what are you doing right now?

[soupandstew]

Nov 14, 2023 18:47:07 GMT -5 notagain said:

Shave the shanks 😃😃 never heard that expression before but I think I will use that
I don't bend so its been a few years.

I never wear short or skirts so it's only right before the mani/pedi.  My reach is short and my eyesight shorter, so I'm sure I miss a few of 'em.  And to think I shaved daily as a young woman, oh my.

[soupandstew]

Nov 14, 2023 18:49:34 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

OOO is up again for tomorrow, and I'm here for it! everything's on fire at more than one site, and I kinda don't care. my time isn't valued, and nobody listens to me anyway. I'm looking forward to ignoring my laptop tomorrow.

pups have been out cold since dinner, and grooming appointments earlier. I'm not sure what we are doing tomorrow, but it won't involve mud baths for them. lol...

oh, and apparently the landscape work is getting punted a week. the materials can't be delivered before Tuesday next week, and then the holiday. so we're just gonna punt a week to not have to worry about packing up early enough on Wed to secure the work site from the pups for the long weekend.

Enjoy that OOO!

[notagain]

Soup i wish we lived closer. I think we would have a good time together.theres a few on here that get me

[giramomma]

Nov 14, 2023 17:26:27 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

DH has COVID right now.  Dumbass ate FIL's leftovers.   Dude, WTF did you think would happen if you ate food that someone else who had COVID just handled and ate.  You may as well have licked the doorknob.

Otherwise I think he could have probably avoided it even sleeping at FIL's house for two nights.

I am negative, Gwen is negative and Abby is negative.  He's on day 3-4 of being positive from the home test so we should be showing by now if we had it.

Apparently getting it twice and getting knocked out by 3 shots was worth it. 

Yeah. I don't get covid at all.

I was a sitting duck and should have gotten it more than my husband who is fitter than I am.

Yet. He's in the car with the kids for 10 minutes and boom. He gets it.

The missy and I shared a bed with him for a few nights before he tested positive. We never got it. And I haven't been boosted yet. Just the 1 J&J shot.

[toomuchreality]

I'm over winter and the holidays already and we haven't even started!  Apparently, I turned old and crabby during the last year, or two. This is why I NEVER wanted to get old. And don't like old people.  I'm blaming Covid!

[cooper88]

I'm trying to finish my grocery order, and I'm just being indecisive. Maybe I'll just order every damn thing and really overeat all week next week.

[jerseygirl]

Had lunch with a friend today. So nice to see her! I’ve been home since surgery snd happy to be getting out
We had lunch at Nordstrom’s cafe at Short Hills mall

I bought DGD a pretty pink wooly dress with Scandinavian design and pink boots with gold sparkles ( same company so colors Great together).
Thinking of giving this to her at thanksgiving so she can wear for Santa brunch
We have 5 DGS and such fun to have a girl!!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Argh. Gwen drug me to a school board meeting where they are supposed to address honor orchestra.

We're up to 30 minutes of carrying on about street cars and how it running between the old gym and new gym will result in death and destruction because teens are dumb.

Dude literal trains used to run between those buildings! Union pacific trains. No lights you had to just look.

In all that time which I believe goes back to when TJ was built I don't think any teens deliberately jumped in front or tried to race one.

Urban legend is A kid got crushed but I never verified it.

Train went through you were late and that was that.

Don't we have bigger worries?

[toomuchreality]

Nov 14, 2023 20:07:22 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Argh. Gwen drug me to a school board meeting where they are supposed to address honor orchestra.

We're up to 30 minutes of carrying on about street cars and how it running between the old gym and new gym will result in death and destruction because teens are dumb.

Dude literal trains used to run between those buildings! Union pacific trains. No lights you had to just look.

In all that time which I believe goes back to when TJ was built I don't think any teens deliberately jumped in front or tried to race one.

Urban legend is A kid got crushed but I never verified it.

Train went through you were late and that was that.

Don't we have bigger worries?

I hope they really do address Honor Orchestra. That's a big deal (and the reason you went)! They need to make kids proud of their accomplishments, so they want to continue making them. IMO.
Well done Gwen!
You're a good mom, Drama.

[lurkyloo]

Sent a straightforward but not very nice email to the mansplaining sped teacher.  Found/figured out Mon at parent-teacher that DS was supposed to be tearing his math hw out and taking it in all these weeks. Sent in the hw book just this once to show that he’d been doing it all along just not handing it in, and emailed the math teacher to explain.  Got a lecture from useless sped teacher that they were supposed to tear out the pages not bring in the whole book    Same b!tch that lectured us a few weeks ago when DS was out that there had been a video explaining that there were backup lectures and hw online (spoiler:  there are not, at least none that two PhD’s one recent HS grad and the student in question can find).

I don’t like being lectured or having my time wasted.  I have all the time in the world to support my kid but no patience at all for useless time wasting sped teachers.  Going to follow up with the principal.  I think it’s a long shot that they actually give me a different one but she sucks and I want that on the record.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nov 14, 2023 20:38:41 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Nov 14, 2023 20:07:22 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Argh. Gwen drug me to a school board meeting where they are supposed to address honor orchestra.

We're up to 30 minutes of carrying on about street cars and how it running between the old gym and new gym will result in death and destruction because teens are dumb.

Dude literal trains used to run between those buildings! Union pacific trains. No lights you had to just look.

In all that time which I believe goes back to when TJ was built I don't think any teens deliberately jumped in front or tried to race one.

Urban legend is A kid got crushed but I never verified it.

Train went through you were late and that was that.

Don't we have bigger worries?

I hope they really do address Honor Orchestra. That's a big deal (and the reason you went)! They need to make kids proud of their accomplishments, so they want to continue making them. IMO.
Well done Gwen!
You're a good mom, Drama.

They did. It just kills me that we are a railway town with big Choo choos all over the place.

And we got people freaking out over a street car.

Really?!

[raeoflyte]

I think I'm being petty but I'm frustrated that dh didn't mention anything about my birthday to the kids. Dh said something to me at 1am when I was up treating a low and finally texted a happy bday message around 10am, after he was snippy with me in the morning because he couldn't find his keys.

But the reason dh gets a card and a gift from dc and at least a text from ds is because I help facilitate that. They're 10 and 14, so young and self centered with good reason. The kids didn't even realize it was my bday until I mentioned it - because ds cut into the angel food cake I bought for myself.

Im going to have to spell it out for him for mothers day I guess. Or I guess I could bypass him and just talk to the kids. They're old enough for that too.

[NoNamePerson]

Nov 14, 2023 17:59:36 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Nov 14, 2023 13:41:41 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Despite your net worth being considerable, much of that is for retirement and is sacred.  I have money in my checking account, savings account, investment accounts, IRAs and 403bs.  My savings account is our slush fund that TD knows he can tap if needed.  We have not needed to tap any of our retirement accounts yet, but next year TD is going to start to empty his Canadian retirement account.  

The one thing we have discovered is that for so many years we have kept retirement accounts sacred that it is really, REALLY hard to touch them for their intended purpose!

 no kidding. I will have to take money out of my retirement funds next year as I will turn 73, but everything in me is screaming "but I don't need that money yet (true), I need to save it for when I do need it"
So I'll be good and do what I have to but I don't like it one bit

I felt the same way when I hit 70 1/2 but I got over it.    And just because you are required to withdraw there is no law that says you have to spend it. Just invest!  At my age I’m spending it.  My bucket list keeps getting longer and life span shorter. Oh, and my son isn’t counting on inheriting. He’s doing just fine on his own!  

[busymom]

Nov 14, 2023 20:58:39 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I think I'm being petty but I'm frustrated that dh didn't mention anything about my birthday to the kids. Dh said something to me at 1am when I was up treating a low and finally texted a happy bday message around 10am, after he was snippy with me in the morning because he couldn't find his keys.

But the reason dh gets a card and a gift from dc and at least a text from ds is because I help facilitate that. They're 10 and 14, so young and self centered with good reason. The kids didn't even realize it was my bday until I mentioned it - because ds cut into the angel food cake I bought for myself.

Im going to have to spell it out for him for mothers day I guess. Or I guess I could bypass him and just talk to the kids. They're old enough for that too.

    I vote tell the kids AND remind DH.  My DH is good at remembering, my kids are VERY good at remembering, but I have friends married to guys who never remember birthdays nor anniversaries.  I guess their mamas used to keep track for them.  

[busymom]

Happy Birthday raeoflyte!  (Your DH doesn't get any of this cake.)  

[giramomma]

Nov 14, 2023 20:58:39 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I think I'm being petty but I'm frustrated that dh didn't mention anything about my birthday to the kids. Dh said something to me at 1am when I was up treating a low and finally texted a happy bday message around 10am, after he was snippy with me in the morning because he couldn't find his keys.

But the reason dh gets a card and a gift from dc and at least a text from ds is because I help facilitate that. They're 10 and 14, so young and self centered with good reason. The kids didn't even realize it was my bday until I mentioned it - because ds cut into the angel food cake I bought for myself.

Im going to have to spell it out for him for mothers day I guess. Or I guess I could bypass him and just talk to the kids. They're old enough for that too.

I'm sorry. DD1 always makes sure to acknowledge our BDs without reminders. Usually the rest figure it out from watching her and do something in whatever medium the have from them.

I don't care about the present so much. They would be spending my money anyway.The card is nice though.

So last week Sunday, when DH and DD1 were still down with covid, I made two dinners. Sunday's and Mondays.

Everyone managed to eat up Monday's dinner on Monday night and left nothing for me.

I was pretty pissy over that.

[giramomma]

And Happy Birthday!!

[notagain]

Happy birthday

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Happy birthday Rae. Here is a virtual cake you don't have to share. 🎂

[Pink Cashmere]

Happy birthday raeoflyte!  

[Pink Cashmere]

Today has been difficult. I didn’t even want to get out of bed, but I forced myself to. Then I went back to bed about an hour later because my stomach was hurting. 

I had to get back out of bed because Mister had sent a text saying the groceries would be ready for pickup, between 2 and 3pm. Which meant I was supposed to pick them up, since he is still at work during that time and today was my day off work.

I managed to do enough laundry to have things together for my work week that starts tomorrow. I still did not shampoo my hair. I ended up cooking pasta Fagioli (sp?) soup and garlic bread for dinner. I didn’t want to cook, but I gotta eat. 

He is trying to be nice to me, and keeps asking me what I need. What I really need is to  not waste any more of my time with a fucking asshole. But I don’t say that, I just say idk. 

The only thing I know to do right now is focus on me, at least enough to be able to go to work and get my money, so I can build my war chest, as Laterbloomer called it. I am not interested in further discussions with him, or really anything concerning him. I am concerned about me, myself and I. 

I have an appointment later this month with my unreliable counselor. Idc if the appointment actually happens or not. I am over therapy too. I wouldn’t be crazy if people would just stop playing with me, including so called “professionals” in the medical community. 

I’m just not even close to being in a good place right now. But I won’t be here forever, and eventually I WILL get to a better place mentally. I am sure of that. That’s pretty much all I have to hold on to, while I work through trying to get there.

[raeoflyte]

Nov 14, 2023 21:33:06 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Nov 14, 2023 20:58:39 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I think I'm being petty but I'm frustrated that dh didn't mention anything about my birthday to the kids. Dh said something to me at 1am when I was up treating a low and finally texted a happy bday message around 10am, after he was snippy with me in the morning because he couldn't find his keys.

But the reason dh gets a card and a gift from dc and at least a text from ds is because I help facilitate that. They're 10 and 14, so young and self centered with good reason. The kids didn't even realize it was my bday until I mentioned it - because ds cut into the angel food cake I bought for myself.

Im going to have to spell it out for him for mothers day I guess. Or I guess I could bypass him and just talk to the kids. They're old enough for that too.

I'm sorry. DD1 always makes sure to acknowledge our BDs without reminders. Usually the rest figure it out from watching her and do something in whatever medium the have from them.

I don't care about the present so much. They would be spending my money anyway.The card is nice though.

So last week Sunday, when DH and DD1 were still down with covid, I made two dinners. Sunday's and Mondays.

Everyone managed to eat up Monday's dinner on Monday night and left nothing for me.

I was pretty pissy over that.

I am being petty, it's just frustrating that dc loves celebrating everyone. I have to talk them out of spending money but it's the time management piece - even 1 reminder this weekend for them and they would have made me a card and crafted. I can say this with almost 100% certainty because that is how I handled my moms birthday this weekend. Told dc *if* they wanted to do something what the preferred timeframe was. Ds is not that kid and its fine. I just ask that he acknowledge the day/person. I'm definitely not upset with dc. It's just 1 more thing that dh just cannot/is not handling. He does whatever he can at the last minute if he has to, and everything else just falls to me. He bought me a gift on the way home from work which is fine and when I mentioned that I bought myself a cake for tonight he got quiet and didn't apologize but said he should have thought of that because cakes are his thing. Add all of that on top of his snippiness today and I just can't even pretend unfortunately. None of it's a big deal but a lot of little deals that apparently are really bothering me tonight.

[countrygirl2]

Happy Birthday raeflyte! 

[saveinla]

Nov 14, 2023 20:58:39 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I think I'm being petty but I'm frustrated that dh didn't mention anything about my birthday to the kids. Dh said something to me at 1am when I was up treating a low and finally texted a happy bday message around 10am, after he was snippy with me in the morning because he couldn't find his keys.

But the reason dh gets a card and a gift from dc and at least a text from ds is because I help facilitate that. They're 10 and 14, so young and self centered with good reason. The kids didn't even realize it was my bday until I mentioned it - because ds cut into the angel food cake I bought for myself.

Im going to have to spell it out for him for mothers day I guess. Or I guess I could bypass him and just talk to the kids. They're old enough for that too.

Happy Birthday! I am the person who forgets, but I put it on my calendar with multiple reminders and also text my son .

[countrygirl2]

Things are ok here. I keep thinking about our neighbor and her husband leaving her. How sad as she has gotten older and likely thought life was good for them.  I hope she can manage ok and can find her way. Poor woman.

Today was another very pretty day out here. No rain and they are now enacting burn bans all around its so dry. Never hear of that here. And 65 degree days in November, pretty unusual too.

Tomorrow meet with DD's case worker and her behavior therapist. Hubs is heading up for his first physical therapy session.

While in town we did go out to eat, that is the first time in forever. We went to the chinese place it was pretty good but sure expensive now.

Nothing interesting going on here. I got litter boxes changed, kitties fountain cleaned and fresh water in it. They sure like drinking water out of it. 

I'm watching a show called 2020: Fallen Earth. 
 

[finnime]

Happy birthday raeoflyte!

I remember specifically instructing my kids on my birthday date which is hard to forget when I got pissed at the 5th year in a row of XH "forgetting".

[finnime]

Good morning, you (invisible) beautiful people! Welcome to Wednesday, one week and a day until the US Thanksgiving when all your turkey wishes come true. I hope your day rewards your patience, worn thin with testy other people.  Maybe it's the moon, or the time of year, but so many are being rubbed raw by other people right now

Today I must get things together and organize and clean the house. DSis told me yesterday that her younger DS is coming for Thanksgiving with his wife and 2 small children. With everyone else, that will make 15 for dinner. Got to figure out seating.

We have been in a mode of spending, not accruing, retirement savings. Need to change that. DH's health has had me focused on the bucket list as long as he is able. But I need to ensure we have a war chest to see us into the next 20-odd years or longer. The tool pulmonarymd provided to calculate lifespan has me looking at up to 30 years. DH is just over 10 years older than me.

Yesterday was a really good meal and time planning T-day. We figured out the menu which is the same pretty much every year with a few modifications and assignments. It's a group effort, every time.

And the sun rising was pretty. Here is the sky before the sun made an appearance:

[cooper88]

raeoflyte Happy birthday!

[soupandstew]

Happy Birthday raeoflyte

[NoNamePerson]

Happy Birthday raeoflyte