what are you doing right now?

[andi9899]

Sept 29, 2023 14:13:22 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

My friend texted me yesterday saying it's her birthday weekend and she has no plans. This tells me that everyone else was busy so she's asking me. I don't want her to not do anything for her birthday, so I agreed to go out with her. I don't really want to the more I think about it. Ugh!

This bitch just canceled on me! I didn't even open the text message. I know I didn't want to go, but how shitty is that?! You couldn't find anyone to celebrate your birthday so you ask me, then when someone becomes available you cancel?! Well, at least now I don't have to comb my hair.

[NastyWoman]

Sitting at a red light coming home I just had a   moment. I was on the way back from Costco and, as is so often the case,I had wildly overspend. Granted I now have a number of Xmas presents, my shearling slippers have been replaced and yada, yada, yada. But I had a shopping list! Since I just about always buy extra things when I go there it was not the money spend that that bugged me but the fact that I bother with a shopping list at all. And that is when the   moment struck. My list is NOT a shopping list in the traditional sense at all: it is a "do not forget" list and now I am proud to say that every item on that list made it into my shopping cart 

[countrygirl2]

Son said they finally have a contingency plan. He had to put his time sheet in for the coming month in as "on furlough". He said 2 days notice. I said will you work anyway? He said I cannot, can't use my government phone, nor my government computer or I get in trouble. Wow, what a mess the repubs have created once again.

He has money back, but what about those not in such a good financial situation? He said it could screw up security clearances if the guys get behind on payments and things. I haven't talked to him again, I'm not sure he has been wholly informed yet.  Their duties have a lot to do with implementing, training, and supplying. 

[NastyWoman]

Sept 29, 2023 16:26:00 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 29, 2023 14:13:22 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

My friend texted me yesterday saying it's her birthday weekend and she has no plans. This tells me that everyone else was busy so she's asking me. I don't want her to not do anything for her birthday, so I agreed to go out with her. I don't really want to the more I think about it. Ugh!

This bitch just canceled on me! I didn't even open the text message. I know I didn't want to go, but how shitty is that?! You couldn't find anyone to celebrate your birthday so you ask me, then when someone becomes available you cancel?! Well, at least now I don't have to comb my hair.

Block her and be done with her. She is not worth the aggravation. Now you can be nice about it and leave it at that. I would send her a text telling her politely (I really mean that -politely) what I had done and why bug that is just me.

[countrygirl2]

I would too, someone would only do that to me once.

[andi9899]

Sept 29, 2023 15:45:21 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 29, 2023 15:40:00 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Dad had dementia and was deaf.  On the calls where he had to give me permission to talk to them, I would write down the answers to the questions and he would read the answer to them.

To enroll in his Part D premiums every year, he had to repeat a rather long statement back to the rep on the phone.  I told the rep you will have to do this in 2 or 3 words at a time or it won't happen.  I was writing it down for dad to read and it's the only way it got done.  I had a POA on file for this company.  

The people you deal with doing these things with the elderly, seem to have no idea of how life works for them.

I know with Covid vaccines, until they became plentiful, appointments could only be made online and no walk-ins.  If they ever get the rollout of the new one working correctly, it will probably be the same thing.

We finally found GUs COVID vaccine record fat lot of good it does us now.   He got the J&J when they were going door to door vaccinating elderly people.  Which likely means grandma had the J&J too because she got it while iving with him.

But we never found her card and apparently Public Health never bothered to put them in the system because holy Mary of God was it a nightmare with the nursing home.  I was like just give her a damn booster it's not going to hurt anything!  We know it was roughly X amount of months since she had whatever she had originally.  We consent to the damn shot just give her the F-ing thing!

NOOOO they wanted online documentation stating she had it.  

You'd be better off saying she didn't have it and letting them give her the initial course. Can you talk to someone else and lie?

[andi9899]

Sept 29, 2023 16:33:08 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sitting at a red light coming home I just had a   moment. I was on the way back from Costco and, as is so often the case,I had wildly overspend. Granted I now have a number of Xmas presents, my shearling slippers have been replaced and yada, yada, yada. But I had a shopping list! Since I just about buy extra things when I go there it was not tbe money spend that that bugged me but the fact that I bother with a shopping list at all. And that is when the   moment struck. My list is NOT a shopping list in the traditional sense at all: it is a "do not forget" and now I am proud to say that every item on that list made it into my shopping cart 

Sams and Target are 2 places I buy curbside from for this same reason. If I don't have to walk into the store, I don't.

[andi9899]

Sept 29, 2023 16:37:12 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 29, 2023 16:26:00 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

This bitch just canceled on me! I didn't even open the text message. I know I didn't want to go, but how shitty is that?! You couldn't find anyone to celebrate your birthday so you ask me, then when someone becomes available you cancel?! Well, at least now I don't have to comb my hair.

Block her and be done with her. She is not worth the aggravation. Now you can be nice about it and leave it at that. I would send her a text telling her politely (I really mean that -politely) what I had done and why bug that is just me.

It's not really that simple. She's a very good friend of mine and we have lots of friends in common. I'm not going to throw a friendship away for one incident. I'll be thinking twice before inviting her to my next outing though.

ETA: I will be talking mad shit on Monday when I see a mutual friend.

[Opti]

Sept 29, 2023 16:26:00 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 29, 2023 14:13:22 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

My friend texted me yesterday saying it's her birthday weekend and she has no plans. This tells me that everyone else was busy so she's asking me. I don't want her to not do anything for her birthday, so I agreed to go out with her. I don't really want to the more I think about it. Ugh!

This bitch just canceled on me! I didn't even open the text message. I know I didn't want to go, but how shitty is that?! You couldn't find anyone to celebrate your birthday so you ask me, then when someone becomes available you cancel?! Well, at least now I don't have to comb my hair.

You told the universe you did not want to go, and it helped you out. I'd celebrate the win as it would be different if you were really looking forward to going.

[Pink Cashmere]

Ever since I first got serious about training dogs years ago, I’ve read that the way dog brains work, it’s imperative that you “catch” them in the act, to discourage bad behavior, because if they get “in trouble” later, they don’t understand what they did wrong.

So SOMEBODY please explain to me whyyyyyy, if Boy is following Mister or I around the house and he suddenly flattens his ears and gets low to the ground, then takes off running, it 100% means to look for something nearby that he’s done. If it’s near the living room that it happens, it’s guaranteed that there is something in the floor in there, that doesn’t belong. A shoe, or something he took in there and tore up.

This evening, he happily followed me down through the house to my bedroom. When I got in the bedroom and saw my bed, I turned and looked at him where he was standing in the doorway, and his ears got flat, he got low, and took off running. Why? Because my $200 comforter had a huge hole in it and the insides pulled out and scattered on the bed. I didn’t even say anything, all I did was look at the bed, and then look at him.

He tells on himself!

But how does that work with the train of thought that dogs don’t know what they did wrong unless you catch them in the act of doing it? He very clearly knows when he’s done something we won’t be happy about, and if we don’t see it immediately, his behavior tells us to look for it, because we are near the scene of a “crime”. And every single time, he’s actually done something.

I am upset about the comforter. I left everything just like it was, for Mister to see, he got home late today because he went somewhere after work. Both dogs happily greeted him at the door and eagerly followed him, like I knew they would, when I told him come on back to the bedroom. When we all got to the bedroom, Newbie came in and was still all wiggly, but Boy stopped at the door, his ears got flat, he got low, and he took off running to the front of the house. 

To be clear, his reaction is not because we are abusive when he does something wrong. We might fuss at him when we see him doing something wrong, and tell him he is a bad boy in a serious voice, but that’s it. We didn’t “rub his nose in it” when he was being house trained, and we’ve never hit any of our dogs. He just does not like it when we are not pleased with him, and he obviously knows when he has done something we won’t be pleased with, when we are on the verge of discovering it.

I’ve had my fair share of dogs, and all of them were true to the “you need to catch them while they are doing it” line of thought. I have NEVER had a dog tell on himself/herself, after doing something they very clearly know they shouldn’t have. 

It use to seem like it wounded Boy’s soul just to say “Did you do this”, like it was even a question. Now you don’t even have to say anything, he gives it away as soon as he thinks you even MIGHT be close to seeing that he did, in fact, do something.

He really IS a darn PEST! 

So now I’m looking at Mister, hoping he knows that I expect him to replace the comforter that his Boo destroyed. And I don’t want to hear any noise about the cost. Part of the reason Boy is so unruly and such a pest is because his most favorite person in the whole world (Mister) refuses to be consistent with training and correcting him, even if I take the lead. He and Boy both know that I don’t want him on my bed, but I can walk in there, and Boy is lounging on the bed, while Mister is in there. And when Boy sees me, he gets off the bed, which imo, means he knows that Mister and I aren’t on the same page with our expectations. Which sounds stupid, when I’m talking about a darn dog, and not even a child. I still didn’t expect that he would tear the comforter up, so I don’t know what that’s about.

And to put icing on the cake, even after I saw the comforter and he took off running, he had to have gotten on the bed again at some point, because when we went back in there after Mister got home, one of Mister’s pillows was at the foot of the bed. Which I did not do, and it wasn’t there when I first saw that Boy had destroyed the comforter. TF?!

[giramomma]

Operation no little people has begun.

I have to fetch DS and I am taking some nyquil so I can sleep. Anxiety is keeping me up. I think work stress, compounded with scanxiety and hormonal wackiness is messing with me. I've been waking up at night about every two hours to have complete conversations in my brain for the past two nights.

Thank goodness my oncologist appointment is coming up. Besides meds for myself, I need to talk about BC options for DD1, and getting DS genetically tested.

[susana1954]

I'm tired. I substituted 7 out of the last 10 working days and several before that.  I'm not really teaching . . . just supervising so it is boring, boring, boring.  

But I want to replace my kitchen floor, which will cost about $3000.  It will cost almost as much as that to replace it with good sheet vinyl so I might as well get the luxury vinyl planks in this house, too.  I loved that aspect of my old house.  But that was only $14k for the entire house including stairs back in 2019.  Inflation, I guess.

I could take it out of savings, but I don't want to.  

So I keep on showing up.

[Works4me]

Pink - maybe Boy is reacting to the tension?

ETA: Interesting what he did with Master's pillow and that it was your comforter.

[Works4me]

Sept 29, 2023 19:24:31 GMT -5 susana1954 said:

I'm tired. I substituted 7 out of the last 10 working days and several before that.  I'm not really teaching . . . just supervising so it is boring, boring, boring.  

But I want to replace my kitchen floor, which will cost about $3000.  It will cost almost as much as that to replace it with good sheet vinyl so I might as well get the luxury vinyl planks in this house, too.  I loved that aspect of my old house.  But that was only $14k for the entire house including stairs back in 2019.  Inflation, I guess.

I could take it out of savings, but I don't want to.  

So I keep on showing up.

Susana - keeps you off the streets & out of trouble. One of the reasons I can't wait to move back to California is due to new paint & LVP flooring. 😎

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 29, 2023 17:03:13 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 29, 2023 15:45:21 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

We finally found GUs COVID vaccine record fat lot of good it does us now.   He got the J&J when they were going door to door vaccinating elderly people.  Which likely means grandma had the J&J too because she got it while iving with him.

But we never found her card and apparently Public Health never bothered to put them in the system because holy Mary of God was it a nightmare with the nursing home.  I was like just give her a damn booster it's not going to hurt anything!  We know it was roughly X amount of months since she had whatever she had originally.  We consent to the damn shot just give her the F-ing thing!

NOOOO they wanted online documentation stating she had it.  

You'd be better off saying she didn't have it and letting them give her the initial course. Can you talk to someone else and lie?

That Was shortly after she was admitted and we were on whatever number booster for her age group at that point.

She was fine getting it so they poked her because she gave consent and dropped it.

Why couldnt they have just asked her the first time IDK. Why three weeks of constant phone calls IDK.

It's just one example in a line of Bs in elder care that makes me think I went through the door into the twilight zone.

I swear this is all on purpose and they are in cahoots with DHS. The goal being keep you buried in red tape long enough the person will die before anything pays out.

[raeoflyte]

Pink - I think it's because the training you've done has sunk in, even if it's not consistent yet.

I've told about my dog that would spoon with dh when I'd leave for work, but she'd jump right out of bed if she heard me turn the key because I forgot something. They can get very good with different rules with different people.

Sorry about the comforter.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 29, 2023 19:26:02 GMT -5 Works4me said:

Pink - maybe Boy is reacting to the tension in the home?

Idk, maybe. But the truth is that he’s been a PEST from day one lol. 

I’m not totally unreasonable, so for a while, I said it was just because he was a puppy. 

But now that he is over a year old, I think most of his bad behavior is more our fault than his. He has proven that he knows exactly what we want him to do when we give him commands, and he knows many of our expectations, but because we are not consistent, he thinks he can choose whether or not to obey. That is our fault.

There is also the fact that our household has not been “normal” since a couple of weeks after we got him. Mister’s Mom went in the hospital a couple of weeks later, and things spiraled from there. Which is why I allowed a lot of things that I normally wouldn’t have, because it became so obvious that Boy was a huge source of comfort to Mister when things started going downhill with his parents.

So Boy has never really not been unruly and a pest. Mister and I have different ideas on training and expectations with dogs, and it was hard for me to put my foot down with Mister regarding training Boy, when Boy was very clearly a source of comfort for Mister while Mister’s world was falling apart and Mister seemed to just want to love on Boy and just enjoy all the exuberant love Boy had/has for him. 

Unfortunately, there hasn’t been a time since after the first couple of weeks after we brought Boy home, that our household has been “normal”. And the shit with his humans since he came to live with us, has gotten steadily worse, instead of better. Of course we didn’t know all of this stuff was going to happen when we first brought him home, but even with all of that, and him being a pest and unruly, he is in a safe, loving home, which is more than I’m comfortable saying about his siblings from that litter of puppies. Our home might not be perfect, because of all the shit we have going on, but he is taken care of, very well. The other puppies in his litter, went to random homes, with whoever was willing to take them, whether they were responsible pet owners or not, just to get rid of them. So even with all the shit going on in my household, I still feel like we are giving him a better life than some or most of his litter mates have, especially since he is a “pit bull” type of dog, which a lot of people want for all the wrong reasons.

I don’t regret getting him because even though he works my nerves on a regular basis, he is still very lovable, and even though I thought he would be “my” dog, when we got him, I am grateful for how he has always been a bright spot in Mister’s days while he’s been going through so much. 

So to answer your question after being long winded , Boy has always been unruly and a pest. He might be sensitive to the fact that things are even worse in our household now, but he’s always been destructive and tore stuff up. But not my bed linens, so it is entirely possible that he is acting out now because it’s obvious that Mister and I both are kind of crazy right now.

I really don’t know. But what I do know, is that I expect Mister to replace the expensive (to me) comforter with one of my choosing.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Ugh.  I have to get Carrot on a bus at 5:30 am tomorrow.  Neither one of us are morning people, so these days are never fun. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 29, 2023 20:00:29 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Pink - I think it's because the training you've done has sunk in, even if it's not consistent yet.

I've told about my dog that would spoon with dh when I'd leave for work, but she'd jump right out of bed if she heard me turn the key because I forgot something. They can get very good with different rules with different people.

Sorry about the comforter.

I don’t feel like the training I’ve done has really sunk in though, besides making me the bad guy. He still ignores my commands when it comes to doing what he really wants to do, vs what I’m telling him to do. 

Like, I let the garage door up a couple days ago, and he shot out of the garage and ran next door to the T’s house. Newbie ran out of the garage too, but she stopped and came back when I told her to. 

Boy ignored me, and I didn’t know why until I saw Mrs. T’s legs on the other side if her vehicle. I ran over to get Boy and kept apologizing to her, and she said it was okay, she just got startled when she felt something at her butt, which was Boy’s nasty ass sticking is nose up her butt, because he is weird and obsessed with dogs’ and people’s asses. 

Newbie has a very strong prey drive, but if I call her, she will stop running full speed to get to whatever she’s after, and come back to me. Boy is not the same kind of hunter, but his recall is shit, just because he doesn’t want to come back. 

Would you like a cute, cuddly, doggie named Boy?

I ask that, knowing that Mister would kill me if I gave Boy away lol.

[countrygirl2]

My bones and joints are hurting tonight. Hasn't happened for awhile, looks like the barometer is going up, any rapid movements up or down causes this pain. Hope it doesn't last for long.

I'm trying to watch a show on prime tonight, but there is more commercials than show I believe.  It seems to be getting worse.

I put up a fridge and small icemaker for sale this afternoon, have sold them both. And to people I know so no problem with payment.

I'm going to list some clothes on facebook to and see how I do. I know some girls that are doing that with all theirs and seem to do better than yard sales.

[toomuchreality]

Sept 28, 2023 12:56:20 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 28, 2023 12:50:50 GMT -5 giramomma said:

So. I feel bad, again.

It's work stress, bad headache on one side, teeth hurt yada yada.

I grabbed taco bell from lunch. (I know. I had bean burritos). I also wanted cinnamon twists.

The person doing orders tried to make a d*ck joke out of me ordering cinnamon twists.

And then they didn't even put them in my bag.

I'm really too old for this.

This reminded me of this. You have to read the comments! It's hilarious!

www.tiktok.com/t/ZPR7hMmXm/

OMG! My stomach hurts from laughing... out loud! Even though I read some comments multiple times, I still laughed, the next time! SO GOOD! Hahahaha 🤣
Thank you for this!
(My pleather.) 😁

[finnime]

Good morning, salty and serene invisipeeps of Y Ma'am. Welcome to Saturday, the last of September 2023. I hope your day goes well, and that all problems you encounter are solvable with ease.

It's raining. Again. And it will continue for the day. Yesterday, too, it rained and rained. But tomorrow will be nice. The fair we have a booth at was postponed until tomorrow, fortunately.

Today is my and DH's 18th anniversary of our first wedding. We married twice, the second time with many friends and family present. The first time was in church with just a small handful of family. I am glad to have him in my life and in my bed. We're going out tonight for lobster thermidore. It's national lobster week!

I revised my resume to suit the two jobs I'm applying for and reached out to a few people with whom I worked in past years asking for them to be references. I've heard from one so far. Hoping for the best.

Due to rain, again, not good pictures available. I took this one exactly one year ago, sunrise over the bay:

[toomuchreality]

Sept 29, 2023 2:20:42 GMT -5 Opti said:

Sept 28, 2023 20:43:23 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Just don't wear your nice sneakers to mow in and you'll be fine.

It's nice to be able to hire it out but it's an easy household chore too.

Cut grass really bothers my allergies, so I used to wear a mask when I mowed. Like Busymom, my mower had a grass catcher so I did not get grass on me that I remember. 

I haven't mowed grass for ages, so maybe things have greatly improved, but I remember getting grass allover me, even when I used a grass catcher. If for no other reason, the catch bag has to be emptied periodically, while you're mowing. Not every blade makes it into the grass catcher and stays, while you detach it and it. And I remember looking down and seeing my previously white sneakers, bright green! I was mortified! Although I did eventually get them clean, it wasn't easy to get the green off and it took several hard tries. They never seemed the same. I was bummed.
Will the owner of the property provide the mower and keep it sharpened and repaired? What about edging?
The lawn care and snow shoveling are two things I'd pay someone to do, if I could.
One house I lived in, required me to take care of the lawn. The landlord furnished an old push mower (no motor), for 6 units to share and she drove past several times per week, to be sure everyone was doing it, to her satisfaction. If not, she left a nasty note in your door. Then she returned the following day, to be sure you'd done it. I hate shoveling snow.
But if I could get those things done, I'd go for the house. Especially if I had dogs. Does the house have a fenced yard?

[toomuchreality]

Sept 29, 2023 3:41:46 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, intentional invisipeeps, patting your affairs into place. I hope your Friday gives you some reward for your efforts, which may include savoring soup or enjoying a non-stinky dog.

Today I've got to finalize preparing for the fair tomorrow or in case of rain, Sunday. I'm hoping for the best. The wind is supposed to be high so we are trying to figure out ways to secure our photos while on display. And DH will, he tells me, call the nurse coordinator for nephrology so we can get the information and plan for the needed surgery preparatory to peritoneal dialysis.

I'm thinking of applying for a couple of jobs at a healthcare system nearby that I have the experience to suit. Both are regular full-time positions and we could really use the income bolster. DH doesn't want me to be working 40 hours a week, but I don't have contacts up here that would allow me to do consulting. So, . . . It's unlikely that I'll get either job but I feel like I should try.

In case you need the reminder and even if you don't, the sun also rises:

Wow. Cool picture! That's beautiful! I hope you do well at the fair!

[toomuchreality]

Sept 29, 2023 16:26:00 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 29, 2023 14:13:22 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

My friend texted me yesterday saying it's her birthday weekend and she has no plans. This tells me that everyone else was busy so she's asking me. I don't want her to not do anything for her birthday, so I agreed to go out with her. I don't really want to the more I think about it. Ugh!

This bitch just canceled on me! I didn't even open the text message. I know I didn't want to go, but how shitty is that?! You couldn't find anyone to celebrate your birthday so you ask me, then when someone becomes available you cancel?! Well, at least now I don't have to comb my hair.

That sucks. Especially if it's really because someone else became available. But now, you don't have to entertain anyone, but yourself.
Are you going to throat punch her? Haha J/K. 😉

[toomuchreality]

Sept 30, 2023 4:21:03 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, salty and serene invisipeeps of Y Ma'am. Welcome to Saturday, the last of September 2023. I hope your day goes well, and that all problems you encounter are solvable with ease.

It's raining. Again. And it will continue for the day. Yesterday, too, it rained and rained. But tomorrow will be nice. The fair we have a booth at was postponed until tomorrow, fortunately.

Today is my and DH's 18th anniversary of our first wedding. We married twice, the second time with many friends and family present. The first time was in church with just a small handful of family. I am glad to have him in my life and in my bed. We're going out tonight for lobster thermidore. It's national lobster week!

I revised my resume to suit the two jobs I'm applying for and reached out to a few people with whom I worked in past years asking for them to be references. I've heard from one so far. Hoping for the best.

Due to rain, again, not good pictures available. I took this one exactly one year ago, sunrise over the bay:

Happy anniversary! Congrats!

[toomuchreality]

Sept 29, 2023 16:33:08 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sitting at a red light coming home I just had a   moment. I was on the way back from Costco and, as is so often the case,I had wildly overspend. Granted I now have a number of Xmas presents, my shearling slippers have been replaced and yada, yada, yada. But I had a shopping list! Since I just about always buy extra things when I go there it was not the money spend that that bugged me but the fact that I bother with a shopping list at all. And that is when the   moment struck. My list is NOT a shopping list in the traditional sense at all: it is a "do not forget" list and now I am proud to say that every item on that list made it into my shopping cart 

This is what my lists are for, too. "Do not forget lists"!
Yay! For getting a start on your Christmas gifts!

[toomuchreality]

Sept 29, 2023 8:47:49 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Has anyone seen tmr lately?

I think I'm getting the same annoying ads she was talking about a while back where the screen fills in with a blue frame. Hope she's still around.

Thanks for asking. I've had a killer headache for a few days, so I slept, trying to get rid of it. Unfortunately, it didn't work. I think it's caused by stress and sleeping doesn't make my stress go away. Sometimes I hate my life and the people in it. Which makes me feel bad.

How did your doctor appt go? Can you drive now and do the other things you want? I hope so.

My suggestion, if you get an old style push mower, is keep the wheels greased/oiled? And keep it sharpened. Those 2 things make a world of difference in how hard it is to use one and how long it takes to mow your grass.

I hope you are doing well.

[toomuchreality]

Sept 29, 2023 11:03:57 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I can drive!!!!

HOORAY! That's got to be a relief. Just don't push yourself too hard yet. You know, take care of you. ♡

[daisylu]

DH & I are going to a concert at the race track tonight, which means that I was up way too early.