what are you doing right now?

[giramomma]

Oct 11, 2023 19:17:07 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Since we were speaking of brother's and inheritance mine mentioned if there is anything left of GUs estate he's hoping he'd get some.

Umm..what? Big fat IF there were to be anything the lion's share would go to my dad to reimburse him.

Well, your brother has some testicular fortitude, especially since he's getting help for the custody issue..

[azucena]

Oct 11, 2023 19:17:07 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Since we were speaking of brother's and inheritance mine mentioned if there is anything left of GUs estate he's hoping he'd get some.

Umm..what? Big fat IF there were to be anything the lion's share would go to my dad to reimburse him.

Followed by me so I'm reimbursed for all the time I've invested.

He hasn't done anything to help with either GU or grandma.

It'll likely all go to Iowa as grandma is his closest relative. Unless GU has a love child somewhere.

Or whatever family it was we had to have grandpa's funeral in Papillion for comedy out of the woodwork.

I joked to dad we should get 23&me kits for Christmas. Let's really poke the hornets nest.🤣

Selfish siblings are the worst.

[wvugurl26]

Every time I consider moving away from BCBS flavors the overall math doesn't work. The premiums have gone way up though since I started in 2010.

[soupandstew]

Oct 11, 2023 17:05:41 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 11, 2023 9:37:14 GMT -5 bean29 said:

I know mister might really want to help his brother, but the question is - When does it end?  Is Mister going to support him all the way until retirement?  He will most certainly want to help his daughters and his Son at times in the future, and given our discussion on longlevity - he could easily live until late 80's Mid 90's, so he needs to worry about his own financial future.  DH and I have a number of family members that are trainwrecks or living on the edge of poverty.  We can not fix all their problems and have a solid footing for our retirement years. Still it is not easy to say no.  I have been harping on my DH of late though.

Mister first started trying to set something up with his brother for them to sit down and talk about a week after their Dad died. Brother was not cooperating, so Mister let it go. It was during that time that he made the spreadsheet and called his brother and told him he was handing everything over to him, and sent him the spreadsheet.

Last week, he started calling and texting his brother again, so they could sit down and talk, which is what led to my rant last night, when he finally responded, it was with the same old excuses.

Mister is just trying to give him information and tell him what he needs to figure out. Mister isn’t trying to give him any money. For instance, Brother is still driving their Dad’s car, how does that work since the loan for the car is in their Dad’s name, even if Brother manages to make the payments. And is the insurance even valid anymore, since their Dad is still the “owner” of the car, but deceased? That matters especially because he seems to be accident prone…. their Dad bought the darn car last year because Brother, wrecked their Mom AND their Dad’s paid off cars. Same thing with the mortgage and the insurance on the house. Those are the kind of things Mister wants to make sure his brother knows he needs to figure out, since Brother is the one driving the car and living in the house and he is the one one that actually needs a vehicle and a place to lay his head.

Mister int trying to figure any of it out himself, or pay any of the bills, he just wants to make sure his brother understands why HE needs to address it all. But I guess none of it will matter anyway if Brother doesn’t pay the mortgage and the loan in the car.

The loans owed for the car and house are a whole different story from the insurance and title for the car and house.  The lenders don't care who makes the car payment or the mortgage-when the loans are paid off they will send a release of lien to the person(s) whose name(s) were on the loan (Dad, Mom, both ).  At this point it seems the title to the car and house are still in the name of the person(s) who took out the loans, and the car/house will be part of their estate(s).  The insurance is a whole other animal.  The car insurance would indemnify the car owner(s), any lien holder like a finance company, and not Brother.  Maybe Mom/Dad listed Brother as an authorized user??  If not, all sorts of possible complications if there's a wreck.  For the house, the homeowner's insurance would indemnify the homeowners (both deceased) and the lender, not Brother.  It sounds like a cluster ** for sure

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I love my brother but there are moments like these I feel like the lights are on upstairs but nobody is home.

DH even has more of a claim. He has been supplying the truck and helping dad with stuff I cant like moving the snow blower.

Not to mention my regular emotional outbursts through all this. I know he's my spouse but I can freely admit this has been a major test of our marriage that we got thrust on us against our will.

I told dad he'll get a letter from my lawyer billing him.for all my time, labor and emotional distress.

First I have to find a lawyer but I'll be sending one I swear.🤣

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Oct 11, 2023 19:00:16 GMT -5 CCL said:

Oct 11, 2023 18:33:26 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

It is an HMO.  

That's what I thought, but not in the area to know for sure.

Kaiser is trying hard to break into WA.  It is starting to infringe on where I live now, and I have not heard anything good about it in WA.

Even in CA, where it is supposedly better, there is a stone wall about getting to go to specialists who are knowledgeable.  

[minnesotapaintlady]

Waiting for Carrot to get out of his class so we can go home for the day. My animals are not going to be happy with chores being done at 9:30pm.

I'm also getting a sore throat which sucks. Carrot has had a cold the last couple weeks and I thought I'd avoided it.

[TheOtherMe]

Oct 11, 2023 19:45:58 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

Every time I consider moving away from BCBS flavors the overall math doesn't work. The premiums have gone way up though since I started in 2010.

This has been my experience.  I had GEHA for many years, but the way they changed their prescription coverage and I was having problems finding providers here, I switched to BCBS.  

It covered an out of town emergency which made me very happy.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 11, 2023 19:52:44 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Oct 11, 2023 17:05:41 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister first started trying to set something up with his brother for them to sit down and talk about a week after their Dad died. Brother was not cooperating, so Mister let it go. It was during that time that he made the spreadsheet and called his brother and told him he was handing everything over to him, and sent him the spreadsheet.

Last week, he started calling and texting his brother again, so they could sit down and talk, which is what led to my rant last night, when he finally responded, it was with the same old excuses.

Mister is just trying to give him information and tell him what he needs to figure out. Mister isn’t trying to give him any money. For instance, Brother is still driving their Dad’s car, how does that work since the loan for the car is in their Dad’s name, even if Brother manages to make the payments. And is the insurance even valid anymore, since their Dad is still the “owner” of the car, but deceased? That matters especially because he seems to be accident prone…. their Dad bought the darn car last year because Brother, wrecked their Mom AND their Dad’s paid off cars. Same thing with the mortgage and the insurance on the house. Those are the kind of things Mister wants to make sure his brother knows he needs to figure out, since Brother is the one driving the car and living in the house and he is the one one that actually needs a vehicle and a place to lay his head.

Mister int trying to figure any of it out himself, or pay any of the bills, he just wants to make sure his brother understands why HE needs to address it all. But I guess none of it will matter anyway if Brother doesn’t pay the mortgage and the loan in the car.

The loans owed for the car and house are a whole different story from the insurance and title for the car and house.  The lenders don't care who makes the car payment or the mortgage-when the loans are paid off they will send a release of lien to the person(s) whose name(s) were on the loan (Dad, Mom, both ).  At this point it seems the title to the car and house are still in the name of the person(s) who took out the loans, and the car/house will be part of their estate(s).  The insurance is a whole other animal.  The car insurance would indemnify the car owner(s), any lien holder like a finance company, and not Brother.  Maybe Mom/Dad listed Brother as an authorized user??  If not, all sorts of possible complications if there's a wreck.  For the house, the homeowner's insurance would indemnify the homeowners (both deceased) and the lender, not Brother.  It sounds like a cluster ** for sure

Definitely has the makings of a cluster ** if Brother doesn’t get his head out of his ass soon. 

But like I said earlier, if he doesn’t pay the loans, none of it will matter eventually anyway. And as of right now, he is still too consumed with grief to make the payments. That’s definitely one way to make sure the house and car gets sorted out, and ensure that he has even more reason to be sad.

Mister has 2 places to lay his head, the house we live in, and if push ever came to shove, the other house I own. And we have 2 vehicles in our garage, and 3 in the driveway, and both houses are properly insured, and all the vehicles have at least liability insurance that covers licensed drivers. His brother is the one that needs their parents’ house, so he can have somewhere to live, and their Dad’s car, so that he has transportation, and he is the one that needs to figure those things out. 

I support Mister leaving it to his brother to figure all, of that out, because Mister has done so much of the heavy lifting since last August, when things started falling apart with his parents’ health and he started cleaning cleaning up his Dad’s messes. As long as Mister stands firm on not allowing his brother to come live with us, and he doesn’t get any crazy ideas about loaning his accident prone brother any of our vehicles, I’m good. His brother actually has 2 vehicles. One has been sitting up in their parents driveway for forever, and in their way, because it needed some work done on it. The other one is a problematic luxury car that has been sitting up at their parents’ house too, for a few years now, after Brother ran out of money. Which is how he ended up driving and wrecking both of their parents’s cars, and resulted in their Dad needing to buy a car last year for him and their Mom to have at least 1 vehicle again, when they’d always had 2 for decades.

[weltz]

Simon just called. There's a SWAT team in the house. They've been there for 3 hours. The whole street is blocked off.
Melody's son has issues. I told you guys about him before. 
He's locked in his room and has a big knife. He's been suicidal in the past and has stopped taking his meds. Simon called the police, who apparently, are very nice. When they get him out of his room, he's going away for several days...mental institution.
Fuck .It's always something.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 11, 2023 21:03:15 GMT -5 weltz said:

Simon just called. There's a SWAT team in the house. They've been there for 3 hours. The whole street is blocked off.
Melody's son has issues. I told you guys about him before. 
He's locked in his room and has a big knife. He's been suicidal in the past and has stopped taking his meds. Simon called the police, who apparently, are very nice. When they get him out of his room, he's going away for several days...mental institution.
Fuck .It's always something.

Oh no! I know it’s difficult for everybody, but I really feel for Melody’s son.

[swamp]

Oct 11, 2023 21:03:15 GMT -5 weltz said:

Simon just called. There's a SWAT team in the house. They've been there for 3 hours. The whole street is blocked off.
Melody's son has issues. I told you guys about him before. 
He's locked in his room and has a big knife. He's been suicidal in the past and has stopped taking his meds. Simon called the police, who apparently, are very nice. When they get him out of his room, he's going away for several days...mental institution.
Fuck .It's always something.

We call those “grippy sock vacations”. 

I hope everyone makes it through ok

[CCL]

Oct 11, 2023 21:03:15 GMT -5 weltz said:

Simon just called. There's a SWAT team in the house. They've been there for 3 hours. The whole street is blocked off.
Melody's son has issues. I told you guys about him before. 
He's locked in his room and has a big knife. He's been suicidal in the past and has stopped taking his meds. Simon called the police, who apparently, are very nice. When they get him out of his room, he's going away for several days...mental institution.
Fuck .It's always something.

I'm so sorry. I hope they can get him the help he needs.

[weltz]

Oct 11, 2023 21:10:00 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 11, 2023 21:03:15 GMT -5 weltz said:

Simon just called. There's a SWAT team in the house. They've been there for 3 hours. The whole street is blocked off.
Melody's son has issues. I told you guys about him before. 
He's locked in his room and has a big knife. He's been suicidal in the past and has stopped taking his meds. Simon called the police, who apparently, are very nice. When they get him out of his room, he's going away for several days...mental institution.
Fuck .It's always something.

Oh no! I know it’s difficult for everybody, but I really feel for Melody’s son.

So do I.  I also feel very bad for Melody. She's had so many problems with him, and I can't imagine having a child who tried to kill himself. She's a very strong woman, but people can only take so much.

[soupandstew]

Oct 11, 2023 21:03:15 GMT -5 weltz said:

Simon just called. There's a SWAT team in the house. They've been there for 3 hours. The whole street is blocked off.
Melody's son has issues. I told you guys about him before. 
He's locked in his room and has a big knife. He's been suicidal in the past and has stopped taking his meds. Simon called the police, who apparently, are very nice. When they get him out of his room, he's going away for several days...mental institution.
Fuck .It's always something.

I'm sorry - that sucks for everyone involved, especially Simon after losing his friend so recently.  I hope that Melody's

son will get the help he needs to stabilize his issues.  

[Pink Cashmere]

I think our bottom oven is going out. The top oven got wonky a few years ago, it only works if the lower oven is on.

My plan today was to bake some potatoes, and top them with shredded chicken breast I also baked. I’m not an expert cook, but I’ve baked both chicken breasts and potatoes many times with no issue. It has never taken several hours for either of them to cook. I gave up over an hour ago and asked Mister if he wanted me to just fix him a salad.

I had my heart set on what I’d planned to eat, so I still haven’t eaten. Dinner was supposed to have been done and consumed way before now.

Mister looked in the oven, and the element has some dark spots on it, so he says he will investigate further tomorrow.

When the top oven got crazy, we were going to just replace it all, but measuring to make sure whatever double ovens we could buy fit just right in the space got tricky. Then we discovered that the top one would work if we needed more room than what would fit in just the lower one, as long as the lower one was on, and we just rolled with that, instead of replacing them. 

I hope he can just fix it and that the parts are available for him to replace whatever, so I can deal with replacing them at a later date. It’s old, and the parts needed for the top oven were no longer available when it started acting up. I remember how stressful it was back then, looking to replace them with ones that fit in the space, and I wasn’t even already stressed tf out about other shit, like I am now. I do NOT want to add replacing the ovens to my plate right now.

[weltz]

Oct 11, 2023 21:22:17 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Oct 11, 2023 21:03:15 GMT -5 weltz said:

Simon just called. There's a SWAT team in the house. They've been there for 3 hours. The whole street is blocked off.
Melody's son has issues. I told you guys about him before. 
He's locked in his room and has a big knife. He's been suicidal in the past and has stopped taking his meds. Simon called the police, who apparently, are very nice. When they get him out of his room, he's going away for several days...mental institution.
Fuck .It's always something.

I'm sorry - that sucks for everyone involved, especially Simon after losing his friend so recently.  I hope that Melody's

son will get the help he needs to stabilize his issues.  

Thank you. Simon lost his best friend only 10 days ago. He's not over that yet, and now this.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 11, 2023 21:20:39 GMT -5 weltz said:

Oct 11, 2023 21:10:00 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oh no! I know it’s difficult for everybody, but I really feel for Melody’s son.

So do I.  I also feel very bad for Melody. She's had so many problems with him, and I can't imagine having a child who tried to kill himself. She's a very strong woman, but people can only take so much.

I have a child that I had to get help for when he was 12yo, because he was having suicidal thoughts. He never did anything dramatic, he quietly tried to kill himself. In ways that would not attract attention until it was too late. 

That is probably why your post struck a chord with me the way it did.

I went through a lot with him, trying to get him help and working with him to get him to a better place. And of course, none of that was easy, and I am grateful that I had the resources to try to get help for him. But my pain about it all wasn’t for me, the memories are actually still painful, but not for me and what I had to do and went through to try keep him alive and get him to a better place mentally, my pain is and was about him, that that was even a real thought for him. It was never about me, but about him.

With a lot of work, he eventually got past that, and I am so very grateful for it. Sometimes when we have real life type of conversations, he has occasionally mentioned how he use to want to kill himself, and even though he is speaking of it in the past tense, it is still very difficult for me to hear.

Anyway, I’ve already said a prayer for Melody’s son, and for her. If you don’t believe in prayer, just consider it me sending good vibes and healing thoughts that way. 

[NastyWoman]

Oct 11, 2023 18:59:10 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

DIL goes to a Kaiser in CA near Bay Area. She is very enthusiastic about a team Kaiser put together to help her. She feels she’s getting better care there than at UCLA or at good hospitals in NJ

I have Kaiser Medicare Advantage in the Bay Area and I have no complaints whatsoever. However, I have very simple health needs (BP and cholesterol controlled with meds) for the most parts. Then there is something going on with my eyes, I keep forgetting what it is, that needs to be monitored but not yet treated. If I forget to set up an appointment for my annual eye exam the assistant to my ophthalmologist will contact me to make sure I do.

That last part is a big reason I went with Kaiser -> I can be rather sloppy with my healthcare and need someone to kick my butt. LOL. I tried their system out while still working so I knew what I was getting into and it was right for me

[CCL]

Oct 11, 2023 21:33:36 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I think our bottom oven is going out. The top oven got wonky a few years ago, it only works if the lower oven is on.

My plan today was to bake some potatoes, and top them with shredded chicken breast I also baked. I’m not an expert cook, but I’ve baked both chicken breasts and potatoes many times with no issue. It has never taken several hours for either of them to cook. I gave up over an hour ago and asked Mister if he wanted me to just fix him a salad.

I had my heart set on what I’d planned to eat, so I still haven’t eaten. Dinner was supposed to have been done and consumed way before now.

Mister looked in the oven, and the element has some dark spots on it, so he says he will investigate further tomorrow.

When the top oven got crazy, we were going to just replace it all, but measuring to make sure whatever double ovens we could buy fit just right in the space got tricky. Then we discovered that the top one would work if we needed more room than what would fit in just the lower one, as long as the lower one was on, and we just rolled with that, instead of replacing them. 

I hope he can just fix it and that the parts are available for him to replace whatever, so I can deal with replacing them at a later date. It’s old, and the parts needed for the top oven were no longer available when it started acting up. I remember how stressful it was back then, looking to replace them with ones that fit in the space, and I wasn’t even already stressed tf out about other shit, like I am now. I do NOT want to add replacing the ovens to my plate right now.

You could get a toaster oven for in the meantime. Ours is a convection/air fryer/toaster oven we picked up at Sam's Club for $100. The smaller one in my camper was $25 at Walmart. They preheat and cook much faster than the full-size oven. We seldom even use it anymore.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 11, 2023 19:43:05 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Oct 11, 2023 19:17:07 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Since we were speaking of brother's and inheritance mine mentioned if there is anything left of GUs estate he's hoping he'd get some.

Umm..what? Big fat IF there were to be anything the lion's share would go to my dad to reimburse him.

Well, your brother has some testicular fortitude, especially since he's getting help for the custody issue..

Every time I come back to this thread and see this post at the top of the page, I want to giggle. Because “testicular fortitude” reminds me of what Mister told his brother yesterday, and even more explicitly today, referencing testicles, except what he said was way more crude and potentially offensive.

I will try to remember “testicular fortitude”.

[chiver78]

I'm getting settled in bed, I fell asleep on the couch again. at least I woke up early enough to relocate. 🤦‍♀️. I missed the 2nd and 3rd periods of hockey, but made sure to check in for the centennial celebration before the game. it was a parade of living Bruins legends, including last season's Captain and one Assistant Captain, who retired in the off-season. those hits hurt, oof. here's to a fantastic season, even if it doesn't match the record-setting season they had last year. 🖤💛

[weltz]

Oct 11, 2023 21:55:37 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 11, 2023 21:20:39 GMT -5 weltz said:

So do I.  I also feel very bad for Melody. She's had so many problems with him, and I can't imagine having a child who tried to kill himself. She's a very strong woman, but people can only take so much.

I have a child that I had to get help for when he was 12yo, because he was having suicidal thoughts. He never did anything dramatic, he quietly tried to kill himself. In ways that would not attract attention until it was too late. 

That is probably why your post struck a chord with me the way it did.

I went through a lot with him, trying to get him help and working with him to get him to a better place. And of course, none of that was easy, and I am grateful that I had the resources to try to get help for him. But my pain about it all wasn’t for me, the memories are actually still painful, but not for me and what I had to do and went through to try keep him alive and get him to a better place mentally, my pain is and was about him, that that was even a real thought for him. It was never about me, but about him.

With a lot of work, he eventually got past that, and I am so very grateful for it. Sometimes when we have real life type of conversations, he has occasionally mentioned how he use to want to kill himself, and even though he is speaking of it in the past tense, it is still very difficult for me to hear.

Anyway, I’ve already said a prayer for Melody’s son, and for her. If you don’t believe in prayer, just consider it me sending good vibes and healing thoughts that way. 

Thank you, Pink. Jordan had so much help. He'd been hospitalized more than once. When he stops taking his meds, all hell breaks loose. At one point, he took all of them at once and overdosed in a suicide attempt.
That's why she had to rent a house in the West Island, instead of an apartment. The neighbours don't like it when all hell breaks loose.

[weltz]

I'm glad your son is OK now..

[Works4me]

Oct 11, 2023 21:33:36 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I think our bottom oven is going out. The top oven got wonky a few years ago, it only works if the lower oven is on.

My plan today was to bake some potatoes, and top them with shredded chicken breast I also baked. I’m not an expert cook, but I’ve baked both chicken breasts and potatoes many times with no issue. It has never taken several hours for either of them to cook. I gave up over an hour ago and asked Mister if he wanted me to just fix him a salad.

I had my heart set on what I’d planned to eat, so I still haven’t eaten. Dinner was supposed to have been done and consumed way before now.

Mister looked in the oven, and the element has some dark spots on it, so he says he will investigate further tomorrow.

When the top oven got crazy, we were going to just replace it all, but measuring to make sure whatever double ovens we could buy fit just right in the space got tricky. Then we discovered that the top one would work if we needed more room than what would fit in just the lower one, as long as the lower one was on, and we just rolled with that, instead of replacing them. 

I hope he can just fix it and that the parts are available for him to replace whatever, so I can deal with replacing them at a later date. It’s old, and the parts needed for the top oven were no longer available when it started acting up. I remember how stressful it was back then, looking to replace them with ones that fit in the space, and I wasn’t even already stressed tf out about other shit, like I am now. I do NOT want to add replacing the ovens to my plate right now.

Does the top oven get hot enough to use for baking? If so, have you tried turning both ovens on and using the top one for baking? If all that matters is that the bottom oven is on, this could be a work around for now.I agree that the last thing you need is to replace those ovens right nowl.

I have another idea: because temperature is so important when baking,.get an oven thermometer. I use one all the time and it really helps. Knowing the real oven temp.has kept me from the frustration of burning or under cooking more times than I can count. There are hanging ones available for less than $10 on Amazon.

ETA - The other thing we are doing for now is to  use a toaster oven. J found one that is made by Cuisinart that is curved in the back to bake a medium size pizza.

[finnime]

Good morning, empathetic and able invisipeeps, keeping the lights on and the ovens hot while friends and family walk into walls. I hope your Thursday is serene and ends with ice cream.

We went yesterday to New Hampshire in search of leaves changing color. We found but little; it's too soon this year apparently. Planning another trip to Kancamagus highway in NH very soon; it's famous for leaf peeping. It's a weird year. Weather was wet and cool a good part of the summer which slowed things down. I did get some pictures but nothing like we'd planned. Then when we went to the mountain it turned out that we wanted another park down the road to drive to the summit. Because DH cannot hike at all, I went for a short walk where we were. It was a good road trip anyway.

Suicidality in children of any age is the hardest thing I know of. And I know some wildly painful things. I hope Melody's son finds his way back very soon.

And I hope, NomoreDramaQ1015, that your and Mister's brothers get their heads out of their resepective butts.

I planted DD's miniature rose the other day and it's flourishing.

Today's dawn should be another fabulous sight at the beach. This was yesterday's:

[andi9899]

Oct 11, 2023 14:47:18 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Oct 11, 2023 14:37:33 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

That's sad. I've made it clear that I'm not taking over my sister when my parents die or can't live alone anymore. Either she takes over the caretaking with help from me in exchange for a place to stay or she moves out on her own. Likely both of her kids will be launched by then.

how have your parents managed to raise grandchildren that are ready to launch, but not your sister? wow! my sister and I were both like you - get out as soon as possible and launch. yes, I moved back home for a little while at 25 or 26, but it was a strategic thing and I got out real quick. I'd been travelling most of my time for work, and it made more $ sense for me to store my shit there and travel. 

By coddling her. Her whole life she would cry when things didn't go her way and the solution was "be nice to her, she's sensitive." Mom and dad want her to move out but neither will force her. The kids want so badly to be out that my nephew already has and my niece is trying to.

She's also someone who gets comfortable and stays there. She's comfortable at the house so why would she try and leave? She could probably make a lot more money if she looked around. She won't because she likes where she works. Sorry, but I like money, so if I can find a better situation, I'm out. Instead she works various side hustles.She still never has any money.

Why does she not have any money when she has a job and pays no bills? Her kids. Her kids always have the newest iPhone, my niece had the gall to ask for a $1,200 prom dress. She settled on a $500 one which she asked my nephew to help pay for. I told him not to, but he did. She's constantly taking them out to eat so she can spend time with them because she has no friends. When she's not doing that she's going to the winery with my cousins. If she's at home she's eating fast food and drinking.

There's more but that's the cliffnotes.

[azucena]

Today is my Friday. Repeat, today is my Friday. I can do it. It's been one heck of a week though.

[chiver78]

Oct 12, 2023 7:04:33 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Oct 11, 2023 14:47:18 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

how have your parents managed to raise grandchildren that are ready to launch, but not your sister? wow! my sister and I were both like you - get out as soon as possible and launch. yes, I moved back home for a little while at 25 or 26, but it was a strategic thing and I got out real quick. I'd been travelling most of my time for work, and it made more $ sense for me to store my shit there and travel. 

By coddling her. Her whole life she would cry when things didn't go her way and the solution was "be nice to her, she's sensitive." Mom and dad want her to move out but neither will force her. The kids want so badly to be out that my nephew already has and my niece is trying to.

She's also someone who gets comfortable and stays there. She's comfortable at the house so why would she try and leave? She could probably make a lot more money if she looked around. She won't because she likes where she works. Sorry, but I like money, so if I can find a better situation, I'm out. Instead she works various side hustles.She still never has any money.

Why does she not have any money when she has a job and pays no bills? Her kids. Her kids always have the newest iPhone, my niece had the gall to ask for a $1,200 prom dress. She settled on a $500 one which she asked my nephew to help pay for. I told him not to, but he did. She's constantly taking them out to eat so she can spend time with them because she has no friends. When she's not doing that she's going to the winery with my cousins. If she's at home she's eating fast food and drinking.

There's more but that's the cliffnotes.

ugh. I can't fathom that kind of mindset.

[giramomma]

Oct 12, 2023 7:04:33 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Why does she not have any money when she has a job and pays no bills? Her kids. Her kids always have the newest iPhone, my niece had the gall to ask for a $1,200 prom dress. She settled on a $500 one which she asked my nephew to help pay for. I told him not to, but he did. She's constantly taking them out to eat so she can spend time with them because she has no friends. When she's not doing that she's going to the winery with my cousins. If she's at home she's eating fast food and drinking.

There's more but that's the cliffnotes.

Damn.

I need to hug DD1. She kept homecoming to about 150. That included the dress, acrylic nails, dinner, and earrings. Her boyfriend (ok, I giggled at that) bought her homecoming ticket.