what are you doing right now?

[daisylu]

Manager scheduled our weekly 1 on 1 for 4PM. Really unhappy about that, especially since today is my Friday and it usually goes for about an hour.

Going to have to make a mid day grocery run that I usually do after logging off.

[chiver78]

Sept 14, 2023 7:34:30 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 14, 2023 5:26:40 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

that place is cute! but yes, that other house is too close. also, what's up with the weird overhang on that 1st kitchen pic? I couldn't make pit anything like it in any other pics. just seemed odd to me.

Are you talking about in the ceiling?  The room next to it has a higher ceiling.  Although I don't know why they didn't carry the higher ceiling it all the way to the wall unless there is something structural under that lower area in the other (living?) room.

yeah, I'd call it a soffitt, but it's incomplete. that's what I meant, sorry I wasn't clear. I tried to follow it from the other picture angles, but it doesn't appear again. it just looks odd stopping in the middle like that. I wonder what the deal is. 

[susana1954]

Sept 14, 2023 8:18:36 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 14, 2023 7:34:30 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Are you talking about in the ceiling?  The room next to it has a higher ceiling.  Although I don't know why they didn't carry the higher ceiling it all the way to the wall unless there is something structural under that lower area in the other (living?) room.

yeah, I'd call it a soffitt, but it's incomplete. that's what I meant, sorry I wasn't clear. I tried to follow it from the other picture angles, but it doesn't appear again. it just looks odd stopping in the middle like that. I wonder what the deal is. 

They seemed to have knocked down a wall because there is a floor vent in an odd place in the kitchen.  It is a tripping hazard if nothing else, but without going back to look at the pictures to make certain, isn't it right in front of the dishwasher or stove or something?

That would bother me.  And knocking down walls means you need to check that they provided sufficient support if it is load-bearing.

ETA: t went back and looked.  It is in front of the stove.  And maybe the dropped ceiling is to conceal a beam they put in for support.

[chiver78]

ooh.....wait - I just looked at it again on my laptop screen and noticed a subtle color difference that I didn't see on my phone earlier - it looks like the ceiling is just lower in the kitchen and in line with those floor vents. on my phone, it looked like the lower ceiling just stopped halfway across the kitchen open space, if that makes any sense. now that I see what it actually is, I can't unsee actual. so I'm not sure if I'm even explaining it correctly. it's just an unfortunate thing due to where the photographer chose to stand. if the walls weren't also white, it wouldn't have been the illusion I saw earlier. 

as far as knocking down a wall, I don't know that's necessarily the case. I've got some floor vents in weird spots in this house, just due to where the HVAC ducts were run. 

[daisylu]

Taking a required course for work on "the danger on relying on AI".

[lurkyloo]

Still slogging through my pile of adulting and wishing it would get smaller.

Had a nice chat with the crop insurance lady yesterday.  Crop insurance is complicated!  She did a decent job of explaining it.  Have still not been able to reach my cousin’s dad who is still head of the operation by phone.  Crop insurance lady promised to pass along my contact info and ask him to get in touch.  Cousin’s husband was intended to take over but fuck cancer    Other cousin’s husband is likely to step up instead, sounds like.  Still need to poke the trust lawyer again and figure out the LLC.

Spent yesterday afternoon on hardcore data analysis mode looking (in vain) for correlations that might give us a clearer path forward.  It was oddly satisfying 

[giramomma]

Sept 14, 2023 8:30:43 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Taking a required course for work on "the danger on relying on AI".

AI is a hot topic where I am, too.

[countrygirl2]

I keep losing posts on here. It's like the screen will flip to another page and its gone, really aggravating, started a few days ago.

I got hooked on this series last night, the name is Invasion on Tubi.  It's described as a blended family and issues after a hurricane. It is pretty scary. I'm watching it now, on episode 4 and still haven't figured out what is going on with the aliens. Seem to be taking over people or something, Booooooo, 

Yep the house is cute, no we are not interested in paying that much. And no we do not like the idea of a shared well or driveway. Hubs thinks someone bought it to flip and didn't get it ready quick enough when the houses were selling like hot cakes there. It's a modular year 1977 so very old. They have gutted it inside and redone it. Started out at $699k, now $489k, son said if really interested trying offering $300. 

Son and I have always wanted  water front, that would work. A dock going in and dressed up there would be nice. If its still available at Christmas, we may take a look at it. But we have a place to live there. The problem is we can't really build on it or use the land like we want because the water pipes for the whole subdivision goes under our lot that we rent. So we don't want to spend a lot of money on it.  I don't think that will be a problem to sell. One just a few doors away was for sale for a week or two and sold. The prices out there are so much lower than the surrounding areas and its a lovely area. We will see how it goes. A lot of things have to fall in place.

Tomorrow we go to the doc to see about hubs. I am remaining positive that the tumor is localized and nothing has spread into the lymph glands or surrounding area. He told me, he has about everything done at the house to ready it for sale. I need to clean this weekend and caulk around stuff. I have most of that done in the bathroom. But I want to touchup some paint in there. I'm not sure hubs can see as well as he used to. I don't think either of us realized how nice the sheds are there, hubs put metal siding on one and both have concrete floors so very useful. We really haven't looked at it much since we bought it. I think it will sell well.

I'm wondering if he has an idea as he is suddenly too willing to sell and move. We have really only had the last 6 years together since he retired.  We were apart for so many years. But like I said staying positive. ( But in my heart I'm worried and scared, but I can put up a good front. Only son knows, not DD and not even DIL she would be very upset as she really likes hubs and she could not hide it from little guy.)  Appointment is early morning.

No son is wanting to keep the post office too. He said why sell if you contract any work out on it anyway. Things to decide.

[andi9899]

Sept 13, 2023 18:47:43 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Interesting text from former coworker who still works at the facility today.

She filed another ethics complaint against her (and my former manager) with corporate HR. I know of at least 5 that have been filed from different people in the last year, but this one borders on illegal (think Sorbanes Oxley, Enron type stuff). She had texted me Saturday about that and other issues and I told her that she would need concrete info. She had it and filed a complaint Monday.

I kind of want to get involved but also don't. Instead I sent her contact info of people in corporate who can assist and answer her questions.

Honestly, I want those people to go down in flames. But I hate that it might come at the expense of the facility - which is already close to be being on the chopping block. 🥺

I hope she's also looking for another job. Retaliation happens all the time and HR tends to do what's best for the company which is make problems go away. Friend is easier to get rid of than actually addressing the problem manager.

[countrygirl2]

A neighbor came over and gave us some very old paintings. DIL will be interested in the frames, she has been looking for some. People are giving us old pictures here and other things about the area. When we leave I will give all that stuff to a lady that is at the geneology section of the library. I even have a hand written list of every post master for the town to pass on, I think this was one of the first post offices here in this section of the state.

[countrygirl2]

An LLC document has all the responsibilities of each person. How the profits are to be shared, information about dissolution too. It has to be filed with the state and an attorney or one of the other members will have a copy. It should give you all the information you need. Also whomever does the taxes will have a copy as they will need to to file the appropriate forms.  Hope this helps. Yes, we have an LLC. With a farm or farms you may have more than one. Tax forms and your tax acct will have all the info.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 14, 2023 8:03:03 GMT -5 azucena said:

Work project gonna miss a key client deadline in a couple of weeks so sounded the alarm and looped in all the teams involved. Was told to ask for a proj manager, so I did so. Just got my hand slapped that I don't have authority to ask for that.  Whatev, folks, whatev. I'm beyond caring if we miss deadline now. I've done my part.

And yet, is the hand slapper doing anything to meet the deadline?

[azucena]

Sept 14, 2023 10:37:56 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Sept 14, 2023 8:03:03 GMT -5 azucena said:

Work project gonna miss a key client deadline in a couple of weeks so sounded the alarm and looped in all the teams involved. Was told to ask for a proj manager, so I did so. Just got my hand slapped that I don't have authority to ask for that.  Whatev, folks, whatev. I'm beyond caring if we miss deadline now. I've done my part.

And yet, is the hand slapper doing anything to meet the deadline?

of course not bc he's higher management

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 14, 2023 8:41:53 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

Still slogging through my pile of adulting and wishing it would get smaller.

Had a nice chat with the crop insurance lady yesterday.  Crop insurance is complicated!  She did a decent job of explaining it.  Have still not been able to reach my cousin’s dad who is still head of the operation by phone.  Crop insurance lady promised to pass along my contact info and ask him to get in touch.  Cousin’s husband was intended to take over but fuck cancer    Other cousin’s husband is likely to step up instead, sounds like.  Still need to poke the trust lawyer again and figure out the LLC.

Spent yesterday afternoon on hardcore data analysis mode looking (in vain) for correlations that might give us a clearer path forward.  It was oddly satisfying 

I was talking to DH the other day and asked him if he remembered how when you were a kid all you wanted to be was a grown up?

I take it back.  Being an adult SUUUUUCKS.

[lurkyloo]

Sept 14, 2023 10:24:35 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

An LLC document has all the responsibilities of each person. How the profits are to be shared, information about dissolution too. It has to be filed with the state and an attorney or one of the other members will have a copy. It should give you all the information you need. Also whomever does the taxes will have a copy as they will need to to file the appropriate forms.  Hope this helps. Yes, we have an LLC. With a farm or farms you may have more than one. Tax forms and your tax acct will have all the info.

Yes, I’ve done my basic due diligence (and I do my own taxes).  I just need to get it in place before I die bc otherwise my entire estate is subject to OR estate tax, so hopefully no hurry?  But I want to get it set up correctly, i.e. exactly reflecting the way I want things handled (this is family land and I want to make sure any successors make every effort to keep it in the relevant family lines) and that means waiting until I have the bandwidth to pay attention and do it right.  

For now the land has its own schedule in my nascent trust bc this is basically the only stuff I’m leaving to that side of the family should DH, DS and I all die together in a fiery wreck.

[lurkyloo]

Sept 14, 2023 10:47:53 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 14, 2023 8:41:53 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

Still slogging through my pile of adulting and wishing it would get smaller.

Had a nice chat with the crop insurance lady yesterday.  Crop insurance is complicated!  She did a decent job of explaining it.  Have still not been able to reach my cousin’s dad who is still head of the operation by phone.  Crop insurance lady promised to pass along my contact info and ask him to get in touch.  Cousin’s husband was intended to take over but fuck cancer    Other cousin’s husband is likely to step up instead, sounds like.  Still need to poke the trust lawyer again and figure out the LLC.

Spent yesterday afternoon on hardcore data analysis mode looking (in vain) for correlations that might give us a clearer path forward.  It was oddly satisfying 

I was talking to DH the other day and asked him if he remembered how when you were a kid all you wanted to be was a grown up?

I take it back.  Being an adult SUUUUUCKS.

Right?!?!

[countrygirl2]

After I finish cleaning at the rental this weekend, I need to start on piles of paperwork. I dread getting into all that. I have catchup for DD and for our tax stuff too.

[daisylu]

Sept 14, 2023 9:50:43 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 13, 2023 18:47:43 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Interesting text from former coworker who still works at the facility today.

She filed another ethics complaint against her (and my former manager) with corporate HR. I know of at least 5 that have been filed from different people in the last year, but this one borders on illegal (think Sorbanes Oxley, Enron type stuff). She had texted me Saturday about that and other issues and I told her that she would need concrete info. She had it and filed a complaint Monday.

I kind of want to get involved but also don't. Instead I sent her contact info of people in corporate who can assist and answer her questions.

Honestly, I want those people to go down in flames. But I hate that it might come at the expense of the facility - which is already close to be being on the chopping block. 🥺

I hope she's also looking for another job. Retaliation happens all the time and HR tends to do what's best for the company which is make problems go away. Friend is easier to get rid of than actually addressing the problem manager.

She is, but our company uses a third party for complaints where you can file online anonymously. I suggested she black her name out on any documents that she uploads, if she goes the anonymous route. She is one who also filed a complaint earlier this year. It has gotten so bad that she does not care if they fire her.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 14, 2023 10:41:37 GMT -5 azucena said:

Sept 14, 2023 10:37:56 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

And yet, is the hand slapper doing anything to meet the deadline?

of course not bc he's higher management

He should be glad you're willing to do things outside of your job responsibilities.

But they always have their politics.

[andi9899]

My camera alerted me to someone in my backyard. It's the neighbor's little boy. I don't know why these people can't keep this boy contained. He's going it get hit by a car as often as he runs off. He's only 3 or 4.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 14, 2023 5:52:51 GMT -5 azucena said:

Sept 13, 2023 17:57:58 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

So my rant is about the cemetery. I told y’all Mister paid an extra $400 due to his request that his Dad be buried as close to his Mom as possible. The day we were at the cemetery and paid them, the lady helping us looked at the plots on her computer and said that the space directly in front of his Mom was available. Great! Even though I don’t know why that cost $400.

So today, after the ceremony at the cemetery was done, somebody went looking for Mister’s Mom’s grave. We saw the freshly dug hole for his Dad, so she should be close, right? Then Mister told me that the cemetery had called him and changed the location for his Dad, one spot over from the one directly in front of his Mom. By then, about 10 people were looking for his Mom’s grave. She doesn’t have a tombstone yet, we were told it could take up to a year for it to be made and placed.

So Mister and I drove around to the office, asking where was his Mom’s grave. I’m not even gon fuss about what an ordeal that was. So they printed off the plots and had us follow someone back out to the site, so they could show us where her grave was. Except the spot marked on the paper had some flowers and a temporary marker withs someone else’s name on it. TF?! By then, Mister’s Dad’s casket had been put in the ground and a crew was refilling the hole. So the young lady we followed and one of the men from that crew, determined that Mom’s grave had to be directly in front of where they were burying Mister’s Dad. I was appalled and before I could stop myself, I said “so basically nobody knows WHERE she is, right?” 

I was already looking crazy because I was taught that it’s disrespectful to walk on people’s graves. But they have the graves packed so closely together, that there are no paths and no way to avoid walking on people’s graves. That’s bad enough, but to not even know exactly where someone is buried, because what their computers show doesn’t match what’s actually out there? How the fuck is that okay?

I was really upset and outraged about that, but I didn’t want to further upset Mister or his brother, because Brother had hung around for us to come back from the office, so I dialed it back. The employees out there weren’t the correct people to raise hell with anyway. The young lady that went out there with us said she’d make sure the ladies in the office corrected it in the computer. I have zero confidence in that happening. 

Totally unacceptable. Wondering if someone who wasn't as upset during Mom's funeral could vouch for where she was laid to rest? Thinking Mentor might be a good person to ask without involving Mister.

We all remembered the general area, but not exactly where. The hole they dug for Mister’s Dad, was just a couple inches away from the headstone of the next grave. I’ve never noticed a cemetery burying so close together.

Mentor was out of town when Mister’s Mom was buried, so he wouldn’t know.

[lurkyloo]

I just slapped down a mansplaining coworker.  Kinda wish I’d’ve been slicker about it but dude, shut up. 

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Last night, TD and I went out to dinner for our anniversary.  He had jambalaya, which had shrimp in it the size of small lobsters.  I had duck cassoulet.  Both were quite good.  He ordered minestrone as an appetizer, I ordered a cesear’s salad and we both had dessert and a bottle of wine.  Bill was $147, including tip.  

This is the first time in 7 years that we have gone out for dinner for our anniversary.  Normally, I cook, or we are traveling.

[anciana]

Sept 14, 2023 10:41:37 GMT -5 azucena said:

Sept 14, 2023 10:37:56 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

And yet, is the hand slapper doing anything to meet the deadline?

of course not bc he's higher management

Azucena copies her boss on email:”Dear Mr. Handslapper, thank you for letting me know, and thank you for personally taking over responsibility for meeting the client deadline going forward.”
Or some such thing, other people are usually better at crafting these.

[anciana]

Sept 14, 2023 11:40:47 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 14, 2023 5:52:51 GMT -5 azucena said:

Totally unacceptable. Wondering if someone who wasn't as upset during Mom's funeral could vouch for where she was laid to rest? Thinking Mentor might be a good person to ask without involving Mister.

We all remembered the general area, but not exactly where. The hole they dug for Mister’s Dad, was just a couple inches away from the headstone of the next grave. I’ve never noticed a cemetery burying so close together.

Mentor was out of town when Mister’s Mom was buried, so he wouldn’t know.

Inexcusable that they can’t point out the correct grave after they made you pay to find a spot for Mister’s dad. Hopefully they will locate it soon so the family can put some markers on both graves until something more permanent. I am sorry the hits keep coming and I am hoping the pressure on both of you eases now that the hardest is over. Sending gentle hugs to both of you.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 14, 2023 12:07:09 GMT -5 anciana said:

Sept 14, 2023 11:40:47 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

We all remembered the general area, but not exactly where. The hole they dug for Mister’s Dad, was just a couple inches away from the headstone of the next grave. I’ve never noticed a cemetery burying so close together.

Mentor was out of town when Mister’s Mom was buried, so he wouldn’t know.

Inexcusable that they can’t point out the correct grave after they made you pay to find a spot for Mister’s dad. Hopefully they will locate it soon so the family can put some markers on both graves until something more permanent. I am sorry the hits keep coming and I am hoping the pressure on both of you eases now that the hardest is over. Sending gentle hugs to both of you.

What I don't understand is even if there is not a tombstone most cemeteries will put some sort of small marker in place so people know not to dig there.   They should be able to find her. 

My great grandfather did not have one which upset my dad.  He got a map from the office which had the numbers of the plots.  We found him because there was a little circular metal marker almost like a drain plug that had the number of the plot on it.   He was indeed buried right next to my great grandma.   

I get why my grandmother did not want to get him a tombstone but she did so for my dad.  Now it's a joint stone for my great grandma and grandfather.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 14, 2023 12:10:08 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 14, 2023 12:07:09 GMT -5 anciana said:

Inexcusable that they can’t point out the correct grave after they made you pay to find a spot for Mister’s dad. Hopefully they will locate it soon so the family can put some markers on both graves until something more permanent. I am sorry the hits keep coming and I am hoping the pressure on both of you eases now that the hardest is over. Sending gentle hugs to both of you.

What I don't understand is even if there is not a tombstone most cemeteries will put some sort of small marker in place so people know not to dig there.   They should be able to find her. 

My great grandfather did not have one which upset my dad.  He got a map from the office which had the numbers of the plots.  We found him because there was a little circular metal marker almost like a drain plug that had the number of the plot on it.   He was indeed buried right next to my great grandma.   

I get why my grandmother did not want to get him a tombstone but she did so for my dad.  Now it's a joint stone for my great grandma and grandfather.

I asked while we were at the office, how do you find someone’s grave if there’s no tombstone. They said they aren’t marked, you have to come to the office and have them put a flag on the grave. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 14, 2023 12:17:19 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 14, 2023 12:10:08 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

What I don't understand is even if there is not a tombstone most cemeteries will put some sort of small marker in place so people know not to dig there.   They should be able to find her. 

My great grandfather did not have one which upset my dad.  He got a map from the office which had the numbers of the plots.  We found him because there was a little circular metal marker almost like a drain plug that had the number of the plot on it.   He was indeed buried right next to my great grandma.   

I get why my grandmother did not want to get him a tombstone but she did so for my dad.  Now it's a joint stone for my great grandma and grandfather.

I asked while we were at the office, how do you find someone’s grave if there’s no tombstone. They said they aren’t marked, you have to come to the office and have them put a flag on the grave. 

My comeback to that would be if you are charging me $400 to have her husband buried beside her then your ass can go out and put a flag up without me asking.

[giramomma]

I'm really over people.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 14, 2023 12:25:31 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 14, 2023 12:17:19 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I asked while we were at the office, how do you find someone’s grave if there’s no tombstone. They said they aren’t marked, you have to come to the office and have them put a flag on the grave. 

My comeback to that would be if you are charging me $400 to have her husband buried beside her then your ass can go out and put a flag up without me asking.

One of the ladies in the office gave me a brochure to give to Mister, for pre planning to be buried there. Ummmm…. No. We should plan things, but it definitely won’t be there.