what are you doing right now?

[chiver78]

Sept 20, 2023 19:29:34 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I am on a call for dual enrollment/dual credit opportunities.

I think these will be realistic options for DD1 in a year.

It is also boring.

I'm sorry it's boring, thank you for sitting there. if this works out for her, it's going to be hugely beneficial down the road. I got screwed (a story for another day) and ended up doing dual enrollment for just 2nd semester of my senior year. good luck to you! 

[giramomma]

Sept 20, 2023 19:39:41 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 20, 2023 19:29:34 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I am on a call for dual enrollment/dual credit opportunities.

I think these will be realistic options for DD1 in a year.

It is also boring.

I'm sorry it's boring, thank you for sitting there. if this works out for her, it's going to be hugely beneficial down the road. I got screwed (a story for another day) and ended up doing dual enrollment for just 2nd semester of my senior year. good luck to you! 

Yeah. She wants to be a teacher. She really needs to leave undergrad with no loans.

And, she's taking a really hard course load and she's bored. As a sophomore, she's in Advanced Algebra, the hardest chem, an AP history class, and whatever advanced english exists, among other courses.

I feel guilty that I had no idea she was that smart. To be fair, she goes to DH more for school things. And she flies under the radar, on purpose.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 20, 2023 19:29:34 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I am on a call for dual enrollment/dual credit opportunities.

I think these will be realistic options for DD1 in a year.

It is also boring.

That's the one thing I don't like about our private school.  They don't allow dual enrollment.  Well, they do, but you still have to take all the required HS courses, so the college classes have to be taken on your own time.  At one of the smaller public high schools near here nearly 1/3 of the students graduated HS with their associates degree.  AP classes are about it.

[chiver78]

Sept 20, 2023 19:51:31 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 20, 2023 19:29:34 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I am on a call for dual enrollment/dual credit opportunities.

I think these will be realistic options for DD1 in a year.

It is also boring.

That's the one thing I don't like about our private school.  They don't allow dual enrollment.  Well, they do, but you still have to take all the required HS courses, so the college classes have to be taken on your own time.  At one of the smaller public high schools near here nearly 1/3 of the students graduated HS with their associates degree.  AP classes are about it.

how is that a thing? dual enrollment means that your college courses count for credit toward both. 

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 20, 2023 17:50:43 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 20, 2023 15:15:20 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

As those of us with uncooperative elderly parents have learned, if they won't cooperate, they can't be forced in to a nursing home without spending money on a guardianship.

A friend of mine has been at her wit's end with her father who has dementia.  Like my dad, he also won't wear his hearing aids.  He was calling her 40 or 50 times a day and the conversation was "I can't hear you".  I remember those calls but dad never called like that.

Last week, her dad's doctor told her and her father he needed to be in a nursing home.  Father refused.  Doctor told them it will take a crisis and you will have no choice.

Monday night, he had a stroke.  The left side of his body is paralyzed. That night, she was asked if she was willing to take her father in and she said absolutely no.  Social workers are working on nursing home arrangements.  

She said she feels like the weight of the world has been lifted from her shoulders.  She was able to sleep because he wasn't calling her all night.  Now he's mad at the medical staff and not her.  She said getting fed has helped, too.  Like my dad, he wasn't eating much.   

It's too bad that we can't all do the paperwork to get us proper care when we need it--even if we don't think we need it.

This is totally going to be me. I have been telling my parents that we need to at least get medical POA in place, just in case. They refuse to talk about it. My dad says I'm worried about something that's 20 years away. Um, you're 68 and 71, you likely won't be here in 20 years. Especially my mom who refuses to take care of herself. I'm not even close to being in the worst of it. I'll likely be in a loony bin at that point.

Looney bin is very close to what my friend described.  She is an only child and mother is deceased.  So it's all been on her.

She couldn't do it any more.  She was in the ER last week with breathing issues that she was told were related to stress and she agreed with that.

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 20, 2023 18:58:32 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 20, 2023 17:50:13 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

 

But even with all of that, for over 40 years of Mister’s life, his Dad was his hero, and his Mom was his best friend. And in less than 7 months, both of them are gone from his life, permanently. A week or so ago, he said he still picks up his phone sometimes to call or text his Mom. They talked almost every day, often a few times a day. And he didn’t necessarily talk to his Dad every day, but he did at least a few days out of a week. And Mister would often go by their house just to hang out with them, and they would often stop by here when they were out and about, just to lay eyes on Mister and say Hi, even if they didn’t go through the trouble of getting his Mom up the steps in the garage, into the house. 

I can’t imagine what losing both of them must feel like for him. 

I can't either.  I would be hitting my head against the wall.

I was a kid when my maternal grandmother died but I remember hearing my mom crying in her bedroom.  I didn't understand but I do now.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 20, 2023 19:56:08 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 20, 2023 19:51:31 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

That's the one thing I don't like about our private school.  They don't allow dual enrollment.  Well, they do, but you still have to take all the required HS courses, so the college classes have to be taken on your own time.  At one of the smaller public high schools near here nearly 1/3 of the students graduated HS with their associates degree.  AP classes are about it.

how is that a thing? dual enrollment means that your college courses count for credit toward both. 

Private school can set their own rules I guess, all English, Math, Science, Social Studies and Religion courses are supposed to be taken at the HS. You can take them to fill elective spots, but they have hardly any elective spots. Basically my son would have had to drop band to take one which he didn't want to do. I hadn't looked at the handbook for several years and it now says they will look at taking math beyond Algebra 2 and elective science classes elsewhere on a case by case basis, so maybe Carrot can get some in.  He's not my academic kid though, so that might be pushing it.

It also says they're limited to one dual enrollment class per semester, and they can only be taken Jr and Sr year.

[busymom]

Sept 20, 2023 20:08:40 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 20, 2023 19:56:08 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

how is that a thing? dual enrollment means that your college courses count for credit toward both. 

Private school can set their own rules I guess, all English, Math, Science, Social Studies and Religion courses are supposed to be taken at the HS. You can take them to fill elective spots, but they have hardly any elective spots. Basically my son would have had to drop band to take one which he didn't want to do. I hadn't looked at the handbook for several years and it now says they will look at taking math beyond Algebra 2 and elective science classes elsewhere on a case by case basis, so maybe Carrot can get some in.  He's not my academic kid though, so that might be pushing it.

It also says they're limited to one dual enrollment class per semester, and they can only be taken Jr and Sr year.

   Wow, that is SO different from DD's old high school.  As long as you had transportation to "approved" junior colleges or colleges, you could literally take classes at the college campuses, and it would count towards your high school graduation, and you'd also get your college credits.  If you got rolling early, you could literally knock off 2 years of college just in time to graduate from high school.  We didn't have a car for DD at the time, or we would've done it.  She did take AP classes, so that was better than nothing, but not all of those courses were allowed for college credit.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 20, 2023 20:16:56 GMT -5 busymom said:

Sept 20, 2023 20:08:40 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Private school can set their own rules I guess, all English, Math, Science, Social Studies and Religion courses are supposed to be taken at the HS. You can take them to fill elective spots, but they have hardly any elective spots. Basically my son would have had to drop band to take one which he didn't want to do. I hadn't looked at the handbook for several years and it now says they will look at taking math beyond Algebra 2 and elective science classes elsewhere on a case by case basis, so maybe Carrot can get some in.  He's not my academic kid though, so that might be pushing it.

It also says they're limited to one dual enrollment class per semester, and they can only be taken Jr and Sr year.

   Wow, that is SO different from DD's old high school.  As long as you had transportation to "approved" junior colleges or colleges, you could literally take classes at the college campuses, and it would count towards your high school graduation, and you'd also get your college credits.  If you got rolling early, you could literally knock off 2 years of college just in time to graduate from high school.  We didn't have a car for DD at the time, or we would've done it.  She did take AP classes, so that was better than nothing, but not all of those courses were allowed for college credit.

Public school I'm assuming.  I think that's a statewide thing for the publics.

[chiver78]

Sept 20, 2023 20:16:56 GMT -5 busymom said:

Sept 20, 2023 20:08:40 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Private school can set their own rules I guess, all English, Math, Science, Social Studies and Religion courses are supposed to be taken at the HS. You can take them to fill elective spots, but they have hardly any elective spots. Basically my son would have had to drop band to take one which he didn't want to do. I hadn't looked at the handbook for several years and it now says they will look at taking math beyond Algebra 2 and elective science classes elsewhere on a case by case basis, so maybe Carrot can get some in.  He's not my academic kid though, so that might be pushing it.

It also says they're limited to one dual enrollment class per semester, and they can only be taken Jr and Sr year.

   Wow, that is SO different from DD's old high school.  As long as you had transportation to "approved" junior colleges or colleges, you could literally take classes at the college campuses, and it would count towards your high school graduation, and you'd also get your college credits.  If you got rolling early, you could literally knock off 2 years of college just in time to graduate from high school.  We didn't have a car for DD at the time, or we would've done it.  She did take AP classes, so that was better than nothing, but not all of those courses were allowed for college credit.

that's what we had here, where our "approved" schools were anything in the state system. oh, and then the added wrinkle MA imposed, that all classes had to start before 6pm - aka, be day classes.

that's where I got screwed over, as my town's HS adopted a 7 day rotating schedule, in order to accommodate holidays. the detail that screwed me was where they made that 7 day schedule diagonal. so what's 1st period on "A" day becomes 4th period on "D" day. between 7vs 5, and then the holidays, I couldn't plan a schedule of day-only classes. so I just "graduated" early and took an English class during that full semester of college classes. as a lettered varsity athlete, I argued my way out of the gym requirement for that semester. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 20, 2023 17:53:29 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 20, 2023 15:44:29 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister’s name is not on the account. His Dad just gave him his username and password so Mister could go online and pay Dad’s bills for him. That’s what I meant when I said he has “access” to his Dad’s accounts. It’s just online access that his Dad gave him the necessary info for, for Mister to manage the accounts for him and pay his bills.

Has anyone informed the bank of his death? If not, just don't say anything for the 30 days needed to kick the can down the road.

Not that I know of.

[busymom]

Sept 20, 2023 20:27:51 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 20, 2023 20:16:56 GMT -5 busymom said:

   Wow, that is SO different from DD's old high school.  As long as you had transportation to "approved" junior colleges or colleges, you could literally take classes at the college campuses, and it would count towards your high school graduation, and you'd also get your college credits.  If you got rolling early, you could literally knock off 2 years of college just in time to graduate from high school.  We didn't have a car for DD at the time, or we would've done it.  She did take AP classes, so that was better than nothing, but not all of those courses were allowed for college credit.

that's what we had here, where our "approved" schools were anything in the state system. oh, and then the added wrinkle MA imposed, that all classes had to start before 6pm - aka, be day classes.

that's where I got screwed over, as my town's HS adopted a 7 day rotating schedule, in order to accommodate holidays. the detail that screwed me was where they made that 7 day schedule diagonal. so what's 1st period on "A" day becomes 4th period on "D" day. between 7vs 5, and then the holidays, I couldn't plan a schedule of day-only classes. so I just "graduated" early and took an English class during that full semester of college classes. as a lettered varsity athlete, I argued my way out of the gym requirement for that semester. 

    Good grief!  That schedule must've been a nightmare to keep track of.

[chiver78]

Sept 20, 2023 20:33:53 GMT -5 busymom said:

Sept 20, 2023 20:27:51 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

that's what we had here, where our "approved" schools were anything in the state system. oh, and then the added wrinkle MA imposed, that all classes had to start before 6pm - aka, be day classes.

that's where I got screwed over, as my town's HS adopted a 7 day rotating schedule, in order to accommodate holidays. the detail that screwed me was where they made that 7 day schedule diagonal. so what's 1st period on "A" day becomes 4th period on "D" day. between 7vs 5, and then the holidays, I couldn't plan a schedule of day-only classes. so I just "graduated" early and took an English class during that full semester of college classes. as a lettered varsity athlete, I argued my way out of the gym requirement for that semester. 

    Good grief!  That schedule must've been a nightmare to keep track of.

it sucked, hugely! and I gave up on dual enrollment until I could just say stuff it and I'm going to <X>SC for 2nd semester b/c I've fulfilled graduation requirements and you* can't fucking stop me. (the middle finger emoji would be very useful here.....) *this is the same wench that sniffed at my college choice as a "safety school". that same school I couldn't get into in 2023 with the grades I had when I applied. fuck her, and I really hope she retired soon after I left. 

[countrygirl2]

Hubs told me tonight, he is changing primary care docs. He said he had told the doc a year and a half ago he was having problems urinating. I didn't go as he said he would be fine. Now I kick myself, because I'm thinking he didn't test him and didn't refer him to a urologist. So I bet this has been going on all this time.  If so that is a damn shame.  We had a good doc and he left and went elsewhere.

But I follow up on all my stuff as many times they don't do what they are supposed to. Hubs assumes its fine.

We are doing ok, kind of getting our emotions under control now. He has an appointment the 29th, not sure what for, but I'm going too. Also going to see if they can move the test back though I doubt they can.

I must have gotten all the info in for the contract, no requests today.

Tomorrow meeting with realtor to put next one up for sale.

At least I heard today they aren't raising the interest rates higher again for now.

 

[NastyWoman]

It is 7:09pm and definitely getting dark. Summer really is over...

[countrygirl2]

They have the dual college thing here, not sure how long they have been doing it, but I think it's wonderful The kids can graduate with the 1st year of college done and some the 2nd. Also I guess they can get certificates for welding and other trades and start to work right out of school.  

That would help so many struggling kids that needed jobs.

[busymom]

We took a walk this evening immediately after dinner.  It's getting noticeably darker here every night.  Now it's barely after 7 pm & you can really see the difference.  That's one of the things I hate about Winter, that there is so little daylight.  

[busymom]

Sept 20, 2023 20:43:38 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 20, 2023 20:33:53 GMT -5 busymom said:

    Good grief!  That schedule must've been a nightmare to keep track of.

it sucked, hugely! and I gave up on dual enrollment until I could just say stuff it and I'm going to <X>SC for 2nd semester b/c I've fulfilled graduation requirements and you* can't fucking stop me. (the middle finger emoji would be very useful here.....) *this is the same wench that sniffed at my college choice as a "safety school". that same school I couldn't get into in 2023 with the grades I had when I applied. fuck her, and I really hope she retired soon after I left. 

     It's been awhile since I was in high school,    but I think I only met once with my counselor the entire time I was there.  Counselors really did next to nothing then, unless you were having problems at home, or seriously didn't have a clue what you wanted to do after graduation.  But no real guidance was given, and I had to figure out the college process on my own, since neither of my parents graduated from a college.

[countrygirl2]

I was in the same boat, small country school. No counseling, no nothing, I had to learn it all. Neither my mom nor dad graduated from high school. Dad because he became a smart aleck his senior year and quit. Mom, I'm not sure she got to the 8th grade, she never really said for sure.

[NastyWoman]

Teeny weeny tremor a moment ago (2.9). Still, I was getting ready to go to bed so a bit disconcerting. 

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Everyone is asleep, but me.  Why can’t I sleep?  

[raeoflyte]

Sept 21, 2023 3:23:27 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Everyone is asleep, but me.  Why can’t I sleep?  

I can't either. Finally just got up.

[finnime]

Good morning, educated invisipeeps, balancing your and others' emotional needs with chugging along. I hope your Thursday supports your equanimity and leaves you unruffled and at peace.

Yesterday DH apologized but not in so many words for his pique the day before. He was, as I knew, feeling the end of his own life close by although not imminent.

I'm going to have to reread The Year of Magical Thinking too. One thing she struggled with while clearing out their home was getting rid of his favorite shoes. Not out of sentiment, really; she finally realized it was because her husband would need them when he came home. I think that's why people hang on with all they've got to houses, cars and etcetera. The one they lost will need it when they come home.

It is getting dark much earlier, and remains dark much later in the morning. I don't go to the beach now until 6:00. Just yesterday it seems the sun was rising at 5:00.

This was yesterday in the dawn, with a heron and my favorite sailboat. Serenity.

[ners]

Another night of poor sleep.  Bring on the coffee.  Finishing breakfast and need to get moving for the day.

[giramomma]

Sept 20, 2023 18:58:32 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 20, 2023 17:50:13 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

This is why I don't understand the attachment to the house.  

I didn’t realize until after I moved, how much my house meant to my children. I think they were 7 and 9yo when I bought it. But when they started expressing how much the house meant to them after I moved, separately and in their own words, one thing they had in common was saying how they’d noticed that so many of their peers when they were growing up, moved a lot, even if it was within the same area, but once we moved into that house, they had the security of not moving anymore. 
. 

I think the housing thing depends on the kids wiring. My DS is 19, still tells us he loves us every night before he goes to bed. He is the one that will come over for sunday dinners (and laundry) when he moves out. He was also the first one to tell us he was buying our house when we died. The peanut has said the same thing.

DD1 is far less sentimental.  Or maybe she is, and just doesn't show it because of her wiring.

She's never said anything lie that to us.

[toomuchreality]

Sept 20, 2023 17:32:03 GMT -5 steph08 said:

Sept 20, 2023 11:05:45 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

Still swollen and sore this morning…there is a broken bone in there as per urgent care. Boot for now, appt with orthopedist tomorrow.

I am absolutely furious with the school that didn’t offer to send him to the nurse but sent him home crying and limping.

I can sympathize with the broken bone as someone whose 9yo got an open compound fracture of her left arm on the playground on the first day this year! I can't believe they didn't send him to the nurse!

Of course, my mom and DH wondered why they didn't call an ambulance for my DD, but I said I'd be there in five minutes, faster than the ambulance would have!

Holy moly!
I'm so sorry!

[giramomma]

Sept 20, 2023 19:56:08 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 20, 2023 19:51:31 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

That's the one thing I don't like about our private school.  They don't allow dual enrollment.  Well, they do, but you still have to take all the required HS courses, so the college classes have to be taken on your own time.  At one of the smaller public high schools near here nearly 1/3 of the students graduated HS with their associates degree.  AP classes are about it.

how is that a thing? dual enrollment means that your college courses count for credit toward both. 

Actually our 2 year tech college has programs where kids graduate HS with an additional credential, or get close to it. I learned last night that the district will pay for HS kids to take up to 18 credits worth of college classes.

We also have like 2 different programs. Dual credit (where HS teachers teach the content) and dual enrollment (where kids go off campus and take classes offered by the tech college and the flagship).

There's a lot of options.

It's tricky. DD1 isn't doing any activities this year, so far, other than scouts. I don't know if that's going to be enough for her for college. We have to talk about that. She did get a job..but I think she needs to be doing something else. I don't want to push her because she's taking mad hard classes, and the classes aren't enough.

Our education program is also top in the nation, and it would be good for her to take a class to see if she likes it. I also think she'd like taking a college class.

What we need to do soon, is to start looking at what courses she'll need for her college degree and see what we might be able to take advantage of while she's in HS. If anyone told me that we need to look at college graduation requirements 3 weeks into my kid starting sophmore year, I'd look at them like they have three heads.

And, DD is taking AP classes. And she's ahead in Spanish, maybe math. So. It's going to take some time to figure this all out.

[toomuchreality]

Sept 20, 2023 18:46:02 GMT -5 finnime said:

My DS broke his arm completely when he was in kindergarten, on the kindergarten special playground. He fell maybe 18". The school put him in an ambulance and tried to reach me. I was waiting for him at home; I worked from home at times. When they couldn't get me they tried the emergency contact, a friend of mine at work. She was having a root canal and sent her DH to the ER to meet DS.

DS's teacher went to the hospital, too, and waited with him until I showed up, which took a while because I didn't know why he didn't get off the bus, so drove to his after school care program, which told me about the broken arm and ambulance. I had the dog in the car and DD, too. We went right to the hospital. Later a neighbor drove to the hospital and took DD and Antigone the Dog home. I stayed with DS.

They had to put him under anesthesia to set his arm. His muscles were spasming, preventing the set. We wound up at home at around midnight.

Yikes!

[giramomma]

Alright, I have to shove along with my day, but I don't wanna.

[daisylu]

Sept 21, 2023 7:10:04 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Alright, I have to shove along with my day, but I don't wanna.

Same, but I am starting to fall behind which is very unlike me.