he and perhaps his mom would have liked. She did his checkbook and other things for him. He is killing himself with his diet, and I can gently nag and suggest to hopefully save his life. (Super high blood pressure because he eats too much salt and the pandemic has really cratered his income and survival these last pandemic years.) She assigned two of her children as shepherds prior to her death for her two best friends. Because she related better at times to her same age BF and that child lived with her, she got to see L during her decline after her stroke. I never did. And she moved in with youngest son. 

So my TG gift to him will be telling what he should be buying for breakfast etc. and offering my services for personal finance if he wants. I actually give tax advice to an old BF when he asks because I am way better at that stuff than he is. I do my own taxes, but that has been a trap too since my mom passed. Need to get a tax accountant to do my taxes to get my process in better order.

Damn, lack of sleep is making me useless and painfully stupid. Say the least you can to make your point. I need to work on that too. Especially when I am not sleeping and in stupid mode. 

[andi9899]

Nov 21, 2023 22:41:18 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Nov 21, 2023 22:17:26 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Honestly, I'm surprised anyone works in education anymore. I hope you find something better.

I’m honestly not sure how to do anything else though.
And not just because I feel like a complete failure right now. I know I’m not technically a complete failure. It’s a philosophical difference that’s too great to overcome. I’m trying to convince myself that’s not the same thing as I screwed up.

Anyhoo, I don’t even know what I’d be besides a public school educator.

I hear you. I'm the same. I wouldn't know what else to do besides insurance either. I hope there is something out there that is adjacent to your job that can make you happy. Hugs sister.

[andi9899]

Nov 22, 2023 0:10:17 GMT -5 busymom said:

Nov 21, 2023 22:41:18 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

I’m honestly not sure how to do anything else though.
And not just because I feel like a complete failure right now. I know I’m not technically a complete failure. It’s a philosophical difference that’s too great to overcome. I’m trying to convince myself that’s not the same thing as I screwed up.

Anyhoo, I don’t even know what I’d be besides a public school educator.

     The entire job has changed.  Like andi9899 said, it's going to be harder to find anyone who wants to teach, since it's like "Big Brother" is constantly looking over a teacher's shoulder.  

      Can you find different work that appeals to you.  Like tutoring?  

Add in the fact that you are taking your life into your own hands and teaching is so dangerous anymore. It's literally as dangerous as working in a gas station. Not only that but you risk watching babies die with you and who would want to teach?! This country sucks and I'm not proud to be an American right now.

[finnime]

 Knee Deep in Water Chloe. I hope all comes up green on the other side of this.

[finnime]

Good for all of you, MarionTh230! The whole week off together! Your DD won't forget this.

[finnime]

I wish, Pink Cashmere, it was possible to get through to Mister so he could really see what he is doing. His anger and grief are blinding him and he is stumbling in the dark into walls. 

You have a big heart and an astounding well of strength, so it is hard for him to see you as vulnerable. He must stop lashing out. And you must take any measures to protect yourself. You are too important.


 to you.

[finnime]

Good morning, caring invisipeeps, readying for a day off or a day of celebrating with food and people. I hope your Wednesday lifts you up and over any troubles. And that ice cream is on offer.

So many of you are watching out for people that need walkers or readying for a time when you may need one yourself. My DM flat out refused to use a walker, too. She scorned it as "something you use when walking through manure." So she fell. My last memory of her alive is with a contusion over the entire left side of her face. She fell down the stairs. I knew then that I wouldn't see her again before she died; I lived 7 to 8 hours away and was immersed in selling and buying a home while juggling my job and kids. My 3 brothers and sister lived much nearer to her. ODB assumed the larger burden of caring for her. I miss her. I missed her then.

Today I'll do an enormous amount of baking and also cleaning. DH has been organizing and clearing out Stuff in two rooms, ready for tomorrow. I am very lucky.

We're having a storm right now. I won't be taking Franklin the Dog to the beach. But I'm glad to have seen the sunrise yesterday. The clouds, like a bonnet, encircled the sun breaking through:

[Opti]

Good morning people of the web and lurkers and posters of the YMAM.

Its too early to be up for me, not enough sleep even with a 5mg dose of sleep helper, but ... this morning I will start the Zpak I was prescribed during yesterday's tele health visit.

Starting day 1 of the Zpak with my breakfast will have pill two with dinner. Only bought one non dairy yogurt for now, so get more Friday? IDK. Wondering if I should put my tooth pieces in a Ziploc to help the dentist or not. Need to take pic of card and text to them or just bring it in and plead incompetence with my smartphone. (This is generally true as I only know a few functions and are nowhere near mastery of even calling and receiving phone calls. There's no text button/process like on my former Virgin Mobile dumb phone. It was a prepaid top up kind of phone/plan and I carried the small manual with me.)

Bloody Iphone official Apple manual is 100 s of pages, and you'd have to print it out as well. Anyway better make something that is breakfast like and strong enough to stand up to the zpak.


And I am grateful Moonshadow was a trooper and stayed on his carry fleece on top of his new box of hay for about 5 hours this morning.
The sleeper helper kicked in enough that I did fall asleep, but I couldn't tell how quick it would be and well I did not return to put some hay in his cage b5 I tried going to bed for the second time this morning at 2AM. So I guess I am basically at 4 hrs. of sleep . Not good but I think that should mean at least I am not at 2 or 3 hours of sleep only. 

[Opti]

Will take the bus that arrives an hour later than my usual 820ish one. Hopefully will be at the dentist in time, Will need to locate his office in the medical building complex there. 

Pray for me!  

Since I am tired I am going to invoke the magic of the snow leopard for me with the added benefit of knowing somewhere out there Virgil Snowlion's sleep is disturbed.    Cute little youngling or so he says. 

[Opti]

Nov 22, 2023 4:22:43 GMT -5 finnime said:

I wish, Pink Cashmere , it was possible to get through to Mister so he could really see what he is doing. His anger and grief are blinding him and he is stumbling in the dark into walls. 

You have a big heart and an astounding well of strength, so it is hard for him to see you as vulnerable. He must stop lashing out. And you must take any measures to protect yourself. You are too important.


 to you.

To be fair, he is hurting badly too. But he wasn't given the coping skills by his parents nor societal programming either. He might lose the best female partner in his life to this point, and he will deserve it. I doubt his self talk will ever let him see that let alone acknowledge it.

Oh to be brought up male where you are assumed to be right and its other people to blame...
The thing I hate about being female in this world at this time is I was not programmed for success as a human being in the work world the way boys are programmed from birth. I am competent. I do talk too much. And unlike male techies I have to work under the burden of a multi track mind, like Pink does because she's a woman, and not only have to contend with only one thing at a time because I got the girl biology.

I will not try not to think of all the bias I get from my boss simply because I am older than her and the perks plus abuse she heaps on her current Head teller.

[Opti]

Since I am tired and thinking bad thoughts, here's a ooh shiny I found.

www.brighton.com/products/neptunes-rings-kiwi-lapis-stretch-bracelet?variant=43278751432936


I like that collection. I do not own any of their jewelry yet. I would like to find a necklace from this collection which has stars move within the circle of the pendent and was done in blues and purples. Opti colors. Lapis is an Opti stone although I think I only have a cheap broken bracelet made of lapis?

Opti does not need jewelry although it would be good for work as I can wear bracelets safely and it will make me look more like my boss and #2. They both wear jewelry daily to work. #2 might bring me back bangles from India on her return. I hope she remembers how big I am compared to her. I have a large frame and bracelets that are one size fits most, may not fit me at all depending on what it is made of.

[taz157]

Nov 21, 2023 22:12:32 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

About a month ago, I think I mentioned being frustrated with something that happened at work. It had the potential to become a dealbreaker for me working there. Well the deal broke today. I’ll finish out the school year, but I’m resigning effective the end of the year. There’s no salvaging it. I’d have to compromise my principles to stay. And my boss has been clear that her philosophy is correct and mine is not.

I’m sorry. Could you work in a different district close to where you live?

[alabamagal]

DS and did our Costco trip yesterday. Did some initial meal planning for his Christmas Extravaganza. DH asked if he was nervous having a group at his house and he said no. I think he looks forward to hosting but still a bit nervous. He has plenty of room in his house, and hosted the same number of people 2 years ago, just different sibling and one more child.

Also glad to not be sick since almost my entire work department is sick. My POS boss was out with “flu/cough” two weeks ago, came back to work with hacking cough. Then was out with Covid, never told us, but told other people including a client via email - so inappropriate, but now I have evidence! Chatted with three coworkers yesterday all sick, not Covid. One coworker accused boss of making him sick, boss denied and said he followed all work procedures. I think I am past incubation period, trying not to stress out with every little twinge (really minor stuff, pretty sure I am good).

[daisylu]

Nov 22, 2023 7:57:57 GMT -5 alabamagal said:

DS and did our Costco trip yesterday. Did some initial meal planning for his Christmas Extravaganza. DH asked if he was nervous having a group at his house and he said no. I think he looks forward to hosting but still a bit nervous. He has plenty of room in his house, and hosted the same number of people 2 years ago, just different sibling and one more child.

Also glad to not be sick since almost my entire work department is sick. My POS boss was out with “flu/cough” two weeks ago, came back to work with hacking cough. Then was out with Covid, never told us, but told other people including a client via email - so inappropriate, but now I have evidence! Chatted with three coworkers yesterday all sick, not Covid. One coworker accused boss of making him sick, boss denied and said he followed all work procedures. I think I am past incubation period, trying not to stress out with every little twinge (really minor stuff, pretty sure I am good).

That is messed up. A lot of employers have relaxed Covid protocols, but as a decent human being I would try to tell as many people as I had been around that I had Covid.

[daisylu]

About to pack up the car to drop off some charity stuff. Need to make a quick run through the grocery store for some odds and ends and produce, and then get the turkey brining. Going to smaller town north of me where it's not usually so crowded.