what are you doing right now?

[Pink Cashmere]

For reasons I won’t get into, I need to revisit something.

I actually went back and read my posts. On 9/29, I posted about being upset that Boy tore up the comforter on my bed. 2 days later, on 10/1, I posted that I had some issues with a coworker at work that day, then about how I didn’t get much sleep the night before because I woke up a couple hours after I first went to sleep. Some hours later, right after I finally managed to drift off to sleep again, Boy woke me up, and kept doing random stuff so that I could not sleep, which went on until I had to get up for work. By the time I posted that evening on 10/1, I was tired and grumpy, and while talking about not having had any sleep, I said I was starting to not like Boy.

By the time I read some posts the next day, which was yesterday, and started defending myself about having said I was starting to not like Boy, he and I were already buddies again. I even said in one post where I was defending myself, that he was curled up at my feet. Which actually meant practically laying on my feet, to the point, I stayed where I was for a while, so I wouldn’t wake him up.

I guess I’m the only person in the world that gets aggravated and vents about temporary feelings regarding a source of aggravation. Feelings so temporary, in this instance, that they didn’t even last 24 hours. Feelings that I didn’t even act on, in any way, because even though Boy was on my nerves, I knew that he doesn’t purposefully aggravate me, he’s just a dog, and a young one at that.  He is still learning and lot of stuff he does, is because he just doesn’t know any better yet, and a lot of that is our fault, which I have repeatedly acknowledged when I bitch about him being a PITA. 

I know that most of you were understanding, because you know or can imagine how puppies can be frustrating sometimes, have read enough of my posts to believe that I genuinely love dogs (more than most people, in fact) and would never mistreat my own dog, or for whatever reason that led you to not judge me harshly……  and I appreciate that. And to those posters, I apologize for even bringing it up again.

But there is a reason I brought it up again, publicly. I will leave it at that.

Except to say that maybe I should start viewing persistently offensive people like I view untrained dogs that don’t know how to act, and consider that maybe they just don’t know any better either. 

[Peace77]

Oct 3, 2023 16:08:02 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

For reasons I won’t get into, I need to revisit something.

I actually went back and read my posts. On 9/29, I posted about being upset that Boy tore up the comforter on my bed. 2 days later, on 10/1, I posted that I had some issues with a coworker at work that day, then about how I didn’t get much sleep the night before because I woke up a couple hours after I first went to sleep. Some hours later, right after I finally managed to drift off to sleep again, Boy woke me up, and kept doing random stuff so that I could not sleep, which went on until I had to get up for work. By the time I posted that evening on 10/1, I was tired and grumpy, and while talking about not having had any sleep, I said I was starting to not like Boy.

By the time I read some posts the next day, which was yesterday, and started defending myself about having said I was starting to not like Boy, he and I were already buddies again. I even said in one post where I was defending myself, that he was curled up at my feet. Which actually meant practically laying on my feet, to the point, I stayed where I was for a while, so I wouldn’t wake him up.

I guess I’m the only person in the world that gets aggravated and vents about temporary feelings regarding a source of aggravation. Feelings so temporary, in this instance, that they didn’t even last 24 hours. Feelings that I didn’t even act on, in any way, because even though Boy was on my nerves, I knew that he doesn’t purposefully aggravate me, he’s just a dog, and a young one at that.  He is still learning and lot of stuff he does, is because he just doesn’t know any better yet, and a lot of that is our fault, which I have repeatedly acknowledged when I bitch about him being a PITA. 

I know that most of you were understanding, because you know or can imagine how puppies can be frustrating sometimes, have read enough of my posts to believe that I genuinely love dogs (more than most people, in fact) and would never mistreat my own dog, or for whatever reason that led you to not judge me harshly……  and I appreciate that. And to those posters, I apologize for even bringing it up again.

But there is a reason I brought it up again, publicly. I will leave it at that.

Except to say that maybe I should start viewing persistently offensive people like I view untrained dogs that don’t know how to act, and consider that maybe they just don’t know any better either. 

Could Boy sleep in a crate at night so he doesn’t wake you up?  

He’s past the crying stage now, I think.

[countrygirl2]

I guess we are living right, we have a full price offer on the house we put on the market a few days ago.
They asked for us to pay $3500 toward closing and we said sure, we just raised the price of the house by $3500.

They said the house was so nice if it had been in a bigger town we could have gotten more. But as it is $78,400 and for this little town that is good. Hubs is pleased and I am too. Several places here have been sold of late to people fixing them up. If there were more in better shape they would sell too. I see one new mobile  has been sold and set up.

I told hubs we could buy a lot and set up the mobile we have and sell the lot and trailer, could get $30 to $40k I believe. Hubs said it would cost about $4k for water hookup and septic and a light pole. We will have to think about that.

The beautician did a great job on DD and my hair, it looks so nice. Hubs waited on us and now we are home. I feel some better but still not great, my head is hurting again and I can hardly use my left arm. I can take 2 pain pills a day so for the first time I have. It helped this morning, hope it does this afternoon.

Tomorrow hubs to the dentist and DD to her heart doctor. Surely I will feel better.

And yes, hubs or I could have replaced the filters in my car, I don't think either of us wanted too. That is a totally different attitude for us.

[bean29]

Oct 3, 2023 16:08:02 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

For reasons I won’t get into, I need to revisit something.

I actually went back and read my posts. On 9/29, I posted about being upset that Boy tore up the comforter on my bed. 2 days later, on 10/1, I posted that I had some issues with a coworker at work that day, then about how I didn’t get much sleep the night before because I woke up a couple hours after I first went to sleep. Some hours later, right after I finally managed to drift off to sleep again, Boy woke me up, and kept doing random stuff so that I could not sleep, which went on until I had to get up for work. By the time I posted that evening on 10/1, I was tired and grumpy, and while talking about not having had any sleep, I said I was starting to not like Boy.

By the time I read some posts the next day, which was yesterday, and started defending myself about having said I was starting to not like Boy, he and I were already buddies again. I even said in one post where I was defending myself, that he was curled up at my feet. Which actually meant practically laying on my feet, to the point, I stayed where I was for a while, so I wouldn’t wake him up.

I guess I’m the only person in the world that gets aggravated and vents about temporary feelings regarding a source of aggravation. Feelings so temporary, in this instance, that they didn’t even last 24 hours. Feelings that I didn’t even act on, in any way, because even though Boy was on my nerves, I knew that he doesn’t purposefully aggravate me, he’s just a dog, and a young one at that.  He is still learning and lot of stuff he does, is because he just doesn’t know any better yet, and a lot of that is our fault, which I have repeatedly acknowledged when I bitch about him being a PITA. 

I know that most of you were understanding, because you know or can imagine how puppies can be frustrating sometimes, have read enough of my posts to believe that I genuinely love dogs (more than most people, in fact) and would never mistreat my own dog, or for whatever reason that led you to not judge me harshly……  and I appreciate that. And to those posters, I apologize for even bringing it up again.

But there is a reason I brought it up again, publicly. I will leave it at that.

Except to say that maybe I should start viewing persistently offensive people like I view untrained dogs that don’t know how to act, and consider that maybe they just don’t know any better either. 

As a dog owner myself, I read it that you were frustrated with him in the moment, not as a forever thing.  You have had a lot on your plate of late.  I think most of us understand you are not the kind of person to give up on a dog and LOL on you final thought.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 3, 2023 14:44:26 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Oct 3, 2023 10:07:23 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

That was impressive fast.  I think it would take me 6 months to pack up my house.

I didn't give myself much time on purpose. Otherwise I would still be just thinking about boxing up stuff.

Idk what would’ve happened if my daughter hadn’t taken charge and started packing my stuff just 2 or 3 days before I was supposed to move here. I had bought plenty of boxes and tape, I just didn’t know where to start. Once she got me started, I was able to get to it. Because it took so long for me to even get started, I was up all night the day before the move, still packing boxes.

If not for my daughter, I might have still been turning in circles even that night, trying to figure out where to start lol.

[raeoflyte]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

I'm sorry drama.

[countrygirl2]

We donated all the toys in the bags to a local church down the street. They thanked us a lot, I may add some nice clothing to it.

Hubs fixed he and DD dinner, I'm not really hungry, later I might whip up one of those chef boy ar dee pizzas. But this head ache has me not so happy right now.

[raeoflyte]

Venting...

Bosses boss messaged me yesterday: "I'd like to keep you on board till xxx is final approved. Perhaps tomorrow if that works for you." I responded: "yes, that works! I'm hoping we'll have approval today, but whatever works best on your end."

No response. We got final approval yesterday- lots of communication sent to him on status last night and this morning- again no response. This morning hr reaches out to me directly and says I verbally gave my resignation to bosses boss and asks when is my last day? So I told her today. He's the one that said today!

He finally called me just now, and he apparently was hoping I'd stay on through his vacation that I didn't even know about. Honestly it so perfectly sums up the last 13 months here. I tried to communicate repeatedly. I would have stayed on another week, or 3 if he had said anything or even just responded to anything I sent asking me to wait till he had more time to talk to me.

[triciacus]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

I'm so sorry for your loss, may he RIP 🙏

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 3, 2023 16:17:36 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Oct 3, 2023 16:08:02 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

For reasons I won’t get into, I need to revisit something.

I actually went back and read my posts. On 9/29, I posted about being upset that Boy tore up the comforter on my bed. 2 days later, on 10/1, I posted that I had some issues with a coworker at work that day, then about how I didn’t get much sleep the night before because I woke up a couple hours after I first went to sleep. Some hours later, right after I finally managed to drift off to sleep again, Boy woke me up, and kept doing random stuff so that I could not sleep, which went on until I had to get up for work. By the time I posted that evening on 10/1, I was tired and grumpy, and while talking about not having had any sleep, I said I was starting to not like Boy.

By the time I read some posts the next day, which was yesterday, and started defending myself about having said I was starting to not like Boy, he and I were already buddies again. I even said in one post where I was defending myself, that he was curled up at my feet. Which actually meant practically laying on my feet, to the point, I stayed where I was for a while, so I wouldn’t wake him up.

I guess I’m the only person in the world that gets aggravated and vents about temporary feelings regarding a source of aggravation. Feelings so temporary, in this instance, that they didn’t even last 24 hours. Feelings that I didn’t even act on, in any way, because even though Boy was on my nerves, I knew that he doesn’t purposefully aggravate me, he’s just a dog, and a young one at that.  He is still learning and lot of stuff he does, is because he just doesn’t know any better yet, and a lot of that is our fault, which I have repeatedly acknowledged when I bitch about him being a PITA. 

I know that most of you were understanding, because you know or can imagine how puppies can be frustrating sometimes, have read enough of my posts to believe that I genuinely love dogs (more than most people, in fact) and would never mistreat my own dog, or for whatever reason that led you to not judge me harshly……  and I appreciate that. And to those posters, I apologize for even bringing it up again.

But there is a reason I brought it up again, publicly. I will leave it at that.

Except to say that maybe I should start viewing persistently offensive people like I view untrained dogs that don’t know how to act, and consider that maybe they just don’t know any better either. 

Could Boy sleep in a crate at night so he doesn’t wake you up?  

He’s past the crying stage now, I think.

He is not last the crying stage. He still whines for a few minutes sometime when Mister brings him back to the bedroom with me, when Mister leaves for work. 

He most definitely would whine and cry if he couldn’t sleep in the same room as Mister at night. Mister might whine and cry too lol. He never got use to being in a crate, because he learned that if he whined and cried, Mister would let him out. So, instead of using a crate, we leave him in the laundry room and close the pocket door to the rest of the house, when we leave home. I am still adamant that he and Newbie not both be loose in the house when we aren’t home. They get along, he seems to think she’s his Mom or something. If he’s not snuggling with a human, he’s snuggling with her lol. But sometimes, their “playing” is a little too rough for me and Mister both and we make them stop. He has had scratches on him from them “playing”, which upset my nerves and confirmed in my mind that they must always, for forever, be separated when we aren’t home, for fear that one day they might fight for real. Plus, we have both noticed that sometimes when Boy pesters Newbie when she really, really doesn’t want to be bothered, she gets a certain look that I can’t really describe, but I don’t like it. For one, her pupils get really dilated, and she just looks…. Different. So Mister or I intervene when he’s pestering her and she doesn’t want to be bothered, and we make him leave her alone. But what if we aren’t at home to intervene? Can’t let that happen. Boy knows when she’s had enough, he will literally run away from her. But why take the chance that one day he decides to stand up to her, and we aren’t home to intervene before it gets to that point? 

He is slightly taller than she is now, but she is more muscular, and he is lean, so at first glance it still looks like she is bigger than him. Her hunter instincts are stronger than his. I just don’t want either of them to hurt the other, so they will always be separated when we aren’t home, even though the crate is no longer in use and stored away. 

Anyway, back to your question (my apologies for being so long winded), after, many almost sleepless nights, I gently suggested to Mister a few days ago that he and Boy sleep in another bedroom on nights we both have to go to work the next day. Mister gets out of our bed sometimes and goes to sleep in another room (and Boy follows him) because my snoring disturbs his sleep sometimes. So I suggested that to try to improve the chances that both of us get more sleep than we would in the same bed. I finally made the suggestion because on top of everything else, Mister’s loud ass alarmS that he still doesn’t hear half the time and I have to nudge him (for him to hit snooze!) piss me off because they start at 4:45am and I don’t have to get up that early anymore since my work schedule changed. And often, when all of that starts, I’ve just managed to drift off to sleep again after being wide awake for hours.

I’m not exaggerating when I talk about how attached to Mister Boy is. He wants to be wherever Mister is. He’ll hang out with me or do his own thing for a little while if Mister is at home, but that only lasts for so long before he needs to be wherever Mister is, at least for a few minutes. His bed is on Mister’s side of the bed in our bedroom, even though sometimes he does snuggle up with Newbie on her bed, at the foot of ours. I don’t see him being able to spend a whole night not being at least in the same room as Mister.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 3, 2023 16:31:02 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Oct 3, 2023 16:08:02 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

For reasons I won’t get into, I need to revisit something.

I actually went back and read my posts. On 9/29, I posted about being upset that Boy tore up the comforter on my bed. 2 days later, on 10/1, I posted that I had some issues with a coworker at work that day, then about how I didn’t get much sleep the night before because I woke up a couple hours after I first went to sleep. Some hours later, right after I finally managed to drift off to sleep again, Boy woke me up, and kept doing random stuff so that I could not sleep, which went on until I had to get up for work. By the time I posted that evening on 10/1, I was tired and grumpy, and while talking about not having had any sleep, I said I was starting to not like Boy.

By the time I read some posts the next day, which was yesterday, and started defending myself about having said I was starting to not like Boy, he and I were already buddies again. I even said in one post where I was defending myself, that he was curled up at my feet. Which actually meant practically laying on my feet, to the point, I stayed where I was for a while, so I wouldn’t wake him up.

I guess I’m the only person in the world that gets aggravated and vents about temporary feelings regarding a source of aggravation. Feelings so temporary, in this instance, that they didn’t even last 24 hours. Feelings that I didn’t even act on, in any way, because even though Boy was on my nerves, I knew that he doesn’t purposefully aggravate me, he’s just a dog, and a young one at that.  He is still learning and lot of stuff he does, is because he just doesn’t know any better yet, and a lot of that is our fault, which I have repeatedly acknowledged when I bitch about him being a PITA. 

I know that most of you were understanding, because you know or can imagine how puppies can be frustrating sometimes, have read enough of my posts to believe that I genuinely love dogs (more than most people, in fact) and would never mistreat my own dog, or for whatever reason that led you to not judge me harshly……  and I appreciate that. And to those posters, I apologize for even bringing it up again.

But there is a reason I brought it up again, publicly. I will leave it at that.

Except to say that maybe I should start viewing persistently offensive people like I view untrained dogs that don’t know how to act, and consider that maybe they just don’t know any better either. 

As a dog owner myself, I read it that you were frustrated with him in the moment, not as a forever thing.  You have had a lot on your plate of late.  I think most of us understand you are not the kind of person to give up on a dog and LOL on you final thought.

Thank you for your understanding and grace.

And   on the last part.

[ners]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

I am so sorry NomoreDramaQ1015

[andi9899]

Oct 3, 2023 15:19:31 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Oct 3, 2023 15:06:03 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I am sorry.  Apparently he was not competent to sign a will.

I think we missed our window.  I had a feeling that the day he was talking about the restaurant with the nurses was that last burst of energy people get right before the end but I wasn't going to say that out loud.   It's so hard to know. 

It is what it is.  Dad is right at least the nursing home doesn't get it all so there is that final screw you.   We'll cross the probate bridge when/if it comes.   Right now I have more immediate concerns.  I  trust the Medicaid lady when she says don't add it onto my list she's got the experience.  If she said worry then I'd worry.  It would have been easier to skip over her and also would have protected GU's assets but when has ANYTHING with these two taken the easy route?

ETA:  And to beat the dead horse this is why you set things up appropriately long before you get to this point.  I am not against his money going to his care but it is absolutely rubbish IMHO that it will all end up going to the state of Iowa for grandma's care because neither one of them stopped to think about the fact that naming an equally old fart as the beneficiary of your assets instead of your grown son/uncle or his daughter was a REALLY fucking dumb plan.

I have my dad on everything. I'm waiting for the girls to get responsible enough to name them. They are currently contingents. Did they not name contingents?

[daisylu]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

So sorry, for many reasons.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

Oh dear! I read your posts from earlier today, and was still trying to figure out what I could say besides offering you a  .

Now this. I don’t have the words to express how much I feel for you right now. So all I know to say is that I am so sorry for all the mess with your Grandmother, and about your GU passing. While it’s absolutely true, it feels to me, so trite for me to say, but it’s honestly all I can come up with right now.

I know so many things are complicated for you right now and that you struggle sometimes, dealing with everything that’s going on in your life, but I encourage you to just hold on. Feel what you feel, and work through it. You are very smart, and very capable, the practical stuff that’s causing you so much angst, will one day be in the past.

You said earlier today (I think) that it gets difficult for you to practice self care when so much shit is going on in your life. I understand, because it’s the same for me too. But Imma encourage you to try to make it a priority anyway.

My condolences to you and your family about GU.

And I offer as many   as you can endure.

[TheOtherMe]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

I'm sorry, Drama.  

[wvugurl26]

I'm sorry drama. I understand it's hard but I hope you can do something for you.

[weltz]

My son is still a crying mess, and blaming himself for his friend's death.

[cooper88]

NomoreDramaQ1015 I'm so sorry for your loss

[cooper88]

Oct 3, 2023 18:27:11 GMT -5 weltz said:

My son is still a crying mess, and blaming himself for his friend's death.

Hugs to your son. That's a huge shock and loss to him. I hope through healing he will not blame himself and can find peace.

[taz157]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

I’m sorry Drama. ((((Hugs))))

[weltz]

Oct 3, 2023 18:36:02 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

Oct 3, 2023 18:27:11 GMT -5 weltz said:

My son is still a crying mess, and blaming himself for his friend's death.

Hugs to your son. That's a huge shock and loss to him. I hope through healing he will not blame himself and can find peace.

Thank you.  He keeps saying 'If only I had answered that last text! I could have saved him!"
Nothing I can say or do to make him feel better.

[countrygirl2]

Got a call from the title company, PO is going to close Monday, they need a copy of my operating agreement for the LLC.

I'm going to fix that pizza with just cheese and mushrooms, the way I like them. Have to let the dough raise for 5 minutes.

I'm still whining about the after effects of the shot I received. Still don't feel good, sigh.

[Opti]

Oct 3, 2023 18:27:11 GMT -5 weltz said:

My son is still a crying mess, and blaming himself for his friend's death.

I hope you can remind him Fentanyl is a fast and deadly drug. Unless he was sitting next to him with Narcan, it likely would have ended the same way. Tell him its OK to grieve, but not OK to blame himself.

[flamingo]

Oct 3, 2023 16:35:04 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well he's gone. My dad is at the nursing home dealing with paperwork.

I will take off Thursday to go with him.to tell grandma.

What a mess.

I’m so sorry  

[countrygirl2]

I would love to have another lab or part lab and rottie like my last one. I miss my old dog so much but he was 16, had a long, good life with us.

[weltz]

Oct 3, 2023 18:48:02 GMT -5 Opti said:

Oct 3, 2023 18:27:11 GMT -5 weltz said:

My son is still a crying mess, and blaming himself for his friend's death.

I hope you can remind him Fentanyl is a fast and deadly drug. Unless he was sitting next to him with Narcan, it likely would have ended the same way. Tell him its OK to grieve, but not OK to blame himself.

All these scenarios are playing out in his mind.
"Maybe that last text was his final cry for help, and I didn't answer!"

[flamingo]

Today is my first day of what will basically be a month straight of work travel. I woke up today thinking it was only 3 weeks,  but by the end of the day I got roped in to covering an event for a colleague who was tripled booked AND got an invite to speak to a group on the 31st. And in my down time I’m interviewing people for our open positions. I really hope we have some good candidates, because I know I can’t keep this pace up for long. 

on the other hand, my Marriott account is full of points and I can’t wait to use them for a vacation with DH when in the new year!

[azucena]

A cold took me out starting on Sun and I took a second pto day today. Covid tests have been negative. Sure wish I'd feel better though. Have to work at least half day tomorrow.