what are you doing right now?

[giramomma]

Oct 4, 2023 13:37:11 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

And speaking of paperwork found out my grandparents DID NOT apply for the military discount to property taxes you get with the DD214.  My dad checked their last statement.  So going through the county is out.

Sometimes I swear she did this all on purpose.  There is just no way it's all a coincidence. 

I mean REALLY?!  She was so cheap that they moved out to Treynor despite all of us telling her it was a bad idea because the property taxes were cheaper out there than here.  You're telling me she didn't see the benefit of getting even more shaved off by using grandpa's military service?  REALLY?!

ETA: OMG something finally went my way.  They could not talk to me about specific details of the account till they get my POA on file but the bank who holds grandpa's pension was able to walk me through how to get onto their web site and create an account and confirm I do have the correct details without actually giving me the account #.  I can now finally take care of that. 

I'm so glad something went your way.

And Yes. Really. It is amazing how people will make choices that works against them.

[snapdragon]

Hugs to those who need one. Congrats to those that did something productive.

Dealing with the shore house. Painting is almost done and I am planning on boxing up more stuff tonight and heading down tomorrow to see if the drywall in the laundry room ceiling is being taken care of. 

Driving alot and feeling it in my back, shoulders and neck. 

I have started on rolling over my IRA and working on being reimbursed by Ford for having to pay on my tranny last year. 

My feet are cold and I have to just get moving so everyone take care.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Got the Medicare part D customer ID#. Now I can hopefully get in online and print the premium statement off and print a new card for my records.

If I can do that the last thing is to squat at the VA until someone finally finds grandpa in the system.

Can I just say I hate the trend of insurance companies making you print off your own cards? It's not so bad for someone like me but my grandma wasn't about to set up an online account. Let alone remember to update every so often.

For as much as insurance companies charge I feel like a card could be thrown in for free.

[TheOtherMe]

I agree with you that for people of your grandma's generation (and my parents' generation, they should be sent hard copies of everything.  They have no way to print things off and are not interested in learning at their age.  

[Pink Cashmere]

I had a therapy session today, but this is about being a woman, and not about my therapy.

At my first appointment with her, my first thought when I saw her was “WOW!”. And I am a straight woman. She is beautiful and has a BODY body. Breasts, completely flat stomach, tiny waist, big hips and a big butt. The kind of body that some women pay a whole lot of money for. And because hers is natural, it is proportionate. I noticed her physical appearance and gave her big props in my mind, we introduced ourselves, and we got down to business. Whether she was good at what she does was what I was interested in, not what she looked like.

When I left my appointment that day, I said to myself that I bet a lot of her male clients get distracted by the way she looks.

At the end of a later appointment, we were chatting and I told her I liked her outfit and she looked cute. I’ve always been one to compliment other women, even random strangers, by telling them I love their hair, their style or their clothes, or even something like “girllll, you are WEARING that dress!”, whatever I notice that gets my attention. She said she dresses differently when she has in person visits with male clients. She said it doesn’t matter as much with virtual appointments, because her clients can only see her upper body anyway. I also remember her saying “trust me, I know what I look like, I’ve had this body since I was a teenager”.

I didn’t say anything, and still haven’t, but I understood, because I actually know someone that went to her several years ago. He’d told me back then that he had been going to individual counseling and ended up bringing his wife to an appointment for them to talk to her together. And after the appointment, his wife told him he had to find another therapist because of the way that one looked. I had forgotten all about that until after my appointment today.

At the end of my session today, she asked how I felt about Mister and I coming to see her together. And she immediately said “don’t worry, I’ll wear something baggy”. 

That kind of upset my nerves, as a woman, because why should she even have to think like that. First of all, I guess she could smush her breasts, and hide her shape,  but it would be near impossible to hide her butt, no matter what she wore. Second of all, I know Mister notices attractive women, and I told her I know that and I don’t care about that. He’s not blind. I didn’t say this, but in my mind, if he got so distracted by how she looks that he couldn’t focus or was inappropriate, that would say more about him than it would say anything about her. 

She went on today, to say that she has had to fire clients before because they were being inappropriate and saying offensive stuff, instead of working with her on their therapy, and she fired them because she doesn’t have to put up with that. Until she said that, I just thought some men might be distracted, but I didn’t think about them actually being inappropriate and saying offensive shit. That’s no different from anybody else that is not self employed, having the right to work without being subject to inappropriate behavior and/or sexual harassment. 

It made me feel some type of way that she felt like she had to assure me, by saying she would wear baggy clothes, to try to make me comfortable with Mister coming to one of my appointments. But I understand that that came from experience, since I already knew she has had at least one client whose wife had a problem with her just because of how she looks and insisted her husband find somebody else. There is no telling what else she’s had to deal with, that led to her thinking the way she does now. It’s ridiculous for a woman to have to go beyond dressing appropriately, and go to extra lengths to try to camouflage her body shape, so her male clients don’t get out of line, and her female clients feel comfortable bringing their SO’s to get help with couple type issues. 

But that’s the world we live in. I guess it’s on the other end of the type of problem where years ago, a manager at my job told a female employee that if she put some lipstick on or something, she might get promoted. 

Why can’t we just work and go about our daily lives without being sexualized and/or judged on our appearance?

And now that I think about it, I remember I initially contacted her to ask whether she was in my insurance network, because her stuff said she is, but I couldn’t find her as a provider on my insurance company’s website. So she called me and confirmed that she did accept my insurance. And when I was ready to schedule my first appointment, I told her I preferred in person appointments, and she said she usually makes the first appointment virtual, and decides from there whether or not in person visits are an option, but since we’d already spoken, she was ok with mine being in person. Her explanation at the time was because she works out of her home, and she kept assuring me that it was a safe, gated community, and her office was separate from the rest of her house and all the ways I could be assured that everything about my in person visits would be private. It was reasonable that she didn’t just let anybody come to her home office, before she learned anything about them or got a feel for the kind of person they are, for her own safety since she lives there. But now I wonder if part of that is also due to problems she’s had before with clients. 

Sometimes, it’s hard being a woman.

[chiver78]

I'm pushing back on this stuff, and my dad's only 72. this is the man that freaked out when he moved the computer mouse and "awoke" the computer from sleep mode when I was in college. he has a flip phone held closed by rubber bands, and has only figured out my fire tv remote b/c he can watch his old Westerns on my 70" tv. the various things that "require" an email address are mostly my email address* and I'm starting to bristle at it. I don't need to know the shit that gets sent my way, just because my email was used for a confirmation address. 

*this got fun when something was due for DMV renewal while I was in Cancun last spring. lol... nobody could reach me by phone, b/c Mexico. and my sister refused to bother me via FB Messenger for whatever it was. but it had originally been set up for my email, and they couldn't access it b/c Mom couldn't remember the password I had given her for 'her' account. 

[Opti]

Oct 4, 2023 12:30:03 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

I should be an insurance adjuster.  Told everyone at work it was probably $1000 headlight.  Got the estimate, it was $1058 for the headlight.  Total estimate including labor for removing the front bumper (only way to change the headlight) and some scuff painting.  $2500.  Good lord.

Owwww!  

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 4, 2023 18:16:24 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I'm pushing back on this stuff, and my dad's only 72. this is the man that freaked out when he moved the computer mouse and "awoke" the computer from sleep mode when I was in college. he has a flip phone held closed by rubber bands, and has only figured out my fire tv remote b/c he can watch his old Westerns on my 70" tv. the various things that "require" an email address are mostly my email address* and I'm starting to bristle at it. I don't need to know the shit that gets sent my way, just because my email was used for a confirmation address. 

*this got fun when something was due for DMV renewal while I was in Cancun last spring. lol... nobody could reach me by phone, b/c Mexico. and my sister refused to bother me via FB Messenger for whatever it was. but it had originally been set up for my email, and they couldn't access it b/c Mom couldn't remember the password I had given her for 'her' account. 

One good thing about my 73yo Mom is that she did learn how to use technology. She was way ahead of me when when I got my first computer at home lol. DD said way back when, that some of her friends were surprised that her Grandma was good at texting lol.

My Mom is not as sharp as she use to be with technology, and all the latest and greatest, but she does still know how to handle business online, which is part of the reason she was able to continue her bad shopping habits and messing up her money, even after she wasn’t as mobile as she use to be. After she moved into my house, she became the Queen of ordering stuff online, and after I moved, she started having her groceries delivered, and during the pandemic, handled her prescription refills online, to be delivered too. But she also knows how to do productive stuff online, with banking and other regular stuff that has to be dealt with that she can handle online.

I never realized until reading here, that I should be grateful for that.

After things started really falling apart with Mister’s parents, I talked to my Mom about POA stuff, and she readily agreed to putting stuff like that in place. But then my money got funny because of my health issues, and I haven’t gotten it done yet. Although she is very willing to do it, I already know Imma have to be the one to pay for it. But that’s fine, because I’ve learned now that it can potentially save me a lot of trouble having certain things in place regarding her. 

[NastyWoman]

Oct 4, 2023 18:15:25 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

But that’s the world we live in. I guess it’s on the other end of the type of problem where years ago, a manager at my job told a female employee that if she put some lipstick on or something, she might get promoted. 

Why can’t we just work and go about our daily lives without being sexualized and/or judged on our appearance?

And now that I think about it, I remember I initially contacted her to ask whether she was in my insurance network, because her stuff said she is, but I couldn’t find her as a provider on my insurance company’s website. So she called me and confirmed that she did accept my insurance. And when I was ready to schedule my first appointment, I told her I preferred in person appointments, and she said she usually makes the first appointment virtual, and decides from there whether or not in person visits are an option, but since we’d already spoken, she was ok with mine being in person. Her explanation at the time was because she works out of her home, and she kept assuring me that it was a safe, gated community, and her office was separate from the rest of her house and all the ways I could be assured that everything about my in person visits would be private. It was reasonable that she didn’t just let anybody come to her home office, before she learned anything about them or got a feel for the kind of person they are, for her own safety since she lives there. But now I wonder if part of that is also due to problems she’s had before with clients. 

Sometimes, it’s hard being a woman.

why? Because we start in elementary school telling girls what they can't wear because it would "distract" boys, rather than teaching boys what is inappropriate. We can hardly expect that to change unless we start changing things at the root of the problem. 

If you want to control weeds in your yard you don't wait until the yard is overgrown. Similarly if you want to let this inappropriate behavior under control you need to nip it in the bud.  You will still have to deal with the occasional "weed" literally or figuratively but it will be easier to control IMO

[countrygirl2]

Drama, on the inheritance issue don't worry about what is to happen. She does not have the house or money and its going to take time for that to play out. Each state has a procedure for inheritance if an individual dies intestate. If she is still living and inherits it, they will determine at that time what needs to be done. Might be the same as now, when the house is sold her share being used for care till its gone. and I'm guessing here, but in the here and now she doesn't have it so don't worry about that part now. That will not be part of her application. Please don't overthink this right now.

[daisylu]

Oct 4, 2023 18:15:25 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I had a therapy session today, but this is about being a woman, and not about my therapy.

At my first appointment with her, my first thought when I saw her was “WOW!”. And I am a straight woman. She is beautiful and has a BODY body. Breasts, completely flat stomach, tiny waist, big hips and a big butt. The kind of body that some women pay a whole lot of money for. And because hers is natural, it is proportionate. I noticed her physical appearance and gave her big props in my mind, we introduced ourselves, and we got down to business. Whether she was good at what she does was what I was interested in, not what she looked like.

When I left my appointment that day, I said to myself that I bet a lot of her male clients get distracted by the way she looks.

At the end of a later appointment, we were chatting and I told her I liked her outfit and she looked cute. I’ve always been one to compliment other women, even random strangers, by telling them I love their hair, their style or their clothes, or even something like “girllll, you are WEARING that dress!”, whatever I notice that gets my attention. She said she dresses differently when she has in person visits with male clients. She said it doesn’t matter as much with virtual appointments, because her clients can only see her upper body anyway. I also remember her saying “trust me, I know what I look like, I’ve had this body since I was a teenager”.

I didn’t say anything, and still haven’t, but I understood, because I actually know someone that went to her several years ago. He’d told me back then that he had been going to individual counseling and ended up bringing his wife to an appointment for them to talk to her together. And after the appointment, his wife told him he had to find another therapist because of the way that one looked. I had forgotten all about that until after my appointment today.

At the end of my session today, she asked how I felt about Mister and I coming to see her together. And she immediately said “don’t worry, I’ll wear something baggy”. 

That kind of upset my nerves, as a woman, because why should she even have to think like that. First of all, I guess she could smush her breasts, and hide her shape,  but it would be near impossible to hide her butt, no matter what she wore. Second of all, I know Mister notices attractive women, and I told her I know that and I don’t care about that. He’s not blind. I didn’t say this, but in my mind, if he got so distracted by how she looks that he couldn’t focus or was inappropriate, that would say more about him than it would say anything about her. 

She went on today, to say that she has had to fire clients before because they were being inappropriate and saying offensive stuff, instead of working with her on their therapy, and she fired them because she doesn’t have to put up with that. Until she said that, I just thought some men might be distracted, but I didn’t think about them actually being inappropriate and saying offensive shit. That’s no different from anybody else that is not self employed, having the right to work without being subject to inappropriate behavior and/or sexual harassment. 

It made me feel some type of way that she felt like she had to assure me, by saying she would wear baggy clothes, to try to make me comfortable with Mister coming to one of my appointments. But I understand that that came from experience, since I already knew she has had at least one client whose wife had a problem with her just because of how she looks and insisted her husband find somebody else. There is no telling what else she’s had to deal with, that led to her thinking the way she does now. It’s ridiculous for a woman to have to go beyond dressing appropriately, and go to extra lengths to try to camouflage her body shape, so her male clients don’t get out of line, and her female clients feel comfortable bringing their SO’s to get help with couple type issues. 

But that’s the world we live in. I guess it’s on the other end of the type of problem where years ago, a manager at my job told a female employee that if she put some lipstick on or something, she might get promoted. 

Why can’t we just work and go about our daily lives without being sexualized and/or judged on our appearance?

And now that I think about it, I remember I initially contacted her to ask whether she was in my insurance network, because her stuff said she is, but I couldn’t find her as a provider on my insurance company’s website. So she called me and confirmed that she did accept my insurance. And when I was ready to schedule my first appointment, I told her I preferred in person appointments, and she said she usually makes the first appointment virtual, and decides from there whether or not in person visits are an option, but since we’d already spoken, she was ok with mine being in person. Her explanation at the time was because she works out of her home, and she kept assuring me that it was a safe, gated community, and her office was separate from the rest of her house and all the ways I could be assured that everything about my in person visits would be private. It was reasonable that she didn’t just let anybody come to her home office, before she learned anything about them or got a feel for the kind of person they are, for her own safety since she lives there. But now I wonder if part of that is also due to problems she’s had before with clients. 

Sometimes, it’s hard being a woman.

This has been my whole life. I had DD breasts in the 6th grade. In the 8th grade a classmate grab my boob, comparing it to how he grasped a basketball. After that,I spent many years wearing baggy clothes to hide my breasts and my butt. And now even in a very professional role I have had older women in corporate comment on my boobs, which are now HH. Like WTF.

But around 40 when I was perimenopausal, I quit trying to hide my attributes - not that I advertised, but if you can't handle seeing my fully clothed body that is your problem. And yes, I will call you out on it because I'm too grown for that shit now.

And yes, I attract a certain type of man. DH & DD have both seen it first hand. And I am ok with that as long it is respectful.

[daisylu]

Tonight has been good. Legs are hurting from squats again. But that did not prevent me from twerking to "Slow Motion".

Life is getting back to normal. 🤣

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I got onto Caremark and can access her information so suck it nursing home on that front.

But I'm not finding premium information. I sent off a message to see if they can direct me on where to find it.

Next step is call tomorrow and see if I can find a human.

I'm further than I was last week at least.

Unfortunately the two I'm struggling with are the most important.

Freaking insane. You really do show your true self when talking to automated phone systems.

And jamming your finger into a cell phone when aggressively pressing zero for the 8th time is not nearly as satisfying as doing it on a good old landline.

[snapdragon]

I boxed up stuff and took several trips out to the car tonight. 

I maybe will try to fill a few more boxes but am not sure right now. 

Just glad I won't be hauling boxes down in the morning and I have a garage for unloading everything. Even managed to get a floor lamp into the back seat! Bits at a time is all I can do but it still is better than doing nothing and having movers box everything up instead. The time and cost is already going to large due to moving 2.5 hours away.

Pretty sure I am going to need to buy some collapsible crates for books etc. 

Still bleeding money but things will be lots better by next month. Condo will be empty and on the market. I won't be doing 5 hour round trips in 1 day and the travel will pretty much be done besides visiting.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 4, 2023 20:06:16 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I got onto Caremark and can access her information so suck it nursing home on that front.

But I'm not finding premium information. I sent off a message to see if they can direct me on where to find it.

Next step is call tomorrow and see if I can find a human.

I'm further than I was last week at least.

Unfortunately the two I'm struggling with are the most important.

Freaking insane. You really do show your true self when talking to automated phone systems.

And jamming your finger into a cell phone when aggressively pressing zero for the 8th time is not nearly as satisfying as doing it on a good old landline.

Nor is ending a call when you are aggravated, as satisfying on a cell phone, no matter how hard you push the red button, as slamming the phone down on an old school landline either. 

[giramomma]

Oct 4, 2023 18:15:25 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sometimes, it’s hard being a woman.

Yup.

www.cnn.com/videos/business/2023/09/30/smr-ai-girlfriends-ruining-generation-of-men.cnn

[giramomma]

I'm in very much a "the world is going to hell" mood right now.

I also just found a job that closes tomorrow night. I should apply. I really don't want to.

[raeoflyte]

Oct 4, 2023 20:06:16 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I got onto Caremark and can access her information so suck it nursing home on that front.

But I'm not finding premium information. I sent off a message to see if they can direct me on where to find it.

Next step is call tomorrow and see if I can find a human.

I'm further than I was last week at least.

Unfortunately the two I'm struggling with are the most important.

Freaking insane. You really do show your true self when talking to automated phone systems.

And jamming your finger into a cell phone when aggressively pressing zero for the 8th time is not nearly as satisfying as doing it on a good old landline.

!!!!!!OPERATOR!!!!!!

[countrygirl2]

Hubs read that the connector on the camera in the trunk can be loose. First thing he has tried is a wire tie on it to fasten it, he said if that doesn't work there are some other fixes he can try.

Today when driving I put it in reverse when in parking lots several times and it has worked. I'm like him it also appeared brighter. I went through the carwash also and it still worked. So here's hoping. It had one new dash system replaced when under warranty so it failed once already. If I never had one it wouldn't matter but once you get used to them its aggravating when they don't work.

I went to TJ Max today and the clothes were just not good.  I really wonder if manufacturers are making some crummy knock offs of good brands for them. The purses were nice and some coats. I told hubs I hate to buy new coats but ours are all way to big and we have really nice ones. I likely will break down and buy one each for DD and I on sale. I mean they are XL and Large, DD is in a small and I can wear medium. So maybe I can get buy with a Large, but DD will be lost in those we have.

[Peace77]

Oct 4, 2023 20:28:20 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I'm in very much a "the world is going to hell" mood right now.

I also just found a job that closes tomorrow night. I should apply. I really don't want to.

Go for it!! 

[raeoflyte]

I'm having to repeatedly stop myself from spiraling into panic. Tomorrow will be better because I have the 2nd job to do. And I have a plan in place, just lots of hurry up and wait.

My new laptop/docking station can't detect my monitors. The monitors were part of my work set up (they don't want them back) and fully functional yesterday. Everything else hooked up to the docking station works fine.

I'll pilfer ds set up and try a different docking station/cables tomorrow and hope it's a relatively easy fix. It should be, but so frustrating.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 4, 2023 19:56:33 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Oct 4, 2023 18:15:25 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I had a therapy session today, but this is about being a woman, and not about my therapy.

At my first appointment with her, my first thought when I saw her was “WOW!”. And I am a straight woman. She is beautiful and has a BODY body. Breasts, completely flat stomach, tiny waist, big hips and a big butt. The kind of body that some women pay a whole lot of money for. And because hers is natural, it is proportionate. I noticed her physical appearance and gave her big props in my mind, we introduced ourselves, and we got down to business. Whether she was good at what she does was what I was interested in, not what she looked like.

When I left my appointment that day, I said to myself that I bet a lot of her male clients get distracted by the way she looks.

At the end of a later appointment, we were chatting and I told her I liked her outfit and she looked cute. I’ve always been one to compliment other women, even random strangers, by telling them I love their hair, their style or their clothes, or even something like “girllll, you are WEARING that dress!”, whatever I notice that gets my attention. She said she dresses differently when she has in person visits with male clients. She said it doesn’t matter as much with virtual appointments, because her clients can only see her upper body anyway. I also remember her saying “trust me, I know what I look like, I’ve had this body since I was a teenager”.

I didn’t say anything, and still haven’t, but I understood, because I actually know someone that went to her several years ago. He’d told me back then that he had been going to individual counseling and ended up bringing his wife to an appointment for them to talk to her together. And after the appointment, his wife told him he had to find another therapist because of the way that one looked. I had forgotten all about that until after my appointment today.

At the end of my session today, she asked how I felt about Mister and I coming to see her together. And she immediately said “don’t worry, I’ll wear something baggy”. 

That kind of upset my nerves, as a woman, because why should she even have to think like that. First of all, I guess she could smush her breasts, and hide her shape,  but it would be near impossible to hide her butt, no matter what she wore. Second of all, I know Mister notices attractive women, and I told her I know that and I don’t care about that. He’s not blind. I didn’t say this, but in my mind, if he got so distracted by how she looks that he couldn’t focus or was inappropriate, that would say more about him than it would say anything about her. 

She went on today, to say that she has had to fire clients before because they were being inappropriate and saying offensive stuff, instead of working with her on their therapy, and she fired them because she doesn’t have to put up with that. Until she said that, I just thought some men might be distracted, but I didn’t think about them actually being inappropriate and saying offensive shit. That’s no different from anybody else that is not self employed, having the right to work without being subject to inappropriate behavior and/or sexual harassment. 

It made me feel some type of way that she felt like she had to assure me, by saying she would wear baggy clothes, to try to make me comfortable with Mister coming to one of my appointments. But I understand that that came from experience, since I already knew she has had at least one client whose wife had a problem with her just because of how she looks and insisted her husband find somebody else. There is no telling what else she’s had to deal with, that led to her thinking the way she does now. It’s ridiculous for a woman to have to go beyond dressing appropriately, and go to extra lengths to try to camouflage her body shape, so her male clients don’t get out of line, and her female clients feel comfortable bringing their SO’s to get help with couple type issues. 

But that’s the world we live in. I guess it’s on the other end of the type of problem where years ago, a manager at my job told a female employee that if she put some lipstick on or something, she might get promoted. 

Why can’t we just work and go about our daily lives without being sexualized and/or judged on our appearance?

And now that I think about it, I remember I initially contacted her to ask whether she was in my insurance network, because her stuff said she is, but I couldn’t find her as a provider on my insurance company’s website. So she called me and confirmed that she did accept my insurance. And when I was ready to schedule my first appointment, I told her I preferred in person appointments, and she said she usually makes the first appointment virtual, and decides from there whether or not in person visits are an option, but since we’d already spoken, she was ok with mine being in person. Her explanation at the time was because she works out of her home, and she kept assuring me that it was a safe, gated community, and her office was separate from the rest of her house and all the ways I could be assured that everything about my in person visits would be private. It was reasonable that she didn’t just let anybody come to her home office, before she learned anything about them or got a feel for the kind of person they are, for her own safety since she lives there. But now I wonder if part of that is also due to problems she’s had before with clients. 

Sometimes, it’s hard being a woman.

This has been my whole life. I had DD breasts in the 6th grade. In the 8th grade a classmate grab my boob, comparing it to how he grasped a basketball. After that,I spent many years wearing baggy clothes to hide my breasts and my butt. And now even in a very professional role I have had older women in corporate comment on my boobs, which are now HH. Like WTF.

But around 40 when I was perimenopausal, I quit trying to hide my attributes - not that I advertised, but if you can't handle seeing my fully clothed body that is your problem. And yes, I will call you out on it because I'm too grown for that shit now.

And yes, I attract a certain type of man. DH & DD have both seen it first hand. And I am ok with that as long it is respectful.

I don’t even have anything unusual about my body, and I know how men can be. Not ALL men, of course, but enough to be a problem. I was 26yo when I started working my current job, and I dealt with men older than me, that actually thought they could get away with touching me inappropriately. 

I am all for women being able to be comfortable in their skin, no matter what they look like, and I am completely against body shaming. But I had never really thought about how it can be even worse than the average woman, for women that naturally have big breasts like you do, or are naturally built like my therapist is. I guess that’s why my nerves got upset, because I feel like women should be able to wear whatever they want to, as long as they are dressed appropriately for the situation. Meaning, wear whatever you want when you’re hanging out, but those same clothes might not be appropriate to wear to your job. And even if you (general you, of course) want to walk down the street nekkid, for whatever reason, it might be illegal, but that is still no excuse for someone to violate you. No woman should have to feel like she has to not only dress appropriately for situations, but also try to hide the attributes she was blessed with. 

[minnesotapaintlady]

Oct 4, 2023 18:42:55 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

One good thing about my 73yo Mom is that she did learn how to use technology. She was way ahead of me when when I got my first computer at home lol. DD said way back when, that some of her friends were surprised that her Grandma was good at texting lol.

Same.  My mom and her sisters are very tech savy.  They all have to have the latest and greatest gadgets.  Whenever you're in a store looking at all the WiFi enabled appliances wondering "Who the hell would want that".  My mom. That's who.   Her house is all techno crap and cameras everywhere.  Never without her iphone that is always less than a year or two old. 

I'm sure in some ways it's a blessing, but last time I was at her house and she showed me her list of passwords. Over 200 of them!

[Pink Cashmere]

Mister came and told me, in a profane way that I won’t repeat here, that the meatloaf I cooked is awesome. He’d only tasted it, and was in a hurry to go back and actually fix his plate to eat, if that was okay. He’d wait until I was ready to eat if I wanted him to. But even now, I still haven’t wanted to eat, so I told him to go help himself, and he practically ran out of the room lol. 

I didn’t want to cook for a few reasons, even though I said yesterday that I would, and planned to cook a meatloaf because it’s one of his favorites. I feel like meals cooked with love usually end up being the most tasty and best meals, and I was concerned the meatloaf would not turn out well, because I wasn’t cooking with love this evening. Plus, I cook bigger meatloafs now than I use to when it was just me and my children, and I worry about getting the seasoning right with the bigger ones, since that’s one of the things I cook without a recipe or measuring stuff. 

It’s an old joke or whatever among Black people that I know, that we add seasoning to our foods until our ancestors tell us, “that’s enough chile”. So today, I honestly was thinking “Madear, tell me when to stop” LOL! Madear is my Grandmother, who was an awesome cook. And I guess she was listening, and guiding my hands, because Mister says the meatloaf is perfectly seasoned. 

I haven’t eaten anything at all today, and it’s so late now, that I probably won’t eat. I’m not really hungry, and after the last few weeks, I’m back on just not eating anyway, so my stomach doesn’t act up, so I can go to work. 

Anyway, I’m relieved that the meatloaf turned out to be good, and I’m glad Mister enjoyed dinner. 

[giramomma]

I think i am knitted out.

I found a hat pattern that I botched the first time.

So, I gave it the old college try again.

I liked it until the very top. Of course, by then it's sort of too late to figure out another option.

It should be OK to donate. And I'm like, meh. I need to do something else for a while.

[toomuchreality]

Oct 4, 2023 12:30:03 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

I should be an insurance adjuster.  Told everyone at work it was probably $1000 headlight.  Got the estimate, it was $1058 for the headlight.  Total estimate including labor for removing the front bumper (only way to change the headlight) and some scuff painting.  $2500.  Good lord.

Same, to repair my fog lights, after a truck flipped up a big rock, in front of me.
I'll probably never have functional fog lights again. (At least I'm not likely to get a ticket for them, not working.)
I don't understand why it requires so much effort to replace a light, right on the front of a car! 😫

[toomuchreality]

Oct 4, 2023 16:52:35 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Got the Medicare part D customer ID#. Now I can hopefully get in online and print the premium statement off and print a new card for my records.

If I can do that the last thing is to squat at the VA until someone finally finds grandpa in the system.

Can I just say I hate the trend of insurance companies making you print off your own cards? It's not so bad for someone like me but my grandma wasn't about to set up an online account. Let alone remember to update every so often.

For as much as insurance companies charge I feel like a card could be thrown in for free.

I agree. 100%!
It annoys me to no end, that I have to print my own. Plus, they're not laminated, or anything, so be careful not to let them get wet.
It annoys me every time I am told to troubleshoot a nonworking XYZ.
I don't work for your company. That's your job, not mine! If the equipment is not mine, I shouldn't have to maintain it for your company. That's how I feel.

I have NEVER been able to log in to my insurance company account. Not even right after I switched to them. I have no idea why. Just that I can't. SO ANNOYING!

[finnime]

Good morning, invisible luminaries of Y Ma'am, shedding your light. I hope your Thursday finds you on a well-lit path with no rocks on which to stumble.

It appears meatloaf is a Y Ma'am OT thing. The meatloaf I made yesterday delighted DD and DH and me, too. Good stuff. I cook it for DH and me in half a red bell pepper. Quite perfect. And we enjoyed enormously Young @ Heart with its renditions of Schizophrenia and Fix You by octogenarians. It was a good day.

Today I intend to work on writing and editing after I take pictures in the fog.

I caught this tiny dinosaur wading at the foot of the fort yesterday:

[countrygirl2]

I went to bed at 1AM, slept till 3 than rolled and tossed till after 5. I finally gave up and got up. I'm still up but getting tired, I had a cup of coffee, decaf. Hubs said go get DD's blood work, her shot, and breakfast, really, because I'm up doesn't mean I'm functional.

I am NOT a morning person so what is wrong with this picture?

[Pink Cashmere]

I am up too early again. But at least I’m not angry this time. I woke up on my own. Mister went to bed in the other room last night. I went ahead and got up because I wanted to get a few things done before I go to work. I am still (slowly) putting things back in order in my life and around my house. I really hope I can stay on this track this time.

I hope you all have a good day!