what are you doing right now?

[countrygirl2]

Watching filmrise tonight, lot of decent shows on it.

Hope I can sleep well tonight when I finally go to bed.

[Pink Cashmere]

Last night, I don’t remember what time I went to sleep, but I woke up at 2am and couldn’t go back to sleep. I finally got out of bed for a little while, because that is what is suggested for people with sleep issues like mine. 

When I went back in the bedroom to try to go back to sleep, Boy was snuggled up on my bed. Which pissed me off, because he clearly knows Mister and I have different ideas about him being on beds, and I felt like the moment I left the room, he thought “she’s gone, I can get on the bed now”. So I was not quiet about telling him to get off my bed, which woke Mister up while Boy was ignoring me, and even with Mister telling him to get off the bed, Boy ignored him too, and Mister basically had to wrestle with him to get him off the bed. 

Imma be honest and say that REALLY pissed me off. I managed to finally drift off to sleep sometime after 5am, and I woke up before 6am because Boy was chewing on something that was obviously hard, instead of sleeping. After that, it was him scratching and putting his paws on the mattress on Mister’s side of the bed to wake Mister up, and Mister telling him to go back to bed, and then it was time for me to get up to go to work, and I was angry and looking stupid because I hadn’t had any real sleep since 2am.

I hate to say it, but if I’m honest, I have to say that I am starting to kind of not like Boy. I’ve had a lot of dogs, and OG was the first dog that I’d ever lived with that I liked just because I like dogs, but wasn’t all that happy about living with. And Boy is even more problematic than OG was. OG at least wasn’t destructive live Boy is. 

And her being unruly in situations like unknown people being at our house to provide a see or do some work or whatever, was her protecting her home. Boy is unruly when people are here, just because. He’s not trying to protect anything. I have to put him away because he still has not learned that it’s not okay to jump on people. Why? Because Mister lets him jump on him, so Boy doesn’t understand that it is not okay. I’ve never liked my dogs jumping on me, and I trained them not to do that with me or my children, so they definitely didn’t do it to guests. I’m not even willing to try it with guests with Boy, because he still has not learned that it is not okay.

Whatever brought it up during one of Mister’s calls while I was at work today, I wasn’t happy about it, but I was honest and told him that I’m getting to the point where I don’t even like Boy. I don’t want it to be like that, and I do believe that he can be a great dog, with some training and effort. But he is smart enough to know that  Mister and I have different sets of rules, and the way that plays out with Boy’s behavior, I’m not okay with it.

OG was unruly, but at least she was not destructive and tearing up random shit in my house.

[weltz]

I hate to say it, but if I’m honest, I have to say that I am starting to kind of not like Boy.

It's not his fault...it's inconsistent messages from his people.
You're doing the same thing as people who blame pitties for being aggressive,  when the problem lies with the owners.

[toomuchreality]

Oct 1, 2023 23:17:19 GMT -5 weltz said:

I hate to say it, but if I’m honest, I have to say that I am starting to kind of not like Boy.

It's not his fault...it's inconsistent messages from his people.
You're doing the same thing as people who blame pitties for being aggressive,  when the problem lies with the owners.

She already said that. But that doesn't mean she has to like it.
I'm not trying to argue, just making a point.

[weltz]

Oct 1, 2023 23:39:34 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Oct 1, 2023 23:17:19 GMT -5 weltz said:

I hate to say it, but if I’m honest, I have to say that I am starting to kind of not like Boy.

It's not his fault...it's inconsistent messages from his people.
You're doing the same thing as people who blame pitties for being aggressive,  when the problem lies with the owners.

She already said that. But that doesn't mean she has to like it.
I'm not trying to argue, just making a point.

She's putting the blame where it doesn't belong.  If she says yes, Mister says no.  If Mister says yes, Pink says no. The poor pup doesn't know if he's coming or going.

[msventoux]

Oct 2, 2023 0:19:08 GMT -5 weltz said:

Oct 1, 2023 23:39:34 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

She already said that. But that doesn't mean she has to like it.
I'm not trying to argue, just making a point.

She's putting the blame where it doesn't belong.  If she says yes, Mister says no.  If Mister says yes, Pink says no. The poor pup doesn't know if he's coming or going.

I think he’s smarter than you give him credit.  Having witnessed a similar situation growing up, the dog was perfectly well-mannered and behaved beautifully the weeks my dad was away at work.  When my dad was home the dog was a destructive asshole that didn’t follow commands at all. He took his cues of what was acceptable from the leader of the household, which he saw as my dad when he was home and my mom when my dad wasn’t around. 

The problem 100% lies in the behavior of the owners, but dogs are generally smart enough to take advantage of inconsistencies between their humans.  I suspect much like children. 

[weltz]

The poor puppers has been trying to cope with the inconsistent expectations of his owners. Then trying to cope with all the toxic stress and tension in the house. Now he's trying to cope with with Pink suddenly not liking him. You think he hasn't picked up on that?
He's expressing his anxiety in the only way he knows how....destructive behaviour.
If I could take that dog, I would.  He doesn't deserve this.

[finnime]

Good morning, active and able invisipeeps, keeping the world afloat. Welcome to Monday. I hope your day flows smoothly and allows you to frolic.

I'm glad, TheOtherMe, that you're on the mend.

I'm sorry to read about your dad, flamingo. I hope all goes well for him.

Yesterday was a very good day at the fair. I only sold a few things but a number of people were very interested in a large format print on canvas that I had up front. It was there because the wind was high in gusts, a real problem for a vendor booth. We had to not put up for display many pictures or they'd blow down. But the crowd was good, there was no rain, and the beach down the hill was lovely.

DSis came and spent the last couple of hours with us then helped break down the booth. Afterwards we went out for dinner. We celebrated lobster week--I got a fabulous 1.5 pound lobster dinner.

Due to needing to pack up the car Franklin the Dog and I did not get to the beach yesterday. This shot I took a year ago here at dawn. I like the path the sun lays down on the rocks, bringing up their color.

[andi9899]

Oct 1, 2023 21:22:57 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Oct 1, 2023 21:18:38 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Because I was a nerd, I read the book before I saw the movie. 

And after having done both, I still didn’t get the reference, and thought you were just being andi lol.

I got the reference, so I was going to ask if the pinata was a horse?

It was actually a Llama, but the intent was understood.

[toomuchreality]

Oct 2, 2023 4:47:32 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Oct 1, 2023 21:22:57 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

I got the reference, so I was going to ask if the pinata was a horse?

It was actually a Llama, but the intent was understood.

That works. 😄
Well done!

[andi9899]

I fell asleep super early yesterday so I'm up far too early today. Trying not to disturb the twins.

[andi9899]

Oct 2, 2023 2:20:49 GMT -5 weltz said:

The poor puppers has been trying to cope with the inconsistent expectations of his owners. Then trying to cope with all the toxic stress and tension in the house. Now he's trying to cope with with Pink suddenly not liking him. You think he hasn't picked up on that?
He's expressing his anxiety in the only way he knows how....destructive behaviour.
If I could take that dog, I would.  He doesn't deserve this.

She's already said that he's picked up on the inconsistencies of his humans. Only the humans can change that. She's aware. He's also being destructive because he's a puppy and that's what they do. Macy tore up a washcloth the other day. Does that mean I'm an abusive asshole she needs to suddenly be saved from at 7 yo? No. She's very well taken care of.

If I'm being honest, I don't like the twins all the time. Hell, I don't even like my kids all the time. Does that mean that I don't love them? No. I would say that pinks dogs are loved and cared for. Boy is receiving inconsistent messages, so he's getting away with what he can. Stop trying to portray her as an animal abuser because she isn't.

[bean29]

Oct 1, 2023 18:01:47 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

I'm really trying hard to come up with something for DH's birthday. He doesn't want anything. He doesn't need anything. He is so damn hard to shop for. Then rinse and repeat for Christmas. I can usually come up with something useful, which is what he prefers, but I'm just coming up blank this year.

I feel you. I am horrible at Gifts. DS turns 30 this year. His GF is doing 30 Gifts in 30 days. I have 27 days to think of something.

[giramomma]

 Pink, I am sorry you had to deal with that at work. It's a lot of what I am seeing and dealing with. Though, the lies aren't out and out malicious. It's more what I experience with mom. Changing the narrative to fit your needs so you can get your dysfunctional hit off of them. And that being the basis for my discipline.

You are lucky that you do things without worrying about your job.

I actually know now, that I will likely have to talk to someone at the VP of the company level to discuss what I've been seeing.

Even then I don't think anything will happen. And I will try.

[daisylu]

Manager is asking about remaining PTO. I am glad that I looked it up, as I thought I had 6 days remaining but actually have 7. No plans, but will use to extend some weekends.

[raeoflyte]

Oct 2, 2023 2:20:49 GMT -5 weltz said:

The poor puppers has been trying to cope with the inconsistent expectations of his owners. Then trying to cope with all the toxic stress and tension in the house. Now he's trying to cope with with Pink suddenly not liking him. You think he hasn't picked up on that?
He's expressing his anxiety in the only way he knows how....destructive behaviour.
If I could take that dog, I would.  He doesn't deserve this.

I think you would be very happy volunteering at an animal shelter.

[raeoflyte]

Oct 2, 2023 5:46:44 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Oct 1, 2023 18:01:47 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

I'm really trying hard to come up with something for DH's birthday. He doesn't want anything. He doesn't need anything. He is so damn hard to shop for. Then rinse and repeat for Christmas. I can usually come up with something useful, which is what he prefers, but I'm just coming up blank this year.

I feel you. I am horrible at Gifts. DS turns 30 this year. His GF is doing 30 Gifts in 30 days. I have 27 days to think of something.

30 gifts? For an adults birthday? I don't think I have words.

Although I guess I hope your son is good at Gifts too because I'm thinking his gf considers that her love language.

[raeoflyte]

Next 2 weekends must be spent on Halloween costuming. I blinked and I'm really behind.

Also trying to fit I'm a trip to MN to see the family farm at the tail end of harvest when the kids have a few days off. Not exactly ideal timing with my job changes but always putting work first is a recipe for becoming a bitter old lady. And I'm too far down that path already. Unfortunately being poor can lead you to the same spot, but hopefully we can avoid that.

[daisylu]

Just did 50 toe touches. Man, I am out of shape. Aiming for 10 minutes of semi difficult movement every 2 hours, starting today. Next up - squats. 

[minnesotapaintlady]

I need some coffee.  I'm still not used to having an hours worth of barn chores before work in the morning.   I used to do that (more actually) every single day, but it's been a long time.  Tomorrow I can go back to being my normal morning slug.  I'm just happy the one old horse made it until they came back.  He's 39 and looks like he could go any day.

[toomuchreality]

Oct 2, 2023 8:05:58 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Just did 50 toe touches. Man, I am out of shape. Aiming for 10 minutes of semi difficult movement every 2 hours, starting today. Next up - squats. 

I put on my own shoes, by myself, last spring. Are you impressed?
😄😄😄

[daisylu]

Oct 2, 2023 8:20:04 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Oct 2, 2023 8:05:58 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Just did 50 toe touches. Man, I am out of shape. Aiming for 10 minutes of semi difficult movement every 2 hours, starting today. Next up - squats. 

I put on my own shoes, by myself, last spring. Are you impressed?
😄😄😄

The journey of a thousand miles, and all that crap. 

[toomuchreality]

Oct 2, 2023 8:23:55 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Oct 2, 2023 8:20:04 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

I put on my own shoes, by myself, last spring. Are you impressed?
😄😄😄

The journey of a thousand miles, and all that crap. 

Yeah. I won't be starting that journey today. That's for sure! 😄
Good luck, with all you're doing!

[ken a.k.a OMK]

Apparently I was having a hard time turning 30. My sister got me a case of beer and a six pack = 30 beers. The humor helped my attitude. 

[giramomma]

Oct 2, 2023 7:34:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Oct 2, 2023 5:46:44 GMT -5 bean29 said:

I feel you. I am horrible at Gifts. DS turns 30 this year. His GF is doing 30 Gifts in 30 days. I have 27 days to think of something.

30 gifts? For an adults birthday? I don't think I have words.

Although I guess I hope your son is good at Gifts too because I'm thinking his gf considers that her love language.

I agree, and That said, i think it depends on the gifts.

One of the nicest "gifts" I have from DH was during recovery v1. He made a card to commemorate some weird anniversary milestone. Like it's our 6 years and 5/12th anniversary. Out of printer paper. Dude is not an artist.

After everything we've been through, I'd be thrilled to have been given 30 of those things. Or 30 of anythings to make me feel special. 

And, now, I need to stop typing. Otherwise I'm going to start dwelling and go to an unproductive place.

[giramomma]

In other news: reason 456 to get out and move in the morning. You might be complemented by a very nice young man, despite being called m'am.

[raeoflyte]

Today is the official count day for our school district meaning school funding next year is based on attendance today. So dc is too sick to go. I know they have a bug, but I seriously doubt they'd be too sick if today was a weekend.

I told dh and on that bitter note 75% of the people he listed as being sick right now are fakers imo. So that didn't make me feel better about dc staying home.

[raeoflyte]

Oct 2, 2023 9:16:39 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Oct 2, 2023 7:34:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

30 gifts? For an adults birthday? I don't think I have words.

Although I guess I hope your son is good at Gifts too because I'm thinking his gf considers that her love language.

I agree, and That said, i think it depends on the gifts.

One of the nicest "gifts" I have from DH was during recovery v1. He made a card to commemorate some weird anniversary milestone. Like it's our 6 years and 5/12th anniversary. Out of printer paper. Dude is not an artist.

After everything we've been through, I'd be thrilled to have been given 30 of those things. Or 30 of anythings to make me feel special. 

And, now, I need to stop typing. Otherwise I'm going to start dwelling and go to an unproductive place.

Even little gifts/cards/coffee/etc that's a lot of head space for an adults birthday. Too much imo, but I've never been good at Gifts or overly sentimental so I'm definitely not the audience for this.

Eta - the milestone parties I've done take up a lot of head space, and are something I can do/give to people I really care about so it's worth it. And I'm really not picking on the gf because that's just her thing, it just seems like a lot.

[wvugurl26]

The 30 things would definitely take planning. I do like thoughtful little things. But yeah that would take major planning and that assumes I have my act together enough.

Today's task is tracking down rental linens so we have sheets and towels come Saturday. I didn't get the agency's package because it's $315 and when I booked I only had 3 people confirmed. I did way better last year getting my own but that company doesn't seem to do it anymore. Their website is a mess anyway.

[seriousthistime]

I once sat through a 50th birthday where a guest gave the birthday girl 50 gifts of 50 things, each with a handwritten humorous note that was read aloud.  My biggest complaint was having to sit through about half an hour of her opening a gift from one person and having to read all the notes aloud.  The birthday girl thought it was a bit much too.

You can put together 30 packets of 30 things, small stuff like 30 pieces of gum, 30 starburst candies, 30 powdered drink packets, 30 screws and picture hangers, 30 paper napkins, 30 bandaids, and other useful stuff according to his lifestyle.  Are you gifting him the 30 gifts one each day for 30 days, or 30 things to be given on the actual day?